0:02 Vanny, can I tell you something? There
0:05 comes a moment in your walk with God
0:07 when the things you used to carry start
0:10 feeling too heavy to hold.
0:13 It's not because you're weak. It's
0:16 because you're awake now. When you are
0:18 spiritually asleep, you can tolerate the
0:21 things that drain your soul. But the
0:23 moment your spirit wakes up, the things
0:25 that once satisfied you, you start
0:27 recognizing that peace is too expensive
0:30 to sell out for drama. Your purpose is
0:32 too sacred to trade for distractions.
0:35 And your destiny is too precious to be
0:37 delayed by cycles.
0:39 I don't know who I'm talking to, but
0:41 somebody in here is wrestling with the
0:43 decision because the old you is still
0:46 pulling on you, but the awakened you is
0:48 rising up and saying, "I can't live like
0:51 this anymore." That's why today I want
0:53 to talk to you about seven things
0:56 spiritually awake people slowly begin to quit.
0:57 quit.
1:00 Not overnight, not perfectly, but consistently.
1:01 consistently.
1:04 Because when God wakes you up, he
1:08 doesn't just change how you see him.
1:11 He changes how you see yourself. When
1:14 you are spiritually awake,
1:17 the first thing that starts to shift is
1:20 your hunger for validation.
1:22 For so long, you may have lived on the
1:24 applause of people, depending on their
1:27 words to confirm your worth, their
1:29 approval to validate your decisions, and
1:32 their acceptance to make you feel whole.
1:35 But awakening is disruptive. It shakes
1:37 you out of the lie that someone else's
1:40 approval is the source of your value.
1:43 Spiritually awake people start to
1:45 realize that if God already called me chosen,
1:47 chosen,
1:50 if he already stamped me as worthy, then
1:53 no person's clapping or criticizing has
1:57 the power to alter that truth. The need
1:59 for validation begins to loosen its
2:01 grip. Not because you don't care about
2:03 people, but because you've stopped
2:05 putting them on the throne that belongs
2:09 to God. Validation addiction is subtle.
2:12 It hides in the way we post just to see
2:13 who's watching.
2:16 In the way we shrink our voice so we
2:18 won't be rejected.
2:20 In the way we say yes when everything in
2:23 our spirit says no because we're
2:26 terrified of disappointing others.
2:28 But the spiritually awake start to see
2:32 how dangerous this cycle is. Because if
2:34 you live for their applause, you will
2:37 die from their silence. And God cannot
2:39 allow you to keep attaching your
2:42 identity to the fickle opinions of
2:44 people when he's trying to anchor you in
2:48 his eternal truth. So what happens
2:51 slowly? You start pulling back.
2:53 You stop explaining yourself to everyone
2:56 who doesn't understand your calling.
2:59 You stop overcompensating to be seen
3:01 when you realize you're already fully
3:04 known by the creator of the universe.
3:06 You stop begging for love in places that
3:08 never had the capacity to honor your
3:11 worth in the first place.
3:13 And it doesn't happen overnight.
3:16 Sometimes it feels like detox as
3:18 validation can be like a drug. It gives
3:21 you a high when people approve, but it
3:24 leaves you empty when they don't.
3:27 Spiritually awake people recognize the
3:30 withdrawal symptoms, but choose freedom
3:33 over addiction. And here's the truth.
3:34 Walking away from the need for
3:37 validation doesn't make you cold. It
3:40 makes you clear. You become clear on
3:42 your assignment, clear on your
3:44 boundaries, clear on who you are, and
3:47 clear on whose you are. You can honor
3:49 people without being owned by their opinions.
3:50 opinions.
3:52 You can love people without being
3:55 limited by their expectations.
3:57 You can receive affirmation without
3:58 being dependent on it. That's what
4:02 awakening does. It teaches you that your
4:05 soul cannot afford to be rented out to
4:07 public opinion. But when God awakens
4:10 you, he is preparing you to stand in
4:12 rooms where not everyone will clap. To
4:14 step into callings where not everyone
4:17 will understand, to carry anointing that
4:20 not everyone will recognize. And if
4:22 you're still chasing validation, you'll
4:24 end up forfeiting divine opportunities
4:27 just to be liked by temporal voices.
4:30 But spiritually awake people slowly quit
4:32 that cycle. And in the quitting, they
4:35 find a freedom that feels like breathing
4:37 for the first time in years. When you
4:40 are spiritually awake,
4:42 one of the hardest but most necessary
4:44 shifts you'll ever make is quitting
4:48 toxic relationships and soul ties.
4:51 And let me be honest,
4:54 this one cuts deep because we don't just
4:57 form connections casually. We form them
5:00 emotionally, spiritually, and sometimes
5:03 physically. That means when God starts
5:06 awakening you, he doesn't just shine a
5:08 light on your destiny. He shines a light
5:11 on your attachments. Suddenly you see
5:14 that some of the people
5:22 Spiritually awake people understand that
5:24 love should never come at the expense of
5:27 your peace and loyalty should never
5:30 question your Toxic relationships can
5:32 feel like comfort zones because they're
5:34 familiar. Maybe you've been tied to
5:36 someone who constantly drains your
5:38 energy, manipulates your emotions, or
5:41 pulls you into cycles you swore you'd
5:44 never repeat. And yet there's a soul
5:47 tie, an invisible thread connecting you,
5:49 keeping you bound even when you know
5:52 better. Awakening doesn't make that
5:55 thread disappear overnight, but it does
5:57 expose it. You start realizing that
5:59 being connected to someone doesn't
6:02 always mean being aligned with them.
6:06 Connection without alignment
6:08 leads to chaos.
6:10 And here's what makes this so tough. You
6:12 don't always cut ties because the person
6:16 is bad. Sometimes they're just not meant
6:18 to walk with you into the season God is
6:20 calling you into.
6:22 Spiritually awake people start to
6:24 discern the difference between
6:27 assignment relationships and attachment
6:30 relationships. Assignments are
6:31 God-scent. They push you closer to
6:34 purpose, closer to growth, closer to
6:36 him. Attachments, on the other hand, are
6:39 fleshdriven. They keep you stuck, small,
6:42 and spiritually suffocated.
6:45 Awakening gives you the courage to quit,
6:48 confusing the two.
6:51 It's not easy, though. Letting go feels
6:54 like breaking a part of yourself. You
6:56 may wrestle with guilt, fear of being
6:58 alone, or the temptation to go back just
7:01 one more time. But slowly, as you wake
7:03 up, you begin to see that your soul
7:06 cannot heal in the same environment
7:08 where it was broken.
7:10 You cannot carry toxic ties into a place
7:12 of transformation. You cannot step into
7:14 the fullness of your calling while being
7:16 bound to someone who benefits from your
7:19 brokenness. And here's the power in it.
7:22 Quitting toxic relationships doesn't
7:24 just free you from others. It frees you
7:27 from yourself. It breaks the pattern of
7:30 you choosing dysfunction over destiny.
7:33 It teaches you to value yourself enough
7:35 to walk away even when your heart still
7:38 wants to stay. It teaches you that
7:40 endings are not failures. They're doorways.
7:42 doorways.
7:45 When you are spiritually awake, you stop
7:48 asking how much do I love them and you
7:52 start asking how much do I love me?
7:55 How much do I love God's plan for me?
7:58 And in that shift, quitting becomes an
8:00 act of obedience.
8:03 not abandonment
8:06 because spiritually awake people realize
8:08 something. Sometimes God won't bless you
8:11 the way he wants to until you release
8:14 what he never sent. Toxic ties block
8:17 divine flow.
8:19 And when you finally quit them, you make
8:21 room for the kind of love, friendships,
8:23 and connections that don't just hold
8:25 your hand,
8:27 they hold your destiny. When you are
8:30 spiritually awake,
8:32 one of the loudest battles you will ever
8:35 fight is not with demons, not with
8:37 enemies, not with the world. It's with
8:40 your own mind. The war of negative
8:44 self-t talk and self-sabotage.
8:47 Because it doesn't matter how much God
8:49 speaks life over you. If the voice in
8:51 your head is louder than his, you'll
8:53 keep shrinking in rooms you were born to
8:56 own. Spiritually awake people start
8:58 recognizing that the most toxic conversation
9:00 conversation
9:02 is not always with others. It's the one
9:05 you have with yourself
9:07 when nobody's listening. You know what
9:09 I'm talking about? The whispers that say
9:12 you're not enough. You're too broken.
9:14 You're too late. You'll never get it
9:17 right. the lies that remind you of every
9:20 failure, every rejection, every
9:22 insecurity until you start believing
9:24 that the broken version of you is the
9:26 only version that exists.
9:30 That's how self-sabotage is birthed. Not
9:33 because the opportunity wasn't there,
9:35 but because the mindset wasn't healed.
9:38 Awakening disrupts that cycle. It forces
9:41 you to confront the reality that your
9:44 words shape
9:47 your world. And if you keep rehearsing
9:50 defeat, you'll keep reliving it. When
9:52 God wakes you up, he starts retraining
9:54 your language. You begin to see how
9:57 dangerous it is to keep saying, "I
10:00 can't." When God already said you will.
10:03 How destructive it is to declare, "I'm
10:05 worthless when the cross already proved
10:07 your worth."
10:09 How limiting it is to confess, "I'll
10:11 always be like this." When the spirit
10:13 inside you says, "Behold, I make all
10:15 things new." Spiritually awake people
10:18 start to realize that every time you
10:20 speak death over yourself, you partner
10:22 with the enemy's plan. And every time
10:26 you speak life, you align with God's promise.
10:27 promise.
10:29 But here's the part many don't talk about.
10:31 about.
10:33 Self-sabotage doesn't just show up in
10:35 words. It shows up in behaviors. You
10:37 know you've self-sabotaged when you
10:40 procrastinate on purpose. When you
10:42 settle for relationships you know aren't
10:44 aligned. When you quit before you even
10:46 start because you're afraid of failing.
10:48 Spiritually awake people start catching
10:50 themselves in those cycles. It's like
10:53 you hear the old voice saying you can't.
10:55 But the awakened voice rises up and says
10:59 try anyway. The old voice says you're
11:02 not ready. But the awakened you says God
11:05 equips those he calls.
11:08 The old voice says, "Stay small." But
11:10 the awakened you says, "Step out." And
11:12 let me tell you, this is not a quick fix.
11:14 fix.
11:16 Awakening doesn't mean the negative
11:18 thoughts vanish. It means they no longer
11:20 control you. It's a daily decision to
11:23 replace lies with truth, to turn
11:25 self-doubt into self-discipline, to turn
11:29 fear into faith.
11:31 Spiritually awake people quit giving
11:34 their inner critic the final word. They
11:36 stop rehearsing every failure and start
11:39 rehearsing God's promises. They stop
11:42 letting shame dictate their choices and
11:46 start letting grace lead the way.
11:49 God supports the strong.
11:51 God supports the inner critic, the final
11:54 word. They stop rehearsing every failure
11:58 and start letting grace lead the way.
12:02 And that's the process of relationship.
12:04 And that's because at the end of the
12:08 day, the greatest sabotage is not what
12:11 others do to you. It's what you keep
12:14 doing to yourself. And when you awaken,
12:17 you realize that you cannot afford to be
12:21 your own enemy any longer. You learn to
12:25 silence the lies, affirm the truth, and
12:27 step boldly into the identity God
12:30 already declared over your life. When
12:32 you are spiritually awake, you begin to
12:36 recognize just how much fear has been
12:39 writing the story of your life.
12:42 Fear-based decisions are sneaky. They
12:44 don't always look like fear at first.
12:47 They can look like logic, safety, or
12:49 just being practical. But if you dig
12:52 deeper, you'll find that so many choices
12:55 we've made were rooted not in faith, not
12:59 in purpose, but in fear. Fear of failure,
13:00 failure,
13:04 fear of rejection, fear of loss, fear of
13:07 not being enough.
13:10 And spiritually awake people
13:14 slowly begin to quit making choices
13:17 based on what they're afraid of and
13:19 start making choices based on what
13:22 they're called to. Fear will always try
13:25 to convince you to play small. It'll
13:27 whisper, "Don't apply for that job.
13:29 You're not qualified. Don't start that
13:32 business. You'll fail like last time.
13:34 Don't trust that person. Everyone will
13:37 hurt you. Don't take that leap, you'll fall.
13:38 fall.
13:40 And if you listen to fear long enough,
13:42 you'll live your whole life stuck in a
13:44 cage that doesn't even have a lock on it.
13:46 it.
13:49 Awakening doesn't mean fear disappears.
13:51 It means you stop letting fear make the
13:53 final decision. Spiritually awake people
13:57 start to realize that fear is a thief.
14:00 It doesn't just steal opportunities.
14:04 It steals peace, creativity, and even
14:07 time. How many years have been wasted
14:10 saying one day when I'm ready? When
14:12 really it was fear that kept you
14:16 waiting. But when God awakens you, he
14:18 makes you confront the reality that fear
14:20 has been running your schedule, your
14:23 relationships, and even your prayers.
14:25 You've been praying safe prayers because
14:28 you've been living a safe life.
14:32 Awakening calls you higher. It demands
14:34 courage, not comfort.
14:37 The shift begins when you start asking
14:39 yourself a new question. Instead of what
14:42 if I fail, you begin asking what if God
14:45 shows up. Instead of what if I lose everything,
14:47 everything,
14:49 you start saying what if this is the
14:51 very thing that launches me into
14:54 destiny. Because fear wants you focused
14:57 on the worst case scenario. But faith
15:00 points you to the god orained outcome.
15:03 Fear says protect yourself. Faith says
15:07 position yourself. Fear says stay
15:10 hidden. Faith says step out. And here's
15:12 the truth. You cannot live awake and
15:15 live afraid at the same time. Fear will
15:18 paralyze you. But awakening pushes you
15:21 into movement. That doesn't mean you
15:24 won't feel fear, but it does mean you'll
15:26 choose faith anyway. You'll send the
15:27 application while your hands are
15:29 shaking. You'll say yes to the
15:31 opportunity while your voice is
15:34 trembling. You'll walk into the room
15:36 even when you feel out of place because
15:38 spiritually awake people learn that
15:42 bravery is not the absence of fear.
15:45 It's obedience in spite of it. Slowly
15:48 you quit choosing based on fear and you
15:51 start choosing based on faith. And that
15:54 shift changes everything.
15:57 You no longer ask what's safe for me.
16:00 You begin asking what's destined for me.
16:03 You stop looking at fear as a wall and
16:07 you start seeing it as a test of trust.
16:08 Because once you quit fear-based
16:11 decisions, you make space for God to
16:13 show you just how powerful his plan
16:16 really is. When you are spiritually
16:20 awake, you can't ignore the way
16:23 comparison and envy have been stealing
16:26 from you. Because comparison doesn't
16:28 just take your joy.
16:31 It robs you of focus. It robs you of
16:34 confidence. And it robs you of the
16:36 unique story God has been writing in
16:38 your life. Spiritually awake people
16:40 slowly start to quit comparing
16:43 themselves to everybody else because
16:45 they finally realize you cannot step
16:47 into your calling while staring at
16:50 someone else's lane.
16:52 Comparison is subtle. It creeps in when
16:55 you scroll on social media. When you see
16:57 someone announce their engagement, their
16:59 promotion, their new house, their big
17:02 opportunity. Suddenly, without even
17:04 realizing it, you start shrinking your
17:07 gratitude because you're measuring your
17:10 worth against their highlight reel. Envy
17:12 whispers, "They're ahead of you. You're
17:15 behind. You're missing something. And if
17:17 you don't catch it, you'll begin to
17:20 believe that God has favorites
17:21 and you're not one of them. Awakening
17:24 opens your eyes to a deeper truth. God
17:26 is not running out of blessings. His
17:29 supply has no shortage.
17:32 If he did it for them, it's not proof
17:35 that you've been overlooked. It's proof
17:38 that he's still in the neighborhood.
17:41 Spiritually awake people begin to see
17:43 comparison for what it really is. distraction.
17:45 distraction.
17:47 While you're busy measuring yourself
17:48 against somebody else, the enemy is
17:51 stealing the time and energy you could
17:53 be using to build what God placed in
17:56 your hands.
17:57 Awakening teaches you that your
18:00 assignment is tailorade, custom fitted
18:03 to your gifts, your story, your scars,
18:04 your anointing. And no matter how much
18:06 you look to the left or the right,
18:08 you'll never find peace until you
18:10 embrace what's been placed inside of you.
18:12 you.
18:14 Let me tell you, envy doesn't just
18:16 distort how you see others. It distorts
18:19 how you see yourself. It convinces you
18:22 that you're lacking when in reality
18:25 you're just different. It convinces you
18:28 that you're late when in reality, God's
18:30 timing for you was never supposed to
18:32 match theirs.
18:35 It convinces you that you're not enough
18:38 when in reality you're overqualified for
18:40 the exact purpose you were born to
18:44 fulfill. Spiritually awake people stop
18:47 letting envy cloud their vision because
18:50 they recognize that jealousy is just
18:53 misplaced admiration.
18:55 What you envy in others might be the
18:58 very thing God is stirring in you. If
19:01 you can shift from jealousy
19:04 to inspiration
19:06 comparison doesn't happen in a single
19:09 moment. It's a daily practice.
19:11 It's choosing to celebrate others
19:14 without questioning yourself. It's
19:16 learning to say, "Good for them and good
19:19 for me, too." It's reminding yourself
19:21 that destiny is not a race. It's a
19:23 journey. And everyone's path looks
19:25 different. Spiritually awake people
19:27 learn how to clap for others without
19:29 losing their rhythm. How to admire
19:32 without feeling insecure, and how to
19:34 wait for their moment without doubting
19:36 if it will come. Because when you quit
19:39 comparison and envy, you step into
19:42 freedom, freedom to be authentic,
19:46 freedom to be consistent, freedom to run
19:50 your race with your eyes fixed forward.
19:53 And in that freedom,
19:55 you discover that your life doesn't need
19:57 to look like anyone else's to be
19:59 impactful. It just needs to look like
20:02 the one God designed for you. When you
20:05 are spiritually awake, you start to
20:07 notice the weight of the habits that
20:10 quietly drain your spirit. The late
20:12 night scrolling that leaves your soul
20:15 empty. The constant gossip that poisons
20:17 your perspective. The addictions that
20:20 numb your pain but never heal it. The
20:21 distractions that eat away at your
20:24 prayer life, your focus, your energy.
20:27 Spiritually awake people slowly begin to
20:30 quit these unhealthy habits because they
20:33 realize they're not just bad routines.
20:37 They are spiritual leeches
20:40 draining strength from the very place
20:43 God is trying to grow you. Unhealthy
20:45 habits often start as coping mechanisms.
20:47 Maybe you use them to escape stress, to
20:49 cover loneliness, or to silence the
20:52 noise of insecurity. But what began as a
20:54 temporary relief becomes a permanent prison.
20:56 prison.
20:58 The awakened spirit begins to see that
21:01 these habits are not harmless.
21:04 They are assignments of delay. They
21:06 don't just waste your time. They waste
21:08 your destiny. Every moment you invest in
21:11 them is a moment stolen from the life
21:15 God has called you to build. Awakening
21:16 doesn't mean you wake up one day and
21:19 never crave those habits again.
21:21 No, awakening means you can no longer
21:23 ignore the cost.
21:26 You begin to feel the spiritual fatigue.
21:28 Every time you indulge, you notice the
21:30 fog in your mind, the heaviness in your
21:33 spirit, the distance from God.
21:36 Spiritually awake people start saying,
21:38 "I can't afford to keep living like
21:40 this. My purpose is too valuable. My
21:43 calling is too serious. My future is too costly."
21:45 costly."
21:47 Here's the truth.
21:50 Unhealthy habits don't just damage your
21:52 body or mind.
21:55 They disrupt your alignment with God.
21:57 How can you hear his whisper if you're
21:59 always distracted? How can you walk in
22:02 discipline if you're always yielding to
22:04 what's convenient? How can you steward
22:06 opportunities if you're always drained
22:09 by what consumes you in secret?
22:11 Awakening exposes that gap. It shows you
22:14 that you can't carry both God's glory
22:16 and destructive patterns because the
22:19 weight of one will crush the other. And
22:22 I know this is hard cuz quitting habits
22:24 feels like losing comfort.
22:26 It feels like tearing away something
22:29 familiar. But spiritually awake people
22:33 start replacing comfort with conviction.
22:35 They stop feeding their pain with
22:38 substitutes and start feeding their
22:41 spirit with truth. Instead of gossip,
22:43 they choose prayer.
22:47 Instead of numbing, they choose healing.
22:49 Instead of procrastinating, they choose
22:52 discipline. Instead of procrastinating,
22:54 they choose discipline. It's not about
22:58 perfection. It's about direction.
23:00 Every small step away from unhealthy
23:04 habits is a giant leap toward freedom.
23:06 Your awakening makes you realize that
23:09 discipline is not punishment.
23:12 is protection. Protection for your
23:14 peace, protection for your focus,
23:17 protection for your destiny.
23:19 Spiritually awake people quit unhealthy
23:23 habits not because they want to be good,
23:26 but because they want to be whole. They
23:28 want to be present. They want to be
23:30 fully available for everything God has
23:32 in store.
23:35 Because here's the truth. What you
23:37 continually consume will eventually
23:39 consume you.
23:41 But when you awaken, you choose to let
23:45 the spirit consume you instead.
23:48 And in that shift, the habits that once
23:50 held you hostage begin to lose their
23:53 power, and you finally breathe in the
23:56 freedom you were always meant to carry.
23:58 When you are spiritually awake, you can
23:59 no longer ignore the chains of
24:02 unforgiveness. At first, it feels easier
24:04 to hold on to the anger, the bitterness,
24:07 the memory of what they did. You tell
24:10 yourself, "If I let this go, then it
24:12 means they got away with it." But the
24:15 truth is, unforgiveness doesn't trap
24:19 them. It traps you. Spiritually awake
24:21 people slowly begin to quit the cycle of
24:23 unforgiveness because they realize that
24:26 carrying old wounds is too heavy for the
24:28 future God has designed for them.
24:30 Unforgiveness disguises itself as
24:33 protection. It convinces you that by
24:35 holding on to resentment, you're
24:38 guarding your heart. But in reality,
24:40 you're building walls that keep out
24:42 healing, love, and even the very
24:44 blessings God wants to send your way.
24:46 The awakened spirit begins to see that
24:49 unforgiveness is like drinking poison
24:52 and waiting for the other person to die.
24:55 It doesn't destroy them. It destroys
24:59 you. And let's be honest, this is one of
25:00 the hardest things to quit because
25:04 forgiveness feels unfair. They hurt you.
25:06 They betrayed you. They lied. They
25:08 abandoned you. Forgiveness feels like
25:10 letting them off the hook. But awakening
25:13 teaches you something deeper.
25:15 Forgiveness doesn't release them. It
25:17 releases you.
25:20 It's not about saying what you did was
25:23 okay. It's about saying what you did
25:25 will not control me anymore. Spiritually
25:27 awake people begin to understand that
25:30 forgiveness is not weakness. It's
25:32 spiritual warfare.
25:35 It breaks cycles of bitterness.
25:37 It silences the enemy's grip. It
25:40 restores peace to your soul.
25:43 Unforgiveness will always try to justify itself.
25:45 itself.
25:46 I can't forgive them until they apologize.
25:49 apologize.
25:52 I can't forgive because it still hurts.
25:53 I can't forgive because they don't
25:55 deserve it.
25:57 But awakening makes you realize that
26:00 forgiveness was never about deserving.
26:02 It's about obedience.
26:04 God forgave us when we didn't deserve
26:06 it. And that same grace he extended to
26:09 us is the grace we extend to others. Not
26:11 because they've earned it, but because
26:14 we refuse to be bound. And here's what
26:17 happens when you quit unforgiveness.
26:20 You start to see yourself differently.
26:23 Because as long as you hold bitterness,
26:25 you're tethered to the moment of pain.
26:27 You keep reliving the betrayal,
26:29 replaying the offense, rehearsing the
26:32 wound. But when you release it, you step
26:34 out of the prison of the past and into
26:37 the freedom of your future.
26:39 Spiritually awake people realize they
26:41 cannot walk in destiny while chained to
26:44 yesterday. Forgiveness doesn't happen in
26:47 one moment. It's a process. Some days
26:49 you'll feel free. Other days the pain
26:51 will rise up again. But each time you
26:54 choose release over resentment, peace
26:58 over punishment, grace over grudges.
27:01 Slowly the cycle breaks. Slowly your
27:03 heart heals. Slowly you begin to see
27:06 that forgiveness was never about them.
27:08 It was always about you stepping fully
27:11 into who God called you to be. Because
27:13 spiritually awake people know this. You
27:16 cannot carry unforgiveness and carry
27:18 glory at the same time. One will cancel
27:22 the other. And when you finally quit the
27:25 cycle, you discover that the freedom of
27:27 forgiveness feels lighter than any
27:30 justice your flesh could have ever given you.
