The video argues that permanently deleting social media accounts is crucial for reclaiming one's life, as these platforms actively degrade attention spans, mental well-being, and real-world connections.
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What is going on everyone? In this
video, I want to talk about 30 different
reasons why you should be quitting
social media and not just deleting the
apps, but permanently deleting your
account. This is kind of a long list, so
I'm going to try to go through them as
quickly as possible, but let's just get
into it. So, the first point I have
written down here is your attention span
is being destroyed. This is kind of an
obvious one. We've already known this,
but it is a very real thing. Your
attention span is getting destroyed by
the day and it takes months and months
to actually recover from this and
everything in your life that's more
important that you should be doing is
always going to appear less interesting
and less appealing. The second point I
have is you're comparing your
behindthescenes life to everyone else's
highlight reel. The thing about social
media, this has been the case for
actually longer than short form content
has been around, but you subconsciously
are comparing your daily life that no
one sees to everyone's very few, you
know, highlight moments in their life,
the the most exciting, fun moments in
their life that they've posted. You're
comparing your average day to that. And
the fact of the matter is is that pretty
much everyone has boring days and they
have slow days and they have hard times.
Everyone goes through hard times, but no
one is going to post that. So you have
to understand that what you're seeing is
very it's kind of fabricated for lack of
better words and it's not really
realistic. So, you shouldn't be
comparing yourself, you know, on the
average day to someone's amazing
vacation or someone's amazing time
they've had with their friends and
they're taking all these amazing
pictures. You should not be comparing
yourself to these people. Number three
is the algorithm knows you better than
you know yourself. We've all experienced
this where we say something or we're
talking to a friend and we mention some
product and then we check Instagram or
Facebook 30 minutes later and we see an
ad for that product.
You know, we don't really know how much
these companies are invading our
privacy, but we know that they are
invading our privacy. We just don't know
how extreme and how in-depth it is, but
it seems pretty in-depth. So, you know,
your algorithms, they're
it gets to a point where they might
start knowing too much about what you
like and what you do, sometimes more
than you do yourself. So, that's a
pretty, you know, alarming thing in a
lot of ways. But point number four I
have is your real friendships are pretty
much on standby. They are sometimes
suffering but they are being neglected
sometimes without you even wanting that.
The thing about social media is because
it releases so much dopamine and you're
technically socializing with people.
Your brain's like, "Oh, well, why would
I go outside and get dressed and drive
somewhere to see a friend when I can
just be in the comfort of my own home
and message someone on Instagram or
message someone on Snapchat and talk to
them there?" Your brain thinks very
logically when it comes to that. Like,
why would I do this when I get more
stimulation from staying at home? And
it's a terrible thing. And that's why
you have to delete these apps and get
rid of them so you can restore your
actual in-person relationships. Point
five is you're losing hours of your life
every single day. This is a point that
really hits home for me. Because I
started realizing how fast my day was
going. And I didn't really think for a
moment that it was actually my phone
causing this. But a lot of people relate
to this where they feel like their day
just flies by. Like it's just so so
fast. It's almost it feels like it's
almost out of your control. and but the
fact of the matter is that it is in your
control and you just have to bite the
bullet of deleting all of these
stimulating apps and social medias.
Point number six I have here is your
self-esteem is tied to strangers
validation. This is especially important
if you're a content creator and you
actually post content, which is even
that's like a very small percentage of
people. When you post content and let's
say a video flops, it gets like 200
views or something, you think, oh my
gosh, well, you know, maybe my content's
just terrible. Maybe no one wants to
watch me. But then when you get a viral
video, you just think you're on top of
the world. And pretty much, you know,
I'd be lying if I said I've had this
issue in the past, but I know a lot of
people do. They have the issue where
they tie their self-worth to how many
views they get on a video or how much
their content performs when in reality
it's just some algorithm, some AI
deciding which videos to get pushed out
and it's literally just like a a a whole
system. It's not even like a real person
doing it. So, you should not take it
seriously at all and just post content
that you genuinely feel is valuable and
is good and is true to you and can help
other people.
Uh, point number seven is the news
you're getting. This is a huge one. The
news you're getting is designed to
enrage you.
I cannot tell you how many times I've
seen the effect of this on people in my
life, but it doesn't matter if it's
someone getting killed, someone getting
attacked on the street, um Trump saying
something about something, politicians
saying this, it doesn't matter what it
is, but news nowadays is literally
designed to be rage bait. It's designed
to get you aggravated and get you
emotionally engaged in something. And a
lot of people think that if they, you
know, if they're happy about the news,
then that's great. And then if they, you
know, they're angry about the news,
that's bad. The interesting thing is
that it actually doesn't matter whether
you are excited about something or
you're mad about something.
If an emotion is released in you by
something you see on the screen, they've
won and they have done exactly what they
want to do. And by they, I mean the
media, the news, social medias, all
these different things. They want to get
you emotionally hooked on things. So you
start forgetting about your own life.
And I see this all the time with like
even my own family, friends, co-workers.
They their whole day is ruined because
of what they saw on the news about some
some girl in in in Minnesota who got
killed. Of course, that's a terrible
thing and that shouldn't be happening.
anywhere. But that's that's an obvious
thing. But their whole day is ruined
because of some random girl that got,
you know, unfortunately killed, but they
live in like California. And so it's
like, why are you letting something on
the news, some random story on the news,
ruin your day? Like,
the thing is that the media chooses what
to show you. People have terrible things
happening to them every, not just every
day, every minute of the day. But the
media likes to choose what to show you.
They want to show you the most dramatic
thing so it takes, you know, it grabs
most attention. But enough on that
point. It's just a very terrible thing
that a lot of people are affected by.
But point number eight is you're
becoming politically extreme. This kind
of ties to the last point. Social media,
you know, everyone's always talking
about like, oh, Obama caused all this
division. Trump caused all this
division. Um, Biden did XYZ. We're
always quick to to point at individuals
and say they're the reason that
America's so divided. The fact of the
matter is that it's actually the media
and the news outlets that are causing
the division. And but mainly social
media because social media is an echo
chamber. It shows you more of the
content that you already like. And
sometimes the the
what's the word? The extremity. I don't
even know that's a word, but the
intensity that's the better word. the
intensity of the content sometimes
increases the more you're shown it. So
you pretty much start hating the other
side just for existing. And the fact of
the matter is is you know and I honestly
used to fall for this this plan. I used
to fall for this agenda. But the fact of
the matter is is that you know the other
side is human as well. The other side is
human. The other side is an American
like you. And if you're going to hate
someone just because of their political
view or even their religious views
or or really any [clears throat]
measure, whether it's their ethnicity,
their background, their culture,
if you're going to have hate for someone,
someone,
well, first of all, realize that they,
you know, that's not actually what you
think. That was that was instilled in
you by the media. And so if you're going
to hate someone, hate the media. hate
hate the the politicians, hate the like
hate the people trying to divide us.
Don't hate another American citizen,
another innocent person just because
they have certain views. Um, but that's
enough on that point. Point number nine
is your sleep is being destroyed. This
is a pretty self-explanatory one, but
you know, when you're checking your
phone in the morning and before you go
to bed, that ruins your sleep like you
would not imagine. And I actually
realized the effect of this when I
stopped using social media and I I
installed some pretty good limitations
on my smartphone. But
But
it ruins it ruins your sleep like like
nothing else. The blue light, the the
content, the over stimulation. You just
need to get rid of this stuff, man. It's
crazy. Point number 10 is you're
experiencing FOMO that didn't exist
before. Are you experiencing the fear of
missing out that didn't actually exist
before you were on social media?
The fact of the matter is is that we are
exposed to so much content and so many
people. In fact, it's too much and
you start, you know, feel like you're
start to feel like you're missing out on
things that you would have never known
about in the first place if you didn't
have social media and if you weren't
checking it all the time. So, you don't
have to be at everything. You don't have
to be involved in everything. You know,
it's okay to to be in your own little
space and to do your own things and to
come up with your own ideas
because social media has caused, you
know, this fake FOMO feeling for a lot
of people where whether it's like a, you
know, a party they're not invited to or
some trip they're not invited to and
they always get upset about it. But you
just have to understand like just let it
be. Like it doesn't really matter. It's
just like social media is what's making
you feel that. It's the content and the
overexposure to all these people that's
causing that. But point number 11 is
your creativity is dying. This is a huge
one. Your creativity is dying because
you're never left with your own thoughts
anymore. Social media tries very hard
and they've kind of succeeded at making
boredom impossible, making just idle
time impossible.
People sit in a in a grocery store line
for not even a minute, like 30 seconds,
and they have to pull out their phone.
It's like there's no chance to actually
be bored. And they say that boredom
leads to creativity.
You're not going to come up with any
original new solid things or ideas if
you're constantly occupied by some
algorithm and by some app and by some
content. Point number 12 is you're
training yourself to be easily manipulated.
manipulated.
you know, believing what you see on
social media is a slippery slope because
once you believe one thing that ends up
being a lie, you're way more likely to
believe more and more lies. And
unfortunately, I know a lot of people
personally that have already fallen for
a lot of this. And
whether it's just straight up lies on
social media that people are saying,
whether it's literally AI videos, AI
content, fabricated content, um videos
taken out of context, you know, that's
the whole game with with the media and
the news is that they they the last
thing they want to do is actually inform
you about things.
Sometimes my own family struggles to
understand this, but like it's designed
to just keep you hooked on it. It's
designed to distract you. It's not
designed to keep you informed. If you
want to be informed, just look at like
your your your local like weather
channel. Like that's where you're going
to see that. But if you look at like
national news, NBC, CBS, all these
different things, you're never going to
get true, unbiased, clear news on what's
actually going on.
And yeah, that's that. But point number
13 is your posture and physical health
are deteriorating. This is a very
straightforward point. If you're always
hunched down looking at your phone, um
your neck is going to start hurting,
your upper back is going to start
hurting, even your lower back as well.
Um, another reason to just get rid of
that damn stuff. Just get rid of it. But
point number 14 is you're missing the
present moment constantly. This point
hits home for me as well because when
you're on social media,
you're only looking at things that
already happened or something that might
happen in the future, some prediction.
Nothing you're ever going to look at on
a screen is related to the present
moment. This is just a fact because the
present moment really is your own life
and it's what you're doing today, your
actual real life around you. That's the
present moment.
Point number 15 is the dopamine cycle is
identical to gambling addiction. Not
only gambling addiction, I would say
it's very similar to a hard drug
addiction. I've always been saying this.
I haven't really heard anyone compare
this, but social media is the most
normalized hard drug of all time. It's a
hard drug, but it's become so
normalized, which makes it even more
addictive because no one really looks at
it. And no one like looks at you like
you're a crazy person when you pick up
your phone. even though they kind of
should, but we just live in a time now
where that's so normal.
But point number um 16 is your goals and
dreams are being replaced by others.
This is actually something that's not
hard to No, it's actually hard to see in
the beginning because it's a
subconscious thing. Whenever your your main
main
ideas and thought patterns come from
content, which it will be inevitably if
that's all you look at,
you're going to start forming opinions
and goals based on what you see online
versus what you actually want. And I'm
not saying it's bad to get inspiration
from other people, but you don't want to
base your entire opinions and ideas and
goals and dreams based on what you see
in someone else's life. You just don't
want to do that. It's not a good
practice. Uh but number 17
is you're being sold to advertisers as a
product. This is the really crazy one
is, you know, they have that saying
where it's like if the product is free,
then you are the product. That is 100%
the case with social media. You know,
everyone's all happy because, oh, it's
free. It's not going to cost me anything.
anything.
Well, if you are so narrow-minded to
think like that,
yeah, it may not cost you actual money,
but it's going to cost you hours and
hours, probably weeks, and then
eventually months of your life
just to use it. So, it's like in theory,
it's better to pay like $5 a month than
$10 a month, something small like that,
to not waste away your life and to waste
away your attention span. So, if you are
still using social media today, you are
the product. You still are the product.
So, until you get rid of it, you're
always going to be the product. You're
always going to have your information
stolen, sold to companies, and you're
just going to get your privacy
completely invaded constantly. So,
unless you're okay with that, then I
don't know. But point 18 is your mental
health is measurably worse. This is
something that everyone can relate to. I
have not talked to a single person, you
know, ever since I kind of started this
whole journey with helping people with
this. I've never talked to a single
person that feels better after scrolling
their phone. No one, that's why I say
it's like the most normalized drug of
all time. No one really feels good after
they use a drug. Maybe during using it
they feel fine, but after they always
feel terrible. No one ever feels better
after scrolling their phone. Yet, it
blows my mind how people still insist on
keeping these things in their life. It's
crazy to me. Point number 19 is you're
developing a false sense of
productivity. This is a huge thing in
like the internet money space, but
people will like scroll TW money Twitter
or they'll scroll Instagram. Um, but
they'll say, "Oh, well, I'm just looking
at like I want to see what I can learn
or I want to see what I can get research
on." And it's all this fake productivity
stuff where you know deep down you're
not going to remember most of the stuff
you're trying to learn. And you might
learn, you might find five pieces of
content that are productive, but then
while you're on the app, you're going to
find 20 other things that are just a
waste of time and distracting. It's
going to get drowned out by that. Point
20 is your privacy is completely gone.
You know, not much explaining to do
here, but your privacy is completely
gone. It's been gone. Um, and the best
thing you can do, honestly, is stop them
from invading it further. Point number
21 is you're stuck in reactive mode
instead of proactive mode. Huge point here.
here.
Social media trains you to react to
everything. It's always, oh my god, he
did this. Oh my god, she said that. It's
always that instead of actually, okay,
what am I going to do today? How, you
know, what's my goal for the gym today?
How am I going to make more money today?
How am I going to improve on XYZ today?
What am I doing um better today? It's
like literally asking any question about
your own life. Most people don't even do
that anymore. It's always talking about
what happened to this celebrity, what
happened to to this influencer, this
streamer. Um, it's always everything
about it's like
why don't you just put that energy
towards improving your you're only going
to be happier if you focus on yourself?
And it's not selfish to do that. A lot
of people think it's selfish to focus on
yourself. It's not.
In fact, a lot of the ways you can
actually help other people eventually in
your life is to focus on yourself first
and build yourself first.
But point 22 is the perfect body
standards are literally impossible. This
is definitely a bigger issue for women
than men, but it's also common in men.
You see these unrealistic looking people
on social media, and of course, because
they look so unrealistic, they're going
to get more engagement and they're going
to probably pop up on your feed more.
And then the more you see that content,
you keep thinking subconsciously that
that's normal even though it's not. And
you know, it makes a lot of people
insecure and it makes them really upset.
And the fact that we are we are getting
upset and getting insecure
about the rare exception of people is
crazy to me. And if you if you're not on
social media, you're not going to have
that problem. So another reason to
delete it. Point 23 is you're losing the
ability to be alone with your thoughts.
This kind of goes back to the creativity
thing, but if you never have the chance
to be bored,
you're never going to sit with your own
thoughts. And
you know, I think one of the biggest
issues in society today actually the
root cause for it is people don't even
know themselves anymore. And it's
because you never sit with your own
thoughts anymore.
It's always it's like I said about like
reacting. It's always reacting to
everything. It's never thinking about
what you have going or what you're going
to do today. What's going on in the
present moment?
If you just started sitting with your
own thoughts more and getting to know
yourself and getting more comfortable
with yourself, you would be shocked how
much is going to improve in your life in
a pretty short time as well. It's crazy.
Point 24 is your genuine personality is
being replaced by a curated persona.
This is a big point as well. Another
subconscious thing, right? A lot of
these things are subconscious because
when scrolling social media becomes such
an ingrained habit, you start getting
these negative effects from it without
even realizing it. But this is another
one of those as well is a lot of parts
of your personality
are being replaced by like you know
things like brain rot language or like
stupid trends on Tik Tok um fashion
trends that you wouldn't even think to
to hop on yourself but because you see
your friends doing it you want to do it.
The point is is that you become less and
less original
of a person.
The second point, not the second point,
the 25th point I have is the outrage
machine is exhausting you.
This kind of goes back to how everything
is rage bait nowadays, but there's
always a new person to cancel. There's
always a new person to get mad at and
say he's so crazy.
What you have to realize is it's all
intentional. They want they they're
literally putting these people in place,
these influencers, these streamers,
these celebrities, they're putting them
in place so that they are talked about.
So if you're talking about these people
and your attention is on these people,
they've won. Again, it goes back to the
old point, they've won.
And so if you're not on social media,
you're not going to be wasting all this
mental energy on this kind of stuff.
Number 26 is you're building someone
else's empire, not your own. kind of
goes to the point of how social media is
making money off of you and you're not
making anything.
You're on their platform, you're making
them money, you're training their
algorithm even more. Just get off of it. [clears throat]
