0:02 Over the last 3 years, I have asked more
0:05 than 1,000 people of all ages in more
0:08 than 35 countries one big question about
0:10 life. What is a big mistake you've made
0:11 or a big regret that you have that
0:13 you've learned a valuable lesson from?
0:15 And their answers have taught me more
0:17 than any class or course [music]
0:18 ever could. Now, in this video, we've
0:20 compiled all of their answers and we are
0:22 sharing the most insightful and
0:25 emotional ones that you absolutely need
0:27 to hear. What's a big mistake that
0:29 you've made or a big regret you have in
0:30 your life that taught you a valuable
0:33 lesson? Not telling my mom I loved her
0:34 as often as I should have. Yeah, I'd
0:35 like to be able to go back and do that
0:37 again. She died in July. I'm sorry. She
0:40 I was really close to her and uh
0:43 and she died quickly of a dementia.
0:46 Uh so, you know, she kind of lost her
0:47 sense of the people she loved and the
0:49 people around her and then went downhill
0:51 very quickly and wasn't pretty.
0:54 And it just kind of made me realize that
0:56 uh the old cliche about
0:57 you're here one day and you're gone the
0:59 next, you better enjoy it while it lasts
1:01 cuz it does not last long. I voluntarily
1:04 withdrew myself from seeing my mom for a
1:06 while. We had [music] an argument and um
1:09 we got back together and it was the best
1:11 ever. [music] And then I regretted the
1:13 time I spent apart from her. What did
1:16 you learn about that? That we all make
1:18 mistakes, we all have >> [music]
1:18 >> [music]
1:20 >> difficulties, and sometimes you don't
1:22 realize what the difficulties of others
1:24 are until you're older and you start
1:26 experiencing difficulties yourself. And
1:28 then you say, [music] "Now I see. So,
1:31 maybe I should have been kind of
1:33 My father passed away >> [music]
1:33 >> [music]
1:36 >> uh in '89 and I wanted to leave comedy
1:38 cuz I just loved entertaining him more
1:40 than anybody else. He was he came to
1:43 every show. And my mother is now in
1:46 late-stage [music] uh dementia, so she
1:47 doesn't know who I am and that's
1:51 devastating. But uh up until >> [music]
1:51 >> [music]
1:54 >> she did know who I was, I never
1:56 there wasn't I never missed a day of
1:57 talking to her >> [music]
1:57 >> [music] >> until
1:58 >> until
2:36 >> What is a big mistake you've made or a
2:38 big regret you have that taught you a
2:40 valuable lesson at some point in your life?
2:40 life?
2:42 >> Can we say anything on this? >> Absolutely.
2:43 >> Absolutely.
2:45 >> Probably not getting laid a thousand
2:51 Why Why? Oh, because it's the most
2:53 wonderful experience in the world. I
2:56 mean, you cannot repeat those things.
2:58 They're just great. There are no bad
3:01 ones. I only wish I had more. They were
3:02 great experiences.
3:03 >> You're not going to share our channel
3:06 with your wife, are you? Um she doesn't
3:09 know how to use YouTube, so.
3:11 That is a loaded question.
3:13 One that I would like to answer, but I'm
3:14 not going to. >> [music]
3:14 >> [music]
3:17 >> I'm going to guess the relationship one.
3:19 We hear that a lot, yeah? My biggest
3:22 mistake was picking my husband. I got
3:25 divorced at a very, very early age. Was
3:28 a single mother for 30-odd years. Be
3:30 careful who you pick to spend your life
3:31 with. I went wrong because I was very
3:34 young. Today people are getting married
3:36 at 30 and 32 [music]
3:38 and have a career and then they have a
3:41 family. In at [music] my day, we met
3:43 your boyfriend at 16 separate teams. By
3:45 18, 19, you were getting married, you
3:48 were an idiot who didn't know any
3:51 better. I invested too much time >> [music]
3:51 >> [music]
3:54 >> in a relationship. I wanted to be
3:56 married, move forward, etc., etc. You
3:57 know, if all your friends are telling
4:00 you that someone [music] is awful, maybe
4:02 stop and consider about whether perhaps
4:04 Yeah. you know, they're they have a point.
4:05 point.
4:06 >> knew he was bad or it was more the
4:07 commitment aspect?
4:09 >> more the commitment aspect. Not you
4:11 know, not not bad, but completely wrong
4:14 for me and maybe not sufficiently
4:15 thoughtful, considerate. [music]
4:17 And but you invest a certain amount of
4:19 time and you you know, sort of polish up
4:20 the parts that work. [music] I think
4:22 many people don't make that judgment.
4:24 They just keep polishing the turd. I'm
4:25 not okay with polishing the [music] turd.
4:25 turd.
4:27 >> I would never get married when I was so
4:30 young cuz what the hell was my hurry? I
4:33 was 19. I had a baby when I was 20. What
4:36 was my hurry? I would have waited
4:38 because there are things I wanted to do
4:40 which [music] I never did. I wanted to
4:41 be a singer. I always thought I had a voice.
4:42 voice.
4:45 >> regret not having gone for that? I mean,
4:46 a lot of people have these similar dreams.
4:47 dreams. >> regrets.
4:48 >> regrets.
4:50 >> go for it. It's done. It's over with.
4:53 It's finished, you know? Coulda, woulda,
4:55 shoulda. It's over. Probably the one
4:58 thing that I regret was I got married
5:01 early. I was working and I didn't spend
5:04 much time with my children. I was always
5:07 busy. My father was always busy. I never
5:10 had a relationship with him. And I guess
5:13 I it came by me naturally and I followed
5:15 in his footsteps. I don't have any
5:17 children. Do you regret that? No. >> [music]
5:17 >> [music]
5:20 >> Did you ever regret it? Uh
5:23 I did regret it, of course. I did feel
5:25 that it's something that I should
5:28 perhaps have done, but I wasn't cut out
5:30 for it. Were kids ever on the table for
5:34 you? Is that a regret? Yeah, it is. I
5:36 think when I was much younger, for sure,
5:38 like, "Oh, yeah, one day, one day, one
5:40 day." And I always put it off and then
5:43 [music] when I met my my wife now,
5:45 we were both older and it was off the
5:48 table. I feel like all these things
5:49 happen for a reason. >> [music]
5:50 >> [music]
6:07 So, if you could go back in time and say
6:09 you were 20, 25 and you could do it
6:24 My biggest was
6:26 to be marry me.
6:29 Some regrets, but you don't have to
6:31 think about [music] it. Otherwise, you
6:33 don't live well. You have to say, "I
6:35 can't do anything about what [music]
6:38 I've done or what I have not received
6:41 and so. I can't do anything." Some youths
6:42 youths >> [music]
6:42 >> [music]
6:45 >> just following wrong ideals.
6:49 Money, money, money. [music] Money is
6:52 important, but you cannot make money your
6:53 your
6:56 leader or your aim.
6:58 >> Things aren't very important at all.
7:02 Clothes, cars, houses. Here and goal
7:05 is to be happy. That's all you need. I
7:06 think one of the best things in failing
7:07 or going through ups and downs
7:08 financially is you learn the downs are
7:10 not that bad. Life still can be good.
7:11 Just thought of things you can do. So,
7:12 you realize that whether you have a lot
7:14 or a little or in the middle, that's not
7:16 the most important thing. I mean, he
7:18 grew up extremely poor hoping to get his
7:20 next meal. So, we know what it's like to
7:23 have nothing and have more [music] than
7:25 nothing. Follow your dreams and cuz a
7:26 passion will get you over the finish
7:29 line. Always. Always. I used to want to
7:31 make money. Okay, that was my job. I was
7:32 in the finance business. I was there to
7:33 make money. It's not that important.
7:35 [music] You have to have passion to be
7:38 good. I lost my passion. And if you
7:39 don't have passion, you're not going to
7:41 [music] make it. I'm not interested in
7:42 making the last buck. If you have more
7:44 than you need to survive and take care
7:46 of your family, that's enough. But just
7:49 this habit to habit, no. No, I don't
7:50 agree with that.
7:51 >> A lot of you guys watch our videos
7:53 trying to get some life advice so that
7:55 your life can be happier [music]
7:57 and more fulfilling. But listening to
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8:59 This is sounds quite dull, actually. But
9:01 it was taking the wrong job job off of
9:02 the one that had more less status than
9:03 the one [music] actually I really
9:05 enjoyed that was way more adventurous
9:07 when I was young. That then I did what I
9:09 was expected [music] to do, the fancy
9:11 office all that, rather than the really
9:13 funky job that I really wanted to do.
9:15 This was that selling satellite dishes
9:17 in India. I [music] want to become a
9:18 stage performer.
9:20 I never achieved that. I think Yeah,
9:22 well, I'll keep that in mind.
9:25 >> Yeah. How come you never achieved that?
9:25 What happened?
9:26 >> I think parents, [music]
9:29 all right? My dad, particularly, was
9:31 thinking, you know, being a stage
9:32 performer, you have a very short
9:33 professional [music]
9:36 time where if you study a skill, you can
9:38 use until later time. So, instead of
9:41 being a stage performer, you did what?
9:44 Well, I did accounting.
9:46 Do you regret that looking back? I
9:48 always [music] think that will always be
9:51 part of me. That's a high aspiration
9:53 that will stay with me forever. You
9:55 never know. You might [music] see me
9:56 dancing one day on the stage.
9:57 >> I love to.
9:59 For me, my biggest regret was I wanted
10:00 to be an actor. That was my dream since
10:02 I was in like elementary school. I was
10:03 in all the school plays and I had a
10:05 modicum of success like when I was in my
10:07 late teens, early 20s. I was on a few TV
10:09 shows and I I I was like sort of almost
10:11 like on the cusp of like making it.
10:13 Well, I guess I got scared and it was
10:14 [music] like, you know, I need to work.
10:16 I need to support myself, obviously. I
10:18 was the quintessential starving artist.
10:19 I was sleeping on friends' couches. I
10:20 was bartending. I was a server,
10:22 whatever, doing what I had to do so I
10:24 can go on auditions during the day and I
10:26 kind of like gave up on that dream and
10:28 got like the typical corporate 9-to-5
10:30 job and that's my biggest regret in my
10:31 life because I was like 20, let's say
10:35 22. I should have really kept at it and
10:36 pursued it >> [music]
10:36 >> [music]
10:37 >> cuz that's all I've ever wanted to do
10:40 was be an actor. And now I have some
10:41 lame corporate job and it's like, yeah,
10:43 I can pay my rent and whatever, live,
10:45 but what is the point at the end of the day?
10:45 day? >> [music]
10:45 >> [music]
10:48 >> You recognize that time is so short.
10:49 That's the only one thing that you can't
10:51 get back. Sort of hyper aware of that
10:52 now. You know, when you're 22, you think
10:53 you're going to live forever. I got my
10:55 whole life ahead of me. No, you have to
10:57 do it then. Try, fail. There's nothing
10:59 to be ashamed of with failure. >> [music]
10:59 >> [music]
11:01 >> Just learn from it and then move on and
11:02 just try a whole bunch of different
11:04 things. That would be my biggest advice
11:06 to a young person. I had a nice job. I
11:08 was a New York City public school
11:10 [music] teacher, which many people think
11:12 is a really terrible job, but I loved
11:14 more or less every minute of it.
11:16 >> You have to really love what you do and
11:17 if you're not happy with you do, it's
11:19 the worst miserable >> [music]
11:19 >> [music]
11:21 >> kind of thing in the world. You kind of
11:23 hope and and pray that the money will
11:25 come through that because of [music]
11:28 your passion and you know, your goodwill
11:30 to to the job you're doing, but there's
11:33 no guarantee. There really isn't any
11:35 guarantee. I think mine was not feeling
11:38 confident enough in myself to try
11:40 something new. I started watercolor
11:42 painting when I was 50.
11:44 I should have started it way before
11:46 that, but it just didn't [music] come up
11:48 as something I felt like I could do and
11:50 I was successful at it.
11:51 >> What held you back? You said you weren't
11:52 confident enough. What was
11:54 >> Just confidence, just shyness [music]
11:56 and not feeling like I could do it. My
11:57 father always said, "If you're going to
11:59 do something, do it right." I
12:01 interpreted that, "If you're going to do
12:03 something, do it perfectly." So, [music]
12:04 if you're not sure you're going to be
12:06 able to do it perfect, you don't try.
12:08 That's not true. Big one is, >> [music]
12:08 >> [music]
12:10 >> "A year from now, you'll wish you
12:12 started today."
12:15 I've always worried about the future.
12:17 [music] Like going to have enough money,
12:19 is it the right moment, is something
12:21 else should I, you know, take care of
12:23 some immediate [music] responsibilities,
12:26 needs. I haven't for the most part been
12:28 somebody who lives in the moment. I I
12:30 would look more in the future. My wife
12:32 was very much uh
12:34 in the moment, so uh >> [music]
12:35 >> [music]
12:37 >> I would uh
12:39 I would say you got to strike a balance,
12:40 right? Because if you're
12:42 too much [music] in the moment, you
12:44 might be screwed in the future. The
12:46 other extreme, you know, you always
12:47 living in the future, you miss out on
12:49 all the opportunities you could have had
12:51 in the moment and in the day. What is a
12:53 big mistake that you've made or a big
12:55 regret that you have that you learned a
12:56 How you learned a lesson from it?
12:58 There's so many. Judging people too
13:01 harshly, too quickly. Judgmental thing.
13:03 Not taking risks. Um you know, sometimes
13:05 you you see a road, you know, I talk
13:06 about the road you didn't take >> [music]
13:06 >> [music]
13:08 >> and you look at the things that you the
13:09 choices you made along the way and you
13:11 think, "Hmm, uh was that the road I
13:13 should have taken?" I wanted to be a
13:14 lawyer, but I had a
13:17 a slight speech impediment and I felt
13:19 that would be a handicap, but I got over
13:21 the speech problem, so
13:23 Anyway, yeah.
13:25 It's too late now. It's very hard, very
13:27 hard for kids today. Get as much
13:30 education as you can. Just make yourself
13:32 valuable, but make sure that you you're
13:34 the best that you can be and then your
13:36 life will be okay. That's something I
13:38 wish I had done. Then God knows where I
13:40 could have been. Uh when I don't do my
13:43 homework and uh I play video games. Like
13:46 he said, sometimes I I'm on my phone
13:49 instead of doing my my homework, so I I
13:50 lose a lot of time. Spending as much
13:52 time as I do on my phone cuz I feel like
13:55 I should be doing so much more. I'm just
13:56 staying on TikTok for hours while I
13:59 could be pursuing my passions. One big
14:00 thing that happened like this year was
14:03 that I like broke my arm and I hip in
14:05 like a skiing accident. I was going like
14:06 way too fast and I was like going off
14:08 like a massive jump and I just lost
14:10 control. I like I would not do that.
14:13 Expect less. My motto is don't expect
14:15 anything from anyone. If you expect
14:17 less, then you will be much happier. I
14:20 think it's a very good to involve or
14:23 focus on your own works, worry less
14:25 about what others thinks and what others
14:27 do. You got to take risks. You got to be
14:29 willing to fail and get up again.
14:31 There's no such a thing as a bad choice.
14:33 You always learn something. It's painful
14:35 to fail. That's why they put erasers on
14:39 pencils. His uh life is just one mistake
14:42 after another. They continue to to
14:44 happen. I don't actually believe in
14:46 mistakes. I believe in lessons that push
14:49 you forward. Um some people I've known
14:51 allowed mistakes to actually freeze them
14:53 in that moment of time and they could
14:56 never get out of it. The biggest uh one
14:57 I guess I've learned is that to spend
14:59 more time with people. Pay attention,
15:01 listen to them. You know, it's easy to
15:03 keep moving on
15:05 and I'm being worried about the the
15:06 river flow, but I think you have to get
15:08 off once in a while just enjoy the
15:11 shore. If you just enjoy what you're
15:13 doing, you will be surprised by where
15:16 you get and I think life is short and
15:18 you need moments of contentment [music]
15:20 when you're not thinking about what you
15:21 don't have, when you're not thinking
15:24 about what [music] you don't want, when
15:26 you're not thinking about what some
15:28 other person you're seeing or hearing
15:31 has and you're saying, "I want that."
15:34 I think you need to
15:35 You know, my grandmother used to always
15:37 tell me, "If you're not healthy, you're
15:39 not wealthy." You know, success is just
15:41 getting up and in the moment not being
15:44 aware of a pain, not being aware of what
15:46 you have, just
15:48 and that's I this moment that you're
15:52 watching right now is success. Thank you
15:53 so much for watching this video. If you
15:56 have enjoyed it, guess what? This is
15:58 part of a huge year for us where we're
16:00 going around the world and interviewing
16:01 people from all these different
16:03 countries of all these different ages
16:04 and giving you perspectives like this
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