Modern love, heavily influenced by technology and evolving social norms, has created a complex landscape where genuine connection is increasingly challenging due to factors like hookup culture, dating app superficiality, and a fear of vulnerability.
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People don't know, so they don't
know what real love is like. Do
you think that modern love makes
people incapable of knowing
real love? No, not really.
Underline modern, yes. Okay, sir.
What is that for?
Technology. In the past, it was just word of mouth
how is the helicopter? I don't know.
Alan, are you safe? Ah, now let's talk about the
story first. That's it, it's safe, it's recorded.
Okay, we're recording, guys.
Then okay
, let's start.
Hilarious. Lift the missing butt spot.
Welcome to Sarco Uncut. It's already
started. Eh, what is it? N go home
like a new youtuber. How how
how? Hey, first of all, thank you to the
audience. Thank you for watching.
Al inih. Wow.
Thank you to the audience who have
watched. Thank you listeners
for listening. What are we
talking about today? Today we
want to talk about modern things. Earlier we said thank
you first. Yes, it's been a long time.
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funny at the end. Hey my dog uses Snapbag I
use tot. Was it allowed before? Don't
start asking for your social assistance. So today we
want to talk about modern love, okay? Modern
love. Modern love. What is modern love
, Sis? Eh the connotation.
Who wants to explain the connotations? What cave are
you? He wasn't the only one before. You already
have my writing. Eh me ie. So
modern love is a story about
today's culture. For example, if you're dating, there's a
hook up, it's like hookup culture is
just hookup culture,
just clapping. Yes
Then there's casual dating. Cualing is
like okay, I'm with you but we're non-
committal, right? Yes, HTS has been around since
we were in high school, we just changed the name, right? Do
you want to be more relatable with Gency? Yes.
I love it. Okay, so it's like the
fall of HTS FWB but with a changed name
. Yes Then like dating apps
now, you're the king, Mar. H, I'm
in a band. He was so king that he was even banded.
I didn't know that Bumble could ban
people. I just found out from you. Yes,
I have to buy a cellphone. So, according to you, the
first thing you should do is enter the phone. HP comes in.
I want to make a Samsung flip.
Samsung flip or do I also want an
Oppo like that? Which Oppo? Realme too.
What is Realme? Realme. Realme HP.
Realme is stupid Tamia. HP dog. Keep going keep going keep going
. So, do you think that the
current concept of modern dating makes people more
disconnected from each
other? Let's talk about you both
as singles, okay? Single. Single.
What is the question? Huh? Discontinue
disconnected. So it seems like you have a hard time having a
real connection with other people. So
if you look at the real moderator
now, it feels like it's always been discontinued .
.
The clothes are hilarious. Wide card. So, for
example, now there are so many
choices. You can meet
people anywhere. Yes
Even without seeing his real face, you
feel like I already really know
this person. Do you
feel like you clicked? Yes Do you
feel that instead
of making a lot more connections,
you end up feeling
disconnected? You
charity for sick dogs.
Can my friends answer this?
try it there first. For me, it's because I
because I
listen to the dog first. If I agree, it
feels easier not to be connected
with disconnected people because
we feel like we have so many choices.
The more choices we have,
the more we simplify the relationships
we have built over time.
For example, when apple season occurs, the
price of apples falls. Likewise,
when the relationship is because there are many because there are
many demands and there is a lot of
supply. It's not demand, there's
a lot of supply, and there's also a lot of demand.
When the apple season is over, the
price of apples goes up. Well,
how long has that been happening now? 21,000.
How many before? How many before? 15 15,000 means the
Indonesian economy. Marco,
you better think about your answer first. You
don't have an answer yet, right? If
I agree, eh, you are getting, getting,
getting, eh, more
disconnected because we feel like, ah, what am
I doing, struggling
like this, the people in front of
us are being bullied. What are the
cement people doing like that? Or maybe you
feel like, Marlo already knows the person
from his Instagram, you've seen the
person, oh, he seems like this person.
When we met, when we met, it turned out to be different.
Then you start to feel like, "Oh, it
turns out my connections are just from social media
." Stop there, can you keep quiet
? Yes, you can. Excuse me. I i.
But in my opinion, ee, nowadays
love is really easy, it's really quick
to love someone and it's really easy
. Oh, that's the end.
Because of what? Because as I said
earlier there are so many choices. So, if
for example it doesn't fit, I'll just look for
another one. And that is a fact that
I really, really don't like. Yes,
that's why many people say it's really hard
to find love at this age. In
this year, finding love is
difficult. Because of what? Because of that,
he normalized everything. Yes Everything is
already on social media. Like cheating for example
. Oh, so now
cheating is commonplace, it's normal. Yes, just
cheat, break up and find someone
else. God forbid. Yes But it's as
easy as that. So, in
my opinion, is it really easy?
Disconnected, disconnected. Disconnected
disconnected. So, according to you,
social media nowadays is more of a waste of
time for single people like you
to actually look for someone, it's not a waste of
time, it's just because everyone is on
social media, everyone wants to give information,
everyone wants updates, everyone wants to
flex. So his love was always being discussed
. So it's
really easy for that person to be like, "Yeah, I'm
breaking up with you because it's just not compatible." Well,
everyone was like, "Oh, so if you're
not compatible, just break up so you can
immediately change partners." Well, after a while,
because the news started to
spread, people started to think, "Oh,
well, if you don't like someone, you'll break up or
cheat." So it's really easy to get
disconnected from someone who, if
you're not compatible, you can change to someone
else. Wow, that's
cool. Asalamualaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuh. Sir, come here. Sir, come back, sir.
Come back, sir. Hehe. Hehe. Yes, come back.
Not yet, not yet, not yet, not yet, not yet
, not yet, not yet. If I prefer
two blades. Yes, type. So it can be
front and back. Do you know, Mar,
what English is? Tu e double endedger.
Hey. Our relationship. After all, we are
different from the people on
Twitter, Facebook, and TikTok.
The standard is that you make it the same.
While people
are different in the way they
grow and develop, the way they
communicate, their trauma is different, the
way they handle their past is also
different. Well, when everything is
put on social media, one
world has the
same standards. Yes, that's it. So it's
equalized, equalized hands
from there it becomes easier for us to be
honest, I've forgotten
what I was saying earlier. Yes Yes So it's easier for us to
finish it. But
because of e on the other hand, because of
social media, we are also more likely
to get hit. What does
it mean to be hit by a tampias? Affected. what effect does it have
? Being affected by
people who influence us means being
influenced, being affected by
people whose relationships are sweet, whose
relationships are good, so we also
have a self maybe. Well, that's
another thing. So there are two things
we can talk about. Thank you,
friends. What have you been doing all
this time? That's why you shouldn't keep girls around all the time.
Next. So, for example, Sarah
said earlier that we are heavily influenced by the
reality that is displayed on Instagram .
.
Why? Ah, I forgot, I'll read what was
told on Instagram later. Do you think
these people are actually
looking for love or just
entertainment or validation when it
comes to relationships? I have a
theory. Please. Nowadays people are
really afraid of being vulnerable. That person is
really afraid of being called sensitive. People are
really afraid to fall in love. Why?
Because in the eyes of most
people, including me, we have also been in a
phase like that. When you admit that you
fell in love, you are weak. So the
weak are weak. Yes So, when you
realize that you're being sensitive, if you
admit that you like someone,
for example,
you'll think that you're weak. It's just that kind of
time to be emotional. Because it is
influenced by modern love
. When hookup culture is normalized,
when one stand is glamorized,
romanticized and everything is mine. Yes yes
. Keep going, keep going. I've been
in a phase like that. Yes I'm sorry, I'm not sorry,
I'm in a phase
like that, Mar. So, I am a
very romantic person. Yes, yes, it's
really bad. I'm so full
of love. But there was a phase where I also
wanted to look like I was tough,
you know. Jadiend is not independent. So I'm
tough so I turn off all
my feelings. I sleep around. [ __ ] crazy.
[ __ ] girl. But that's for girls, right?
As a man, you have to maintain your
masculinity even though it sometimes becomes toxic
masculinity. What do you think of what
Sarah said? Do you understand? I
also don't understand what it was like. Do you
understand? Let me explain it again
. No. But
what about before that? What? Yes,
what was it before? The previous question.
Hey, do you think people nowadays are
really looking for genuine love or entertainment
entertainment
and validation when they're looking for a
girlfriend? Yes, if it's that one, yes. Hehe.
Nowadays, people tend to have companionship.
companionship.
What's the difference with looking for love? Different.
Companionship is like, for example,
I need someone who follows
my lifestyle. Hehe. I like to jam when I
can. Do you really like jamming? For example, I
also have to keep this. Ugh, scared. Afraid, afraid.
For example, if I like going to the gym,
I want my partner
to follow my lifestyle too. That's why he
needs the same partner or not,
like, for example, girls who like to
make TikToks. Well, he wants to be
seen as if it's like, "Oh, you guys
are couple goals." So he often
bombards content with his partner like that
. So it's like, it's okay,
for example, my guy is so cute, how come he makes
content so he can be called couple gold,
so he can be said like you're
romantic, you're funny, you're fun, like that. It's just so I
don't feel lonely,
that's why I need someone who is there.
So what you're looking for is validation and
entertainment, right? Dakw can be
validation for entertainment purposes
only. But if we can do this,
ma'am, if we can stir that, ah.
ah.
So let's continue. Which one? The one
earlier was stupid.
So, if we can trace
the problem, it is actually because we,
firstly, we are so afraid of being
vulnerable. Wow, this is really a disease
. This is
really a disease. No, no. E, Marco is
different, right? Marco is one of the
men I know and have in
my life who dares to be vulnerable.
But most of the guys that I've known in
my life want to be cool, yeah, yeah,
like me, tough, I'm a
guy, not like that, like that,
your cellphone provider doesn't mean it's more like
okay, I'm like, uh, [ __ ] love, I want to
[ __ ] around, that's the story, so it's
not difficult for them to express what
they feel because society nowadays is like a
corrective, forbidding
feelings of love. When you fall in
love with someone, you are considered as a
weak maybe or vulnerable
. So it's like yes. Yes
Oh, you're just being emotional. There must be something like
that, right? If you're hanging out, maybe
. Yes, yes. Yes So people
feel like, "Oh, I can't get
emotional." People, long ago,
before COVID, I
felt like oh me, if I were a
cool girl, it would be like the song Chapel Rone. What is
it? I forgot. Anyway, he's
talked about this. If I could [ __ ]
around, if I could be casual to
everyone, everyone. Yes I I'm
considered as a cool person. So I did
that. I've done so many things that are
related to that issue.
So yeah, this is also painful, where I
can't show my feelings, the dog is
really hurt, sis. Aing aing aing is
really there, I've kissed again, I can
ask where I am. But actually,
not all of them are like that. Semema is
like that. I mean, if there's a
match, it
seems like it's a match. It's like his girlfriend is like
oh this is legit. Like it,
love it, love it. Yes But most of
the time, most of the time is like that.
Like oh fake it till you make it.
Yes, like a figure no no no
don't like. Soksok doesn't miss
dogs. That's really sick, people are
better at pretending they like them than
pretending they don't like dogs. Hehe.
It seems like it is, right A. Heeh. Marlu is a man, right?
A man. Hey, who? Really?
No need to check. If I'm afraid. Yes,
yes, yes. Yes You're a man, after all. Man.
Eh, yuck. [Music] The
[Music] The
stereotype is that men are rarely
in touch with their feelings. Have you
ever been in a position where you
and your friends kept feeling the
pressure to be like, "Damn, I
really love this guy, I can't be
like this, I have to be cool." No, it's
just that sometimes, for example, if a guy
already seems to be feeling irritated,
sometimes that tendency can be
exploited. Ah, I agree. Really?
It seems like girls, boys and girls are like that too
. Yes, but it's like girls are
usually approached by guys
first. That means the guy has an
interest, right? But when you're
interested and like into just one girl,
mostly, for me, in
Mar's case, my case is either
the girl is curious, the girl is just like,
wow, she's famous, this can be
used or not, she wants to be
known, the use of it
can be in material things, in
engagement or the environment,
engagement, so for me, it's a bit
difficult to be interested in someone nowadays,
nowadays,
because we never know the intention, ah, so
we get traumatized because ee, it happens
many times like that, or when we
meet, it turns out we're just curious, but
in this case, Markorani is a
public figure whose name is already on
Google and has the last name Noya, right? Noya
Noya
Noya, if it's reversed, ah, don't forget,
there was a show on a certain TV station,
so what if, for example, do you want to
eat? No.
Do you want a kiss? Do you want a kiss? Do you want a kiss?
kiss? [Laughs]
[Music]
No. No. Yes Can I touch my chest? Yes
Yes
No. Dog.
No. What was that? People forget. Or not like, for
example, if you are called by the center.
hey. Stupid.
Can I return this to? If he is a thinker,
his fear is that he will
be taken advantage of, right? But most of
Teh's male friends are
afraid of being taken advantage of, heeh. The
second one
is ee, this is just rough language. I
could be wrong.
I'm afraid of being called a wimp. For example
in matian for example in hookup culture
youve been there. How are you, Cen? Hup
hookup culture. Yes, I was called a wimp. I
want to explain this to you, sir. I can.
Let's continue. In hookup culture. A,
when someone gets excited first
and says, "Oh my God, I think I
really like you again." I said
yes, like I said earlier, El is
one of those who dares to be vulnerable, but
most people are not monkeys.
Add alcohol, this rice dog
forgot, I'm a dog,
where are you and when one of
them gets emotional, they are
considered to be emotional, oh but it
can be a girl or a boy,
I feel like that because in
modern love, where free sex is
also an effort to communicate, hehe. One of the ways of maintaining social relations
. Oh my God. Can I
come in? Yes.
Can I come in? I can be like
that. So we can't
differentiate between whether Eta Teh is horny or sweet.
Because last and love are very different.
So true. In fact, there is
scientific proof for this. Really? [Music]
[Music]
eh, for example, there are several
hormones that are released when we
hug someone we love. Ah
and ee ber this korek ni famr hanya soto
aja. Ee and when that happens the difference
ee what is it called the way of processing feelings
is different between men and
women. Okay. So sometimes there are things that
don't connect. Hehe. It
doesn't connect. Well, it's getting even more chaotic
in this relationship that
doesn't actually have a name. Huh. Huh. The
situation. Dam,
please welcome aboard the king of all situations. It's
crazy that you don't like me like that anymore
. But there are some moments
where, oh, I don't want to date you
anymore but I can't let
you go, for example. FMB, yeah. It's the same
. Okay. In the past,
before modern
love existed, we were in a situationship stage, getting to know each other and getting to know each other,
between becoming or not dating,
between not becoming or not dating.
If now there is a new stage of
situationship and it is very difficult for you to get out
of this situation. That's right. Well, that usually
happens when the sex is really good. It's
crazy but eh but I'm dating and don't really talk to each other
he often doesn't lie, your dog destroys
my branding issue, which I have changed,
no, no, no, no dog. Well, that's how the
situationship happens and usually
they say "I'm you" in front of
people, "I'm you" after 9:00 at
night. Wow,
I want to kiss again.
Usually in ee in the apartment in the boarding house
while eating McD chest stuck. D is stuck.
Heeh heeh. Absolutely true. But
the situation is difficult, in my opinion.
It seems like you can't handle
situationship. FR with benefits is possible.
That's right. Because the terms are like, for example, I'm
lonely. Hehe. But I don't
want to date. Yes, FWB or casual
partner. Yes I'm lonely. I
really want to date. In a relationship. it's that simple
. But now I don't know who
added the new terms. There is situationship,
situationship,
there is friends with benefits, there is HTS.
In the past, people called tea fak
body. Fadi
buticol jata mantan. I've never been an
ex, I swear. Ha, platonic.
Why is it platonic? Oh well, platonic.
Talking platonic here, huh? Later
we will discuss platonics. Okay. Okay.
Mar. But for those of you who
really can't do situationship, have you ever
considered that
for you, situationship is a
real relationship, but for your partner it turns out to be a
situationship. Ah, maybe this can be
told about yesterday, sir. Is
that what you're confused about, sir? It's
more like that situation, there's
no name for it, but it's like
dating. If I
feel like it, what is the question?
What was the situation just now? Yes, have you
ever felt that way? It turns out you're
in a situationship but you think it's a
real relationship. Yang ono consider it
situationship. I don't know how
he feels. But I thought it was
true at the time. It's true because
my dog makes me look like a waste.
But in my opinion, because
people's thoughts are not necessarily the same
as what they say. Yes, that's right.
For example, if I love you, he's like,
"I just want the money back, I love you
too." We don't know, right?
Okay. What I mean is that
we won't know anyone's
intention when they approach us. So in
my opinion, oh, it seems like that time was
really real. He could just tell
his friends, it's not suitable for me anymore.
It could be like that. But in my opinion, it's just
my opinion, it's just
good communication. And that
doesn't happen to you. Good communication
like that. And that doesn't happen in caves.
situation, it should be
easy, right, Sal, it should be like
this, I like you, you like me,
let's date, commit, but
in recent years, there are so
many factors, Mar, that's the TNI Bill
wrong,
but what I mean is that in the past, it was
easy, Heeh, just dating or not,
friends or not,
HTS. Of course, yes. Even before HTS,
we were just trying to get to know each other. PDKT PDKT
didn't happen. Now there is ghosting.
Bread crumbs.
Bread crumbs. So what's not
connected? Disconnected. Not stupid. Is it
stupid. Is it
ancient? What's not
connected? Who's not connected? Not on
the same frequency. Not English.
Not frequent. Not
frequented. Stupid. That's all
. There are so many
new test terms that are like
complicated love. Love is so difficult. Anjay.
Love love itself. A no need for English
all dogs. Son of Devil. Love is
love, love is love, love
sorry. Take life very seriously. Okay then.
Then, what else? What were you doing?
What's the question? I forgot. Why are you,
why are you in a
situation where other people think
you're in a situation but you think it's real?
Not like that, that question is
like that question, that question was just a
joke, you guys
. Okay, let's continue.
Just continue, okay? Yes, it's actually complicated
when talking about love. But it has to be
said, Mar. Because it really has to be
said. Yes Because the longer
we don't talk about it in a gambling way
, the less people will understand what it means
and how to maneuver it.
Now, in my opinion, if you
want to get to know me or want to date me,
what do you have that will make me curious about you?
Like, for example, this guy is
transactional. Transactional now.
But in
my opinion, now it can't be compared
to Romeo and Juliet, you know. A long
time ago. In the past, because now there are so
many things of all
kinds. In a way automatically in order
to survive we're going to be a little
I don't want to do that. I want it to be pure,
you know. Like Cinderella, like Snow
White, like Elsa and Ana, I
just watched it at Projen. I just watched it when I just
watched Frozen 2. But it's hard
now when
I just talk about love, actually I ca
n't just say okay, I
like you. There just have to be
subordinates like that, why?
For example, like now, it has to be from the
same tribe. Hehe. It's always been
hilarious. Yes But before, you already
knew, for example, like, "Wow, Manado here."
Yes, I won't be able to with Manado.
Okay, that's it. Finished. If you were
given something like
this now, would you like me to try it or not?
Yes I wonder why? Why is it like that?
Why am I like that? Let's try to
guess. Let's try to figure out why people
can be like that? Is he afraid of
commitment or is he afraid of getting
hurt or does he really just not want to
? I think I'm curious. First,
curiosity. Secondly, at our age ,
Teh, emotional baggage is already too
heavy. Yes At the age of 30 and above, there are so
many things we have to
think about. Not to mention if you have a
backbone, not to mention if you are a sandwich generation,
this is a new term. Well, this one. So,
even when we struggle, it seems like we make
make
love a sixth or
seventh priority. But eh, the rotten thing is that the
pain is that things are going to
be painful
when we fail in
that relationship, it will drain 80% of
all our professionalism, it's
really messy, ee, what's it called
hormonal chaos, especially for women whose
hormones are
messy, tired, this, this, that,
traumatized again. So, eh, back again in
order to survive, eh, this age, you know,
we really have to see
people, whether I will be safe with them and
what I have to give them so that
they will stay. Yes That's how it's maintained
. Yes So, in a way, yes, of
course it's gonna be a little bit transactional.
Thank you. But it's really tiring. Yes, that
's right, I didn't say I was tired.
I mean, for you to love that person,
the fence between your fears is
already so thick. But in
my opinion, we shouldn't blame
ourselves either. For example, I was traumatized and
then the trauma became a shield for
me so that it seems like you have to understand that
I have trauma. That's also wrong in my opinion
. No way. No way. Trama
is our own business and
ourselves. Especially with new people.
For example, I'm close to a new person.
Yes What's your name? Name. Princess Name.
Not in
Namidan. Ridwan. R [Laughs] You're stupid
[Laughs] You're stupid
. A guy, of course. Siska? Siska. Siska.
For example, I am close to Siska. Yes
So, Siska and Sis are lazy about MSB or
MSB or
not? For example, Siska, I heard
Siska. Yes Then,
for example, I explain my background.
My background is that I used to have a lisp
until now
I have a face or a nose or an Adam's apple. For example,
I'm close to Siska and I tell
her. But I used to be really stubborn.
Yes. I'm really anti-girl.
Yes, it's like it's okay, it doesn't matter if you don't
want to, it's not with me. He always has
frills, huh? You can't make
me believe that. I mean, I'm
explaining so that I'll change and
you'll know so you don't have sex with me. It's just that suddenly
I'm lazy, like I ca
n't convince myself to trust
you, because I haven't done anything
wrong, you know. Oh, it makes sense.
You sound like an Arab Reza with your statement. Do you
love me? Do you just sit there like
that? Does your tongue really have to be
in the middle of your teeth
? I mean, it's a bit like I have some trauma
, I have a problem. I'm still
learning to be a much
better person for myself and who
knows, maybe someone else will create something like that, you know. It
seems like it's changed. Yes It's just that
I'm lazy, suddenly the girl just goes in and
then it's like you can't
convince me? Can you make me
believe it? Why? I haven't done anything
wrong and this is going to be a
pointless argument. Because there isn't one yet
because there isn't a problem yet. Yes I'm
explaining so that at least you
know because I want to be open with you.
But most girls do
n't seem to be able to convince me? Are you sure about
the dog? This fight isn't really that close, you know
. Maybe he also
understands what Marco meant. Maybe
I've been in
that woman's position too. But when I
said those words, it
meant that El hadn't made me safe.
One. Secondly, when a man is
secure with
himself, there are two things
he will do. either he left
because he felt the relationship wasn't worth
worth
it. Even though it will be very tiring there.
Why are you tired? Tired because the guy will be
tired because he has to keep on giving
affirmations and convincing. And
it's gonna be a very long discussion
every single day. I've been
in that girl's position, I feel
insecure every day. Keep on ticking. I used to be
cegil. But I'll think
again. It's just the man who wants to be with him.
Since long ago, there's been a snake tea.
Why now when he matok maneh
angry? Maneh Teh should be dating a
rabbit, not a snake. Well, I think that's
true too. K I mean when for
example Sara had something like that, when
I used to have problems, for example when we were
dating. Hey. Well, when you want to be with
me, you have accepted me. Hey. Only
if, for example, there is a problem of
debate attached. But if there's no problem,
why do I have to convince myself of something
I haven't done? This is the same as
giving responsibility to a
new person for the mistakes
made by the old person. Yes that's right.
This means that the girl also has a
friend. Oh yeah, he usually gets
cheated on. I said I had
an affair before and was immediately triggered by a
dog. Wow, yes, it definitely makes you feel
really triggered. I'm
not going to do it. Because I was really scared.
Imagine this. When I was little, I
drowned in the sea and died.
Where is the Dead Sea? It doesn't sink
. It's so funny that it sinks. Oh yes, it sinks
. Lake Toba, huh? Of course, every
single pool is a swimming pool that's not
as big as Lake Toba, we just want to dive in and we're
afraid. But you have to give an example
first, this person is only knee-deep.
Every day he had to tell me, "This
is knee-deep. You can ride a tire first
if you don't dare." And it will be
very tiring. I'm tired, really tired like
that, Sis. Pity. And when
that tired person leaves, it probably
doesn't mean that person does
n't love you anymore, Neng. But he's
tired of you. Yes In episode 1
we discussed this about being in
love forever. What's difficult is not
love, but maintaining it,
lowering your ego, and healing
yourself. You can't
assume that other people will cure you. Ca
n't. Is that just a standard TikTok
made by kids? Wetpad
times. Wet pad. I really like reading Wpad
because dogs are this easy to tell
people? Well, yes, like that, tea can't be
compared or not. That's right. Coming
from someone who can't
communicate is problematic. Was it true before
or before? Yes Keep going. But
beyond all that, beyond fear,
effort and there's more beyond that. Yes, you are
. Huh? Outside I look stupid, right?
So, have you ever felt
that this modern concept of love
has affected yourself? Like,
for example, dating apps, you know,
lots of girls will swipe at
1000 guys. Okay. How many matched?
Guys are like that too. You'll feel
like I'm not a good friend. I'm
not like that. I didn't have PD
before I knew you, right? Oh.
Yes Huh? What is it? Yes, that's how it is. Feeling
insecure? No. No. Eh, maybe from the
past, his questions were
n't like that.
Do e dating apps make it worse for
you to feel confident? Dating apps and
social media. Hey, like Instagram,
TikTok like that. I just don't care. I'll just
be myself. Cool. It smells like
[ __ ]. Your face smells really bad. You have horse teeth .
If you are sarcastic, but if I am, I will be what I
am. I mean, if you want to accept
me, then fine. No, no, no.
If I e we're going to e go back to
2017. Gojek gojek. Gojek Gojek phone.
Hey, wait a minute,
viewers, I'm asking Rafli to help me. Rafli hello.
My voice came in. Yes sir. It is okay.
okay.
Okay, wait a minute. Yes, just go downstairs to the lobby,
I'll come down later. Wait a minute, please. Just Fadil.
Just Fadil.
Okay. Just Yael. Just keep going guys.
How far? What was it like up to that point
? That's right. Ambitious. Huh? What? Hilarious.
Hilarious.
Until what? Until, for example, if you are
selfie-oriented, for example, maybe you like
Marco when he is not Sarah
now, then you see Marco as an
influencer, l la la, or Marco as a friend
like this, ...
Does that
make you feel less self-conscious or
what? Or, for example, if you don't believe the
fuss about getting close to Marco because Mar is a
girl, there will definitely be a background check, right? Oh
yeah all the time bro all the time.
Looks like a girl and a boy background check
. It's not really a guy. I don't really.
Hmm. That's why you're poor. Who told you to be
stupid. E, but if you
approach a girl, for example, how many followers do you have
now? Yes, 160. For example, if
you approach 160 with a guy who has 1 million
followers, is that possible or not? It's not
normal, right? Just the same. But I won't
catch it. Why? Because
first of all, I get emotional easily. It's
easy for me to get upset.
This storm is so stupid. And I'm sure it's not the only
one. Maybe he will be
one of those people that I just and I
don't want to do that in this
age. Maybe when he approached me
when I was 21, maybe he said, "Come on, let's
go, I'll arrange it for you in a hidden parking lot
." Wow. But nowadays,
people are not more insecure but more
instinctive. Eh, but that's also what
projecting is called, right? Yes
Not everyone is like that. Same with Teh, be
patient. This is a
reflection of ourselves, you know. Why do people
immediately back up and then back off like that? Back
again to Pulinan Selaras. Pulinan
Pulinan
Harmonious. Ugh, why are people like that
? Yes I wonder why? Maybe because
of the background check. Yes
Yes, it shouldn't be necessary. Please do not do it
. Just let it flow until you find the
red flag. Eh, it's okay to waste your time
. Yes, that's what I mean, for example, if
this is the background, check this, check this
red flag first, can I
tolerate it or not? Oh well, if you can, come on,
bro, if you can't, oh, never mind,
bro. Ee i like that. Because for
example, if the tea already has red spots here and there
. But I'm still gassed and wondering if it doesn't
hurt me. Leecet dong. Yes, that one is
definitely scratched. What is that? Car. Oh I see
. Yes Hehe. Like that. But
Alv's is scratched.
Is Alvi white or black? The black one.
Black. But if I'm insecure, I'm not,
but more like, what's this called? It's
more like awareness. What the [ __ ]?
Not insecure but this is eh doubting doubting
doubting. Why are people
doubting? Doubting. Hey, why are you doing something
like that? But not everyone is
like that. That's right.
But if we talk about dating
apps, modern love is actually included in
dating apps too, right? H what do you think? I do
n't like modern love.
Actually, no one likes it. Jensy likes it. Oh
no, as Jensy, I don't
like it. Don't like it. Eh, modern love is
like hookup culture, dating apps are
everywhere. They do that in
order to survive the loneliness. Yes
Maybe it's just because I'm nosy. nosy and ee
I think it has something to do with ee the
COVID period. Oh, our COVID period is 2
years old. Not 2 years without going
anywhere. We're just at home,
lonely. Moreover, with this tragedy
you lost some of your loved
ones, your family members. You need
someone to talk to every single day,
including strangers. From there, a
habit emerged of feeling, perhaps,
lazy or indolent about meeting people.
Why am I meeting people door to
door again like before? Just chatting.
There I can do a background check.
There, I can chat, make
phone calls, and video call without having to make
the effort to go to his house,
ask his parents' permission, or bring him
martabak. Now, if you just pick me up,
my WhatsApp will be right in front of you.
In the past, I was knocking on the door, bellowing,
