0:11 All right, Sarah, let's get starting. I
0:13 assume you already know why you're here,
0:15 so let's not waste time on pleasantries.
0:18 What do you want to focus on today?
0:20 Uh, actually, I was promoted to a
0:23 managerial position. I came here because
0:25 I wanted to work on my leadership skills
0:28 in order to build relationships with my
0:32 team uh and to work on the communication
0:35 skills also the the way I can delegate
0:38 people. Okay, that's pretty generic.
0:40 Everyone wants to improve those things.
0:42 Let's get specific. You need to learn to
0:44 manage better. What do you think you're
0:47 doing wrong right now? Well, uh I think
0:50 I'm not always connecting with the team.
0:52 Maybe if you help me. Maybe if you you
0:56 help me to lead them in a better way.
0:58 Yeah, that's what they all say. It's
1:00 your job to figure it out. We don't have
1:03 time to go over basic things. You just
1:05 need to work harder. How do you think
1:07 you're going to manage your time better?
1:11 I I'm not sure yet. That's why I'm here.
1:13 I'm trying to figure out how to delegate
1:16 more and to manage my workload better.
1:18 Well, delegation is simple. All you need
1:20 to do is give people more work. You're
1:22 the manager now, so stop doing
1:24 everything yourself. That's the answer.
1:26 I get this. Actually, I always try to do
1:29 what you're saying, but I tend to do
1:31 everything on my own. I don't trust the
1:33 team that they're going to do it in the
1:35 same way that I would. That's not my
1:37 problem. You just need to let go. Trust
1:39 isn't something I can teach you. It's
1:41 something you have to figure out on your own.
1:42 own.
1:45 I get that. I just want to be a good
1:48 leader. I want my team to feel supported
1:52 and uh to feel better in my leadership.
1:54 Support them by telling them what to do.
1:56 You're their boss, not their friend.
1:58 Leadership is about results, not
2:00 emotions. You have to stop being so
2:02 concerned about being liked and start
2:04 making tough
2:06 decisions. Okay, here's what we're going
2:08 to do. I'm going to give you a list of
2:10 tasks to complete and you'll report back
2:12 to me next time. You need to stop
2:15 worrying about relationships and start
2:17 focusing on being more
2:19 authoritative. I'm not here to make you
2:20 feel good about yourself. I'm here to
2:24 make you a better leader. I'm not sure
2:27 that approach is what I need right now.
2:29 I understand your point. I understand
2:31 that authoritative is really important,
2:34 but in my point of view, leadership is
2:37 beyond being just tough. Leadership is
2:40 about results, not emotions. You're not
2:41 here for therapy. You're here for
2:44 advice. I don't have time for your
2:46 feelings. Do you want to succeed or not?
2:49 Of course, I want to succeed. Listen, if
2:50 you don't want to hear it, don't ask for
2:53 help. It's simple. Just follow the
2:55 instructions. Stop secondguessing
2:57 yourself. Every time I've worked with
2:59 people like you, all they want to talk
3:01 about is emotions instead of getting
3:04 things done. I'm not here for that. I I
3:06 actually didn't expect that the session
3:09 will be about just giving me tasks. I
3:13 was hoping to find guidance in terms of
3:16 leadership, in terms of uh managing my
3:19 team and my skills in a better way, not
3:22 just about do that or this. Well, you're
3:24 not going to get everything handed to
3:27 you. If you want a real leadership role,
3:28 you need to learn to work under
3:31 pressure. You have to toughen up and
3:33 stop focusing on relationships. That's
3:35 something you have to figure out on your
3:38 own. All right, that's enough for today.
3:40 Take the list I'm giving you and get to
3:42 work. Next time, I expect to hear that
3:44 you've stopped wasting time and are
3:48 getting things done. No more excuses.
3:50 Okay. But I still can't feel that I've
3:53 received the support I needed. I was
3:55 hoping to have an open conversation
3:57 about my leadership style and how I can
4:01 improve it. Open conversations. That's
4:04 for therapy, not coaching. Just follow
4:05 the instructions and we'll talk about
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