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what if in this lifetime you can achieve
everything that you ever wanted but you
didn't even reach for it because you
didn't even try my video has found you
just in time for you to start because
what you are is what you do I want you
to level up so high that you have to
reintroduce yourself but I also need to
warn you once you become this new ideal
version of yourself you can't slip up
you cannot afford to go back to your old
self so let's stop wasting time I'm
going to get straight into it you're
going to want to work in silence so that
your success is the Noise by the time
you're done implementing all the
concepts in this video you're going to
shock everything one you're even going
to shock yourself but don't be too
surprised when that happens because you
deserve it basically what's going to
happen is you're going to stay very
low-key for a bit you're going to set
some time aside during this 90 days to
work on yourself and I mean really work
on yourself which inevitably you're
going to improve and then you're going
to come back and become unrecognizable
but in the meantime as you grow in
silence let people talk let them wonder
about what you're up to because they
have no idea what your plans are and
honestly that's for the best you don't
need anyone else's opinion about this or
have anyone doubt you or question you in
sunzu The Art of War this is exactly how
you sneak up on the enemy to win the war
because you're not giving them
intelligence keep that to yourself I
don't know your life but let's just
pretend that the enemy refers to
everyone that gets in your way of your
own self-improvement Journey don't tell
anyone your plans and stay lowkey about
it so you can come booming down like a
lightning strike and come up on top and
win I'm going to teach you the exact
90-day plan that I follow to crawl all
of my rock bottom and find success in
the best version of myself so last year
I went from an absolute mess in my rock
bottom to becoming a very disciplined
and productive person in only a few
months but I was in the dumps I was
going to bed at 8:00 a.m. waking up at
400 p.m. I was binge watching Tik Tok
eating junk food and basically I was
wasting my time and my life away it
wasn't a sustainable way for me to live
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one of the first things that I started
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if anybody around you has called you a
weirdo or Spazzy or obnoxious or
anything similar to that those people
definitely don't matter they definitely
don't deserve your energy and they're
going to keep putting you down
regardless of anything that you do about
it I promise and by the way if those are
the same words that you use to describe
yourself try to speak more kindly
towards yourself which I'm going to
explain why in a bit and maybe put a
positive spin on it like for example I
may be loud but I'm also easy to talk to
and people find me comforting or I may
be high energy but I'm the life of the
party or even I may be shy but I'm very
observant and I'm very self-aware I
think that when you finally find a
confidence out of your own Rebrand and
being more comfortable with yourself and
also generally becoming a more positive
and less serious person that's what
really helped me level up if you are
comfortable with who you are people will
definitely know this and appreciate that
Rebrand okay let's start with my biggest
and most important chapter and this is
the key to become so secure in life and
everything that you do you don't even
need to Rebrand so much as expanding
your current brand it depends on who you
want to become so you own the things you
cannot change but always look to improve
it's like how Apple sold computers and
then they added smartphones and then
tablets and watches and AI or whatever
they don't need to change who they are
completely just to sell new products
they're still Apple they use their same
brand and design identity but then they
also expand on it they're creating their
own universe so create a universe of you
become your ideal version of yourself
and think deeply about what that looks
like and then visualize it to your best
ability because your entire reality
hinges on this so ignore your current 3D
World for a second because this is the
ideal world that you're going to be
creating for yourself your
interpretation of life is a projection
of your self concept so make it a really
good one and then forget about taking
action for now we're going to save that
for later focus on changing your beliefs
first from the deepest parts of yourself
people who are so concerned with taking
action non-stop they don't realize that
your belief system is way bigger than
taking action because it's how you see
your entire life so once your beliefs
change you're not going to feel like
there's anything else to do because you
see everything based off of the
self-concept that you've created the
keyword here is to be it will always go
back to who you are being because at the
end of the day every single thing is
just the story that you've decided to
live and you are the source for that you
are the author of your own biography so
take this really seriously this is your
life to be or not to be this will make
it easier to dismiss any kind of lies
that people say about you or gossip when
you understand that you're the only
source and it's about forming your
identity only you have the truth about
yourself you and your reality are just
the result of what you have accepted as
the truth so once you set your beliefs
into stone everything else is going to
follow you don't wait for reality to
happen reality is waiting for you to
take the lead so understand that your
whole life is a projection of your
self-concept it's the foundational
beliefs that you interact with on a
daily basis meaning the way that you see
the world and that becomes your entire
life when an aspect of your self-concept
changes your reality shifts and it
shifts immediately because your views
about everything is going to change for
example an insecure person interprets
everything in an insecure way and that
identity creates even more insecurity
and since this is how they view
themselves the assumptions and thoughts
that go along with it is going to also
naturally happen and because they are
insecure they will say things that an
insecure person will say and they will
do things and an insecure person does
like for example I don't believe that
person deserves success I don't think I
deserve to have that kind of
relationship they will constantly
undermine themselves and also other
people around them and that's just the
end result of being an insecure person
if they change that part of themselves
and stop getting in their own way
constantly then they are going to stop
focusing on whether or not other people
deserve success or whether they think
that they deserve the best relationship
and those are just examples but you see
this everywhere with people that you
know change your self concept and your
views on everything will automatically
shift you're not gaining anything from
your own current physical reality you're
creating it constantly in real time by
your feelings by every single thing that
you think and what you believe and how
you feel about yourself but I have to
tell you something you can feel what you
feel but you don't have to accept it as
the truth shocking right I don't listen
to my feelings anymore I empathize with
it I understand it and I understand why
I feel the way that I feel but I don't
let it lead me and if I know that my
reality is what I've accepted as the
truth then I should only be focusing on
what I want to achieve and accept that
as the truth so tell me why do you keep
focusing on the things that you don't
want the only reason why it's still
there or whatever whether it's your
insecurity or your people pleasing
Behavior or the people around you is
because you keep validating it with your
thoughts and your awareness of the
situation this applies to every single
thing like for example in my video about
finding Financial Independence I notice
this one thing that keeps coming up with
a lot of people in the comments is that
they keep validating that lack mindset
for money saying things like I have to
work three jobs in order to secure food
for my family I cannot save money if I
don't make enough or you're wrong that
money is unlimited it's actually very
limited and rich people take everything
away from me like are you reading back
your own comments sometimes I just I
don't even want to waste energy my
energy continuing to explain something
that you're not going to want to undo in
your head because unfortunately that's a
youu issue I'm just being honest if
you're not hearing what I'm saying why
are you even wasting time watching my
videos like I'm here to hopefully help
you realize things about yourself so
that's why I'm like this it's also crazy
to me how some of the most beautiful
people in the world have the most awful
self-concepts I don't mean just
physically I mean like the kindest
sweetest people in the world please just
like no more of this bad self-concept it
must be abolished right now like there's
no way that you're so cool and
interesting and pretty and funny and
creative and there's no one else like
you and yet you get so sad when someone
doesn't text you back and you think that
it's not a privilege to date you or to
be friends with you and you think that
if someone doesn't text you back within
a day that they don't like you I'm kind
of going into specific things here but
you need to realize this thing about the
physical world your physical reality is
created by both your past decisions as
well as your past circumstances things
that happened to you things that you
decided to do but everything in it is
actually neutral it can't tell you
anything it can't validate you you can
create thoughts right now about it it
makes you think that it's telling you
something is giving or it's taking away
value from you but you are the only
person attaching a story to everything
your perception of the physical reality
is what gives it life it's 100%
dependent on you things show up the way
they do because of what you accepted as
the truth and when it comes to things
like manifestation that is all
imagination when you embody the state of
your wish already fulfilled you
instantly manifested your desire in your
imagination already and that's what
makes it real that's why there's no need
to convince yourself that you have it in
the physical reality when focusing on
your imagination is what it's going to
take you to your goals if you have it in
your imagination the physical world will
bend to you it will reflect everything
back to you and the irony is that the 3D
realm your physical reality is going to
start giving you everything that you
want instantly the second that you stop
focusing on your current reality and
that includes all of your negative selft
talk like I don't deserve this I'm not
good enough for this I'm not whatever
enough yes you are so before we even
talk about this discipline don't ever be
afraid to start anything there's no
reason to be afraid because nobody will
ever say all the right things to the
right people everyone has said something
very embarrassing and it's better to say
something than nothing at all everyone
has made mistakes and that shouldn't
scare you into becoming a Hermit and not
do anything with your life take
calculated chances meaning that with
anything that you do make sure that all
the upsides are better than the
downsides and move on if you need to you
will know in your heart if you will
regret it if you didn't take that chance
on your yourself life is too short you
guys there is really no reason to hold
back on anything and don't ever take
yourself too seriously be a bit
unserious the specific person that
you're so into for example is probably
just afraid of coming off awkward and as
nervous as you are and so much easier
set than done but just by putting
yourself out there and taking the first
step to do anything at all you're doing
way better than the other 90% of people
who are just too afraid to even try but
guys let's face it once you start you
need to have discipline and discipline
is all about the habit for performing
game that's really what it is discipline
is what's going to carry you through
even when you don't feel like it you are
the gamer and every time you choose
discipline you win that day and day by
day you build it up incrementally but
you can't have it if you don't mentally
and internally shift sometimes you just
have to stop feeling sorry for yourself
like whatever it is that you're lacking
everyone lacks something but so what
stop the victim mentality and actually
change in the inside so that you can
move on and focus on the discipline
aspect of it so after I read these two
books and they're called Atomic habits
and the slight Edge I was totally sold
on the idea of incremental progress It's
the only thing that has ever worked for
me and it makes sense forget about all
these magical Quantum leaps that solve
everything overnight the only overnight
solution is your self assumption your
self-concept that's the true Quantum
Leap everything else is just straight BS
if you're waiting for motivation to get
you started stop it it's too fickle
motivation can be good if it's there
already but it shouldn't be the entire
foundation of the habits that you're
creating because motivation doesn't last
and it definitely won't be there for you
every single day and when it's gone you
also lose all the habits that you buil
on top of it so build habits based on
discipline and willpower the key
distinction isn't telling yourself I'm
going to exercise for 30 minutes every
day because I want to be healthy but
rather it's saying I'm going to
discipline myself to work out every day
because that is simply who I am and
that's my purpose and because I have
purpose I also have enough willpower to
always be doing that whatever your goals
are make it so that the only way you
can't lose is if you don't do it even if
it's just doing one pushup a day make
your goals so achievable and so easy
that there's no way you can fail as long
as you try and you see progress some
might even say well doing one pushup
won't make a difference I mean maybe if
you only do it one time but the reality
is that you probably go beyond doing one
push-up so there's this one trick I
learned from Atomic habits is where if
you just put on sneakers to go to the
gym you will already have won half the
battle that alone will make you want to
be at the gym once you have the
willpower to get down the push-up stance
and complete one you will often find
yourself thinking well I can do another
one and I can do another one so you'll
probably exit your target which not only
will boost your confidence to do even
more but it will also give you a sense
of accomplishment if you remember
anything at all just remember the one
thing that I'm saying in this video You
Can't Fail unless you don't do it
there's no reason to be afraid of
failure like the most successful people
that we all know has failed harder than
anyone and guys I'll let you in on a
huge secret I'm a loser I lose a lot but
what matters is and the only thing that
matters is I win a lot more than I lose
and of course in this journey of
rebranding I'm also naturally very
interested as to how our brains can
affect our self-improvement most people
think that dopamine is the pleasure
chemical but it's really more about
wanting or the way that your body
creates that motivation and that all
becomes desire and it's well and good
but what if you can actually use that
dopamine to your advantage and the
achieve whatever your goals are it's
really simple imagine you have an animal
brain because you do make the things
that you want to do less of more
unappealing to you so you can get less
dopamine from it in fact try and find
ways to make yourself dislike doing
those things and then the things that
you want to do more of make yourself
love those things so that you can do
more of what you love and less of what
you hate the whole theory is easy but
there are a lot of things that we're
always doing some consciously that's
kind of getting us hooked on things like
social media being chronically online
things like that sustained exposure to
elevated dopamine levels is what happens
when you play a video game for 12 hours
which will lead you to fewer dopamine
receptors and those fewer receptors will
result in less motivation for you worse
concentration levels and decrease mental
sharpness and wittiness and quickness of
thought you literally become nummer
dumber and slower I remembered when I
was so addicted to video games I would
lock myself in my room for a week and 12
hours a day was like the minimum I was
also full falling behind on school I was
feeling hopeless and depressed all the
time and I was also so tired and so
drained all the time and it's like I
wonder why given that there's so many
activities and substances around us that
spike out dopamine levels to like
unnatural levels we need to become so
much more mindful of the things that
we're consuming and also our consumption
patterns the things that we eat the
things that we drink what we do about
time corporations and industries entire
Industries exploit this all the time to
keep you hooked on their products to
have you ivd in and become addicted like
I always say think about this monkey for
example this is the perfect illustration
of what I'm talking about rate his setup
go ahead because it's all about setups
we need to break out of this matrix it's
hard because our constant flow of
dopamine keeps us so comfortable and we
love Comforts right that's not the point
of this video if you want to Rebrand and
transform in 90 days and you have
something ruling over your life that's
slowing you down identify what that is
and then break his grip on you if you're
like oh no how do I do that change your
self-concept go back to the first
chapter of this video and then use your
discipline that's how you're going to
Rebrand limit the daily activities that
constantly flood your system with
dopamine but don't actually add more
value to your life in any kind of
meaningful way keeping yourself from
being bored and then doing nothing is
not really the kind of value ad that you
think it is for example I used to love
looking at Instagram memes all the time
my friends would like send me stuff and
I'll would be like looking at memes all
day like haha it's this you like really
what's the the point of that is that
really adding more value to my life
aside from like a quick haha you know
now I actually unfollowed most if not
all of those accounts because why do I
even care what is it adding to my life
is it worth it usually not tell those
friends sorry I got to focus if they
really care about you they're going to
be like oh okay you do you you know I
support that by doing baby steps like
this you're going to eventually get back
to a more natural balance of dopamine
receptors and making easier to focus on
other tasks like reading or learning to
play an instrument the things that
actually matter to you what if we
replace our dopamine addictions with
flow so flow is itself a form of
meditation where you're doing something
and you're so engrossed in it that you
spend hours passionately just working on
it and this could be a painting could
even be homework but you don't even want
to stop until you're done the concept of
flow is actually lifechanging when
you're in Flow State you're completely
so absorbed in whatever you're doing and
there's a book called flow the
psychology of optimal experience that
really drives home the importance of
having specific challenges for ourselves
that actually match our skill sets it
also helped me differentiate between
things like what's giving me pleasure
and what's actually giving me enjoyment
pleasure is very easy come easy go but
superficial and doesn't give us real
value hours of Doom scrolling for
example enjoyment on the other hand it
helps you grow it gives you Joy it gives
you purpose so these days I fill my days
with activities like reading and making
YouTube videos and working out and all
that can become my flow experience and
each day I do extremely basic bullet
journaling where I write down my goals
for the day and how I'm feeling so
bullet journaling is basically just like
writing down bullet points of how my day
went super simple but the magic happens
when I list all the positives and all
the negative activities that I've done
if I give it a basic color code like red
and green for example it lets me see at
a glance how my day went where I did
good where I slipped up what can I do
better there are a ton of journaling
apps out there that are free by the way
and the minute of journaling a day will
help you identify whether you're
trending towards progress or not so if
you're stuck in the Rut know that change
as possible you just need to become
aware of what you're doing and it
doesn't even need to be overwhelming and
you can make it as simple as you want
you can even use a Notes app you can use
a physical Journal if you work on small
steps consistently it can take you very
far eventually but if you have no
willpower or even the slight motivation
to get even started and get going you
literally cannot have discipline when
people say have discipline it means to
like have the mindset that even when
things are uncomfortable or they suck
just continuing to go through the
motions and do the action anyway and
stick to the plan the issue with this is
that usually it requires a bit of
incentive to keep going that's kind of
one downside of it and hopefully you can
relate to this like I remember when I
used to have chronic depression and I
went from someone who was extremely
disciplined like I would be somebody who
would R miss a workout into becoming a
person that literally would have zero
motivation or absolutely no willpower to
even get out of bed in the morning and I
had zero incentive or motivation or
ability to move forward despite how many
be more disciplined quotes or running
through my head and this is why this
advice doesn't work universally and you
really need to find out what works for
you or why a certain thing doesn't work
for you find out why that is because for
a person who is severely and chronically
depressed just saying become more
disciplined might not always work for
you there's always underlying
neurobiochemical and structural changes
that will happen to your brain
especially when you're under depression
and the severity of it can vary very
drastically depending on your own
individual biology and all of that which
can in some instances quite literally
prevent you from having any ability to
be disciplined so this advice is nice
and will likely work for a lot of people
but generally I realize that something
like this will not work for everyone and
the fact that reality is very nuance and
things are generally a bit more
complicated than just catchy onliners
and self-help advice and yeah I also
think that a lot of people who have
never been depressed before have no idea
what it's like to have zero motivation
or zero you know ability to become
disciplined and in those cases it's so
individualized that quite honestly the
best thing you can do is to just get
professional medical and mental health
help I know it sounds cliche but it's
cliche for a reason that's what they're
there for the strategies the medication
therapies and all the medical
interventions they're required to tackle
each person's situation at that level
are so nuanced and so individualized
that a lot of generalized advice may not
be helpful or accurate or applicable or
even detailed enough to address them
there is a thing from Atomic habits what
they say to show up on the bad days
let's just say that you have an
existential crisis for example or
depression and all you want to do is as
sleep and do nothing do you think that
people can go on with willpower in that
case I disagree personally discipline is
what I really have to rely on when my
motivation is flagging and any type of
sudden changes won't last forever it
really needs to be built on momentum and
purpose and the secret to getting that
momentum is to have patience and to be
kinder to yourself always remember you
are a human being you're not a machine
every day will look different for you
and your best is going to look different
every day some days if I go for a walk
around the block and I say to myself
that's the best I can do for now that's
the best I can do no state is ever
permanent including all the bad States
including the depression and all that
but the real way to work towards your
goals and do that rebranding is by
forming habits through discipline it can
be hard I know but it's very worth it
it's worth everything because the
difference is motivation says I'm really
feeling this right now so I'm going to
do it and I feel inspired to go after it
but discipline says I'm not feeling this
right now but I still want whatever this
is I'm going to keep pursuing it and I'm
going to do it anyways despite how I
feel with discipline you ignore your
feelings about anything and you ignore
how you feel and whether you can get up
in the morning yeah I mean becoming
disciplined requires a total shift in
mindset before anything else personally
for me learning psychology and
philosophy help me understand why I need
to be disciplined and get all of my is
together you need to break the cycle
especially if you're going through
depression or trauma you need to break
that cycle and the first step is
realizing and doing the inner work and
if you can't do it at least try to fake
it till you make it at least try it's a
new study that actually shows that
babies learn to imitate others because
they themselves are imitated the more a
mother is sensitive and empathetic to
the baby and imitates and mirrors her
six-month-old child for example the
greater that child's ability at age 18
months to be able to learn to imitate
others so imitation is the start of the
cultural process towards becoming more
human isn't that so interesting I
mentioned the this in a lot of my videos
but always seek to have role models in
your life even if they're not literally
in your life and learn to imitate any
aspect of what you like about them so
that you can give yourself the first
push to expand on yourself and
eventually reach that rebranding moment
that you're aiming for so guys I'm
hoping that a combination of all of
these tips and all of these knowledge
I'm passing on to you can help you in
your rebranding Journey because really
at the end of the day it is all about
what you want and getting the motivation
and the focus and the discipline to
starts as well as the knowledge of what
all of these things mean and what the
difference is between all of these words
right anyways I wish you guys all the
best and restarting your journey of
building a new self-concept for yourself
and as and as always I appreciate you
all and I'll see you in the next video [Music]
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