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have you ever felt like you were giving
it your all yet it still wasn't enough
you do everything to please others only
to be judged anyway you cling to things
that no longer belong to you only to be
met with disappointment you dwell on
meaningless words worry about a future
that hasn't arrived and torment yourself
over a past you cannot
change and as the days pass you feel
exhausted without knowing why maybe the
problem isn't that you haven't done
enough it's that you're holding on to
too much that isn't worth it stoicism a
philosophy shaped by those who have
endured War loss and suffering teaches
us a simple yet powerful truth the
moment you stop trying to control what's
beyond your control is the moment you
truly take charge of your life in this
video you'll discover nine ways to stop
wasting energy on things that don't
matter to refocus on yourself and to
find the freedom you
deserve if you're ready to step out of
the cycle of pressure and
expectations keep
watching number one the truth about
letting go what it really
means have you ever seen someone
struggle to pull a door that clearly
says push
they use all their strength face turning
red body tensed as if wrestling with it
but the door doesn't budge they don't
stop to read the sign don't realize
they're going against the way the door
was designed to work they don't need
more Force they just need a different
approach that's the essence of letting
go it's not about giving up not about
weakness but about knowing when to stop
pulling on a door that only needs a
gentle push we live in a society that glorifies
glorifies
control everything must go according to
plan every goal must be achieved and if
something doesn't turn out the way we
want we think we've failed but in
reality the only thing we truly control
is not the outcome but how we respond to
it a person stuck in traffic has two choices
choices
they can get angry slam their hands on
the wheel or accept that the situation
is beyond their control turn on some
music and enjoy the moment two people in
the same situation one is miserable the
other is at
peace the difference isn't the situation
it's how they choose to see it epicus
once said it's not what happens to you
but how you react to it that matters
but this isn't just a nice quote to nod
along to it's a way of life that frees
us from unnecessary negative
emotions someone who loses a job can see
it as the end or as an opportunity for
something better someone betrayed can
drown in resentment or learn to move on
with greater
wisdom when you understand that you
can't control other people can't force
someone to love you can't make the rain
stop just because you want it to you
stop pulling on a door that only needed
a push but Letting Go doesn't mean
becoming indifferent or careless a
gardener can't control the weather but
that doesn't mean he stops tending to his
his
garden you can't change the past but you
can learn from it you can't force others
to act the way you want but you can
choose how you respond to them letting
go is about having the clarity to
distinguish between what is within your
control and what is not once I saw a
couple arguing at a cafe the man kept
trying to explain justify prove he was
right but the woman just shook her head
face emotionless clearly past the point of
of
caring maybe he was right maybe he was
wrong but the truth was no matter what
he said the outcome wouldn't
change it was like arguing with the
ocean you can scream all you want but
the waves will keep crashing against the
shore as they always have what he really
needed wasn't the perfect argument but
the wisdom to recognize when a
conversation had lost its value
interestingly the Bible carries a
similar message can any one of you by
worrying add a single hour to your life
overthinking excessive worrying clinging
to what cannot be changed none of it
adds value to your life it only drains
your time and energy The Only Thing
Worth focusing on is yourself your
thoughts your actions and how you choose
to spend your
time so what will you choose will you
continue letting external circumstances
dictate your emotions or will you learn
to control your response will you keep
holding on on to what hurts you or will
you loosen your grip and find Freedom if
you truly want to let go start by
recognizing what is worth letting go of
and that is the lesson
ahead number two how to know what to let
go of and why it
matters have you ever noticed that the
things you cling to the tightest are
often the ones that hurt you the most
someone who betrayed you a mistake stake
from the past a job you hate but refuse
to leave a relationship that drains you
yet you're too afraid to walk
away it's strange how we fear losing
what's already causing us pain but if
someone is drowning what's the first
thing they need to do let go of the rock
they're desperately holding on to some
things need to be released so you can be
free not because they don't matter but
because they are holding you back the
first thing to recognize is negative
emotions but don't
misunderstand Letting Go doesn't mean
denial emotions are like food you have
to digest them not suppress or starve
them anger anxiety disappointment they
all exist for a
reason the real issue is how long you
let them stay have you ever had an
argument with someone and then spent the
entire day replaying their words in your
head when you do that you're no longer
in control of your thoughts they are
remember no one can make you suffer
unless you allow them into your
mind emotions are
visitors don't let them become your
Masters but emotions are just one part
of it what binds us even more are
unrealistic expectations from others and from
from
ourselves you expect your colleagues to
appreciate your effort your parents to
understand your
dreams Society to recognize your worth
but why do you believe the world owes
you that a wave doesn't care who stands
on the shore it just keeps
moving the moment you expect something
from someone else you're handing them
control over your happiness instead
instead of expecting things from people
expect things from yourself how you
choose to
respond a master at their craft doesn't
work for praise they work because
Excellence is part of who they are like
a Japanese Artisan who carves every
detail to perfection even if no one sees
it because for them quality isn't a
performance it's a
principle but there's something even
more dangerous than
expectations the need for
validation it's an invisible chain yet
the tightest one of all have you ever
posted something online then kept
checking back for likes or felt your
confidence slip just because someone
gave you a judging
glance if so you're living in a prison
of your own making n once said and those
who were seen dancing were thought to be
insane by those who could not hear the
music others don't have to understand
your Rhythm the question is do you dare
to dance to your own tune and what about toxic
toxic
relationships these are the hardest to
let go of because they involve people
some relationships make you better While
others slowly pull you down without you
even realizing it like a flower in a
glass of murky water you think you're
surviving but in reality you're just
withering if someone constantly makes
you feel defensive forces you to prove
yourself or makes you change who you are
just to be accepted they don't love you
they control you ask yourself if you
walked away would you feel lighter so
how do you recognize what needs to go
the signs are simple any anything that
drains you mentally what keeps you up at
night what irritates you for no clear
reason what makes you feel like you're
never enough if something keeps
repeating itself in your life maybe it's
time to ask is it really worth it a
samurai doesn't keep a broken sword
because it no longer serves him in
battle neither should you don't hold on
to what makes you weaker Letting Go
isn't easy
it requires accepting that some things
are beyond your control some people will
never understand you and some dreams
were never meant to be
yours but that's a good thing because
when you stop trying to control
everything that's when you finally gain
control over
yourself so what's still holding you
back and do you dare to let go if this
resonated with you share it sometimes
simply acknowledging something is the
first step to releasing it and if you
want to learn how to do it in a
practical way don't miss what comes
next number three free yourself from the
past and future live fully
now there's a room in your mind
cluttered with old things conversations
you wish had gone differently mistakes
that still make you cringe worries about
a future that hasn't taken shape every
day you walk into that room sifting
through the past flipping through pages
of fear like an old tattered book you
don't realize that by doing so you're
leaving no space for anything new you
exist but only as a keeper of memories and
and
anxieties if someone asked are you truly
living what would you say or are you
simply reliving yesterday in your
mind we all know we should live in the
present yet few grasp the danger of not
doing so imagine a driver who keeps
looking back in the rear view mirror or
fixates on a map of the Final
Destination but forgets to watch the
road ahead sooner or later they will
crash that is precisely how we hurt
ourselves when we remain trapped in the
past or Paralyzed by the fear of the
future epicus once said there is only
one way to happiness and that is to
cease worrying about things which are
beyond the power of our
will if something cannot be changed why
dwell on it if something hasn't happened
yet why suffer in advance happiness
doesn't belong to those with a perfect
past or a predictable future is belongs
to those who understand that the only
place it truly exists is here and now
try something simple the next time you
wash the dishes just wash the dishes
don't think about tomorrow's meeting
don't replay someone's harsh words from
this morning feel the water running over
your hands listen to the soft clinking
of the
plates if you can't be fully present in
a moment as small as this how can you
ever be fully present in your life
here's a harsh truth many people don't
actually live until the very end they
stop living long before that burdened by
the weight of yesterday and the
uncertainty of
tomorrow they don't realize it until
it's too late the Bible says do not
worry about tomorrow for tomorrow will
worry about itself each day has enough
trouble of its own life is hard hard
enough as it is why make it harder if a
storm is coming tomorrow prepare for it
but if you live today as if the storm
has already arrived you're robbing
yourself of the peace that still
exists but here's the Paradox the moment
you truly let go something incredible
happens not only do you feel lighter but
you also become
stronger because when the past and the
future no longer have a hold on you you
are no longer a puppet to your
emotions and that is the key to the next
step mastering your mind so your
emotions don't Master
you number four master your mind stop
letting emotions control
you have you ever noticed that when a
child screams for candy in a supermarket
a calm mother remains unfazed while an
imp patient mother loses her temper the
child is the same but the mother's
reaction determines how the situation
unfolds are you living like the first
mother or the
second when someone criticizes you when
plans go arai when someone behaves
irrationally do you stay composed or do
you let your emotions take
control the world is full of things
beyond your control the weather
what others think of you how they treat
you but you always have control over how
you respond imagine you're walking down
the street and an angry driver honks
aggressively and hurls insults at you
what can you do retaliate stay angry all
day or Simply Smile and move
on the funny thing is if you don't react
his anger becomes meaningless like like
a stone thrown into a lake without
making a ripple but how do you actually
control your reactions think of your
mind as a cafe you are the owner
emotions are customers anger jealousy
frustration they walk in but you decide
who gets served and who has to leave if
a rude customer barges in and bangs on
the counter do you have to serve him or
can you Simply Smile and say sorry this
place isn't for you and let him walk out
in practice whenever a negative emotion
arises don't react right away pause
observe it as if you were an outsider
looking in if someone insults you
instead of instantly feeling hurt ask
yourself does what they say truly Define
who I am if not why should it affect me
when you see emotions as strangers
rather than as part of yourself they
begin to lose their power over you but
here's the surprising part controlling
emotions doesn't mean suppressing them
or becoming numb stoics are not machines
they feel everything fully but they
choose not to let emotions dictate their
actions they get angry but don't let
anger control them they feel sadness but
don't let it Define their lives they
understand that emotions are just
visitors not the masters of their house
the Bible says do not be quickly
provoked in your spirit for anger
resides in the lap of fools fools are
led by their emotions while the wise
learn to step back from them who do you
want to be someone who merely reacts
acts to life or someone who Masters
themselves try just for one day to
observe your emotions instead of letting
them control you if someone makes you
angry pause and ask does this person
really have the power to control my mood
if the answer is no then let it go if
you find Value in what I share continue
this journey don't just listen apply it
and if you want to dive deeper into
stoicism I'll be here in the next
post number five mental Independence
live by your own
principles have you ever noticed that
the people who have the strongest
opinions about your life are often the
ones who know the least about you it
might be a relative who only sees you
once a year but ALS always has career
advice or an old high school friend no
longer relevant to your life yet still
feels entitled to judge you based on a
few social media
posts and sometimes the loudest voices
don't even come from the outside they
come from within they stem from the fear
of judgment from the habit of valuing
others approval over your own inner clarity
clarity
mental Independence doesn't mean
ignoring everyone or becoming
indifferent it means being selective
about the voices you listen to and more
importantly trusting your own as epicus
once said if you want to improve be
content to be thought foolish and
stupid if you truly want to become the
best version of yourself you have to
accept that there will be times when
people won't
understand you when they might even see
you as a fool but does their approval
really matter ask yourself this if
you're on the right path but others mock
you for it will you stay the course or
will you turn back just to please them
let's put this into perspective imagine
you decide to embrace minimalism buying
less focusing on experiences rather than
material things
but those around you start saying you're
stingy or that you don't know how to
enjoy life if you're not mentally strong
you might slip back into Old spending
habits just to fit their
expectations but if you truly believe in
the value of minimalism you'll keep
going regardless of the judgments
developing mental Independence isn't
about pretending you don't care about
anyone because that's just
self-deception it's about learning to
separate valuable advice from Mere noise
a practical way to do this is by asking
does this person truly understand my
situation do they have experience in
this area are their opinions based on
genuine concern or just personal
bias if the answer is no then their
words are nothing more than background noise
noise
like a car honking in the distance
noticeable for a moment but ultimately
meaningless the surprising thing is when
you have the courage to stay true to
yourself you're not actually
alone at first you might feel isolated
old relationships May drift apart and
some people may no longer relate to you
but over time you'll realize that your
commitment to your values creates a
powerful force of
attraction like-minded people those who
share your mindset and ideals will
naturally enter your life they won't
just respect your path they'll inspire
you to go even further as the Bible says
the fear of man brings a snare but
whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe
the fear of judgment is a trap that
keeps you from living your true life but
when you trust in Your Vision that's
when you find real
Freedom if you've made it this far
congratulations you're not just
consuming content you're sharpening your
thinking training your mind to be
stronger and more
independent keep going because every
part of this journey will help you peace
together a complete picture not just
something to reflect on but a strategy
you can apply to your own
life number six The Art of Letting Go
toxic people and
relationships have you ever noticed that
when a crab tries to climb out of a
bucket the others pull it back down not
out of malice but simply because it's
their Instinct in life there are people
just like those crabs people who keep
you trapped in cycles of negativity in
relationships that drain your
energy Letting Go doesn't mean hatred or
resentment it simply means recognizing
that someone no longer aligns with your
journey think of it like cleaning out
your closet there are outfits you once
loved but now they no longer fit have
worn out or just don't match your lifestyle
lifestyle
anymore keeping them only clutters your
space the same applies to people
toxic relationships don't always look
like betrayal or outright
mistreatment Sometimes they come in the
form of constant doubt of people who
make you feel small or those who pull
you into endless conversations filled
with complaints and
negativity have you ever talked to
someone and within 10 minutes felt
completely drained that's the clearest
sign senica once said associate with
people who are likely to improve you if
you surround yourself with people who
constantly complain you'll start seeing
the world through a distorted
lens if you spend time with the
unmotivated and complacent you'll
gradually be pulled down too but if
you're around those who inspire you
you'll find yourself energized to chase
what truly
matters the truth is
not everyone wants you to
grow some people are attached to an old
version of you the version that never
said no that avoided conflict that had
no boundaries when you start changing
they'll try to pull you back a friend
who leans on you emotionally May resent
that you no longer absorb all their
problems a coworker who's used to taking
advantage of your help might feel you've
changed ched when you start setting
boundaries but what's the reality you
haven't changed you're just living in
alignment with your values here's a
question to ask yourself if you met your
best friend today would you still choose
to befriend them if the answer is no it
may be time to
reconsider not every relationship is
meant to last forever some people are
only meant to walk with us for a certain
part of our journey
and that's completely okay Letting Go
isn't always easy but it's a crucial
skill for protecting your peace instead
of seeing it as losing someone think of
it as making room for something better
and the amazing thing is when you free
yourself from what no longer serves you
life becomes lighter and New
Opportunities start
appearing so ask yourself how much are
you holding on on to just because you're
afraid of change maybe it's time to give
yourself the space to breathe to grow to
truly live and if this message resonates
with you don't hesitate to share it with
someone who might also be stuck in toxic
relationships because sometimes a simple
wakeup call can change a
life number seven you are more than your
possessions break free from material
ISM people often believe that wealth is
a solid Shield protecting them from life's
life's
uncertainties but in reality it's more
like a gilded cage you buy an expensive
car but now you worry about parking it
anywhere you own a luxury watch but feel
uneasy walking through a crowded Street
you spend your life accumulating wealth
only to live in fear of losing it so the
real question is who owns whom do you
possess material things or do they
possess you I know a guy who has a
sneaker collection worth more than a small
small
apartment but strangely he rarely wears
them partly out of fear they'll get
damaged partly because he dreads someone
stepping on them to him each pair of
shoes is more than an object it's a
piece of his identity but if your
identity can be shattered by a single
stain on a shoe how solid is it really
Marcus Aus once said if you seek
Tranquility do less or more accurately
do what's essential but what is
essential the answer is simple the
things no one can take away Integrity patience
patience
courage a person stripped of all
possessions can still hold on to their
dignity someone demoted at work can
still keep their self-respect but a
wealthy person whose mind is enslaved by
money is in truth no more than a
prisoner of their own
fortune the issue isn't ownership it's
attachment have you ever seen someone
spend their whole life chasing wealth
only to realize too late that they've
sacrificed what truly mattered health
family peace of
mind if material things Define a
person's worth then why do the
wealthiest people still search for
something Beyond money the truth is
they're not looking for more they're
trying to fill a void that material
wealth can never reach a practical way
to apply this philosophy is to ask
yourself if I lost everything tomorrow
what would I still have if your answer
revolves only around external things
your job your assets your reputation
then maybe you've placed your selfworth
in things too fragile to last but if you
know you would still have resilience
Clarity adaptability and
self-respect then you are truly strong
this doesn't mean you must renounce
everything it means learning to own
without being
owned even the Bible reinforces this for
what will it profit a man if he gains
the whole world and forfeits his soul if
you sacrifice your peace your dignity
and your true self in pursuit of things
that won't last have you really gained
anything at all True Value doesn't come
from what you own but from how you exist
be like an ancient tree rooted deeply in
the earth standing firm rather than a
tight easily swept in whatever Direction
the wind
blows once you understand that nothing
external can shake your core values you
will feel free and when you are no
longer bound by material things you are
no longer controlled by the fear of
losing them and once you attain that
freedom a deeper lesson awaits we cannot
control everything and the only thing we
impermanence number eight detach from
outcomes Embrace life's
impermanence there's a truth most people
don't want to accept you cannot control
outcomes no matter how hard you try a
student might study day and night only
to fail because of an unexpected
question an entrepreneur might spend
years crafting a business plan only to
watch the Market collapse due to unforeseen
unforeseen
events you can do everything right and
still not get what you want it sounds
unfair but in reality this truth is the
key to freeing yourself from suffering
stoic philosophy doesn't teach us to
give up effort on the contrary it urges
us to pour our energy into what we can
control our actions our thoughts our responses
responses
but what makes stoicism so powerful is
this it doesn't measure success by
results but by how we face what happens
an athlete shouldn't Define themselves
by medals but by the discipline of their
training a writer's worth isn't in book
sales but in whether they've written
with all their heart when you live this
way you never feel like a failure you
stop being a prisoner of
outcomes the problem is
most people reject this truth they live
under the illusion that if they do
everything right they'll always get the
reward they deserve but the world
doesn't work that way life is like a
river you can choose how to swim which
direction to take but you can't control
the current trying to control outcomes
is like trying to hold water in your
hands the tighter you squeeze the faster
it slips away instead of fighting
against life's flow stoics learn to
adapt to accept and to focus on what
they can do best Marcus aelius once said
frightened of change but what can exist
without it what's closer to Nature's
heart can you take a hot bath and leave
the firewood as it was eat food without
transforming it can any vital process
take place without something being being
changed the world is in constant change
and the more you try to hold on the more
you suffer a lover clinging to a dead
relationship an investor refusing to let
go of a collapsing Market both refuse to accept
accept
impermanence yet ironically it is
impermanence that Gives Life Meaning a
flower is beautiful because it doesn't
Bloom forever a moment is precious
because it cannot last when you stop
resisting change you find true peace if
you want to start practicing stoicism
today try this simple shift when setting
goals don't just focus on outcomes focus on
on
actions if you want Career Success don't
just say I will earn x amount of money
instead set a goal like I will work hard
and improve prove my skills every day if
you want a fulfilling relationship don't
just wish for someone to love you
instead aim to love wholeheartedly and
treat them with kindness regardless of what
what
happens because in the end you cannot
control the world but you can always
control yourself and if you do that you
will never feel like a failure that is
the true power of letting go if this
perspective shifted the way you see life
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most number nine momento Mori how death
can inspire a better
life one one morning you wake up and
realize your phone battery is down to just
just
5% what's the first thing you do you
rush to find a charger close unnecessary
apps and lower the screen brightness to
make it last a little longer suddenly
you're mindful of every remaining
moment but here's the irony you never
treat your life the same way most people
live as if they have an endless supply
of tomorrows
they waste time on pointless arguments
postpone their dreams and wait for the
perfect moment that never
arrives but what If Today Was Your Last
if your life had only 5% battery left
suddenly all the trivial concerns would
fade you wouldn't care about what
someone said about you last week or that
small mistake you made
yesterday you would focus on what TR
matters spending time with the people
you love pursuing the things you've
always wanted and cherishing the little
moments you once took for granted
stoicism doesn't view death as a tragedy
but as a tool a reminder to live well
senica once wrote you are scared of
dying but tell me is the kind of life
you lead really any different from being
dead how many people are alive but not
truly living they wake up each day
repeating the same dull routine working
jobs they hate just because they have to
and letting life pass them by without
ever really feeling
anything they're not afraid of dying
they're afraid of facing the truth that
they've never actually lived look at
people diagnosed with terminal
illnesses when they realize their time
is running out something
changes they stop worrying about Petty
things they stop caring about what
others think instead they spend time
with family travel and finally do the
things they've always put off but the
real question is why do we wait until
death is near to start living this way
one of the most powerful stoic practices
is momento Mori remember that you will
die this doesn't mean living in fear but
rather using mortality as a wake-up call
you can apply this every morning by
asking yourself if today were my last
day what would I do
differently suddenly the little
frustrations don't seem so
important you become more present more
intentional More
Alive Now imagine yourself years from
now looking back at your life do you
want to see a long list of regrets
things you wished you had done
differently or do you want to know that
you lived fully loved deeply took risks
and were truly present in every
moment death isn't the real fear the
real fear is reaching the end and
realizing you never truly lived we've
explored nine different perspectives on
the power of letting go but in the end
they all lead to one thing freedom
when you stop clinging to what's beyond
your control others opinions unmet
expectations what's been lost you'll
feel lighter clearer and most
importantly more true to
yourself you are no longer a puppet
pulled by external forces but the master
of your own mind and life peace isn't
about complete Stillness it's about
standing firm amid life's turbulence
without losing yourself if this video
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