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you know I think most people think Jay
everyone else is going to die I'll get
around to being happy I'll get around to
my dreams and then it's another day and
another day and they keep it in the
distance you only understand the power
of one day when you're threatened with
never having another one the
best-selling author and host the number
one Health and Wellness podcast on
purpose with Jay Shetty
this quote by Thomas Edison said when
you feel you've exhausted all options
remember this you haven't I love that
that's the power of one more or one more
and so I have lived this book in my life
like I have lived this mindset and it
has changed my life because I've always
been just one step away one habit away
one mindset away from this amazing life
that I'm grateful and blessed to live
well that's the truth right you're right
and I think the great lie in life is
that you know some scriptures say well
where there's no vision that people will
perish whatever your scriptures are if
you really do you have no vision if you
ask the average person you want to be
happy or sad what's your vision they'd
say I want to be happy you want to be
rich or poor most people say I'd like to
be rich do you want to contribute or
make no difference in the world I want
to contribute do you want beautiful
memories or no memories I want memories
so there's a vision our issue is depth perception
perception
we think it's further away than it is
and because we think it's so far away
Jay we create patterns and behaviors in
our life that perpetually keep it there
oh and that's what we do in our life but
what if that's the great lie of life and
what if the truth is that you're one
relationship away one meeting away one
conversation one podcast one interview
one new thought one new emotion one new
tactic or strategy away from completely
changing the trajectory of your life and
everyone that you and I know that we
both worked with that were blessed to
work with in our lives the truth is it
was one decision one meeting one extra
rep one more phone call one thing they
did that changed their trajectory then
the question then becomes how do I do it
and so the strategies are in the book
but conceptually that's a hundred
percent how you change your life yeah
and you you're so right I I was thinking
about this this morning last year I had
a double hernia surgery on the front
like so I could then walk for about a
month and when I say I couldn't walk I
mean like I literally couldn't oh my
gosh it was like I was like I felt like
I was teaching myself to walk again like
that's how it felt it's really
interesting what you just said about how
we perpetually push it far away I would
wake up every morning and my mind or my
initial mindset was like it will be gone
today yeah it must have gone today like
today it will be fully healed I'll be
fine today and I would wake up and I
wouldn't be
and I would feel like healing was so far
away yes it would be like 80 away that I
was missing out on the one percent
change since yesterday you got it since
yesterday I made one percent change I
was I wasn't feeling the same pain in my
nerves I was able to be flexible by one
percent more yes and I was missing out
on all of that because I was so obsessed
with how far I was that's the journey
and what happens is when you live with
an expectation that these one More's
exist the reticular activating system in
your mind filters them into your
awareness I call it the Matrix in the
second chapter of the book when you wake
up believing hey I'm one decision away
I'm one meeting away one relationship
away that's not hokey your mind begins
to filter the people places and things
into your awareness you develop
something called sensory acuity you hear
conversations you weren't hearing we've
all had that experience where we're on
an airplane I can't stop hearing these
people over here or you walk in a loud
room but you can hear your own name
auditorily over all the other names the
room that's because it's important to
you and it matters you see things and so
when something becomes important to you
and you believe it to be true the RAS
goes to proving it for you and when I
learned this ironically I talk about in
the book is my father was an alcoholic
and had tried to get sober many many
times and I'll never forget it Jay we
were driving to a baseball game of mine
my dad started crying I'd never seen my
dad cry before
and he pulls the car over and he still
isn't looking at me but he's crying and
he says Eddie and then he turns to me
and he goes
I'm gonna try to get sober and I'll
never forget this brother he goes
one more time
wow and I said really Daddy he goes I'm
going to give it one more try and I said
to him I said why would this be any
different this time
and he said never said this to me before
he goes because I I love you
and you deserve it father you can be
proud of and you can't be proud of me
right now
and I think every great thing we do in
life is one away but it's also born from love
love
to talk about your book when you love
people or you love something so deeply
if that love is greater than what the
obstacles might be now you got a shot to
do it then my dad gets sober he comes
home from rehab I say Daddy are you
never gonna drink again
and he said I can't promise you that I
can promise you I'm not going to drink
for one more day at a time wow and he
lasted the rest of his life stacking
those one more days up so I know the
power of one more the other thing I also
know humans can change I watched my hero
do it I watched my dad live my first 15 years
years
so I'm in a lot of fights wow a lot of
lying a lot of difficult times and then
I saw this man transform and in life
we're most qualified to help the person
we used to be and what we think in life
and I hope everybody gets this we think
the things we're most ashamed of
embarrassed by our divorce our
bankruptcy or maybe we've just always
been average and ordinary this
disqualifies me from being successful
and happy what if that's not true what
if the hardest things of your life are
the very things that qualify you I'll
give you an example you know my dad got
sober somebody helped him
my dad was going to take his life or
lose his family and I didn't know who it
was until months ago some precious human
being whom I didn't know in my dad's
Darkest Hour of his life Jay said I'll
help you I'll help you little to that
person no I'd be his son and I'd help
millions of people and I'd be on Jay
Shetty show and we both help millions of
people and the more ironic thing that
this person helped my dad is what
qualified them to help my dad
they were a drunk they were an alcoholic
they at one time were a drug addict they
at one time were lying and stealing and
living in the shadows the very thing
that person probably figured that
disqualifies me from having a successful
life was the one thing that did qualify
them to help my dad so if you're
listening to this and you've had
something you're ashamed of or a failure
or a setback you're most qualified to
help the people you used to be yeah and
that person that alcoholism they
suffered with their drug addiction
helped my dad live those one more days
forever uh that that is the best
explanation I've heard of how pain turns
into purpose right the thing that
brought you down that broke you down
that made you feel like you were losing
everything that's right gave you back
everything when you used that to serve
the people that were struggling with it
and then there's then there's a purpose
and you know if you can survive the
temporary pain in your life and all pain
is temporary I watched my father pass
away last year he was in tremendous pain
even our bodies are determined only our
souls are permanent if you can survive
the temporary on the other side of
temporary pain you meet another version
of yourself another insight about
yourself and that's why it's so
important to grow as a person because
the more we grow and become a new person
we can help those that used to be like
us that's why you and I are so addicted
to growing and learning and we're
curious because if you used to be a
broken person and you no longer are
quite as broken you can help broken
people if you used to be broke
financially and you no longer are you
can help people whatever you do for a
living at one time you didn't know about
it and now you do you can help those who
need to know about it and so you're
immensely qualified if you understand
the power of doing one more oh I love it
I love it tell me about so let's say and
you've probably come up against this all
the time a lot of the people say okay
I'm gonna practice that I'm With You Ed
I love you and Jay I'm listening and I
go yes I'm going to practice the power
of one more
now what I find and this is why you're
so great at teaching this because you're
not teaching it as a gimmick a glitch
you're like a little a little
affirmation this is like real it makes
sense like it works
people get so tied to the result that
when they try it the next day and the
sales meeting doesn't go their way or
the pitch doesn't go their way they go
ah it doesn't work it doesn't work why
didn't it work and how should we respond
when we fail or get rejected well it
didn't work because you're so attached
to the outcome I coach a lot of athletes
I know you do as well and one of the
things that's a really nuanced thing in
life it's great to have goals you should
have goals I want to do this or that but
in the moment of execution you have to
separate from outcome in the moment that
you're executing and just be present and
exist I talk about this in the book
here's what I would say if you're going
to win long term
95 of people have a operating system in
their mind where they operate out of
history and memory
I like that and about five percent of
humans operate out of vision and
Imagination so the reason we're so much
happier I believe when we're children is
we have no history in memory so we
operate of imagination and dreams and
vision but at some age some people it's
five years old some it's eight some it's
18 some it's 28. they create a history
and that history then becomes the
operating system so even if they take on
a new Behavior or tactic they're
operating out of a pattern of thought
and belief that's historic and memory
based and so the number one thing I
would say is begin to operate out of
your imagination again out of your
vision again create from that place if
you create from that place now you're
not tied to the result in that moment
you're giving yourself space to imagine
and create something new in your life
that I never heard that in that language
man that is so powerful I you're so
right about his kids that we don't have
any memory or history so we don't have
any blocks we don't have any limits and
begin to listen to the people around you
people say hey you're the product of who
you're hanging around how do I know if
they serve me or not here's a way that
one way to just deduce this because they
could be beautiful people who care about
you and they might even support you but
when you're with them what are you ever
have those friends you're with them
you're like you remember when you
remember you remember you remember
remember that party remember that thing
and if your friends are constantly
bringing you to the filtration system of
memory and history all the time think
this through how often are those friends
saying hey what are you working on now
where are you going what's your vision
what do you want to create and maybe
that sounds hokey but you and I have
some of the some of our both our friends
have the most amazing histories and you
can't get them to talk about them no you
have to work because what are they still
doing yeah they're talking about now and
where they're going their Viewpoint in
their life is being present and having a
vision for the future yeah a formula for
misery a formula for lack of creativity
lack of productivity is constantly being
history and memory even if it's good it
doesn't serve us and for most of us it's
not good and we keep living from it or
trying to move away from it create a new
future don't move away from the past
create a brilliant imaginative curious
vibrant vision for your life oh I love
that yeah we're always trying to create
the same past yes as opposed to a new
future and I find that what's really
interesting about that oldest study
showed that Nostalgia makes us believe
that the past was more phenomenal than
it actually was if you remember that
party you went to a college it's better
in your memory than it actually was if
you actually could have gone back and
remembered how you felt hungover and
what you broke a bone or whatever
happened but now in your memory it's
beautiful beautiful right so our memory
also is slightly warped of the past no
question you can make things feel much
better or much worse sometimes no
question but what's what's really coming
out for me right now is this idea that
it's it's something you said a couple of
moments ago and and it sparked a thought
for me I remembered a story that Vanessa
Bryan told about Kobe Bryant after he
passed away
I was fortunate enough to interview him
around three months before it before his
tragic passing
and she told this story and she said
that Kobe would play through every
injury he would play through every pain
he had played through everything even in
the doctors and his coaches would say
stop playing
and she asked him she said once why he
still plays right again going back to
our curiosity not assuming you know your partner
partner
she asked him why do you still play and
this is just her and him there's no
cameras there's no she's telling this
story but at the time it was just them too
too
he said it's because there's someone
who's paid for a ticket today they saved
up and this is the only time they're
ever going to be able to come maybe a
son's maybe a dad's brought his kid
maybe someone's come to the game they're
a lifelong fan and they came today and
today is the only day they're gonna get
to see me and if I say I'm injured yes
they won't get to see me so I'm gonna
play so that that person one person gets
to see me play and then he goes and wins
yes and it's like that's love that's
right that's what you were saying that
love for something is in the present
moment also right love is not just for
the past and it's funny how important
one day has been when my dad got sick my
dad got cancer when he first got sick he
goes hey my dad was a dude he goes look
I'll fight this one time
okay I'll do your little chemo and your
surgery but I'm not gonna pour poison
into my body I'm not gonna lose my hair
I'm not going to deteriorate I'll give
this thing a shot once if it doesn't
work I'm out
that led to eight years of him fighting
it wow chemo radiation proton therapy
surgery surgery chemo experimental chemo
and he did lose his hair and he was in
pain and I'd say to my dad I say Dad
you're suffering so much you said you
wouldn't suffer he said no Eddie I'm in
pain but I'm not suffering
I I choose not to suffer and I'm not
suffering because I get to see my
grandkids again and I said and I just
said dad why are you doing this and he
said you only understand the power
of one day when you're threatened with
never having another one
I'll do anything for one more day get to
be with you one more time
give your mom a kiss one more time maybe
I'll see one of my granddaughters get married
married
and he goes I'll do anything for one
more day the beautiful thing is I was
actually with Kobe a week before he
passed away
we're in the same gym our daughters
played volleyball
and I ironically that day I watched Kobe
walk out of the gym there's only a
couple dads left it was late at night he
stayed and I stayed and he had his
youngest daughter in his arm and he was
rubbing his other daughter's back and I
remember taking note of it because I was
with Bella at the other end of the gym
and I remember thinking I don't hug
Bella enough
I need to hug no joke bro it's in the
book I went I gotta hug Bella one more
time every day not just once a day plus
one more time every day my daughter's
gonna get extra hugs because Kobe does that
that
what if I could have said to Kobe when
he got in his car Kobe
ever matters to you make it right call
your dad make it right call your mom
call your family you what if the day
before you could have said Colby
one day left
and my dad same thing I was with my dad
when he had one day left I was with my
dad when he had one hour left I was with
my dad when he had one breath left and
then when we begin to think of our life
that way the power of right now and
having one more moment and one more
minute is so beautiful it's so blessed
it's so big it's so amazing why would we
spend that minute in history why would
we spend that minute in the past when we
could be fully present in creating a
future and so you know I think most
people think Jay everyone else is gonna die
die
I think they just they just I'm never
I'm not gonna die or they go I'll get
around to being happy I'll get around to
making my masterpiece of my life I'll
get around to my dreams I'm gonna get
around to fixing this relationship
that's broken I'm gonna get around to
feeling those emotions and then it's
another day and another day and they
keep it in the distance until there are
no more days and I don't care if you're
18 years old listening to this 28 or 48.
we don't know if we have one more day
or 100 more days or a thousand more days
but we know this there'll eventually be
a time where we don't have any more days
and so why would we spend the ones that
are coming looking at the past and so my
dad really taught me those lessons and
watching him passed away and that's why
I have so I have a whole thing in there
of how to get 21 days a week run many
days I get 21 days a week we still
measure time bro like it's 1900. think
about 1900 if I want to get you a note
I'd have to write a letter out stick it
on the back of a horse's butt in 1850 30
days later you get it that was a 24-hour
day now I can text you in two seconds we
measure time the same way so I teach you
how to change your time so that you can
make that day it's maximum Bliss it's
maximum productivity what's what's one
more that you're working on right now
right now I'm actually it's an
interesting season of my life I have a
TV show that you know that I did with
NBC that's called change that I think is
you know has a chance of getting picked
up but my one more that I'm working on
right now for me and my life is my peace
and so there's this guy Jay Shetty
that's a friend of mine that uh
introduced me and my family to meditation
meditation
and I'm giving myself the gift of I
don't just do it in the morning now I've
given myself the gift of one more time
every single day of just emptying my
mind and trying to be fully present and
it's been worked for me I've got that
busy type of a mind but um I have found
that my peace
in my life most of us Jay have all these
goals of things we want to do and
they're wonderful and I believe in doing
that I think standards are more
important than goals because and I teach
you in this the book how to set the
standards that'll get those goals but we
really don't but we really don't want
the jet we don't want the hit song we
don't want the amazing relationship we
don't want the million dollars we don't
want the we want how we think it'll make
us feel and what if we begin to become
more intentional and outcome oriented
about the things we feel in our life and
it took me a while but now that I'm
older when I feel strong when I feel
Blissful when I feel peaceful is when I
produce the physical things that I want
not the other way around and so my one
mores are more emotional Focus most of
us then I'll come up for air here have
an emotional home there's three or four
or five emotions we experience on a
regular basis I write about it in the
book and no matter what happens we find
a way even if they don't serve us to get
those emotions if your emotional home is
fear anxiety worry depression anger you
find a way every week to get that
emotion but what if that emotional home
could become Bliss and peace and joy and
creativity and ecstasy and so I'm
working on one more beautiful emotion
for my emotional moment for me it's
peace I love that I love that answer man
it's good to hear about what you've been
saying like we're not living in the past
and you're like in the present but to
have you answer that question that peace
is your presence like that's what you're
looking for right that's that's the
present and it shows that you're using
this like it works you're doing it time
and time again and I love what you said
it moves from the physical things into
the subtle into the emotional into the
the deeper I I think that's so profound
what was that one more that if you
didn't do it you wouldn't be here today
what was what was one of those ones that
like ah like that was the one that
convinced me apart from obviously a
father that you were like ah if I didn't
do that I wouldn't be at my let today I
wouldn't be maxed out life my first the
first business I built was a financial
business and I had some success J like a
lot of people do in life and then it
went backwards and sometimes you get up
the flagpole just a little bit and you
come back down that's an emotional
difficulty could be a relationship that
was good that's gone or maybe it saves
some money it's gone maybe you lost a
bunch of weight and got fit and you
gained it back for me it was my business
and I called my dad who's a pretty Wise
Guy now that he was sober and uh because
I could tell you man I'd do one more rep
in the gym I haven't done 10 reps on a
bench press in 30 years I've done 10
plus one more a lot though I haven't
done 45 minutes on a treadmill but I've
done 45 plus one more minute 10 contacts
a day never ten plus one more but the
biggest one more was actually something
else I called my dad and I said hey Dad
uh it's not gone the business is
crashing and I'm running out of money
our power was turned off our water was
turned off Jay we had to take my wife
every morning we'd lost our house we're
living in an apartment now then the
water got turned off you can't cook you
can't bathe there was a apartment
building we had an outdoor shower at the
swimming pool
and I'd have to wear newlyweds and I'd
have to get up every morning walk down
there and I'd hold a towel up while my
wife took her shower every day outdoors
and brush your teeth and then she'd
switch and hold the towel up for me and
I'd walk back up to the apartment and I
was so emasculated so ashamed so
embarrassed and
I was living a nightmare
selling a dream to everybody every day
we can do this a lot of entrepreneurs or
people can relate in their life and
anyway I called my dad that night and I
said I I think I need to pack it in I
need to go get a job and just I'm this
success thing is not
it's not for people like us and my dad
goes Eddie you don't have to decide
you're never gonna quit
he goes just don't quit for one more day
see how you feel tomorrow I go Dad he
goes just just don't do it for one more
day and I got the next day and I still
wanted to quit but not quite as much and
then I went one more day and one more
day and I found myself about 30 days
later I didn't want to quit anymore and
thank God the one more I did was I went
one more day without quitting and I'm so
grateful I didn't quit on my dream oh Ed
wow that is like oh my gosh man like you
just everything you're just dropping
right now I'm just like I hope everyone
is taking notes if you haven't been
taking notes of when you take a
screenshot right now of where we're at
right now because that's what you're
gonna have to listen to again so take a
screenshot share it tell everyone to go
to this segment listen to that over
again because I think what I'm hearing
you know is that this is this is a
lifestyle like this is a mindset it's a
lifestyle it's a everyday every moment
way to live this isn't just in the big
business you're building this is me
telling my wife I love her one more time
this is me making sure I mess message my
mom one more time it's me making sure
that when I'm sitting here with you I'm
always gonna have to ask you one more
question you keep giving so much no but
you keep giving well that's what you
just said it would never end I think of
people feel like they tried a lot and
then they start building up resentment
and like pain and bitterness towards
that path
and a lot of people also that I know
they just think that there are some
people who are meant to be I agree with
this and then there are some people that
are not meant to be that's correct and
they carry that with them and it comes
from this like oh yeah you were meant to
be this so that person was meant to have
it but for me this is where and I heard
that kind of come up and what you were
saying to your dad like it doesn't
happen to people like us how does this
rule how does this principle apply to
someone who's in there another best
question ever because I grew up with no
we have alcoholic dad or a drug addict
or maybe you come from divorce or maybe
your parents just didn't love you enough
whatever it was didn't tell you they
loved you enough
it's hard to have self-confidence I was
a little guy I got bullied in school and
I just and even at this age now bro I I
if I'm being completely honest
self-confidence we all teach that it's
you know part of keeping the promises
you make to yourself what if you raise
the standard a little higher you keep
the promises you make to yourself plus
one more because for me self-confidence
didn't come easy I think in life
ultimately you're going to get what you
believe you deserve and if you're wound
up wired like me I didn't think I
deserved a lot
I didn't even have a dad who could stop
drinking right I wasn't six foot four
I don't have an incredibly high IQ
there's nothing really that impressive
about me nor were people very impressed
with me most of my life
so that was my pattern that was my
history that was my memory and so the
only I could wait around until I
developed tremendous self-confidence or
I could begin to do things
every day that we're small they're not
major and over time when I did those one
more calls that one more meeting that
one more book I read that one more
podcast not only am I doing more reps so
the likelihood of me being successful is
bigger but I started to convince myself
I'm doing things other people aren't
willing to do maybe I deserve things
other people aren't going to get and
slowly but surely I started to convince
myself I did deserve it based on what I
was doing not necessarily the caliber of
my talent yeah yeah that was the
difference yeah you you just there's a
thought I've been having recently and
it's that
Comfort creates self-care
but discomfort creates self-respect
right like it's what you're saying that
the one more discomfort every day that's
where self-respect comes from yes you
don't great term yeah you don't you
don't start to trust yourself or build
self-esteem or believe in yourself
because you just say it to yourself it's
coming what you just said you gotta then
take one more meeting and see what you
learn you go out there and take one more
risk one more discomfort and I guarantee
you if you have a successful or happy
friend whichever how you determine that
and you ask them this they tell you that
we're right yeah they would tell you
gosh that's right it's right and the
difference between winning and losing
happiness and sadness is so small it's
almost it's almost scary to talk about
but the good news is I think I kind of
know what it is and it's this one more
absolutely the people that I know that
are the most successful and happy have
more uncomfortable conversation agreed
they have more uncomfortable days
they're more discomfort in their lives
yes but selected discomfort but one of
the other things that I'm asking from
now I'm like going into like the people
that I know that that I'm thinking about
and can see their faces and and I want
them to know that I'm asking for them a
lot of the time one more in the wrong
direction that's right can also be
really misguiding
sometimes uh people and I know you're a
person of Faith too and so so we can
touch on this sometimes we're climbing
the mountain and we keep doing one more
but we're actually going further away
from who we are who we want to be our
faith our partners right we've we know
people who've built
multi-billion dollar companies but lost
their kids that's right or they've
become famous and Rich but they've uh
their partner cheated on them you know
like we know a lot of those stuff and
you know people who didn't do all of
that and that's happened too like it's
it's both ways how does one use one more
and make sure it's in the right
direction that's a great question I'm
doing this now regularly because I've
made some of those mistakes of just and
what I do is I check in with myself one
more time meaning it's important to ask
yourself what matters to me now see if
you we had this conversation 20 years
ago the things that mattered to me then
are so different than What mattered to
me now but a lot of us keep operating
out of what used maybe you've achieved
or pursuing a dream and it's really
truly no longer your dream it's no
longer your dream it's when I was young
listen if we're gonna do a podcast you
say hey I need you on the show people
are going to love you you're gonna get
recognition you're gonna get you're
going to get all this acknowledgment and
that would have been my my hot button my
need you know I believe in the six human
needs my need was significance and
recognition and there's nothing wrong
with that it's wonderful and so that's
the button to get me to move would be
significance recognition well I've been
blessed the last 30 years or so of my
life to have a beautiful abundance of
significance and recognition it's no
longer what fills me now you get me to
do an interview you go hey I really
think we could help some people my big
button in my life now is contribution
there was another stage in my life it's
still there but hey if you go there
you'll grow I still want to grow but I
know me now right now I'm in a season of
my life that's contribution it's giving
it's what fills my heart and I think
it's checking in with yourself one more
time what matters to me now what do I
want now what's important to me now what
season maybe you're in a season where
you need to rest maybe your spirit and
everything about you is telling you hey
it's time to feed you again it's time to
recharge if that that's the season then
answer that call don't play out of a
past Playbook and so for me that's the
season I'm in now and I'm sure that in
five or eight more years you know
there'll be something else but I
regularly on a monthly basis you
recommend it in your book so beautifully
about your relationship checking in you
have these strategies you teach about
weekly and monthly and quarterly and
yearly with your partner of checking in
with them I also recommend you check in
with yourself what matters to you now
and so for me it's a matter of checking
in now so that I don't lose my family in
the pursuit of my business or lose me
yeah lose me who am I anymore and I've
had times where I'm like
this doesn't feel like me anymore yeah
and I had at least the ability to at
least acknowledge that and make a change
yeah and I love that you brought up
Seasons because I feel like
no one and on planet Earth we don't have
the power to change the season but you
have the power to live the season well
that's right you can either be in the
right now it's been raining right
wherever we are it's been like pouring
down with rain there's all this effort
you could carry an umbrella well you can
tell how I'm dressed I'm definitely not
dressed in my usual gear right because
I'm dressed for the rain I'm prepared
yes because that's all I can do I can't
make the rain switch off I can't stop it
right like I can't do that and so I love
hearing that you're just learning how to
thrive in the season and so if your
season's telling you to rest you can't
force the season and you you have to
live it through you have to experience
it you know I think you have to remember
one thing man I think it's as easy as a
person to forget this and I just would
love to say this because you have such
an amazing reach each of you you and I included
included
we were born to do something great with
our life
we were born to do something great with
our life and it's important to check in
from time to time of what that current
great thing is and May and sometimes we
think it's the big things it's the
people that are on both our shows
they've made this big movie they've got
this big song They're this big thing you
know who's greater the man who helped my
dad get sober
or the fact that maybe I've helped some
people because my dad got sober that one
act was greatness in his life that kind
moment with another person that says I
can help you let me connect with you and
so don't discount your own greatness
your own call to do something great and
it doesn't have to be a script or a play
or a book or a speech or on social media
it's just doing something great and you
matter I don't I don't mean this hokey
I'm telling you the truth about you you
matter you were born to do something
awesome with your life your family's
supposed to do something great as a
family and if maybe it's just checking
in and reminding yourself of that and
then asking yourself what is that thing
right now in my life and so I just think
that reminder is so important that you
know it's great to voyeuristically look
in on successful people or what we think
are successful people it's also
important that the camera turn back on
you and go you matter you matter
and that's probably the most important
thing we'd say today oh gosh man yeah
and you know one thing you just
clarified beautifully is that
great doesn't have to be big no and big
doesn't mean gray right and I think
we're so obsessed today we are in that
to do something great it has to be big
it has to be bold you know when I think
about myself honestly I didn't and I can
say this to you because I think I think
in these sessions and when we spend time
together you've heard my heart
I was one of those people who actually
never believed I could do any of this
stuff I've done I never set out when I
started and I was like oh one day I'm
gonna be I I didn't have any of that
that's not how I'm wired I was wired in
like I want to serve I want to serve
whoever comes whether it's five people
ten people I'm happy I'll serve them and
as I started to do that I got more
confidence okay now I want to serve
larger groups okay let me serve them and
then it was like and I never believed at
any point that there were these
arbitrary abstract goals of like number
one this like those one how I set out
and so when I'm listening to you speak
I hope someone's out there thinking Jay
I'm like Janette I'm like you guys where
it's like I don't Vibe with all that
like like motivation this like I Just
Vibe with the fact that I want to have a
great impact like the person that helped
your father yeah and you know what we've
both found in our life too just to give
you Insight from um someone called me
seasoned today you know this is that um
you know the universe or God really
prepares you to step into the next room
when you step in with some faith and so
maybe it does start with five or six
people and maybe that's enough but
perhaps in that space you're in there'll
be a little door open and if you step
into that one you'll you'll find I think
we think I have to have it all figured
out wozniak's a good buddy of mine who
started Apple they didn't they were a
board company they didn't really be
doing this someday they stepped into the
next space and one thing I think we also
want is an immediate result and I talk
about this in the book maybe it would be
the last little thing I'll share with
you but I went to a birthday party as I
was writing the book and it was for a
young boy and um they had a pinata we've
all been to a special in California you
have the pinata and so what they did is
they took eight of these little guys
they blindfolded them and spun them
around and they're all dizzy and they're
swinging and they're not even near the
pinata that's life a lot of times you
feel like man I'm blind I don't even
know where I'm swinging right now but
I'm swinging and so each kid hit the
pinata and the candy didn't come out
and so they take the blindfold off that
kid got tired the next little boy came
up spun him around so like seven of them
hit this pinata no candy came out the
last boy the smallest boy the youngest
boy there they fill the blindfold on him
they spin them around he's swinging too
that's life you just sort of swinging
right he finally Point him at the pinata
he hits the pinata just once bam all the
candy comes out and all the kids jump on
and celebrate
and I'm watching that and I'm going
now who broke the pinata was it the last
shot or was it the cumulative blows of
each of the shots on the pinata well we
all know the answer it was the
cumulative shots Life's a lot like that
man that we're taking shots but we don't
see any physical progress but everyone
more we're doing is compound pounding
progress and in life you have to be
willing to buy into what is invisible
progress most people quit on their dream
quit on their Vision before the candy
comes out
and what you and I didn't do is quit we
just kept swinging and eventually the
candy comes out the candy could be your
bliss your joy your financial success
your notoriety your contribution but
most people are hitting the pinata of
their life and there's no evidence it's working
working
but the truth is there's a compound
pounding effect in life that if you keep
hitting your life's pinata if you'll
stick around there'll be some candy come
out uh the power of one more everyone Ed
my let go and grab this book if you
haven't already it's gonna be a life
change I mean I mean you can just feel
the energy coming of this human being
honestly I want you to go read this book
I want to go listen to the podcast if
you don't already the first book was
called max out your life as well the max
out podcast uh Ed you are just I mean
your energy is infectious I don't know
how anyone can't listen to you read from
you hear from you and not feel like they
need to change their life like you've
just given me a list of number ones that
I'm gonna do one more uh I hope that you
keep coming back on the show I hope that
we keep getting to connect offline uh I
I hope that we get to you know keep
spending one more day one more phone
call one more time together because so
grateful for you bro I love you really
grateful man thank you so much thank you
everyone grab the copy of the book I'll
put it in the link up put in the comment
section in the caption
the power of one more this is the book
love it brother thanks bro
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