This content is an interview with influencer Liz, who shares her journey from childhood trauma and self-abuse to self-love and empowerment, offering insights on navigating relationships, societal pressures, and personal growth.
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hello and welcome back to dream girl if
you're new here I'm Sheen I'm your host
and today we have a very special guest
I'm sure you've seen her unless you live
under a rock please join me in welcoming
Liz hello Liz Hi how are you I'm good
how are you good you know every time I
want to say wizard Liz because just
that's just how I know you I feel like
people they also say like lizard Liz oh
lizard the Wizards that's very cool is
that where the name came from how did
you come up with that no the wizard Liz
was actually like I used to work in a
restaurant as a student and I remember
like I was put behind the bar cuz my
boss was like let's put the pretty girl
behind it at first I was really not good
at my job but um so I was like I was
working there and then we had a client
that came and he he asked like for a
drink and I said oh you should try this
one and he said like well I would get
anything that you sell me cuz you're so
magical like your R magical and then I
told him like well then I must be a
wizard you know and I was like joking
about that and that never left my mind
so I was like you know when I was doing
social media the wizard Li okay well I'm
glad we found out this story behind the
name but okay listen for me I've been
following you since you started I
remember the first time I watched your
video and it went viral and as I was
tell telling you beforehand because I
have so many friends who are in the
YouTube world and I remember them saying
you know we spend so much time making
sure the audio quality is great the
visuals are great the thumbnail is great
and this girl came in and blew everyone
out with the algorithm and everybody
just loved you and I think it's also
because of how um raw it is it almost
feels like you're telling me off when
I'm watching the video I think everyone needs
needs
therapy but I think they need therapy
after my videos no no no no no no you're
helping but but I put up on my story
asking people what would they want to
hear from you right and today we're
going to cover a few things from you
know the relationship with yourself your
relationship with your friends um with
men or women in in a romantic way but to
start with tell me what was for you a
pivotal moment in your life that pushed
you to start this whole
career so a pivotal moment so basically
my childhood was very bad okay like I I
think everyone already knows this that I
was uh physically abused by my father um
and I saw my mother get abused so it was
like a very very traumatic childhood and
it's funny like when my father decided
to cheat on my mother that was like the
happiest day of me and my siblings we
were like that monster is leaving our
house we were so happy but it's ironic
that when your abuser leaves the house
and you finally have that freedom that
you always craved that you start abusing
yourself cuz that's when I developed uh
bulimia anorexia and these these are all
like forms of self abuse you know and
when I looked at my siblings and at
myself I saw how we all handled
everything differently cu the issue is
not the abuse it's the aftermath right
it's how we feel afterwards because now
we have to realize that we allowed
ourselves to get treated like that and
that this went on for so many years and
it's very uh hurtful to realize that and
then you go from all of that which
you've ever known the abuse to okay what
do we do now so who are we now actually
cuz we don't know who we are without it
you know we weren't allowed to explore
ourselves so I feel like my life started
when my father cheated on my mother it
finally started and then that was the
first moment in my life that I could
look at myself and be like okay Liz what
do we do now and for me my biggest thing
in life was always let me just make
money let me get rich because I can like
at least I cannot heal my family but I
would be able to like afford a Band-Aid
to put on top of like the wounds that my father
father
created and I kind of felt responsible
for the hurt that my family had been
through I don't know why but I felt
responsible so my whole life I was like
okay how do I make money how do I make
money and the more like
I was struggling also with my Ed ulmia
and when you're struggling with all
these things all your energy is going
towards that and that's why I tell
people that are for example trying to
lose weight let's say yeah I had this
conversation today actually with like a
woman in a store it was like she's like
uh I love your body like are you on a
diet like what's happening and I was
like you know the moment that I stopped
wanting to lose weight is when I lost it
and I couldn't I like now whatever I eat
I cannot gain it anymore which is
actually an opposite issue that's great
yeah but she I told her like because I
was in the same mindset of like putting
all my energy I couldn't even create
anything right so I couldn't create
business or anything because all my
energy was going towards food I wake up
I think about food I go to bed I think
about food because you know why why I
even feel like I got to eating disorder
because when you have a whole childhood
where you never felt in control
that eating disorder made me feel in
control of something I can control what
I eat or what I don't eat and somehow I
felt proud of myself right but it was
never about like the way I looked cuz it
was never skinny enough honestly I think
it's a form of like slowly taking your
own life I call it you know so when I
when I removed the energy from the
eating disorders and I was like you know
what cuz this went on for two years like
severe depression after my father father
left then I was like okay let's change
things how can I actually change because
I was so tired of blaming everyone or my
circumstances and I was like Liz you
need to start looking at yourself
because the reason why my life was like
that was because of me and no one else I
was abusing myself and it's like I don't
h i don't have anyone to blame look the
thing is like yeah I had an abusive
childhood but what do I do next do I
continue being a victim or take do I
take my power back because the more
energy I put into hating my father means
the more powerful he becomes and I want
that power I want to create you know
what I mean so I was like it's time for
me to pull all the energy back to myself
and the only way you do that is by
taking responsibility for your life
blame gives your power away and
responsibility gives it to
yourself oh my goodness that was so
powerful again I felt like I was just
watching your YouTube video I was I
forgot I forgot I had to ask you
questions I was like what I get so
passion when I love it okay one thing I
want to tell you is your energy is
infectious right and I think you know
that but I get to experience it in
person and it's beautiful as you said
that you know despite all the terrible
things that happened to you which you
didn't have a hand to play in but you've
turned that into something beautiful and
now you're helping everyone else around
you and that's incredible and you've
built such a beautiful life for yourself
so you should be very proud of yourself
you know what I'm trying to say I really
appreciate that but also now what would
you say say is any Mis misconception
that people still hold about you given
what they see online I think they see a
woman and um they think like oh she's a
narcissist that's what I hear often or
she's very toxic her mindset is very
toxic and it's like I think people they
don't know they don't understand what
narcissism actually is and an actual
narcissist wouldn't act like a
narcissist they act like the nicest
person that's why women stay in
relationships with narcissist for so
long cuz they don't understand what's
going on a narcissist is not someone
that comes on here and says I am amazing
I am mizing no that's just all like
that's too outward the narcissists are
more closeted and very manipulative in
the way they act you know and I feel
like once people see me for example and
I post let's say a Tik Tok yesterday I
post I always get what I want the reason
why I post this is because I want people
to look at the Tik Tok and read it in
their head for themselves but I know
what it looks like to others but at the
same time I think it's a good thing that
people even blame me or be be like she's
a narcissist she's too full of herself I
think it was a good impact because I
think there's people watching me and
thinking you know what she's so full of
herself and the way she talks if she can
talk like that about herself maybe I can
love myself a little they they become so
comfortable because I make them
uncomfortable in the way that I speak
you know what I mean yeah because they
see this as the extreme extreme but
somehow it make it can make them
confident because like she can be that
extreme maybe I can be like a little bit
of that like a 10% of what she's saying
you know what I mean no but I love what
you said about narcissistic people right
and I think that's again something that
a lot of people always ask me about I
have also experienced it but it's crazy
how however smart you are however
emotionally intelligent you are as a
woman especially how you get stuck in
that situation and what advice do you
have for people to even start to
recognize that this is a toxic situation
and this person might be
narcissistic so I've dealt with
narcissist in my life fair share um
first thing is a woman especially or
whoever needs to listen to their
intuition I feel like women have such
strong intuition it's almost like our
body and our soul knows that something
is wrong before it actually happens for
example me I see dreams about a person
that I'm not meant to be with I see
dreams about like leave or I see Visions
like leave and I don't listen because I
I think like I'm crazy I'm crazy but
then until something happens where I'm
like ooh but I knew that but I literally
knew that years ago I could have
prevented this but I didn't listen to
myself right so intuition is very very
important you're not supposed to feel
drained around a person you're not even
a friend you're not supposed to sit with
a friend and then come home and be like
oh my God like I feel so bad because a
negative energy exchange has just
happened right second thing is look at
their actions and not at their words and
I keep telling people this so I actually
had this thing with like uh a place that
I always go to for lunch okay and
there's like two waitresses that work
there and I absolutely love them okay so
they were telling me that the place is
closing down and a new owner is now
taking over and their previous owner
hasn't like uh given them a new contract
nothing so they are losing out on two
months of uh money like salary salary so
then what I did was I gave them that two
months of salary wow and then they were
like um and then they told me like I was
asking them because I want to help them
with their job and then they were
telling me like no but you know he's not
a bad guy Liz like our boss is not a bad
guy like he he's really like he says it
in such a way and I said uh-uh m- what
did he do he doesn't care about you guys
I care about them y yeah I care about
them and they're not they're not working
for me so it's like he should care about
you guys you take care of the people
that you work for or that are in your
life this is not normal so I'm like
don't listen to what he's saying look at
what he's doing and so many women
because we get so sensitive and we love
to hear things no look at the way he's
treat treating you if he's abusive but
tomorrow he tells you he loves you he's
abusive he doesn't love you someone that
loves you wouldn't abuse you you know
and I I think like once you start to
just look at people for who they are you
know when people become mesmerizing when
you put your energy into them so right
now if I look at you I find you amazing
okay I find you mesmerizing but it's
because we are exchanging our energy
right now but what if like for example I
had this actually with a previous
relationship of mine tell me so I would
think like look I've never been the
person to go for looks so I don't I
don't care okay the way you look I I
never really cared I care more about
intelligence and the way you are okay
but the more the relationship developed
I almost had like rosecolor glasses on
and I found that W this person can
manifest so well whoa this person is
becom so successful all these things and
I was like oh this this person is
amazing and even I thought like oh
because of him I must be amazing I
started giving him all the credit right
the minute I broke up with him and I was
like you know I'm done and I called all
my energy back to me and I was like this
is going to end I saw him again and I
was shocked I was like there is no way I
was with this person no I literally saw
him for the way he actually looked and
it's like my friends had been telling me
Liz there's no way cuz he was not a good
person either you know that's the main
problem but I was like I'm my energy
made him so magical to me and the same
way like all the things that I thought
like he's so successful he's so good at
manifesting it stopped when I removed my
energy so a lot of people are dating
people and they put them on a pedestal
but it's all because of your energy
there like a lot of women for example
men become more good-looking more
successful because they're with that
woman and then the woman starts to think
like oh he's too good for me oh he's the
uh-uh honey that's your energy I it you
know no you know I actually had the
exact same conversation with a friend of
mine where I was telling her that I'm
missing this guy who used to be in my
life and she was like but think about it
when you say he was funny it was you who
was actually funny all the things that
you think you miss about him was just
you being part of his life that made him
funny like that or make him interesting
make him U as you said dress better or
have more intellectual interest and
you're like that's so true like it it is
because of us together but without me he
doesn't doesn't have all the things that
I think he does yeah so it's crazy that
a lot of us you know this is what I love
about women talking to each other as
well right because I feel like we're all
so different and so unique but the same
time we have such similar life
experiences we do which is
crazy I I can't like the way you were
describing this whole scenario
especially that Moment of clarity when
you immed it switches once that Clarity
hits There's No Going Back the ick will
remain you're like there's no way like
seeing your ex partner the way your
friends saw him I never want to see that
again in my life the disappointment you
feel I was like there's no way you're
like wait who was it who liked this guy
I was like there must have been Magic on
me there's no way it wasn't me it wasn't
me that was that was not me it wasn't me
I was under a spell it's okay but okay
now going back to a little bit around
the same topic so another question we
got a lot of is now that we're on the
topic of of men and dating is you know
nowadays I don't know if it's the way
Society is evolving or the changes in
gender roles and traditional roles but
now you see a lot of women are very
successful right women are becoming more
and more independent and very
financially independent and therefore
successful and you get these women these
what you would term like high value
which I don't really like high value
women are the ones struggling to find a
partner why do you think that is I think
because um a lot of men are insec
and a lot of men take their value from
being successful so when you take that
away and you have a woman that is more
successful for than you that becomes a
competition for them you know and I
think that's actually sad because I
think people don't teach men to like for
example be more in touch with their
emotions develop other skills than just
making money because then they can also
get their value from those things but
right now because they put men on such a
pedestal for so long and they just
poured into young men and whatever and
women were just the house makers right
because they made that such a big thing
now you're sitting with all these men
yeah they they just know okay I'll get
my value if I'm successful if I'm
successful I'm a good man no like look
at your morals who like who are you as a
person get to know yourself better and
that's how you build that confidence a
confident men will not get intimidated
by successful women never ever ever but
there's just not enough confident men no
and even you know when you look at
masculinity so that's one question we
got for you actually from my audience
which was you know there's kind of like
a rise in like soft masculinity now you
know where I don't know you must have
seen all of these funny reals where you
know it's like men want the princess
treatment now they they don't want to be
the first one to tax they don't want to
be the one to pay the whole 5050
situation that is coming up but do you
think that is also causing an issue with
men like understanding their role and
their position in society now I think
men have always gotten the princess
treatments always I think there has
never been another another time the
amount of Standards men have for women
is insane okay but the minute you have a
woman that says like hey provide you
know like take care of me it's like no
you're a goldigger how how dare you say
that but how many men would date an
unattractive woman exactly they wouldn't
they just simply wouldn't okay because
they have that standard if you're
unattractive I don't want to date you
but once a woman has a standard and it's
like if you're a broke guy and with
broke guys I don't mean men that are
poor no I mean men that don't know how
to create abundance and that the that's
a big big issue see for example for me a
broke man how I uh classifi it is like
my dad my dad refused to work he doesn't
want to work he doesn't want to figure
out how to work he made my mom work her
whole life and she was taking care of
him okay he didn't respect himself and
he didn't respect my mother it was just
not IM balance at all and my mom had to
be hyper masculine to make up for the
lack of masculine energy in the house
right now when you have that a person
that doesn't know how to be abundant
that's a broke guy okay it doesn't
matter how much money he makes as long
as he's trying that's an abundant man
because a lot of people they especially
women they think like oh I just need a
rich man I've dated a very guy probably
the wealthiest guy I've ever dated he
was not generous at all broke yeah so
that's a broke man cuz what what do I
have with you you're showing me every
day how much money you're making but
what do I have with it is it what what
do I care how much money you make you
know so it's like um that's like just
the difference like when a man doesn't
know how to be abundant that's the big
issue so men wanting the princess
reement I think they always had that
right so it's like they always had a
standard for women they always had like
you have to behave like this and blah
blah and even like before when women
were supposed to be hous makers there
were so many standards you're supposed
to cook you're supposed to clean you're
supposed to take care of the kids and
look good on top of that and if you
don't I'm going to cheat on you and if
you do I'm going to cheat on you so it's
like women had to accept that but then
you had women for example that have a
platform like me that came on and we're
like stop accepting it like let's have
standards you know let's have standards
as a Col
and because of that yeah you have what
you have right now which is very
successful woman because they started
believing in themselves instead of a man
and chasing what they want and being who
they want to be instead of chasing a man
and like taking their value from being
with a man because that's also a huge
issue that women are facing you know
they think like oh my God if I'm not
married by this age or if I don't have
children then I failed as a woman but
who said that Society your parents your
culture who said that who set that
standard for women who said that if a
woman has her period she's dirty she
that like that's dirty who said all
these things if men could get their
period and could get pregnant we would
not be able to meet their standards the
they would have standards through the
roof the like anything that even is like
um like tampons all these things it
would be free it would be free yeah free
and they would have made like U medic
medicine or something to Sol like crams and
and
to help them massage toools at work yeah
days off days off
paid yes no for sure women would not be
able to meet their standards no no and
that's the thing I I'm so glad you
touched on this because this this has
come up many times in conversations with
my guests on the podcast and even with
my friends I keep seeing this because
now that uh women are getting in their
mid-30s and late 30s they're starting to
worry and all of these friends that I
have or even guests that I've met one of
them even said on the podcast that you
know I feel like I have the Villa that I
always wanted I have my cars I have my
six figure business and I sit in my
house alone and now I'm thinking did I
go wrong should I have focused on
finding a husband should I have focused
on find having kids younger because
that's when you are at your Peak on the
sexual market value if you want to call
it that and now she's like now what do I
do and now I see this kind of like I
don't know how to explain it other than
passive depression that is rampant
around where you see all these
successful women who at the end of the
day come home to a to like a quiet
apartment and they're sad and they feel
like they went wrong somewhere what
would you say to these people I think
that the grass is always greener on the
other side I know that there's a lot of
married women that wish they could come
home to an empty house I swear like they
have glamorized having children and
married so much and people don't see the
behind the scenes they always like show
you the pretty picture but all the work
that is behind the scenes all the
arguments all the compromises all the
things that cheating that happens and
then you have to think oh my god do I
want to stay married because I don't
want to lose face in other know in front
of other people so I just stay married
with a cheating husband and I just look
nice in front of everyone and then
someone looks at them and think oh I
wish I had that no you don't you don't
know what's going on in someone's house
behind closed doors you know my parents
like everyone that knew them they would
thought like oh father's a great guy
such an amazing man such a religious man
they would say you know behind closed
doors that was literally the Devil
Himself you know you never know what is
going on so I would say never glamorize
something if I think right now right now
about having children and a husband
that's a huge responsibility huge I I
rather right now in this position of my
life have my business make my own money
and be independent
and whoever comes into my life they can
add to it but I'm not thinking like let
me right now start a family because I
know that will take so much of my time
and energy into the family you know if I
want to raise it in a way that I would
want which is with full attention and
everything so it all depends on like do
you really want that or do you want to
create a perfect picture for society mhm
cuz we have to really go back to the
belief that we have cuz why do we have
that cuz it's also it's not only women
it's same with men right if you don't
get married as a man oh you're not a man
you're not you have do you're not a
father oh my God you're already late 30s
you're not a father it's like why push
things upon people some people don't
want that that's okay some people do
then yeah you find a way you date around
you see does this match with me but
don't do it because you feel like you're
losing time cuz I feel like everything
in life comes at the right time at
Divine timing when it's when it's meant
for you when something is not meant for
you it will not happen no matter what
you do when something is meant for you
no one can take that from you ever it
will come in like in the most miraculous
ways it will come so just let it go
women need to start letting stuff go
that is the how it no that is the
biggest thing look right before this is
l a month ago like one and one and a
half month ago
I was so obsessed with the outcome I
became very masculine because I like I
didn't have like anyone supporting me so
I was like I felt like I was completely
alone okay so I was like oh my God I I
need to have this I need to have this
like I need to figure something out and
I was going crazy so I was like focused
so much on my career and I was just I
was literally losing it okay and then I
went back home CU mentally I was not
doing well so I went back home to my mom
and uh I went home and then the second
day I arrived I went to walk in nature
and I always tell people go walk in
nature cuz nature is healing right um
the trees the plants all these things
these are living beings I even tell
people like put your back or your hands
against a tree it will remove any energy
that's not serving you because that's
how how we work with each other but
people don't know these things or they
don't want to try these things so they
don't get like really further in life
anyway so I went and I walked in nature
and I started talking to God and I
always used to do this thing a lot like
especially in the beginning of my career
like talking to God and having
conversations like he's my best friend
oh my God I say the same thing you know
we're going to talk about yeah keep
going sorry so then I was like I was
walking in nature and I started talking
to him and I said um God like uh I can't
take this anymore like not like this I
I'm like I want to do what I have to do
on this Earth and complete my mission
but not like this not on my own and I
feel very bad and I I said like I don't
want to live anymore and that was really
my mental state like I don't want to be
here anymore but I'm not gonna do it
myself so you do it okay you handle it
you please take my life so I was like um
I said that and then all of a sudden
while I was walking I heard like wanting
nothing gives you everything I heard
that sentence in my head and then I kept
walking and I started repeating it out
loud I was like onean thing nothing
gives you everything and then I
understood one thing nothing gives you
everything I I was too focused on I need
to have this I need to have F I need to
have work I need to have this I need to
be bigger and bigger and I was too
focused on them so what I realized was
if I just let go of I don't want
anything anymore like you handle it here
give it to God you handle it you know
when I did that everything I've ever
wanted came and it came so fast like
these past one and a half months my life
has changed 360 I've probably never been
happier than I am right now yeah which
is crazy but it was the minute I just
let it go I was like I don't care
anymore and you know this is you can see
it for example and you know why this is
also the thing when you let something go
you take your power back you take your
energy from that thing back now when you
are too focused on things for example
let's say you're obsessing over an ex
okay the minute you stop wanting that ex
all of a sudden he texts you all of a
sudden he calls you he's now obsessed
with you why you took your energy back
MH the minute you take back your energy
from all these things and you are now
whole by yourself those things become
attracted to you and they want to be
with you instead of you wanting to be
with them cuz nothing likes desperation
desperation is a repulsive energy when
you are desperate you have a lack
mindset you don't believe that this
Earth is abundant and this Earth is very
abundant God gave us everything this is
another thing that people always tell me
like oh how dare you you're asking for
for too much oh why do you want these
things blah but there's billionaires on
this earth like multiple multiple
billionaires why can I not have even 10%
of what they have what does it matter
money is is a is an abundant source as
well you know money gives you Freedom
that's the only reason why every want a
money for Freedom CU I can go where I
want I can do what I want I can help
people in a way that I want right so if
that is on Earth why can I not have it
if Earth God made this Earth so abundant
anything that is on this Earth I can
have and I will get whenever I think to
myself okay I want that but I just want
it and I don't focus on it like in a
desperate way but I know I have a goal
in the back of my mind but I'm not
desperate for it right that's when it
comes oh wow okay I love that also you
know what you said about um what is
meant for you cannot miss you and what
if it's not meant for you however hard
you try you can't get it I remember um I
go by this
thing that I saw some some time ago and
it's really hard to remind myself of it
but I try you know when they tell you
that um God will never say no to you God
only has three answers either it's yes
not now or I have something better so it
it's kind of like remembering that
whatever you're not getting in life is
because that's not the right thing and
again it's a very freeing thought right
it's like there's a bigger picture
there's divine intervention there's no
need to worry whatever is meant for you
will find you um but I like what you
talked about in terms of Letting Go and
I think overthinking is a huge thing
that our generation does we carry it
with us everywhere we keep trying to
plan everything and I think we didn't
even learn from Co how overnight we were
all in our houses nobody planned that
everyone's life turned upside down and I
think we still try to overthink and that
overthinking kind of like takes away the
joy of the present takes away the joy of
you being grateful and I think gratitude
is also something we don't practice ice
a lot of but now that we're on this
topic I want to ask you I feel like all
of this the overthinking the
overanalyzing holding on to things comes
a lot of times from a place of lack of
confidence of self-love because people
don't really understand the difference
between self-love and being selfish they
we always assume that we should not take
up space we should not talk about
ourselves about our successes so what
like magical tip do you have for people
in terms of how to build that confidence
muscle so basically I like I wanted to
touch on the thing where you said like
uh they call self love selfish yeah
exactly so in terms of that if you look
at the way children have been raised
it's always care for others do things
for others then you're a good person no
one ever tells you to take care of
yourself look after yourself oh you can
tell yourself you're beautiful who tells
you that no one tells you that because
then you're vain then you're then you're
selfish right now now if you look at it
in a in a broader picture who does this
benefit the people in power it benefits
them that you don't believe in yourself
right because if we have all these
people that believe in themselves how
can you control them you cannot control
people if I was let's say a person in
power and I was like a bad person or I
thought like I just want to control
people I would make them fear everything
I would tell them like if you do
anything you'll go straight to hell I
would tell that I would tell them like
um care for others if you care about
yourself oh you're a bad person I would
tell these things these are very smart
and manipulative things but you also
have to realize it's manipulative you
know you a lot of people also raise
their children to not believe in
themselves they don't even realize they
do it but they do it because they
thought like oh if you did something for
your sister oh then you're a good boy
good girl you did a good job if you did
something for your classmate or friend
then you're a good person if you did
something for yourself no one no one
applauds you for that no one says like
oh wow so that's
the confidence you build it by
applauding yourself for yourself looking
yourself in the mirror and say wow oh my
God you got that new job oh you're
amazing oh my God you're such a goddess
talk to yourself that way because it's
so easy for everyone to talk about their
friends like that to talk about the
people that we love but then we neglect
ourselves the most which you are
supposed to love yourself the most cuz
when you love yourself you are love and
you create love around around you a
person that doesn't love themselves
doesn't go out and is is happy with
everyone else that just not doesn't
happen you know so misery creates more
misery so you have to take care first of
like okay how do I feel how do I want to
feel how can I do that and I think a big
thing with confidence is as well like
create skills become good at something
because a lot of people they don't know
how to do anything they don't want to
learn anything and they're just blaming
like oh I'm just insecure if you're just
insecure create
something then you can be confident
about something and then that translates
to your inner confidence and the same
way people say like oh yeah but I'm just
ugly look at ways to become more
beautiful no but you can change yourself
no like and but a lot of times they say
like oh you should also just accept
yourself I don't feel like that's that's
most the case if I just accepted myself
I would still be in my bedroom with my
mom sitting there crying if I just
accept myself no I had to change things
and you have to be honest with yourself
sometimes you are the devil that you're
trying to blame cuz everyone wants to
say oh my life is bad because of this I
there must have been some magic in my
life that someone did no honey how are
you acting how who are you allowing
around you cuz that is also a big thing
for confidence CU it's like you have bad
friends you have like a bad partner that
you're constantly allowing to abuse you
to talk down on you you're abusing
yourself and you have to be honest with yourself
yourself
once you set that boundary of like
you're not going to treat me like that
and you actually walk away watch how
your confidence will Skyrocket cuz you
made that decision to walk away when
someone tells you like no you shouldn't
be saying anything like for example I
grew up with like my father saying um a
woman should never speak a woman should
never have a voice I feel my most
confident now when I speak I love them
because I made that decision that my
voice needs to be heard right and that's
a thing to be proud of so create things
for yourself that you can be proud of
even helping someone out like giving
them something that's something to be
proud of you did something good and then
applaud yourself for it you studied you
had a great you had a great test or
whatever result that you had amazing be
proud of yourself you know don't wait
for other people to to sit there and
clap for you clap for yourself first I
love that and you know um I agree with
you I think is the worst advice we can
give to people is just be who you are
because I think we can be a better
version of who we are and that's just
the starting point and who we are is as
you said beautifully is a result of what
we grew up with what we absorbed growing
up the society everything and we need to
shed these weights they're dead weight
we need to shed them so we can become
truly who we are meant to be and also I
just want to touch on you talked about
self-love and how if we don't love
ourselves we can't love people around us
which is so true because you know even
in the ads in the airplane PLS where
they show you that you need to put your
mask first and then help people around
because what's the point if you just
help everyone around and then that's it
you're gone that's not how it works and
again you've touched on that super super
nicely but um another thing I want to
ask you you know so this is a term I
don't like as well which is called
imposter syndrome you know a lot of
people blame whatever they feel or the
fact that they're not trying new things
not stepping out of their comfort zone
on feeling like an impostor and that
they don't belong and they can't do it
what do you think about that you know I
think in life you just have to do things
and then it becomes so it's like this
glass right here someone imagined it and
then they created it right so if you
imagine yourself as a version that you
want to be and you start acting like it
that's when it comes into the Physical
Realm but it all starts here so no
matter who you are right now is who you
are telling yourself that you are are
yeah is who your parents told you that
you are is who Society told you how you
have to act and how you have to be so
who you are or like just be who you are
doesn't make sense cuz who are we at the
end of the day I think we are just All
Souls on Earth and we don't know how to
behave as humans we're just waiting till
return back home but we're here like
okay what is this guys you know but it's
nice then I see Life as a video game I
see Life as like okay I can be whoever I
want to be because it doesn't matter at
the end of the day I will never be who I
fully am because it will always be
constructed by things around me or
people around me because that's how we
just are we're a soul not a human okay
we're just here experiencing life on
Earth so once you accept that and you
think like what does feel most
comfortable for me who would I like to
be who would I be happy if I was this
person then you start acting like it you
start acting like that person how would
they act how would they dress what would
they accept what would they not accept
what are their daily habits bits and
once you do something long enough it
becomes your life right you do it
something over if you're used to like
going to the gym every morning you wake
up you'll have a Fed body because you're
just always at the gym and it's not like
a practice that you always do right so
you just start to you cannot be an
impostor when you understand that
everything starts in your mind first
that's just how life is even diseases
that we have physical diseases that we
create start first in the mind a lot of
people they get like crazy illnesses
because trauma is stuck a lot of stress
and all these things but these are
emotions it's all emotions before it
comes into the physical so once you
understand that how can you be an
impostor cuz it just it starts here you
know it everything you know they they
say the same thing about being
delusional they say oh no you should not
be delusional we're delusional every
single day every day we're delusional we
wake up thinking we will not die no one
is waking up to today I'm going to die
today I will die no no one everyone
believes that they will live on until
it's your time of course you know what I
mean so you can so you can be delusional
every day in life but not about the
thing that you want that's like too far
right no like once you understand this
mind creates your whole whole life whole
life once you change the mind and once
you change the things that you think or
or you set a goal for yourself in like
this is the person that I want to be
this is who I want to show up as in this
human body yeah cuz it's like a game
then that's who you become that's who
you become that's how people will treat
you that's how your surroundings will
change that's how you will enter rooms
that before you couldn't enter because
now you're just unlocking a new
character of yourself it's fun oh my God
yeah it's like a new level yeah it's
like a new level oh I like that analogy
but okay you also touched on this and
before I forget because your brain is
moving so fast and I'm trying to keep up
I was like it's too fast every time you
say something I make a mental note I
want to ask her this and then we we
reach 10 later but you know you talked
about how even your surroundings right
and the people around you make a big
difference um there's this whole saying
that you are the average of The Five
People You spend most time with but one
thing I have experienced and I'm sure
you have given how how quickly your life
changed as well is that a lot of people
you outgrew friends especially who were
there in very good times and I've been
very surprised to see the how some
friendships evolved and some of them
stayed very true with me throughout but
some people who were there in the
trenches kind of like rooting for me
hoping it will happen but then when it
happens they're not that happy about it
and they don't celebrate your wins how
do you deal with
that well you know it's very logical
that that happens because you're
uncomfortable now yeah they don't want
to be around you it becomes
uncomfortable because now it's like you
were in the same position as them once
right and you made it out so now that
means these people have to look at
themselves and only can blame themselves
now they cannot blame society they
cannot blame the per the place they grew
up in or whatever they cannot blame
outside forces because you did it so
it's like oh so I could do it too but I
didn't and that eats away at them and
then jealousy gots created you know I
think jealousy is a good emotion why
because it shows you what you want if
someone is jealous of me they just want
what I have or they what they think I
have right what the glamorized version
of that is but that's good so now you
have a goal take that jealousy transmute
that jealous energy into creating that
because I'm not sitting here telling I'm
better than you I'm sitting here you can
do the same thing you know I posted
something yesterday on my Tik Tok and um
it said like uh it was like I I get
anything I want you know like an
affirmation and someone commented like
yeah because you're millionaire and I'm
like but I came from nothing though a
few years a few years ago I came from
nothing and I I took care of my family's
financial situation I built everyone and
I made even because I like uh became
successful my family believes in
themselves now and they think like oh we
can do whatever we want cuz Liz did it
right so it's like don't look at my
success and be like Oh but you're here
now three years ago I was just like you
girl just like you literally yeah so
it's like yeah it's the same thing like
take that jealousy and start to look at
okay how can I actually get what they
want if you're jealous of beauty if
you're jealous of whatever that's just
what you want it's an indicator of what
you want cuz it's not about that person
it's every everything in life what we
experience is about ourselves we're
thinking from our perspective always so
anything even someone says to you it's
like a projection of how they feel right
it's not about you so when you realize
like you know what it's not really about
me but I hope you get what you want if
someone is jealous of me I I I send them
like love and I say I hope you get there
cuz that's what you want right otherwise
why are you jealous I'm not jealous of
um what's it called the people that
climb the mountains cuz I don't want to
climb that mountain but I bet there's
some people jealous that someone climbed
that mountain that's what they want it's
good once you take that energy instead
of making it something negative
transmute it people create the biggest
art when they're sad when they're angry
when they're jealous they create crazy
art music everything like uh art pieces
they create everything out of it do it
do the same thing oh uh yeah definitely
I think the main message is being
inspired instead of like being jealous
right see it as a don't demonize the
emotion cuz everyone this is the issue
with jealousy people think I'm jealous
I'm a bad person now you're not you just
want what they want then okay figure out
how can I get there if your friends were
in the same situation and you could get
there they can get there too 100% they
can get there too but just have to think
okay how can I do what she did you know
mhm no absolutely but you know what I
like about you Liz is how you are so
disconnected from whatever is petty you
know you're you're just you you've risen
above and you're just like H this is I I
get the human nature behind it I see
where it comes from you are very good at
recognizing what matters and what
doesn't and you you're good at choosing
your battles how did you get to that
level of being like you know what I'm
not going to sweat the small stuff you
know uh thank you by the way and then
also I feel like ever since I was young
I had that quality so I didn't have time
to be a child I had to grow up very fast
so I was like an adult since I was young
I was like a mother to my mother okay so
because of that whenever I would like
speak or anything my mom used to call me
like a lawyer she's like you defend
anyone you see their perspective from
any person you see a perspective okay
which is not always a good thing but I
do I understand why someone did what
they did I can get into their shoes and
I can almost feel what they felt when
they did that do I accept certain
behaviors even though I understand no I
can understand that what you did was
wrong but you also have to understand
that I will put my boundary here and be
like you won't do that to me ever again
right so that's how I operate I'm like I
can understand I can have empathy with
you I can feel bad for you and think
like I'm I'm happy I'm not in your
position I'm happy I don't wake up a
hater I'm happy that I think God the
biggest curse he gave was that making
someone a hater like imagine waking up
thinking about how many people you hate
or thinking about let's make him
miserable her miserable that's sad so
I'm like thank God that I'm not that
person but I can have empathy for you
but doesn't mean that you have to be in
my life though doesn't mean that I to
and I feel like giving them attention or
feeding into it or let's say reacting to
these things puts them in my life in my
reality but it's like you don't exist in
my world if I don't let you exist in it
and that's it I have that power so I
don't let you exist if I don't like you
you know what I mean absolutely
boundaries right yeah very important
very important but I mean I could speak
to you for hours but we're running out
of time I speak to you for hours thank
you so what would you say is a parting
message or any advice that you would
want to give to anyone listening to you
today I would say like really start
believing in yourself and start
believing in God I think to believe in
God is to believe in yourself I think we
don't ask God for enough things and we
don't ask for big enough things you have
to ask for the small stuff and the big
stuff and I feel like once you have like
lately I've been even closer to God and
I feel like the closer you are to God
the higher your vibration raises
and that's how also the negative things
and the lower vibrational things cannot
affect you CU you're not on that Vibe
you know what I mean so I think believe
in yourself believe that anything you
want can happen and will happen no
matter how long it takes it will happen
it just will and you have to have that
belief but don't become obsessed with it
don't become obsessed when you know when
people become obsessed with certain
things that's when they start to lose
the connection to themselves when you
become obsessed with money you become
obsessed with Fame you become obsessed
with relationships you start to lose
yourself always keep that connection
with yourself and I think one of the
truest way of keeping that connection
with yourself is keeping a connection
with God I love that thank you so much
Liz for being here today so much for
having me no this was incredible and I
wish you only the best and I can't wait
to see how many more Leaps and Bounds
you take online and with everything you
do thank you for helping all of us and
thank you for this therapy session thank
you so much for having me I really
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