0:04 welcome to love Werth fine with Pastor
0:07 teacher and author Adrian Rogers
0:09 reaching out with God's love bringing
0:12 people to Christ touching lives around
0:14 the world and helping you find the
0:17 answers you need today join us as we
0:20 prepare to open God's Word and discover
0:22 how your life can be changed forever by
0:25 his great love worth finding would you
0:28 be finding in God's Word please the book
0:30 of Genesis chapter 2 and in a moment I'm
0:34 going to be begin reading in verse 19
0:38 Genesis chapter 2 verse 19
0:41 I'm told that an angel came to Adam
0:45 before Eve was ever created and said to
0:48 Adam Adam I have a proposition for you
0:51 we're going to craft for you an
0:55 individual he said what an individual
0:59 someone like you but different oh well
1:04 what what will it be like well it's
1:06 going to be a she uh she uh huh
1:08 well what would she do well when you
1:13 come in from tending the garden she'll
1:15 be there at the door beautifully adorned
1:19 and she'll smell so sweet and she'll
1:22 open her arms and give you a big hug and
1:24 bring you in and she'll kiss you she'll
1:28 bring your newspaper to you and she'll
1:32 bring some slippers for you and she'll
1:35 massage your shoulders and then she'll
1:38 have a wonderful meal there and
1:40 afterwards she'll do the dishes and then
1:44 she'll just come and sit it at your feet
1:46 and look up at you and be ready to to do
1:49 anything you wanted to do he said well
1:52 that sounds wonderful said done what's
1:55 that going to cost me
1:59 an angel said that's going to cost you a
2:01 right arm and a leg
2:03 oh so what do you think I could get for
2:08 just a rib
2:18 I won't ask you a question
2:24 who is better the man or the woman the
2:32 answer to that question is yes a man is
2:38 infinitely superior to a woman at being
2:43 a man and a woman is infinitely superior
2:47 to a man at being a woman God made us
2:51 different that he might make us one
2:57 never forget it neither is superior to
3:00 the other but we are very very different
3:03 begin to read with me in the Word of God
3:05 here chapter 2 and verse 19 and out of
3:08 the ground the Lord God formed every
3:10 beast of the field and every fowl of the
3:13 air and brought them unto Adam to see
3:15 what he would call them and whatsoever
3:17 Adam called every living creature that
3:19 was the name thereof and Adam gave names
3:22 to all the cattle and to the fowl of the
3:26 air and to every beast of the field but
3:29 for Adam there was not found and help
3:31 meat that is fitting for him and the
3:35 Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall
3:37 upon Adam and he slept and he took one
3:40 of his ribs and closed up the flesh
3:41 instead thereof and the rib which the
3:45 Lord God had taken from man made he a
3:48 woman and brought her unto the man and
3:52 Adam said this is now bone of my bones
3:56 and flesh of my flesh and she shall be
4:00 called woman because she was taken out
4:03 of man therefore shall a man leave his
4:07 father and his mother and shall cleave
4:09 unto his wife and they shall be one
4:12 flesh and they were both naked and the
4:15 man and his wife the man and his wife
4:17 and they were not ashamed now Adam has
4:22 named the animals but he's looking for
4:25 mate evidently he has a certain
4:27 loneliness about him and none of the
4:29 none of the animals seemed to fit
4:32 and then God makes for Adam this woman
4:37 that he called Eve and when Adam saw her
4:42 What did he say
4:44 not really it loses something in
4:47 translation he says this is bone of my
4:52 bone and flesh of my flesh now what did
4:56 he mean by that
4:57 this is bone of my bone this is flesh of
5:04 my flesh what he is saying is she is not
5:08 another animal she has a skeletal
5:11 structure like me this is bone of my
5:13 bone she doesn't have the kind of
5:15 protoplasm that the animals have this is
5:18 flesh of my flesh what he was saying
5:21 he's been looking at all of the animals
5:23 and they're so different and then he
5:26 looks at her he says I like that this is
5:28 bone of my bone this is flesh of my
5:32 flesh she is like me and by the way the
5:36 book of Genesis is the seedbed of so
5:38 much great truth if you want to know
5:40 what God's pattern for the home is right
5:41 here you're going to see it God meets
5:43 someone like Adam he was not to
5:45 cohabitate with the beasts and that
5:48 tells us that bestiality is a sin
5:50 against Almighty God God made a woman
5:54 not a man for Adam that tells us that
5:56 homosexuality is a sin against God
5:59 this was a woman and only one woman he
6:03 didn't give Adam two that tells us that
6:05 polygamy is a sin against God God's plan
6:09 is one man and one woman together till
6:12 death do them part and so God presented
6:15 this woman to Adam and when Adam saw her
6:17 he said I like her she is like me this
6:23 is bone of my bone this is flesh of my
6:28 flesh but not only did he like her
6:31 because she was like him he liked her
6:34 because she was not like him there was a
6:38 difference and a very real difference
6:41 and it's that difference that we're
6:43 going to talk about you know that
6:45 boss and I are a lot alike but Joyce and
6:48 I are very different as a matter of fact
6:51 they say the more people live together
6:53 the more they become a light they even
6:55 begin to look alike and Joyce is getting
6:58 very concerned Fred we are different as
7:06 well as alike and I want to talk to you
7:10 about the wonderful differences between
7:12 male and female and it's these
7:15 differences believe it or not
7:17 that don't divide us it's these
7:19 differences that unites us God made us
7:22 different that he might make us one now
7:26 I'm going to give you some differences
7:28 between men and women today and these
7:32 are more than mere psychological
7:34 proclivities these are they're by divine
7:37 design now some of you going to come up
7:41 and say well my husband and my wife
7:43 we're not different in those my wife or
7:46 my husband we're not different in that
7:47 particular area where you may not be
7:50 what I'm going to give you today are
7:52 generalities for example let me let me
7:55 give you a generality most men are
7:59 stronger than most women would you agree
8:02 yet there's some women can beat up a lot
8:05 of men right I mean I watch this thing
8:08 on television one night the the
8:10 gladiators or something like that hey
8:12 folks there's some gals there I would
8:15 not want to meet in the dark alley I
8:16 mean I'm talking here about generalities
8:21 generalities as a generality most men
8:24 are stronger than most women we would
8:26 agree with that so when I'm talking to
8:28 you about the differences in the sexes I
8:30 want you to know that I am talking to
8:33 you about generalities now a hammer and
8:36 a screwdriver are different but they're
8:38 both tools and they design for different
8:41 jobs is a hammer better than a
8:43 screwdriver no is a screwdriver better
8:45 than a hammer of course not can you use
8:47 it can you use a screwdriver as a hammer
8:51 a little bit you could turn it upside
8:52 down and with the handle you could drive
8:54 a nail but it won't work quite as well
8:57 as a hammer will
8:58 men and women are different they're
9:00 designed different and sometimes a man
9:02 can do a woman's work and vice versa but
9:04 that doesn't mean that they were
9:06 designed for that all right now let me
9:07 give you some differences and I'm going
9:09 to name these differences so that
9:12 perhaps you can remember them a little
9:14 better the first difference is the
9:16 difference between Beauty and the Beast
9:18 the difference between Beauty and the
9:21 Beast and I've already alluded to this
9:24 women are physically weaker than men men
9:27 are physically stronger than women
9:30 doesn't the Bible tell us what we
9:33 already know in first Peter chapter 3
9:35 and verse 7 likewise she husband's dwell
9:38 with them according to knowledge giving
9:40 honor unto the wife as what as unto the
9:43 weaker vessel now God made Adam stronger
9:49 than he made Eve he had a physical frame
9:52 that was stronger his bones were
9:55 stronger his shoulders were broader why
9:59 what was the job that God gave to Adam
10:02 the job that God gave to Adam was what
10:05 twofold to dress the garden and to keep
10:07 the garden right so he was to be the
10:10 provider and the protector he was the
10:13 provider and the protector he was he had
10:16 a physical frame that could protect Eve
10:20 he had the muscles to dig and chop and
10:23 work in the garden he was that way by
10:26 divine design now what did God make Eve
10:29 to be well the the word Eve means life
10:32 giver she is the nurturer and so God
10:35 made her her physical body to nurture to
10:40 love to be gentle to be soft to be
10:42 cuddly that's what God made her to do
10:45 now because she is weaker than Adam that
10:49 doesn't mean she's inferior to Adam silk
10:53 is weaker than canvas but it is not
10:57 inferior to canvas porcelain is weaker
11:02 than steel is not inferior to steel you
11:08 can make a teacup out of porcelain you
11:10 make a sledgehammer
11:12 steal but you can't drink tea out of a
11:15 sledgehammer God made the woman a more
11:19 fragile he did that on purpose
11:22 40% of a man's body is muscle I'm
11:26 talking on averages only 25% of the
11:30 woman's body is muscle and what about
11:34 the other 15% women have a thin layer of
11:37 cellulite to keep them warm because
11:40 we're going to see later on they don't
11:41 have as much blood in their bodies as
11:44 men have so they have this thin layer of
11:46 cellulite there that is gives them sort
11:49 of an insulation against the cold for
11:53 that reason it's it's easier for a woman
11:55 to gain weight it's easier for a woman
11:58 is harder for her to lose weight man has
12:02 about one and a half gallons of blood a
12:05 woman has about 4/5 of a gallon of blood
12:10 a man has almost 50% more blood flowing
12:14 in his body and and the woman therefore
12:16 doesn't have as many capillaries to
12:18 deliver that blood to her skin surface
12:21 that's the reason your wife constantly
12:23 has cold feet and she ever put those
12:26 feet on you at nighttime her feet are
12:29 cold
12:29 I went as she she gets cold more easily
12:33 that's the reason the women will always
12:35 complain you guys have this place too
12:38 cold and and we say no it's really not
12:41 all that cold but they is cold to them
12:44 if you were to put a thermometer on on
12:46 the surface of her skin that it would
12:49 register different your skin is warmer
12:52 than hers you have more blood you have
12:53 more capillaries sometime when Joyce and
12:56 I will go out for a walk in the morning
12:57 she says it alright today do I need a
13:00 jacket I said no you don't need a jacket
13:01 let's go she gets to the front gate she
13:04 gives me a dirty look and goes back in
13:05 the house and and gets a jacket men and
13:10 women are just simply different and
13:14 don't scold her because she gets cold
13:18 give her your coat if you're a good
13:19 husband as you ought to men have a
13:22 larger lung capacity
13:24 that's the reason in the in athletics
13:27 men can many times outlast a woman bate
13:29 but women have a better immune system
13:32 that's probably why they outlive us a
13:35 lot of you ladies will not be surprised
13:37 to learn that men have thicker skulls
13:40 well women have more brittle bones and
13:45 that's the reason why it's almost always
13:47 a woman in the ad says health I've
13:49 fallen and I can't get up Oh women their
13:52 bones are just more brittle then man
13:55 that's just the way God designed it
13:56 every cell in a woman's body is
13:58 different from the cell in man's body
14:01 women have the double X chromosome men
14:06 have X Y chromosome every cell is
14:10 different that's the reason that Peter
14:12 says that we are to live with them
14:14 according to knowledge man understand
14:17 that God made you not to compete with
14:20 this woman but to protect her to care
14:24 for her to nurture her to provide for
14:27 her
14:29 Joyce saw in a store one time is
14:32 something that that she thought was very
14:34 beautiful and I thought was beautiful
14:35 too was a porcelain a piece of porcelain
14:39 it was a hummingbird sipping nectar from
14:43 a flower and I went down there to price
14:46 that thing in folks
14:48 I had to sell the car in order to get it
14:52 wasn't all that expensive but it wasn't
14:54 cheap I was surprised how much it cost
14:56 but I knew she wanted it and I bought it
14:58 and it's sitting on the piano man when
15:03 the grandkids come I go get that thing
15:04 and I put it up on a high shelf
15:09 now I don't go in the kitchen and take
15:13 all the the stainless steel pots and
15:15 pans and put them on a high shelf
15:17 they're tough but I don't want this
15:19 thing it's delicate you see there ought
15:22 to be that same kind of protective
15:23 instinct for your wife she's delicate
15:26 and and and she's not inferior in many
15:30 ways it's her delicacy that makes her so
15:33 wonderful but God has given you as the
15:35 as the stronger person of the stronger
15:40 vessel to give honor to the wife as unto
15:42 the weaker vessel now the man is
15:45 stronger the woman is weaker physically
15:48 which is superior
15:50 neither one neither is better just
15:54 different got it
15:56 neither is better just different all
15:59 right now here's the second thing not
16:00 only Beauty and the Beast but the
16:02 tortoise and the hare you remember the
16:05 race where the the hare har II the
16:07 rabbit and the tortoise got in a race
16:10 and the rabbit boy he just takes off
16:12 like a big nine in and the tortoise is
16:15 just plodding along but you remember the
16:17 old rabbit he's so sure of himself he he
16:21 sits around and rest and waddles and all
16:23 of this stuff is tough and ultimately
16:25 the the tortoise wins the race now what
16:30 is the difference men you are like the
16:33 hare like the rabbit your wife is like
16:36 the tortoise you have a lot more energy
16:39 but she has a lot more durability I say
16:44 you have more energy except in one area
16:46 and that's in shopping now it's encoded
16:49 in her DNA that she has more for
16:51 shopping as a matter of fact I some of
16:53 the women in this congregation have a
16:55 black belt in shopping but you need to
17:02 learn about your wife that she's going
17:04 to get tired when you don't get tired
17:06 you have more red blood corpuscles to
17:09 deliver energy to your cells you have a
17:11 bigger lung capacity that's going to
17:13 give more oxygen and but she has a
17:15 better immune to system
17:18 are built to provide and to protect she
17:22 is not so for you you might win the
17:26 hundred yard dash in life but she's
17:28 going to win the marathon which is
17:30 better neither is better at age twenty a
17:34 woman's body begins to deteriorate at
17:37 about two percent per year at age twenty
17:41 a man's body begins to deteriorate about
17:43 ten percent a year and after age of 40
17:49 it's even faster than that so just don't
17:53 demand that your wife keep up with you
17:55 don't criticize her don't call her lazy
17:57 and and understand lady the drive and
18:02 the energy that your husband sometimes
18:04 has which is better neither is better
18:08 just different now Beauty and the Beast
18:11 The Tortoise and the hare here's a third
18:15 difference the romantic and the mechanic
18:19 I mean men have a job what is their job
18:26 to dress the garden and to keep the
18:28 garden what do they need for that a hard
18:31 outer shell women what is their
18:35 responsibility there the homemaker there
18:37 to love there to nurture there to be
18:39 soft they are to raise the children lady
18:43 you need to understand that he will
18:45 never have the romantic heart that you
18:47 want him to have he's just not wired
18:50 that way oh I know he had it before you
18:54 were married I understand that but as
18:57 soon as you got married he had a brain
18:58 transplant and that's that was a part of
19:03 his skill in in landing you you just go
19:08 and see the books that women read and
19:10 see the books that men read and you're
19:12 going to understand what what kind of
19:14 books do women read well women read
19:16 books that deal with relationships most
19:19 of them are written by women for women
19:21 pick up the women's magazines hear the
19:24 articles how do you develop closeness
19:26 with your husband harmony and marriage
19:29 five ways to achieve intimacy
19:33 water men reading how to remodel your
19:37 garage how to double your gas mileage
19:40 how to be a champion bass fisherman
19:43 that's what men are reading hey folks it
19:46 comes with the territory women are just
19:50 different from men you can go to any
19:52 high school and watch the way the girls
19:54 carry the books and watch the way the
19:56 guys carry the books how do girls carry
19:58 books watch them they care I'm just like
19:59 there's like carrying a baby they just
20:01 hook them up laying this hug the books
20:02 men carry the books like this if they
20:04 carry them at all give a little boy a
20:11 dollar he'll use it for hammering tada
20:14 that's just the difference now that some
20:17 people try to tell us that these
20:19 differences are learned they are not
20:21 friend they are encoded I'm going to
20:23 show you that in a moment as a matter of
20:26 fact if you were to read the Song of
20:28 Solomon it's it's it's a love song it's
20:31 highly spiritual but it's very plain
20:34 about the the relationship between the
20:36 sexes and it's talking about Solomon and
20:39 the one that he loves and don't turn to
20:42 but let me just read you two passages
20:44 out of the Song of Solomon that first of
20:47 all here here is Solomon's lover his is
20:51 his sweetheart and she's talking about
20:54 Solomon in chapter 3 verses 1 through 4
20:57 and it says by night on my bed I sought
21:00 him whom my soul loveth I sought him but
21:04 I found him not I will rise now and go
21:07 about the city in the streets and go
21:10 about the broad ways I will seek him
21:12 whom my soul loveth that's the second
21:15 time she said he's my lover the one I
21:17 love I sought him but I found him not
21:20 but watchman to go about the city found
21:23 me to whom I said saw you him whom my
21:27 soul loveth and she's so romantic she's
21:30 talking about him and how much she loves
21:33 him and she goes on to say it was but a
21:36 little that I passed from them but I
21:39 found him whom my soul loveth I held him
21:43 and would not let him
21:45 go now listen this this woman she's so
21:48 romantic
21:49 my soul loves him I love him I love him
21:51 I love him I love him now let's see how
21:53 he talks about her in in chapter 4
21:57 verses 1 through 5 he's talking about
22:00 her now behold Thou Art Fair my love
22:04 behold Thou Art Fair that means
22:06 beautiful
22:06 thou hast doves eyes between thy locks
22:09 thy hair is as a flock of goats that
22:12 appear from mount gilead and this day
22:14 that was good enough flock of goats by
22:17 teeth are like a flock of sheep that are
22:20 even shorn which came up from the
22:22 washing every one of them bare twins
22:24 there's none barren among them she had
22:27 all of her teeth bye-bye-bye lips are
22:31 like a thread of scarlet and thy speech
22:34 is comely thy temples are like a piece
22:36 of pomegranate within thy locks by neck
22:38 is like the Tower of David builded for
22:40 an armory whereupon there hang a
22:42 thousand buckler's all shields of mighty
22:44 men she must had a beautiful gorgeous
22:47 necklace on by two breasts are like two
22:51 young rows that are twins which feed
22:53 among the lilies now what's he doing
22:54 he's describing her now she she is
22:58 calling him my love my lover my
23:00 sweetheart my lover but he's saying boy
23:02 she is a knockout I mean watch he turned
23:05 on by ladies you better learn this he
23:08 has not turned on by romance he is
23:11 turned on visually he is turned on by
23:14 her beauty he is a creature that is
23:16 attracted by what he sees that's the
23:20 difference between the sexes this
23:23 sometimes causes such misunderstanding
23:25 you know women are romantic and they
23:27 long for more than anything else to have
23:29 a romantic husband so what they think is
23:31 we're going to have a very romantic
23:33 evening and so she fixes this beautiful
23:37 candlelight dinner and then she lights
23:39 candles and sprays incense around and
23:41 does all these kind of things and gets
23:43 real soft music playing she says this is
23:46 going to turn him on you know what
23:47 happens he goes to sleep puts him to
23:50 sleep
23:51 I mean she's saying boy we're gonna be
23:53 so romantic she ought to learn she'll
23:57 learn what turns him on
23:59 is her physical beauty he is attracted
24:02 to her physically now be smart men and
24:06 and learned to be romantic be smart
24:10 ladies and learn how to be beautiful and
24:14 keep yourself as much as possible
24:16 physically attractive for the husband Oh
24:19 which is better neither is better folks
24:22 they are just different God made us
24:27 different let me tell you another way
24:29 that men and women are different
24:31 it's the radar versus the computer now
24:34 the woman is the radar the man is the
24:37 computer men and women process
24:40 information differently I clipped this
24:42 out of USA Today it's a big article I
24:45 wish I could read it all it shows on the
24:48 front page here of two minds and it
24:51 talks about gender and areas of activity
24:54 a sophisticated form of magnetic
24:57 resonance imaging on living brains shows
25:01 women used both hemispheres to solve a
25:04 certain language problem men use only
25:07 one ladies you've always suspected that
25:11 men had half a mind
25:12 now this scientifically they are showing
25:17 what we have known for a long time you
25:19 know the two hemispheres
25:21 in your brain and the left hemisphere
25:24 deals primarily with logic reasoning
25:28 calculation and so forth the right
25:30 hemisphere deals with feeling emotion
25:33 sympathy love intuition now men used
25:38 primarily the left side of their brain
25:41 women use both sides of the brain they
25:44 have proven it scientifically now and
25:47 here I'm going to read a part of this we
25:50 know from brain autopsies that the
25:52 corpus callosum the mass of fibers
25:55 connecting the brains right and left
25:57 hemispheres is larger in proportion to
26:00 brain weight in women than men more
26:05 information is being exchanged between
26:06 the two hemispheres and women and that
26:09 could account for women's greater verbal
26:12 skills
26:12 and even explained women's intuition the
26:17 female brain has emotional capabilities
26:19 on both sides
26:20 a man's is centered on the right that
26:25 plus a woman's greater connections
26:27 between hemispheres may make it easier
26:29 for her to express emotions but that may
26:32 also mean she is less able to separate
26:35 emotion from reason hi guys I'm plowing
26:39 close to the corn here but let me taste
26:40 something there is a difference there is
26:44 a real difference that the way women
26:46 look at things and the way men look at
26:48 things and this is the source of so many
26:51 of our arguments men tend to be more
26:55 logical and analytical and factual in
26:58 their thinking this is not to say a
26:59 woman cannot be but at the same time she
27:02 is thinking logically and analytically
27:04 and factually she is mixing in emotion
27:07 at the same time now women are
27:11 detail-oriented and they do what I call
27:14 spiderweb thinking men don't do
27:19 spiderweb thinking men think like this
27:23 but you could you could you could you
27:28 and we're gonna go like this
27:31 and so folks you are trying to say let's
27:34 clear this thing out and then we'll do
27:36 that and then we'll clear this out and
27:37 we'll do this she's not doing that she's
27:40 doing this and and and you're gonna have
27:43 all kinds of misunderstandings if you
27:46 don't understand that for example she
27:49 wants all of the little details they're
27:51 all in her computer she's using both
27:53 sides of her brain at the same time and
27:55 really in many ways she's superior to
27:57 you because she has the ability to do
28:00 this and she wants all the details she
28:03 can put them in then she can deal with
28:04 them all at one time she's using both
28:06 sides you you've just got half a brain
28:08 mister and so you come home and she says
28:14 how was your day today
28:18 what are you going to you're gonna tell
28:20 her elaborately how your day was so you
28:22 say it's fine
28:26 what happened well we we had a meeting
28:28 we did some things we revamped a program
28:31 down at the church
28:32 she won't snow who was there why'd you
28:35 talk about did you all go at the eat
28:37 where'd you eat what happened or what
28:39 you wear I and you so well that don't
28:45 have anything to do with it I mean
28:46 that's what we did now you make a
28:49 mistake and ask her how her day was
28:54 and you're gonna get you're gonna get
28:57 more information than you wanted it's
29:00 just the way we are she thinks that
29:02 you're being evasive and shutting her
29:04 out you think that she's going on and on
29:06 and on
29:09 astronaut Michael Collins said that a
29:12 man speaks in a day an average day about
29:16 25,000 words a woman about 30,000 words
29:19 in an average day he said the problem is
29:22 when I come home at night I have used up
29:23 my 25,000 and she hadn't even started on
29:26 hers generally speaking women are
29:34 generally speaking the left side is
29:40 logical rational objective precise it's
29:44 the the the the right side is the
29:48 affective domain feelings subjectivity
29:50 sense of that's the reason that men cry
29:52 less because they've got a disconnect up
29:56 there women cry more usually that's the
29:59 reason that you and your wife can be
30:02 having a big argument it just destroy
30:05 you and you're just going out to this
30:08 job or go watch your television go play
30:10 golf you say how can he do that he just
30:12 shuts off the right side I mean he just
30:14 he just there's a disconnect in there
30:17 that women don't have which is better
30:20 God made us different that he might make
30:23 us one you see you are you're your brain
30:29 left side worse like the computer her
30:31 right side works like a radar she has a
30:34 great big reception disk as just
30:36 sleeping it's just it's just taking in
30:38 everything just like this and they see
30:43 things they feel things they can tell
30:45 when feelings are hurt jaws will tell me
30:47 you hurt that person's feelings I know
30:49 no she said you did how could you did
30:53 and she's right she they can just sweep
30:56 the room they can walk in a room and and
30:59 pick up things they're test women get
31:02 these details that men don't get
31:06 I can get dressed to walk out and I
31:09 think I look alright you also see the
31:11 piece of lint she say you ties not
31:14 straight whatever they are
31:16 detail-oriented they get all of these
31:18 details that's the reason that she can
31:20 tell you when you want to get in some
31:22 business deals she'll say I just don't
31:23 like that guy
31:24 well why what's wrong with it I don't
31:27 know but she's processing so many little
31:29 bits of information she can just say
31:32 there's something bad about that and
31:33 here's here's the aggravating thing
31:35 about it she's right
31:36 she is right now how does she know this
31:39 it's what we call women's intuition
31:43 women are just different they're
31:45 different watch them when they sit at a
31:48 table and and and have a lunch they're
31:50 all talking at the same time around
31:52 things but every one of them knows what
31:55 each of the other is saying all at the
31:57 same time they'll be one we'll be
32:00 talking to a woman here and this your
32:02 turn around said no that's not right and
32:03 then go right back it's an incredible
32:06 thing that radars is going to miss tall
32:17 you've got two pair of rabbit ears
32:22 just different which is better and
32:29 neither is better have you ever noticed
32:32 back to the restaurant the woman wants
32:34 to go to restroom she says I want to go
32:35 to restroom y'all want to go with me and
32:37 they all go together
32:38 hey that's incredible I've never seen a
32:42 man say how many of you want to go the
32:43 restroom
32:55 I don't understand it
33:00 which is better the computer or the
33:04 radar neither is better they're just
33:06 different thank God for the difference a
33:12 woman is a code speaker a man as a
33:15 reporter a woman uses language to
33:19 express emotion a man uses language
33:21 primarily to dispense facts women share
33:25 men report that's the difference in the
33:28 way that men and women are taught and
33:30 you better learn this
33:32 I mean don't listen to what a woman says
33:35 listen to what she means that's hard if
33:40 you listen
33:44 if you sense for example that she seems
33:48 nervous and tense and upset and you come
33:52 home and you say to her hey is something
33:56 wrong and she said nothing is wrong hey
34:02 guys that means everything is wrong you
34:06 gotta listen if she says nothing is
34:09 wrong don't say well good I thought
34:10 something was wrong no when she says
34:15 nothing is wrong that means everything
34:16 is wrong when she says do I look alright
34:18 that means tell me I'm beautiful don't
34:20 listen to what she says listen to what
34:22 she means they speak in code in code men
34:29 report women share men report there's
34:32 just a difference now I wish I had time
34:36 but I've got to quit here's is one more
34:38 thing there's the difference between the
34:40 lover and the achiever the lover and the
34:43 achiever women are lovers men are
34:46 achievers the Bible says in Ephesians
34:48 chapter 5 verse 33 nevertheless let
34:51 every one of you in particular so love
34:53 his wife even even as himself and the
34:56 wife see that she reverence or respect
34:59 her husband now what does God tell the
35:01 man to do he says tells the man to love
35:02 his wife what does God tell the wife to
35:06 do he tells the wife to reverence or
35:08 respect her husband why because what is
35:10 the deepest need of a woman a polls have
35:15 been taken and women have been asked
35:18 what is your deepest need your deepest
35:22 need do you know what it is romance they
35:27 want to be loved they won't be cherished
35:29 they won't be prized they want to be
35:30 hell they want to be adored they want to
35:32 be put on a pedestal they want to be
35:34 number one in your parade they want to
35:38 be loved now what is man's greatest need
35:42 he wants to be admired he wants to be
35:46 respected she is a lover but he is an
35:50 achiever God gave her a nurturing
35:53 instinct but God told him to dress the
35:54 garden and keep the garden God equipped
35:56 him mentally
35:57 do that God gave him that hard exterior
35:59 he wants to be admired by her
36:03 I want Joyce to admire me I get more
36:06 blessing when Joyce admires me and and
36:10 says Adrienne that you are wonderful she
36:12 gets a blessing when I am romantic and
36:14 loving and tender toward her when they
36:18 gave them in the same poll romance link
36:21 or what rated number 28 - man now when a
36:27 woman tells a man a problem you know
36:29 what the average man will do he'll try
36:32 to fix it she don't want you to fix it
36:34 Joyce was in the airport here while back
36:37 she's over in Knoxville she missed a
36:38 plane she called me she said I just
36:41 missed the plane I said well go to
36:46 another County she that did that I said
36:49 there's another plane she said I just
36:50 missed the plane I said well what time
36:52 should I just miss the plane I said well
36:55 what I just missed the plane well I said
36:58 Joyce
37:02 that was a mistake she did not want me
37:09 to fix it trying to fix it acted like I
37:13 didn't want to hear her but I didn't
37:15 want that she wanted sympathy she wanted
37:18 meat men they don't always want you to
37:20 fix it they just want you to hug them
37:22 and to love them they won't love but
37:25 what does a man want a man wants
37:28 admiration he gets his success he gets
37:32 his joy out of being successful I wish I
37:34 had more time but men should show your
37:38 wives show your wives more tenderness
37:42 show them more love be more patient give
37:45 more honors unto the weaker vessel
37:47 ladies when you're having a conversation
37:50 and your husband wants the facts cut to
37:52 the chase will you I mean this tell us
37:56 upfront what you're talking about then
37:57 you can embellish it later on and then
37:59 we'll have at least some idea how to
38:00 process the information would you do
38:02 that please and hey keep yourself
38:07 beautiful for us and guys try to be a
38:11 little more romantic as a matter of fact
38:13 both of us need to learn which is better
38:15 neither is better we are just different
38:19 when they built the San Francisco bridge
38:22 the engineers built that bridge or all
38:26 of the parts inter fit but they all sway
38:29 in the middle of that suspension bridge
38:31 that one mile span it will sway as much
38:34 as 20 feet there's concrete and steel
38:36 it's all bolted and welded together but
38:39 there's there's flexibility there's
38:41 elasticity there but there are two
38:43 incredible towers great towers that go
38:46 down down down to bedrock
38:47 and all of those cables connect
38:49 everything to those two great towers got
38:52 it
38:53 now what keeps that bridge up two things
38:57 number one the foundation number two the
39:03 flexibility okay now what is the what
39:08 are two great towers for your home love
39:11 for God and love for one another
39:14 that's the bedrock the rest of it is the
39:18 flexibility that keeps your bridge from
39:20 falling down aren't you glad to god made
39:23 us different any great living with a man
39:25 or living with a woman thank God for it
39:27 thank God let's celebrate the difference
39:30 now bow your heads in prayer heads are
39:32 bowed eyes are closed now folks without
39:37 Jesus you just can't have the right kind
39:39 of a home without truly knowing him as
39:42 Lord and Savior and if you have never
39:45 received Christ in your heart as your
39:47 Lord and Savior I want to invite you to
39:49 do it right now no one leaving please no
39:52 one's stirring unless it is an emergency
39:53 if you've never invited Christ into your
39:56 heart would you pray a prayer like this
39:57 dear God I need you I want you Jesus you
40:04 died to save me
40:05 you promised to save me if I would only
40:08 trust you I do trust you Jesus telling
40:12 that coming to my heart forgive my sin I
40:17 turn from my sin forgive me cleanse me
40:21 save me Lord Jesus would you pray that
40:24 prayer and then pray this Lord Jesus
40:28 because you died for me I will live for
40:32 you the rest of my life now give me the
40:35 courage to make it public help me not to
40:38 be ashamed of you in your name I pray
40:41 amen
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