0:02 Okay, let's talk about this. Look, these
0:04 three things are the only three things
0:06 you have to do to become harder to
0:09 increase your value as a person. Um, as
0:11 soon as I did the the things that I'm
0:13 going to talk about it, at least from my
0:15 experience, my dating life completely
0:17 changed and even my relationship with my
0:20 friends changed. My relationship with my
0:21 family changed. Um, because a lot of the
0:24 times, you know, a lot of the times we
0:27 self-sabotage, right?
0:29 meaning we we actually have what we
0:32 want, but because we're so afraid of
0:34 losing it, we end up losing it. If you
0:38 weren't so afraid, you would not have
0:40 lost it. Um, for example, me as a guy,
0:43 I'll say hi to a woman and because of my
0:46 insecurities, I'll say maybe she doesn't
0:48 think I'm I'm good-looking enough. And
0:50 then I'll double text, triple text
0:52 because of my fear that I'm not enough
0:55 for her. when in reality she had me, but
0:58 then she saw me being needy and creepy.
1:00 She's like, "Okay, this is not the
1:01 person that I thought he was." And then
1:03 all of a sudden, I lost her. In my mind,
1:05 I felt like she didn't like me from the
1:07 beginning. But the truth is, I just
1:09 fumbled the bag. I talked too much. I
1:11 did too much. And people sense that as
1:14 insecurity. And that's one of the many
1:17 things that we're going to be talking
1:18 about today. And that's the subject of
1:19 this video. If you guys enjoy this type
1:21 of content, click on the description
1:22 down below if you guys want to work with
1:24 me oneon-one. Okay. So um the first one
1:27 is stop isolating yourself. Um and this
1:30 one is the source of of
1:35 addiction. This is the source of most
1:37 people's um low self-esteem. Um this is
1:40 the source of why some people change
1:43 over time for the worst. Because when
1:46 you selfisolate, you start to develop
1:48 world views that literally is completely
1:52 disconnected from reality. And that
1:54 world view a lot of the times pushes
1:56 people away and you come across as a
1:58 crazy person. So that means get off of
2:01 social media. That means stop doing Zoom
2:04 things. Meet people in real life because
2:07 when you start isolating yourself, you
2:09 just develop habits that push people
2:11 away but you're just not aware of it.
2:13 Um, a lot of times you develop
2:15 anxieties, you develop drug addictions
2:17 or or worse, it reinforces anxieties,
2:21 reinforces drug addictions, right? And
2:24 you develop needy, creepy habits and and
2:27 you become you get used to being alone
2:29 and when you're around someone, you
2:31 start to feel awkward, which causes you
2:33 to do more things to suppress the
2:35 feeling of insecurity. Um, so stop
2:37 selfisolating, be around people, be a
2:40 human being. All right, the next one.
2:42 Self-regulate. Self-regulate your
2:44 emotions. Stop using drugs. Stop eating
2:48 to make you feel better. All of those
2:49 things make you unattractive. All of
2:51 those things make you gain weight. All
2:53 of those things disbalances your em your
2:55 your your emotions. All of these things
2:57 make you dependent on things that that's
2:59 outside of yourself. The goal is to
3:02 become your own ecosystem of positive
3:04 emotions. Right? So, when you learn to
3:06 self-regulate, you stop binge eating.
3:09 you stop using drugs, right? You start
3:12 depending and being more social around
3:15 people, right? But when you are when you
3:18 depend on things to make you happy, um a
3:20 lot of times that that might cause you
3:22 to become a people
3:23 pleaser, right? Because when you can't
3:26 control your emotions, you start
3:28 supplicating to other people to help you
3:30 to help for them to help you control it.
3:32 So that's when you start being needy and
3:34 creepy, right? Um and and you'll see
3:36 this a lot, right? When people
3:37 selfisolate and they don't know how to
3:39 control their emotions, they get
3:42 fat or they develop drug addictions or
3:45 they start taking it out on their
3:46 partners and pushing them pushing them
3:48 away. You start to develop mental
3:50 problems when you don't know how to
3:51 self-regulate. You learn to
3:53 self-regulate and you will come to go to
3:56 the most common conclusions.
3:58 Work out, eat healthy, be around people,
4:01 do what you love, push people away that
4:04 are bad for you, draw people in that are
4:05 good for you. These are you'll literally
4:08 start to do what I say on my videos. But
4:11 when you are alone a lot, when you don't
4:15 self-regulate, you're not going to do
4:17 this and you're not going to want to do
4:20 this. So, how do you self-regulate?
4:23 Well, understand that don't believe your
4:26 mind that says to act out on your
4:28 impulses is how you treat them. The way
4:31 you deal with your impulses with your
4:34 neediness and and and resentment is to
4:37 literally observe
4:39 them. Observe them. See, see them for
4:42 what they are. develop a meditation
4:44 practice and talk to someone about that
4:48 because you you you there like you
4:50 humans have to understand you have
4:52 limitations and if you are by yourself
4:55 and you feel a desire because you feel
4:58 lonely or you don't have a lot of
4:59 friends and you're by yourself insecure
5:02 mind is going to suggest things that
5:04 further isolates you but that looks like
5:06 a solution. It'll suggest maybe you
5:09 should do drugs, maybe you should pay
5:11 for poo poo, maybe maybe you should get
5:14 another maybe you should get another
5:17 partner. And all of those things are
5:19 just suggestions that keep you in your
5:21 comfort zone. The very same comfort zone
5:23 that got you to where you are, right? Um
5:26 so that's why you got to talk to other
5:27 people. like you got to either join a
5:29 support group um um join a meditation
5:32 group, see a psychologist, but being by
5:36 yourself when you have issues, it's
5:38 really detrimental. You you you can't
5:40 win. Like honestly, you can't win. You
5:42 got to be around other people. Um and
5:44 the last thing is stop taking things
5:47 personal. They a lot of the times when
5:49 people are are inconsistent with you, a
5:52 lot of the times they're not being
5:53 inconsistent because of you. They're
5:55 being inconsistent because of issues
5:56 that you just don't know. And when you
6:00 take things personal, you start to react
6:02 to things that don't exist. Like I
6:05 remember when I was younger, I thought
6:06 that women who canceled on me last
6:08 minute were like this is this this is
6:09 exactly what I thought. I'm about to
6:12 cancel at home. It's like he he he's
6:14 going to be so mad. Like I really
6:16 thought that's how like that was my
6:18 projection. Truth is they cancelled
6:20 because they maybe had a boyfriend. I
6:22 met them on Tinder. that maybe they
6:25 didn't take men seriously or maybe they
6:28 had a fear of abandonment and they
6:29 didn't want to get rejected or maybe men
6:32 the last boyfriend hurt her and now she
6:34 wants to inflict pain on men. But in my
6:37 in my point of view I'm taking it
6:39 personal. I'm like yo she really is
6:40 trying to [ __ ] with me when in reality
6:43 she just has issues and you just don't
6:45 know it. If you knew the issues and why
6:47 she's doing what she's doing you
6:49 wouldn't take it personal. You just
6:51 wouldn't. And by me taking it personal,
6:52 I developed I developed a a bitterness
6:55 towards women. And it made me want to be
6:58 more of a player, right? Almost like I
6:59 said, "Oh, y'all want to [ __ ] with me?
7:01 I'mma [ __ ] with you, too." And then a
7:03 woman will encounter me and she like,
7:04 "Yo, why is this guy being so
7:05 inconsistent? Why is he playing games?
7:07 Like, what did I do to him?" Right? I'm
7:09 perpetuating the cycle. And what what
7:12 happens is that you actually push good
7:14 women away. And you only attract those
7:16 women who who want to play the game with
7:18 you. And then you say, "Oh, all the
7:20 women are players. Oh, women women say
7:22 they want a relationship, but but look
7:24 at that. Look at the way they are." But
7:26 but it's like, "No, it's because the
7:28 reason why you're doing this because
7:29 you're reacting to an energy that
7:30 doesn't exist in your life." But because
7:32 you are reacting to that energy, you're
7:34 creating that reality and then you're
7:37 putting it out into the universe. If I
7:39 just understand that, maybe she canceled
7:40 on me because she just doesn't like
7:41 relationships. Maybe she canceled
7:43 because maybe she just doesn't like
7:45 intimacy. Maybe she cancels just because
7:47 like I'm not her type. And that's okay.
7:50 When you do that, then you don't create
7:52 a mental phantom that literally
7:54 recreates it the next time you encounter
7:56 someone because you're like, "Oh, oh,
7:57 this person is going to be like the last
7:58 person [ __ ] cancel. Let let me take a
8:01 long time to respond." And now you're
8:03 creating those games, right? And a lot
8:06 of times that's why you may you might
8:08 notice that you keep repeating the same
8:10 thing. People keeping, people keep
8:12 playing you. Well, maybe it's because
8:15 you're seeing things in your mind and
8:17 you're also eliciting that response from
8:19 them. An example is like imagine
8:20 somebody's being stubborn, right?
8:22 Somebody says, "Apple is red and you're
8:24 like, and no, you say apple is red." And
8:26 they're like, "No, Apple's green." And
8:28 and they do it with so much
8:29 defensiveness. You're like, "The [ __ ]
8:32 The [ __ ] [ __ ] you, man. Apple's red,
8:34 [ __ ] No, Apple is green." And because
8:36 they're so defensive, yo, I'm like,
8:38 "Yeah, I'mma prove this my [ __ ]
8:39 wrong, [ __ ] Look, apples are
8:42 red, you dummy. Right? And so that like
8:45 their defensiveness makes me defensive,
8:47 right? People cannot consciously sense
8:50 when you're being defensive, man. And
8:52 and and and you get that energy back.
8:55 Just don't try. Stop trying not to get
8:57 hurt. Stop trying to impress people.
9:00 Stop trying to control things. Allow
9:03 things to happen. Allow people to hurt
9:05 you.
9:07 start telling yourself a different
9:08 narrative in in your mind and stop going
9:10 Bronx mode. What will happen is that
9:13 you'll notice that when you when you
9:16 stop trying to impress people, you'll
9:18 notice something in you
9:20 relaxes. Like you'll notice it, you'll
9:22 literally sense yourself relax. And if
9:25 you talk to people now and with that
9:28 relaxed mind, which is okay, I'm I'm
9:30 done trying to impress them or I'm done
9:32 trying not to get hurt. Oh, that oh man,
9:35 something beautiful happens. People
9:38 actually start treating you nicer and
9:40 what you notice is that you were the
9:42 cause of people's defensiveness. The
9:45 problem is that you just misinterpreted
9:46 so many events, you made them into a
9:49 reality, right? So remember, man, um
9:52 don't be alone. Self-regulate your
9:55 emotions and stop taking things
9:57 personal. When you do that, you'll be
9:59 able to interact with people better, and
10:01 it it'll it'll make you much more
10:03 attractive, right? And then, and the
10:04 last thing is that when you do all of
10:06 this, your nonverbal cues will calm
10:09 down. Your non-verbal cues will look
10:11 more attractive. Your non-verbal cues
10:13 will look just more relaxed, and you'll
10:15 just come across as more confident. All
10:17 right, anyways, take care. Bye-bye.
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