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Okay, let's talk about this. Look, these
three things are the only three things
you have to do to become harder to
increase your value as a person. Um, as
soon as I did the the things that I'm
going to talk about it, at least from my
experience, my dating life completely
changed and even my relationship with my
friends changed. My relationship with my
family changed. Um, because a lot of the
times, you know, a lot of the times we
self-sabotage, right?
meaning we we actually have what we
want, but because we're so afraid of
losing it, we end up losing it. If you
weren't so afraid, you would not have
lost it. Um, for example, me as a guy,
I'll say hi to a woman and because of my
insecurities, I'll say maybe she doesn't
think I'm I'm good-looking enough. And
then I'll double text, triple text
because of my fear that I'm not enough
for her. when in reality she had me, but
then she saw me being needy and creepy.
She's like, "Okay, this is not the
person that I thought he was." And then
all of a sudden, I lost her. In my mind,
I felt like she didn't like me from the
beginning. But the truth is, I just
fumbled the bag. I talked too much. I
did too much. And people sense that as
insecurity. And that's one of the many
things that we're going to be talking
about today. And that's the subject of
this video. If you guys enjoy this type
of content, click on the description
down below if you guys want to work with
me oneon-one. Okay. So um the first one
is stop isolating yourself. Um and this
one is the source of of
addiction. This is the source of most
people's um low self-esteem. Um this is
the source of why some people change
over time for the worst. Because when
you selfisolate, you start to develop
world views that literally is completely
disconnected from reality. And that
world view a lot of the times pushes
people away and you come across as a
crazy person. So that means get off of
social media. That means stop doing Zoom
things. Meet people in real life because
when you start isolating yourself, you
just develop habits that push people
away but you're just not aware of it.
Um, a lot of times you develop
anxieties, you develop drug addictions
or or worse, it reinforces anxieties,
reinforces drug addictions, right? And
you develop needy, creepy habits and and
you become you get used to being alone
and when you're around someone, you
start to feel awkward, which causes you
to do more things to suppress the
feeling of insecurity. Um, so stop
selfisolating, be around people, be a
human being. All right, the next one.
Self-regulate. Self-regulate your
emotions. Stop using drugs. Stop eating
to make you feel better. All of those
things make you unattractive. All of
those things make you gain weight. All
of those things disbalances your em your
your your emotions. All of these things
make you dependent on things that that's
outside of yourself. The goal is to
become your own ecosystem of positive
emotions. Right? So, when you learn to
self-regulate, you stop binge eating.
you stop using drugs, right? You start
depending and being more social around
people, right? But when you are when you
depend on things to make you happy, um a
lot of times that that might cause you
to become a people
pleaser, right? Because when you can't
control your emotions, you start
supplicating to other people to help you
to help for them to help you control it.
So that's when you start being needy and
creepy, right? Um and and you'll see
this a lot, right? When people
selfisolate and they don't know how to
control their emotions, they get
fat or they develop drug addictions or
they start taking it out on their
partners and pushing them pushing them
away. You start to develop mental
problems when you don't know how to
self-regulate. You learn to
self-regulate and you will come to go to
the most common conclusions.
Work out, eat healthy, be around people,
do what you love, push people away that
are bad for you, draw people in that are
good for you. These are you'll literally
start to do what I say on my videos. But
when you are alone a lot, when you don't
self-regulate, you're not going to do
this and you're not going to want to do
this. So, how do you self-regulate?
Well, understand that don't believe your
mind that says to act out on your
impulses is how you treat them. The way
you deal with your impulses with your
neediness and and and resentment is to
literally observe
them. Observe them. See, see them for
what they are. develop a meditation
practice and talk to someone about that
because you you you there like you
humans have to understand you have
limitations and if you are by yourself
and you feel a desire because you feel
lonely or you don't have a lot of
friends and you're by yourself insecure
mind is going to suggest things that
further isolates you but that looks like
a solution. It'll suggest maybe you
should do drugs, maybe you should pay
for poo poo, maybe maybe you should get
another maybe you should get another
partner. And all of those things are
just suggestions that keep you in your
comfort zone. The very same comfort zone
that got you to where you are, right? Um
so that's why you got to talk to other
people. like you got to either join a
support group um um join a meditation
group, see a psychologist, but being by
yourself when you have issues, it's
really detrimental. You you you can't
win. Like honestly, you can't win. You
got to be around other people. Um and
the last thing is stop taking things
personal. They a lot of the times when
people are are inconsistent with you, a
lot of the times they're not being
inconsistent because of you. They're
being inconsistent because of issues
that you just don't know. And when you
take things personal, you start to react
to things that don't exist. Like I
remember when I was younger, I thought
that women who canceled on me last
minute were like this is this this is
exactly what I thought. I'm about to
cancel at home. It's like he he he's
going to be so mad. Like I really
thought that's how like that was my
projection. Truth is they cancelled
because they maybe had a boyfriend. I
met them on Tinder. that maybe they
didn't take men seriously or maybe they
had a fear of abandonment and they
didn't want to get rejected or maybe men
the last boyfriend hurt her and now she
wants to inflict pain on men. But in my
in my point of view I'm taking it
personal. I'm like yo she really is
trying to [ __ ] with me when in reality
she just has issues and you just don't
know it. If you knew the issues and why
she's doing what she's doing you
wouldn't take it personal. You just
wouldn't. And by me taking it personal,
I developed I developed a a bitterness
towards women. And it made me want to be
more of a player, right? Almost like I
said, "Oh, y'all want to [ __ ] with me?
I'mma [ __ ] with you, too." And then a
woman will encounter me and she like,
"Yo, why is this guy being so
inconsistent? Why is he playing games?
Like, what did I do to him?" Right? I'm
perpetuating the cycle. And what what
happens is that you actually push good
women away. And you only attract those
women who who want to play the game with
you. And then you say, "Oh, all the
women are players. Oh, women women say
they want a relationship, but but look
at that. Look at the way they are." But
but it's like, "No, it's because the
reason why you're doing this because
you're reacting to an energy that
doesn't exist in your life." But because
you are reacting to that energy, you're
creating that reality and then you're
putting it out into the universe. If I
just understand that, maybe she canceled
on me because she just doesn't like
relationships. Maybe she canceled
because maybe she just doesn't like
intimacy. Maybe she cancels just because
like I'm not her type. And that's okay.
When you do that, then you don't create
a mental phantom that literally
recreates it the next time you encounter
someone because you're like, "Oh, oh,
this person is going to be like the last
person [ __ ] cancel. Let let me take a
long time to respond." And now you're
creating those games, right? And a lot
of times that's why you may you might
notice that you keep repeating the same
thing. People keeping, people keep
playing you. Well, maybe it's because
you're seeing things in your mind and
you're also eliciting that response from
them. An example is like imagine
somebody's being stubborn, right?
Somebody says, "Apple is red and you're
like, and no, you say apple is red." And
they're like, "No, Apple's green." And
and they do it with so much
defensiveness. You're like, "The [ __ ]
The [ __ ] [ __ ] you, man. Apple's red,
[ __ ] No, Apple is green." And because
they're so defensive, yo, I'm like,
"Yeah, I'mma prove this my [ __ ]
wrong, [ __ ] Look, apples are
red, you dummy. Right? And so that like
their defensiveness makes me defensive,
right? People cannot consciously sense
when you're being defensive, man. And
and and and you get that energy back.
Just don't try. Stop trying not to get
hurt. Stop trying to impress people.
Stop trying to control things. Allow
things to happen. Allow people to hurt
you.
start telling yourself a different
narrative in in your mind and stop going
Bronx mode. What will happen is that
you'll notice that when you when you
stop trying to impress people, you'll
notice something in you
relaxes. Like you'll notice it, you'll
literally sense yourself relax. And if
you talk to people now and with that
relaxed mind, which is okay, I'm I'm
done trying to impress them or I'm done
trying not to get hurt. Oh, that oh man,
something beautiful happens. People
actually start treating you nicer and
what you notice is that you were the
cause of people's defensiveness. The
problem is that you just misinterpreted
so many events, you made them into a
reality, right? So remember, man, um
don't be alone. Self-regulate your
emotions and stop taking things
personal. When you do that, you'll be
able to interact with people better, and
it it'll it'll make you much more
attractive, right? And then, and the
last thing is that when you do all of
this, your nonverbal cues will calm
down. Your non-verbal cues will look
more attractive. Your non-verbal cues
will look just more relaxed, and you'll
just come across as more confident. All
right, anyways, take care. Bye-bye.
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