This content introduces the concept of "inner demons" – subconscious beliefs and patterns that hinder happiness and success – and provides a self-assessment tool to identify them, along with guidance on how to address them.
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We have inner demons that work unknowingly and keep us from being happy and successful,
and the first way to deal with them is to notice them.
In this video, you will have 15 questions that can give you an idea to notice them.
In addition, in the video, I will have instructions on what we can do to deal with these inner demons
If you're ready, let's get started.
[Music]
I'll read you some articles later.
Please listen carefully to each of these items and rate how
much the thoughts in this item reflect you, according to the score sheet you will see on the screen.
Please note down your response to each item.
Just be careful while doing this.
Let the answers we give reflect what is, not what should be.
In other words, we do not expect you to give the ideal answer.
Tick what you really think right now.
The first point is that I find people who reject and judge me attractive, and I usually
fall in love with such people.
I want you to think about the people you
are attracted to, find attractive or fall in love with, both in the past and now . Were
these people the kind of people who would generally reject you, make you feel worthless
? Please think accordingly and rate.
Our second point is that deep down people don't like me if they really know me.
I am not a person worthy of rejoicing, I have faith.
Do you often feel the need to hide most of your features in your relationships with people
? Does it feel like no one will accept or value you if you act as if you are the real you
Our third item, my inner voice, often criticizes me mercilessly, my inner speech
is in the direction of hurting myself.
Consider making any mistakes.
When you talk to yourself after this mistake, are those conversations often
cruelly judgmental?
Do you knock yourself down?
Even if our fourth item is all going well, I feel it will break down.
In fact, even if your life does not have serious negativities, you still
feel that somehow it will deteriorate and everything will not go well.
You cannot stop these negative thoughts.
Even if something good happens, you think that something bad will
follow. Our fifth item is no matter how hard I work.
I worry that I will go bankrupt financially and lose everything.
Even if you earn enough, you always seem to have a concern.
Deep down, one day you will be broke. There is a feeling in you that you
will be a homeless person in need of other people on the streets,
and you always take your steps with the anxiety that this creates.
Our sixth item is I have a lot of health concerns.
I worry more than most
other people that I will develop a terminal or incurable disease in the future .
Have a headache, am I having a brain hemorrhage?
Or if you feel sluggish if your stomach hurts, I wonder if I have cancer?
You cannot stop such thoughts.
Our seventh point is that living a good life has little to do with work or effort
. It's more a matter of fate, destiny, luck.
How does this sentence reflect your thoughts?
Rate it. Our eighth article, people who are seen as successful, who are in high positions, and
who are shown as an example, are usually there with torpedo, whether
it is a private or state institution, it is not a job to achieve something, to work hard
.
It mostly depends on more extrinsic factors like knowing someone, being close to someone or having a privilege in some way
or having a good family education, being lucky
. Our ninth item is when I listen to the life stories of successful people
, the chances they have in their lives draw my attention rather than their efforts.
For example, in which country was he born, in which family he was born?
What kind of education did he receive?
I mean, in my opinion, such inspiring life stories are stories.
If he's been able to do something inspiring, there's bound to be a luck factor.
Either he is not in Turkey, but in another country.
He was born into a very good family.
His parents are good, have a good education or come across good people.
Our tenth item is not enough no matter how successful I am.
I do not feel satisfied.
Even if I am successful, I am not satisfied.
I can't enjoy this.
My mind is always on the next target.
It's the next thing to do.
Other people say I'm successful, but it doesn't seem so to me.
I think it's a normal, ordinary performance.
Our eleventh item is I always
feel like I have to be the best at school, at work, in my relationships.
I try very hard to be the best.
A mediocre average achievement is unacceptable to me.
I'm a perfectionist and get nervous when things aren't right.
12. I don't like going on vacation or being idle.
Even if I go on vacation, I don't eat custard, I can't relax.
My mind is always on what I need to do.
There is so much work that I have to do that I don't have enough time.
13. I think of other people more than myself.
If I prioritize myself, I feel guilty.
It seems selfish to me to prioritize myself.
Their needs take precedence over mine.
I am a very devoted and extremely self-sacrificing person.
My fourteenth item is I can
not feel that the important decisions in my life are my own. How do the decisions I make affect other people?
This is important to me.
In fact, how it often affects other people is more
important than how it affects me. I do everything I can to avoid conflict and have
a hard time saying no to people.
Sir, let's evaluate the results.
Now, before moving on to the results, let me state that this test is for awareness
raising and giving ideas.
Although there are items in some scales that have been proven scientifically,
of course, we cannot say that this is 100% certain based on the results of the test.
However, the results can create various awareness in us and
give some ideas about ourselves.
That's why it's valuable anyway.
Let's start with the assessment of our first three questions.
Sir, if you rated the first three questions with a score of 4 or more on the first, second and third questions,
we can say that
one of your inner demons is a belief in imperfection or worthlessness .
This inner demon makes us feel worthless, flawed, incomplete inside.
The dominant feeling is shame and worthlessness.
So when we have this inner demon, we often have feelings of shame, guilt, lack,
worthlessness. The person is ashamed of himself and
spends a lot of effort so
that other people do not see his own flaws in quotes .
Usually internal conversations by people with this inner demon.
try to act like the opposite in order to deal with this demon .
In other words, even if we feel incomplete and flawed inside, we can
appear extremely arrogant and arrogant on the outside.
This devil often causes us to lose our hearts to people who will not be and make us feel unhappy
. For example, the people we fall in love with are mostly married people, people in other cities
. I don't know, they can be people who are much older or younger than us, or have a completely different
world.
Also, under the influence of this devil, we can be extremely jealous of the person we are in a relationship with
. We can narrow it down the world, and somehow eventually
we're still faced with unhappiness.
Sometimes we can avoid serious relationships under the influence of this inner demon.
We may feel more comfortable in superficial relationships.
When a relationship starts to deepen in some way or the person
we are interested in starts to reciprocate in the same way, to show interest in us, we suddenly
become alienated from them. Therefore, we cannot have happy relationships because of this inner demon.
We imprison ourselves in unhappiness.
We squirm in feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.
So how can we deal with it?
If you also have this inner demon and are wondering how to cope, you
can benefit from the videos here. In the meantime, I
'll add links to all the inner demons coping videos in the comments . After the video, you
can also find videos that can
cure your problems in the comments that I said fixed at the beginning .
Sir, we're here 4-5-6.
to substances. If you have given these items a score of 4 or more, your inner
demon may be your belief in pessimism or instability.
You always anxiously await a disaster in your mind, and when that disaster strikes you, you
believe that you are not strong enough to deal with it .
These disasters can be related to mental or physical problems
, for example, if I lose my mind, if I fall and faint here, or if I get cancer,
they can be related to health or physical health, or they can be
related to financial losses in some way.
It could be if I'm broke or needy or destitute or sometimes it
's about an external threat for example.
What if someone attacks me? Like
if I get stuck in the elevator or if something happens to me on the escalator when I go out
. This inner demon often keeps us overly anxious and vigilant,
and somehow it is difficult for us to feel so comfortable and secure.
If you have this inner demon, you can find details on how to deal with it in the
videos below.
Sir, if you have scored four points or more on questions seven, eight, and ninth, one
of your inner demons may be your victim consciousness.
This inner demon prevents you from setting high goals, taking action for your goals
, taking steps to change things, it does not allow you.
Because no matter what I do inside, I can't change anything, that belief
is dominant. He overestimates the importance of external factors in your life
. Do you underestimate the importance of your own efforts and what you can do ?
Don't worry about it, it comes and goes like this.
Will you change it?
What can I do?
What can I change?
It may be one of your most frequent statements. This inner demon
also prevents us from taking responsibility for our
own feelings, thoughts and behaviors and therefore our lives.
In a way, if something doesn't work out, the reason is always external factors.
If we are unsuccessful, the reason is either the system, some external environmental factors, or some tricks
other people have set up on you.
I don't know, if we are not happy, it is always other people or some external
environmental factors.
Yes, indeed, external factors and other people do
have some effect on us.
However, victim conscious people perceive this effect as a bit exaggerated and
do not need to take action to change things based on it.
Because as I said at the beginning, I can't change that anyway.
No one can change this, or they stay behind by saying that it's not me anyway,
and they always wait for a savior.
For more information on this topic, you can check out my videos below.
If you scored 4 points or more on questions 10, 11, and 12, one of your inner
demons may be perfectionism.
One of the most basic emotions this inner demon gives us is oppression.
We always feel intense pressure to be the best in every field.
If I'm a housewife, I should cook the best meals.
The cleanest house should be mine.
Everyone should always see me clean and tidy.
I must be a perfect mother.
I must be the perfect wife.
If I'm a business person, I should always be the most successful person in the company.
Or I should be the most successful person in my industry.
Or like if I'm a student, I should always get the best grades.
People with this inner demon are results-oriented and cannot rest until they achieve results
. In other words, you will squeeze yourself hard and work hard until you finally reach that goal
. The worst part is that when he reaches the result, he cannot relax.
Because when he reaches the result, this time he has already started working for the next goal
. Life is all about reaching high standards and striving and
working.
From the outside, he is very successful, but when you ask him, he does not see himself that way.
He always feels like something is missing, as if he needs to do something more.
Most people with this inner demon cannot sit still.
For example, he cannot go on vacation.
Even if he goes on vacation, he cannot relax.
Perfectionist, workaholic, meticulous, obsessive people also often have an
inner demon of perfectionism. These people
may attach great importance to
lofty goals related to matters such as appearance, material possessions, power, and status .
However, unfortunately, even if they reach these goals, they will
not feel sufficient and happy. In many cases, the inner demon of perfectionism is
accompanied by worthlessness.
In fact, one of the reasons why we try to be so perfect
may be worthlessness.
If you need support on this issue, these videos can help you. If you have
answered our last 3 questions, 13, 14 and 15, with a score of 4 or more, one of
your inner demons may be excessive self-sacrifice.
In fact, if a person puts himself in the background in order not to lose others and not to react , if he cannot draw his
boundaries, if he cannot say no when necessary, if
he thinks that the demands and needs of others are more important than his own, and if he
postpones his own needs and somehow
leaves the control of his life to the demands and needs of other people, then this inner devil is working. .
This inner demon makes us a harmonious, selfless, overly altruistic, empathetic, helpful person
. When a person prioritizes their own needs, they experience an intense
sense of guilt. So far everything is fine now.
So you're going to say, what's wrong with that?
How nice. Helpful, good, extremely altruistic person.
Yes, it might be good for others, up to a point. However, in order to be able to do all of these, the person
starts to experience feelings of unhappiness, hopelessness, anger and trapped
inside after a while, as he puts his
own needs, his own expectations and his own wishes in the background.
It is as if he is not in control of his own life, and this
can lead to feelings such as anger, restlessness and hopelessness that he cannot understand.
Others with this inner demon may try to cope by pretending to be the opposite
. For example, from the outside they seem like an extremely rebellious, rebellious, independent person
. Although they appear to be extremely controlling and authoritarian from the outside, they actually
have uneasiness inside.
I'm going to make a video about what we can do to deal with excessive altruism
. However, in order to better understand and internalize this subject, you
can also get help from the following videos.
By the way, some of you may say, Why
didn't you say anything about the solution, even a sentence or two in this video?
Why are you constantly redirecting us to other videos?
If we talk about solutions in this video, this video will take hours
. So it's better for everyone
to go to the other videos I recommend about their own situation and watch them.
We have come to the end of our video.
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