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"When God Speaks, Your Heart Changes — Love Is On the Way" || STEVEN FURTIK || best speach" | Rise With S|F | YouTubeToText
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Divine connections are not about comfort or convenience but are divinely orchestrated opportunities for profound personal growth, transformation, and alignment with one's true purpose, often requiring challenges and spiritual maturity to discern and sustain.
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You know, one of the greatest
misunderstandings people have about
relationships is the idea that everyone
who enters your life is meant to remain
in it. That's simply not true. Some
people are chapters, not the whole book.
But every once in a while, there's
someone different,
someone who doesn't fit into the pattern
of transiences. Their presence feels
like timing, not coincidence. They
arrive not just to occupy space, but to
awaken something dormant in you, a
deeper awareness, a higher standard, a
clearer understanding of what love and
purpose actually mean. And that's when
you need to stop and recognize that you
might be standing in the presence of
something divinely orchestrated.
You see, divine connections are never chaotic.
chaotic.
They might challenge you. Yes, they
might even shake you, but they won't
drain your soul. They won't pull you
away from who you're meant to become. In
fact, they'll often become a mirror
reflecting both your potential and your
wounds. That's what makes these
relationships so uncomfortable at times
because God doesn't and send people into
your life merely to comfort you. He
sends them to confront you. He uses them
as instruments of refinement. So when he
places someone in your path and
something inside of you recognizes a
deeper resonance, when your spirit seems
to say this one matters, you must pay
attention. That's not a random chemical reaction.
reaction.
That's revelation disguised as
attraction. The modern world has
conditioned us to treat relationships
like convenience stores, places we enter
to get what we need and then leave when
we've had enough. But divine assignments
aren't transactional. They're transformational.
transformational.
They call you to something higher. They
demand that you step into a version of
yourself that can carry the weight of
real intimacy, responsibility, and
truth. And if you're not spiritually
mature enough to discern that
difference, you'll misle what's sacred
as ordinary, you'll walk away from
something God meant for your healing
simply because it required your growth.
That's why discernment is crucial.
When God sends someone, he doesn't
announce it with thunder or lightning.
He whispers through subtle peace,
through the strange familiarity you
can't explain. Through the way that
person calls forth your best self
without even trying. You start to notice
that their presence, when God says,
"Don't give up," sharpens your thinking,
steadies your emotions, and anchors your
faith. You feel both seen and
challenged. That's not random. That's
purpose meeting preparation.
But here's the problem. Most people
reject the very thing that was meant to
bless them because because it didn't
arrive in the form they expected. They
pray for someone who will love them
deeply and then run when that love
exposes their immaturity. They ask for a
connection that feels like home and then
doubt it because it doesn't feel
familiar enough to their patterns of chaos.
chaos.
God's gifts rarely come wrapped in
comfort. More often they come wrapped in
growth, in challenge, in the invitation
to evolve. So when you feel that divine
pull towards someone, not out of
infatuation, but out of a deep
inexplicable recognition, don't rush to
define it, but don't dismiss it either.
Sit with it. Observe the fruit of it.
Does this connection bring clarity or
confusion? Does it lead you closer to
who you're meant to be or distract you
from it? Because when God sends someone,
their presence will strengthen your
alignment with truth. They won't perfect
you, but they'll provoke your potential.
And if you sense that God has placed
someone in your life with divine
intention, don't treat that lightly.
Honor it, protect it, let it shape you.
Because divine connections are not
easily replaced. They are sacred
appointments between souls who were
never meant to pass each other by. So
when your spirit whispers, hold this one
tightly. Understand what that means.
It's not about possession. It's about
reverence. It's about recognizing that
in a world full of temporary encounters,
you've been entrusted with something
eternal. Treat it accordingly.
When God places someone in your life,
it's rarely convenient. It's rarely
comfortable. In fact, the most
meaningful relationships often come with
friction because they're designed to
expose what's unresolved within you.
That's the paradox of divine connection.
It doesn't just make you feel good.
It makes you grow. And growth by its
very nature involves discomfort. It's
like a mirror that reflects not only the
beauty of who you are, but also the
shadows you've avoided facing. That's
why so many people walk away from
relationships that were meant to shape them.
them.
They mistake the process of refinement
for dysfunction. When you encounter
someone who challenges your assumptions,
who doesn't allow you to hide behind
your ego or your fears, something within
you resists.
The human mind wants safety. It wants predictability.
predictability.
But love, especially love orchestrated
by God, isn't built on safety. It's it's
built on transformation. God will often
send someone into your life who forces
you to confront the parts of yourself
you've neglected.
Maybe it's your impatience, your fear of vulnerability,
vulnerability,
your tendency to control, or your
avoidance of truth. This person becomes
the mirror through which your character
is revealed, not to shame you, but to
call you higher. Psychologically
speaking, this dynamic is deeply rooted
in how we grow as individuals. Carl
Young once said that relationships are
the power of faith and patience
psychological laboratories. THEY REVEAL
WHAT THE CONSCIOUS mind denies. When you
love someone deeply, your unconscious
material rises to the surface.
All the insecurities,
the wounds, the patterns you thought you
had escaped. They come alive. And it's
precisely in that confrontation that God
begins his real work. Because it's only
through awareness that change is
possible. A divine relationship then
isn't just about romance or
companionship. It's a sacred context for transformation.
transformation.
But here's what happens in our culture.
We glorify comfort and call it peace. We
avoid challenge and call it boundaries.
We withdraw from emotional depth and
call it self-p protection. And while
wisdom and discernment are essential,
many people confuse avoidance with growth.
growth.
Sometimes what feels uncomfortable isn't
wrong. It's necessary. Sometimes the
very tension you feel in a relationship
is the tension of God stretching your
capacity to love, to forgive, to
understand, to stay. You're being taught
how to sustain the weight of connection,
not escape it. Think about this. When
two people are truly meant for each
other, it doesn't mean they'll fit
together effortlessly.
It means they'll have the potential to
build something sacred through mutual
effort, through humility, through
forgiveness. They'll face their shadows
together, not because it's easy, but
because they've recognized something
divine in the bond. They sense that this
connection carries a purpose larger than
their individual comfort. It's meant to
teach them endurance, empathy, and
grace. In that sense, holding on isn't
an act of weakness. It's an act of
wisdom. It's the recognition that what
you have isn't ordinary. You're not just
staying because of sentimentality.
You're staying because you've discerned
something sacred, something that's
shaping both of you into better versions
of yourselves.
But make no mistake, this kind of
connection demands maturity. It demands
that you rise above your impulses to
flee when things get hard. And instead
you ask, "What is this moment trying to
teach me?" Because every challenge in a
divine relationship carries a hidden curriculum.
curriculum.
Every disagreement tests your capacity
for patience. Every disappointment
reveals the strength of your character.
And every reconciliation refines your
understanding of love. That's how God
works. He doesn't hand you perfection.
He hands you opportunity. The
opportunity to grow into the person who
can sustain the very thing you prayed
for. So when you find yourself in a
relationship that's stretching you, one
that brings your weaknesses to light,
but also calls out your strength, don't
be so quick to label it as wrong. It
might be the very space where God is
preparing you for what's next.
Truth is, some people are sent to wake
you up. They don't just fit into your
life. They call you into your destiny.
And when you recognize that, you stop
running from growth disguised as conflict.
conflict.
You start to see that love isn't about
escaping difficulty. It's about
transcending it together. Because the
person God asks you to hold on to isn't
just there to love you. They're there to
shape you. And in learning to stay, to
forgive, to evolve, you'll discover that
divine love isn't something you fall
into. It's something you become.
Sometimes when God tells you to hold on
to a person, he isn't asking you to
cling blindly. He's asking you to see
differently. Because when we think of relationships,
relationships,
especially those that carry emotional or
spiritual weight, we understanding God's
timing, often think in terms of
immediate fulfillment. We want
consistency. We want affection. We want
reciprocity. But God doesn't always work
within the timeline of your emotions.
Often he works through separation,
silence, and uncertainty, not as
punishment, but as preparation. When two
people are meant to walk together, their
connection isn't merely emotional or
circumstantial. It's spiritual.
And the spiritual process has layers. It
requires patience, humility, and faith.
Because it's NOT ABOUT POSSESSION. IT'S
ABOUT PURPOSE. THAT'S WHAT makes divine
connection so different from ordinary
ones. You're not just being drawn to
someone because of chemistry.
You're being called into alignment with
someone because your growth and destiny
are somehow intertwined. Now, that kind
of bond often goes through seasons of
breaking before it reaches completion.
It's easy to assume that separation
means failure. But spiritually speaking,
separation is often the testing ground
where the bond is purified of ego, of
control, of codependency.
When God removes someone from your
immediate reach, he's not cancelling the
connection. He's recalibrating it. He's
allowing both hearts to expand, to
mature, to become capable of loving in a
way that reflects his nature rather than
human need. From a psychological
perspective, this makes profound sense.
We grow through tension, not ease. Every
significant relationship challenges the
structures of our identity. When we
attach to someone deeply, our sense of
self becomes intertwined with theirs.
And if that attachment isn't properly
developed, if it's rooted in insecurity
or fear, it becomes fragile. So God
allows disruption, sometimes even
distance to restructure that foundation.
The emotional age you feel in those
seasons isn't a sign that love has died.
It's the soul stretching to become
stronger, to hold love more truthfully.
Philosophically, this speaks to a
fundamental paradox of human love. You
can only love someone freely when you no
longer need them to complete you. AND
THAT'S WHAT GOD TEACHES through divine
waiting. Teaches detachment without disconnection.
disconnection.
The ability to love from strength rather
than lack. Because true love isn't
clinging. It's choosing. It's seeing
someone clearly, flaws and all, and
still saying, "I'm willing to walk this
journey with you. Not because they
validate you, but because you've
discerned something sacred in the bond."
And that discernment, that inner
knowing, is what keeps you anchored when
everything external feels uncertain. YOU
MAY NOT HAVE THE reassurance of
consistent communication or the clarity
of an immediate resolution, but deep
down there's this quiet conviction. This
connection matters. You can't explain it
logically. You can only recognize it spiritually.
spiritually.
And that's what faith is. The
willingness to trust what you know
internally, even when the external
evidence doesn't yet align. But here's
the hard truth.
Not everyone is meant to walk with you
forever. And discernment is about
knowing the difference between what's
temporary and what's eternal. That's why
you must stay connected to God's voice
more than your emotions. Your emotions
can be deceptive. They'll tell you to
give up when it hurts or to chase when
you're meant to rest.
God's voice, however, leads you into
peace even when circumstances are
chaotic. He'll confirm what's meant for
you, not through obsession, but through
clarity. So when you feel that still
quiet assurance. When everything in your
soul whispers, "Hold on." You're not
HOLDING ON OUT OF DESPERATION.
You're holding on the psychology of
holding on with trust. You're
surrendering your need to control and
instead allowing the process to refine
both of you. Because love that's truly
divine doesn't just survive the storm.
It's defined by it in the end. Maybe
that's what it means to hold this one
tightly. Not to grip in fear, but to
commit in faith to say, "Even if the
timing isn't perfect, even if we both
still have growing to do, I will trust
what God has placed in my heart."
Because when God speaks clearly about
someone, he's not promising you ease.
He's promising you purpose. And that
purpose will demand courage, patience,
and surrender. But if you stay faithful
to what he's revealed, you'll find that
what was once uncertain becomes undeniable.
undeniable.
Because when God ordains a connection,
time cannot undo it. It only makes it
stronger. There's a reason why God often
tells you to hold on just when it feels
impossible to do so. Because that
moment, the one where everything in you
wants to walk away, is the moment when
your faith is no longer theoretical. It
becomes tested, embodied, and real.
That's when love shifts from emotion to
discipline. From fleeting feeling to
chosen conviction. You see, when
everything is easy, love doesn't cost
much. But when it hurts to stay, when
pride screams louder than patience,
that's when you discover what kind of
love you're truly capable of. Most
people think that when God calls you to
hold on to someone.
It means you're supposed to cling to the
person no matter what. But it's not
about clinging. It's about anchoring.
It's about staying rooted in the truth
he revealed to you even when your mind
is flooded with doubt. And this is where
the psychological depth of the process
emerges because to hold on in faith
requires the maturity to distinguish
between attachment and conviction.
Attachment says I can't live without
this person. Conviction says I believe
God has purpose here and I'll stand firm
until he tells me otherwise. One is
driven by fear, the other by obedience.
Now that obedience doesn't mean
remaining stagnant. Sometimes holding on
looks like giving space.
Sometimes it means letting someone
wrestle with their own lessons while you
stay faithful in spirit. God often
separates people not because they've
failed each other but because they need
to find themselves to rediscover who
they are without the constant reflection
of the other person. And that's
profoundly psychological because human
beings project especially in love. We
see our potential, our fears, and our
unmet needs reflected in the one we care
for. If we're not conscious of that,
love becomes distorted. It becomes about
control rather than connection. So God
interrupts. He introduces silence,
distance, or timing that doesn't make sense.
sense.
And in that stillness, he begins to
reveal what's real and what's illusion.
Maybe you thought you needed their
constant reassurance.
But what you actually needed was to
trust the strength of the bond itself.
Maybe you thought they had to choose you
to validate your worth. But what God
wanted was for you to find your identity
in him so you could love freely rather
than fearfully.
Philosophically speaking, love without
freedom isn't love at all. It's
possession. And possession is rooted in
insecurity. True love, the kind that
reflects God's nature, doesn't enslave.
It liberates. It allows the other to
grow, to change, to question, to become.
And that's one of the hardest truths to
accept. Sometimes the most faithful
thing you can do for someone is to hold
them in your heart while releasing them
to God's process.
That's what divine patience looks like.
It's not passive. It's powerful
restraint guided by trust. When you hold
on the right way with faith, not force,
something extraordinary happens. You
begin to grow. Your emotional endurance deepens.
deepens.
Your spirit becomes more disciplined.
You learn to listen to God's timing
instead of your own impulses. Signs that
person is still chosen. And as you do,
something inside you strengthens that
quiet confidence that says even if it
doesn't make sense right now, I know
what was spoken over this connection.
That kind of faith reshapes you. It
refines your capacity to love, not as
the world does conditionally,
conveniently, but as God does with
steadfastness and mercy. So maybe that's
what God means when he says, "Hold on."
Not hold tightly to the person as they
are, but hold tightly to the process I'm
leading you through.
Because it's in that process that both
of you are transformed, molded into the
kind of people who can sustain what's
being built. If you abandon the lesson
halfway through, you risk missing the
maturity that would have allowed the
connection to thrive. In the end, God's
command to to hold on isn't a call to stubbornness.
stubbornness.
It's a call to strength. It's his way of
saying, "Trust me with this. Don't let
temporary confusion undo eternal
purpose." So hold on, not because you're
afraid to lose, but because you believe
there's still something sacred unfolding.
unfolding.
And when you can hold that tension with
faith and humility, you'll find that God
always brings what's meant for you
full circle, not when you're desperate,
but when you're ready. There comes a
point in every meaningful connection
where the question isn't whether the
love is real. It's whether the people
involved have the maturity to sustain
it. You see, GOD DOESN'T JUST GIVE YOU
SOMEONE TO MAKE YOU FEEL LOVE.
HE GIVES YOU SOMEONE TO TEACH you how to
love. And that's an entirely different
thing because real love is not a
constant emotional high.
It's a moral responsibility, a
discipline of the heart, a covenant that
challenges you to rise above your own
ego. That's why some people lose what
was meant for them. Not because the bond
wasn't divine, but because they refused
to evolve into the kind of person who
could hold it. God's gifts aren't meant
to gratify your comfort. They're meant
to grow your character. So when he tells
you to hold on to someone, it's rarely
about clinging to what's easy. It's
about embracing the kind of love that
refinances both of you. The kind that
tests your patience, exposes your flaws,
and demands your transformation.
From a psychological perspective, this
kind of love forces you to confront the
deepest parts of yourself. your
insecurities, your fears of abandonment,
your need for control. It's not romantic
in the shallow sense. It's deeply
purifying because when you truly care
for someone, YOU START SEEING HOW MUCH
OF YOUR behavior is rooted in
self-preservation rather than genuine
care. You might notice how your
expectations become projections.
How your need to be right overshadows
your willingness to understand.
God often allows friction, not to
destroy a bond, but to strip it of
illusion. What's left, if you endure it,
is something raw and real, something
anchored in truth rather than fantasy.
And that truth is humbling. It teaches
you that love is not about ownership.
It's about stewardship. You don't
possess the person God gave you. You
protect them. You nurture the bond. You
respect the individuality within it.
There's a sacred kind of balance between
togetherness and freedom.
And when both people learn to honor that
balance, something miraculous begins to
unfold, growth without distance,
closeness without suffocation, unity
without eraser of self.
Philosophically, this reflects one of
life's deepest paradoxes that love to
remain whole must make space for
freedom. God himself demonstrates this
with humanity. He could force our
devotion, but he doesn't. He allows
choice because love that isn't chosen
isn't love. And that's what he asks of
you in this relationship. To love
without manipulation. To trust without
constant proof. To stay without needing
to control the outcome. That's not
weakness. That's strength of spirit.
It's a sign that your love has matured
beyond dependency and entered the realm
of divine purpose.
So, if you're wondering why God told you
to hold on, it might be because he's
shaping you into the kind of person who
can carry the weight of a holy
connection. He's training your heart to
endure what your feelings alone cannot
because emotions fluctuate. They're
there like the weather. But conviction,
the kind born of prayer and inner
knowing, remains.
That's what sustains relationships that
are meant to last. Not perfect
compatibility, but shared faith in the
purpose behind the connection.
When you begin to see the relationship
through that lens, the little conflicts
stop feeling catastrophic. You start
realizing that what feels like an ending
might actually be preparation for a
overcoming fear and doubt, stronger beginning.
beginning.
The temporary silence, the misunderstanding,
misunderstanding,
the distance, it's all part of a
refining process.
God is polishing the gold of your bond,
not because it's broken, but
because he wants it to shine with
greater clarity. So you hold on not with
fear, but with faith. You stop asking,
"Why is this so hard?" and start asking,
"What is God teaching me here?" That
shift in mindset turns pain into wisdom,
uncertainty into patience, and waiting
into worship. Because sometimes the
greatest act of love isn't running
toward what you want, but standing still
in obedience to what you know God spoke.
It's trusting that what he called your
gift will return in his perfect timing.
Not when you both feel ready, but when
you've both become ready. And maybe
that's the real message. Love isn't just
about finding the right person. It's
about becoming the right person while
holding on to what God declared is
yours. When you do that, when you trust
trust the process more than your
perception, you don't just keep the
gift. You become worthy of it. There's a
profound truth about holding on to
something God gave you. It's not merely
about faith. It's about transformation.
Because the truth is, when God asks you
to hold something tightly, he's not
asking you to cling in desperation.
He's calling you to commit to evolve
into the kind of person who can carry
the weight of the blessing you've prayed for.
for.
Many people want the gift, but not the
growth that sustains it. They want the
love story, but not the internal
restructuring it requires. Yet, that's
precisely what divine gifts demand. Not
a shallow attachment, but a deep
refinement of character. When God
entrusts you with a person, an
opportunity or a purpose, he's not
testing how much you can get from it.
He's testing how much you're willing to
become for it. There's a psychological
dimension to this. Human beings often
believe they can maintain sacred things
without self renewal, that they can keep
divine relationships while staying
exactly the same. But that's a contradiction.
contradiction.
You cannot hold something holy with
unhealed hands. You can't sustain divine
love with a divided heart. God's
blessings always require growth because
they expose the parts of you that aren't
yet ready to carry them. This is why
relationships that are truly meant for
YOU DON'T JUST FEEL GOOD.
They provoke you. They awaken parts of
you you didn't know existed. Both the
noble and the broken. You'll find
yourself confronted by your pride, your
impatience, your defensiveness. The very
act of loving deeply reveals how far YOU
STILL HAVE TO GO IN BECOMING WHOLE. And
that's not a sign something's wrong.
That's a sign something sacred is
happening. You're being reshaped through
love. You're being trained to love in
alignment with truth, not convenience.
From a philosophical standpoint, this
transformation mirrors what many great
thinkers have taught that growth and
suffering are inseparable. You can't
evolve while staying comfortable. You
can't love without the risk of loss. And
you can't build something eternal
without enduring what is temporary. Love
in its divine form isn't there to make
life easy. It's there to MAKE YOUR SOUL
STRONG ENOUGH TO BEAR THE responsibility
of connection.
Because love is responsibility, not a
fleeting feeling, but a conscious choice
to care for something beyond yourself.
So when God says, "Hold this one
tightly," he's not telling you to grasp
it out of fear that you'll lose it. He's
final encouragement and closing words,
inviting you to honor it, to protect
what's SACRED FROM THE CHAOS OF
distraction and ego. That might mean
learning restraint when your emotions
push you toward reaction. It might mean
forgiving when your pride screams for
justification. It might mean showing up
when you don't feel appreciated.
In every one of those moments, God is
shaping your heart to mirror his own.
Patient, faithful, and enduring. Because
the truth is God doesn't just want you
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