The content emphasizes that achieving significant goals requires embracing discomfort, maintaining discipline, and focusing on consistent progress over perfection, while also understanding that personal growth often emerges from solitude and facing internal challenges.
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Whenever you try to do something out of
the ordinary, people will line up to
tell you that you can't do it, why you
can't do it, that you lose your time,
you lose your money, that you will, in
effect, die in the desert. Even people
who should know better will try to
discourage you. To achieve anything
greater or worthwhile, you must train
yourself to rise above these people,
ignoring them and pressing on toward
your goal regardless.
>> Feel like it was a movie and the
audience were watching up to this point.
What would they be screaming at the
screen telling you to do with your life?
>> What would they be screaming? You've
already achieved goals that you said
would make you happy. If you haven't
made it now, if this isn't when life is
going to begin, when are you going to start?
start?
>> You know why you don't like change? You
know why it's uncomfortable? Because
your nervous system does not like new
things. Because its job is to survive.
That's it. And every time that you have
to become somebody you've never been,
that version of you, who you were, has
to die. That's the complete opposite of
what the nervous system wants. So this
is why it is so painful. This is why we
seek familiarity. This is why it's so
hard for us to develop a new belief
system. When you understand how your
actual mechanism works, this pain is
just an illusion.
I'm actually moving in the right
direction. That's how I know I'm
actually changing because I'm feeling
this. Your pain is the pathway to your progress.
progress.
Hey, listen. Going into the new year, I
don't have a long wish list.
I just want to finally give myself
everything that I've always deserved.
My peace,
my growth,
my discipline,
and the life that reflects the work that
I've been putting in.
That's it.
How much longer are you going to wait to
demand the best for yourself? You know
you're not being the person you're
capable of being. You know you're not
fully realizing your potential. You know
you're doing things you want to stop
doing and you're not doing things you
want to start doing. So how much longer
are you going to wait? How much longer
are you going to wait to start? This is
the one thing all fools have in common.
Senica said always getting ready to
start. We don't say we're never going to
do it. We say we're going to do it later.
later.
I am not like everybody else. I don't
want to be like everybody else. I have
something inside which is burning.
And I look around and this life and
everything I see is not for me. I'm
I think the first thing a person needs
is they need a dream. You you got to
have a dream.
I don't know how people survive in life
with any kind of peace or happiness or
fulfillment without having a dream. A
dream needs to be something that there
is a possibility of fulfilling.
Otherwise, it's not a dream, it's a
fantasy. Uh but you need a dream. And
don't be afraid to dream big. You know,
the saying is that if your dreams don't
scare you to death, they're not big
enough. Your dream needs to be bigger
than you are right now.
There's a specific person that you've
got to get out of your life right now.
It's the person that wants to remind you
of who you were. It's the person who
wants to remind you of how you used to
be, what you used to do, how you used to
do it. That used to person's dead.
Anybody who wants to resurrect that
person cannot be in your life. There is
nothing more important than getting
people out of your life. They want to
pretend you're the person you were
yesterday. They want to act like you're
the person you were yesterday. You're
evolving. You're growing. You're
advancing. You need to be focused on you
right now. on anybody that wants to
bring you back. Anybody that wants to
pretend you are the same person that
they knew 1 2 6 7 years ago, get them
the hell out of your life.
Trajectory. Focus on your trajectory.
You can't keep living in this all or
nothing mentality where you have to do
the perfect set of perfect things in the
perfect order, just like that guy you
follow on Instagram does. That guy's
full-time job is personal development.
He gets paid to sit in a cold plunge.
You don't. You are going to make
mistakes. You are going to mess up. So,
if you have that all or nothing
mentality, when it's not all, it's going
to be nothing. You're going to be the
guy that gets one flat tire and then
gets out of his car and slashes the
other three simply because he doesn't
have four perfectly inflated tires.
Makes no sense. The measuring stick is
not am I perfect. The measuring stick is
did I get closer to who I want to be or
did I get further away? Am I moving in
the right direction? Am I going down the
right path? Focus on path over perfection.
perfection.
You're doing this for you. And this is
something I've only realized relatively
recently, but after a certain level of
material comfort, the only person that
you need to do this thing for is you.
Your conscience knows when you're being
honest and when you're not. I think
optimizing to make that person happy,
that conscience happy is a really good idea.
idea.
What if what if problems were always
gifts? What if every single problem
really was a gift in your life?
What if every problem you ever had was
life happening for you, not to you? What
if everything in our lives is guided?
What if everything in our life was
divine timing? Everything, even the pain.
pain.
What are you going to do when no one's
watching? Are you going to operate to
your standard? You're going to cut
corners. I can tell you this, dude. I
try verying hard to operate in my
standard all the time, 24 hours a day,
even when no one's watching, especially
when no one's watching, because that's
when you actually gain more of the
discipline and strength that you need to
uphold those standards. I think every
singleing human should have a set of
core values and a mission statement and
a vision for their own lives. And most
people don't. Most people just go along
with the flow. They they swing into
someone else's vision and they stay
there for a little bit and they swing
into someone else's for a little bit and
then they get to be older in life and
they're like, "Why the has nothing
worked out for me?" Well, the reason
nothing's worked out for you is because
you don't live what you say you're
about. You don't have a plan for
yourself. You don't have a mission
statement for yourself. You've tried to
cut the corners when no one's watching.
Bro, you'll lose that way. That's just it.
it.
>> It's always harder, takes longer, and
costs more than you think it will. It
makes sense because if it did it then
everyone would have it and everyone had
it then it wouldn't be worthwhile. And
so if it's hard that's amazing because
it will make you that much harder once
you conquer it. And it will also make it
harder for anybody else who wants to
follow in your footsteps. And so the
higher up the mountain you climb the
thinner the air gets and the rarer the
climber or explorer must be in order to
get there. If you can survive temporary
pain, on the other side of temporary
pain, you will meet another version of you.
you.
Every time I wanted to quit, I didn't
make a decision to not quit the rest of
my life. I made a decision not to quit
for one more day. One more day. Just
don't quit. One more day. Hang on.
>> People who win are disciplined about
winning. They don't just casually take a
look at this. They don't just casually
try something. They jump in with both
feet because they absolutely intend to
win at it. And that's going to require
discipline and consistency on your part.
As you start to study, you're going to
learn things. You're going to learn the
skills that you need. That's going to
require discipline on your part. All of
which, by the way, you can learn any of
these skills. You can learn anything,
but you're going to have to be disciplined.
disciplined.
There's this revered master who
everybody wants to study under and it's
it's almost impossible to get to him.
And so he's interviewing candidates. And
the aspiring samurai comes to him and
says, "How long will it take me to be a
master?" And he says, "10 years." And so
then the young samurai eager to kind of
prove himself. He's like, "Well, what if
I work twice as hard and I work day and
night uh to to become a master? How long
will it take then?" And so the master
sits back and looks at him and says, "20
years." The young samurai is like,
"Wait, what? How can I How can it take
twice as long if I if I'm working
harder?" The master replies, "If you
have one eye fixed on your destination,
then you only have one eye left to find
your way."
But I think what's truly important is
the ability to detach yourself from the outcome.
outcome.
It is one of the most important things
that I have adopted in my life. Set the
goal. Know where you want to go. know
where you're aiming and then let it go.
It's possible. In fact, it's probable
and likely it might take you longer to
get there. And so what if it does? If it
does, you're still making forward
progress every single day.
It's really important that we understand
that better is not always visible. You
can be getting better and it not be
public because very often private
victories will precede public accomplishments.
Most people never pick up the phone and
call. Most people never ask. And that's
what separates sometimes the people to
do things from the people that just
dream about them. You got to you got to
act. And you've got to be uh willing to
um fail. You got to be willing to crash
and burn, you know, with people on the
phone, with starting a company, with
whatever. If you're afraid of failing,
You need discipline. You need personal
discipline. There's times when you don't
you don't feel like doing what needs to
be done to get this. Um, and but you got
to say feelings has nothing to do with
it. Um, this is my dream.
This is what I'm going to do. And I'm
going to do the things that I don't feel
like doing. I'm going to do the things I
don't want to do. I'm going to do the
things that don't come easy to me, that
do not come natural to me. Um, I'm going
to get up and do it. Um, you can't live
>> Loneliness,
it's a feeling we all experience. Though
it's rarely something we talk about,
when it creeps in, it can feel
overwhelming, suffocating, even as
though you've been cast aside,
forgotten, or left to face the world alone.
alone.
But here's a thought. What if loneliness
wasn't something to run from? What if
instead it held the keys to a deeper
understanding of yourself?
Loneliness is often misunderstood. It's
painted as emptiness, as a void that
needs to be filled with people, noise,
or distractions.
In reality, loneliness isn't the absence
of connection. It's the opportunity to
reconnect with yourself. And in a world
that's always pulling you in a million
directions, solitude is a rare and
powerful thing. We live in a culture
that glorifies being busy, being
surrounded, being plugged in.
We equate a full social calendar or an
endless stream of notifications with a
full life. And when that quiet moment
comes, when the noise fades and the
distractions stop,
loneliness feels like failure. As if
being alone somehow makes you incomplete.
incomplete.
That's the misconception.
Loneliness isn't about what's missing
outside of you. It's about what you have
yet to find within yourself.
When everything else is stripped away,
when the spotlight dims and the crowd disperses,
disperses,
you're left with the one person who will
always be with you, yourself.
And that's where the real work begins.
There's a reason so many of life's
breakthroughs happen in the quiet. When
you're alone, you're forced to face the
parts of yourself that are often buried
under the noise. The insecurities you
try to ignore. The dreams you've been
too afraid to pursue. The questions
you've been too distracted to answer.
Solitude gives you the space to reflect,
to feel, to grow. It's in those quiet
moments that you start to see yourself
more clearly.
Not the version of you that you present
to the world, but the real you. The one
with doubts and fears and flaws, but
also strength and resilience and
untapped potential.
Growth doesn't happen in comfort. It
doesn't happen when you're surrounded by
constant validation or external noise.
It happens when you're willing to sit
with yourself, to embrace the discomfort
of being alone, and to use it as a
chance to understand who you are and
what you want.
Silence has a way of bringing clarity,
of stripping away the distractions and
revealing what truly matters.
In solitude, you can hear your own
thoughts without interference.
You can tune into the voice inside you.
The one that gets drowned out in the
chaos of daily life. What is that voice
telling you?
What dreams have you put on hold? What
truths have you been avoiding?
Loneliness doesn't just leave you with
questions. It gives you the space to
find answers.
And those answers,
they're the foundation for the life
you're meant to create.
Instead of seeing loneliness as a
problem to solve, try seeing it as a
tool to use.
The ability to be comfortable in your
own company is a rare and powerful
thing. It means you're not afraid of the
quiet, of the stillness, of the moments
when it's just you and your thoughts.
It means you've built a foundation
within yourself that doesn't crumble
when the world around you shifts.
When you learn to value your own
company, loneliness stops feeling like a
burden. It becomes a choice, a time to
recharge, to reflect, to reconnect.
It becomes a reminder that you are
enough exactly as you are.
Here's the reality.
The time you spend alone is never
wasted. It's where the most important
growth happens. It's where you learn
what you stand for, what you value, and
what kind of life you want to build.
Loneliness can be painful, yes,
but it can also be transformative.
It can teach you resilience.
It can help you find clarity.
It can show you that your strength
doesn't come from the people around you.
It comes from within.
If you're feeling lonely right now,
don't run from it.
Use it as an opportunity to grow, to
reflect, to reconnect with the person
you're becoming.
This is your time to build something
extraordinary, not outside of you, but
within you.
Loneliness isn't the absence of connection.
connection.
It's the space where you rediscover yourself.
yourself.
And in that space, you'll find
Well, well, well.
If it isn't the guy that thinks it's too late,
late,
>> then this is one part that I try to tell
people and teach them. If you're trying
to go to that uncommon amongst the
uncommon place, it's a lonely mother up
there. Man,
>> if I had to pick one trait for a young
man to have, it would be resilience.
>> Let me ask you something, bro. Why not
you? I think I know why. It's cuz you
never really believed it in the first place.
place.
Do you want to be on your deathbed
knowing that you could, but you didn't?
>> I'm not asking you for very much at all.
I'm just asking you to be disciplined.
Now, if you go visit the darkness
that you've been running from,
you'll have the opportunity to lead a
better person.
Like, if you're going to live, you're
going to be pushed past your limit.
Right? You're going to live. So,
So,
but who knows what you discover when you
push past your limit. People will try to
put the same limitations on you that
they put on themselves. Don't mistake
their insecurities for your ceiling.
>> Death is real and the clock's going to
keep ticking. Whether you like it or
not, you have right now. You just have
to take the first step. I define
resilience as the amount of time after
an aversive experience that you return
to baseline function. And so if you have
a series of behaviors that you do under
certain conditions and then something
bad happens, how quickly you return back
to the original behavior set. And so in
doing that, like if someone can not give up
up
and learn, then on a long enough time
horizon, you guarantee victory. Like if
you only had those things, you don't
stop and you get better. That's it.
>> Remember when you don't feel like doing
something that you're not doing it for
how you feel now. It hurts right now.
It's inconvenient. It's uncomfortable.
You're doing it for you in the future,
you tomorrow, you in a year from now.
You will thank yourself for staying
consistent in the times where you felt
like giving up, where it felt like the
most viable option.
But it is in these moments that separate
those who prevail and those who don't.
You will win in the long run. You just
can't give up. That is the only way you
the warrior is strong, yet his sleep is
fragile. His wisdom an amalgamation of
precedent. Yet his decisions cannot be
based on the frailties of man.
He is rather fueled by divine
inspiration ascending from the heart. He
knows not anger and only fears the unknown.
unknown.
The warrior does not judge for his true
assignment is to deliver evidence of
superior behavior to the creator of all men.
men.
The warrior doesn't dream of frontiers.
He only sees horizons. The true warrior
knows, accepts, and embraces above all
integrity, which is his course in life.
And only when one can fully absorb with
these most divine of all virtues, can
one at last see how impossible and
futile it is to make war.
One of the things that I've noticed
between champions and everyone else is
that people everyone else is so excited
when they win. They're so excited, you
know, by the idea of them getting first
place. But there's a reason that they
never get first place. It's because
they're excited about it. The people who
always and very consistently hit first
place and win the championship are
relieved because they tend to hate
losing more than they love winning and
they expected to win because of the
level of preparation they had compared
to everywhere else.
>> I don't like the notion of everyone
saying, "Oh, he got lucky. He got Yeah,
he got lucky. Yeah, of course. But luck
to me is not what everyone is saying.
Luck is where preparation meets opportunity.
opportunity.
>> The most important question that you
have to ask yourself in life is how
badly do you want what you want? How
badly do you want it? Or do you want it
at all? You see, there's an awful lot of
people who want an awful lot of things.
But how badly do they want it? If you
want it so badly, if you want it with
tremendous intensity of desire, there's
really nothing in the world that can
stop you from getting it.
>> Don't let them ever see you with your
head down, bro. Get up. You're not
tired. Get up. They're watching. You
know your kids are looking for their
father to be strong and somebody they
can follow. Don't disappoint them, bro.
Don't let the troubles of this world
bring you down, cuz there's so many
people counting on you to make it.
You're not tired. get up and do it for
them. Do it for them.
>> When the lights are off and everybody
else has gone home and everybody else is
taking a break and everybody else is
just doing whatever they are going to
do, what are you doing at that's going
to determine what your life outcome is.
It's about how you move when no one's
watching. It's about how you work when
you're not going to get applause. It's
not about what you do on Instagram. It's
about what you do in reality. You've
been taught that it is just about
showing up on time and doing the job.
Greatness does not come from doing what
you're supposed to do. It comes from you
deciding what you actually want and you
saying, "I am willing to do whatever the
it takes to create that. No matter how
hard, no matter how long, no matter what
I have to go through, I will get there."
You're living. How do you want to live?
How do you want to die? How do you want
to [ __ ] be remembered? There was no
passion, no drive, no nothing. But I had
this fire that I'm going to be somebody.
I want to give people the confidence to
walk in a room of a million people and
none of them like you and you just like
say you're I'm good. And walk out with
you by yourself.
are seeing life guts.
He isn't doing this stuff. Isn't going
past your current levels of comfort,
hitting new levels, getting knocked in
your ass. That is not the hard part of
life. The hard part of life is when you
don't have the time to do this anymore.
And you didn't achieve everything we
wanted to do. And you look back on your
life knowing there were pockets
throughout your existence where you
could have applied yourself. Now all
that's left is you in a self-arrest,
self- corral state,
thinking, "Wow, I could have been great.
Wow, I could have done something with my life.
life.
Now I'm stuck with this [ __ ] to let him in."
in."
Think of that when you're in here
hurting, man.
You're wondering how do you go on?
The better question is how can he not go?
go?
>> I think the most important thing is to
become the best version of yourself to
become and achieve your fullest potential.
But you can truly become whoever you
want to be. And I wanted to push this
message of hope and I wanted to push
this message of if you work hard, if you
are consistent and if you dedicate
yourself to a worthy ideal, you can
become whoever you want to become.
Give people the freedom to think
negative thoughts about you. And when
you let people think negative thoughts
about you, it unlocks your confidence.
It frees your self-expression and it
will catapult you into a whole new
chapter of your life, your career, your
happiness. This is amazing. Give people
the freedom to think something negative
about you. Let them. You have zero
control over someone else's opinion of
you. So, it is stupid to waste your time
trying to manage it. The fact is, it's
impossible to control someone else's
thoughts. Therefore, fearing what other
people think or trying to control their
thoughts is a complete waste of your
time. You will never feel in control of
your life, your feelings, your thoughts,
or your actions until you first stop
being consumed with or trying to control
The ones doing the least will always
talk the most. They don't see the hours
you put in, the risks you took, and the
sacrifices you made. They just see the
surface and scream from the sidelines.
Because the ones in the arena, they
don't boo. They know what it takes. They
know what it costs. So, keep building,
keep showing up, and don't waste your
breath explaining your grind to anyone
who's never laced up.
If most people have way more potential,
but the thing is, people aren't pushing
themselves. You need to start thinking
how much you can push yourself instead
of trying to see how much you can get
away with. And learning how to push
yourself more, you will unlock a level
of potential that will look [ __ ]
crazy to everyone else. And if you can
do that on a consistent basis, your
whole life can change. Within a year,
everything can change. But most people
never push themselves. Everybody's
trying to see how much they can get away
with. They're not ready to get extreme.
You know, just be an extremist. You will
bring so much more of your potential to
the surface.
>> Your goal is growth to the grave. If you
are breathing but not growing, you
aren't living. You're dying. Make every
moment of your life a moment of growth.
There will be discomfort. There will be
failure. There will be pain. And there
And all of us have this conflict going
on at all times inside of us. And it's
between two forces. And the first force
is your survival instinct that's been
with us for thousands if not tens of
thousands of years. Wants to inject into
you fear and doubt and worry and anxiety
and wants you with fight or flight and
and that's your that's kind of your
voice of fear and your inner critic and
that's really loud. That voice is in
your mind all the time. And then there's
another voice, this second voice. And
that voice has been written about and
talked about by philosophers thousands
of years. And that voice has been called
many names. It's been called your
intuition. That voice is a little
quieter. And that voice isn't in your
head. A lot of times it shows up in your
body. It shows up in your heart, your
gut, your, you know, your chest. You
feel that. And unfortunately, that first
voice really drowns us out a lot of
times. And the thing is that the voice
of fear will lead you to a life that's
too small.
And you know this. You already know
this. And the reason you the way that
you know this is you feel this. You
know, you feel this conflict, this
dissonance and tension when you're in
that position, when you're doing
something that's too small. If you want
to reach full power in this one life of yours,
yours,
it's in the second voice.
So if your false identity says that
you're a loser, you're a deadbeat,
you're not deserving, you're a failure,
you're not worthy, you will find
evidence in the world to reinforce that.
If your identity then says, "I'm a
winner. I'm deserving. Deserve
happiness, abundance, joy, success, and
I will always find evidence in the world
to find that." It starts off with
rewriting your story. Be specific about
how you want your life to look in the
categories that matter. Write down
specifically what you want your life to
look. And then once you write that down,
go what are the habits that this month
needs to have in order to bring that
story to life.
When you bring that story to life, the
false identity sheds and the new
It's a long grind and it's totally worth
it because it's not about where you get,
it's about who you become in the process
of getting there. And when you quit,
you'll never meet that person. The hard
part of quitting is not just that you
lost your dream. That's bad. Worse is
you're never going to meet the man or
woman you could have been had you
pursued it.
But what is even way better than you
think it will be is who you become in
the process of getting there and being
proud of you. And I could tell you the
things you'll be most proud of is the
fact that you lasted. Is the fact that
you got up after you quit. is the fact
you go, you know what? I did quit, but
I'm getting back. I'm getting back up. I
lasted. I'm tough. I'm resilient. I'm
mentally tough. I innovated. I pivoted.
I improved. I grew. I fought. I clawed.
I competed. I won.
That's way better than you think it is.
It's way better, man. Remember that when
I almost quit? Remember that time I was
down for a while? Remember when that
person said this? Remember when that
controver? Man, that one would have
knocked anybody. Remember when that
person stole from me? Remember when that
person did this to me? Just so you know,
everything you think probably bad will
happen probably will and worse. And
that's what makes it so sweet when you last.
last.
Live your life at full power.
And and I believe that that power is
already inside you right now. And that
the way to access that power is through
your second voice. And your second voice
is not just the path to accessing that
power, but it will also show you where
to direct it to have the biggest impact
that you're going to have in this world.
That voice speaks to you in the language
of energy. That's how you know what it's saying.
saying.
So go toward that energy and make a
promise that you will constantly move in
the direction of the thing that gives
you energy. Particularly the thing you
knew you would do if you knew you
wouldn't fail. That voice wants you to
go allin.
I want you to experience yourself at
full power. So make a promise that you
will not wait, that you will not utter
the words, not now, but you'll go allin
with wherever you are in your life right
now. I used to think that there were
millions of decisions that we would make
and that life was really complicated. I
think that I've realized if you want to
live at full power and feel the full
magnitude of what you can do in this one
life that you have that there's really
only one decision.
I think when you feel stuck or
dissatisfied in your life, it's a
signal. And it's not a signal that your
life is broken. It's a signal that one
of your most basic needs are not being
met. Your need for exploration.
Everything about your life, about your
body grows. Your cells regenerate, your
hair, your nails, everything grows for
your entire life. And your soul needs
exploration and growth. And the only way
you'll get it is by forcing yourself to
be uncomfortable.
So get out of your head.
Your feelings, your feelings are
screwing you. I don't care how you feel.
I care about what you want. And if you
listen to how you feel when it comes to
what you want, you will not get it.
>> Human being has to have a sense of
purpose. The feeling of no purpose is
suicidal. So what people do is they
create a false sense of purpose. The
false sense of purpose will be
attention. If I get so much attention
from people and so much recognition,
then I'm fulfilled. But then you can
never realize that. You can never get
enough attention. It's an individual.
You had a purpose in life. You had
something you were meant to achieve
because you have a unique DNA, unique
genetics, and unique parents, a unique
experience. Something about you is truly
original and weird. And to the degree
that you mine that weirdness and your
uniqueness, you can become fulfilled.
You can create something beautiful and lasting.
We live in a world obsessed with perfection.
perfection.
The perfect body, the perfect career,
the perfect relationship, the perfect life.
life.
We scroll through social media,
flipping past polished images, filtered
moments, and curated stories. It's all
so easy to get caught up in this
illusion of perfection.
That if you just get everything right,
just line up all the pieces, then
success and happiness will follow. But
here's the truth. Perfection doesn't
exist. It's an illusion. a moving target
that you'll never quite hit. And the
more you chase it, the more you waste
time trying to get everything just
right, the further you'll drift from
your real goal. Because perfection isn't
the goal. Progress is. We are
conditioned to think that we need to
have everything aligned before we can
move forward. We wait for the perfect
moment, the perfect plan, the perfect circumstances.
circumstances.
But while we're waiting, life is passing
us by. The version of you who has the
life you dream of isn't the one waiting
for things to be perfect. It's the one
moving forward, no matter how imperfect
The problem with perfection is that it
paralyzes you. It keeps you stuck in the
planning phase, in the research phase,
in the thinking phase, forever refining,
forever adjusting, never doing. You wait
for the moment when everything aligns.
But by the time it does, you've lost so
much time that it hardly matters. If
you're constantly waiting for things to
be perfect, you're wasting your life
away. You're stuck in a cycle of waiting
and doubting. You tell yourself, "I'll
start once I have this figured out." But
The truth is, you'll never have it all
figured out. And that's okay. The only
thing that matters is that you start.
Even if it's messy, even if it's
imperfect. The only way to make progress
is to take that first step, even if you
don't know where the second one will lead.
lead.
Perfection is about control.
about seeking something that is
impossible to hold on to. But progress,
progress is about moving forward. It's
about learning, growing, stumbling, and
getting back up. Progress is messy, raw,
imperfect, and beautiful all at once.
It's about taking action even when
you're unsure. The people who achieve
great things are not the ones who waited
until everything was flawless. They're
the ones who were willing to move
forward even when they weren't ready.
They acted. They made mistakes. They
learned from them. And each small step,
each decision, each action, however
imperfect, added up over time. They
didn't worry about getting everything
perfect. They just focused on getting
better. And that's the key. Progress
isn't about reaching perfection. It's
about becoming better than you were
yesterday. Every day is an opportunity
to grow, to evolve, to take one more
step forward, even when it feels like
progress is slow. Because the small,
consistent efforts you make today are
what build the foundation for tomorrow's
success. There's freedom in progress.
It's about giving yourself permission to
grow without needing to have everything
perfect. It's about embracing the
discomfort of starting before you're
Even if you don't have the whole plan
figured out, you don't need the perfect
blueprint. You just need the courage to
move forward.
Perfection keeps you stuck in a dream
world, one where everything is idealized
and nothing real can ever happen. It's a
world of waiting for the right
conditions, the right opportunity, the
right timing. But progress, progress
forces you to deal with reality. It
forces you to confront where you are,
accept that you're not perfect,
and keep moving anyway.
Life isn't about creating a perfect
image of yourself. It's about growing
into the best version of who you already
are. And that growth doesn't come from
waiting. It comes from doing. It comes
from learning, through doing, through
failing, through adjusting, and through
keeping your focus on progress, not perfection.
perfection.
In the end, it's not about being
perfect. It's about being better than
you were yesterday. Each day, you get
one step closer to the person you're
becoming. Not because everything aligns
perfectly, but because you keep moving
forward despite the imperfections.
The road will never be perfect. The plan
will never be flawless. The conditions
will never be ideal. But the magic
happens when you start anyway. The
moment you stop waiting for the perfect
time, it is the moment you begin to
create your own opportunities.
So stop waiting. Stop trying to make it
all perfect. Start moving. Start doing.
Start learning. Let go of the idea that
everything needs to be flawless and
instead embrace the mess, the progress,
the beautiful imperfect journey. Because
progress, not perfection, is what gets
you where you want to go. Every step,
every effort, every imperfect action you
take brings you closer to the version of
yourself that you've always dreamed of becoming.
Perfection is an illusion.
Progress is reality. So focus on moving forward,
forward,
no matter how small the steps.
Because the person you want to be is out
Just on the other side of every
My favorite Chinese proverb is
everything must be hard before it can be
easy. I think it's amazing what you can
endure when you have no choice. Because
at the end of the day, life is hard, but
believing it should be easy makes it
even harder.
See, I I've come to believe that the
secret to success is just not giving up.
That life is constantly testing you.
That there are going to be days where
you don't do the reps. There are going
to be weeks where you don't do the reps.
There might even be months that you
don't do the reps. That's okay. And the
reps are the boring, tedious actions
that you take every day. And that's how
you achieve a goal. What defines your
success is not the days where you do it.
I actually think it's the days where you
come back after you didn't do it. So the
day that was really hard at work or the
week that you were really sick and you
couldn't do the reps every day, the
small tedious stuff, you couldn't get
out for your walk, you couldn't sit down
and write. It's the day that you return
that defines success because it means
you didn't quit. Like if it is day 37,
you have not eaten the way you said you
would. you have spent a ridiculous
amount of money even though your goal is
to get out of debt and you see that
little note where you wrote down your
goal. It's okay. It's still there. It's
the days where you come back after you
How do you build trust with someone? You
prove time and time again that when you
say you're going to do something, you do
it. And what makes you think building
trust with yourself is any different?
Because if you're the kind of person
that fears your future self, the
solution is right in front of you. Spend
months and years of building the
evidence that when you say you're going
to do something, you follow through. It
is not complicated. It's just difficult.
If you constantly flake on your own
expectations, it's no wonder your
relationship with you is nothing but
uncertainty. But when you can look back
on undeniable proof that you are the
person you claim to be, counting on
yourself is not so difficult.
One of the key things in attracting the
things we want into our life is to be
able to feel as if we have them before
we possess them. What we really want in
our life, our real dreams, our real
ambitions are feelings. They're not
things. One of the things that happens
when we feel like we possess something,
we begin to act in accordance with that
feeling. And as a consequence of that
action, those things begin to chase you.
So, it's not some manifestation thing.
When we feel a certain way, we act a
certain way. And when we don't, we
don't. Spend a little bit more time
giving yourself the gift or doing the
work, frankly, of what would it feel
like? And beginning to feel as if you
possess the goal. And I also just think
the gift of giving yourself the emotions
you want will create more health in your
body, more vitality, more energy, more
optimism, more belief, more confidence.
Feel it this week and then you'll
possess it. Odds against there being
another person like you is are more than
50 billion to one. In the entire history
of humanity, there will never be two
people like you. Never be two people
with the same face. Never be two people
with the same even blood composition.
Exactly. never be two people with the
same outlook, the same talents,
abilities, capacities. Never be two
people just like you. And that every
single person are born with the capacity
to do something remarkable with their
lives. And the starting point of
personal greatness is when you just say
to yourself, what wonderful thing am I
going to do with my life? Why am I here?
I have this one life, this precious,
precious life. And as you know, this
life is not a rehearsal for something
else. This is the real one. You say to
yourself, "What am I going to do with my
life? Why am I here? What are my unique
talents and abilities?" Look back into
your life and ask yourself, what is it
that you've done in the past that you
most enjoy? What is it that you've done
in the past that comes easy to you but
which may be difficult to others? What
are the things that are indicators that
this is where you should be focusing all
your talents and abilities? Whatever it
is, find it and then commit yourself to
becoming excellent at it.
It says, "The most beautiful people we
have known are those who have known
defeat, known suffering, known struggle,
known loss, and have found their way out
of the depths. These persons have an
appreciation, a sensitivity, and an
understanding of life that fills them
with compassion, gentleness, and a deep
loving concern. Beautiful people do not
You will feel a million miles away from
your dreams and then you'll blink and
suddenly you'll be living them.
I just want you to think for a second
like regardless of any struggles that
you're facing right now, just think
about how good it feels once you
Just think about that. Money's no longer
an issue. You're doing something every
day that is fulfilling.
You're surrounded by people that you love.
love.
You're be able to travel and do the
things that you want to do when you want
to do them. You are no longer being
controlled by external things.
You decide how you want to live your
life. You live on your own terms and you
live a life full of fulfillment and
purpose and love. All the things that
you long for right now. Let me tell you something.
something.
That day is in your future. And it's not
as far as you might think. You're almost
there, my friend. I promise you. All you
have to do is continue to show up.
Don't be ashamed of your effort. Midwits
hate earnestness and sincere conviction
because they can't stand being reminded
of the thing they're capable of or resist
resist trying.
People will try to put the same
limitations on you that they put on
themselves. Don't mistake their
Regret.
It's a word that carries weight, doesn't it?
it?
A word that feels like a chain around
your ankles, dragging you back to
moments you wish you could erase. It
whispers in your ear at night, "You
should have done better. You could have
tried harder. Why didn't you take that chance?"
The first step to turning regret into
resolve is to stop running from it. Stop
avoiding it. Stop numbing it. Stop
pretending it doesn't exist. Face it.
Look at it head on and say, "Yes, I made
mistakes. Yes, I missed opportunities.
Yes, I wish I'd done things
differently." Owning your regret doesn't
mean wallowing in it. It doesn't mean
beating yourself up or living in the
past. It means taking responsibility for
it. Acknowledging what happened without
letting it control you.
Because here's the truth.
>> Every regret holds a lesson. Every
missed opportunity, every mistake, every
failure is trying to teach you
something. But you have to be willing to
learn. Ask yourself, why do I regret
this? What would I do differently if I
had the chance? What does this regret
reveal about what I valued, about who I
want to be? The answers won't always be
comfortable. They might force you to
confront parts of yourself you'd rather
ignore. But those answers are the key to
growth. They're the blueprint for the
person you're becoming. Regret without
reflection is wasted pain. Don't waste
it. Once you've learned the lesson, it's
time to act. Regret is a fire. If you
let it burn out of control, it'll
consume you. But if you harness it, if
you direct it, it can be the fuel that
drives you to change. Let your regret
remind you of what's at stake. Let it
push you to take the chances you were
too scared to take before. This might be
the hardest part, forgiving yourself.
Because regret often comes with guilt,
with shame, with the weight of feeling
like you've let yourself or someone else down.
down.
But carrying that guilt doesn't serve
you. It doesn't fix the past.
It doesn't make you stronger.
Forgiving yourself doesn't mean excusing
what you did.
It means acknowledging that you're
human, that you're imperfect,
and that you're trying.
Forgive yourself, not because you're
letting yourself off the hook, but
because you deserve the chance to move
forward without the weight of shame
Don't stress in the face of adversity.
Make adversity something you desire for
You have to get used to being alone
because there are seasons where you'll
basically transition from one group of
friends into another. And it's not even
a group of you'll usually transition
from a group of friends into no friends.
And then you'll find one or two people
who are at a new level. And then
sometimes those people introduce you to
some of their friends. And if you keep
walking and you keep outpacing, then
that group will then start retiring past
you. and then maybe one person stays
with you, maybe no one does, and you'll
have another lonely period. I'm saying
this because I used to think that there
was something wrong with me. When in
reality, I just didn't understand what
the nature of being exceptional meant.
To be exceptional means that you are the
exception. It means that you are not
normal. And so, it's normal for normal
people to find you abnormal if you do
Resilience is our ability to bounce
back. I mean in the simplest definition,
resiliency is our ability to bounce back.
back.
But really what it means also is it's
our ability not to get pushed that far,
not to have to bounce that far back
because we built our resilience to a
place where when life happens and life's
happening, life is going to keep coming.
You've either gone through something,
you're going through something, or you
will go through something. Life's going
to keep coming. Our resiliency or our
ability to take those things on is a
muscle and it's a muscle that we can
work on to allow us to take those things
on as they're coming at us.
The more we work on it, the better we
get at. In fact, the more we grow
through, not go through, but grow
through in our lives, the better that
resilience muscle gets.
So, when these things are coming at us,
instead of feeling like the victim, we
want to embrace them because they're
growing our ability to take things on in
the future. And as I grow my ability to
take things on, I can start to take them
on for the people around me. I can show
them how to go through these things and
actually grow through these things.
Resilience is an important part of who
we are.
When we build it, we become better.
Better able to handle the things that
are coming at us and continue to make
the world go round.
They're small gains. That's it. And what
separates people who achieve their goals
from people who do not is simple. People
who achieve their goals understand the
power of showing up every day and just
doing the boring, tedious stuff.
That's where greatness is made. It's in
the things that aren't fun. It's in the
stuff that nobody wants to do. That's
the thing most people don't talk about.
Goals are boring. All those people you
admire that have what you want, you know
what they're doing? They're doing the
reps. And if you've ever looked at
somebody who becomes an overnight
sensation, I want you to look at their
actual story because they were doing the
reps in the dark for a decade while
nobody was paying attention. There is no
shortcut here. Period.
>> One day, win today. Then you wake up
tomorrow and you do the same thing. And
then you wake up on Wednesday and you do
the same thing. Then you wake up on
Thursday and you do the same thing. And
guess what happens then? You create a
winning streak. And when you do this
long enough, you're forming new habits.
Okay? And after a while, winning the day
is not hard. It's easy. It becomes
automatic. And when you get to the point
where you're winning every day and it's
automatic, guess what happens? Winning
becomes who the you are. And when
winning becomes who the you are, guess
what you become?
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