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This content identifies eight key signs that indicate a person is being kept as a "backup" option in a relationship, highlighting behaviors that stem from convenience and ego rather than genuine affection or commitment. It aims to empower individuals to recognize these patterns and seek relationships where they are truly chosen.
Hi, beautiful people. Welcome to Si
Signs, where we decode behavior and help
you build emotional clarity. And today,
we're diving into a truth that's hard to
face but necessary for your peace. Eight
signs he's keeping you as a backup. He
texts you one day like you're his
favorite person, then disappears for
days. He tells you he likes you, but
somehow never makes things official.
You're left in this confusing gray zone.
Not quite single, but not really chosen
either. If you've ever felt like someone
only wants you when it's convenient for
them, this one's for you. I want you to
focus on this video and make sure you
stay till the end because the bonus sign
might be the one that finally helps you
see his true intentions. Let's begin.
One, he shows interest only when you
start to pull away. It's funny how he
can go silent for days, but the moment
you stop replying as fast or stop
showing interest, suddenly he's back.
Suddenly, he misses you. He starts
texting you like crazy. But deep down,
you know it's not love, it's fear. He
senses that his hold over you is
slipping, and that's what he's reacting
to. He doesn't want to lose you because
you feed his ego. You're the reassurance
that no matter how he treats you, you'll
still be there. So when you pull away,
it's not his heart that panics, it's his
pride. He's not missing you, he's
missing being missed. Two, he keeps
things emotionally vague. He says things
like, "I like where we are. Let's not
rush things. I just want to go with the
flow." But that flow never seems to lead
anywhere. You can spend months talking
to him and still not know what you are
to each other. That's intentional
because vagueness gives him control. If
he keeps it undefined, he can enjoy all
the benefits of your affection without
the responsibility of commitment. He
knows that as long as you're emotionally
confused, you'll stay hopeful. But let's
be real, anyone who truly wants you
won't keep you guessing. Three, you feel
like you're always the one initiating.
You send the first text. You're the one
who checks in after a long day. You're
the one asking, "When are we hanging
out?" And he he just goes with the flow
again. He'll respond sometimes sweetly,
but rarely does he initiate because he
doesn't feel the need to. You've made it
too easy. He knows you'll always reach
out, so why would he bother? You've
become his emotional safety net. always
there when he needs validation,
attention, or comfort. But that's not
love. That's convenience. You're not too
much. He's just too lazy to meet your
effort. Four, he's affectionate, but
only in private. Behind closed doors,
he's all over you. He tells you you're
special, holds you like he means it,
maybe even says he's never met anyone
like you. But the moment you're in
public, he acts distant. No handholding,
no soft glances. It's like he's two
different people. One when it's just the
two of you and one when others are
watching. That's not shyness. That's
strategy. Because keeping things private
gives him an escape route. If nobody
knows about you, nobody will ask about
you. He can flirt with others, play
single, and still keep you around
quietly, privately, conveniently. If he
hides you, it's not love. It's
protection not of you but of his
options. Five. He disappears when you
need emotional support. When he's
stressed, you're his calm place. When
you're hurting, he's nowhere to be
found. You might text him about
something serious and he'll reply hours
later with something like, "Sorry, I was
busy. You good now?" It's like he's
allergic to your emotions. He loves your
soft side when it serves him, when it
makes him feel cared for, admired,
wanted. But the moment you need him to
show up emotionally, he shuts down.
That's because true connection requires
empathy and effort. And people who keep
you as a backup don't invest energy.
They collect it. He wants your comfort,
not your complexity. Six, he flirts with
others right in front of you. Maybe he
comments on other girls posts. Maybe he
tells you, "Relax, it's just social
media." Or maybe he gets a little too
friendly when you're out together. You
tell yourself not to overreact, but deep
down it hurts. And it should because
what he's doing isn't harmless. It's a
subtle way of keeping you insecure while
keeping himself desired. He wants to
make sure other people see him as
available and you see yourself as
replaceable. It's emotional manipulation
hidden under the label of harmless
flirting. And the worst part, he knows
it. Seven, you always feel like you're
waiting for him. Waiting for him to text
back. Waiting for him to decide if he
wants to see you. Waiting for him to be
ready. But the truth is, if you're
constantly waiting, it's because he
already made his choice. He's just
keeping you on standby until something
better shows up or until he gets lonely
again. He knows you'll still be there
when he's done exploring his options.
And you might tell yourself, "He just
needs time." But what he really needs is
courage, and that's not something you
can give him. You can't inspire
commitment in someone who's addicted to
convenience. Eight, he gives you just
enough to keep you hoping. One week he's
sweet and attentive, the next he's
distant. He's mastered the pattern, pull
you close, then push you away. He gives
you crumbs, tiny doses of affection, and
watches you chase after the full meal.
It's like emotional bait. And every time
you fall for it, he learns he doesn't
need to do much to keep you around.
That's how you slowly start lowering
your standards just to keep him
interested. But here's the truth.
Someone who truly values you won't feed
you crumbs. They'll serve consistency.
You're the backup plan he never deserved
in the first place. Bonus. He doesn't
fear losing you. He fears you realizing
your worth. Because once you do, the
game ends. Once you start seeing his
patterns for what they are, empty,
repetitive, predictable. He loses his
control. He's not scared you'll leave.
He's scared you'll stop caring. Because
when you stop caring, his attention
source dries up. And for people like
him, that's the real loss. So if you
recognize yourself in these signs,
please stop being the maybe in someone
else's story. You deserve someone who
chooses you even when it's not
convenient. Someone who shows up not
because you remind them to, but because
they want to. And the moment you stop
accepting almost love, you make room for
real love. Don't forget to subscribe
because here at Scy Signs, we're
building emotional clarity one truth at
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