The core theme is the profound difference between relationships based on mutual incompleteness and need, versus those formed by two fully awakened individuals who are already complete and choose to be together out of preference, not necessity.
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You know, there's something absolutely
extraordinary that occurs when two
people who have genuinely awakened to
their true nature encounter each other.
It's not what the romantic novels tell
you. It's not what the spiritual
communities often describe. It's
something far more subtle, far more
profound, and in many ways far more
beautiful than anything we've been
conditioned to expect. Most
relationships, if we're honest, are
based on a kind of mutual incompleteness.
incompleteness.
Two people come together because each
feels that something is missing,
something is lacking, and the other
person seems to promise to fill that
void. This is what we usually call
falling in love. But it's really falling
into need. It's two halves trying to
make a hole. Two empty cups trying to
fill each other. Two drowning people
clinging to each other in the hope of
staying afloat. And there's nothing
wrong with this necessarily.
This is where most of humanity lives.
And these relationships can be perfectly
functional, even pleasant. But they're
based on a fundamental misunderstanding.
They're based on the belief that you are
incomplete, that happiness exists
outside of you, that another person can
give you what you lack within yourself.
But when two awakened souls meet,
something entirely different happens.
And the first thing you need to
understand is that awakened souls don't
need each other. Let me repeat that
because it's crucial. They don't need
each other. They're already complete.
They've already discovered that the
wholeness they were seeking was never
outside themselves. They've realized
that they are not separate limited
beings who need to be completed by
another. They are the universe itself
experiencing life through a particular
form. So when two such people encounter
each other, they're not coming together
to fill a void. They're coming together
because they want to, not because they
have to. And this simple distinction
changes absolutely everything. The
entire quality of the relationship is
transformed when it's based on choice
rather than need, on preference rather
than desperation, on celebration rather
than compensation. Think about it this
way. When you're hungry, really hungry,
you'll eat almost anything. You're not
tasting the food. You're just trying to
fill the emptiness. But when you're
already satisfied, when you're already
full, then if you choose to eat, it's
pure enjoyment. You're tasting every
flavor, appreciating every texture.
You're eating for the pleasure of
eating, not to fill a hole. This is what
happens when awakened souls come
together. They're not using each other.
They're not trying to extract something
from each other to fill their inner
emptiness. They're simply enjoying each
other, appreciating each other,
celebrating the mystery of
consciousness, recognizing itself in
another form. And here's what's
fascinating. Because neither person
needs the other, because neither is
clinging or grasping or demanding,
there's a kind of freedom in the
relationship that most people never experience.
experience.
Each person is completely free to be
themselves, to change, to grow, to move.
There's no sense of possession, no fear
of loss, no desperate attempt to control
or manipulate or make the other person
conform to some image of what they
should be. When an awakened person looks
at another awakened person, they're not
seeing someone they need to complete
them. They're seeing the universe
looking back at itself. They're
recognizing that the consciousness
looking out of those other eyes is the
same consciousness looking out of their
own eyes. It's one awareness
experiencing itself from two different
vantage points playing a kind of cosmic
game of hideand seek. This recognition
creates a very particular kind of
intimacy. It's not the desperate
clinging intimacy of two people who fear
being alone. It's not the melodramatic
intensity of two egos trying to merge
and losing themselves in the process.
It's something much more spacious, much
more relaxed. It's the intimacy of two
dancers who trust each other completely,
who don't need to hold on to each other
to stay balanced, who can move
independently while still being
perfectly synchronized. Let me tell you
what doesn't happen when two awakened
souls meet. There's no drama. Oh, there
might be passion, there might be
intensity, but there's no drama in the
neurotic sense. No games, no manipulation,
manipulation,
no power struggles, no desperate
attempts to change the other person
because both people have seen through
the game of ego. They're not playing it
with each other. There's no jealousy or
at least no clinging jealousy. An
awakened person might feel a momentary
flash of jealousy because they're still
human, but they don't identify with it.
They don't make it into a story. They
don't use it as a weapon. They see it
for what it is, a temporary emotion, a
wave on the surface of consciousness,
nothing more. There's no fear of
abandonment because the awakened person
knows they can never truly be abandoned.
They know that even if the other person
walks away, they're still complete,
still whole, still connected to the
universe itself. They might feel sadness
at the ending of a relationship, but
they don't experience that existential
terror that comes from believing you've
lost something essential to your
survival. And perhaps most importantly,
there's no attempt to possess the other
person. The awakened soul understands
that you cannot possess another human
being any more than you can possess the
wind or the ocean or the sky. The other
person is free, has always been free,
will always be free. And rather than
seeing this as a threat, the awakened
person sees it as beautiful. They're not
trying to cage a bird. They're marveling
at the bird's ability to fly. So what
does happen when two awakened souls
meet? First, there's recognition. It's
often instantaneous.
Not in the romantic sense of love at
first sight, but in a deeper sense of I
see who you really are and you see who I
really am. There's a kind of
transparency that occurs. All the usual
masks, all the social performances, all
the ego defenses, they become
unnecessary. Both people can relax into
their authentic nature. This recognition
creates a very particular quality of
communication. When awakened souls
communicate, they're not just exchanging
information or defending positions or
trying to impress each other. They're
playing. They're exploring. They're
dancing with ideas and perspectives.
They can disagree completely about
something without it threatening the
relationship because they're not
identified with their opinions. They're
not their thoughts. They are the
awareness in which thoughts arise.
There's also a profound respect,
not the superficial respect of
politeness, but a deep recognition of
the mystery that each person is. The
awakened soul knows that they cannot
fully understand another person, can
never completely know them, and they
don't try to. They allow the other
person to remain mysterious, to be
unpredictable, to surprise them. They're
not trying to figure the other person
out so they can control or manipulate
them. They're simply appreciating the
enigma. When two awakened souls are
together, there's often long stretches
of comfortable silence. They don't need
to fill every moment with words. They're
comfortable with just being in each
other's presence. The silence isn't
awkward or uncomfortable. It's full,
rich, alive. They're communing at a
level deeper than words. Consciousness,
resting in consciousness, awareness,
enjoying awareness. And when they do
speak, there's a quality of listening
that's quite rare. Each person is truly
hearing the other, not just waiting for
their turn to talk, not filtering
everything through their own agenda or
assumptions. They're open, curious,
genuinely interested in the other
person's perspective, even if it's
completely different from their own.
There's also a kind of humor that
emerges when awakened souls meet. They
can laugh at the cosmic joke together.
They can see the absurdity of existence,
the improbability of consciousness, the
strange game that life is playing. They
don't take themselves too seriously.
They can laugh at their own egos, at
their own patterns, at the human comedy
of which they're both apart. Physical
intimacy, when it occurs between
awakened souls, takes on a completely
different quality. It's not about need
or conquest or validation. It's not
about using the other person's body to
distract yourself from your inner
emptiness. It's a celebration, a dance,
a form of play. It's consciousness,
exploring consciousness through physical
form. There's no performance anxiety
because neither person is trying to
prove anything. There's no disconnection
because both people are fully present,
fully aware, fully alive to the moment.
And here's something interesting.
Awakened souls can be together or apart
with equal ease. They don't cling to
constant togetherness. They understand
that closeness and distance are both
valuable, that separation can be as
nourishing as union. They can give each
other space without it meaning
rejection. They can come together
without it meaning possession. There's a
natural rhythm to the relationship like
breathing in and breathing out, coming
together and moving apart. And neither
phase is seen as better or worse than
the other. When conflicts arise, as they
inevitably do even between awakened
souls, they're handled very differently.
There's no need to be right. There's no
need to win. Both people are more
interested in understanding than in
being understood, more interested in
resolution than in victory. They can
admit when they're wrong without it
threatening their sense of self. They
can apologize without resentment. They
can forgive without keeping score.
There's also a profound generosity in
the relationship. Not the forced
generosity of someone who's trying to
earn love, but the natural generosity of
someone who's already full. The awakened
soul gives freely because it's a joy to
give, not because they expect something
in return. They support the other
person's growth even when that growth
takes the person in a different
direction. They want the other person to
be fully themselves, even if that means
growing beyond the relationship. And uh
this brings me to a crucial point. When
two awakened souls meet, they understand
that the relationship might not be
forever. And they're okay with that.
They're not trying to lock it down to
make it permanent to guarantee that it
will last until death do them part.
They're enjoying it now fully,
completely without projecting into the
future or comparing it to the past. And
paradoxically, this very lack of
clinging often makes the relationship
last longer and go deeper than
relationships based on need and fear.
There's also a quality of surrender in
the relationship. Not the surrender of
one person to another, but both people
surrendering to something larger than
themselves. They're allowing life to
move through them, to express itself
through their connection. They're not
forcing the relationship to be anything
in particular. They're letting it be
what it is, letting it evolve naturally,
trusting the process. When awakened
souls are together, they bring out the
best in each other, but not through
criticism or pressure or trying to fix
each other. They do it simply by being
themselves, by modeling what it looks
like to live authentically, by creating
a space where the other person feels
safe to drop their masks and defenses.
Each person's awakening deepens the
other's awakening. It's a kind of
resonance like two tuning forks
vibrating at the same frequency
amplifying each other. There's also a
sense of sacred ordinariness in the
relationship. Everything becomes
meaningful. Even the mundane activities,
washing dishes together, sitting in
traffic, paying bills. These ordinary
moments become infused with presence,
with awareness, with the recognition
that this moment exactly as it is, is
the only moment there ever is. They're
not waiting for some special moment in
the future to be happy. They're finding
the extraordinary and the ordinary, the
sacred, and the mundane. And here's
something that might surprise you.
Awakened souls can feel all the emotions
that everyone else feels. They feel
attraction, affection, even jealousy and
anger and sadness. But they don't
identify with these emotions. They don't
make them into problems. They don't
build stories around them. They feel
them fully and completely and then let
them pass. It's like weather passing
through the sky. The sky doesn't cling
to the storm or push away the sunshine.
It allows both to come and go. When two
awakened souls meet, there's also a
recognition that the relationship is not
about personal fulfillment. It's not
about completing each other or finding
happiness together. It's about something
much larger. It's about consciousness
exploring itself, about the universe
experiencing itself in relationship,
about life expressing itself through the
dance of two beings who've remembered
who they really are. There's a famous
Zen saying, "Before enlightenment, chop
wood, carry water. After enlightenment,
chop wood, carry water." The same could
be said for relationships. Before
awakening, you relate to another person.
After awakening, you relate to another
person. The actions might look the same
from the outside. But the inner quality,
the inner experience is completely
transformed. The awakened relationship
is not free from challenges. There are
still practical matters to navigate,
differences to bridge, adjustments to
make. But these challenges are not seen
as problems. They are seen as
opportunities for deeper understanding,
for greater wisdom, for more complete
presence. Every difficulty becomes a
teacher. Every conflict becomes a
doorway to greater consciousness. And
perhaps most beautifully, when two
awakened souls meet, they create a field
of consciousness that affects everyone
around them. Their presence together has
a quality that others can feel even if
they can't articulate it. It's peaceful
but not passive. It's joyful but not
manic. It's loving but not needy. It
radiates outward, touching everyone it
encounters, inviting others to remember
their own true nature. This is what
happens when two awakened souls meet.
Not the fireworks and drama and
desperate clinging of neurotic love, but
something far more precious. A meeting
of two beings who've remembered what
they are, who see the divine in each
other, who can dance together without
stepping on each other's toes, who can
be completely together and completely
free at the same time. It's a
relationship not of need but of
celebration, not of possession but of
appreciation, not of fear but of trust,
not of becoming but of being. And in
this being together, in this mutual
recognition, in this dance of
consciousness with consciousness,
something profound is revealed. That
love is not something that happens
between two separate beings. But the
recognition that there are no two
separate beings. There never were and
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