0:01 A lot of people will tell you, "Oh,
0:04 narcissists just react in anger." No,
0:06 that's not the case. Evil narcissists
0:09 design damage and destruction. They wait
0:11 for the moment they know will leave a
0:13 mark on your soul, not just a bruise on
0:16 your skin. They want you to go through
0:19 the kind of suffering that you will
0:21 never recover from. And then they want
0:25 you to think you did it to yourself.
0:27 They quietly move pieces around your
0:29 life like a chessboard. They remove the
0:32 help you need. They feed you the wrong
0:34 step at the right time. They interrupt
0:38 the exact spark that kept you alive. And
0:40 then they stand back as you blame
0:43 yourself for the fallout. This is their
0:46 campaign of destruction against you. And
0:48 you need to understand that thoroughly
0:49 if you want to save yourself. I'm
0:52 Danish, a narcissistic abuse recovery
0:54 professional. Welcome to my channel. The
0:57 topic for today is evil narcissists do
1:00 these five things to cause you soul
1:03 crushing damage. Before we get started
1:05 with number one, make sure you sign up
1:07 for the weight list for my membership
1:09 program called Thrive After Narcissistic
1:12 Abuse, which just closed. Link is in the
1:14 description. Sign up right now. The
1:18 first move is they intentionally let you
1:21 mess up. You could be standing at a
1:23 crossroads in life, unsure of which way
1:26 to go. You may turn to them because you
1:29 assume they care or because they seem
1:32 more experienced. In that moment, they
1:35 see your blind spot. They see the wrong
1:37 choice you are about to make and they
1:40 know exactly how it will end. But
1:42 instead of warning you, stopping you,
1:44 instead of stepping in, they stay
1:46 silent. Sometimes they even give you a
1:50 small push, a half answer that nudges
1:53 you toward disaster. It could be
1:55 financial. It could be a career choice.
1:58 Could be something as important as
2:01 missing a document deadline, signing the
2:03 wrong paper, or trusting the wrong
2:05 person. They see you about to ruin
2:09 yourself and they let it happen. Why?
2:12 Because the aftermath entertains them if
2:13 they're sadistic. And when the
2:16 consequences finally crush you, they
2:18 step back in, not with compassion,
2:21 never, but with extreme judgment. They
2:23 say things like, "You should have known
2:25 better. What happened to your education,
2:27 your degree, or I thought you had it
2:28 under control?" That's their favorite
2:32 part. Letting you suffer while they play
2:34 the wise critic. I still remember my
2:37 father saying to me, "Never show anyone
2:39 the right path. Always derail them. Keep
2:42 them guessing. Keep them busy." He meant
2:45 it. He lived by it. People would come to
2:48 him for advice and he would deliberately
2:51 leave out the most important part. So
2:54 they never move forward. That is the
2:57 level of envy and cruelty we're talking
2:59 about here. And when you fail, they do
3:02 not just stand by. They blame you for
3:04 it. Triggering false accountability,
3:06 pseudo accountability, making you feel
3:10 stupid for not seeing what they saw all
3:12 along. The crazy part is they feel
3:15 really powerful to be able to influence
3:17 your life in such a devastating way.
3:19 Have you experienced this? Let me know
3:21 in the comments. The second move is they
3:23 ruin the one thing you love most.
3:26 Narcissists cannot stand sharing your
3:29 affection or attention with anything
3:31 that gives you hope or life. If your
3:33 soul feels at home in your pet, your
3:35 art, friendships, career, or your
3:38 family, they see it as a competition. to
3:40 them. How dare you love something as
3:44 much as or more than them? That jealousy
3:47 is not passive. It becomes a mission for
3:48 them to destroy what matters to you
3:51 most. Sometimes this looks like subtle
3:53 poisoning of relationships. They slowly
3:55 convince you your good friend is not
3:58 good for you anymore. They drip feed
4:00 suspicion until your family feels
4:03 distant. They tell you your job does not
4:06 value you. They chip at it bit by bit.
4:09 Other times it's brutal and direct. A
4:12 pet suddenly dies. A partner suddenly
4:14 turns on you. A career ending mistake
4:17 suddenly happens that traces back to
4:20 their influence. That's who they are.
4:23 The devastation this creates is deeper
4:26 than the loss itself. It is the way it
4:29 makes you question whether you are even
4:31 allowed to love anything without any
4:34 punishment. Imagine waking up to find
4:36 your cat poisoned, your job gone, or
4:39 your closest bond severed. That is the
4:40 kind of damage they want. That's why
4:43 they're evil. Not temporary pain, but a
4:45 lifelong scar that makes you associate
4:49 joy with danger. That way, every time
4:51 you start to love something again, you
4:54 will hear their voice in your head
4:57 warning you not to. The third move is
4:59 they deliberately withhold urgent
5:02 information. This one is as quiet as it
5:05 is devastating. They see the email come
5:07 in with your deadline. They hear the
5:09 voicemail from the recruiter. They know
5:12 the bill is due. The appointment is
5:16 near. The family emergency is happening
5:19 and they sit on it. They let the clock
5:21 run out. Then when the opportunity is
5:24 gone, they casually mention it or worse,
5:27 they deny knowing about it at all. What
5:30 this does to you is more than missing a
5:33 chance. It makes you doubt your own
5:36 competence. You start to believe you are
5:39 always late, always disorganized, and
5:41 always behind. They manufacture this
5:44 narrative by controlling the flow of
5:46 facts. And when your life feels like a
5:48 series of failures, they position
5:52 themselves as the calm one, the one who
5:54 manages better, who is there for you. So
5:56 you never question them. The truth is
5:58 you are not chaotic. They created the
6:01 chaos and they enjoyed every bit of it
6:04 because each missed chance chips away at
6:06 your confidence and that leaves you more
6:09 dependent on them. People who love you
6:11 hand you information to see you thrive.
6:15 People who want to own you keep it from
6:18 you so you fail. The fourth move is they
6:21 twist your moral compass until you
6:24 betray your own values. This is the most
6:26 common thing. It's not about shouting at
6:30 you to do something wrong. It is far
6:32 more subtle. They create situations
6:35 where going against yourself feels like
6:38 the easiest and the rightest path. Maybe
6:40 they ask you to lie for them. Maybe they
6:42 nudge you into cutting someone off
6:45 unfairly. Maybe they encourage you to
6:47 shade the truth at work because everyone
6:51 does it. Right? The first time you feel
6:54 uneasy, but you push past it, then it
6:57 happens again. Slowly you start stacking
7:00 compromises until you barely recognize
7:03 yourself. And the problem is once you
7:06 have betrayed your own values, shame
7:08 does their work for them. You carry
7:11 guilt that keeps you quiet. You stop
7:13 reaching for help because you are afraid
7:16 of being exposed or embarrassed. You are
7:18 afraid of being a narcissist. Later,
7:20 they use the very choices they pressured
7:23 you into as weapons. They call you a
7:25 hypocrite. They mock you for pretending
7:28 to be good. They accuse you of betrayal
7:31 when you try to leave as if they were
7:33 the standard all along. The truth is
7:36 they trained you into violating your own
7:39 integrity and then they used your shame
7:42 as a leash. And finally, the fifth move
7:44 is they deliberately corrupt your
7:48 creative flow. They watch you come alive
7:51 when you create. Maybe it is writing.
7:53 Maybe it is painting, dancing, planning,
7:56 designing and building. They see that
7:58 spark. They know this is the one place
8:00 you feel free. The one place they cannot
8:02 fully reach. So what do they do? They
8:04 don't nurture it. Forget it. No, they
8:07 target it. Notice the evil pattern. You
8:10 finally sit down to work and inspiration
8:13 strikes right at that moment. Not
8:15 before. No, no, no. Not after they
8:17 interrupt. a fight, a guilt trip, urgent
8:21 request, allow distraction, anything to
8:23 break the state because they know that
8:26 creativity is not just about time, it's
8:29 about flow. It's a fragile doorway and
8:33 once it slams shut, it's gone. Over
8:35 time, you start believing. You lack
8:38 discipline. You think you cannot finish
8:40 projects. You call yourself lazy,
8:43 scattered, and inconsistent. None of
8:46 that is true. What is true is you were
8:48 being trained to associate creation with
8:51 interruption. They want you to stop
8:54 trying so your identity crumbles.
8:57 Instead of seeing yourself as an artist
8:59 or a builder or a writer, you start
9:01 seeing yourself as someone who never
9:04 completes anything. And the the problem
9:06 is you can't prove any of this to
9:08 anyone. You can't tell anybody that this
9:10 is what he or she does the minute I sit
9:13 at my work table. Nobody believes you.
9:14 They say, "Oh, come on. They're not
9:16 shouting. They're not hitting you.
9:17 They're not doing anything. So, what
9:19 abuse are you talking about?" Instead of
9:21 seeing yourself as an artist or a
9:24 builder or a writer, you start seeing
9:27 yourself as someone who never completes
9:30 anything. That is the deepest theft of
9:33 all because it convinces you that the
9:36 best part of you does not exist. And
9:39 that in my eyes is the biggest harm. So
9:41 look at the thread connecting all five
9:44 moves. They want you to blame yourself.
9:46 They want you to believe you are
9:49 incompetent, unworthy, chaotic,
9:51 hypocritical, and uninspired. They
9:54 create the collapse, then stand back and
9:56 watch you carry the shame as if it were
9:59 yours. But let me say this very clearly
10:01 and once for all. You were not too
10:04 careless. You were not too lazy. You
10:07 were targeted. Period. They set the trap
10:09 and then they laughed when you fell into
10:13 it. The moment you see the playbook, the
10:16 game changes. You start noticing when
10:18 silence is not forgetfulness but
10:21 strategy. You start projecting the
10:23 things you love as sacred and
10:26 untouchable. You create systems that
10:28 give you information directly instead of
10:30 through them. That's what I want you to
10:32 do. You step back into your values and
10:34 reclaim them. and you guard your
10:38 creative flow like the flame that lights
10:41 your future. That is how you break the
10:44 campaign of destruction. That's how you
10:47 rise from the damage they designed. I
10:49 hope you found this advice helpful. Let
10:51 me know in the comments. With that,
10:52 let's bring this episode to an end. I
10:54 will talk to you in the next one. And
10:56 until then, as always, let the healing
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