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do you feel like you're living life on a
beat scrolling social media stuck in bad
habits and never hitting your goals well
10 years ago I was making $55,000 a year
completely overwhelmed and stuck today
I've co-founded a multi-million dollar
business and truly live the life that I
once dreamed of so if you're ready to
cut off the old version of yourself and
build the life that you've been dreaming
of here's exactly where to start
decision decision decision the first and
most important step to getting unstuck
is to understand that the old version of
you doesn't exist exist anymore unless
you choose to stay stuck you have to cut
off the person that you are right now to
become the person that you want to be so
how do you actually do this you see I
love to look up the derivation of words
and the derivation of the word decision
is to cut off which means you're no
longer the person that you were
yesterday if you have made a decision to
change that person doesn't exist imagine
if your car got stolen the next day you
couldn't wake up be able to use your old
vehicle in order to get to where you're
trying to go you'd have to come up with
some different solution you'd have to
take a bike you'd have to Uber maybe
you're walking you no longer have your
car as your option to travel now think
about this as a decision for you to
change your life if you're going to
become a person who works out every
single day or a person who is a badass
at sales or somebody who reads books and
is very well- read and articulate all of
a sudden if you decide to be that person
you are no longer the person that
doesn't do those things that person
doesn't exist any longer so you have to
to start making decisions as if you are
that new person because guess what you
are all because you made the decision
now once you've made the decision let's
make your environment easier so if you
know that you doom scroll on Tik Tok set
a policy make it so that moving forward
you have your screen time locked on your
phone you cannot scroll on Tik Tok for
longer than 5 minutes when you make
subtle changes like this to actually
change your environment you're doubling
down on the decision for you not to be
the old version of yourself so your
environment matters and the choices that
you need to make in order to get there
really matter and guess what they can be
small little tweaks being a whole
different version of you doesn't mean
that everything in your life changes but
the things that matter that you need to
make progress on have to happen today
and that decision has to be now my
second step to getting unstuck is to
ruin myself with disappointment in me
disappointment is the wakeup call that
you have been avoiding do not listen to
all of those nice memes and those fun
Tik toks that make you feel like you
should accept yourself and be okay with
yourself the way that you are if you're
disappointed because you know that you
have more in you you know that you could
impact more people you know you have
this great potential and instead you're
wasting it be freaking disappointed you
shouldn't feel good about yourself why
would you feel good about yourself
you're not living into what is possible
for you once you know that you're
unhappy with the way that your life
looks you can make that change but don't
Sugar Code it don't tell yourself lies
that you should just love yourself the
way that you are and give yourself a big
hug don't listen to that be
disappointed accept the disappointment
and take action my parents used to drag
me to a dinner every single year with a
family friend and this family friend was
very well educated very well read and
Incredibly successful but I hated going
to the dinner because he made me feel
bad about myself the amount of news that
he would read every single day would
remind me that instead of reading the
news I was watching television the way
that he would articulate questions and
his opinions would make me feel
uncomfortable because I realized I
didn't have an opinion because I didn't
even know what the freak he was talking
about he was so involved in politics and
what was happening in the world and I
realized I don't know the things that I
could know and that I really feel like I
should know and should be part of those
conversations so after many years of
dinners I finally decided to stop lying
to myself and take action what did I do
I ordered the economist I ordered the
Wall Street Journal to show up to my
house every single day and I became
interested in the news I became
interested in politics so that when I
showed up to dinner the next year I
would actually have opinions you see I
didn't lie to myself saying that those
things aren't important they were
important that brings us to step three
which is to decide what you want your
life to look like you cannot create the
life that you want without knowing what
you want if I'm totally honest I
entirely gave up on my goals for about 3
years I became introverted I just
decided to be stuck in life because I
felt really insecure to be honest and I
was not confident and I was so terrified
of what people thought of me that I just
didn't want to try and I'll never forget
flying to this comp conference and I had
said no to speaking at this conference
because I was scared and I didn't feel
confident but then I was sitting there
in the audience realizing I'm here I
could be participating I could be
contributing but instead my fear of
public speaking my fear of being seen my
fear of maybe people judging me or
criticizing me is going to keep me on
the sidelines and from that moment
forward I was like I'm not going to be
this person I refus to be the person
that doesn't have the life that they
want and so from there I took
accountability and said what do I want
my life to look like and I wrote down
all of my goals what do I want
personally what do I want my fitness
goals to be what do I want my family
goals to be what kind of friends do I
want to have professionally what type of
mentors do I want to bring in what are
the opportunities that I'd like to
create and financially how much money do
I want to make what do I want to
contribute to how could I make a
financial impact on a charity that
really matters to me because if I'm not
confident in myself today and I don't
feel like I can create the life that I
want I'm never going to create the
impact that I could potentially make and
I am put on this planet in order to live
into my potential and I think that you
are too so if you haven't done this
already I would pause this video and I
would take out a piece of paper or maybe
open up your notes app and I would write
down your personal professional and
financial 5year goals this will give you
a picture of who you want to be in the
future so that you can decide to be that
person today step four is the most
important thing you can do because you
have to know for sure that you moving
forward are you making progress daily
that is how you get out of the rut of
having this dream life but actually
feeling like you're making incremental
progress you're seeing wins you're
making a change one of my successful
habits around this is to plan my day the
night before I do not leave my office I
do not leave my place of work or go to
bed without having a full breakdown of
my calendar and where I'm spending my
time the next day make the plan the
night before so when I'm going through
my calendar I'm looking at what
appointments do I have what books am I
reading what podcasts do I need to
listen to How do I spring in little
pieces of future Natalie and make those
deposits today so that I can actually
get those opportunities in the future
because I'm well read on these things
because I'm in the know on what's
happening in the spaces that I'm
interested in going into the progress
you choose to make every single day is
what changes things it is not these big
steps it is the tiny incremental steps
that you make every single day that
change the trajectory of your life to
create the life that you've always
wanted and my hack for this is to
actually graph the things that are the
most important to me because if I can
see on a graph that I'm getting more
hours of sleep every single night that I
am working out consistently and that my
muscle mass is increasing or if I can
see that I'm actually making more money
month over month all of a sudden I feel
better about the growth because I can
see it moving up but if you aren't
graphing and you aren't paying attention
to those movements every day you're
going to feel like you're not getting
any closer and you're going to go back
into your rut so measuring the handful
of things that matter to you changes
everything step five is one of my
favorites and I don't hear people
talking about this wherever you're
currently spending your time stop
spending your time there if you're in a
rut the easiest way to get unstuck in
your life is to get out of your house
your environment dictates the way that
you feel so you're watching a video
right now about how to get unstuck if
you're feeling stuck that means that you
shouldn't stay in the environment where
you are stuck your environment can be
the type of social media that you
interact with your environment can be
the friends that you hang out with the
information that you're reading get out
of your house get out out of those
places where you feel stuck and do that
immediately if you're watching this in a
place where you don't feel great leave
the place that you're currently in and
getting out of your house is one of the
most effective things when you get out
of your house it means that you have to
be around other people back when I was
in college and I would really feel caved
in I would do my homework in my bed I
felt like I was just grinding and that
there was no end in sight my life was
always going to suck I would go and
study at a Starbucks and later on I
learned that the best place to study was
actually a hotel lobby because you were
just in a different environment it was a
different Groove I just felt better
about myself I put on a different outfit
I made my makeup a little bit nicer and
I felt like I was in a place like the
places that I wanted to be in the future
instead of physically being in the place
where I currently feel stuck so think of
ways that you could change your
environment if you currently study at
your house could you study in a library
if you currently work in a space with a
cooworker that you can't stand could you
ask your manager to move there are
creative ways to change your environment
and your environment is everything step
six is to realize realize that
entertainment disguised is education is
why you're not making progress if you
watch a bunch of these videos and you
never do anything after them you have
just substituted traditional
entertainment via Tik Tok or Netflix
with education that you're using as
entertainment and I am a huge culprit of
this I will never forget when I needed
some motivation it was back when I was
in high school I had to study for this
big AP exam I was going to watch this
movie about this inspirational story
story of this woman who had this
incredible gymnastics career in my mind
I was thinking I was being productive or
I was learning something learning how to
overcome and how to have grit really I
was just being educated back in the day
I didn't have YouTube but today I see
people doing this constantly where they
will just binge watch all of these
videos on how to launch an effective
marketing campaign how to grow on social
media how to make more money and they
feel better because instead of just
watching mindless reality television at
least they're learning something but
they're not pairing the learning of
something with the doing of something
this can lead to you feeling like you're
making progress when really you're not
so here's my rule of THB whenever I'm
watching reading or listening to
something I have to actually do
something immediately afterwards I can't
just go to the next video to the next
podcast find the next Guru you will not
have a better life you will not get
unstuck from your rut if you just go to
Natalie's next video although you should
go to my next video but that's not going
to really help you and I'm here to
actually help you so what can you do
right now that would make a change if I
was you I would take my laptop or I
would take my phone and I would get out
of my house and I would go set up shop
in a coffee shop or in some awesome
Swanky hotel lobby that is how you
implement and you make a change so that
you're actually making progress instead
of just being edutain next up is number
seven which is to separate yourself from
people who don't support you you can
take a break from people holding you
back and it doesn't have to be a breakup
this is a lesson that my mom taught me
she would tell me about the boyfriends
that she would break up with but they
didn't know that she broke up with them
and I was like Mom how did you do this
she said I would just create slow and
subtle distance instead of having this
big fight that created all this emotion
I would subtly become more and more busy
to the point where it just didn't make
sense for us to be together any longer
because I already had this new life with
things that I was passionate about and
they were still doing what they were
doing before we didn't have some massive
breakup but it was obvious to both
parties that there was no longer
alignment this is the best way to create
separation from your friends now here's
the deal with this don't make other
people wrong don't have some big
emotional blowup just separate yourself
and start being so busy working on
yourself doing things that are creating
the life that you want that you no
longer have the time that you used to
have if you have friends who you like to
party with and go out with on Friday
Saturday and Sunday nights just have
other things to do that you can't move
whatever it is that you're trying to
create make time to do those things in
the time that used to spend with people
who aren't helping you get closer to
your goals this is where I go back to
looking at my calendar and I cancel
anything that is is not helping me get
out of the rut that I'm in there is no
party that you can go to there is no
lunch that you can go to there is no
coffee that you can go to with your
friend that is going to make you feel
better about yourself again it's not to
make them bad and it's not to make them
wrong it's just to say I no longer have
time to talk about my current life
because I have to go do things and spend
time building a new version of my life
and I can't live my old life while
building the new version of my life that
brings us to our final step in getting
unstuck which is Step number eight just
to say no you have to say no to anything
that doesn't align with your goals I
used to make up errands that I had to
run instead of spending Saturday
actually learning a new skill and
investing in myself to make progress I
would come up with this list of all of
these things that I had to do I have to
go get my nails done I have to go to
Target I have to eat lunch I just
created all of these things that I had
to do when really I didn't have to do
any of them so sometimes saying no isn't
saying no to somebody else it's actually
saying no to the habits and the routines
and the things that you tell yourself
you have to do but they're really
distractions just taking you away from
the things that you actually have to do
if you're not making progress on the
real things that you need to do you have
to re-evaluate the things that you have
to do and start saying no to yourself if
you're ready to take this even further
watch my video on how to create your
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