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How To Move On After A Breakup?
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How difficult it is, isn't it? He has become more handsome than before.
You are
seeing someone else in his stories. How will it be possible to move
on? Because the other person has also done it. So, whatever I
say today, I will speak from experience
and not from anything other than experience
because I myself have been
in a long, very long relationship of 6 years and 1 year. And I can proudly say that I have
moved on. Yes, genuinely I do
n't stalk him. It's a different matter that his
ID is private but I still don't
stalk him. I mean, today's blog is very
different. I generally don't make such sit and talk
videos. But when I made
Instagram, 25 of them followed me.
Moving on is
the most crushing problem right now. So I thought, let's
talk about this. So, let's start.
Like, I remember for me moving on. I
felt like I am a lion in a zoo. There
is a grill in the middle and my ex is on that side.
We constantly try to keep
that grill between that wall. Break it and just
reach out to them once like the urge to
reach out just to see what is going on in their life what are they
doing who are they with they have
a greed to know what is going on
in their life so I used to
feel like a lion in a zoo but I did
not realize that when we go into that jungle and keep hitting our head keep hitting
to reach
out it because nothing but self harm damage
pain physical pain I think this must happen to
everyone that we cannot eat food due to
anxiety we cannot sleep and if we do then we do
n’t feel like getting up in the morning because I remember sleeping felt like an
escape I used to get up
but didn’t feel like getting up it’s
like the same day will be repeated again you will go
to their page again stock it again see something
which will save your mind so
waking up at that point was the most
difficult thing that I was doing in my
life I used to get up but I used to remain lying in bed.
Just felt like I want to get up
but I don't want to get up after that weight loss becomes
tremendous, we become hot but
at this point we don't care
how hot we are, how many options we have
because all we want is them, our
priority is that person, we
lose our self worth, at some point we
value them so much that there is a hope
inside that hope does not end, that
hope keeps coming again and again, no
everything will be fine, everything will be fine because
we looked so good together when we were together everything was
so perfect the way we met it was
unnatural, this is how soulmates meet, so that
hope has to be ended, the
day that hope ends, neither do
you go back yourself nor do you melt on their return,
now tell someone that I
want to move on, so the first thing that these guys
will suggest you is block them and that is
exactly what you do not have to do
block them Things only get worse by doing things. I mean,
think about it for once that
we miss the dead person a lot, so we do
n't want to kill them, we don't have to kill them, we
just have to accept that there is something that is gone which will not come back. In
fact, I will say that sometimes you feel like stalking, so
mute the notifications, mute them,
but when you feel like stalking,
sit comfortably for 10-15 minutes and stalk because you are in a
phase of healing. You cannot behave badly with yourself, the more you
you
stop yourself from things, the more sad you become from inside. You
have to make yourself happy, you have to make
yourself feel at peace, you have to treat
yourself with more love and more care, so if
you want to stalk, go stalk me, I am not saying
that you should talk to them everyday, mute the notifications, don't
talk to them, maintain your distance,
but when ever you feel the need to go back to
old times, Stock stock this process
is a part of getting the acceptance that
yes there were some things which were very good which are not there now, appreciate what
you had and let go, to let go
you have to already
appreciate that yes this was, that was from her to him, that is
important, on the contrary,
if you block him, then the mind becomes
more anxious, you keep thinking about that one
thing only, what could have happened,
what might he have posted just now, what might he be doing,
and then you tend to make that fake
ID, then if the ID is private, he did
not accept it, there is a different anxiety, it is
better to let it be, let it be the way it is and
deal with it now the second point comes that suppose
I did not block him and then I
saw him with someone else in his story, how could it be
like that, it was mine, how can this person go out with someone,
see, it was mine, it was yours, what happens, it is
not a thing, he is a human being, now the psychology behind this
says that it is human
instinct that we try to control our own people People love their ego a lot. It is
mine, it is my thing. I have
bought it. I have a right over it. Now, because
it is mine, it cannot go to anyone else.
We become territorial about
differentiated there. This human ego will keep coming in between.
We will feel that this person used to
say I love you to me every night
before going to sleep. Every morning, when he woke up, he used to say good
morning to me. Now, when this person says it to someone else,
our ego gets hurt. To
reduce that ego, humans
need to be treated like humans.
We have not brought anything on this earth. We came empty-handed and will
go empty-handed. What is written will be received. Whoever has to go will
go. We cannot stop him.
But then after a break, people say that yaar, we do
miss it. It is normal. We miss it. We miss it now
because we compare our present with
our past.
How happy we were together. How good everything was.
But this is the most toxic cycle.
Understand this carefully. I read this in a book
and this is a Very important piece of
information We feel happy in our relationships
because the other person gives us
appreciation and validation.
We get that appreciation and validation
because we work on ourselves. We
become more beautiful. We
put in more effort. We cross an extra
mile for them. Due to which they get
appreciation. But you will not get it from that one person, you will
get it from the whole world. That is why many times when
a person has a breakup, he becomes
good in his career and he becomes
famous very quickly because he
works on himself. It is possible that he may
not have got the love of that one person. But he grows so much
in life that the rest of the public
starts loving him. And when
instead of one person, you will get that appreciation, that validation, that love from thousands of people.
You will feel lonely at some point but you will move
on at least from that comparison that
how bad is my present or
how happy I was before or how good I had,
all those factors will go away. There is a
very simple theory, I don't know if you
guys will be able to understand or not, but sometimes we do
n't love that person, we love what
we feel when we are
with that person, that's why when we
break up, our biggest fear is that we may
not see that person with someone else, that he may not go to someone else, that he may not
talk to someone else, that he may not move on, so
there is fear, to know that
what are you feeling is very important, do you still
love them and is it that you can't see them
with something else, now the question must be coming
that okay, let's assume it was not love, it's
just that fear that we don't
want to see them with someone else and that's why we
want to move on, so how to move on,
brother Yashvi talks a lot of nonsense, now let's
talk straight about how to move on, do
n't listen to sad songs after waking up in the morning, while getting ready, sad pictures before sleeping at night, whether there is a
tomorrow or not, don't
listen to what you get from your whole heart with difficulty Don't look at quit being in a
sad state for at least two months sad
pleasure you have to stock up don't send messages
but after that very important which happens
most in today's generation don't pick
up any convenience calls your ex
knows that all your love you have poured into them after a
breakup that is a phase where
your entire love is for them okay
whatever you can give them that much no
one can give them at this time not even a
new relationship so they will try to come back
to talk to you but it's just time pass for
them means it may be in rare case scenarios whether it is
genuine love or affection you will
understand that but mostly this generation only does
time pass when they come back after a breakup
you have to avoid that after that
one more major thing which you have to avoid
which happens very much in this generation
is rebound relationships
after breakup take it easy for seven to eight months to heal to know what
you Actually don't want to
immediately get into a new relationship with someone else,
just because you are hurt, don't hurt
Sambalpuri, put someone else in your place,
brother, because my heart is broken, now I will spend
some time with someone else, if it works then it's
fine, if it doesn't work then what will happen, their heart will also be
broken, don't do that, and what I did the
most is replace your
emotional rage with physical go to the gym, if you don't have
money for the gym then go running, if you don't
feel like running then grab two boys and your friend and play badminton, yaar, do anything, just try to be outdoors, not just because it is an exercise for your brain or you think less emotionally and
work more physically, but also because it is a
fact that trees
pull out the negativity from within you and
radiate positivity inside you,
so Vastu Shastra also says that if
you are feeling bad or sad, it is
not necessary to go under a tree and do
meditation. If you want to do this then only it will be good for you. If
you generally go out in nature, then nature will
take out your negativity from within you, some kind
of healing will definitely happen and lastly
get a good gang of friends who will help you in
venting out your things, do
n't suppress them by saying that come brother, I drink alcohol, I
smoke, I do drugs, everything will be fine,
you will forget it, don't get into
that company because the more you suppress the
emotion, the more it will burst out one day, it
is better to get some friend that you can
actually sit and talk to, when you
keep venting that thing, gradually your burden will start becoming
light and things will start
going towards the outside, then the suffocation from inside will
reduce, hence it is very important to
have good friends by your side after you
break up, who will actually listen to you, now
all of you will say these are things, you will not
just move on after listening to all this, I agree, it will take
time, it will take a lot of time,
like this time is hard, Time is tough and
this time will teach you a lot in life
because even now I am sitting here and
talking about it that I have
moved on but still if I think about it and see
that even if two or three flashbacks of that time
come, then my heart becomes a little sad
but I feel like it's worth it in the end
because like it's a fab feeling when you
wake up one day, it took me a year to move on
but after a year there came a day when I still remember I woke
up and I didn't feel like
talking to you or checking your phone or there was
no hope that you would come back or I would
talk, everything just felt worth it,
thank God I did
not force myself to continue that relationship and I chose moving
on because I cannot describe that feeling, it
just gives you a sense of liberation
brother, like you are happy again after one year
of being sad or just
pretending to you are happy you are
actually happy on that one day so it makes sense
on that day and I hope that you also heal
and move on in today's generation
it's like it's too quick people are
just 15 16 18 dm ing me those very sad
face I feel bad because when I talk that I'd do those who are
14 15 16 year old
kids yes I can't control myself
you are having problems with heartbreak
there is this one girl she was 15 she was
dealing with depression she sent me her
clinical sheet please reply to me
talk to me I need some person to tell me what to do
in life because I am generally
depressed this is my depression sheet
I'm not faking it just to get a
reply and I felt so bad because let's
touchwood for me it happened when I
I was 18 and half 19, my boards were over,
my 12th was over, I was at a
stage where I had a
one-year break between school and college, then
quarantine was imposed, so I had a lot of
time to work on myself and move on, but
some people are really dealing with [ __ ] out there,
so I hope for everyone, yaar, everyone gets
well soon, what ever is written for you, you get it
and Jai Shri Ram, that means also, I have not
mentioned it in this video, but praying, not
just like going to a temple and worshipping,
believing in God from the heart, believing in his existence, to pray
really helps a lot, so doing something on the
right path, doing the right things, helps, so
this video helps you, like, share,
share,
subscribe, now I am already told that it takes
time, but whenever those flash back
things happen, you've been through you just know,
thank God, everything went away, and thank God, that face was
not that long and we were Able to come out
of it but hard times anyways Like Share
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