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You got like a whole setup over here.
>> Yeah, I'm going to redo that whole side.
>> Why you take it off? Cuz I want to redo
the whole side.
How to
You look fine. Don't keep looking at yourself.
yourself.
>> You look perfectly fine.
>> You know what I'm saying? Wait for me to
slip up. I got to make sure I'm looking
cool. They about to these damn pants. I
My daughter ain't text me back. That's
>> I ain't bring my my What's
>> I be forgetting
>> and you you was at home.
>> I don't I be want to but I don't.
>> But wait, what?
I'm sure thing like Yeah, she she she
got me tonight. She got She for sure
ain't going to forget. You probably
looked at it and everything.
>> You didn't. It's really put up for real.
>> Well, cuz that it's not mine. I don't
want nothing to happen to it. I said
when I got home, I'm I'm smoking on a hookah.
I made all that food. Bet. Nobody better
not ask me to cook.
>> Ain't nobody show up.
>> Well, I wasn't having no company either,
but people, all my text me, you cooking,
Benny? You cooking? Yeah. Come get your plate.
plate.
Don't look at me like that. I try. It's
a current situation.
>> Whatever. Cuz I don't know how long that
stuff. I'll make it freeze at >> freezing
>> freezing
be good if you freeze.
>> That's what people be doing. I never did
it before. But
>> you would not freeze no damn food after
you cooked it.
>> Why would you do that?
>> People do it to
>> That's white people [ __ ] Black people
don't do that [ __ ]
>> Well [ __ ] that food going to go in the
garbage in a minute. That's a lot, too.
This toast for patience.
>> Gota have patience in life. A lot of lot
of lot of lot of patience.
>> Refill you.
>> Refill you.
>> I don't know why I want to get drunk
tonight or feel something tonight and I
got to go to work in 10
>> in the morning.
>> [ __ ] Don't feel bad. I get up at like 6,
6,
>> maybe 6. [ __ ] You know, I make my own hours.
hours.
>> How much are these?
>> [ __ ] They be cheap online now. I'm
trying to get them the real joints.
I want them real real joints.
>> So, how did you think about the meeting?
What you what you think about the meeting?
meeting?
>> I put it together.
>> I was agree to all that [ __ ] >> What?
>> What?
>> I was I agree to everything. I'm cool
with everything. We
>> What we say going to stick your finger
up your ass with agree? I agree with
like come on, let's do it.
M
>> I don't know why you be be acting like
you scared to have me on your podcast.
You I think you you you you feel like
too too strong people can't be on there.
That's why you didn't want me to be on
your podcast.
>> I got you here right now.
>> Yeah, I'm but I'm Yeah, I am here cuz I
said I was going to help you. You didn't
ask me. I said you want me to help you?
You like
>> You know why I need your help? Cuz you
know what I'm saying? Sometimes you just
need to put that that that face that
fine face up there. You know what I'm
saying? Especially with your your your
makeup be you know what I'm saying?
Don't gas like me. My makeup look good
cuz I really didn't do it today.
>> I missed a lot of steps.
>> It look fine. You know how some dudes
can't really look at like cuz you my
friend. I can't look you deep in your
ass like that. It's going to be hard for
me. So that's why I'm
>> Get your ass on.
>> Hey, so look. How y'all doing today?
This your boy Funny Ass JJ aka step
coach aka Little Day aka I take care of
them step kids. Look, she be busy. So
you know what I'm saying? Oh my bros, my
bros they take care of stuff. They not
gonna be here at night. Got one bro on
the road. I got the other bro. You know
what I'm saying? He I think I literally
think he at work cuz he supposed to be
Ben call me back. But you know how that
go, man. So look, I brought somebody
that's a life coach. That's a that's a
lupus fighter. That's a man, she is an
amazing person and anything you put in
her way, she going she going to knock
the walls down. She going to figure it
out. Now I want to give a shout out to
my friend Savannah.
>> Thank you for that lovely introduction.
>> Thank you. I'm trying to go live on my
page. I can't I don't see it on there.
>> You don't see it on there.
>> Thank you for that lovely introduction.
Yeah, I'll see
>> cuz you going to the wrong thing. You
got to go to the page page. >> Oh,
>> Oh,
>> yeah. I got I got I got my own page now for
for
>> Okay, show me something then.
>> Just just like how you been how you been doing?
doing?
>> Um I've been blessed actually. I've been
blessed. Um
you want me to give you the safe answer?
Yeah. Give me the safe answer. This is
tell the truth. Shame the devil. So we
trying to shame the devil and tell the truth.
truth.
>> I've been blessed. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> I've been blessed.
>> What that what that look like though?
>> Been blessed. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Conquering, coping, um,
um,
and still choosing me after everything
that came my way literally meant to
destroy me. So,
So,
for me to be showing up the way that I
do, people still think I'm showing up at
my 100%. I I don't, but I appreciate
them, you know, due to my mom passing
and things of that nature. So, um I've
been I've been blessed cuz I don't know
how I'm doing it.
>> Yeah. you know, you know, I feel for
you. You know, I went through the same
situation, but me personally, you know,
I work a lot, so I don't I don't try to
not say I don't want to think about it,
but that's a whole another story,
another day. A
>> whole another story, another day.
>> You ready for this? You ready for this
new year?
>> Um, I've been ready for this new year.
I've been preparing. I always prepare.
So, yeah, I'm ready.
>> I don't know if I'm ready yet.
>> Well, you don't know if you're ready.
You ain't going to never actually be
ready. So, how you don't know that
you're ready? So like you know at first
what I want to do for New Year's cuz I
was thinking like man what I'm going to
do what I'm going to do. I was like
skipper I'm going to go to Po cuz you
know I ain't going to be no shoe in
there. Ain't nobody nobody want to get
banned from Po. I don't want to get
banned from Po. So I'm going do the
right thing like Spike Lee. Then I
thought about say you know what better
yet I can just do a movie night with my kids
kids
>> like buy one of them movies that's that
just came out. See can't we watch it
together and just chill. >> Yeah
>> Yeah
>> that's that's that's my goal. So I mean
cuz you know around here I you don't
really hear no shootings around here.
>> So you chilling with the family? >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Like the whole New Year's like bringing
it in and after that. That's dope.
>> I ain't going outside. I'm cool.
>> I mean you're not wrong for that. I'll
be in um Chicago. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> Um we got a couple of little um
activities we going to do, but I'll be
with my cousin, her son, and me and my princess.
princess. >> Oh
>> Oh
>> yeah. So I'm be with my my my daughter, too.
too.
>> Oh. Oh, so hold on. Wait. When your baby
leave cuz I see she doing how she doing?
She doing good in Texas.
>> She is. She
>> I bet them grades up there, huh?
>> Them grades been up there. She was too.
So don't even don't even do that. Them
grades are good. She's doing really
well. She's happy. Um but she is having
like homesickness. She he text me like,
"Mom, I wish I didn't leave you and KJ."
And I'm like, you know, it's okay. A lot
of people that's grown cannot make your
decision to get up out of their city to
go try something new to see if it work
or don't work. and you are a young
teenager and you chose to take that
step. So, I'm going to support her in
any and every way that I can. So, I just
keep encouraging her cuz she got she has
a great father, too. So, um but she's
she missing home. She when she came back
home, she was like, "Um,
I want you to cook. I want to stay." I
said, "Okay, I'm going take you to what
steakhouse you want to go to." She was
like, "No, I want you to cook." I said,
"You want me to cook it?"
>> And that made me feel so happy because I
haven't been cooking. Ever since she left,
left,
>> I don't cook. You've been working.
>> I've been working. I've been I've been
doing all types of thing. I do not cook
at all. So, normally my refrigerator
would just look like water and a lot of
fast food. Now, my refrigerator like
food food food. I've been cooking at
1:00 in the morning, 2:00 in the
morning. She been having me cooking. But
I I'm happy cuz you know that makes me
happy. Like I like to cook with love.
So, I I've been doing my thing in the
kitchen for her.
>> So, question before we even get to the
these these questions I got for you.
Well, really for us as as being parents
and and knowing certain things that we
know now in life about our kids, do you
think when they hit certain ages or
certain milestones, we got to get the we
learn our kids over or something like
that? Like the things they do like they
they ain't going to think the same way
they think when they was five.
>> For sure. So when they get teenagers,
that's a whole different ball game. M
>> so it's like trying to keep up not with
their trends but make sure they mental
health okay they physical health okay
like how how can you how can parents
really manage that
>> so for one um a kid versus adult it's
the same thing you're not going to be
the same person you was last year versus
this year the goal is not to be right
but a lot of people are stuck right so
we're not going to talk about the stuck
people so everybody changes you're
supposed to change you're supposed to
elevate you're supposed to grow supposed
to get uncom comfortable in order to do
those things. Um, so to answer your question,
question, um,
um,
I've implemented things in her since day one.
one. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> As far as her feelings, you know, your
feelings are valid. They may not be
right. It may not be okay, but how you
feel is valid. Your feelings are never
wrong. So, I um incorporated that when
she was when she was younger. I want you
to be able to feel. I want you to be
able to communicate because a lot of
kids lash out because they don't know
how to communicate. You know, you can
come to me and most parents is like, you
know, they say, "Oh, your daughter is
smart mouthed." No, that's her attitude.
That's how she You got to let a kid have
their own personality. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> I'm something else. You know what I'm
saying? That's a product of me. That's
her character. Like a lot of I I've seen
a lot of parents um beat their kids
because they feel they're snobby. And
from somebody that has education and
learns that type of things that that's
that kid personality.
You understand? You understand what I'm
saying? Like if you had a kid that has
the deep voice and it's like who you
think you talking to? No, that kid has a
deep voice. That's how he's that's how
he talks. You got to let them be who
they are. So I
>> I pay attention to my kid. I ask my kids
certain questions. I try to be intuitive
in their life. When I say try to be
because a kid is not going to tell you
everything. One parent going to know
something and the next parent not going
to know something. So that's why it's
very important to have great uh
co-parenting and we have great
co-parenting um relationship. So I'm
constantly growing with her. You know on
she may not like this but now she likes
this. I'm going to always support her
but I'm going to always tell her too.
>> So if that answered your question.
>> Yeah. Cuz you know like you even being a
life coach and I do what in my
profession sometimes I feel like
>> we be want to choke our kids but we can't.
can't.
>> We can't. for everybody out there. I got
I got to cuz sometimes we want to talk
our kids just because they mouth but we
got to understand you know when we was
young we had a little smart mouth and
sometime that's just how we talk at the
moment till we learn how to adjust our
our piano box say.
>> So I'm glad you brought that up. So
right choking our kids right so we all
are on a spectrum as an adult. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> We all are on a spectrum. We it's normal
to have highs lows to be angry to want
to kill you to all of that. But and um
but not to act on it is the key, right?
So I want to but I'm not acting on it.
I'm not wrong for feeling like that
because you are doing the most, right?
>> So I'm not wrong for feeling like that.
So we're all on a spectrum
>> and we all have bipolar characteristics.
Every human being on this earth, right?
>> But the problem comes in if you're not
able to cope with what you're feeling.
So, if you're not able to cope and will
yourself back, like, oh, I want to punch
you in your mouth, JJ, but I don't do
and I will myself back and I calm myself
down. I'm coping. But if I'm not able to
will myself back and cope, I need to go
see a psychotherapist. I need medication
to help me cope the proper way. Those
are the people that is different from
the people, the doers and the don'ts. >> Okay?
>> Okay?
>> And the doers, they need medication cuz
they can't do it by themselves. The
don'ts is naturally, it's natural to
feel that way. So, so, okay, I gotta
throw this out there. I gota I gotta
throw this out there. I know we gonna
get to We gonna get to this. I just gota
throw this out there. So, we adjusting
with the the youth now cuz we got youth.
How do we uh
I'm looking for the right word. How do
we cope when
when they just being adolescent? where
they where they just feel like they
going through their hormones or they
just going through something in life and
they really don't know how to break down
how they feel. How can you break that barrier?
barrier?
>> So that's that's a a wide range
question, right? Um first you always
supposed to my opinion because everybody
do things different. You're supposed to
teach this to your kid
>> from birth knowing how to communicate,
knowing how to to feel, knowing what's
right, knowing what's wrong. Right? So,
when your kid um is a certain age and
they're having um let's just say
behavior issues, right? That's what
you're asking me, right? >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Nine times out of 10, that stems from
something. Whether they feel like
they're not being seen, whether they
feel like they're not being heard,
whether they feel like you giving the
other kid more love, cuz a lot of kids
go through, oh, that's favored over
that. In their mind, they feel like that
it is. um whether they're not getting
what they want. You know, kids act out
based on what they feel neglected
towards. And that's not always true, but
that's how they're processing it. So, if
you take out the time as as a parent to
try to figure out what the root is, like
taking that kid away from the other
kids, go get some ice cream, make them
feel comfortable, and just start talking
to them. Cuz a kid will talk to you.
>> You know what I'm saying? A kid will
talk to you once you get them out the
element. And you can kind of start
seeing like, "Oh, he's having trouble in
school. She has trouble in school." or
oh she don't like how mom is yelling at
her or oh you know you'll start seeing
why and if you start um maneuvering
different and implementing different
things you'll see the behavior uh change
in that child. But if that child is extreme
extreme
then that's you know that's where the
mental illness come in the chemical
imbalances and you're going to need
medication and therapy to to to help
with that. And nothing is wrong with
that. So, as a pair, you just have to
know which one you're doing and how in
depth it is.
>> Okay. Okay. So, I'mma wait for that one.
I'm wait I'm going wait for that
question. I'm going wait that to like
bury at the end real quick cuz I I just
got to cuz I want to say all these good.
I want to know you know your your your
your answers cuz you know you're a life
coach and and I've been watching I've
been watching. Now look this how much
I've been watching. And I've been paying
attention cuz I call you sometimes and
and it sound like I'm ving and
>> But what's so crazy but when I when I
come you it really be more about like
the job. You know what I'm saying? It
don't be like about no fan finances.
Just read more about the job. Like I'm
tired and you you try you always give me
the the the best advice. I don't take
heed to it. Like even with my old lady,
you know what I'm saying? trying to give
me the best advice and like I take heed
to but sometime you know a man is always
stuck in his ways when he want
>> you choose to be stuck in your way.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Cuz sometimes I feel like
let me try my way cuz what she's saying
might be right but I still want to try
it this way.
>> Why you want to buff your head?
>> Cuz you know boys hard-headed a little
bit. I know I'm hardheaded. I be trying.
>> That's that eagle and that's that pride.
>> No it it be more the eagle than the pride.
pride.
>> What did I just say? That's that ego and
that's that pride. And you can't
>> you can't put ego and pride in the same
thing though.
>> But that's how men that's what a lot of
men operate out of. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> And no disrespect, but that's where the
boy mentality come in at.
>> No, ain't no disrespect. We we talking
like like we ain't not even lying right
now. We talking like like how we
>> No, I'M JUST I WOULD TELL YOU THIS. YOU
KNOW, I BE LIKE, "LISTEN, JJ, no
disrespect." But no disrespect. That's
where the boy come in at because you got
to be able to leave that pride and that
ego to the side when you're trying to
elevate and grow. You know what I'm
saying? You have to listen to people
just like a man that's leading his
woman. He have to be able to listen to
his woman in order to lead his woman.
And honestly, all men are not leaders.
And that is okay. Let your woman lead.
>> Yeah. I think I think it's okay for a
woman lead sometime. You know what I'm
saying? Not saying that it's a masculine
thing, but sometimes, [ __ ] she might
got a little bit of bright ideas. You
know what I'm saying? You got to jump on that.
that.
>> You got to know when to take the back
seat. And you got to be okay with your
position. No matter if the outside
person saying something, you got to be
confident within yourself. And a lot of
times is men are not confident within
themselves and they don't know who they
are. So they attend to act out. I'm
going say that they tend to act out and
act in different ways that they
shouldn't because of how they're feeling
and what they're going through instead
of coming to their partner or talking to
someone to get help. Um they want to
kind of like take it into their own
hands and let that enabler that they
have cuz we all have enablers feed them.
>> Mhm. and you know you know how that
goes. So yeah,
yeah,
>> let me let me get to you.
>> I don't want to get too deep into it but
>> so so these topics of the day is deep
questions to ask yourself like you're
just at home just think about stuff and
you reminisce. You might be looking at
something on Instagram, Tik Tok, where
it is but it make you reminisce, right? >> Yes.
>> Yes.
>> So how you feel about this? What make
Hm.
I'mma say this and the reason why I
pause is because
it depends on what season I am in and
what uh where I'm at in my life cuz that
that changes, right? So, currently, yes,
today what make me feel so empowered is
me choosing myself every moment cuz it's
I have moments all the time. is me
choosing myself every moment to push
through, to continue, to get it done.
You know what I'm saying? To foresee
everything because at the end of the
day, life don't stop for no one. And I
have to be able to, which I I feel how I
feel. I got my I got a great support
system. I love y'all for that. You included.
included.
But I still get things done. So that
makes me feel like sometimes I sit to
myself and I'll be like damn
I'm hurt for real. Like I'm really hurt
for real. Most people that is going
through or or going through what I'm
going through at this moment would have
broke it have broken them. And when I'm
telling you like I'm praying
when I'm telling you like I live what I
teach. When I telling you I allow myself
to cry and to vent or to go MIA, like I
allow myself to to feel these things so
I can deal with everything. Most people
on the outside look at me like, "Damn,
she going out. She doing this, she doing
that. Her mother died." That's my coping
mechanism. That's what's making me still
feel alive. That's what's making me
still hold my head above water. You know
what I'm saying? Grieving take about
nine months.
>> You know what I'm saying?
>> A little bit longer if your mind if your
mental mental health there.
>> Yeah. And and I thank God I don't I
don't uh need to be on any medication.
Like to to me I felt like I went to go
see someone. I was like I told I told my
therapist I'm like I think I'm
depressed. I'm having highs, lows, and
my feelings all over the place. And she
asked me a series of questions and she
said, "You know what?" She said, "No,
you're still within the spectrum. You're
coping." But I had to I wanted a
professional to tell me that. So I
didn't need to be on medication. I what
I'm doing I'm doing it just right.
So, um,
>> I got to give myself a pat on the back sometimes.
sometimes.
>> Yeah, you do. Hell yeah, you do. You'd
be wrong if you didn't.
>> So, that's what make me feel, uh, empowered.
empowered.
>> Let me pee back off your [ __ ] What make
me feel power right now?
>> Yeah, that's what makes me feel empowered.
empowered.
>> I mean, I got to say it's really two
things. Just being mindful and peace.
I've been fighting for peace for so long
in my life and when I finally got it,
I'm trying I'm still trying to adjust to it.
it.
>> So, let me ask you something. What do
you mean by fighting for peace? And I
ask you that because we have to give
ourel peace and people have to add to that
that
>> cuz most people say, "Oh, if he ain't
bringing me peace, she ain't bringing
peace. I want them." You got to be your
own peace first,
>> right? I feel like I'm my own peace.
Reason why cuz I I don't I don't I still
mess with certain people, but okay. For
example, you can't call my phone say,
"Hey, bro, I got to move on the floor."
Meaning like a robbery. I'm hanging up.
You know what I'm saying? Like I don't
do things like that no more. So that's
why I said like I'm I'm fighting with
peace cuz something that I wasn't used
to. I'm trying to adjust it and stay
used to it cuz I like my freedom. You
know what I'm saying? I work at the job
and I look at that damn county jail
every day. I don't want I don't want to
go here. I I don't I don't I I I like my
freedom. I like the people I be around.
I like I like I like I like all the
people I be around. I like the
comedians. I like you like my podcast
people. feel like, man, like I just want
to be a a shiny star in everybody. Yeah.
And I want everybody be the same way.
I'm really pushing positive right now.
So like my my peace and that being
mindful every day. I I try to practice
what I preach,
>> you know, and um I'm proud of you. I'm
proud of you because you're able See,
that's the thing. When people are healed
from their situation, they're able they
story change into a positive uh speech,
as you will, right? So you came from an
environment that you thought was norm
and you had a choice and you made that
choice to get out of that environment
and to continue to stay out of that
environment. But you know what work
you're doing for God? You're spreading
the word
>> easily. You want to know why? Cuz you
said you found that peace and it's
showing that you found that peace cuz
you can say, "Listen, I used to rob
people and not feel ashamed about it.
Everybody has a past. If you own who you
are, what can they say about you to
break you?" They can't.
>> So I'm proud of you for that. And like
I'm always use this word that person I
was 10 years ago, 20 years ago did not
take the person I am today.
>> Hop out of that.
>> People be so stuck. Oh my god.
>> They be so stuck on on the past like like
like
>> everybody had the president has a past.
God got a goddamn past. We all have a past.
past. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> So what we talking about?
>> But we just learning through our we just
going through our little emotions and we
learning from it.
>> Yep. And I feel like right now my
empower I really been doing it. I don't
like to do a lot of talking. I just like to
to
>> That's dope though when you can feel
confident in yourself. So many people
work work work work and they just be
like, "Oh my god, I don't see no
results." So to do what you're doing
>> and see to results and understand that
that that's pretty dope. And I gotta say
this like even this right
and just to throw it out there you know
I help uh why didn't help me my old lady
help my kids mother move this door for
me right
>> and then some people look at like damn
what they own in reality you know I've
been out my kids life for so many years
in and out their life
>> I want to be in their life and every day
every moment take them to school see
them when I when they go to work I want
to see all that I want to cherish all
these moments you know what I'm saying
while I can right now cuz we I don't
know how long we got. Especially way the
life feels out here. Way people drive
crazy. We could be driving perfect, you
know. So like just I just go with the
motions. I just go with how I feel and
and make the best of it. I might I might
complain a little bit about little
things and vent little thing about here,
but we got to push.
>> Yeah. And um to be honest, it take a
village to raise a kid. You know what
I'm saying? Even after they get older.
And I feel like your circle, you know,
both your your wife and your baby mama
and the kids or whatever, as long as
y'all got that respect, that trust, cuz
trust is everything. Trust is safety.
You know what I'm saying? That's that's
that's safety net. And so, you're doing
something right to where your wife is
feeling safe. You're protecting her
emotions and her boundaries and all
things that. and your wife is or your
your baby mama is on the same page,
respecting the wife, respecting you,
respecting her boundaries, and you're
able to have it your way because I feel
like y'all took the emotions out of it.
When you take the emotions out of
things, things you let things be how
they supposed to be. You can't force
anything, but if the opportunity present
itself and that's where your mind frame
is at and you got everybody on the same
page, you are leading and that is that's
how it's supposed to be. You're not
supposed to be in tune with your baby
mama or your baby daddy. You know what
I'm saying?
>> Yeah. And I ain't talking about y'all
the ones that's kind of like smashing on
the sides and all that. It has boundaries.
boundaries.
>> It got boundaries. You know what I'm
saying? Cuz we all family at the end of
the day.
>> And I feel like once you are truthful
and the the goal is what? Your kids at
the end of the day. The goal is the
kids. So the goal is the kids, but some
people say the goal is the kids and they
disrespecting everything around the
kids. No, the goal is your the the
respect thing is with your wife and
y'all are the goal of the kids. You know
what I'm saying? And I'm sure she had
her input in that and that's just dope.
>> I let them two really deal with each
other. I deal with the hard problem like
if the kids get out of line or they do
some dis stuff. I deal with that type of stuff.
stuff.
>> But that's a beautiful thing.
>> That is a beautiful thing.
>> I've been I've been praying long and
hard to just
>> know just to be be more closer to my
kids. You know what I'm saying?
Regardless how other people look at it
cuz I really don't care. Oh, it's been
like that. I don't care what how nobody
look at me. I'm I'm going to be JJ E.
You going to love me or you going to
hate me? You like me or you going? Like
>> it goes both ways.
>> You know, [ __ ] about me being a
comedian, it don't make me no difference.
difference.
>> And even when um even when you raise
your kids, right, you know what I'm
saying? They they got a they got a they
dealing with how they was raised in the household.
household.
>> They dealing with their own identity and
they dealing with the outside. So even
if you raise your kids right, sometimes
your kids might go through a whole bunch
of crap to even get right and sometimes
they never may get right. Think about
the rich kids. They, you know, they on
coke and herin and they want, they
suicidal and all of the things and most
people be like,
>> how how what what they're dealing with
and they got all that money. Money still
make you feel empty, >> man.
>> man.
>> You know what I'm saying?
It's it's love. Love is so powerful. So,
a lot of people lack that and and being
there and being supportive. Uh, human
beings lack that. So, that's what's that
that's a lot of things that's missing.
So, you know, that's that's pretty dope
that you're doing that with your uh your children.
children.
>> Yeah. I you know, I like it. I get like
I said, I get to
>> like before I get to this one, like my
daughter, right? Cuz you know, my old
lady go pick him from work or I go pick
him up for work, whatever the case may
be, right? And my daughter is the
funniest one cuz I asked her like, "Let
me see your check stud." She said,
"Broke ass [ __ ] ain't going to let you
see my check studs." >> What?
>> What?
>> So, look like like she 18. So, do her do
I her do I mind her cussing at me at
this point? No. Cuz she funny. She a
Aries like me. So, like if that's how
she want to express herself at that moment,
moment,
even though it might don't look good in
the the outside view eye, but my eye is
funny cuz you got to actually know my
daughter to to understand her.
>> I'm glad you brought that up right cuz
number one, I'm going say a therapist
need therapist, a coach need a coach.
Like we all growing. You know what I'm
saying? And if we're into our work,
we're going to continue to read and
continue to grow. I say that to say
this, right? Like you said, the outside
parent may be like, "Whoa, you don't
feel like that." But when you're taking
classes and you're elevating and you're
doing all of these things, they tell you
disrespect is an emotion. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> So why do you think that's
disrespectful? Cuz she cussed. Then she
cussed at you. You like, it's a whole
thing that breaks down. And once it's
broken down to you, you like, dang, you
allowing the kids to be um your kids.
And a lot of the things that we
implement in our kids, some comes from
how we how we was raising, what was um
in in um embedded in us. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> But we got to understand what worked for
the '8s babies ain't working for the
2000 babies at all. You know what I'm
saying? We got to maneuver that thing.
You know what I'm saying? We got to
maneuver that thing and we got to
understand what world we living in
today. So at the end of the day, if
that's the kid that you got and it's
okay and it's not hurting nobody and
they're not disrespecting nobody,
>> that's your household. You know what I'm saying?
saying?
>> At first, I used to be like, ain't no
kids cussing around me. I don't tolerate
that cuz that's just me. I didn't cuss
unless I was actually really mad. And I
didn't start cussing to my late 20s.
>> I never cussed around no other adult.
>> You know what I'm saying? That's how I
was raised. But today's world is way
different. So I'm like, and I used to be
offended when I hear like my son, he
wasn't cussing at me, but I I hear him.
You know what I'm saying? In the room,
yeah. Like, hold on. Like, hold on. I'm
sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. And I had
to ask, I used to get so upset. I'm
like, why am I allowing myself to get
upset? Because this boy is cussing. I
had to will myself back. And what I do,
education behind it, learned it. And I'm
just like, you know what?
That's him being him. He's not doing
nothing wrong. He's not hurting nobody.
>> You know what I'm saying? So sometimes
you got to revisit those boundaries and
standards and all of the things cuz the
world is totally different.
>> Hey, so so this second question might
hit different. Yeah, I switched it up on
you. I switched it up on you fast.
Reflect on the hardest thing you ever
had to forgive someone for. What made it
so difficult?
>> Reflect on something that someone did to
me that I had to forgive.
>> No, no, no. Let me say one more time.
Reflect on the hardest thing you had to
forgive someone for. What made it so difficult?
difficult?
>> Oh my gosh. Okay.
>> Yeah. Yeah. It could hit you ass with
the root.
>> So, I'mma touch just a little bit on
this because it's it is it's it's very
touchy. Well, it's not anymore, but I
don't want to bring it I don't want to
give it an over. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> So, um long story short, I was with a ex.
ex.
>> Okay. and I was a disciplinary one. Um,
and I used to go through the kids'
phones at night. They used to put them
in our rooms. I go through the kids'
phones. Um, long story short, his child
was very promiscuous, very sexually
active. Um,
>> you know, and to me, what I read and
what I learned, when you're maneuvering
like that,
>> um, excuse my language, you you uh [ __ ]
through pain. Um, so it's like she was
just doing it to get away from
he was aware of it. Um, I still
disciplined her, which I should have
felt back at the time because he should
have disciplined his older. I was I was
too involved. Um, I was treating them
kids how I was treating my kids. And I
didn't understand that you have to let
somebody else kids be who they are and
you got to let the dad take care of
them. You know what I'm saying? That's
what my people was telling me after the
fact. But I'm like, how can I not treat
the kid the same as I'm treating mine? I
love this kid as equally as mine. So, I
didn't know the difference back then.
Um, but going through what I went
through, at the end of the day, it was 2
years later and I decided to leave and
he must have had a conversation with his
ex, which is the mother, and she
couldn't stand me from day one.
Literally, like I took care of the kids,
everything. She just couldn't stand me.
And long story short, she she made uh
allegation uh with the law enforcement
about child pornography. Um
unfortunately, I had to go to jail for 5
days um for that allegation. Um but
everything got dropped and all the
things. So I say that to say I forgave
her. I forgave him cuz the ball was in
his court. But because whatever I made
him feel like, he wanted to end
everything that I worked so hard for and
she did too. So he had the ball. He
allowed her to have it. And they were
doing this thing out of spite because
you knew this for 2 years ago. But
knowing what I know now, you are not
allowed as a parent, regardless of what
to really be going through your kids'
phones and seeing such things and um
bringing it to the next parent. To me, I
think that's that's too much of state
and government control. We need to be
able to deal with our own kids. But
again, I'm not in control of that. I
don't have the money to change those
laws or anything like that or the time.
So, I feel like the law is screwed up
when it comes to discipline our kids.
But, um, I just feel like that wasn't
fair at all on on no type of level cuz
my whole career could have ended. I
could have lost everything because of
someone um cuz the way they felt about
me. So, again, that was what I went
through. I forgave her. I forgave him.
And to be totally honest with you, like
I said, I knew I wasn't supposed to be
with him in the first place anyways cuz
when I left, so many doors open up. Like
so many things was happening to me. Like
I lost everything.
I say everything. I lost everything. But
>> not your hope.
>> I didn't lose my hope and I didn't lose
my faith. Um but when I tell you as soon
as I left it was doors open, doors open,
doors open, doors open. And that's
because he was keep and I knew that. I
just didn't want to leave and start
over. Yeah.
>> So, I forgave them and um and I'm I'm
living my life and they still stuck at
where they stuck at. So, that was the
hardest thing that I I went through. I
tell you how pins and NEEDLES LIKE
YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND. I'm like, I
don't. But now I do. So, I'm spreading
the word. I think uh I think I got to
say this uh not believing in my uh
significant other when she when she she
tell me something truthful and it turned
out to be really truthful.
>> What do you mean by that?
>> My uh my old lady told me one day like
your cousin the snitch and I was dealing
with him at the time and I said [ __ ]
ain't going to tell on me. He got me
[ __ ] up. And make a long story short
that's what happened. and [ __ ] I got I
got set up, went to prison for two years
and uh and it happened like that. So
like like do I forgive him? I forgive
him, but I would never deal with them or
This is what I've learned right in my in
and just
>> same thing cuz they try to take your
they try to take your freedom away.
>> They did. But like God was on when I say
I'm chosen and I'm anointed, I know it.
Like I I absolutely know it. But he was
God was like he just be smacking me on
my head. But that smack on my head be
like some some stress, some some every
you know losing some weight over that.
But um he just opened so many doors and
he just let me like he's let he's
allowing me to live and I I appreciate
all of that. So you know every chance I
get I try to educate what I went through
so other people won't and I feel like
it's my duty too. But I was going to say
I learned from my ex because my ex used
to lie so much.
>> He didn't he Yeah, it wasn't so so much.
But he used to lie to other people. I
used to see him lie to other people and
I used to be like like his mom would be
over there and I'm just like that you
know his guy I JUST BE LIKE THE HELL
LIKE WHAT YOU KNOW IT KIND OF LIKE MY
intendance went up. I'm like he ain't
going to never do that to me. I'm I'm
too good. No. When people, you got to
watch how people treat other people cuz
when they treat them, it's not if
they're going to do it to you, it's when
they're going to do it to you cuz that's
a person character. So for me, can
nobody be around me talking about her
her. Can nobody be around me doing
certain things because I know you're
going to eventually do that to me. So
>> I say say to you, you should have
listened to your should listen to your
wife because
>> things don't change because of who you
are. If that person is in a bond or
feeling or whatever case,
>> throw her on the bus.
>> You you you next.
>> Throw her on the bus.
>> That's that person's character.
>> Throw her on the [ __ ] bus. I
ain't going to even lie. So, look. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Has your confidence increased or
decreased with time, age, or household?
>> My confidence um my confidence has been
there since day one. Um I if you ever
watch my family when you was around me
or or you ever seen some podcasts that
my family did, my family would tell you like
like
our that's our favorite. You know, my
dad was the favorite uncle. Um so I grew
up with love. I grew up with love. Um
I grew up with um support. Now, love and
support looked a different to for me, but
but
I know what unconditional love felt
like, right? So, what I mean by that is
like, no, my parents and my sister never
helped me with my homework, right? I I
can never tell you that we were at a
table and they was helping me my
homework. I could never tell you
um they tucked me in or no, nothing like
that. But they was always there
financially like the financial part was
the love part for them for me right so I
never went without um I was very
independent at an early age I graduated
with honors from high school and college
but it was the drive in me I don't know
where it came from I don't know why but
I always was celebrated but I didn't
have the traditional things that I've
done with my kids by sitting at the
table helping them with their homework.
You know what I'm saying? And I never
fought them for anything because I don't
know how they were raised. They only can
give me what they were taught. And I
received everything with love. Like my
parents, my sisters, they ain't play
about me. You couldn't stress. You
couldn't do none of that. And most
people would be like, well, if I tell a
story like, "Oh, they never helped me
with my homework or I can't remember if
they went to a par teacher conference.
That's a bad thing." But that's not a
bad thing. You know what I'm saying?
like you you couldn't take a hair off my
head without being dealt with. You
understand what I'm saying? So the love
that I grew up with was very
unconditional and um I always had confidence.
confidence.
>> Uh they installed that in me at an early
age. So I never not felt that I was not
>> just cuz you got the looks and the
glamour look. It just it's always been
there. It's always been there because I
worked so hard even with you know I was
sick at an early age
>> so education was my thing
>> so I stayed in the books I stayed
learning I stayed trying to be on top of
other things so no I can't say that the
confidence wasn't there because if it
was something if it was a door that I
couldn't get in I want to know why and I
want to know what can I do to get in but
as I got older that changed because if
that's a no that means a door that I
wasn't supposed to be in. So that's how
I look at it now. I look at things like
that now.
>> So, what was something for you that you
didn't always have confidence in or you
lack confidence in?
>> What? Cuz I could be truthful on here.
This my [ __ ] LIKE TRIPLE THOUGH. >> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> LOOK, I had from the age I'm going say
from since I could look down there,
right? Always had a little confidence
with that down there. Always. Always
until I got my
>> WHAT?
>> I'M TELLING YOU, I DIDN'T EVEN COME ACROSS.
ACROSS.
>> YOU ASK ME A QUESTION. I'M JUST GIVING
YOU OKAY.
>> IT decreases my confidence. I'm giving
it to you. It just tric.
>> Oh my gosh. Okay.
>> I had love for confidence down there.
And uh I feel like when I got older and
I realized what it could do, then I my
confidence went I got TOO BIG. BUT WHY
did you have I was trying to figure out
what was you comparing it to?
>> [ __ ] I was I was one back cuz I used to
watch porn and stuff. I like damn like
there's no way. So like
uh decrease in my increase.
>> You got so much confidence, dude. You
said you said that on live. Like what?
>> That's why I go by when people look at
my cash. That's why I put little daddy
on there. That's why we saying little
daddy because nothing about me. It's
just funny when you say, you know what
I'm saying? Cuz I I had to realize that
in my head. I I was that was my my my
self-confidence like man just you know
then I just I got out that shell.
>> But on to the next question y'all cuz
they keep laughing at me and [ __ ]
OH MY GOD.
>> SO, you ready?
>> Okay, I'm ready.
>> We got We got four more.
>> Do you know you know we [ __ ] be
on the task. We trying to get the time.
We got jobs and [ __ ] We got real jobs.
We going to sell drugs. We go to work.
>> We go to work. Work.
[ __ ] be get on our nerves with
time. Clients, patients, and [ __ ]
somebody tell you they kids don't get on
your nerve. They they a goddamn lie.
THEY GODAMN LIE.
LOOK, MATTER OF FACT, I got to do this
cuz this this my you lying if you kids
don't get on your nerves.
>> Get on my nerve.
>> Do you have a book, a movie, a song,
Sarah, that made a mindful impact on
you? Describe.
>> Did I say it too fast?
>> No one. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> Do I have a book?
>> Do you have a book, a movie, song, etc.
that made you a mind that that made a
mindful impact on you. Describe.
>> Honestly, I'm going have to say all,
right? Um, and I'm going to say all
because it's certain movies that I have
watched that that really um made me tap
into my emotions. It's books that I've
read that really uh added to my growth.
Um, it's songs that I listen to that
allow me to feel and get over what I'm
going through. So, I'm going to have to
songs, things that I read, um things
that I watch,
it all correlates to me. It have
correlated to me in some way, form or
fashion. Like I was able to it reminded
me of something whether I was healed
from it or I had trauma from it or
whatever. And it allowed me to to to
smile or to release. Um, and that just
made me know that I I was healed from
whatever it is that I was dealing with,
if that makes sense.
>> So, even today, my songs may change.
Like, there certain songs I come on or I
go listen to from my mom and I'm just
like, you know, and then I'm like, and
then I'll be okay. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> So, it's something that adds to my
strength and something that makes me tap
in. So, uh, yeah. Can I ask you a question?
question? >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
me when I when I say book I gota say the
48 laws of power when I say
>> I was thinking about the 48 that's what I
I
put my book
>> that's like your bible
>> man hope nobody steal my [ __ ] I hope
it's upstairs it's somewhere over there
guys but I keep that book got my comedy
book right there too look uh I got I got
to say uh for Laws of Power movie the
streets uh my look you want to hear some
crazy I'm a big R&B person now.
>> I love R&B.
>> No, like I don't get wrong, I I like
rap. I still listen to rap, but some of
them old songs that our mom used to
listen to and we didn't like,
>> I listen to them now cuz they got a
meaning in >> Superwoman.
>> Superwoman.
>> Man, it's it's
>> Eley Brothers.
>> Uh what the [ __ ] is his name? Jennifer
Baker. Is it Jennifer Baker? I don't
know. But it's it's a lot of old people.
I don't even know the name. But one of
my my one of my favorite ones is Bobby
W. Matt.
>> I'm like what song? >> Uh
>> Uh
he said he made that song. He said he
want to sleep with his best friend wife.
>> You know if you ever listen TO OLD JAM
THEY BE TALKING SOME REAL STUFF.
>> HOW real she was going through.
>> Even country music like country music is
the most >> overlook.
>> overlook.
They say some stuff in that music. They
be talking a [ __ ] country.
>> Rapes and they say some stuff in that.
But if you really listen to old songs
like it's really telling you a story. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> Now I like my rap when I'm getting ready
to go out and I'm in my mode or I'm into
it. But you know if I had a man I'm into
him like you know I like my rap.
It make me feel like but you know I'm
My bad. It's the P. It's the Y. Too
strong. Too strong.
Hold on. Wait. You ready for number five?
five?
>> I stay ready. >> Okay.
What is it? Look. All right. Cuz I be
have to read it first cuz when I
switched off and did something
different, that [ __ ] that one throw me
off a little bit. So, I'm going to say,
where are you at with spirituality?
How much thought do you give it?
>> Where am I with spiritual alignment?
>> Yeah, just spiritual.
>> Um, to be honest, I'm very spiritual.
I've been spiritual since I was a little girl.
girl. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> Um, I always had visions. I always had
dreams. Um, I never understood it. Never
happened to it. Um, I read books about
it and all of those things as I got to a
certain age. Um, I accepted my gift to
be honest. Um, so
I can feel when things are wrong, um, I
can feel when something's not going to
happen. I know if you've done me wrong,
it's all it's all my feelings. And if I
really really need to know right away,
I'm going to get a vision about it. Um,
but I'm I'm very very very spiritual.
I'm not religious. I'm very spiritual.
And um I you I use that to uh go go
through life to deal with things.
>> [ __ ] That was that was I
I
>> my twin like my my twin my twin um
that's a connection that we have. But I
know he's sad. I know I know when
something is wrong with him. Um I'm very
tapped into all my people um that I
choose to be. So I know when something
is off. I know when they're not being
authentic. I know when it aligns to me.
Sometimes I may not even say nothing,
but when I tell you I'm really tapped
in, that's why I move how I move. That's
why I may say certain things, people may
not catch it. Um, that's why my circle
is small. Like, I'm really
>> I'm really tapped in.
>> I have you said that. You think
something off about me?
>> Yeah, things been off about you. >> WHAT?
cuz you asked me that twice before the
cameras came on. Are you all right?
Who's been there with you?
>> Cuz I know. So it's the energy that you
bring. And if I don't get that energy
when I first see you, I know something
is off. It's a feeling. Um I know if I
don't get a call like normal, I know
something is off with you. You know what
I'm saying? That's just certain things
that I've grown to know about you and
also to feel about you that I know
things are off because you may be funny
all the time, but it's a authentic funny
and it's a funny that you trying to push
your way through. >> Okay,
>> Okay,
>> so I know the difference.
>> I don't be trying to open up that
Pandora box.
>> Don't mind me, y'all. Something wrong
with me, man. Don't mind me, man. Dude,
I don't want to touch on number six
cuz we kind of just didn't touch on
that. But we can if you want to.
>> What's up?
>> But we already touched on it, though.
So, I'm going to say it though. I'm
going to say it cuz it's right here in
>> Oh, I'm going say this, too. I'm very
spiritual, y'all. I'm I am a 2enter. If
you don't know what a 2enter is, look it
up. Just look up 2enter. What is a
2enter? And it'll tell you. It's like a
ying and a yang. It's basically I don't
give a [ __ ] about what's going on in the
world. I just want to live life the best
way I can and enjoy and have my peace
and be mindful. That's what a 2enter is. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> Y'all do your homework and tell us what
you thought about the 2enter
>> for it's a real thing too. It's like
it's not a motorcycle game. It's like
it's a real like spiritual thing. I'm
I'm a 2enter.
I ain't want to touch on this cuz it
gonna hit me a certain way too. Have you
ever dealt with a
significant loss in your life? How did
you make it through? Sh. I'm going beat
you first. I'm say [ __ ] Working
>> working, y'all.
>> That's a loss, [ __ ] You say
significant loss.
>> Yeah. I mean like a a family member.
Something you had to deal with. Yeah.
>> Oh, you got through it by working. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Okay. I'm like, what?
>> Yeah. Like
>> [ __ ] Working. That that's me. [ __ ]
Like like don't get me wrong, miss my
mom. I miss my dad. Miss my cousin, miss
my granddad. It's everybody lost in my
life. But we got to push on. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> If if you dwell on it, you going to lose yourself.
yourself. >> Yes.
>> Yes.
>> And I'm sorry for the I got to say I'm
sorry for some of the people that's
going through stuff and y'all have to
get over it. Man, just keep praying
every day. You might don't answer it
today. Might don't answer it tomorrow.
You might don't answer next week. You
might don't answer next month. But when
he answer, you better catch that ball
and run with it.
Yeah. I'm piggyback on that. God is
always on time. And you got to be
consistent. You know, you got to have
moving feet in order for him to step in,
too. Like you can't just be sitting
there not doing nothing and think God's
going to come. It it don't work like
that. It don't work like that at all.
But what do you do? So when you're
having a moment, so you say you just work
work >> work.
>> work.
>> So when you work work, work work. Do you
allow yourself to feel?
>> I don't want to feel nothing. I do you
allow yourself to feel like once those
moments come on like something
>> Oh, when they come on like like when it
do happen like
I I uh I got a lot of stuff around here
that remind me of my mama like that
table these these right here these
tables at the end. Uh
Uh
>> so what do you do?
>> [ __ ] I got her memory with me. So [ __ ]
everything that every almost every fun
in this house is my mama's. Almost
everything. So like I don't I can't miss
her. She here with me.
>> That's dope. That's that's that's a nice
>> So like like I mean I don't know how my mom
mom
>> I know my brother and my sister deal
with it the best way they can. But
>> I don't feel no way cuz I feel like I
got majority of her stuff. So her spirit
still here with me. So I don't feel
down. I just feel down on on like
>> holidays like you know I'm not a big
Christmas person anymore. I believe in
Quanza. Like I'm not a big uh
>> Because you're Muslim.
>> Yeah. So like I'm just I'm just
different now. You know what I'm saying?
Sometimes I read a lot when I get the
chance or even I go on Google. I'm
saying I'm going read like just
something about reading right now.
>> It's educational. You know what I'm
saying? It's knowledge. That's how you
that's how you add to what you whatever
whatever you already have.
>> Cuz you know still from this day I still
don't know how to spell animal.
>> Oh my gosh.
>> That's why I be trying to read. Right.
>> Hey, look. I might I might can't spell
good words, but I I can read. I I
pronounce these words. I might can't spell
spell
>> you. It's okay. We can It's It's help
for that. It's help for that.
>> I'm okay with it. That's just my
>> Oh, no.
>> They need it cuz they so hard.
>> My cousins make fun of me going say,
"Dude, that's why you can't spell
animal, [ __ ] A I M E A L.
>> No, you just told you [ __ ] I ain't
lying to y'all.
>> He messing with y'all. He was
irritating. He was so messing with
y'all. No, I always been AP classes, so
you know. I don't know.
>> Look, the liquor don't lie.
>> Something is wrong with you. Something
is wrong. That's another reason why I
kind of like I love my podcast cuz I
could be myself. I don't care who judged
me out there who go back and look at
this. This the real me. >> Listen,
>> Listen,
can no can no one
>> get out like Jones. Get it out.
>> Can No [ __ ]
[ __ ] >> No.
>> No.
>> Get it out. YOU SOUND LIKE
>> NO, NOBODY SOUND LIKE his ass. Ow. I
could even do it if I tried to. Sorry,
no disrespect, Charles. I love you. Um,
but nobody can judge you. And what
people need to understand is two things.
How you treat others
is a reflection of your own self. You
understand what I'm saying? And that
goes so deep, you really have to read
into that or understand what that even
means. People don't understand that. So,
and once the other person understand
that, you can't even take what they
saying serious because you damn near
feel sorry for them because they're
acting like that towards you cuz that's
how they feel like of that's how they
feel of themselves. That's how they see
themselves. And how you respond is a
reflection of you. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> Same thing goes for a woman and a man.
How a woman is, how she shows up is a
reflection of her man. And men don't
understand. And I feel like when a lot
of I feel like if enough men understood
exactly what it is they mean they get
their [ __ ] together
>> because your woman is a reflection of
you. If you're taking care of and this
don't got nothing to do with oh my woman
I take it don't have anything to do with
that. Like it's it's it's levels to
everything. You know what I'm saying?
But if you a good man and we all come flawed
flawed
but if you're a woman operating in a
masculinity you got to ask yourself why
that is not good. If you're a woman
operating in um in in a soft girl femininity,
femininity,
that's that's super dope. She trusts
you. She she feels safe with you. You
know what I'm saying? That's super dope.
So, you got men need to understand
if your woman is attitudy and all these
things, you need to ask yourself, what
is it that I'm doing to make her act
like that?
Okay. So again, yeah, when a woman,
like for me, when I have a man, I don't
know what it is about it, but when I
have a man, how I work now, man, I'm a
thousand times I I do it a thousand
times over, >> okay?
>> okay?
>> Because it's like if he meet me, however
he meet me, I feel like I got to keep my
body intact. I got to keep my skin good.
However he met me is how I got to be. um
what I got going on. I need to I need to
step my game up more. Why that is, I
don't know why, but I do know I operate
like that.
>> But the man that I've been with, at some
point they made me feel safe and all all
things. I always had a provider. But um
man that provides is not the goal. When
you have your own money,
man having money is not the goal.
>> My bad. My bad.
>> It's how they treat you. It's how they
make you feel. is if you feel safe, if
they communicate and and all of the
things. So, I learned as I got older,
things that I really actually want,
money can't buy
>> at all.
>> At all.
>> Money can't buy.
>> Money can't buy it.
>> Loyalty, love, respect, communication,
understanding, forgiveness, grow. Money
can't buy none of those things.
>> So, so why have you said that last part,
that forgiveness part? So,
can this can is it really okay for a
person you've been with for a long time
and they uh they backslide
and had a a mishaps. Is it okay to work
through it or just break up?
>> Okay. What What do backslide mean?
>> Cheating. [ __ ] somebody else. [ __ ]
it. That's what you want.
>> I DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS.
>> [ __ ] SOMEBODY ELSE.
>> TALK TO ME REGULAR. OKAY. So you are you
so you said if your woman or your man
that you're with cheated on you is it
don't forget is it okay forget that
>> the answer is yes and this is why I'm
going to tell you why. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> If it's an aitcher cheater absolutely
[ __ ] not just gone by.
>> What's a [ __ ] cheater like more than three
three
>> not learning from your your mistakes?
>> What? What's a [ __ ] cheat like? Is it
>> somebody that keep repeating the same
behavior? One is enough.
you. The thing is, you should feel so
that you don't want your, you know, you
should feel so [ __ ] up that it would
hurt your wife.
>> You should be like, "Damn, I can't even
do her like this." Like your thing might
be thinking and you may kissed a broad
or he may kiss, you know, she may kiss
the man, but in those moments, we all
have a choice. It's all leading up to
that, right? So, you you all have a
choice. So, it should be to the point
where I can't even do him like this. Let
me go and get up out of here. And that's
the type of relationship that people
needs to have with their significant
others because if you want to sit up
here and cheat because she's making you
mad or he's pissing you off or whatever
the case may be. So, if you're doing
that and you're not fixing that problem,
that mean you going to cheat every time.
>> So, let me ask you this. I have
>> So, it's it's not okay to answer your
question. It's not okay. And people can
uh get through the cheating behavior,
but the only way that you can get
through the cheating behavior if you
both still want it and if you both still
working at it. Cuz if one person is
working at it, the other person don't,
that [ __ ] just don't work like that.
Y'all both have to do uh you both have
to do the work and you both have to
choose each other every single day. Even
if you don't want to, even you don't
like her ass today, even you don't like
his ass today, you got to both choose to
be with each other.
>> So look, before we get to this last
question, I want to throw this out
there. I just want to see how you going
to catch it. how I'm going to catch it.
>> I just want to see how she gonna catch.
So, we going to do this. I'm your guy.
We've been dubbing each other. We going
to say over 10 years. [ __ ] had a
good 10 year run. I'm talking about, you
know, [ __ ] trying to get a job.
I can't get a job. I'm good at hustling,
but [ __ ] Re trying to get a job,
but [ __ ] can't hold a job. But
[ __ ] constantly provide, he pay
bills, he do all this, right?
>> Why he can't hold a job,
>> man? I don't
>> You say he can't hold a job. Why is that?
that?
>> I I mean I'm I can't I can't go.
>> You asking for my coach expertise or you
just asking me for
>> No, cuz you like Let me get there. Let
me get there. Let me get there. I'm
going let you get there.
>> So this say he do I'm talking about
y'all y'all been together 10 years.
[ __ ] been there 10 years. I'm
talking about [ __ ] work a job.
[ __ ] get fired or he get laid.
We going to say he get laid off. He
don't never get fired. He get laid off. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> So we going to use that. Constantly got
that that that flow of hustle, right? So
this say he get knocked, right? and he
go to jail for maybe we going to say
three three years.
>> Is it okay for a female to do her?
>> My personal opinion.
>> Yeah, your personal opinion.
>> I feel as though you guys need to be
truthful to each other. So, what that
means is you're either going to agree to
be faithful and to be there for him or
you're going to agree to be there for
him and be there when he get out, but you're going to do you and you're going
you're going to do you and you're going to accept that and not hold it against
to accept that and not hold it against her. So y'all have to make that decision
her. So y'all have to make that decision or what y'all can deal with honestly cuz
or what y'all can deal with honestly cuz most [ __ ] be like just go ahead and do
most [ __ ] be like just go ahead and do you. You know what I'm saying? And it
you. You know what I'm saying? And it don't even really be that. But I can say
don't even really be that. But I can say like I don't I don't know what's up with
like I don't I don't know what's up with GL people. I know this from my twin. I
GL people. I know this from my twin. I don't know how people can cheat the way
don't know how people can cheat the way that they cheat. They be having like
that they cheat. They be having like four or five girlfriends and I don't
four or five girlfriends and I don't know what's wrong with you man that's in
know what's wrong with you man that's in jail or prison. That's some lonely [ __ ]
jail or prison. That's some lonely [ __ ] right there. That's a whole another
right there. That's a whole another topic. But I feel like that's a
topic. But I feel like that's a conversation.
conversation. >> Surprised.
>> Surprised. >> I ain't surprised no more. YOU CAN NEVER
>> I ain't surprised no more. YOU CAN NEVER BE that lonely. I could never be that
BE that lonely. I could never be that lonely where I'm going to develop a
lonely where I'm going to develop a whole relationship and be faithful to a
whole relationship and be faithful to a man that's in jail. And I don't I have
man that's in jail. And I don't I have not even seen this man on the outside. I
not even seen this man on the outside. I just will not. But you know that's so
just will not. But you know that's so you guys have to come to common ground.
you guys have to come to common ground. >> I just want to say this. I I went my
>> I just want to say this. I I went my last time I went I say I had nine lines
last time I went I say I had nine lines on. I wasn't calling every day like so
on. I wasn't calling every day like so my whole thing now this just me
my whole thing now this just me >> I cheat my bars
>> I cheat my bars >> I wasn't cheating I mean if they want to
>> I wasn't cheating I mean if they want to do their part they pray but like don't
do their part they pray but like don't get them say always had my own money
get them say always had my own money when I got locked up they just was have
when I got locked up they just was have their phones on if I got to put some
their phones on if I got to put some money on the phone or you know [ __ ] like
money on the phone or you know [ __ ] like that but like man like if I want to call
that but like man like if I want to call this day I'm going to call this day [ __ ]
this day I'm going to call this day [ __ ] I feel like I paid for it
I feel like I paid for it cuz most of the time [ __ ] people don't
cuz most of the time [ __ ] people don't got the money to to put the money on the
got the money to to put the money on the phone bill so like [ __ ] that go to
phone bill so like [ __ ] that go to prison with money [ __ ] They could send
prison with money [ __ ] They could send it out.
it out. >> I'm going have to say if if I had a man
>> I'm going have to say if if I had a man and my man went to jail,
and my man went to jail, >> but you got to look at it.
>> but you got to look at it. >> And and wait, if if I had
>> And and wait, if if I had >> he was guilty for 10 years.
>> he was guilty for 10 years. >> That's what I'm going to say. That's
>> That's what I'm going to say. That's what I'm going to say. If I had a man
what I'm going to say. If I had a man and he was loyal to me and you know, the
and he was loyal to me and you know, the man told me the sky was red. It's red.
man told me the sky was red. It's red. My base said that sky red. That sky is
My base said that sky red. That sky is red. You know what I'm saying? And he
red. You know what I'm saying? And he went to jail for, you know, whatever for
went to jail for, you know, whatever for providing for the family. Cuz of course,
providing for the family. Cuz of course, if we being transparent, I already know
if we being transparent, I already know what it is that he do. So, I already
what it is that he do. So, I already know why he got knocked off. Ain't no
know why he got knocked off. Ain't no secrets being around you, right? My man
secrets being around you, right? My man went to jail. I'm not going to even lie
went to jail. I'm not going to even lie to you
to you before this age. Hell no, I ain't [ __ ]
before this age. Hell no, I ain't [ __ ] with no [ __ ] in jail cuz my brother
with no [ __ ] in jail cuz my brother done showed me how [ __ ] still females
done showed me how [ __ ] still females in jail. But today me,
in jail. But today me, >> you got to be real. Listen though, if if
>> you got to be real. Listen though, if if that person didn't do no cheating like
that person didn't do no cheating like with you.
with you. >> Listen to you.
>> Listen to you. >> Listen, today if my man ended up in
>> Listen, today if my man ended up in jail,
jail, >> I'm holding the whole I'm holding
>> I'm holding the whole I'm holding Listen, I'm holding a whole fork down
Listen, I'm holding a whole fork down for him. I'm telling you, I'm going to
for him. I'm telling you, I'm going to be so tunnel vision that [ __ ]
be so tunnel vision that [ __ ] get out. We going to have a whole new
get out. We going to have a whole new home. Like [ __ ] going to be that it's
home. Like [ __ ] going to be that it's going to be a whole upgraation because
going to be a whole upgraation because it's like, you know, I know you was
it's like, you know, I know you was doing this to provide for the family.
doing this to provide for the family. I'mma feel like I need to not not make
I'mma feel like I need to not not make it up to you, but to show you my
it up to you, but to show you my appreciation in a different type of way.
appreciation in a different type of way. You know what I'm saying? Not sex, no
You know what I'm saying? Not sex, no none of that. I'm I'mma show you in a
none of that. I'm I'mma show you in a different type of way. You may told me a
different type of way. You may told me a business that you want to create, and
business that you want to create, and I'm going to have that [ __ ] lined up and
I'm going to have that [ __ ] lined up and ready for you when you get out. That
ready for you when you get out. That type of [ __ ] Like, you don't need to go
type of [ __ ] Like, you don't need to go back to the streets. Now, if that man
back to the streets. Now, if that man was doing all that for me, I don't got
was doing all that for me, I don't got no problem taking care of him while he
no problem taking care of him while he in there.
in there. >> I don't got no problem taking care of my
>> I don't got no problem taking care of my man. If my man is consistently taking
man. If my man is consistently taking care of me and my man lose his job,
care of me and my man lose his job, that's why I work as hard as I do. Baby,
that's why I work as hard as I do. Baby, don't even worry about you. Still a man
don't even worry about you. Still a man here. Here go this court. We out to
here. Here go this court. We out to dinner. Here you go. You can still feel
dinner. Here you go. You can still feel like a man. I got us. We ain't going to
like a man. I got us. We ain't going to not not do nothing. We ain't going to
not not do nothing. We ain't going to not not take no truth. We ain't going to
not not take no truth. We ain't going to Nothing Nothing's going to change cuz I
Nothing Nothing's going to change cuz I got my own bag over here. And you are
got my own bag over here. And you are more well than deserving because you
more well than deserving because you already showed me you got me in my eye.
already showed me you got me in my eye. So why not have you? And and the reason
So why not have you? And and the reason why I bring that up because I've been
why I bring that up because I've been watching Kelly Kell since I was
watching Kelly Kell since I was >> that's my girl
>> that's my girl >> in my 20s in my 20s when she first did
>> in my 20s in my 20s when she first did her little backyard stand up in my
her little backyard stand up in my cousin house
cousin house >> and I understood her reluct with her man
>> and I understood her reluct with her man when she made that comment. She going to
when she made that comment. She going to say I made my [ __ ] stop selling drugs.
say I made my [ __ ] stop selling drugs. I told him I don't want him go to
I told him I don't want him go to prison.
prison. And when I say she just from the outside
And when I say she just from the outside look get into how she really hold her
look get into how she really hold her man down like that. You can't hash her
man down like that. You can't hash her no more than that. Like I don't I don't
no more than that. Like I don't I don't see my cousin made a fe made a [ __ ]
see my cousin made a fe made a [ __ ] stop pimping you before. So I feel like
stop pimping you before. So I feel like if you meet a certain female and she
if you meet a certain female and she make you stop doing things or anything
make you stop doing things or anything you got to win her.
you got to win her. >> You got to want to too, right? Because
>> You got to want to too, right? Because if I you can't say make you cuz if I
if I you can't say make you cuz if I make you you going to do it for here and
make you you going to do it for here and then you going to feel like you going to
then you going to feel like you going to convert back to. So you got to want to
convert back to. So you got to want to want what we want. We got to want this
want what we want. We got to want this [ __ ] together. You know what I'm saying?
[ __ ] together. You know what I'm saying? So, if we want this [ __ ] together and we
So, if we want this [ __ ] together and we understand it's going to be hard work to
understand it's going to be hard work to get there and it's going to be this
get there and it's going to be this going to be, you know, a little
going to be, you know, a little challenge in the beginning, it's okay
challenge in the beginning, it's okay cuz we got each other. That that's all
cuz we got each other. That that's all that matters. But at the end of the day,
that matters. But at the end of the day, people
people Okay, so people need to do what works
Okay, so people need to do what works for their family. So, if I got you over
for their family. So, if I got you over here and your wife is taking care of
here and your wife is taking care of you, but I know why your wife is taking
you, but I know why your wife is taking care of you today. You y'all switch
care of you today. You y'all switch position. You take care of the kids. You
position. You take care of the kids. You make sure the house clean, you cook, you
make sure the house clean, you cook, you do all of the womanly duties, right? But
do all of the womanly duties, right? But that doesn't take your manhood away from
that doesn't take your manhood away from you, right? Like I said, today's change,
you, right? Like I said, today's change, right?
right? >> And she bringing in, she she's the bread
>> And she bringing in, she she's the bread winner.
winner. >> So in y'all household, it balance out.
>> So in y'all household, it balance out. >> So if a person like cuz I do have a
>> So if a person like cuz I do have a friend like this, a person like me, I
friend like this, a person like me, I understand. I get it. But what works for
understand. I get it. But what works for you may not work for me. Mhm.
you may not work for me. Mhm. >> And people and and and in today's
>> And people and and and in today's society, they they see here, they want
society, they they see here, they want to look at social media. They want to
to look at social media. They want to look at their friends and be like, I
look at their friends and be like, I want that. I used to do that. Like,
want that. I used to do that. Like, damn, I want y'all relationship, but as
damn, I want y'all relationship, but as I got older, know the [ __ ] I don't. Cuz
I got older, know the [ __ ] I don't. Cuz you want to know why. I don't know what
you want to know why. I don't know what the [ __ ] y'all went through to get this
the [ __ ] y'all went through to get this happy. I I don't know. Cuz now I I know
happy. I I don't know. Cuz now I I know that I'm not going to like your ass. I
that I'm not going to like your ass. I know I'm going to fall in love with your
know I'm going to fall in love with your ass. You done probably cheated. You done
ass. You done probably cheated. You done probably did some drugs. I don't know
probably did some drugs. I don't know what you did. you're probably hit
what you did. you're probably hit somebody. I don't want y'all [ __ ]
somebody. I don't want y'all [ __ ] life.
life. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm. >> But you know, people need to be very
>> But you know, people need to be very secure within themselves and in their
secure within themselves and in their relationship. So, if we both talking
relationship. So, if we both talking about our relationships and I got a man
about our relationships and I got a man that's taking care of me and you taking
that's taking care of me and you taking care of your man, but you know what I'm
care of your man, but you know what I'm saying? You happy with that and it's
saying? You happy with that and it's working for y'all? Who gives a [ __ ] WHAT
working for y'all? Who gives a [ __ ] WHAT I'M WHAT I'm doing? You know what I'm
I'M WHAT I'm doing? You know what I'm saying? You got to respect it and you
saying? You got to respect it and you got to not feel a certain type of way
got to not feel a certain type of way cuz there's a lot of boss ass women out
cuz there's a lot of boss ass women out here. I'm not telling you women to just
here. I'm not telling you women to just take care of a man for nothing. This man
take care of a man for nothing. This man should have had proved his [ __ ] self.
should have had proved his [ __ ] self. Okay. Don't change positions of that.
Okay. Don't change positions of that. Yeah. Don't change position of that
Yeah. Don't change position of that because we are supposed to be taken care
because we are supposed to be taken care of. But at the end of the day, today's
of. But at the end of the day, today's society is different. And whatever works
society is different. And whatever works for your household to make your
for your household to make your household run, then I feel like that's
household run, then I feel like that's what y'all should do. Regardless of what
what y'all should do. Regardless of what the [ __ ] mama say, regardless of what
the [ __ ] mama say, regardless of what the [ __ ] your kids say, because at the
the [ __ ] your kids say, because at the end of the day, your kids going to grow
end of the day, your kids going to grow up and have a dis relationship on your
up and have a dis relationship on your mama and your parents going to die and
mama and your parents going to die and then you going to what? You going to be
then you going to what? You going to be single. So listen to everybody. So, I
single. So listen to everybody. So, I feel like a lot of people don't be happy
feel like a lot of people don't be happy because they got so many people in their
because they got so many people in their ear. You know what I'm saying? They
ear. You know what I'm saying? They can't they not strong mind to make the
can't they not strong mind to make the they their own decisions and they feel
they their own decisions and they feel like the grass could be greener on the
like the grass could be greener on the other side. And it's like you forgot you
other side. And it's like you forgot you got some [ __ ] up ass flaws that I've
got some [ __ ] up ass flaws that I've been dealing with. You think another
been dealing with. You think another [ __ ] going to be how how long you going
[ __ ] going to be how how long you going to have to wear that mask before she
to have to wear that mask before she find out who you are? You You know what
find out who you are? You You know what I'm saying? So, at the end of the day,
I'm saying? So, at the end of the day, no relationship is perfect. We all have
no relationship is perfect. We all have our flaws. I feel like if two people
our flaws. I feel like if two people want each other, they definitely going
want each other, they definitely going to diligently work for each other. As
to diligently work for each other. As long as respect and loyalty and honesty
long as respect and loyalty and honesty is there and communication with
is there and communication with understanding, I don't think it's
understanding, I don't think it's nothing that you can't get through.
nothing that you can't get through. >> [ __ ] I feel like
>> [ __ ] I feel like look, just I was going to say something
look, just I was going to say something else, but it don't even matter.
else, but it don't even matter. >> I love
>> I love when when I'm in it, I am in it. When I
when when I'm in it, I am in it. When I got when I got my man, it ain't no other
got when I got my man, it ain't no other man I'm seeing. You know what I'm
man I'm seeing. You know what I'm saying? you the finest man. I I know you
saying? you the finest man. I I know you the everything. All I see is you. My My
the everything. All I see is you. My My whole schedule revolve around you. You
whole schedule revolve around you. You know what I'm saying? When I'm in a
know what I'm saying? When I'm in a relationship, it's me and you, baby. Cuz
relationship, it's me and you, baby. Cuz I love love. And I know most men that I
I love love. And I know most men that I every man I've been with have shown me a
every man I've been with have shown me a lot of great qualities. So yeah, I'mma
lot of great qualities. So yeah, I'mma leave that to where that's at. We ain't
leave that to where that's at. We ain't going to go into that. Love is coming on
going to go into that. Love is coming on that, too. But look,
that, too. But look, last question of the night.
last question of the night. >> All right. I appreciate you coming cuz I
>> All right. I appreciate you coming cuz I really I really like the feedback. I
really I really like the feedback. I like I got some free game. I hope you
like I got some free game. I hope you know I ain't had to pay for this [ __ ]
know I ain't had to pay for this [ __ ] >> Y sometime you got to be like a hot dog
>> Y sometime you got to be like a hot dog and catch up and see what a female
and catch up and see what a female thinking about. They really put you on
thinking about. They really put you on game bro. Like I got to be I got to be
game bro. Like I got to be I got to be spiritual ready for this [ __ ]
spiritual ready for this [ __ ] >> Do you avoid confrontation or struggle
>> Do you avoid confrontation or struggle to intimidate it? Why or why not?
to intimidate it? Why or why not? >> Hold on. Wait. Did I say that right?
>> Hold on. Wait. Did I say that right? >> I don't understand. Wait, hold on. Wait.
>> I don't understand. Wait, hold on. Wait. I told Look, sometimes I think I read it
I told Look, sometimes I think I read it too fast. What's that?
too fast. What's that? >> Do you avoid confrontation or struggle?
>> Do you avoid confrontation or struggle? >> What's that word?
>> What's that word? >> To intimidate. That's what
>> To intimidate. That's what >> I know. I said it right there. I know
>> I know. I said it right there. I know intimidate look like I know how to spell
intimidate look like I know how to spell it.
it. >> Why or why not? Um, do I avoid
>> Why or why not? Um, do I avoid confrontation? So, it depends, right? It
confrontation? So, it depends, right? It depends. There's levels to it. So,
I'm relationships is easy for me to go off of, right? So if my man doing
off of, right? So if my man doing something to me. All right.
something to me. All right. >> What you mean like doing something to
>> What you mean like doing something to you?
you? >> So if he Yeah. If he's irritating me. So
>> So if he Yeah. If he's irritating me. So like if he knows how Let me see. Let me
like if he knows how Let me see. Let me see what what what they Okay. So if my
see what what what they Okay. So if my man not answering his phone, right?
man not answering his phone, right? >> Damn. Why you got to bring that up?
>> Damn. Why you got to bring that up? >> Cuz I don't like that [ __ ] Don't
>> Cuz I don't like that [ __ ] Don't [ __ ] PLAY WITH ME. YOU WE HAVE OUR
[ __ ] PLAY WITH ME. YOU WE HAVE OUR PHONES IN OUR HANDS 24/7 OUT THE GODDAMN
PHONES IN OUR HANDS 24/7 OUT THE GODDAMN DAY. You see me calling you. Don't
DAY. You see me calling you. Don't [ __ ] play with me.
[ __ ] play with me. So, hold on. So, my man not answering
So, hold on. So, my man not answering his phone,
his phone, right? And I'm used to my man answering
right? And I'm used to my man answering his phone all the time. My man not
his phone all the time. My man not answering his phone. Cool. No alarm goes
answering his phone. Cool. No alarm goes off. I'mma call him again. Here. I'mma
off. I'mma call him again. Here. I'mma call him again. I'mma give him an hour.
call him again. I'mma give him an hour. You should have returned my phone call
You should have returned my phone call in an hour. But I'm now now I'm now I'm
in an hour. But I'm now now I'm now I'm testing your ass. Your answer. You hear
testing your ass. Your answer. You hear me back like six, seven hours later. I
me back like six, seven hours later. I got a hold ass attitude. But I ain't
got a hold ass attitude. But I ain't going to say nothing cuz it's the first
going to say nothing cuz it's the first time
time we talking. We we we we loving on each
we talking. We we we we loving on each other, seeing a hard day. We're like,
other, seeing a hard day. We're like, "Babe, what's going on? I answer the
"Babe, what's going on? I answer the phone today. Something happened. Like,
phone today. Something happened. Like, what's going on? I was worried." And he
what's going on? I was worried." And he said his spill. Okay. Well, bae, can you
said his spill. Okay. Well, bae, can you make sure you answer the phone because I
make sure you answer the phone because I know when you with me, I see your phone
know when you with me, I see your phone in your hand all the time.
in your hand all the time. So, can you can you make sure you answer
So, can you can you make sure you answer your phone because that can build some
your phone because that can build some insecurities in me as my man? He should
insecurities in me as my man? He should understand that if he ain't doing [ __ ]
understand that if he ain't doing [ __ ] as my man, he should take that to heat,
as my man, he should take that to heat, right?
right? >> Cuz what, however I feel, he wants to
>> Cuz what, however I feel, he wants to help me not feel that way cuz I would do
help me not feel that way cuz I would do the same,
the same, >> right?
>> right? >> So, he does it again.
>> So, he does it again. >> No expation.
>> No expation. Third time. Oh, baby. Now, I'm on your
Third time. Oh, baby. Now, I'm on your ass. So, I will avoid confrontation
ass. So, I will avoid confrontation to educate you on to breaking your
to educate you on to breaking your habit. And it's not even a breaking no
habit. And it's not even a breaking no habit. It's this this this new [ __ ] you
habit. It's this this this new [ __ ] you got going on. Not being consistent with
got going on. Not being consistent with the phone, right? Cuz I know at 6:00 in
the phone, right? Cuz I know at 6:00 in the morning, you answering that [ __ ]
the morning, you answering that [ __ ] phone. 7:00 in the morning, you
phone. 7:00 in the morning, you answering that phone, you on the phone
answering that phone, you on the phone with your sister. What the [ __ ] going on
with your sister. What the [ __ ] going on with me? What are you doing? WHERE YOU
with me? What are you doing? WHERE YOU AT? YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING? LET ME
AT? YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING? LET ME KNOW. SO, I will avoid confrontation for
KNOW. SO, I will avoid confrontation for understanding.
understanding. >> Reason y'all, that's your mind. I will
>> Reason y'all, that's your mind. I will avoid confrontation for understanding.
avoid confrontation for understanding. And after that, it's disrespect. After I
And after that, it's disrespect. After I told you how I feel and I have it three
told you how I feel and I have it three times, you're disrespecting me and
times, you're disrespecting me and you're disrespecting this relationship.
you're disrespecting this relationship. We got a bigger issue now. Struggle.
We got a bigger issue now. Struggle. What do you mean by struggle?
What do you mean by struggle? What I always struggle?
What I always struggle? >> Do do struggle intimidate you?
>> Do do struggle intimidate you? Do struggling intimidate you?
Do struggling intimidate you? >> Okay. So,
>> Okay. So, >> I'm talking about [ __ ] that we go
>> I'm talking about [ __ ] that we go through in life, bills and all that.
through in life, bills and all that. >> So, two years ago
>> So, two years ago >> Mhm. struggle intimidating me. You want
>> Mhm. struggle intimidating me. You want to know why?
to know why? >> I was there two years ago.
>> I was there two years ago. >> You You probably was.
>> You You probably was. >> It's a whole new woman.
>> It's a whole new woman. >> Well, I'mma answer from then to now.
>> Well, I'mma answer from then to now. >> Okay.
>> Okay. >> So, two years ago, struggle to
>> So, two years ago, struggle to intimidate me. You want to know why? Cuz
intimidate me. You want to know why? Cuz I grew up, follow the rules, do
I grew up, follow the rules, do everything, your credit, your this, pay
everything, your credit, your this, pay your bills on time.
your bills on time. We good, right?
We good, right? >> [ __ ] no. Right. You cannot predict the
>> [ __ ] no. Right. You cannot predict the unpredictable [ __ ] So
unpredictable [ __ ] So it did then. So when it happened to me,
it did then. So when it happened to me, I'm like, so okay, so I left my home to
I'm like, so okay, so I left my home to live with my ex. He wanted me to come
live with my ex. He wanted me to come move with him.
move with him. >> All right. I didn't know living with
>> All right. I didn't know living with someone, it would erase your whole
someone, it would erase your whole rental history. And I've been on my own
rental history. And I've been on my own since 17 years old. I have a great
since 17 years old. I have a great rental history.
rental history. So I'm trying to leave him.
So I'm trying to leave him. I'm getting ping ping ping ping. What
I'm getting ping ping ping ping. What the [ __ ] I You know, I never knew what
the [ __ ] I You know, I never knew what went into renting a home. You want to
went into renting a home. You want to know why? Cuz my [ __ ] always been
know why? Cuz my [ __ ] always been together. So, I never knew you had to
together. So, I never knew you had to have a good credit score cuz I never
have a good credit score cuz I never worried about my credit score cuz I
worried about my credit score cuz I always paid my [ __ ] on time. I never
always paid my [ __ ] on time. I never knew about the income cuz I always had
knew about the income cuz I always had income. I never knew about the
income. I never knew about the requirements cuz I already met them
requirements cuz I already met them without even knowing what it took to get
without even knowing what it took to get this home that I was in. Right. So now
this home that I was in. Right. So now that I don't have the rental history and
that I don't have the rental history and they call it squatting
they call it squatting when you not on the lease for another
when you not on the lease for another property now these technical terms
property now these technical terms coming up that's illegal, right? I never
coming up that's illegal, right? I never knew all this stuff cuz I always took
knew all this stuff cuz I always took care of my [ __ ] So now I'm trying to
care of my [ __ ] So now I'm trying to get out and all this. Now it's a
get out and all this. Now it's a struggle. I'm in I'm in fight mode. I'm
struggle. I'm in I'm in fight mode. I'm in I'm in mode cuz I'm just like what
in I'm in mode cuz I'm just like what the [ __ ] So now I got to learn. Oh, you
the [ __ ] So now I got to learn. Oh, you need a six to get to here or you need
need a six to get to here or you need this many rental histories to get to
this many rental histories to get to here. If you're not, you need a
here. If you're not, you need a cosigner. Damn, I ain't never dealt with
cosigner. Damn, I ain't never dealt with that. I'm like, well, what? I've been on
that. I'm like, well, what? I've been on my own since they was like, it's not
my own since they was like, it's not reporting.
reporting. >> So, the five years that we was together,
>> So, the five years that we was together, I should have done [ __ ] the proper way,
I should have done [ __ ] the proper way, but I didn't know. You know, the home
but I didn't know. You know, the home was owned. I I didn't know. What you
was owned. I I didn't know. What you don't know is what the [ __ ] you don't
don't know is what the [ __ ] you don't know. So, at that time, struggling
know. So, at that time, struggling >> [ __ ] depressed me. I felt low. I was
>> [ __ ] depressed me. I felt low. I was just like, how the [ __ ] I always had my
just like, how the [ __ ] I always had my [ __ ] together my whole life. And it
[ __ ] together my whole life. And it really intimidated me.
really intimidated me. >> But then as I came out of that,
>> But then as I came out of that, I'm like, sometimes you got to start at
I'm like, sometimes you got to start at zero to get back to where you were or
zero to get back to where you were or better than where you was. Stop
better than where you was. Stop complaining so [ __ ] much. Learn from
complaining so [ __ ] much. Learn from your mistakes
your mistakes so you won't make it again. Cuz I'm a
so you won't make it again. Cuz I'm a [ __ ] you only need to tap me on
[ __ ] you only need to tap me on my hand one time and I don't want to
my hand one time and I don't want to feel that [ __ ] again. So before it was
feel that [ __ ] again. So before it was um a yes and now it's a no because I
um a yes and now it's a no because I understand to order to have the gloom
understand to order to have the gloom and the glam, you have to go through a
and the glam, you have to go through a struggle to understand what it is that
struggle to understand what it is that you about to obtain and to take your
you about to obtain and to take your people with you abundantly. You have to
people with you abundantly. You have to be able to obtain it. Cuz if I give you
be able to obtain it. Cuz if I give you a million dollars right now, right, but
a million dollars right now, right, but you don't even know how to manage $100,
you don't even know how to manage $100, you're going to be [ __ ] broke. Cuz
you're going to be [ __ ] broke. Cuz you want to know why? A million dollar
you want to know why? A million dollar is not that much money.
is not that much money. >> It's not. But you know how to you could
>> It's not. But you know how to you could manage it.
manage it. >> You don't know how to manage $100 and I
>> You don't know how to manage $100 and I give you a million. You going to still
give you a million. You going to still be at exactly where you from.
be at exactly where you from. >> So it's all about education and
>> So it's all about education and understanding.
understanding. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> So what about you?
>> So what about you? >> Hey, let me go pick that real quick.
>> Hey, let me go pick that real quick. [ __ ] I ain't If y'all Hey, look. She
[ __ ] I ain't If y'all Hey, look. She hit some points. I don't know what y'all
hit some points. I don't know what y'all listening to, but I probably been
listening to, but I probably been bullshitting a little bit, cracking
bullshitting a little bit, cracking jokes, but no, that right there, that
jokes, but no, that right there, that was a that was that was
was a that was that was >> And a lot of people don't like to talk
>> And a lot of people don't like to talk about it, right? People will see me
about it, right? People will see me every day and be like, "She ain't went
every day and be like, "She ain't went through nothing. She ain't going through
through nothing. She ain't going through nothing. She ain't never struggled."
nothing. She ain't never struggled." What? I just carry that [ __ ] Well, you
What? I just carry that [ __ ] Well, you understand what I'm saying? They don't
understand what I'm saying? They don't need to know my business. But my
need to know my business. But my personal people, depend on who they are,
personal people, depend on who they are, they know who the [ __ ] I am.
they know who the [ __ ] I am. >> I got to say this. This what I like
>> I got to say this. This what I like about just say certain people you bring
about just say certain people you bring into your life cuz I bring a lot of
into your life cuz I bring a lot of certain people into my life and I went
certain people into my life and I went through I know how I feel when you when
through I know how I feel when you when you down dick broke. Pause. When you
you down dick broke. Pause. When you down dick broke like nobody want that
down dick broke like nobody want that dick cuz you broke.
It's the truth. When you broke, nobody don't want that [ __ ]
don't want that [ __ ] >> So my whole thing like I went down that
>> So my whole thing like I went down that low. Also, like when you got to build
low. Also, like when you got to build yourself back up, you just got to really
yourself back up, you just got to really know how to really mash that money. Like
know how to really mash that money. Like I've been called a [ __ ] up artist so
I've been called a [ __ ] up artist so long, [ __ ] It took my mama to die for
long, [ __ ] It took my mama to die for me to literally learn how to save. When
me to literally learn how to save. When I say save, I be on it. I ain't
I say save, I be on it. I ain't >> And I helped you last year. You know, I
>> And I helped you last year. You know, I told you kind of that was last year,
told you kind of that was last year, right?
right? >> Yeah. So, I feel like it been two years
>> Yeah. So, I feel like it been two years since you been cool.
since you been cool. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> It been about damn been two years
>> It been about damn been two years >> prepared for that. And you know what?
>> prepared for that. And you know what? being prepared. I depleted 52,000 less
being prepared. I depleted 52,000 less than a year of my savings account. This
than a year of my savings account. This is my savings account study bringing in
is my savings account study bringing in my checks
my checks on a family
that I shouldn't have. I just shouldn't have did it. I was trying to bring
have did it. I was trying to bring somebody into my world that wasn't a
somebody into my world that wasn't a that wasn't um willing to grow in my
that wasn't um willing to grow in my world, if that makes sense. Like I was
world, if that makes sense. Like I was willing to grow and came into my world.
willing to grow and came into my world. You understand what I'm saying? And I'm
You understand what I'm saying? And I'm trying to make things so equal and so
trying to make things so equal and so fair. I was losing so much money. He
fair. I was losing so much money. He made more money than me on paper. Right?
made more money than me on paper. Right? If I did that was I made more money than
If I did that was I made more money than him.
him. But the way his five and my two
But the way his five and my two 52,000 that saved up ain't no money.
52,000 that saved up ain't no money. Especially when he don't believe in what
Especially when he don't believe in what I believe in or spend how I spend. That
I believe in or spend how I spend. That money was gone.
money was gone. >> Mhm. So, it's savings
>> Mhm. So, it's savings and my savings got depleted in that
and my savings got depleted in that relationship. Um, I I you know, I don't
relationship. Um, I I you know, I don't regret nothing. I I learned from
regret nothing. I I learned from everything. Um,
everything. Um, but God is making a way. So, I'm I'm not
but God is making a way. So, I'm I'm not even complaining about nothing because
even complaining about nothing because like I'm still I'm still living my life.
like I'm still I'm still living my life. >> Still living my life. I'm still helping
>> Still living my life. I'm still helping other people. I'm still here. I'm
other people. I'm still here. I'm healthy. Um, so that [ __ ]
healthy. Um, so that [ __ ] >> you wealthy. I need a couple.
>> you wealthy. I need a couple. >> I heard wealthy. Y'all hear
>> I heard wealthy. Y'all hear >> when I die.
>> when I die. >> When I heard wealthy. I ain't hear
>> When I heard wealthy. I ain't hear health. I heard wealthy.
health. I heard wealthy. >> When I die,
>> When I die, >> you know what I'm saying? So, you just
>> you know what I'm saying? So, you just learn from your mistakes and then um you
learn from your mistakes and then um you just you just got to learn from if you
just you just got to learn from if you don't learn from your mistakes, you just
don't learn from your mistakes, you just got to be a product of your environment.
got to be a product of your environment. That's it.
That's it. >> That way. I'm still learning though. I
>> That way. I'm still learning though. I ain't going to lie. I'm trying my best.
ain't going to lie. I'm trying my best. Like why I say I ain't perfect. I I [ __ ]
Like why I say I ain't perfect. I I [ __ ] up a lot. I do a lot of dumb [ __ ] I be
up a lot. I do a lot of dumb [ __ ] I be just trying to figure it out. Well, I'm
just trying to figure it out. Well, I'm going to stop though. This is what
going to stop though. This is what happens, right?
happens, right? >> I'm going to stop at the end of January.
>> I'm going to stop at the end of January. >> Stop what? [ __ ] it up. Stop the end of
>> Stop what? [ __ ] it up. Stop the end of January.
January. >> YOU GOT TO SAY
>> YOU GOT TO SAY I DON'T LIKE how things are going. Let's
I DON'T LIKE how things are going. Let's Let's Let's use uh Bro, let's just not
Let's Let's use uh Bro, let's just not have enough funds, right? Cuz
have enough funds, right? Cuz >> that's my favorite [ __ ] [ __ ] Watch
>> that's my favorite [ __ ] [ __ ] Watch out for that puddle Lincoln ass [ __ ]
out for that puddle Lincoln ass [ __ ] >> Everybody can relate to to not having
>> Everybody can relate to to not having enough funds. I'm not going to call it
enough funds. I'm not going to call it broke cuz broke is a mindset. It really
broke cuz broke is a mindset. It really is. Broke is literally a mindset.
is. Broke is literally a mindset. >> So not having enough funds, right?
>> So not having enough funds, right? >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> So if you're like, damn,
>> So if you're like, damn, I'm getting paid like 72.85 a year.
I'm getting paid like 72.85 a year. >> Like 700,000. You said 700,000.
>> Like 700,000. You said 700,000. >> 72 72,000 to $85 a year.
>> 72 72,000 to $85 a year. >> OKAY. YEAH. OKAY.
>> OKAY. YEAH. OKAY. >> WHY AM I WHY I DON'T GOT NO SAVINGS? Why
>> WHY AM I WHY I DON'T GOT NO SAVINGS? Why am I living paycheck to paycheck?
am I living paycheck to paycheck? >> So when you recognize that thought that
>> So when you recognize that thought that you have, you're accountable for
you have, you're accountable for everything that comes after, right? So
everything that comes after, right? So you supposed to look at everything that
you supposed to look at everything that you're spinning. Look at everything
you're spinning. Look at everything that's coming in. Look at everything
that's coming in. Look at everything that's spinning. Looking at your needs,
that's spinning. Looking at your needs, your want, and some miscellaneous [ __ ]
your want, and some miscellaneous [ __ ] >> Mhm.
>> Mhm. >> Oh, you spending a th000 on fast food.
>> Oh, you spending a th000 on fast food. Why?
Why? Um,
Um, you're spending
you're spending $500 on borrowing people money. They
$500 on borrowing people money. They haven't paid you back yet. Why?
haven't paid you back yet. Why? You're getting Jordans every two weeks.
You're getting Jordans every two weeks. Why? You know what I'm saying? And when
Why? You know what I'm saying? And when you understand like when you understand
you understand like when you understand that method, you like this could be in
that method, you like this could be in my savings. Get a money marketing
my savings. Get a money marketing account. That's that gives you more
account. That's that gives you more interest than a regular savings account.
interest than a regular savings account. Get some R ra I'm probably saying it
Get some R ra I'm probably saying it wrong. R I RA whatever. Y'all know what
wrong. R I RA whatever. Y'all know what I'm talking about. Get that for you and
I'm talking about. Get that for you and your kids. You put a little money to
your kids. You put a little money to even start for that. Like once you think
even start for that. Like once you think about that and your mindset change, you
about that and your mindset change, you can do it. It only takes a little bit of
can do it. It only takes a little bit of money to do a little bit of [ __ ] Like h
money to do a little bit of [ __ ] Like h like house house insurance.
like house house insurance. >> Yeah, that [ __ ] like
>> Yeah, that [ __ ] like >> that [ __ ] $11. Something happened to
>> that [ __ ] $11. Something happened to your house, that's an easy, you know
your house, that's an easy, you know what I'm saying?
what I'm saying? >> People take for granted the things that
>> People take for granted the things that they need to have in order to continue
they need to have in order to continue to be afloat if something happens in
to be afloat if something happens in their life because these landlords are
their life because these landlords are [ __ ] slim lords especially in an
[ __ ] slim lords especially in an inner city. I don't give a [ __ ] what
inner city. I don't give a [ __ ] what nobody say. That's my experience. I love
nobody say. That's my experience. I love Germantown, MCW, all of that. You get
Germantown, MCW, all of that. You get the money. [ __ ] be renting you
the money. [ __ ] be renting you out houses that you know, whatever. But
out houses that you know, whatever. But you got to start thinking smarter to
you got to start thinking smarter to have um you got to start thinking
have um you got to start thinking smarter to have more of an effective uh
smarter to have more of an effective uh life. That's how I see it.
life. That's how I see it. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm. >> Cuz do I need ice cream and spending $6.
>> Cuz do I need ice cream and spending $6. Do I need I was spending no [ __ ] I
Do I need I was spending no [ __ ] I was spending like $500 on Starbucks
was spending like $500 on Starbucks every day.
every day. >> I wasn't even finishing the cup. My kids
>> I wasn't even finishing the cup. My kids be like, "You always getting finished
be like, "You always getting finished the cup."
the cup." So guess what I started doing?
So guess what I started doing? >> What? being mindful.
>> That's my word for real. >> Do I like to go because it's Starbucks
>> Do I like to go because it's Starbucks or do I like the taste?
or do I like the taste? >> So I said, "Let me set my house up to
>> So I said, "Let me set my house up to where I like to make my own Starbucks at
where I like to make my own Starbucks at the house." I had just liked it to go.
the house." I had just liked it to go. It wasn't even the taste for real. It I
It wasn't even the taste for real. It I liked it to go. Actually, last time I've
liked it to go. Actually, last time I've been to Starbucks.
been to Starbucks. >> I can't.
>> I can't. >> It's been a long ass time.
>> It's been a long ass time. >> Oh yeah, cuz you ain't playing [ __ ] You
>> Oh yeah, cuz you ain't playing [ __ ] You want something different. I see it.
want something different. I see it. >> I see it. You know, I got your GPS in my
>> I see it. You know, I got your GPS in my phone, so I be seeing you at work.
>> See, she be at work all the time. >> But, you know, you just when when when
>> But, you know, you just when when when you when you understand what's wrong, it
you when you understand what's wrong, it it's your at that point, you hold
it's your at that point, you hold yourself responsible for um anything
yourself responsible for um anything that comes after
>> it's harder. Like people people said to me like damn like one of my coaching
me like damn like one of my coaching clients she was like
clients she was like after I after I was done coaching her
after I after I was done coaching her the lesson right her m her teaching
the lesson right her m her teaching material and homework she said
material and homework she said I'm not going to lie I didn't think I
I'm not going to lie I didn't think I was going to get 100% out of you but I
was going to get 100% out of you but I still got what you was giving me. She's
still got what you was giving me. She's like and I she's like and your mom just
like and I she's like and your mom just died. She's like I did not expect this.
died. She's like I did not expect this. I said you want to know why it's not
I said you want to know why it's not okay for me to give you less and you're
okay for me to give you less and you're paying for an experience. You're paying
paying for an experience. You're paying for change.
for change. My mom died. Yes. That is an excuse, but
My mom died. Yes. That is an excuse, but that's not an excuse for a [ __ ]
that's not an excuse for a [ __ ] that's paying you.
that's paying you. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm. >> I still have to show up the proper way,
>> I still have to show up the proper way, the right way. You still have to be
the right way. You still have to be evidence of what I am teaching you. I
evidence of what I am teaching you. I can't half ask you cuz my mom died.
can't half ask you cuz my mom died. I have to deal with that. And I just
I have to deal with that. And I just feel like a lot of people use excuses
feel like a lot of people use excuses for why it is that they behave that they
for why it is that they behave that they that they behave. I have a whole
that they behave. I have a whole autoimmune disease. Life hasn't been
autoimmune disease. Life hasn't been fair to me since I've been born. You
fair to me since I've been born. You understand what I'm saying? And I still
understand what I'm saying? And I still choose every day. You want to know why?
choose every day. You want to know why? Cuz I'm working on legacy. Most people
Cuz I'm working on legacy. Most people don't understand what legacy is or know
don't understand what legacy is or know how to explain legacy. I'm working on
how to explain legacy. I'm working on wealth. I don't want to be rich. I want
wealth. I don't want to be rich. I want to be wealthy. And as far as my
to be wealthy. And as far as my businesses goes, kids don't want to have
businesses goes, kids don't want to have your [ __ ] businesses.
your [ __ ] businesses. >> Give them life insurance so they can do
>> Give them life insurance so they can do their own [ __ ] thing. Tell them to
their own [ __ ] thing. Tell them to sell a [ __ ] business. You know what
sell a [ __ ] business. You know what I'm saying? I'm to where my kids going
I'm saying? I'm to where my kids going to be straight if anything ever. My my
to be straight if anything ever. My my funeral is already paid for it. Once I
funeral is already paid for it. Once I learned that you can pay for your
learned that you can pay for your funeral while you alive, why send your
funeral while you alive, why send your family through all of that [ __ ] But
family through all of that [ __ ] But these are the things that I've learned
these are the things that I've learned moving on. And we always have a choice.
moving on. And we always have a choice. We have a choice every day that we wake
We have a choice every day that we wake up. Are you going to choose? And being
up. Are you going to choose? And being consistent is hard. Being persistent is
consistent is hard. Being persistent is hard. Being disciplined is hard. That's
hard. Being disciplined is hard. That's why you got to have people around you
why you got to have people around you when you start lacking to get on your
when you start lacking to get on your ass. And that's why a lot of people
ass. And that's why a lot of people don't like friends that get on their ass
don't like friends that get on their ass because they want the enablers around
because they want the enablers around them.
them. them enablers want you to continue being
them enablers want you to continue being where you at so they can continue being
where you at so they can continue being where you at. You going to be 50 years
where you at. You going to be 50 years old with the same [ __ ] dream versus
old with the same [ __ ] dream versus like JJ seriously get your ass up. What
like JJ seriously get your ass up. What you need help with? I'm coming over
you need help with? I'm coming over there like come on we not doing this.
there like come on we not doing this. You know what I'm saying? You could sit
You know what I'm saying? You could sit in your stuff for a moment but this like
in your stuff for a moment but this like come on we got to we got to go
come on we got to we got to go >> push this [ __ ]
>> push this [ __ ] >> And a lot of people don't like people
>> And a lot of people don't like people that hel them hold them accountable.
that hel them hold them accountable. >> Oh she talking bad about No. No. She
>> Oh she talking bad about No. No. She cares. She loves you. He loves you. He
cares. She loves you. He loves you. He cares about you. And that's what people
cares about you. And that's what people don't understand when you really get on
don't understand when you really get on somebody ass and that you trying to shed
somebody ass and that you trying to shed on them. You really trying to lift them
on them. You really trying to lift them up, you could do better, bro. And that's
up, you could do better, bro. And that's why I like the people that be around me
why I like the people that be around me cuz not one individual since I met since
cuz not one individual since I met since 2025 never came around me on no negative
2025 never came around me on no negative stuff.
stuff. >> And I could I could vouch for that.
>> And I could I could vouch for that. >> Especially especially the comedians
>> Especially especially the comedians every Wednesday coming down. It's never
every Wednesday coming down. It's never all we we treating the the Caucasian
all we we treating the the Caucasian different than the black. Everybody get
different than the black. Everybody get the same treatment and we going to still
the same treatment and we going to still lift each other up. So like I'm in
lift each other up. So like I'm in that's why I say I'm in a good space
that's why I say I'm in a good space right now. I keep myself around positive
right now. I keep myself around positive people. A lot of people that that's
people. A lot of people that that's podcasting. A lot of people that's
podcasting. A lot of people that's that's basically going say independent
that's basically going say independent people right now that still work jobs
people right now that still work jobs and and we all going to win.
and and we all going to win. >> We is all going to win cuz we want to
>> We is all going to win cuz we want to see the best in all in in everybody
see the best in all in in everybody >> that way. So look, I hope y'all enjoyed
>> that way. So look, I hope y'all enjoyed this show. I really hope y'all did. This
this show. I really hope y'all did. This your boy Kaja aka step coach aka Little
your boy Kaja aka step coach aka Little Daddy. I take care of them stuff kids. I
Daddy. I take care of them stuff kids. I swear to God.
swear to God. >> Yo Christ,
>> Yo Christ, >> go ahead. Introduce yourself out.
>> go ahead. Introduce yourself out. >> Well, um, again, for you guys that do
>> Well, um, again, for you guys that do not know me, I am glam girl van, your
not know me, I am glam girl van, your favorite author of guide living well
favorite author of guide living well with lupus, which can be purchased on
with lupus, which can be purchased on Amazon for faster shipping. Please go to
Amazon for faster shipping. Please go to www.lupusnoface.com.
I am also live every Wednesday on the Lupus Has No Face podcast. Please go
Lupus Has No Face podcast. Please go like, share, and subscribe. You do not
like, share, and subscribe. You do not just have to have lupus in order to tune
just have to have lupus in order to tune in. You will find that it uh resonate
in. You will find that it uh resonate you in different ways. Um I am also a
you in different ways. Um I am also a life coach. So if you need any help in
life coach. So if you need any help in life um health and wellness, I am your
life um health and wellness, I am your girl. Please go to savannah.com
girl. Please go to savannah.com and book a free 30-inut consultation. I
and book a free 30-inut consultation. I am a public speaker as well. So, if
am a public speaker as well. So, if you're looking for anyone to uh talk
you're looking for anyone to uh talk about health and wellness, I am your
about health and wellness, I am your girl. Um,
girl. Um, I'm a nurse as well. So, I I wear many
I'm a nurse as well. So, I I wear many many many many different hats. But with
many many many different hats. But with all that being said, go follow your girl
all that being said, go follow your girl on Savannah Too Much Birds on Facebook,
on Savannah Too Much Birds on Facebook, LHNF2020
LHNF2020 on um Instagram.
on um Instagram. And um yeah, just just support and
And um yeah, just just support and anybody that's off your platform, the
anybody that's off your platform, the first five I'm going to say the six, the
first five I'm going to say the six, the first six people, you got to you got to
first six people, you got to you got to screenshot me. The first six people that
screenshot me. The first six people that go to my podcast, like, share, and
go to my podcast, like, share, and subscribe, screenshot it, and show me
subscribe, screenshot it, and show me that you did it. I will give you my book
that you did it. I will give you my book for free. God living well.
for free. God living well. >> I ain't never get no damn book for free.
>> I ain't never get no damn book for free. >> You ain't ask for one.
>> You ain't ask for one. >> Well, can I get one?
>> Well, can I get one? >> Yeah, you get one.
>> Yeah, you get one. >> Hey, so look, another thing I want y'all
>> Hey, so look, another thing I want y'all to look out for this project that uh me
to look out for this project that uh me and uh nine other people are doing
and uh nine other people are doing called the panel. So, you know what I'm
called the panel. So, you know what I'm saying? It's a it's a group of us that
saying? It's a it's a group of us that going to give you
going to give you how can give me give me give me that one
how can give me give me give me that one spicy words. We're going to be talking
spicy words. We're going to be talking about things that society has questions
about things that society has questions about that kind of like Ukraine chat,
about that kind of like Ukraine chat, right? So, we're going to bring that to
right? So, we're going to bring that to the communities um the nation if we can.
the communities um the nation if we can. It's going to be 11 of us having um
It's going to be 11 of us having um discussions on just life itself,
discussions on just life itself, relationship, kids, politics, um the
relationship, kids, politics, um the system, anything that you can possibly
system, anything that you can possibly think of. It would not be a cap on that.
think of. It would not be a cap on that. We're going to have our individual,
We're going to have our individual, we're going to have a discussion as a
we're going to have a discussion as a panel and we're going to debate. We got
panel and we're going to debate. We got different people so we got different
different people so we got different views. So, we're going to bring that
views. So, we're going to bring that live to you and when you come to our
live to you and when you come to our events, if we're talking about uh mental
events, if we're talking about uh mental health or depression or anything like
health or depression or anything like that, we're going to give you the tools
that, we're going to give you the tools and everything you need, but you're not
and everything you need, but you're not going to leave empty-handed. We're going
going to leave empty-handed. We're going to have resources that you can go
to have resources that you can go through to follow through on whatever it
through to follow through on whatever it is that you're dealing with. So, not
is that you're dealing with. So, not only if you coming to get fed, you're
only if you coming to get fed, you're going to have somewhere to go to if you
going to have somewhere to go to if you need help. So yes, it going to be a lot
need help. So yes, it going to be a lot of debates cuz everybody don't agree
of debates cuz everybody don't agree with each other.
with each other. >> That's your opinion and we going to
>> That's your opinion and we going to always keep professionals cuz we the
always keep professionals cuz we the panel.
panel. >> That's right.
>> That's right. >> So I want y'all to stay tuned in. We're
>> So I want y'all to stay tuned in. We're going to be doing a lot of skits, man.
going to be doing a lot of skits, man. Like a hot dog and catch up with it.
Like a hot dog and catch up with it. It's up.
It's up. >> Oh, and go follow the the panel podcast
>> Oh, and go follow the the panel podcast group on Facebook. All all platforms.
group on Facebook. All all platforms. >> I'mma post later on.
>> I'mma post later on. >> What?
>> What? >> I'mma post it later on, but go ahead. Go
>> I'mma post it later on, but go ahead. Go ahead. Get it off. Oh, go ahead and
ahead. Get it off. Oh, go ahead and follow the panel podcast group on all
follow the panel podcast group on all platforms. And if you're interested in
platforms. And if you're interested in being in our uh live um discussion,
being in our uh live um discussion, please do inbox us. Until next time.
please do inbox us. Until next time. >> That way.
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