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The Science Of Getting Girls
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so you don't get girls fear not I'm here
to help using the power of Science and
psychology I'm going to make you the
reincarnated male version of Regina
freaking George let's begin lesson one
the scarcity principle psychologist Dr
Robert chalini has famously proposed in
his book opportunities seem more
valuable to us when their availability
is limited we see this quite often in
marketing it explains why billionaires
would rather have a lame slow car that's
a oneof one than an insanely fast cool
car that's in production and it's also
why everyone tells you nice guys finish
last and why most of the time it's true
it's not because girls don't like nice
guys it's because the nice guys make
themselves readily available and jerks
don't really care subsequently they're
availability is limited and they are
seen as a more valuable opportunity but
what they don't tell you is you don't
have to be a jerk to be scarce in fact a
nice guide displaying himself in a way
that makes him scarce is so rare that by
using Dr Chen's logic of scarcity it
should be 10 times more attractive than
your average jerk so how specifically do
you do this well say you see a girl you
like at a party surrounded by dudes
trying to RIS her up you may think you
don't don't stand a chance but actually
you have the best chance walk over to
her and her swarm of simps walk past and
while you pass look at her and say hi in
a friendly way keep walking go talk to a
friend bonus points if that friend is a
girl you saying hi and doing nothing
else is essentially hanging a limited
edition sign on your neck you aren't
readily available like the boys in her
Gremlin gang you're something that needs
to be pursued or lost forever lesson two
the gain loss Theory building on the
scarcity principle the gain loss theory
of Attraction explains more in detail
why nice guys might seemingly finish
last a clever study tested this Theory
by having volunteer college students
engage in a series of one-on-one
meetings after the meeting the volunteer
would accidentally over here the
experimenter describe them in one of
four ways all positive all negative
initially negative but becoming positive
or initially positive but becoming
negative when asked later how much they
liked the experimenter volunteers would
expectedly like the experimenter when
the evaluation was completely positive
but surprisingly they liked the
experimenter even more when the
evaluation was initially negative but
became positive the findings support the
idea that winning people over who had an
initial bad impression is way more
rewarding to us than someone who liked
us all along but you need to be careful
if you're trying to use this on a girl
because trying to demonstrate that
someone has left a bad impression can
kind of be hard without being a jerk a
good way to do this subtly is through
tone and Body Language also you need to
ensure that once you have decided
they've won you over you convey that
clearly if it's not clear to the girl
you've been won over and they just think
you don't like them they won't want to
be around you which is is kind of a huge
problem and leads us to the next bit
lesson three proximity in lesson one I
told you you need to be scarce but it's
important to understand that you need to
be scarce in terms of attention not
proximity in a study on friendship
formation researchers asked nearly 300
MIT dormatory residents to list their
closest friends the researchers then
looked at where the listed friends lived
in the dorms when someone lived one dorm
away there was a 41% likelihood they
were listed as a close friend as the
numbers of doors increased the
likelihood decreased so those living
four doors way only had a 10% likelihood
of being listed as a close friend you
need to be physically near the girl you
like but good proximity isn't just
Mutual geographical location it's also
frequency for example you have a better
chance with a girl you see 10 minutes
every day than you do with a girl that
you see for 1 hour every week if you
don't have good proximity you stand no
chance so in such a case you need to
create good proximity artificially but
you need to be subtle about this change
your route to class to Pastor join a
club she's in do what you need to do but
please please don't be creepy there's a
fine line in trying to create proximity
and stalking do not cross that line say
you do have good proximity and you've
made yourself seem one over how do you
retain her positive feelings towards you
Lesson Four the Ben Franklin effect Ben
Franklin's secret to being so loved by
everyone he knew was that he asked
everyone for tons of favors you may
think asking favors of people will make
them dislike you because you're
burdening them with something but quite
the opposite is true a study in 1971 at
the University of North Carolina had
volunteers give out tests to actors
pretending to be other students of
course the volunteers thought they were
administering the study to other
volunteers but actually they were the
subject the volunteers were told the
students would watch as they used sticks
to tap out long patterns on wooden cubes
the students would then be asked to
repeat the pattern each volunteer was
told to try two different methods on two
different groups in one group The
Volunteers were told to give
encouragement when the students got the
patterns right in another separate group
The Volunteers were told to insult and
criticize the students when they made
mistake afterwards the volunteers filled
out a debriefing questionnaire which
included questions about how attractive
and likable their students were across
the board the students who received the
insults were rated as less attractive
than the ones who received encouragement
concluding that when you do something
kind to someone else you like them more
so you need to give the girl you like
opportunity to be kind to you a great
way to do this is to ask for little
favors ask for the time drop your pencil
in her Direction and let her get it for
you ask if she'll help you with
something you're working on stupid
little stuff like this actually works
and makes you more attract active as a
human but nothing I've said so far in
this video matters at all if you
disregard this next possibly most
important truth lesson five the Discord
mod effect in 1997 a study done by
morian and Blum came to an interesting
conclusion the two researchers surveyed
117 male and female college kids with 76
different photos of the opposite sex
they were asked to rank each photo on
their attractiveness and emotional
response the study concluded that the
most attractive features were not
genetic traits but instead came down to
good posture noticeable grooming nice
fitting clothing a seemingly positive
attitude and a healthy weight let me
repeat that the most attractive features
are not genetic if you put a little
effort in exercise regularly keep your
chin up shoulders back shower daily wear
good clothes and put a smile on your
face Maybe girls won't be repelled by
you when you walk in a room you can do
everything else right but if you look
like a Discord mod it doesn't matter she
won't want you and that brings us to the
finale lesson six
luck believe it or not it will almost
always come down to genetic
compatibility so let's step away from
psychology and talk neurobiology two
things play a part in ultimately
determining long-term attraction and
both have veto power over pretty much
everything the first component is your
nose your nose detects something called
pheromones these carry physical and
genetic information and also activate a
physiological or behavioral response if
pheromones are compatible but even if
they are a woman's nose functions a bit
differently because while they do take
in pheromones they noses are also
attuned to MHC molecules which are used
to fight disease interestingly in this
particular situation opposit to attract
there's a study that had a group of
women smell t-shirts that had been worn
by different men the study showed that
women almost always prefer the odors of
those whose MHC molecules differ from
theirs which makes sense because genetic
variation especially when it comes to
immunities is a huge survival Advantage
for an offspring unfortunately boys we
don't have that MHC sense which means to
us we we might match up across the board
but if your MHC molecules don't differ
from hers it might be hard for her to be
romantically attracted to you the second
and possibly most important component to
attraction the first kiss the first kiss
is a huge complex exchange of tactile
and chemical cues happening through the
smell of your breath and the taste of
your mouth this moment is so critical
that the majority of women have reported
losing their attraction to someone after
a bad first kiss but if things do go
well the nervous system pumps out
norepinephrine activ the fight or flight
system the heart beats fast the pupils
dilate and energy increases in this case
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