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How Men Think When You Stop Caring
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If you knew exactly what they think when you stop caring, you would be focusing most of your energy on learning how to control your emotions. Rather than trying to seduce them, you would focus on creating a system in your life that allows you to manage intense emotions. Because the truth is is that your serenity, your detachment, your happiness is what does the dirty work for you. Your tranquility, your non-reactivity, your non botheredness is what does the dirty work is what does the game. A lot of people say, you know, how what how do I how do I get them to like me? What's that move? Truth is, it's not about what you do. It's literally about what you don't do. And it's really about lowering your reactions, not getting so easily triggered. This is why in our lives, most of the people that have liked us, we didn't like them back, right? And we asked ourselves, what the [ __ ] did we do to get them to like us? Well, because you have a certain way that you behave when you don't care about people that it's really charismatic and you're just not you're just not aware of it, right? And well, you don't and also you don't you may not notice how creepy and needy you act when you like someone. And you might think it's like some magical thing because it is one of the weirdest things in in in human nature that those who don't want us want us. And though when we don't when we when we don't like them, they like us. And as soon as we start liking them, they don't. like it feels like God is legit like playing with us. But this is something that's actually very normal and very something that you could explain and something that you can replicate. But the key is to understand that it's not about doing more to do this like that. That that's really the difference when when when you like someone, you think you got to do so much more to impress them. People's self-esteem is much lower than you think. And they look and they'll fall in love with you for the littlest of things. And because their their their self-esteem is so low, when you do a lot, it'll turn them off because they don't think they're worthy of all of that. It's the weirdest thing. That's why this is so important. But this video, we're going to talk about the neuroscience psychologically in the brain, what they think when you stop caring, right? Because like I said, if you if you could look inside of their brain, I mean, I'm not kidding. You would literally have all the confidence in the world because you'll say they're more they're very similar to me. I thought I was the only needy and creepy one. I thought I was the only one that felt completely nervous and anxious all the time. Well, guess what? They also feel that anxiety. The problem is that a lot of people put up a mask, a veneer of confidence that cracks under pressure. And just a little bit of pressure will make that veneer crack. The problem is that when we really like someone, we go out of our ways to make them feel good. We go out of our ways to not get them to feel um um um insecurity. And so you never see that veneer crack because because you're so needy and creepy. You never let them feel insecurity. You never let them sense your absence. You never let them see your dark side. You never you never allow you never allow natural conflicts to arise in the relationship. Not Bronx mode, but natural conflict. Right? These are all things that allows you to see the cracks through those veneers. And I always want you to understand we are more similar to the to each other than different. Okay? So, so e even even if you think that this person is highly confident, I could promise you most likely that they're not and there's cracks and I'm going to show you exactly what to think when you stop caring, right? Because we've seen this before, right? Um or you're dating someone and and everything's good and and and they have power over you. As soon as you break up with them, you'll notice that they they may even start begging or even that job that you think that they don't need you, as soon as you quit, they start calling you back and say, "Hey, I will give you more money." A lot of us have seen the power and leverage and leaving and walking away that and and that when when you first see it, it's kind of shocking, right? It it really is kind of shocking when you first see it, right? Um so it's almost like, yeah, let me not even go into that, right? Anyways, if you guys want to work with me oneonone, go to mindfulattraction.org. Um and there you'll be able to book a one-on-one phone call with me. If you if you care too much and you want to learn how to let go, well, join our Patreon there. We have a a meditation club where we meditate on a weekly basis on Zoom. Um in in that meditation club, I have a bunch of different um videos that I that I upload only on Patreon. And if you if you don't want to um join Patreon, then become a member and we upload some of those some of those videos here by just becoming a $5 member, right? You can click on the description down below where it says join the Patreon or become a member and you can get exclusive content. Do that now or else I'm closing the channel. So the first thing is this, okay? is that when you let go of them, when you manage to let go, what you're actually doing is that you're traumatizing them. It tra it's it's a letting go is traumatizing to humans, right? If you think about it, the most painful memories came from letting go, right? I remember when I was a kid, I I've never said this, but the most painful memory I have was my mom leaving me when I was a kid. I was in Dominican Republic and she had to go to New York City to work. I was I was with my grandma and my sister and I remember when she left I remember running running running at the car and I had a flower in my hand and then when I saw the car just get far away I remember running into my closet and just crying there. I had a little white flower, right? Um when when when people let you go, when you feel like you're losing someone as as a human, every human is is traumatized by that. All right. And and the beauty about it, not to me when I was a kid, right? But the beauty about it is that is that it engages their fight or flight part of their brain. What I mean by that is this. Let's put this right here so that it doesn't cuz it seems like it's making me darker. Little racist camera. Um it it engages the amydala which is perfect. Right. When you let go, what happens when you when the amydala gets engaged is that it actually hijacks your frontal cortex, right? It literally hijacks your frontal cortex. It it almost blocks [ __ ] it blocks your capacity to use your frontal cortex with rationality. And this is where people make all of the mistakes, right? This is where people get start acting super needy. This is where people that very same person who you thought was confident all of a sudden doesn't feel confident. All of a sudden that person that feels completely stable, you see stab instability. The problem is that we just don't know how to read people right. That's the issue. Like we as what the [ __ ] was that? We as humans, we as humans, we're not good at interpreting weakness because usually we just get stuck in the surface level of things. If you learn how to peel back and and and read people, you might notice that that person who you thought was confident was always drinking. That person who you thought was confident was always shaking their leg. That person who you thought was confident and their place is super neat and things need to be in a certain place. All of those things leak out in security, right? It leaks out disorder on the inside, but we don't notice it because we rather look at the external behavior that doesn't take a lot of effort. But the truth is is like for example if I'm dating a girl and she and we had a great date but then I never hear from her again right you I might say oh she doesn't like me but also I might say that maybe she's the type of person that lacks intimacy right which usually means a lack of disconnection with yourself which also means a lack of connection with the family which also means that maybe they just they didn't have emotional support as growing up and these things stay right but if you're in an insecure state you're always going to blame yourself and say oh they're confident and I'm not when in reality No, a lot of the times the people who are avoidant, they lack confident. They they just lack it, right? So it engages the amydala which propels them to make mistakes. The the frontal cortex goes out the window, right? Because why is that? Well, because in their minds the impossible happened, right? The impossible happened. What do I mean by that? Meaning when you are super needy and creepy, people assume you're never going to leave them, right? They assume that you're never gonna leave them. That that that's just how the brain works. The reason why the brain does that is because of fear of death, right? We're unconsciously afraid of death. And if we then um one of the ego strategy to deal with the pain of with the fear of death is to assume that everything will stay the same forever. We don't predict we don't predict change, right? We we we hold on to change. That's why addicts are big fans of stability because what they want to keep the most is the high. But then they're confronted with reality and that every high arises and passes away. And so the deni and so and so they'll use more drugs in the denial of that reality. This unexpected unexpectedness, the fact that they think that you're always going to be that you're never going to let go, that you're never going to move on. When you finally do it, it's like a punch you didn't see coming, right? It's a punch you didn't see coming. And that and usually the punches that knock you the [ __ ] out are the things that you don't see coming. And this is why accepting death, accepting the reality that things are going to end causes you that if they do walk away, if you if they do let go, it insulates you from doing needy, creepy stuff. It does. All right. But if you're the type of person that cares too much and you want to learn how to let go, well, I have a little commercial for you at this in in this in this part of the video. Let's watch it. Are you needy and creepy? Do you have a tough time coming across confident when you like the person? A lot of the times you just don't know what to do. You have habits and and and and and patterns that whenever somebody triggers you, you completely forget what to do the right to do the right thing. Well, guess what? I have a course for that and it's called the psychological game of attraction, natural chemistry, and the feminine woman. What I call the fundamentals. All of those courses are meant to eradicate and exercise the needy, creepy parts in you through action. Meaning, you do what the videos say and without a shadow of a doubt, you actually get the results. You'll be able to you'll notice that people that men call you back more. Men will want more relationships with you. They're going to be the ones that are needy and creepy. They're going to be the ones that want something. They're going to be the ones that are the aggressors in trying to get a relationship out of you. But the problem is that a lot of people just watch one or two videos and completely forget that there's actually a system. Don't just watch one of one or two videos. get the system either by purchasing all of them and get a discount or purchase them individually because a lot of times just watching one video in isolation you actually miss the big picture. You have to understand why it works. You have to understand what to do next. And a lot of times my videos just can't address that. A lot of people, you'll see by the testimonies right here, a lot of people have done what those videos say and they've gotten results. Like the other day I was in Mexico and they were like, "Hey." And I'm like, "Hey, oh my god, you watch your videos are so great." And I'm like, and she was like, "Look at my kid." I'm like, "What you talking about your kid? That's not my kid." She's like, "No, no, no. Because of him, because of your videos, he's here." And I'm like, "Okay, all right. That's a But I get that a lot." And ironically, there's that woman watches all of my videos, right? So, purchase that those courses, man. And if you don't like it, you actually could get a a 30-day money back guarantee, right? Purchase them individually or get a discount and purchase them all by clicking on the description down below. You have the option of purchasing the one with the bonuses that comes that obviously it's more material where it's like I give you guys meditations. There's also other courses on how to make friends, how to master anything or you could purchase it without the bundle which is much more affordable. All right. And with that, you guys are able to support my channel, which will allow me to make more videos. Okay, anyways, see you guys inside and thank you. You see, so another aspect of caring, a lot of the times, one of the ways that manipulators get us to care too much is that they get us to want to change them. So they'll present their flaws as a victim and you naturally times will try to change them. All right. Um, a lot of the times that's really manipulation. People use their flaws as a way to get you to care. Usually narcissists with empaths, right? I'm like that, right? I'll get attached if you have problems. I'll get attached if if there's something wrong. I want to help. That's why I'm pretty good at I'm pretty good at what I do with with YouTube because people who watch need help and I like helping you guys, right? But this desire to change people for the better with our will, with our goodness, with what we know is something that validates the ego. And manipulators can sense that when you stop caring, when you say, you know what, I'm not trying to change you. You do crack. I'm trying to help. I'm not going to try to change you. What they'll notice is that they lose that validation that comes from you carrying, right? And what they'll do then is that they'll try to act even more chaotic. though they'll act like a lot that you know that's that's your sign right there that this person is toxic man. Um that's why you can't try to change you can't change people. Don't try to change people. The next thing is that the chronic stress caused by the misinterpretation of memory. The stress of you letting go. You got to understand people can sense that like it's pretty if if you if you ever dated someone that if you ever dated someone and you stop caring like people who we date they could tell when we're we're like emotionally distant they can kind of tell or they like something off with you um Tinquisha it look a little off you know like people can kind of tell and and and that and and that realization that there's something off creates stress Yes. Right. Especially if you if they feel like you're pulling away. The beauty about that is that it affects their memory. Meaning, if you were needy and creepy and you stopped caring, their memories will misinterpret your needy creepy energy with you were with you being confident or I or or with a desire to to to to hug and and nurture that needy creepy side of yours, right? Um, and so it it'll it'll and also the way they see you in their minds when you're not there, it literally creates like a mental what I like to call a mental photoshop where your smile looks prettier, your teeth are more straightened, right? Everything about you gets photoshopped in their minds because of the stress, right? So their working memories will get [ __ ] and their decision- making will get [ __ ] And that's when you will see that animal side, that creepy animal side where they can't control themselves. It might even cause you to lose respect for them. And this is my favorite part is that the brain goes to a goes into a nostalgia nostalgia mode. What do I mean by nostalgia mode? Meaning it's the misinterpretation of the memories but also enhancement. And it might it and not just that it it lingers on for months. It depends on their trauma but it lingers for a long time. Um usually people like this people who this works on the most are people who are very romantic who are very unhappy um with their current lives because then they'll the only way they relieve stress is to think about how better think about another moment in time where their life was better. And if you were in there, their their brain will literally misinterpret those events and it'll create a filter. What's a nostalgia filter? Well, literally like just like the the the [ __ ] I remember I made a video about that the nostalgia filter. But that it happens over time, right? um if they if they struggle processing emotion, it's like an automatic thing like the the when you're unhappy with the present moment, the brain just brings up memories and misinterprets them to to to make you feel happier. It's it's truly a beautiful thing because it uses that as temporary coping mechanisms when situations are bad. That's why in the in the book um a man's search for meaning the brain even if the situation is hopeless the brain little ant the brain will literally get create hope out of hopeless situations it'll literally create hope and and that's but the brain also does that with the past that it amplifies past experiences if you're not happy with the present moment if you're happy with the if you're not happy with the present moment it'll exaggerate possible possibilities in the future Right? And that's usually what happens a lot when you're falling in love with someone. They're acting disinterested, but because you feel so insecure, you're very hopeful that things will work out despite frontal cortex, despite the evidence that says otherwise, right? People do that out of desperation. They'll do that as their last result, as their Hail Mary. So, in the face of the nostalgia, they'll start to make mistakes. They'll start to act needy and creepy. And usually, I prefer that you do this. I would prefer that you communicate that you don't care, that you that you stop caring through your non-verbal cues. You know, it's even more [ __ ] up when you say you do care and then you're and then you nonverbally show you don't. Oh my lord. Cuz people like consistency. And then they'll they'll they'll do things to get some consistent some they'll do things to get validation out of you, right? They're like, "Oh, they're act they say they like me, but they're they're not showing it. What? Let me do something to elicit that response." And you might say, "Damn, this person is acting really interested and I'm acting cold." Well, it's because they're misinterpreting things. They're not in reality. They their brains have been I hijacked. They're in a state of stress. Their me their working memory, they can't they can't trust their working memory, right? um and their decision- making is [ __ ] And when they think of you, they don't even think about you. They think about the the the the mindmade version that emanated that that was created from a place of insecurity. Truly, it is a powerful thing, man. Um usually this is something that you want to do um through you developing a meditation practice. By you developing a meditation practice, naturally you're just going to come across as more peaceful. Um, and when you do that, people don't sense coldness from you, but they sense that you're able to let go of them if things don't work out. That pisses off the ego to know that you're going to be happy after we're done. That you're going to talk to your [ __ ] therapist and and do things to make you happy out without me being there. Cuz a lot of times the love they feel for you a lot of times is ego. Like, I don't want you to be happy without me. That's not real love. That's just a person who thinks that they love you when in reality they just want to control you. All right, I should make a video about that. If you guys want to want me to make a video about that they don't really love you, they just want to control you. You just let me know in the comment section down below and I'll do that. Take care, guys.
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