The core theme is that women's attraction is primarily driven by a man's perceived social value (SMV), popularity, and social status, rather than his individual personality or overt displays of affection. True indifference, misunderstood by most men, is key to increasing a woman's desire.
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all right in today's video I'm showing
you why women don't want you they only
want your attention and they want you to
notice them I'm also going to explain
this to you I'm going to explain to you
in today's video why calling it
attention if you say the words women
want your attention yes this is true to
some degree but if you tell yourself
this this might actually hinder your
dating results because attention is
probably a weaker word to use and what
I'm about to show you because with these
Concepts it's really about understanding
them at a deep level because you have to
understand something before you're able
to apply it so with that said I'm very
excited to show you all of this today
now on top of that we just crossed over
1,700 members inside of our community
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life-changing when a guy starts to apply
these processes inside of his own dating
life let's dive in so the first thing
you have to realize is women do not
actually feel anything for you as an
individual you see this is what guys
think is guys think that when they are
texting her and they are talking about
you know his life to her and you are
getting to know her guys actually think
that that means something and that women
care they do not care women don't
actually feel anything for you as an
individual Okay so so what that means is
often times all of the decisions that
they make when it comes to their mating
or their dating choices it comes down to
these two things it comes down to your
smv which is your dating value and how
many other women want you and then it's
going to come down to your popularity
and your Social Status that's what she's
looking at to her that is attraction
okay you can try to get to know her all
you want you can try to reveal as much
information to yourself as you want all
you're doing is giving more certainty
and actually decreasing her desire for
you so here's what you have to remember
when they are selecting who they want to
date they either want your genes okay
and who you are okay which dictates her
romantic interest for you or they
believe that you can Aid in their future
survival and that's it you can help them
satisfy hypergamy either through who you
are okay and your genes because that's
what mating is essentially right or they
believe that you can Aid in their future
survival to help them satisfy hypergamy
and optimize their own future survival
which means if you're bringing resources
and popularity and social proof to the
table her aligning herself with you she
knows that that right there gives her a
very good chance of future success in
her world so you have to remember this
it purely comes down to what they want
they don't care about what you want they
don't even care about you as an
individual okay so their heart
hardwiring is still extremely Primal
despite everything that you know people
do to try to get to know each other and
stuff like that it still comes down to
the main things okay so that means it
has nothing to do with getting to know
you on a personality level what you have
to remember is they truly only respect
indifference now the problem with men is
they look at the word indifference from
a logical standpoint so they say the
word indifference and then what they
assume that that means is not talking
very much or not talking to her at all
I'm going to show you in today's video
why this is completely wrong and why how
you even categorize the terms of these
words and what these words mean in a
reflection to your own dating life truly
will dictate if you get success in
dating or not because your idea of
indifference is probably far different
than hers and I'm going to show you what
that means in just a little bit so what
that means is let's give you an example
okay they only respect indifference so
you or you giving commitment okay you
committing in a relationship it may be
appreciated for her companionship but
this is typically always met with her
decrease in romantic desire she will
appreciate having a companion but
naturally okay when it comes to her own
attraction and how she views you on a
romantic level it is typically meant
with a decrease in her romantic desire
and her romantic interest for you so
let's move on to this column okay
multiple times in my life where let's
say I asked a woman out on a date or
something like that okay this has
happened multiple times through the past
10 years I'm giving you numerous
circumstances here and it all comes down
to something like this there has been
multiple times in my life where let's
say I asked a woman out on a date and I
will get no reply this has happened to
me I know that this has happened to you
this has happened to every single man
don't ever tell yourself that this
doesn't happen to everybody because this
happens to everybody this will happen to
guys who are very tall this will happen
to guys who are rich this will happen to
guys who are good-look
okay it's not just you every single guy
deals with this kind of stuff okay
including me which is why I'm able to
make these videos and show you and help
you okay every man on planet Earth most
likely has had to deal with some kind of
rejection okay nowadays I've even seen
stuff on social media where let's say a
professional basketball player or
football player will comment something
on a different woman's profile saying
you know check your direct messages or
something like that and she just won't
reply or she'll screenshot it or
something like that and everybody knows
that she basically rejected him so this
happens to everybody numerous times in
my life where let's say I've asked a
woman out here's what happens okay let's
say I get no reply give it a week or two
later let's say she'll see me out at a
restaurant with a different woman and
then instantly within that hour I get a
text message or a call I am literally
sitting at a restaurant with a different
woman this was probably 6 months ago
this is a a story this has actually
happened in my dating life I'm sitting
there on a date and a different woman
who I was talking to probably a couple
weeks prior who didn't want to see me
called me four times in a row because
she was at that same restaurant and
watched me on that date and she saw that
other woman now as competition they
truly only want what they can't have and
seeing a different woman have you makes
them angry because now this shows that
you're smv and your social status and
popularity is higher than she thought it
was that's what it comes down to okay so
instantly I got a call and a text so I
will give you another example let's say
um I didn't get a reply but now all of a
sudden like let's say somebody took a
picture with me on social media and it's
on somebody's story okay and we're all
having fun and having a great time and
she sees that other people are
responding well when I'm around now all
of a sudden I'll get a text message
that's like oh hey stranger you know
I've been so busy I've been so busy I'd
love to see you something like that when
are you free it's just instantaneously
it's like oh well now I'm going to give
this guy time and make myself available
this is why I'm telling you like the way
she views you it's flexible it's not
fixed I was the same guy with the same
amount of Personality as I had I looked
the same I had the same clothes on you
know or something like that the only
difference is how she viewed me her
perception of you this is why with a
woman you have to stimulate her mind
okay they're not just only looking at
you from the
physical it's everything that goes into
how they think and how they feel about
you it's up here it's it's of the mind
okay I'm trying my best to explain this
but just stick with me they feel no love
for you as an individual as soon as you
act incorrectly they feel nothing for
you and once it's over for them it is
completely over forever once you do
something that lowers their desire to
the point where they feel like you are
no longer a fit to satisfy their
hypergamy it does not matter if you've
been with them for one week one month
one year or 10 years it's over and she
will probably never come back to you
ever until she sees that potentially
maybe you were able to attract other
women at or above her current level of
attractiveness and now she maybe will
see that she made a mistake but for most
men that is never going to happen and
most men are not willing to put in the
work either to figure out how to
actually uplevel their own social
popularity and grow as an individual so
they typically feel no love for you as
an individual their perception of your
smv is constantly flexible it's never
fixed so this is why I'm telling you
slowly you're going to see
why they only really want you to notice
them this is going to tie back to the
title in just a little bit so here's
what men should really start doing men
need to start to withhold their care and
their love love and their affection and
their desire to even see her okay until
she has really shown that she wants you
and has very high desire and here's
why I'm going to help you look at this
at a different level there's two words
that are used a lot when it comes to
teaching when it comes to attraction
that I really don't like the first word
that I don't like is status the second
word that I don't like is attention the
reason why I don't like the word status
is because to me if you say uh women are
drawn to Men of stat St to me this is
way too materialistic I think most guys
think of the amount of social media
followers that a guy has and I also
think that people look at status as like
designer clothes and stuff and that
typically is not what is actually going
on when it comes to if she is attracted
to you or not okay so the word that I
like to use instead of status I like to
use the word popularity because when
people say the word popular or
popularity they typically think about
like high school or college and now it
makes sense right she needs to see the
proof when you're in high school or
college people didn't typically say the
word status people said oh you know that
guy is the athlete he's popular okay
that's a better word because it helps
you grasp and understand that you need
social proof beyond your bank balance
and your designer watch and the amount
of followers you have okay the second
word that I don't like is the word
attention because I think it's too vague
I think that it doesn't actually
describe what it is that is needed to
understand how she sees you okay and
most guys when they think about the word
attention they typically just think
about how many dates they're taking her
on or they think about how much they're
text messaging her okay instead of the
word attention I like to use the phrase
she just wants you to notice her if you
shift it to this now it makes sense
because you withholding your ability to
even notice her beauty is what's going
to Skyrocket her interest level towards
you so you not even noticing her and
being indifferent to her beauty makes
her feel like you're confident so guys
who appear Charming or guys who appear
confident it really is just guys who are
not revealing their interest level
because what most men try to do to
appear confident most guys assume that
this means that you should overtly
validate and compliment her and show
that you have enough courage to
basically State your romantic interest
to her and all this does is ruin the
mystery that she has
and all this does is lower your dating
value or your smv so do not do that you
have to understand that when you're
using these words like the word
confidence for example that can mean a
lot of different things to a lot of
different people so it's like once you
identify a word okay you have to
basically now identify what is the terms
and definition of that word that we are
going to actually use about that word so
that means we're actually using it in
the right sense okay because Charming to
a woman is probably a guy who is
withholding care and attention and being
a bit indifferent and mysterious so she
can't read his interest level to a woman
that's going to be Charming now if you
just take a normal dude at the shopping
mall or whatever and you ask him for his
definition of charming he might tell you
it's a guy who is very uh comfortable
and talkative and talks a lot and all
that stuff see two different definitions
meaning two different things so when
you're talking about attraction the
reason why I think if you're
trying to learn is you have to be taught
words not only that matter but the
definition and the terms around those
words so that way you know how to
actually apply it because I think that
that's what's missing in people's dating
lives right now is Clarity there's a lot
of confusion there's a lot of words
there's a lot of terms being thrown
around there's not a lot of clarity and
that's what I try to do with this
channel is give you some clarity so you
not even noticing her and being
indifferent to her beauty makes her feel
like you're confident so since women's
smv perception of you okay so their
perception of your dating value since
it's flexible not fixed okay that means
men need to realize that majority of
women find them unattractive simply
because they do not act correctly and
are not a challenge by you acting
correctly since now you're stimulating
her mind this is going to cause her to
feel attraction because with women it is
far far beyond just the physical of what
they see when it comes to how they view
you keep that in mind so obviously I
will keep her name private but she says
hi Casey I came across your YouTube
channel and I think you are one of the
best out there in terms of explaining
attraction Dynamics As I understood it
correctly the perfect behavior for men
is showing indifference and looking back
at the men that showed the most
indifference towards me were the ones I
felt most attracted to this was an
actual Direct message that I got okay so
what does that mean okay that means
women will admit that the only men that
they actually desire crave and lust
after is the men who show indifference to
to
them this was an actual message I got
this morning so your indifference is a
direct representation of your smv and
potentially gives her an idea of the
women that you're used to dating now
stick with me here all she really wants
is for you to notice her that's that's
what she wants she wants you to notice
her by you noticing her though you are
now giving that validation where she now
has certainty so let me give you an
example her mind is polar opposite to
how you think okay her mind is polar
opposite to how you see attraction she
could be at a party and have five
different guys trying to talk to her
okay but because at that party at that
one moment because she has interest in
this one guy over here who doesn't even
see her
okay stick with me here she could have
five different guys at a party trying to
talk to her and the whole night since
she's looking at the one guy over there
who doesn't even see her that's the man
that she wants so I have real proof of
this type of stuff I have real proof of
this stuff even in my own dating life
over the years um so let me show you a
few real situations that I've actually
heard and I've been through um I was
dating a woman uh over the past probably
like six months right now and she said
word for word when we were at her house
she goes once a man crosses me it's
totally over and I go crosses you I go
what do you mean by that and keep in
mind from what she told me all of her
exes like her ex-boyfriends were all
good men so these were men who wanted a
future with her these were men who
wanted a relationship with her these
were men who wanted marriage with her
and she left all of them so I
said I go well them being nice to you is
crossing you you and she goes yes that's
what she said she goes yes so this is
why I'm telling you not only do you have
to understand the words okay but you
have to actually understand their
interpretation and definition of the
words and the terms around it of what they
they
mean because most guys if they
hear her say once a man crosses me it's
totally over most guys I think would
probably assume that that means once a
guy treats her poorly
but she meant this the complete
opposite I said to her I goes so them
being nice to you is them Crossing you
and she goes yes so notice there's
communication differences
between the whole conversation there was
another woman a couple years ago who I
was dating and I remember this word for
word this is what she said I like the
attention when you responded to my
direct message I liked the attention
this is what she said she didn't say I
liked you she said I liked the attention
isn't that funny they don't see
attraction the way you see it so this is
why I'm telling you women don't actually
feel anything for you as an individual
another example would be from today in
my direct messages the woman saying that
men who show indifference are the ones
that she was most attracted to about a
month ago me and my friends were at a
party and there was about four or five
women around us and they were about
between the ages of like 23 to about 25
and they said word for word they go I
don't know why we are most attracted to
the men who don't care about us this is
what they said okay so you hear all this
probably makes sense now that I've
described this here's where I'm going to
throw you a curveball by the end of this
content by the end of this video right
here there should be one thing going
through your mind and the one thing
going through your mind is this and this
is what myself and even other guys who I
know could not piece together for the
longest time and the reason being is
because we do not see the word
indifference the way a woman sees the
word indifference let me explain the one
thing that I could not piece together
for myself even for years I struggled
with this until I really understood this
okay I said to myself if women prefer
men who withhold their interest level
and don't give them a lot of attention
okay or let's say they don't notice them
wouldn't that equal that the guy is not
talking to them doesn't that mean he's
sitting there mysteriously or he's
sitting there all mysterious not trying
to give a lot of validation not trying
to even
communicate not true and here's why
majority of men will typically see this
if you have night life in your city
where you go look at the clubs you look
at the people out dating or whatever the
popular outgoing extroverted socialites
tend to attract women
quickly and this will give you a big
question mark in your mind because you
say well they are giving attention they're
they're
communicating why is it that he's able
to communicate with her give that
attention or let's say the word notice
them and she responds well to it let me
give you an example this causes
confusion because most guys go well he's
all over all over the place talking and
extroverted so he's clearly giving
attention to the woman why is he
succeeding this is what I wanted to know
for so many years and then I finally
started to really piece stuff together I
started looking at everything and then I
even paid attention to when I started to
attract women at social events in my own
dating life life here's what happened
and here's what I notice the answer is
because that guy is at the cause of
everybody else's conversation he is not
at the effect of hers so what you will
notice with these guys even if they talk
a lot even if they are extroverted
here's what you're going to notice that
guy the whole time he is in his own
world having fun with himself and for
himself okay and the vibe of the party
is all he's focused on he is not focused
on her he is not focused on even
attracting her he is defin Ely not
focused on dating her and he has not
focused on her beauty and if she decides
to date him or they go out together or
they end up going back home together or
whatever it's because she saw the social
proof of other people responding well to his
his
extrovertedness but guess what he
probably didn't even have to show any
overt interest so this is what I'm
getting at most would assume that the
indifference would be him not talking to
her and it's just not true
he is still talking to her he is still
extroverted he is still communicating
but he has not revealed his interest
level and he has not basically
shown that he needs to be with her or to
date her and because of that her
interest goes up the more you focus on
yourself the more you focus on your
day-to-day activities that allows you to
have fun for you the better people will
treat you socially the better women will
respond to you and the more dates and
dating success you will start to obtain
what I advise you to do is take this a
step further we now have over 1,700 guys
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look at own dating life differently and
you will start to see things from a
different lens so that way you for once
have a process that is predictable
repeatable and you know that it works
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