The core theme is that achieving true love, both for oneself and in relationships, requires shedding aspects of the self that are not love, such as past hurts, judgments, and survival-based emotions. This transformation leads to a state of wholeness and allows one to attract and experience deeper, more authentic love.
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in order for us to find love a part of
us Must Die o wait wait wait wait why do
we need to die to find love a part of us
because anything that's not love in US
Must Die oh and that's the difference
between knowing the path and walking the
path all the people that you've seen
have successful longterm relationships
what is the thing that you see them do
extremely well versus oh if you can't
forgive you'll never have love wow the
love that we withhold is the pain that
we experience lifetime after lifetime
it's how it is falling in love with
yourself is falling in love with life
and falling in love with life is falling
in love with yourself whatever it is
that's standing in the way between you
and love that's the journey anything
that's not love in US must die this is
something you say to everyone in your
Retreats what would love do I'm curious
how do you answer that for yourself [Music]
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um I think you got to have a dream the
school of greatness really yeah please
welcome Le how welcome back every more
of the School of greatness very excited
about our guest we have the inspiring
jod spenza in the house Dr jod spenza we
uh have had you on the show many times
and I think you're probably the most
requested person back that we've had and
the last time we did an interview about
love self-love loving others and
relationships it got over 10 million
views with a couple of different you
know in Spanish and English translations
and some reason people were just really
wanted to understand the
concepts not of how to find the right
partner or any of these different things
but really how to love themselves better
you know if you want to attract or
manifest a great relationship what I
understood from that previous interview
was you really got to learn how to love
yourself better and that is all about
doing the work to overcome the old you
that hold you back or that has made you
attract people that maybe hurt you or
upset you or let you down but also I I
feel like a lot of people haven't
learned how to fully love
themselves and so you're not a
relationship expert but for whatever
reason over 10 million people wanted to
watch your content on on love and
relationships and you know I'm not here
to ask you about your personal
relationships but you've worked with
trained and coached tens of thousands of
people that come to your events who go
on to have beautiful relationships first
with themselves which I think is the
most important thing but then eventually
you know they rekindle relationships
that are maybe struggling they really
become a different person and attract
from a a conscious healthy place and
have more love in their life and I think
a lot of people want to get out of pain
and they want to feel peace Harmony and
love and one of the highest frequencies
that I learned about from your event by
going to your Advanced Meditation Retreat
Retreat
was that the frequency of gratitude and
love allows you to bring just more
goodness in your life and that comes
with relationships and and attracting
others who bring you that loving
mirror so I know this is something that
you don't talk about that much but I
feel like you have a lot of wisdom
around brain and heart coherency which
allows you to attract a healthier love
for self a healthier love for the world
and a healthier love in relationships
and I'd love to explore more of this
based on what we talked about before so
thank you for
being thank you for being here and being
will to talk about this I know this is
uncomfortable um but people are so they
resonate with you as a human and your
wisdom and your experience you've been
doing this work for a long time and I'm
curious why do you think people struggle
first off with learning to love
themselves and be in a healthy
relationship with self why is that is it
because they're disappointed about their
past and they're stuck in the memory of
the past is it because they've been let
down in relationships by their parents
and then by their siblings or by
intimate Partners or is it just they
don't believe they're worthy of Love
yeah I think at our true core at our
true source is pure love that's what I
think it is and I think there's always
more love to experience I don't think
that is there's an end to that so um
people who hate themselves will hate
others and people who are angry with
themselves will be angry at others
people who are impatient with others
will be impatient uh with themselves
will be impatient with others people um
who are unhappy with themselves will
punish other people until they feel
unhappy uh it's just our nature as human
beings but when people are truly
grateful uh for themselves or for their
life they're they're they're grateful
for others so people who love themselves
naturally love others people who are
okay finally with themselves are are
okay with others you know it's just kind
of how it is so one of the things that
people have as a limitation uh to the
understanding of Love is that they're
feeling something other than it and in
order for us to find love a part of us
Must Die o or wait wa wait why why why
do we need to die to find love or part
of us because anything that's not love
in US Must Die oh and that's the
difference between between knowing the
path and walking the path right so um so
one of the things that we want to teach
people in the work that we
do is understand how to manage their
energy right and and how to manage their
attention um when you feel love uh which
is just a word by the way and people
have their own experience of what that
is you tend to feel more whole uh and
when you feel more whole you tend to
want less when you truly feel love uh um
it is very different than being selfish
you're kind of more selfless and when
you're in your heart you're more prone
to give you're more prone to care you're
more prone to be present uh you're more
prone to um be
grateful uh you're more prone to be kind
that's the consciousness of that Center
it is the the creative center it's the
union of opposites it's the Union POI is
where Oneness where Divinity starts
right there can't be enough enough set
about that Center
so if you just did an inventory of the
amount of time you feel love during the
day and the amount of time you feel
other emotions like resentment or
impatience or frustration or
judgment or jealousy any other one of those
those
emotions that is the opposite of love
fear is fear is not the opposite of love
it is the separation from love pain and
suffering they're not the opposite of
Love they're the separation from it that
anger and hatred and hostility and
violence they're not the opposite of
Love they're the separation from love
right so so then if you're living in
survival and living in survival is
living in stress and living in stress
produces a cocktail of chemicals and
hormones that make you feel something
other than love turns out majority of
time people are feeling something other
than love and they're feeling some of
those other emotions so you only get
good at what you practice right and
those emotions will drive certain human
behaviors that from primarily Universal
and will cause us to think in very
predictable ways right
so the separation from love because of
an event or a trauma or whatever it is
causes people to view their life through
a different lens than love right
okay so teach a person how to stop
feeling those emotions of survival right
because in survival it's not a time to
create no when it's in when you're in
survival it's not a time to communicate
it's not a time to learn it's not a time
to cooperate it's not a time to get
along it's time to run fight or hide and
when you're in survival you're very
selfish you're self-indulgent you're
self-important you're self AGR you're
full of self-pity it's all about the
self or self self- involved in so many
ways um and that means that once I'm
okay and I'm happy then uh everybody
else could be happy and so in survival
and we're feeling those emotions we're
doing everything we can to make that
feeling go away right so it turns out
that if you're in that state where
you're in survival and it's not a Time
the Creator not a time to love or not a
time to open your heart not a time to
learn um you're compromised in a lot of
ways so bring that into a relationship a
relationship with peers with with
co-workers with relatives with family
with a partner um then the fundamental
question is uh what would love do in a
relationship that's I think that's a
really important question now we have
different relationships with different
people and um because
we've had experiences with different
people because we've had experiences
with them we have neurological circuitry
that is a memory that that we can relate
to that person in fact I see you uh
based on the memory I have of you I'm
filling in my idea of Lewis based on my
memory of him I'm not really seeing you
I don't see things how they are I see
things how I am right so your brain only
can see equal to how it's m So based on
my experience I super like you you're a
great guy we get along we have a lot of
things in common and and so I see you
that way and the feeling that I have for
my interactions with you causes me to be
attracted to you like if you're a cool
guy we hang out we have great
conversations and so when I see you
there is a sense of love there's an
energy there's a connection there's
comaraderie there's some kind type of
Union right those are healthy
relationships and as long as we're we're
honoring one another that relationship
will continue and Foster
great outcomes you have a relationship
with someone like an ex or someone's
betrayed you um you have a different
memory of that person based on your
experience which triggers a different
feeling right which triggers a different
feeling that's based on experience and
so then it makes sense then that the
stronger the emotion you feel towards
that person the more you pay attention
to them and where you place your
attention is where you place your energy
so you're giving your power away to
change to that person or that
circumstance and it's entirely possible
that your reality is staying the same
because your energy is the same that you
in fact are contributing to that reality
staying exactly unchangeable right so
then you take a person and may've had a
moderately difficult past everybody's
got a story but when does the story end
you know right and now it's the new
later right I mean it's is now is the
new later yeah like if you want to
change that now okay so the person
understands fundamentally they haven't
changed since those that event they're
feeling the same emotion they felt from
20 years ago and somehow their their
personality is in the past
right okay so the person then has to
overcome that emotional state and so
they're sitting in the meditation and
that's part of their identity and
meditation is getting Beyond yourself
and as you're sitting there all of a
sudden you start getting frustrated and
angry and resentful towards your ex you
one of two choices just just go fully
down that rabbit hole for the next hour
and see how that feels at the end or ask
yourself is this loving to me Justified
or not the only person it's going to
affect is me okay is this loving to me
or for me yeah was not either one right
it's not either one okay so if I could
in my meditation really say okay this
isn't loving to me I know this isn't
right even though I want to make them
wrong I'm just going to work I'm going
to work on settling my body down from
that emotional
state if I'm successful at regulating
that emotion and no longer allowing the
body to feel that emotion I'm inhibiting
that thought and feeling that image and
emotion I'm breaking that conditioning
response if I if I'm successful at doing
that if I lower the volume to that
emotion I'm going to take my attention
off that person or problem which means
I'm going to be taking my power back
right right because I'm going to drop my
energy I'm going to build my own field
right I'm I'm no longer giving them my
power to change energetically I'm no
longer giving them my attention my
energy if I overcome the emotion I'll
take my attention off that person and
I'll begin to build my own
electromagnetic field now there's energy
to create now there's energy to heal now
there's energy for a whole new future
and and lo and behold when you lower the
volume to that emotion you take your
attention off that person that's forgiveness
forgiveness
wow cuz if you don't feel the emotion
any longer then you no longer have your
attention on that person and your life truly
truly
changes you'll never hold on to that
emotion again but why is it why are so
many people holding on to resentment of
what someone did in a relationship in
their past versus allowing them to find
forgiveness and peace about it maybe it
not agreeing that it was okay what they
did but why do people hold on to
resentment for so long or anger about a
past I I think it's because people are
afraid it's going to happen to them
again oh and um when we have a traumatic
event big or small in fact you're always
on the lookout for the the any signal in
the environment and any person or
circumstance that's going to be the
smallest que that's going to say oh I've
done this before I better get ready for
it so we're in a constant state of bad
news waiting for the worst case scenario
so let me just finish this okay was the
question really was about self- Lov
uhhuh the person who lives in resentment
is making themselves unhappy
a person who's judging everybody else
and because they're judging themselves
is making themselves unhappy a person
who's complaining blaming making excuses
feel sorry for themselves they're making
themselves unhappy there's nobody doing
that to them you say it's your ex okay
let's take your ex let's put him in a
straight jacket and's shoot him to the
moon now what you're you're still
thinking that way and feeling that way
and and that person is no longer in your
life you're defined by that uh that that
that story by that past event
okay the person's truly sincere and
thinks there's something other than that
emotion of resentment what's on the
other side of it am I willing to sit
through it long enough and and no matter
how much the pain is or what my body
does I'm going to sit this one out I'm
going to work with my body and keep
bringing it back into the present moment
it's like training an anal and keep
doing it over and over again you stay
you stay you stay I'm not getting up I'm
not eating I'm not moving we're going to
keep lowering the volume you keep
reconditioning body to a new mind sooner
or later it surrenders it surrenders to
a new mind when that occurs there's that
liberation of energy and energy moves
into the heart and you feel love for
yourself you feel a respect for yourself
you feel an honor for yourself something
you took your power back you know you
built your field something feels right
when we look
at the data of people who do this and we
see their scans their brain scans we see
their HRV measurements and they they get
good at this we measure their oxytocin
levels now oxytocin is the love chemical
right it's it's made in the ptary
gland um it it is the is love chemical
causes us to bond to connect to to
unify and and when I showed the values
of oxytocin levels with these people to
scientists are sometimes 200 times above
normal now that's not a little love
that's a lot of love it's an explosion
of love it's a lot of love and so
oxytocin signals Nitric oxide and nitric
oxide signals another chemical called
endothelial derived relaxing factor and
that chemical causes the arteries in
your heart and your lungs to literally
open up and blood flows into your heart
and your heart is filled with energy
just like when it engorges the the the
the sexual organs there's an engorgement
of blood in there and it activates it
with energy and there's a mind that's
created it's a Consciousness now this
one opens up it's a whole different
Consciousness in in fact the research on
oxytocin shows that the slightest
elevation in oxytocin it's impossible to
hold a grudge it's impossible you say
dude I feel so good I'm good like no no
no I'm good I'm really good
now that kind of state means I I I don't
want to feel anything else but this so I
am not going to compromise myself or my
energy to a lower denominator just
because of you in fact I'm really good
around you I'm really okay I feel so
good I don't want to judge you because I
don't want to lose this feeling so then
imagine being around a cat like that
being around a person like that that's
really easy to be around because they're
okay with themselves and when they're
okay with themselves they relate with
people differently in fact they relate
with them
unconditionally they just love them
unconditionally and that causes an
attraction it causes a bond right so one
of the things I learned last year and
watching people you know in this work
and week Wong events I do my best to pay
really close attention looked at at an
audience one day and I looked out in the
room just we just finished a walking
meditation everybody sat down and I kind
of glanced around the room and everybody
had this radiant smile and I said to them
them
hey who's making you happy by the way
who who's making you happy there's
nobody doing that to you you're doing
that to you you're making yourself I
mean you're not relying on your anybody
in your life to do that now that is an
attractive energy that's the person who
relates well with money there's a
relationship with money they relate well
with people um they're very giving
they're very caring they want nothing in
return they're more present because
that's who they're practicing being and
so there's a natural Affinity a natural
attraction because the person is really
present and they're really okay and
something is different about them m
something is unique about them so the
relationship we have with people when
we're in that state where we're really
okay with ourselves we've made ourselves
happy we're really happy with
ourselves allows us to love just about
we will find beauty through the lens of
love in anything when and no one else
sees it right getting there is the
overcoming process that is what creates
self Lov now to be very clear I think
many people and I think I'll include
myself we confuse
confuse
pleasure with love and it's not the same
thing what's the difference well
pleasure is doing something that makes
you feel good and but has nothing to do
with love love has everything to do with
something that you feel independent of
pleasure it's something it's it's the
when you overcome yourself and you
arrive at your goal you reach your dream
you never give up on yourself you had
hard moments you fell to your knees you
brushed yourself up you got up you
showed up again for
yourself it's amazing to watch this I
watch it a weeklong events I watched
people literally change in seven days
and they showed up when they said I'm
too tired I have a handicap I have a
disease I don't understand how rough my
pass is I'm in an addict I you know I
was in jail my mother was abusive you
know all they showed up in spite of I'm
too old I whatever that is they you keep
showing up for yourself you start
feeling really worthy really worthy to
receive and the universe only gives us
what we think we're worthy of receiving
right so so in when you're in love
you're in a whole lot less lack and if
you're in a whole lot less
lack in a sense you're moving closer to
source and that's a really good feeling
that's a really good feeling so practice that
that
every day practice that every day and your
your
relationships with people your
relationship with your body your
relationship with money your
relationship with your phone your
relationship with your car your
relationship with everything would be
different yes and so so the overcoming
process is the becoming
process you make yourself happy you no
longer need anybody to do that for you
um you have a person in your life who is
conscious that wants to make themselves
happy and share their joy and their love
with somebody yes uh well you have
something really unique it's it's really
special it's really it's and and love uh
is a bonding a very bonding chemical
it's a very bonding energy right like um
if you look at oxytocin levels in in
mammals uh you typically see it when the
female has just given birth and she's
grooming The Offspring and she's
touching it and licking it and and
nudging it and and taking care of it the
there oxytocin levels are released
through the lyic brain through the
midbrain it's the bonding brain they're
smelling they're connecting and they're
attracting one another it's creating a
connection honeymoon stage of
relationship where there's a lot of
intense connection a lot of intimacy
releases oxytocin creates monogamy it
creates a bond it creates Unity creates
connection right so show the values to
our some of the scientists and some of
my colleagues and I see oxytocin levels
200 times normal they're like dude what
are you doing like going up is it coup's
week what is going on here and now I say
you I say the same thing I say number
one I want people to fall in love with
their future just like they fall in love
with another person because then if they
do they're bonded to that future just
like they're bonded to another person
secondly if you truly truly want to
connect to Pure Love To Source to
Singularity to Oneness to wholeness to
the fertile void to to the vacuum energy
whatever you want to call that Universal
intelligence that's pure Consciousness
that's pure love if you hit you hit that
moment where you hit connection you will
feel that arousal of Love it'll be it'll
be profoundly memorable for you and it's
it's it's not chemical it's electric
it's very electric wow so you get a few
of those it becomes you and you become
it and so your love for the Divine your
love for the mystical your love for the
the Unseen your love for
source that the love affair begins and
it's like being in love it's no one can
tell you you're in love you just know it
and it gets really hard to miss a date
imagine you go and you go and connect
every day and you start your day from that
that
place that's a relationship that's a
relationship with the world that that
you're bringing so I think the
overcoming process is part of it I think
it's practicing getting to that place I
think it's practicing uh Opening Our
Hearts more moving out of survival
working with our bodies and survival
it's not a time to love it's just it's
not a time to communicate so you're in a
relationship that's built on emotions
other than love there's going to be a
limit to love right and so you got
betrayed someone else got betrayed you
get together talk about your betrayal
work yourself up into a froth feel the
emotions get emotional agreement get a
connection you're connecting in the same
energy the same emotion cuz sharing the
same information you're sharing the same
memories you can relate with one another
that's a certain level of Consciousness
at your events and your Retreats I was
at one a year ago I think there was 200
people there the one that I went to and
there was a lot of different people from
all walks of life from all over the
world um I would say majority of the
people were you know above 30 you know
from people I
met and a lot of people had been in
relationships some people had been in
divorced and some people had been in
intimacy for a long time with their
partner and they were there together
they were growing and transforming
together right Reinventing their
relationship and expanding into the
mystical together and all these
different beautiful things for all the
people that you've seen have successful long-term
long-term
relationships what is the thing that you
see them do extremely well versus oh
yeah they forgive each other they
forgive for they forgive the emotion and
the emotion is going to keep you in the
p asked right so they have to be able to
forgive what happens if we don't forgive
something that our partner or in a
relationship does if it hurts us or they
said something or they did something
maybe was really bad or just if you
can't forgive you'll never have love wow
the love that we withhold is the pain
that we experience lifetime after
lifetime you know it's how it is the
love say it again the love that we
withhold is the pain that we experience
lifetime after life man
and and then when we Master our emotions
we Master our Creations so that's a
creation and and you have to overcome
the memory uh and the emotion and when
you do you belong to the Future instead
of the past oh man so so otherwise well
that's a perfect explanation of karma
you live by that emotion that emotion is
going to drive a certain behavior and
cause you to think a certain way and
you're on the
wheel you're going to people are living
the same lifetime every day oh done
Cycles so they're living this same
lifetime after lifetime because they
haven't overcome the emotion no one's no
one's doing that to
them Soul can't go to the Future can't
go it can't go if it's stuck in the
emotion of the past so the soul has to
overcome the event by overcoming the
emotion forget what happened I you'll
never hear me say to anybody tell me
your story I will never say that I would
never do that to you wow I would say
overcome the emotion and then the story
ends wow because the memory without that
emotional charge is the wisdom we get
from the experience we never have to do
it again and now the soul says okay I'm
ready for the next adventure okay so I
was betrayed okay I learned the lesson I
did this I did that okay I got it but we
discovered that when people analyze
their life within some disturbing
emotion they make their brain worse 100%
of the time holy cow cuz you're thinking
in the past the answer is not there
overcome the emotion actually
thinking about it makes their brain
worse it drives them into higher states
of arousal overcome the emotion you have
the answer to your own question it's
because it's not in the known it's not
in the past you got to get Beyond it so
I say to people when they ask me
questions just just seven days just
cross the river you're going to have the
answers to your own questions there's
going to be no better life coach for you
than you get over this right so then the
person who shows up worthy in their
life person who's happy because they're
making themselves happy that's such an
unknown for everybody that that they've
just left and showed back up in their
life or they usually complain with
they're like oh my God this person's
joined the cult oh my God this person
seems way too happy and they're happy
without me you know and and really it's
just an energy that's that a person is
broken out of the chains they free
themselves from the chains of the past
right and so that doesn't mean that they
don't get frustrated don't get angry
they just don't waste their time staying
there because living by that emotion
will create a gap between the way things
appear and the way things really are wow
and if we respond during that period
we'll always say the same thing should
have never said that I should have never
done I should never sent that email or
that text I you're altered in some way
so learning to shorten the refractory
period of your emotional responses this
is emotional intelligence right and and
getting really good at that then allows
a person to show up differently and when
people when people create the life they
want which happens a
lot why would they why would they hold a
grudge right why why would they do that
they trust they're they free themselves
and they free that person like like
everybody's been betrayed everybody's
been hurt but if your life is wonderful
who cares like that whoa I just I I me I
wasn't conscious or whatever and then I
now it's it's when your life isn't
working and it ain't working and you're
living by the same emotion then that
passes you're going to keep it alive but
you're the only one keeping it alive
where did where is it where is your past
where is it it's it's only there right
it's in a memory it's a Memory here yeah
it's not here so then people spend
enormous amounts of time not even
knowing not even aware that they're
living in that state and always
predicting the default mode Network in
the brain is always predicting the next
moment based on what it's learned in the
past right if you're holding a grudge of
the past it's going to predict that in
the future you're just going to get
ready for the next one it's h you're
recreating the past your your your your
future is your past oh man yeah and and
and there's and that's all the known
right so getting a person to no longer
live in the predictable future you know
where they're just habituated where they
get up and do things and they're on a
program getting a person that's the
predictable future is the known familiar
past is the known living by the emotion
remembering the event if the if the
familiar past is the known and the
predictable future is the there's only
one place where the unknown can be
that's the present moment getting a
person to labor for the present moment
liberates energy in the body wow and
that's when the person starts feeling
more like themselves and they don't feel
as altered and so you overcome the
emotion of resentment just use this as
an example but sitting in the fire for a
week and just facing off with it and
just working with your body and
retraining it to a new mind I guarantee
you that when you see your ex you'll
you'll see a part of you you used to be
that you no longer are and you'll have
nothing but compassion and and love for
her and you'll be like wow wow I get it
I totally get it it's no longer the past
anymore you're not connected to it any
longer and you free that person and your
relationship changes and something
shifts and there's she's he's she's
seeing you differently because you're
showing up differently it's not not
anything you're saying you're not
lecturing them they're just not showing
up as the memory they had of you and
that allows them to be
different and that's that's a great
service yeah yes you mentioned about
survival mode when we're in survival
mode we're feeling stressed and when
we're feeling stressed we're unable to
feel that kind of selflove love for
yourself there's well when you're in
stress you're altered you're altered
you're altered you're not you're you're
you're altered self you're you're shaken
you're not feeling whole you've moved
from love right yeah and when we enter a
relationship from survival or
stress or lack of worthiness or
neediness I need someone to to make me
feel more loved because I don't have it
myself what do we usually attract and
create when we're attracting from
neediness survival and a lack of
wholeness yeah I think that that all of
that lack all of that separation is
separation from love right and the
problem is is that we've just been
conditioned into thinking that it comes
from out there it comes from that person
that drug that circumstance that that
thing that object the app whatever it is
and you're you're relying on your outer
World to Change Your Inner world and so
when things are good you feel good when
things are feel bad you feel bad so
you're you're at effect you're not at
cause in any way so what if though you
had a way to find that independent of
your outer
world the data we have suggest it's
absolutely possible now you're free
you're free like you don't need anybody
or anything you'll be a lot cool cool to
hang around with everybody be like well
you know that's just that that would
allow them I I know
this your
presence would allow them to move out of
survival they would open their heart a
little bit more they trust you a little
bit more they'd be more kind to be more
softspoken more less egocentric your
your presence would do that and and may
not be the first time but they would
start figuring out like wow this guy is
really different you know he's
something's different about him and and
that's just because you're present and
and you're giving them your attention
without judgment you you see how hard it
is to change you've actually made that
change because you've made that change
and you see that you've made that change
but you see that in them you're no
longer judging them you have compassion
for them like dude that's a tough one it
took me a long time to get over that but
you're not judging them like what's
wrong with you you're like oh my God I
totally know what that's like you you've
crossed that River so of course You'
never offer them advice unless they
asked you you would probably give them a
oneliner I mean people who heal in our
work so many times you know uh people in
in a state of desperation will say what
meditation did you do and they laugh at
them like there nothing to do with the
meditation it was just I changed like
and it was it was a it was an arduous
process but they're telling a different
they're telling the story of their
future they not telling the story of
their past their ex or their betrayer or
whoever that person is they have no
regrets about that because why they have
they wish them well they hope they're
happy it's not even it's not like
they're even trying to forgive to be
spiritual you know people who try to
forgive like I'm really going to try to
forgive that working hard to this is not
how that works like you in love like you
don't have to try to forgive you're just
you just don't want to lose this feeling
and you take your attention off that
person you're good you there's a lot of
freedom in that and that's how people
heal they're they're building their own
field they're they're they're giving
their body their energy back again
they're taking their power back in so
many ways
so and then there is then there is
community a collective Consciousness
like I I
I I like great conversation I like
spirited conversation I like to be talk
scientists or people in my life that I
love I like to engage in just what the
limit is and like everybody take us on a
journey to see how far we can go I don't
like to talk about like things that
really that are that where there's pain
or suffering or what I don't I don't
where there's ego I don't really like
that like that's a Consciousness and and
everybody's done it but if you're truly
on the path of evolution you outgrow it
yes you you outgrow complaining like you
just you just don't you don't want to
make yourself unhappy anymore you out go
outgrow talking about yourself like
you're better than anybody else because
if you do you got to face off with that
person tomorrow and overcome them
tomorrow after a while you're like dude
just stop that so you don't have to deal
with you like that anymore so you just
start you start outgrowing things that
they're just a side effect of your
evolutionist it's not like you have to
try to do it it's just the side effect
of a change in Consciousness a change in
energy a change in Awareness change in
emotional states yes and so in the heart
it is the selfless place it's a selfless
place we give up from the heart we care
from the heart we're kind in our heart
we're compassionate in our heart we're
inspired in our heart you know we fall
in love with our heart we're grateful in
our heart and so I think people feel
with every other part of their body but
their heart like they just don't feel
with it right practice feeling with your
heart yes and um God we have we have
such great data you know we put these
monitors on people for 24 hours right
and I used to think primarily it was
women that had these moments now we're
seeing that men have them too in fact
the men whose spouses take them or
Partners take them to an event they
really don't want to come those guys are
going to be fine they have really really
big moments so so we see them in their
meditation where you can these little
blocks of 5 minutes and you see the
heart just drop in the coherence and
it's just beautiful lines beautiful
looks you could see this very easy to
see you see this person sustaining it
for 45 minutes during their meditation
so you're like hm all right this person
nailed it we go to the next meditation
another 45 minutes again done it once
done it twice this is looks like this
person's getting a skill all of a sudden
they do it a third time another 45
minutes and then lo and behold those
three meditations in one day then
they're they're in their
room and they're get unpacking and
getting ready for bed they're still
wearing the heart rate monitor and while
they're not in a meditation for one hour
while they're just unpacking getting
ready there's an enormous amount of hard
coherence has taking place for a whole
hour why because just like a person who
has a panic attack who's embracing the
worst case scenario in their mind every
day and emotionally feeling the anxiety
and the fear if that event actually
occurred that image of that emotion that
stimulus and response that thought and
feeling is conditioned the body to
become the mind of anxiety the body has
a panic attack with you or without you
try as you may to control it with your
conscious mind you can't control you
program it subconsciously right so is it
possible to have a spontaneous love
attack that's what she had she had on
one hour or her body went into ecstasy
and you could see it I said love attack
a love attack she I said to her what did
you do she said and I saw it she she
laid she got on in bed and she laid down
and rolled over and went to sleep so you
see her about an hour and 10 minutes
perfect hard coherence and just see it
drop off into sleep what 13,400
different chemicals released to restore
and repair the body
so the love that you feel is is the glue
that creates connection on a cellular
level on a molecular level on an atomic
level peel the atom all the way back
right to the center of the nucleus and
you have nothing
but energy and that energy is what's
called Low entropy and low entropy is
high order and high order is high energy
and it's a lot of lot of power so as you
move closer to to that source of
everything physical and material we have
such great data to show that people
actually run into it and when they do
their autonomic nervous system goes into
these elevated states of high high high
gamma brain wave patterns now gamma is
superconsciousness gamma is very
conscious very aware so the person's
whole entire autonomic nervous system is
processing hundreds of standard
deviations of gamma outside of normal
that's not a little gamma and it's so
coherent now the autonomic nervous
system touches every single cell in the
body it controls and coordinates all
those systems right so now imagine
stress is autonomic disregulation
incoherence this is autonomic regulation
but this is not a little regulation this
is enormous amount of energy that's
taking place in the brain and the
autonomic nervous system is on fire and
every single cell in the body is getting
touched by that frequency and that
frequency is carrying information and
energy is in forming matter and that
connection creates that feeling of pure
love of exy of bliss and now the person
takes a piece of it with them they
become more of it and it becomes them
and so we measure their blood and and
there's a lot of oxytocin we measure
their blood and there's information in
that blood it wasn't there before that
heals cancer that reverses Alzheimer's
that that that causes the viruses to not
enter the cell I mean it causes the the
microbiome to change in in a matter of
days like so there that that interaction
with that unifying field of energy that
exists beyond our senses whose signature
is Oneness whose signature is wholeness
whose signature is pure love
means then that it lives within you and
all around you then You' be remembering
who you are and where you came from
which is pure love and it is the most
familiar unfamiliar feeling you'll ever
have and it's not chemical wow it's
electric when you have that moment many
times there's an upgrade that takes
place in the body there's the disease
now it's gone there's the eczema it's
gone there's a mythen gravis now it's
gone um there's the Parkinson's now it's
gone there's the blindness now it's gone
there's a energies in forming matter and
that enormous amount of Regulation high
high amounts of Regulation is raising
the body in frequency it's raising the
body and light and all diseases lowering
of frequency so the person is connecting
to something way bigger than their
senses way something beyond their senses
and it's coming from within them now and
you only need one of those and you're
you're okay from that point forward and
the way you see life you some Veil some
illusion some conditioning some hypnosis
is removed and you're now way more
relaxed in your heart and way more awake
in your brain instead of unconscious
stressed out in a program right and when
I think you're more awake in your your
heart and your brain you start to
attract more great opportunities and you
start to see is this person in alignment
with my type of resonating resonating in
that Consciousness you'll be able to
find your tribe it'll be as obvious as
anything exactly whe whether you're
looking for a partner or friends or
Community or you know partner trust
exactly that you resonate and you feel
that and and and the heart is a strong
element in the creative process so if
you have a coherent brain then you're
sending the signal out into the quantum
field that's the that's the potential in
the quantum field that you're selecting
that already exists and you got to have
an intention and the more coherent the
brain the more the electrical signal
takes place in the field but if you want
to create the experience the
synchronicity the opportunity you got to
need a coherent heart and the heart is
the magnetic field and the magnetic
field draws things to us so now we don't
have to go get it any longer because
that's what we do in threedimensional
reality all of a sudden you start
noticing I I really didn't do anything
well I got the email I got the phone
call I got the opportunity I met this
person led to this and wow and know all
of a sudden I have this life and and so
if you're going to believe in that
future that you're imagining with all of
your heart it's got to be open and
activated train people to get in that
place and when they're in that place
they have wonderful relationships with
everything in everybody because they're
okay with themselves yes can you explain
I love this explanation at your retreat
you talk about this over and over
sending an attention with a signal from
your thought out into the field yeah and
then with your heart drawing this
intention from the physical world to you
physically yeah can you explain I every
time you say this I love it and it just
reminds me about the power of intention
and having a coherent heart and brain
connection right and those are the tools
being so clear on your thought and
thinking of why you want this thing you
know not wanting it from a place of lack
but already feeling grateful all these
different things that you teach in the
retreat but can you
explain what this does when you have a
signal from the brain and you have a
magnet from the heart how does that work
in the physical world and how can we
apply this to you know if someone's been
single for a long time and they're like
you know what I'm ready for love I'm
ready for a greater connection and I've
let go of my past I've forgiven I feel
like I'm in a space that's allowing me
to feel loved myself and I'm allowing to
bring a partner to me how does this
connect to that as well okay well let's
talk about how we typically create okay
we we basically create in lack or
separation and you're walking down the
street and you see someone with a nice
car and you're like love that car you
don't have it you want that car because
you don't have it so you're going to go
out and work or do whatever you can to
get that car and and in order for you to
get that car we're in the plane of
demonstration you got to do things so
there's the thought of having the car
and then there's the experience of
having it and the diff the distance
between the thought of the car and the
experience of getting it is called time
yes right that's separation so then in
three-dimensional reality you got to you
got to everything that we do to create
to bring those two points of
Consciousness together takes time and
energy so we got to do things we got to
get up and go try things and try things
out and do things and work and and then
you buy the car finally and then you may
have to make payments so you got to keep
working to pay it off right so it takes
a lot of time and energy so in
threedimensional reality the plane of
demonstration there's a separation
between the thought of what you want and
the experience of having and you got to
do things to get it and that's called
time so then the cause and the effect
one point of Consciousness and another
point of Consciousness the separation is
called time okay well you can get really
good at that you can get trained you can
go to school you can make a lot of the
right choices you can meet the right
people you can figure out ways to
accumulate more things and get all the
things you want that you think that
makes you happy right but after a while
you're like some people never actually
create the thing they want they spend
their entire life in lack because
they're waiting for that event to happen
to take away the lack of not having it
right so their senses are fuling them
into the illusion of Separation right so
they're creating matter to matter and
matter to matter takes time and energy
and get really good at doing it okay so
there's this invisible field of unifying
energy that exists beyond the senses
that's unifying everything physical and
material and the forces of nature the
quantum physicist I'm trying to unify
gravity and strong and weak nuclear
forces and electromagnetism some there's
some intelligence that's keeping all of
this in order after an explosion like
if's an explosion is normally disorder
but we got a lot of order here so
unifying all those principles is really
what quantum physics is about and
finding mathematics to do it but
undeniably in this realm in the quantum
realm there's no separation it's there's
nothing physical there's nothing
material there's no matter that's all
taking place in threedimensional reality
it's all energy it's all frequency it's
all vibration it's all information it's
all Consciousness it's all thought um
that is that invisible field of energy
so okay that invisible field of energy
Einstein said the field is the sole
governing agency of the particle he
didn't say the particle controls the
particle the field controls the particle
so if I can change information in the
field I should be able to affect the
particle matter so it turns out the the
atom is
99.99999% Energy Information it's
there's nothing physical or material there
there
0000001 material and then the
probability of us seeing the truth of
reality is zero wow and we are only
seeing a small spectrum of frequency the
rainbow visible light bouncing off the
most stable form of energy called matter
giving us this hologram this illusion of
Separation okay so if there was a way to
create from the
field instead of from matter and move
closer to
source and create from a place of
wholeness unless from separation I'd
have to be able to get to the field yes
so then if where you place your
attention is where you place your energy
and you could you developed the ability
to take all of your attention off your
body all your attention off all the
people in your life all the objects and
things your cell phone your car your
house whatever all the relationships of
all the people all the places you need
to go the place you're sitting the place
you grew up the place you sleep the
place you work and nothing about the
predictable future The Familiar past and
settle into the present moment you would
go from a somebody to a
nobody uh from a someone to a no one
from something to nothing from somewhere
to Nowhere from some time to no time
that is the moment your pure
Consciousness you would be disinvesting
all of your attention all of your energy
out of this threedimensional reality out
of the known and placing it on the
unknown now let's demystify the process
take away everything physical and
material in the universe take away the
Earth take away the Moon take away all
the planets all the moons from the
planets take away the Sun the light from
the sun the stars all the light from the
Stars galaxies take everything away wipe
everything out physical material what
are you left with nothing turns out that
that nothing is filled with a lot of fre
qu and energy that's true and I don't
know how to explain nothing to a
materialist but when you can linger in
that place without a name without a face
without a body weight without a diet
without a disease without a profession
without an identity in any way without a
past and you can linger as pure
Consciousness something really profound
happens to the brain different
compartments of the brain that have been
modulated or compartmentalized or
subdivided because of the stress
hormones you know shift your attention
from one person to another person to
another problem to another thing that
habituation fragments the brain the
brain becomes a house divided against
itself and you narrow your focus you
over Focus you become obsessive about
something that's what we do in stress we
turn out turns out if you open your
awareness to nothing the brain starts
getting highly organized different
compartments of the brain that were
modulated start unifying the brain
starts firing in this more holistic
State and the whole entire brain is
resonating at the same frequency now you
get that brain going for that period of
time like that waves start that are
coherent start interfering with each
other and when they do they create
bigger amplitudes the higher amplitude
the higher the energy in the brain so
now you have resonance in the brain and
the Brain starts getting very
mathematical very organized right so
that brain that's coherent the entire
brain is functioning as one neurological
Network the two hemispheres are coming
together and there's this kind of
psychic Union called wholeness now that
state of coherence uh in moving out of
the beta brain wave state into a slower
brain wave state produces electrical
signals yes and that electrical signal
is the intention that's the more clear
your intention is the more coherent the
brain is the stronger the signal okay so
if you decided to create from the field
instead of from matter and you were just
pure Consciousness and I asked you to
send the signal out from a coherent
brain and whatever that thing is that
you wanted you could you train we
trained you how to do that then you
would be shimmering the entire vacuum
that entire void you are you are that
you're not you any longer you're the
source right so if you're the source and
you're sending the signal out then
you're you're touching the consciousness
of everybody of everyone of everything
of everywhere of every time the the entire
entire
field is becoming electric because of
your intention wow okay
now if you're Source why would you go
anywhere to get anything and so
Consciousness is coherent brain and then
the energy of the Heart Is Love and pure
Pure Love is source so if I ask you to
fall in love with that future and I ask
you to draw the future to you with the
magnetic field of the heart the heart
produces a magnetic field up to 3 MERS
wide that's that's that's studied so now
love is the glue that holds the atom
together okay okay if I get a coherent
heart the more coherent my heart is the
more energy in my heart the more I can
draw my future to me so you send the
signal out you draw the experience to
you and now you don't go anywhere to get
anything when there's vibrational match
between your energy and some potential
in the quantum field and when there's a
match you start seeing those
synchronicities you synchronized your
energy to that possibility and and so
you start seeing the coincidences and
the synchronicities and the
opportunities I'm not talking about a
parking space I'm talking about like
real life events yes this is a critical
moment for people
because I think people don't realize how
powerful they really are when that event
happens in their life they will look
back at every single betrayer everything
that happened in their past and they
won't care they won't care any longer
that's the moment their past no longer
exists because they're proving to
themselves what they innately already
know that they may have forgotten which
is why that is the the creator of their
life and when you have that
synchronicity you are humbled by the
truth and you feel sense of greatness
like real greatness like I am honored to
be human I'm honored to be alive I'm
honored that I actually created it's not
the it's not the wealth you can ask
anybody in our community it's not the
health it's who you
became and and people think they want
this or they want that but I'm telling
you what they want is wholeness yes and
you have wholeness that you no longer
want how could you want when you're
whole game change is really amazing and
so the closer we get to source and
that's our work how deep can you go and
we teach people how to go as deep as
they can there's a brain wave state that
takes place that I can predict when we
see it I know the person's going to have
a big moment in fact we can predict it
we can replicate it um and we can induce
it and the person goes into these really
slow uh feta brain wave States and
that's when they're in a hypnotic state
they're very suggestible to information
and they're in coherent Theta and when
they move outside of normal we know the
next moment is they're going to hook up
and the brain's going to go into gamma
and they're going to feel a whole lot of
love not a little love like a lot of
love and it's going to be an arousal and
it's going to be ecstasy it's going to
be Bliss to them they're having they're
they're seeing their the unknown self the
the
99.99% of reality that we're unaware of
and don't exclude
yourself from that and so the person has
a moment when the unknown and a profound
mystical moment or an understanding or a
download or a connection The Source or a
healing or something that takes place I
took a bite of wholeness they took a
bite of it right they became more whole
and when you're more whole you don't
need as much that's right when you're
not don't need as much you're really
cool to be around like it's really easy
to be around you in fact if you're so
whole that you feel so abundant that the
only thing you want to do is give we
have people in this work that have
created millions of dollars and that
they're giving it away and the more they
give it away the more money they keep
getting that's the experiment for them
that's their experiment they're trying
that out as an experiment why because an
abundant person would never hold on to
anything they have more than they need
so the side effect of creating from the
field instead of from matter shortens
the distance between the thought of what
we want and the experience of having it
and that takes means there's less time
and the greater frequency the closer we
are to Source the less separation is two
points of Consciousness it means there's
less time and it should happen in a
shorter amount of time in
threedimensional reality and that event
it's none of your business when it's
going to happen or how it's going to
happen because the moment you try to
predict it you're back to the Newtonian
model of reality you're wanting and
needing again you're you're laying a
known yeah over the unknown and and and
and the the Consciousness that lives
within us that Source says I honor free
will go for it do it your way yes and
and so we have to lay down the very
thing we used our whole life to get what
we want for something greater to occur
and that's not an easy thing oh man is
it because it's so there's such a
propensity to jump in there and do right
J in controller it and we so we control
we force we predict we fight for it we
manipulate we cheat we lie we steal um
we do everything when we're matter
trying to change matter to take away
that lack or separation but if there's
an alternative way to do that to shorten
the distance between one point of
Consciousness and another point between
cause and effect and you start believing
that you're the creator of your your
reality you stop trying so hard uh you
you start people in this work uh I think
the the excitement for me um and what
I'm proud of in terms of our community
is that they do the work not because
they have to or they want to please God
or do the right thing it's not that they
don't want the magic to end in their
life they don't want it to end it's not
like oh gez I got to go create my life
it's kind of
like I someone sent me a text just
yesterday a very very very wealthy very
successful person and he he said to me I
need to take a break from creating like
I'm going to take a break is that okay
is it okay like he's his whole life has
just gotten super beautiful and he's so
alive again all these wonderful things
happen he said I almost I almost don't
feel worthy I don't almost don't feel
worthy there so many I said you know
many times you showed up for yourself
you aren't worthy that's why it's
happening yes you aren't worthy you
showed up man if you don't show up you
don't believe you're a
Creator you show up it means you do
believe and and so many people as I said
they may say well I think this stuff
works but I don't know if it works for
me well this is a big moment because if
you don't show up then you don't believe
it's possible but if you show up you
still believe it's possible so showing
up for yourself every day investing in
yourself is investing in your future and
and people say to me well I did it for
two weeks and nothing happened I say to
them you're not that good like I don't
know what else to tell you I don't it's
not like it doesn't work for you it's
just like learn a little bit more
knowledge understand what you're do your
your health condition isn't
changing okay your your relationship you
want a relationship and and you want a
relationship in love and you're living
the 3/4s of your day in fear you think
you're you think you're going to attract
love you're got to be able to feel that
feeling instead of fear and when it's
the hardest that matters the most then
you're worthy right you're worthy of
love you are worthy when you get to that
point where you are worthy of love it's
not like entitlement like I'm I'm worthy
of love that's not how that works you
are worthy of it it's it's it's it's you
you're so worthy of it you're okay
without anybody that's when it gets
really good that's powerful when you
don't need it well because you don't you
don't need anything because you feel
whole exactly now that I call that the
natural state of being that's why we
practice so much relaxed in the heart
and awake in the brain because there are
so many biological changes neurological
genetic changes that take place in that
present moment so many wonderful changes
so the person who wants the wealth the
person who wants to Rel
relationship they can't be saying or the
or the health they can't be saying well
how come I'm not
healed the person who's the person who's
in the process of healing would never
say that that's the person that's the
old self that says how come I don't have
a new relationship well we'll figure it
out like two weeks went by and were you
spending the rest of your day in fear
and in lack were you were you hating
yourself and hating your life when
thinks you think you think you're worthy
of Love at this point you're not going
to you're not going to be happy no one's
going to make you happy until you make
you happy and that changes everything
you find that person and and they're happy for no reason you got to you and
happy for no reason you got to you and not just happy like always happy but but
not just happy like always happy but but a
a sensibility that they can manage
sensibility that they can manage themselves and manage their emotions and
themselves and manage their emotions and manage their attention in such a way
manage their attention in such a way that's admirable like you're inspired by
that's admirable like you're inspired by that person your your relationship the
that person your your relationship the person that you're with is an
person that you're with is an inspiration to you like wow I'm inspired
inspiration to you like wow I'm inspired by this person I'm moved by this person
by this person I'm moved by this person I want I want to show up for this person
I want I want to show up for this person I want to give as much as they give in
I want to give as much as they give in this relationship I want to I want to
this relationship I want to I want to care as much as they care I want to be
care as much as they care I want to be as kind as they are I want to see when
as kind as they are I want to see when everybody else reacts this person
everybody else reacts this person doesn't react something is cool about
doesn't react something is cool about that person that's that gives the person
that person that's that gives the person or the people that we in relationship
or the people that we in relationship permission to show up differently and
permission to show up differently and that's that's when it becomes infectious
that's that's when it becomes infectious that's when it becomes wonderful I want
that's when it becomes wonderful I want to ask you two final questions CU I
to ask you two final questions CU I could go on for hours we with you as
could go on for hours we with you as always but I want I want people to
always but I want I want people to digest this because the explanation of
digest this because the explanation of the the signal and the magnet I think I
the the signal and the magnet I think I want people to watch that on repeat
want people to watch that on repeat until they truly understand it and
until they truly understand it and practice it uh because when you
practice it uh because when you understand that that is the game it's
understand that that is the game it's figure out how to make this happen and
figure out how to make this happen and create this looping effect of sending
create this looping effect of sending out the signal with your pure intention
out the signal with your pure intention and drawing back same time feel feel
and drawing back same time feel feel feel the emotion of your future before
feel the emotion of your future before it happens oh because in the quantum so
it happens oh because in the quantum so big in the quantum you got to feel it to
big in the quantum you got to feel it to experience it you doens yeah in
experience it you doens yeah in threedimensional reality you experience
threedimensional reality you experience it when it happens and you feel it
it when it happens and you feel it afterwards in the quantum you got to
afterwards in the quantum you got to feel it to experience it whatever you
feel it to experience it whatever you experience in the realm beyond space and
experience in the realm beyond space and time and emotionally Embrace must
time and emotionally Embrace must manifest in this space and time it's the
manifest in this space and time it's the law let's go let's go but but but my
law let's go let's go but but but my point is is that it doesn't happen in
point is is that it doesn't happen in two weeks don't give up the experiment
two weeks don't give up the experiment continues what does it what does that
continues what does it what does that mean mean it means that you got to fill
mean mean it means that you got to fill your brain with more knowledge you got
your brain with more knowledge you got to practice more you got to be more
to practice more you got to be more present you can't be thinking about your
present you can't be thinking about your coffee or thinking about what happened
coffee or thinking about what happened yes you're not there you're not there
yes you're not there you're not there you're not there when you are there
you're not there when you are there you're not thinking look think about
you're not thinking look think about this if you got
this if you got up feeling connected to your future
up feeling connected to your future emotionally then you would say you would
emotionally then you would say you would be feeling like your future is already
be feeling like your future is already happened if you feel the emotions of
happened if you feel the emotions of your future before it happens you would
your future before it happens you would no longer look for it you only look for
no longer look for it you only look for it when you don't feel connected to it
it when you don't feel connected to it CU you're in lack of Separation try that
CU you're in lack of Separation try that out with your eyes open the entire day
out with your eyes open the entire day I'm going to sustain my energy put more
I'm going to sustain my energy put more attenion on my inner world just a little
attenion on my inner world just a little bit more relaxing my heart and waking a
bit more relaxing my heart and waking a brain let me tune in to that future let
brain let me tune in to that future let me feel it when I'm at the stoplight let
me feel it when I'm at the stoplight let me feel it when my best friend's
me feel it when my best friend's complaining to me let me feel it when
complaining to me let me feel it when I'm washing the dishes let me just
I'm washing the dishes let me just practice my own thing as an experiment I
practice my own thing as an experiment I do this just to see the more I tune in
do this just to see the more I tune in the more I draw to me as no no longer
the more I draw to me as no no longer about the event it's about it's getting
about the event it's about it's getting so lost in the effort so lost in the act
so lost in the effort so lost in the act that the ACT actually creates the
that the ACT actually creates the experience you're too involved in what
experience you're too involved in what you're
you're doing when you default back to the old
doing when you default back to the old person and feel the same emotion don't
person and feel the same emotion don't expect your life to change you just
expect your life to change you just return back to the same state of being
return back to the same state of being the same energy there's no one or no
the same energy there's no one or no person or no doing that in your life if
person or no doing that in your life if you say it's that person or that thing
you say it's that person or that thing you're back to be at effect in your life
you're back to be at effect in your life so then being at cause in your life then
so then being at cause in your life then is not trying to rush and get it done
is not trying to rush and get it done getting back in your life is actually
getting back in your life is actually being present in the moment and just try
being present in the moment and just try something else differently draw it to me
something else differently draw it to me so the brain coherence and heart
so the brain coherence and heart coherence is producing a Wi-Fi signal
coherence is producing a Wi-Fi signal and now you're connected now you're
and now you're connected now you're hooked up when your brain is incoherent
hooked up when your brain is incoherent you're incoherent when your brain is
you're incoherent when your brain is incoherent you have no Wi-Fi signal you
incoherent you have no Wi-Fi signal you don't have that connection when your
don't have that connection when your heart is not coherent you have no Wi-Fi
heart is not coherent you have no Wi-Fi signal you have no connection you're
signal you have no connection you're separate you're you're too far from the
separate you're you're too far from the from the router from the you know from
from the router from the you know from the the the the your your source so
the the the the your your source so tuning up the autonomic nervous system
tuning up the autonomic nervous system tuning up the nervous system by hting a
tuning up the nervous system by hting a tune for by tuning into energy and
tune for by tuning into energy and frequency keep doing that boy we see
frequency keep doing that boy we see just really really wonderful things I
just really really wonderful things I mean I always say to the
mean I always say to the scientists all those meditations on
scientists all those meditations on nothing and you're getting all of this
nothing and you're getting all of this incredible data there's got to be
incredible data there's got to be information in that energy and that
information in that energy and that frequency that's not coming from their
frequency that's not coming from their senses they're not it's not coming from
senses they're not it's not coming from the candy bar or the drug or the diet
the candy bar or the drug or the diet they're not taking anything and yet
they're not taking anything and yet there's information in their blood look
there's information in their blood look like they were where is it coming from
like they were where is it coming from it's coming from the field and so the
it's coming from the field and so the person dials down the neocortex and
person dials down the neocortex and moves into Theta Theta is hypnosis
moves into Theta Theta is hypnosis you're suggestible to
you're suggestible to information but in hypnosis you're
information but in hypnosis you're plugged into reality with your senses
plugged into reality with your senses you're getting instructions you're
you're getting instructions you're hearing things you're seeing things and
hearing things you're seeing things and of course you're suggestable and you can
of course you're suggestable and you can you can program a person but the
you can program a person but the person's sitting in a meditation their
person's sitting in a meditation their eyes are closed there's music you're
eyes are closed there's music you're playing they're not connected to their
playing they're not connected to their outer world at all but but they're still
outer world at all but but they're still suggestible to information and there's
suggestible to information and there's only one other place you can get
only one other place you can get information from that's frequency and
information from that's frequency and the more coherent the brain and the more
the more coherent the brain and the more coherent the heart the more coherent the
coherent the heart the more coherent the information and the little gland in the
information and the little gland in the back of the brain called the penu gland
back of the brain called the penu gland and the brain's radio receiver hooks up
and the brain's radio receiver hooks up to that frequency and that energy and it
to that frequency and that energy and it transduces that information at the
transduces that information at the profound imetry in the brain and a
profound imetry in the brain and a person is having a transcendental moment
person is having a transcendental moment and that moment they are seeing Beyond
and that moment they are seeing Beyond veil of this illusion of separation and
veil of this illusion of separation and that's when they remember who they are
that's when they remember who they are and where they came from that moment you
and where they came from that moment you can only talk around yes but it is
can only talk around yes but it is electric and so what if it took you six
electric and so what if it took you six months to get there would it be worth it
months to get there would it be worth it yeah I would I would say so seeing
yeah I would I would say so seeing seeing what's in the blood of people who
seeing what's in the blood of people who hit that moment and there are many
hit that moment and there are many people that don't hit that moment and
people that don't hit that moment and still have the same information in their
still have the same information in their blood 84 83 77% of the community it's
blood 84 83 77% of the community it's pretty crazy that's incredible I want
pretty crazy that's incredible I want everyone to go to your website because I
everyone to go to your website because I want them to sign up to get on your
want them to sign up to get on your retreat because when I went there I felt
retreat because when I went there I felt an incredible explosion of love I saw
an incredible explosion of love I saw I'm disconnected from my phone it's in
I'm disconnected from my phone it's in the hotel somewhere I'm tapped into my
the hotel somewhere I'm tapped into my heart and I'm practicing being in my
heart and I'm practicing being in my heart and feeling nothing except for the
heart and feeling nothing except for the the feeling of love for hours and hours
the feeling of love for hours and hours and hours and then I'm learning from you
and hours and then I'm learning from you the science the research all the dat you
the science the research all the dat you have so many research papers now out
have so many research papers now out that will link up that talk about here's
that will link up that talk about here's the hard facts the data the
the hard facts the data the peer-reviewed science that's proving
peer-reviewed science that's proving that you can get incredible healing
that you can get incredible healing results wholeness results that allow you
results wholeness results that allow you to attract from the field more beautiful
to attract from the field more beautiful things in your life not because you need
things in your life not because you need them or want them because they're
them or want them because they're available to you now because yeah
available to you now because yeah exactly and um I want people to sign up
exactly and um I want people to sign up follow you and practice some meditations
follow you and practice some meditations you know a lot of this comes from from
you know a lot of this comes from from the practice and the experiment of it
the practice and the experiment of it like you talked about this isn't going
like you talked about this isn't going to happen if you just think for one
to happen if you just think for one moment at a time and the rest of your
moment at a time and the rest of your days are anger fear resentment lack do
days are anger fear resentment lack do the do the inventory exactly do the
the do the inventory exactly do the inventory every night how much time did
inventory every night how much time did I think about love peace gratitude
I think about love peace gratitude forgiveness versus anger resentment or
forgiveness versus anger resentment or lack and if the answer is well you don't
lack and if the answer is well you don't understand I have a reason to feel this
understand I have a reason to feel this way then you're not there you're not
way then you're not there you're not there you're not you're not beyond your
there you're not you're not beyond your past exactly and I always say Justified
past exactly and I always say Justified or not the only person
or not the only person that that's hurting those emotions is
that that's hurting those emotions is really you it it really is and so you
really you it it really is and so you got to ask yourself is this loving to me
got to ask yourself is this loving to me and this is the beginning of your
and this is the beginning of your relationship with yourself absolutely
relationship with yourself absolutely and and self forgiveness is so important
and and self forgiveness is so important not self forgiveness like okay go go out
not self forgiveness like okay go go out and do it again but like what did I
and do it again but like what did I learn do I really want to end up here
learn do I really want to end up here every day do I really want to end up in
every day do I really want to end up in the same place I don't want this okay so
the same place I don't want this okay so then what would you tell your kid if he
then what would you tell your kid if he didn't want well change change that like
didn't want well change change that like how do I change it well stop it you want
how do I change it well stop it you want to be happy stop being unhappy life is
to be happy stop being unhappy life is really simple and so the unlearning
really simple and so the unlearning process the Breaking the Habit process
process the Breaking the Habit process the overcoming process nobody likes to
the overcoming process nobody likes to talk about because it is the overcoming
talk about because it is the overcoming process that is the becoming process
process that is the becoming process that woman who broke through and her
that woman who broke through and her heart blew wide open and she was abused
heart blew wide open and she was abused as a child boy she she was so happy with
as a child boy she she was so happy with herself she was she she saw
herself she was she she saw herself when she was ready to give up
herself when she was ready to give up and say I can't go any further because
and say I can't go any further because emotion was so hard she went one more
emotion was so hard she went one more time and her heart opened
time and her heart opened up she was so incredibly free after that
up she was so incredibly free after that moment she she literally moved out of
moment she she literally moved out of her past into her present moment and she
her past into her present moment and she when she was making that decision when
when she was making that decision when she saw like all the days that she never
she saw like all the days that she never missed a meditation and and she fell in
missed a meditation and and she fell in love with that person she fell in love
love with that person she fell in love with that person and it was that future
with that person and it was that future self that was drawing that past self to
self that was drawing that past self to her in love there's a future you there's
her in love there's a future you there's a future me that already exists it's
a future me that already exists it's more mystical more loving more abundant
more mystical more loving more abundant more free more unlimited more genius
more free more unlimited more genius more cool and it's you right and and so
more cool and it's you right and and so the overcoming process then is the
the overcoming process then is the difficult process because so many people
difficult process because so many people rather just get on their cell phone get
rather just get on their cell phone get distracted scroll through Tik Tok or
distracted scroll through Tik Tok or social media just regulate their
social media just regulate their emotions by something else happen
emotions by something else happen they're not conscious they're doing that
they're not conscious they're doing that but that's what they're
but that's what they're doing in this case we're asking you to
doing in this case we're asking you to do it on your own right so so you
do it on your own right so so you sitting through the fire and you're not
sitting through the fire and you're not going for the cell phone man it's it's
going for the cell phone man it's it's it's like you're you're you're you're
it's like you're you're you're you're you're in the river of change and it's
you're in the river of change and it's uncomfortable and it's uncertain and
uncomfortable and it's uncertain and there's unpredictability and it's the
there's unpredictability and it's the unknown but man that is the place to
unknown but man that is the place to create from not from the unknown so
create from not from the unknown so getting people into that place where
getting people into that place where they're uncomfortable and okay with it
they're uncomfortable and okay with it and understanding that there is a future
and understanding that there is a future that that already exists you just have
that that already exists you just have to become it right become that person so
to become it right become that person so it's not your wealth it's who you become
it's not your wealth it's who you become it's not your health it's who you become
it's not your health it's who you become you can ask the people who healed ask
you can ask the people who healed ask the people who are abundant they'll say
the people who are abundant they'll say no no no no no that wasn't it and you
no no no no no that wasn't it and you can talk to the people who had really
can talk to the people who had really profound instantaneous healings
profound instantaneous healings instantaneous healings I get them on the
instantaneous healings I get them on the stage and for 10 minutes they're talking
stage and for 10 minutes they're talking about how amazing they feel from the
about how amazing they feel from the experience and finally I say to them
experience and finally I say to them will you will you tell the Hors oh yeah
will you will you tell the Hors oh yeah I was blind and now I can see oh yeah I
I was blind and now I can see oh yeah I had Parkinson's now I don't have any
had Parkinson's now I don't have any like the event is more powerful than
like the event is more powerful than their healing the healing is
their healing the healing is consequence of them overcoming right and
consequence of them overcoming right and it's the overcoming process that is the
it's the overcoming process that is the becoming process that's the relearning
becoming process that's the relearning process the reinvention process right
process the reinvention process right that's that's what we live for and so we
that's that's what we live for and so we overcome our fear we overcome our
overcome our fear we overcome our resentment we overcome our anger our
resentment we overcome our anger our betrayal and we become something else we
betrayal and we become something else we we're moving closer to sorc moving
we're moving closer to sorc moving closer to love and it's not something
closer to love and it's not something that you have to try to do it's just who
that you have to try to do it's just who you become it's not you have to try to
you become it's not you have to try to forgive you just feel so good you don't
forgive you just feel so good you don't want to feel anything else right and and
want to feel anything else right and and and you're more resilient you're you're
and you're more resilient you're you're more more healthy or more whole imagine
more more healthy or more whole imagine like people who are super wealthy a lot
like people who are super wealthy a lot of times they say to me and we're
of times they say to me and we're talking billions they say we're
talking billions they say we're miserable we're we're Agony and I say
miserable we're we're Agony and I say why and they say cuz well I can't enjoy
why and they say cuz well I can't enjoy a sunset anymore I can't relax I don't
a sunset anymore I can't relax I don't know how to do that like I I don't know
know how to do that like I I don't know how to do that I can't even appreciate
how to do that I can't even appreciate life and yet
life and yet somehow when we overcome ourselves and
somehow when we overcome ourselves and we feel more love when we're prone to
we feel more love when we're prone to give why because we want people to feel
give why because we want people to feel the way we feel it's not like I'm doing
the way we feel it's not like I'm doing this to to to to please anybody I feel
this to to to to please anybody I feel so good I want you to feel the way I
so good I want you to feel the way I feel so the only way I can do that is to
feel so the only way I can do that is to give you what I have and I feel so good
give you what I have and I feel so good I'm happy to give it away like I don't
I'm happy to give it away like I don't know imagine a world like that you know
know imagine a world like that you know so so falling in love with yourself is
so so falling in love with yourself is falling in love with life right and
falling in love with life right and falling in love with life is falling in
falling in love with life is falling in love with yourself whatever it is that's
love with yourself whatever it is that's standing in the way between you and
standing in the way between you and love that's the journey that's the
love that's the journey that's the journey because because Pure Love is
journey because because Pure Love is Source right it is is pure Consciousness
Source right it is is pure Consciousness so as I said at the
so as I said at the beginning uh that in order for us to
beginning uh that in order for us to find love a part of us must die or
find love a part of us must die or anything that's not love in US must die
anything that's not love in US must die and that and that that that biological
and that and that that that biological neurological chemical hormonal genetic
neurological chemical hormonal genetic death of the self has to occur for
death of the self has to occur for something to be reborn that's the
something to be reborn that's the Phoenix rising from the ashes and it's
Phoenix rising from the ashes and it's not like someone's going to do it for
not like someone's going to do it for you nobody's going to choose you that
you nobody's going to choose you that you you are endowed with the Free Will
you you are endowed with the Free Will as pure Consciousness as a creator that
as pure Consciousness as a creator that has fallen from source to such a degree
has fallen from source to such a degree of separation you have your own free
of separation you have your own free will to create reality any way you want
will to create reality any way you want so then your job then is to reinvent
so then your job then is to reinvent whatever that is in your life whatever
whatever that is in your life whatever that dream is and I say to people all
that dream is and I say to people all the time I don't care what it is I don't
the time I don't care what it is I don't care whatever it is you want I'm totally
care whatever it is you want I'm totally cool with that as long as you know how
cool with that as long as you know how to create and as you get good at this
to create and as you get good at this and you start having the things you want
and you start having the things you want and the only thing you want to do is
and the only thing you want to do is give back the only thing you want to do
give back the only thing you want to do is make a difference and and the side
is make a difference and and the side effect of that is people are start
effect of that is people are start taking care of people and in our
taking care of people and in our community you know we we inform one
community you know we we inform one another we we respect one another we
another we we respect one another we honor one another we support one another
honor one another we support one another we heal one another we shine for one
we heal one another we shine for one another so others can Shine That's the
another so others can Shine That's the emerging Consciousness and and that
emerging Consciousness and and that Collective group of people that's bound
Collective group of people that's bound together in a different energy a
together in a different energy a different frequency that is that that
different frequency that is that that glue creates a a community a a
glue creates a a community a a collective Network and I think that that
collective Network and I think that that then uh is is what people are looking
then uh is is what people are looking for on the world I want people to follow
for on the world I want people to follow everything you're doing it's inspiring
everything you're doing it's inspiring it's amazing get Dr Joe's meditations
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sign up for your newsletter so you can be informed about everything you have
be informed about everything you have going on you've got uh research papers
going on you've got uh research papers coming out you've got a walk that people
coming out you've got a walk that people can be a part of you know depending on
can be a part of you know depending on when this interview comes out um to to
when this interview comes out um to to continue to inspire and bring people
continue to inspire and bring people together to transform from the inside
together to transform from the inside out you've got incredible books that are
out you've got incredible books that are transformational I want people to get
transformational I want people to get everything uh so check it out I've I've
everything uh so check it out I've I've been to a lot of
been to a lot of for the last 11 years I've done a lot of
for the last 11 years I've done a lot of different workshops I've did a lot of
different workshops I've did a lot of meditation Retreats I've been to India
meditation Retreats I've been to India I've done you know I've done so many
I've done you know I've done so many different things I've done extreme cold
different things I've done extreme cold extreme heat I've done a lot of
extreme heat I've done a lot of different healing modalities therapies
different healing modalities therapies and the thing that I love about your
and the thing that I love about your work is you
bring practical style of meditation that
practical style of meditation that people have heard meditation for a long
people have heard meditation for a long time but you bring it in a unique way
time but you bring it in a unique way from all your experiences and from all
from all your experiences and from all the science and research that you've
the science and research that you've done and proven with other outside
done and proven with other outside scientists and researchers to show here
scientists and researchers to show here are the actual results so you give
are the actual results so you give evidence you give data you give
evidence you give data you give testimonials you get so many examples of
testimonials you get so many examples of how these things work in different cases
how these things work in different cases in life so when you
in life so when you teach you know science and the mystical
teach you know science and the mystical you marry the two and allow people to
you marry the two and allow people to receive it with the information while
receive it with the information while experiencing something that's unknown to
experiencing something that's unknown to to them where they believe more and when
to them where they believe more and when they believe more they can recreate that
they believe more they can recreate that more and then they can spread the
more and then they can spread the message more to others so there's
message more to others so there's something beautiful about your work that
something beautiful about your work that I want to appreciate and acknowledge you
I want to appreciate and acknowledge you for uh because it's the first time I've
for uh because it's the first time I've seen you since the event even though
seen you since the event even though we've texted and message a few times but
we've texted and message a few times but it was such an incredibly powerful 7-Day
it was such an incredibly powerful 7-Day experience and I just want everyone I
experience and I just want everyone I hope everyone gets the opportunity to
hope everyone gets the opportunity to experience it someday you've got courses
experience it someday you've got courses online that people can learn a lot of
online that people can learn a lot of this information from as well and uh
this information from as well and uh there's just so many resources you have
there's just so many resources you have on your website so we'll have that
on your website so we'll have that linked up here's my final question for
linked up here's my final question for you on this
you on this um you know maybe I can convince you in
um you know maybe I can convince you in a year or two to do another one about
a year or two to do another one about level C but my question for this I have
level C but my question for this I have a shirt that I got at your
a shirt that I got at your event that someone gave me and based on
event that someone gave me and based on a mantra that you said over and over
a mantra that you said over and over again in this
again in this 7-Day experience and the question is
7-Day experience and the question is what would love do so I want to throw
what would love do so I want to throw that question back to you this is
that question back to you this is something you say to everyone in your
something you say to everyone in your Retreats what would love do I'm curious
Retreats what would love do I'm curious how do you answer that for yourself um
how do you answer that for yourself um God you know I'm a mission driven person
God you know I'm a mission driven person um I've had uh all kinds of things in my
um I've had uh all kinds of things in my life um and there's not a whole lot of
life um and there's not a whole lot of things uh that I have meaning for aside
things uh that I have meaning for aside from the people that I that are close to
from the people that I that are close to me and that I love but what I really
me and that I love but what I really love is making a difference in people's
love is making a difference in people's lives I think I think I think that's
lives I think I think I think that's innate in us I think that it's so much
innate in us I think that it's so much easier to clean your neighbor's garage
easier to clean your neighbor's garage than your own I don't know why that is
than your own I don't know why that is we're wired to take care of one another
we're wired to take care of one another you know and and um so for me um what
you know and and um so for me um what love does what what what love does is
love does what what what love does is number one being the example doing the
number one being the example doing the work and being the example of everything
work and being the example of everything that I teach I think that's that's
that I teach I think that's that's important for me but then I'm a
important for me but then I'm a mission-driven person and and I think
mission-driven person and and I think that an only only way we my mission is
that an only only way we my mission is to change individuals so somehow uh
to change individuals so somehow uh change their lives and ultimately
change their lives and ultimately Empower people in some way to to create
Empower people in some way to to create a different world and so um
a different world and so um I I work just like uh just like anybody
I I work just like uh just like anybody else to move closer to it I practice all
else to move closer to it I practice all the things that that I teach uh and I
the things that that I teach uh and I and I and I and I do find incredible
and I and I and I do find incredible value in being part of transformation I
value in being part of transformation I think that that I think when you witness
think that that I think when you witness a mother whose child has been uh
a mother whose child has been uh autistic for years stand on the stage
autistic for years stand on the stage and tell her story in tears and tell you
and tell her story in tears and tell you know I think the people that were part
know I think the people that were part of that coherence healing that were
of that coherence healing that were actually changed that kid's life Chang
actually changed that kid's life Chang the 's life I think the greatest form of
the 's life I think the greatest form of gratitude that we can ever feel is
gratitude that we can ever feel is receiving gratitude and when we receive
receiving gratitude and when we receive gratitude something really profound
gratitude something really profound happens you're part of someone's
happens you're part of someone's transformation it's Tribal and we tend
transformation it's Tribal and we tend to switch on networks in the brain that
to switch on networks in the brain that cause us to move closer together to
cause us to move closer together to commune to become more social and the
commune to become more social and the side effect is that if we become more
side effect is that if we become more appreciative we appreciate life we
appreciative we appreciate life we appreciate the moment and and um people
appreciate the moment and and um people who do as an example the coherence
who do as an example the coherence healings that's what love does does like
healings that's what love does does like that's what love does and they're not
that's what love does and they're not doing it to hang a shingle out there to
doing it to hang a shingle out there to say I'm a Healer or a life coach they're
say I'm a Healer or a life coach they're doing it because they're getting so much
doing it because they're getting so much out of the experience they're they're
out of the experience they're they're they're part of a person's change in
they're part of a person's change in empathy this kind of human empathy
empathy this kind of human empathy awakens where you you realize that we're
awakens where you you realize that we're all connected on some level we're we're
all connected on some level we're we're wholeness and parts you know every
wholeness and parts you know every individual's part of the whole and if we
individual's part of the whole and if we change enough individuals we can change
change enough individuals we can change the whole and whatever that point is I
the whole and whatever that point is I don't know but for me what love does in
don't know but for me what love does in some way is to be the example in our
some way is to be the example in our lives to show people what it looks
lives to show people what it looks like um to to to be something other than
like um to to to be something other than what's normal and natural different from
what's normal and natural different from the collective Consciousness in some way
the collective Consciousness in some way and dare to be original enough you know
and dare to be original enough you know in the beginning you'll be considered
in the beginning you'll be considered fool hearty and insane and you pull it
fool hearty and insane and you pull it off and then you're a genius you're
off and then you're a genius you're right and then so so I'm sure that many
right and then so so I'm sure that many people in this work that faced off with
people in this work that faced off with their family and friends when they were
their family and friends when they were given a hard diagnosis had to come up to
given a hard diagnosis had to come up to terms with themselves and and and really
terms with themselves and and and really look to see like I do I love myself
look to see like I do I love myself enough to do this and and showing up
enough to do this and and showing up every day and falling in love with
every day and falling in love with yourself every day is a great antidote
yourself every day is a great antidote uh for the for the healing process so
uh for the for the healing process so for me I want to be I I I watched a
for me I want to be I I I watched a woman open her eyes for the first time
woman open her eyes for the first time in Cancun and saw for the first time of
in Cancun and saw for the first time of was standing right there I wanted to be
was standing right there I wanted to be there I wanted to be I wanted to
there I wanted to be I wanted to celebrate with her I wanted to be right
celebrate with her I wanted to be right there in that moment when she opened her
there in that moment when she opened her eyes I wanted to be right there I wanted
eyes I wanted to be right there I wanted to I wanted to experience her Joy I
to I wanted to experience her Joy I wanted to I wanted to celebrate with her
wanted to I wanted to celebrate with her like to me that's the gift of life that
like to me that's the gift of life that is what I think that's what love does
is what I think that's what love does and and and the effect of Love is
and and and the effect of Love is carrying and kindness and healing and
carrying and kindness and healing and connection no judgment no conditions uh
connection no judgment no conditions uh it's something it's something uh it's
it's something it's something uh it's it's a never-ending process of discovery
it's a never-ending process of discovery right and and every mystical experience
right and and every mystical experience I've had um that where I felt profound
I've had um that where I felt profound feelings um has always led me to the
feelings um has always led me to the understanding that I there can't be any
understanding that I there can't be any more love to this until the next one
more love to this until the next one then there is more then there is more
then there is more then there is more like like my God man I have just shaded
like like my God man I have just shaded myself so so then surrendering fully to
myself so so then surrendering fully to love right surrendering fully to love
love right surrendering fully to love every day is a mystery where does it
every day is a mystery where does it lead me I don't know um but the unknown
lead me I don't know um but the unknown has never let me down up until this
has never let me down up until this point so um that that brings me the for
point so um that that brings me the for me the greatest joy to somehow uh make a
me the greatest joy to somehow uh make a difference in people's lives and the
difference in people's lives and the body which has been conditioned to be
body which has been conditioned to be the mind is 95% of who we are right by
the mind is 95% of who we are right by the time we're in the middle of our life
the time we're in the middle of our life so there's David and Goliath and the
so there's David and Goliath and the body's just saying look you think you've
body's just saying look you think you've been making all your decisions your
been making all your decisions your whole life actually you haven't the body
whole life actually you haven't the body has been making these decisions because
has been making these decisions because it's the mind so then the body says okay
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