Anger is not an inherent flaw but a neurobiological reaction stemming from our brain's interpretation of events, influenced by past experiences and physiological states. Understanding and retraining this interpretation process is key to achieving lasting emotional freedom and peace.
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Here's a truth you've probably
never been told, but you need to
hear it today. [music] Your anger doesn't
come from what people do, it
comes from what your brain interprets
when they do it. And if you can understand
this difference, you can free yourself
forever from that anger you've been
accumulating for years. [music] Yes,
I said forever. Not because life is
going to become perfect, but because you're
going to learn how [music] to deactivate
the internal reaction that traps you. And
believe me, [music]
what you are about to discover can
completely change the way you
relate to others. Because let's be
honest, you're [music] tired,
tired of exploding, tired of feeling like
people don't think, don't listen, don't
consider, don't understand. [music]
Tired of keeping things bottled up until
anger explodes inside you. Tired of
feeling like you're always the one who
ends up getting hurt. Tired of a
word, a gesture, a silence, a
misunderstanding, uh [music] an attitude
ruining your whole day. But
the most exhausting thing is not the anger
itself, but the feeling of losing
control of yourself. That feeling of
something burning inside, squeezing you,
pushing you, making you react in ways you
later regret, [music]
that momentary disconnection from your calm,
that inability to stop, and the
hardest thing [music] is that many times the
anger comes from small things,
insignificant things, [music] things that in
theory shouldn't affect you so much, and that's where
that frustration appears, why does it
affect me so much? Why can't I
just let things go?
Why do I keep getting angry about the same thing? What you don't
know is that your reaction is not moral,
it's neurobiological. It's not a lack of
maturity, it's a lack of training; it
's not your character, it's your nervous system
interpreting danger where there is none. You are
not broken, you are not damaged,
you are conditioned and that
conditioning can be undone.
Before we delve
deeper into this topic, I want to ask you
something very simple, but it helps me
a lot to continue creating content
like this [music]
, right? I would love for you to leave me a
comment with a phrase to let me know you
're with me on this [music] journey.
The phrase you should write is: My peace is
my superpower. [music] That will be our
signal, our way of recognizing each other
among those who are learning to
live with more awareness and more peace.
[music] Now then, take a deep breath and let
's continue with the talk. Now listen to
this. [music] Anger is not a
defect, it's an alarm. An alarm that
is triggered when your brain detects
threat, injustice, disrespect, lack of
control, or unresolved inner pain.
[music] The problem is not being angry,
the problem is getting stuck in it.
Believing that the person in front of you
is the one causing it, when the truth is
that that person is only touching a place
inside you that was already inflamed.
Anger [music] is a messenger, not the
enemy. The enemy is not knowing how
to interpret it, but nobody taught you
this. [music] They taught you to
react, to swallow, to explode,
[music] to avoid conflict, to
stay silent until you explode. You
were taught to think that anger was bad
when the reality is that anger is
information. Information about your
limits, your pain, your tiredness, your
unheard needs. And since nobody
taught you how to process it, your brain
learned on its own and did it wrong.
Now I want you to think about this.
How many times have you gotten angry with someone
and in the end realized that your
reaction was bigger than the
situation? How many times have you said things
out of anger that didn't represent what
you really felt? How many times did you feel
guilty afterward? How many
times have you promised not to get that angry again,
and then you did it again? It's not a
coincidence, it's not bad luck, [music] is
not your personality, it's a cycle, a
biological cycle. Because when someone
does something that bothers you, it's not the
action itself that triggers you, it's the
meaning your brain gives it.
[music] And that meaning comes loaded
with memory. Past experiences, [music]
[music]
unresolved wounds, expectations,
beliefs, fears and accumulated tensions.
accumulated tensions. [music]
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So what you see in the present is
filtered through your past. You don't react to the
fact. You react to your story,
you react to your interpretation, [music]
you react to what that situation has
awakened within you. Anger is a
reflex, [music]
a programmed reflex, but what's
fascinating is that you can reprogram it.
To stop getting angry at people
forever, first [music] you have
to understand the following. People
don't act to irritate you. They act
from their own history, their own
limitations, their own level of consciousness.
And when you get angry, you're not
responding to them. You are responding
to an internal button that they have been
pressing for years, even if they don't know it. Your
mind interprets a look as
contempt, a word as an attack, [music]
[music]
an attitude as rejection, silence
as abandonment, a mistake as
disrespect, [music] a change as
betrayal. But the truth is that
most of the time none of that is
true. Your brain fills the gaps with
fear. Fear of not being enough, fear
of not being seen, fear of not being valued,
fear of being hurt again. And that
fear disguises itself as anger so that you don't have to
feel the vulnerability
behind it. Anger is a shield, a
protection, [music] a defense. It
makes you strong on the outside when you feel
weak on the inside. [music] It makes you feel big on
the outside when you feel small on the
inside. It makes you tough on the outside when you
feel fragile on the inside. But that
defense, although it protects you, also
isolates you [music] and if you don't understand it, it
traps you. Hey, what nobody tells you is
that anger is secondary. The
primary emotion is always something else. sadness, [music]
[music]
fear, tiredness, frustration,
disappointment, insecurity, but since those
emotions hurt more, your brain
transforms them into anger, because anger
makes you feel in control, even if it is a
false control. Here comes one of the
central keys to your transformation.
If you want to stop getting angry at
people forever, you have to
learn to see what emotion is
under your anger. [music]
Behind the anger over an unanswered message
, there is a fear of disinterest.
[music] Behind the anger at
criticism lies a fear of not being enough.
Behind the anger over a bad gesture, there is
accumulated fatigue [music]. Behind
anger at someone else's attitude, there is an
unexpressed expectation. Behind the
anger at other people's irresponsibility,
there is a fear of having to do everything yourself.
Behind anger over injustice lies
an old, unresolved wound. Behind
the anger, due to a lack of
recognition, lies a desire to be
seen. When you learn to identify what
lies beneath, anger no longer
controls you because you stop fighting with the
person and begin to understand yourself. The
power changes places, [music] it returns to
your hands. But here's the paradox.
To stop getting angry at others, you
first have to stop getting angry at
yourself. Every time you demand
more of yourself than you can give, every time you
blame yourself for feeling, every time you
punish yourself for making a mistake, every
time you expect perfection from yourself, every
time you don't forgive yourself, every time you don't
listen to yourself, that self-anger is what you
then project onto others. The
way you treat yourself internally
becomes the filter through which you
view the world. When you speak
harshly to yourself, the world seems hostile.
When you speak to yourself with compassion, the world
stops seeming like a threat. [music]
Your anger diminishes, not because the world
changes, but because you are no longer
fighting with yourself. [music]
Now we go deeper, much
deeper. Anger also arises when
your body is tense, [music]
when your breathing is short, when
your heart rate is accelerated, when
your muscles are contracted, when you have been
sleeping badly for days, [music]
when your nervous system is
overloaded, when
you have been feeling
constantly responsible for months, [music]
in other words, your physiological state
determines your emotional reaction. [music]
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A tense body produces an
irritated mind. An altered body produces a
reactive mind. [music]
An exhausted body produces an
explosive mind. You can't stop getting angry
if you don't regulate your body. It's not about
enduring or being patient. [music]
It's about training your nervous system
to interpret situations
from a place of calm, not threat. And
here's a truth that may
upset you, [music]
but is absolutely liberating. You don't get
angry about what they do to you, you get angry
because your body is not in a condition
to handle what is happening. Because when you
are at peace within yourself, even if someone
fails, even if someone speaks badly to you,
even if someone does something incoherent, you
don't react the same way. [music]
You feel the emotion, yes, but you don't
explode. You don't catch fire, you don't
lock yourself up, you don't break. [music] You can
answer from a clearer place. That's
when you discover that anger is not
inevitable, [music] it is trainable, it is
adjustable, it is curable. And now I want to
open up something much deeper to you. Your
brain doesn't want you to stop being angry, [music] it
[music] it
wants you to understand what your anger
is asking for. When you understand it, the
anger dissolves. When you ignore it, it
intensifies. Your anger asks for rest, not
war. Ask for limits, not attacks.
[music] Ask for clarity, not argument.
Ask for space, not abandonment. Ask for
understanding, not blame. And [music]
when you start giving your inner self what it
needs, something extraordinary
happens. [music] Your reaction changes
forever. You no longer explode, you no longer hold
grudges, [music] you no longer shut yourself away
, you no longer interpret everything as
personal, you no longer take things as an
attack, you no longer waste energy on
endless mental arguments.
You learn to set boundaries calmly,
[music] to say what you feel without
hurting, to respond without reacting, to
express without destroying, [music] to
withdraw without punishing. And here comes the
most powerful thing you're going to hear in this
video. True emotional freedom is
not about ceasing to feel anger, it's about ceasing to
be trapped by it. Because you will feel
anger, of course, it's human, but you will
no longer be a prisoner, you will
no longer lose control, you will
no longer overflow, you will no longer poison yourself
with your own thoughts. [music]
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Anger will come and go without staying,
without destroying, without consuming, just as what it
is: a passing emotion. [music]
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And when you achieve that, it will transform
all your relationships. Your relationships
become healthier, [music] your
conversations more honest, your boundaries
clearer, your presence more stable, [music]
[music]
your energy lighter, your mind more
organized, your life more peaceful.
[music] And this is just the beginning.
Next, we'll get to the most
important thing: how to train your brain
to stop getting angry, how to regulate
your nervous system in seconds, and how to
free yourself forever from the
automatic reactions that have worn you down
for years. What's coming is going to
change your life. There is a moment in this
process when you stop looking for someone to
blame outside yourself. Not because people don't
make mistakes, not because others don't
have hurtful attitudes, not because
life [music]
adjusts, but because you understand something
crucial. The only place where
you can truly heal your anger is within yourself. And
that discovery, although it may seem
simple, is one of the most
profound liberations that exist. Because the
moment you understand
that the power no longer lies in the actions of
others, but in how you process them, something
ignites within you, something is
released, something settles, and then for the
first time you begin to see anger
differently, no longer as an enemy, but
as an indicator, no longer as an obstacle,
but as a teacher. No longer as an
uncontrolled reaction, but as an
opportunity to get to know yourself better. Because
every time you get angry, something inside
you is saying, "There's a
wound here. There's an uncommunicated expectation here
. There's a part of me that
still feels alone, tired, unseen,
not validated." And when you listen to that
message instead of ignoring it, the anger
loses its power, loses its shape, loses its
meaning. It stops controlling you.
To stop getting angry at people
for good, you need to do something
almost no one does. Look at yourself in the moment you
're angry. Not look at what
the other person did, but look at your
own body. What's
happening in your chest, in your breathing,
in your throat, in your hands, in your
posture, in your abdomen? Because anger
doesn't start in the mind, it starts in the
physiology. Your breathing becomes rapid
before you think, your
muscles tense before you reason,
your pulse quickens before you decide to
get angry, your body reacts
before you do. And if you learn to notice that
bodily microsecond, you can change
the entire story. That's
where reactivity is rewritten.
That micro-instant where something in
your body says "alert." Why does it say
"alert"? Because something that
happened reminded you of something old,
unconscious, not obvious, not logical, something
emotional, something from
years ago, a tone of voice similar to the one you heard, a
gesture that resembles someone who
betrayed you, an interruption that
feels disrespectful because you were silenced for too long
before, a
lack of attention that resonates with
times when you were never listened to.
The brain doesn't distinguish between past and
present; it responds to patterns. And every
time a situation touches on that pattern, your
reaction is bigger than the situation.
That's why your anger is
so strong. It doesn't come from today. It comes from what you
couldn't say 10 years ago.
It comes from what you kept quiet about to
maintain the Peace. It comes from what
you swallowed to avoid losing someone.
[music] It comes from the injustice
you experienced without understanding it.
It comes from the accumulation of silences. [music] It
[music] It
comes from all the times you were
too strong for too long.
Your body remembers, [music] your mind
races, your emotion explodes, but here's
the powerful part. You can retrain the
pattern, not to stop feeling,
[music] but to stop reacting.
And that's done in three layers, [music] the
body, interpretation, and boundary.
The first layer is the body. If your
breathing is rapid, your mind
will interpret everything as danger. If your
posture is tense, your brain will assume you're
threatened. If your shoulders
are raised, your nervous system
will activate defenses. [music]
All of that happens before you even think. The
key to stopping anger is regulating
your body in real time. [music]
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Slower breathing, a loosening abdomen,
lowering shoulders, a
relaxing jaw, a
slightly opening chest. That Microregulation
[music] literally changes the
neural signal, and your anger diminishes. [music]
The second layer is interpretation.
This is where almost everything comes into play. You don't react to
what the person does, but to the
meaning your mind assigns to it. And that
meaning is full of distortions. [music]
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You think they do it on purpose,
you think they want to hurt you. You think they
don't respect you, [music] you think they do
n't care about you. You think their
intention was malicious. But 90% of
human conflicts don't occur because of malicious
intent, but because of unregulated neurobiology
. Stress, fatigue,
past experiences, fear,
emotional ignorance. Uh, most people aren't
acting against you; they're acting for themselves,
from their own shortcomings, [music]
from their own limitations. And when
you understand that, the anger loses
intensity. The third layer is the
boundary. This is where many people
[music] fail because they confuse not
getting angry with putting up with everything. And that It's
false. Ceasing to react doesn't mean
allowing, [music] it means choosing, it
means responding clearly, it
means setting boundaries [music]
without yelling, without hurting, without destroying. It
means saying no to this, [music] yes to this
, I can't do this, I can do this, but from a place of
human interaction. [Music] But there's something even
deeper you need to understand. A lot of
your anger comes from
unexpressed expectations. [Music]
When you expect people to act like
you, think like you, have your values,
your boundaries, your way of seeing life, you'll
always end up disappointed.
People aren't, [Music] they don't have your
history, they don't have your sensitivity, they don't
have your level of awareness, they don't have
your judgment. And when you truly begin to accept
this, not from resignation,
but from understanding, something inside
relaxes because you stop demanding that the
world act according to your map and you start
looking at the other person's map, and then
you discover something transformative. Most
people do the best they can with
the tools they have. [Music]
Sometimes their tools are poor,
sometimes their wounds are deep. [Music]
[Music]
Sometimes their patterns are chaotic,
sometimes their way of loving is clumsy, sometimes their
way of expressing themselves [Music] is
immature, but very rarely is the harm they
inflict intentional.
Intention is rare, unconsciousness is
common. And when you see this, the anger
deflates [Music] because you no longer
personalize, you no longer interpret as an
attack what is only a limitation, but do
n't confuse [Music] this. Understanding
is not justifying, accepting is not
permitting. [Music]
Seeing the other person's wound does not mean
tolerating their harm. Ceasing to be angry does not
mean enduring. Ceasing to be angry
means responding from your power, not
from your pain. [Music] Now let's get to the very
core of it all. Anger arises
when your body believes it is losing
dignity. [Music] dignity through
respect, boundaries, presence,
voice, space. And when you learn to
Giving yourself that dignity, [music]
setting boundaries, speaking clearly,
listening to your body, you no longer need
anger to defend yourself, because you
are no longer defenseless. [music] That's the
core, that's the secret.
Your anger will disappear when your
nervous system registers, I am safe, I know how to
defend myself, I don't need to fight. [music]
At that point your life changes, your
relationships change, your communication
changes, [music] your connections become more
organized. People stop
perceiving you as explosive and
begin to see you as stable [music]
[music]
and you begin to feel your own
stability because you no longer react
from the wounded child, you react from
the conscious adult, and a day comes when
something happens that you never thought possible.
possible. [music]
[music]
Someone does something that would have
angered you greatly before [music] and you don't get
angry, not because you are perfect, not
because you don't have emotions, but because
your nervous system no longer interprets it as a
threat, [music]
because there is no longer an active wound, because there is no longer You
're at war with yourself, because you
no longer feel the pain you once did, because you
no longer filter everything through the lens of the past, because you
're no longer trapped in your old self. That
day, without even realizing it, you realize
[music] you stopped getting angry at
people, and in that instant, the
deepest reflection of all appears. The one that
separates you from your former self, the one that
lifts you emotionally, the one that
liberates you. You didn't stop getting angry at
people, you stopped fighting with yourself
[music], and that changes everything. The
internal war is over, calm has prevailed. And now,
to close this process, I want you to
integrate the most [music]
transformative part. Your life will be
completely different when you learn to
choose your reactions. [music] You'll be able to
watch someone act from their own hurt
without letting it touch yours. You'll be able to
see the chaos in others without losing your
center. You'll be able to set boundaries without losing
your composure. You'll be able to express your discomfort
without losing your dignity. You'll be able to
say goodbye to people without hating them.
You'll be able to let go without resentment. [Music]
You will be able to leave without burning out. That is the
true triumph of emotional growth.
emotional growth.
Not to stop feeling, but to stop
getting trapped in what you feel. Not to
stop reacting, but to learn to
do so consciously. [Music]
Not to avoid conflict, but to go through it
without destroying yourself. And now I want to close
with a reflection that I want you to
remember for [Music] the rest of your
life. People cannot take your
peace unless you give it to them, and you are
not going to give it away. Not now, not
later, not ever. Take a deep breath. Feel
your body, feel your chest a little more
open, [Music] feel your mind
clearer. That is the beginning. The rest
will follow. And now I want to ask you for
something important, something that will
symbolically mark this new chapter in your
life. I want you to write this
powerful phrase below: My calm is my
superpower. It is simple, it is direct, it is
transformative. You write it, and your brain
registers a new pattern, a new
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