YouTube Transcript:
5 signs someone dislikes you (but is hiding it)

once we reach our late 40s or 50s or 60s
the quality of her life in many respect
revolves around the quality of the types
of friends that we're surrounding
ourselves by so in today's video I want
to share with you five signs that maybe
your friend that you think likes you
really doesn't like and maybe they
dislike I think it's important that we
know the difference and as a financial
advisor for over 20 years I've met many
many different people and part of my job
was to get to know people to have a feel
of what's motivating them and I want to
share with you some of the top tips that
I found and the hopes that you don't
waste your time you surround yourself
with true friends so let's jump in and
one of the first signs is not only is it
hard to get on their schedule you know
to say hey let's do something together
but
they're also likely to to cancel at the
last minute or or cancel what after
they've already committed to doing
something and you know what life is just
too short for that so if somebody does
that two or three times for you you know
it's not a good sign another one and
this one I want to be cautious on
because you know here I am I'm in Costa
Rica as I record this this is definitely
an American cultural thing but the
reality is we live in America so they
you know these things matter and that is
if somebody's always late to getting
together with you it may not be that
they dislike you it just might be that
they're not showing respect you know in
the United States we're raised you know
five minutes is kind of the margin of
error for being late and if you're going
to be more than three four five minutes
late you need to send a text to your
friend and and and let them know you're
going to be late so if somebody is
showing up late and they act like it's
no big deal in the US culture that's a
warning sight in the Latin American
culture it's it's definitely not a
warning sight you know getting together
for lunch at 12:00 noon really means you
know
sometime actually lunch it would be
closer to 2 o'clock here but it would
not be unusual for somebody to be 15
minutes late that would be considered
being pumpable here okay so that's
that's the second one the the third one
is if it seems like they don't show the
same level of
enthusiasm when when you're getting
together with them that maybe you notice
that that they show for other people and
you know we all have bad days so just
because somebody's not very outgo uh
when we get together with them or you
know we go to a football game with them
or whatever and maybe they're having a
bad day and so they're kind of quiet you
know that's fine but if you're at a
social event and and they're acting one
way towards you and but maybe they're
acting a different way towards other
people more energy more excitement you
know uh giving somebody a hug when they
see them as opposed to a handshake or a
kiss on the cheek uh as opposed to a
handshake or a hey how you doing type
thing um that can be a warning sign and
again all of these things I think are
important because we want to surround
ourselves with people that are going to
give us energy that are going to make
the quality of our life better which
which brings me to the to the third
point which is do they give you
energy when when you are visiting with
them afterwards you think you know I'm
really glad I spent time wake them and
it seemed like they were energized by
spending time with you and they they
were excited to have seen you and
they're they're asking hey when are we
going to get together next you know we
should do this more often those are the
kinds of things that we want I think a
friends almost like a Garder my
grandfather was a
farmer and uh he passed away before I
was born but my mother and her sisters
have shared with me how much work it was
being a farmer and you know my
grandfather would have to cultivate the
main crop that you was growing so he
would spend time effort water nutrients
and are your friends putting that into
the relationship with you and if they're
not you know maybe that's okay we have
different levels of friends and it's
definitely uh healthy to to have
different levels of friends right not
everybody's going to be your best friend
but if your friend's not returning the
amount of effort and um nurturing a
relationship like you are and if they're
sucking energy out of your relationship
maybe it's time to think about you know
one of the things a farmer has to do is
he's got to weave the Fe the the field
and he's got to make sure that um the
cop is is is healthy and maybe you need
to do that as well okay the the fifth
one and stick around to em because I'm
gonna I'm gonna share how we put this
all together and how it can really lead
to enrich your life but the the fifth
one is if the person you're spending
time with is putting down other people
in front of you you know then the
question become what does they say about
you in front of other people right I
mean there are kind people do crazy C
things I'm sure my friends has said you
know hey like my started a YouTube
channel can you believe us school
started in YouTube show that seems
strange to them and I'm sure there were
conversations that were taking place uh
amongst them that I didn't know about
and that's that's okay you know I'm the
only one of my friends that have a
YouTube channel so that was that was
kind of strange and and then it kind of
took off sub there was a conversation on
on that as well but you know if it goes
beyond that if it goes towards you know
somebody saying something negative about
you or if you find out from your friends
that somebody is is saying one thing to
your face and then another thing behind
your face now I don't have a problem
when somebody's like hey you know what
ass did this and it hurt my feelings and
I wish he hadn't done that and
unfortunately i' had accidentally done
that I try to be a really good friend uh
to my friends uh but you know what
sometimes I step on people's toes which
which brings me to the next one is we're
not always going to be perfect friends
for the people that we hang around with
and when we do make a mistake being
willing to
forgive being willing to let all it the
sign of a good friend is your willing to
do that when when you do that to them
and Bas versal when you do that to
others because we all know it becomes a
trap when we hold on to a grudge The
Grudge hurts us more than the person
that we're saying hey I wish this person
had not done that so friends are the
Spice of light in retirement friends are
the spice of life when we're working
French are the spice of life we have all
the responsibilities of raising our kids
I just want to make sure that that spice
Al like is in Asing your meal not
destroying your meal right a little bit
of garlic goes a long way a little bit
of Al banero sauce goes goes a long way
as well and I want your friends to to be
helping you put together the perfect
melody of a
meal that allows you and your friends to
enjoy their like to the Fuller which is
one of the reasons I made this video up
there which talks about the eight things
to stop doing as you get ready for
retirement so you can enjoy the journey
until you're retired thanks for watching
in this video I'll see you in the next
byebye