Bullying is fundamentally a dominance behavior rooted in an imbalance of power, and the most effective way to counter it is by developing emotional resilience and refusing to give bullies the satisfaction of an emotional reaction.
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call me an idiot you're an idiot what
you say you're an idiot
you're an idiot you're ugly it hurts my
feelings yeah like I care I'm gonna get
you in trouble
sure short stuff I'm taller than you
shut up you called me an idiot one more
time and I will win they'll kick your
face like I care like you could do
these clothes are freaking awesome okay
sure plaid and sweater vests oh you have
eyes you can see stop being me I hate
your face stopping me I hate blonde
people all right give her a big hand
clap she did great all right now hold on
hold on good job all right I tried to
stop you I couldn't you did a great job
we're gonna play one last time same
rules you can call me an idiot I'm gonna
try to stop you don't let me stop you
okay you keep being mean to me you think
I could stop her all right I'll try here
we go on the count of three everyone say
action one two three you one call me an
idiot you're an idiot
oh you think I'm an idiot yeah yes
sometimes I do stupid things that's true
yeah you do you always do stupid things
I know you're so smart you're so lucky
yes I am
you're awesome thank you and you're not
I don't know we established that go look
my happiness is not based on whether you
think I'm cool or not I'm gonna be happy
even if you hate my guts okay it'll
always be nice to use sweetheart okay no
isn't she [Music]
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thank you you're welcome
I want give me a big hand clap that was awesome
awesome
sociologists have been studying bullying
for decades they just don't call it
bully and they've always called the
dominance behavior that it's other
people trying to overpower others and
it's just like the animal kingdom
you know the alpha male mentality that's
what's happening on campus and so when
we understand it in terms of dominance
behavior people trying to have power
over another that helps us understand
what to do about bullying when we really
understand what it is all the bullying
experts agree on one thing that bullying
is an imbalance of power that someone's
trying to have power over you they want
to see you lose and they want to win you
see the experts say it's an imbalance of
power let me put it this way let's say a
bully says they hate your guts I hate
your guts
if you respond out of anger shame the
bully loves that never do you don't care
that's the point stupid you see the more
upset you get the more angry you get the
more fun they have but what would happen
if we were resilient everybody say
resilient what if we were emotionally
strong everybody say strong what if we
were mentally tough everybody say tough
then no matter what the hater says you
wouldn't care I hate your guts that's nice
nice
you smell like body odor you're nasty
thanks for the information
your face is ugly you have a face of an
angel three cheeks okay maybe that was
too far but how awesome would it be if
you the victim of relentless teasing and
taunting or bullying decided to not get
upset to have tough skin to allow the
hateful mean words of others bounce
right off you and not care what the
other person says if if you explain to
students that bullying is nothing more
than a game about winning and losing and
that the way that they can win is by not
getting upset and the bully will lose
and when people lose they don't like
playing the game so they'll leave you
alone when you explain that to a student
it's simple it's concrete it's not
abstract it's not ethereal it's not
complex it's simple
don't get upset no matter what they say
I'm not saying it's easy but in logic
it's very simple now it's important to
know this when I say boolean I'm only
talking about when someone's hurting
your feelings if you can understand
bullying in terms of someone hurting
your feelings then the solution is very
simple but some people think bullying is
more complex than hurting your feelings
they think bullying is like violence let
me make it very clear when I say
bullying I'm not talking about when
someone punches your face I actually
believe that you know you should get
upset if someone punches your face
that's not bullying that's called
assault and battery okay don't just
no dude if someone straight-up punches
your face get upset why cuz that's a
crime that's not bullying it's a crime
and crime should be punished and if you
ever feel like your life is in danger
you should be protected you should reach
out for help [Music]
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