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This content is an introductory session for the "Unbeatable Leader Challenge," focusing on the foundational principle of "body first" as the key to achieving integration, freedom, and an unbeatable mind. It emphasizes that true transformation comes not from theory, but from understanding and applying principles through consistent practice, starting with the physical self.

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We'll just we'll go ahead and get

started. So, I'm going to go ahead and

flip the camera around. Everybody go

>> Hya. Good to see everybody. I got all

your faces on screen. Well, not all of

them, but uh a lot of familiar faces.

Really nice to see you back here. Um

welcome to unbeatable leader challenge

number three.

four. Wow,

I missed one. Who led that one?

>> I'm here with Christian and Stephanie.

We're in our studio in um Myiramar, uh

San Diego, and it's about 40 degrees in here,

here,

so they're keeping me on my toes. Uh but

like Christian said, there are Navy

Seals sitting in the surf right now, so

I got nothing to complain about. Um,

Um,

yeah. Wow. January 2026. What a what a

year it's already been, huh? Holy cow.

Uh, well, we're going to make uh this uh

time you're going to spend with me in

the next couple days valuable uh to help

make this year a real uh transformative

year. Like

my dream for y'all is that, you know,

like a caterpillar becoming a butterfly,

this is the year that you break through,

break out of whatever limitations or

constrictions are holding you back. Um

because it's all mind generated. Like

the only the only thing holding you back

is you

regardless of what you might perceive to

be your barriers or limitation is simply

you. Your perception of your reality. So

alls I can do here is to help you see

that and it's going to be different for

every one of you, right? We're going to

talk about things that actually for you

know for most of you here you already

have heard me talk about this stuff ad

nauseium right um but as you probably

know especially those of you who join me

on the performance coaching every month

which is a number of you uh it's not so

much the theory right because there's

only so much theory you can cram into

your small brain and theory is

meaningless it's just a heap of words uh

so I throw a bunch of a bunch of words

out, but it really is how you understand

those words, what meaning you give to

those words, and then what are you going

to do with your understanding of the

meaning of those words? And every one of

you will have a different take on it.

Right? If I were to take five of you out

of the, you know, out of that room, the

Zoom room, and put you right around me,

and ask you for your interpretation of

what I just said or or the theory, and

I'm going to give five different answers

because your world is your world. And

your world is based upon your

perception, your beliefs, which create

your reality, which then also dictates

what you look for in the world, which

reinforces your belief and reinforces

your perceptual reality. So what we can

do here is uh create some sort of like

commonality of understanding or cons a

new consensus reality around uh maybe

something that's a little bit more

powerful than what you've been taught or

spoonfed right your entire lives.

So it's uh it's not so much the theory

but it's how you interpret the theory.

And then um in between the theory

because of the nature of the way I teach

is where all the good stuff comes.

Right? So I don't have any idea what I'm

going to say. Uh and I don't mean that

like I'm not prepared because I am

prepared. Uh what I mean is the good

stuff comes through spontaneous um

um spontaneous

spontaneous

knowledge come or or wisdom I guess you

could call it uh coming at the right

moment for maybe just one of you right

or maybe all of you. Um it's a way I say

something. It's a new vector, right? So

if you think about just like this world

is a fractal there's a there's an

infinite number of vectors to be able to

perceive reality. And so alls I'm doing

is like I'm like a magnifying glass

who's going to open up the aperture so

you see things from a new angle. And it

might be just one thing you hear over

the next two days that changes

everything. It's like it's like a

cascading creates a cascading failure in

maybe one uh one kind of uh sub routine

of your mental programming which then

allows for an entirely new set of uh

programming or information to come in.

That's what we're looking for. We're

looking for those moments, those ahas,

those crystallizations, those moments

where like suddenly you have a

completely new understanding of either

something which that something will lead

to a new understanding of yourself which

is ultimately all you really have is

this idea of who I am um understanding

the self.

So really that's what we're doing here

now is unbeatable leader the unbeatable

mind system um like

is it unique in a sense um not really I

mean there's there's a lot of training

methodologies out there um but it is

different in the sense that it's it's um

it's probably the first and truly fully

integrated uh program right that that

that covers is the full dimensionality

of the human being. Uh so that's why

we're going to start today with at the

beginning uh which is this the beginning

is basically your body. So we start by

really paying attention to your body

because obviously that's something that

we identify with and we're super

attached to and so we need to take care

of it but we also need to develop a

little sense of non-attachment to the

body. At any rate so you're in a good

place and I appreciate you being here.

Um that's my welcome. What are we doing

here and why? Well, what we're doing is

uh understanding and um a powerful way

to train

uh to train your body, mind, the

totality of who you are to become

essentially a fully integrated human being.

being.

Now, in a fully integrated human

society, this stuff would be taught uh

probably starting in maybe third or

fourth grade and uh by the end of high

school, we would all be fully integrated

human beings or darn close, right? We'd

be we'd be young, mature human beings.

But the problem is uh there's no

incentive to do that in our culture

because a fully human a fully integrated

human being has total agency has zero

fear has complete compassion and

understanding understands this this the

fact that the the story of separation is false

false

is content

contentedness equals peace of mind. uh

isn't susceptible to manipulation,

right? Isn't susceptible to um indoctrination.

indoctrination.

A fully integrated human being is free.

In other words, and as I say all that,

you can sense that very very very very

very very

few human beings are fully integrated

because we're completely captured

and the depth of the capture is is

absolutely hidden from everyone's view

including our own. Like I I will even

admit that the depth of the capture of

my mind is still partly hidden from me.

And in be mind I call that your

background of obviousness. And it starts

with language.

Like the language that you're taught is

absolutely part of your conditioning.

And it traps you in a limited narrow

range of operating.

And that's not even the worst of it

because it's not just the the language,

it's your interpretation of language of

the words. Everyone's got different

interpretation of the words that they're

that they're fed or taught. And so I

could say the word spirituality or

meditation or even integration and

everyone's going to have a different

idea what that means. And so we're all

trapped in this limited construct based

upon starting with language and then all

the different every single every single

thing that occurs in your life. Every

interaction, every piece of information

you take in, every news feed you read,

every interaction with your parents and

you know schoolard friends or peers or

bullies, your church, everything then

becomes part of your your matrix, your

understanding, your belief systems. And

then you try to prop that up as if it's

true and it's not. It's all just it's

all just training. So you've been

trained and conditioned to be a certain

way. And what I'm trying to do here is

to decondition to give you the tools,

the information to begin to decondition

and deconstruct all of that stuff which

is just

so that you can then reconstruct a life

that's based upon freedom. That's what

we're doing here.

That's cool. Um I find that very

motivating at least. So that's what

we're doing. And of course the why

that's for you to decide.

For me, there's nothing more motivating

than freedom.

Does anybody else share that?

Yeah, I think most most people do. I

think the drive toward freedom is a

fundamental aspect of our humanity,

right? The the true humanity within us,

right? Our true self like our you know

not the conditioned back on obvious ego

self but the true self

is free and so you you have a sense that

that's where you need to head

need to go. So that's that's my why. um

you have to kind of determine your own

why because ultimately the why is going

to drive what happens after this

training right

and after this training all you got is practice

practice

right so every day I want to develop in

you or have you develop the capacity to

see your life as a practice and you've

heard me say this before and in your

life you only have today. And so today

is a practice and how you start your

day, how you proceed through your day,

how you end your day, and how you

prepare for the next day is all a

practice. And the practices that we're

going to talk about will all lead you

toward freedom.

And that's what I mean by unbeal mind.

An unbeal mind is a free mind, right?

Free from all the negative conditioning

and and things that are holding you

back. And it's a never- ending process.

There's no there there. Uh there's just

more and more freedom. I love that. All

right. Um

here's the plan.

Check. Welcome everybody.

Uh we're going to do a spot drill. So

you all stand up now. We're going to do

a quick spot drill. We're going to go

into our first content session which is

talking about the body and the

importance of the body and why that must

come first. Right? This is something you

know those of you who know me this is

inc. This is my like box breathing and

body first are kind of like Mark Divine

signatures. You can't leave your body

behind. You must bring your body with

you on your journey. Otherwise you're

leaving most of your mind behind because

your mind and your body are not two

things. It's not two. Then we're going

to talk about identity and pressure and

what happens to identity under pressure.

And then we're going to talk about self- command.

command.

And then we're going to talk about

communities of practice. And and then

we'll be done unless you're staying with

me uh for the second session uh we're

calling uh premium or VIP where we're

going to do like Q&A and coaching. So in

this first hour and a half, it's not

coaching. It's me kind of teaching uh

conveying ideas and whatnot. Um if we

have time toward the end for some

questions, we'll take it. But the

questions are reserved for the second

hour and a half. So if you're not

joining me there, consider jumping to

that. Excuse me. All right. So quick

spot drill.

Since our focus today is body first,

we're going to do um and Dave Dave Weber

is going to lead. I'm just kidding,

Dave. You do enough of that. We're going

to do a real quick uh five rounds of 20

air squats, 10 push-ups,

20 second plank. Okay. And I'm going to

do it with my my jacket on because I've

got this, you know, headset and can't

take it off. All right. But I will

button it so it doesn't go flying. All

right. If um if you have a physical

limitation, then modify, right? If you

don't feel like doing it, then um I I

challenge you to question that feeling

because body first. When you move your

body, guess what? You're going to

stimulate energy. You're going to you

get the blood flowing. You're going to

clear your mind. And oh, by the way,

we're a team. Teams train together. Here

we go. First round. 20 squats. Down.

Two. And three. And four. And five. And

six. Seven. And eight. Nine. Modify as necessary.

Three. And four. And five. Six. 7. 8. 9.

20. Hooya. Push-up position. 10 reps.

Down. Two. Three. Four. Five. 6. 7. 8.

Hya.

It's six weeks

today from my latest shoulder surgery

and I'm doing push-ups. All right, on

your feet. Second set.

That's the power of the the healing

power of the body. Down. Down. Down.

Three. Down. Four. Five. Six. Seven.

Eight. Nine. 10. One. Two. Three. Four.

Five. 6. 7. 8. 9. And 20. Watch your

form. Straight spine. Push-ups.

Down. Two. Three. Four. Five. Six.

Seven. Eight. Nine. And 10.

Go at your own pace and plank. Hooya.

Hooya.

Straight as a board. Strengthen that core.

core.

Moving the energy.

Five, four, three, two. On your feet.

Good job. Round three. Here we go. Down.

Down. Two. Three.

Five. 6 7

9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

20 push-ups

down. Two, three, four, five, six,

seven, eight, nine, 10. Plant.

Plant. Huya.

Huya.

You thought you were going to just sit

there all cozy and just listen to Mark

Brattle on? No.

No.

Got to take care of that body and on

your feet.

Okay, the last two rounds are challenges

to breathe only through our nose.

Okay, the only one who should breathe

breathing through your mouth is me

because I'm talking. Breathe through

your nose. Ready? Down. Two, three,

four. Keep that mouth closed. Five 6 7 8

9 10. Good job. 1. 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9

20. Good. Plank position. Easy day.

Almost there. Down. Two. Three. Four.

Five. Six. Seven. Eight. Nine. 10. And

plank. Breathe through the nose.

Easy day.

Piece of cake. Hyahe.

Hyahe.

We got this

all the way.

Five 4 3 two one. On your feet. Last set.

set.

Last set. Best set. Hooya. Let me see

you smile. Here we go. Down.

2 3 4 5 6

8 9 10 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 and 20.

Last set of push-ups.

Down. Two. Three. Four. Five. Six.

Seven. Eight. Nine. 20. I mean 10. Plank.

Plank.

Five. Four. Three. Two. one. Good. All right,

All right,

go ahead. Either remain standing or sit

down. We're just do a few rounds.

Tactical breathing. Mouth closed. Inhale

through the nose

Exhale. We're going to add some holds.

We'll do like a three count. Inhale.

Three count. Hold. Inhale. Hold.

Hold. Exhale.

Hold. Inhale.

Hold.

Hold. Exhale.

Awesome. Hooya. Keep your eyes closed

and just get a sense for

And so you can start by feeling the

If you're standing, you feel the weight

of the gravity is experienced as if the

earth is pushing up against you. You

actually don't feel the downward

pressure. You just feel the the

opposite. You feel the as if the earth

is pushing up. So feel that. If you're

sitting down, you feel it as the chair

is pushing up against you.

So that's the weight, like the mass, the

perceived mass of your body.

So it gives you the sense that your body

is a thing.

It's got a mass to it.

But now take a moment to just reflect

upon the energy of the body.

You can feel the energy

Body is energy. Energy is flowing

through the body. It's enlivening all

the cells,

And and that energy is also life force.

So get a sense of the the aliveness of

your body.

What would it be like if it wasn't

alive? Well, you wouldn't be able to

perceive it, right?

So, life and perception go handinand glove.

glove.

They're not separate.

Conscious awareness and life

are not separate. They're the same thing.

Now just get a you know this is more of

a intellectual thing but just take a

moment to appreciate just the incredible complexity

complexity

how your respiratory function by

inhaling naturally. Unless you're doing

box breathing, you don't have to think

about it.

It's automatic and the body has the

capacity through the lungs to extract oxygen

oxygen

and have that oxygen then enter the

bloodstream and circulate throughout

your body.

And you have the ability to consume

water and food

food

which as soon as you consume it and

swallow it, you don't have to think

about anymore. But then the body does

this miracle of taking the nutrients out

to nourish the body,

keep it strong, hydrated,

hydrated,

and eliminate whatever doesn't belong,

toxins, the waste. Eliminated through

the breath, through the skin, through

sweat, and through other means that

you're well aware of.

Extraordinary, isn't it?

Now get a sense of your self-perception,

your self-concept of the body.

Now this is where it gets a little

philosophical because most people

identify as the body.

So you can ask yourself that, do I

And if that's true, even if it's not

true that you identify with the body,

you you have some self-concept of your

body. Now ask yourself, is it a good

Many people aren't in our culture

because we don't have a a physical culture.

culture.

We have a distraction culture which

likes to keep you distracted from health

and fill you with garbage foods and then

when you get out of balance fill you

with pharmacological interventions which

make things worse and disconnect you

from your body ultimately even your

mind. So if if if you've gone through

period of your life or

or you feel like you you're not

satisfied your body just note that don't judge.

judge.

This is a nonjudgment zone. We're not

talking about judgment.

We're talking about satisfaction or

dissatisfaction. And dissatisfaction is

one of the greatest motivators.

So, if you're carrying extra weight or

you've got some injuries or you feel

maybe you're too old to train or or too

weak or or whatever, those are all stories.

And just consider for a moment this idea

that if the body and mind are not two,

not separate things, the body and the

mind are all intertwined, interweven,

interleed, they are not two, then

wouldn't a healthy body equate to a

healthy mind?

I mean, that's just logic 101.

101.

Okay, open your eyes.

Throw up slide three just for a second.

I've got a few slides. Christian's going

to be able to put them on the board, but

I think you also have these, right?

Did they get sent these?

All right, we're going to send a slide

deck for today. It's simple stuff. Um,

so I'll be referencing it though. That's

not it. Um, that's not it. That's tomorrow.

Okay.

So the first thing I want to talk about

which I've already referenced earlier is

the idea of going from theory to

practice which leads toward

uh what a lot of people call mastery.

Uh, and I can use that term too, but

mastery is one of those words, like I

said, that everyone's going to have a

different orientation to. And it seems

unobtainable to most people because, you

know, we put um masters in a special

category, right? Like masters of a

martial art who do miraculous things or

masters of yoga who, you know, do

miraculous. And so, let's just call it integration,

integration, right?

right?

uh to to spend a lifetime training your

body in a certain way so you can run up

walls. Yay. Right? What what is that

going to give you except the ability to

run up walls? It's it doesn't mean

anything, right? It's a it's a trick of

the ego. So when we think when we talk

about mastery, we're talking about

integration to be a fully fully

embodied, fully integrated adult which

is free who is free. free from fear,

free from anxiety, free from shame, free

from guilt, free from any of those

negative energies,

free to pursue

your meaning in your life based upon

your understanding of your purpose,

passion, and principles and um and and a

a a self-concept of why you're here in

your own developmental journey. So, let

me just state this. Why do we start with

the body? Because when when we go from theory

theory

into practice, you can't leave the body

behind. I'll say it again. You can't

leave the body behind.

And um this is probably one of the great

benefits of

body centric practices such as Tai Chi

or Kiang or or yoga. uh but here in the

west that a lot of that uh those have

been conflated to exercise or just

health benefits and what I'm trying to

suggest is that all integrated training

when you want to head toward freedom

you've got to bring the body along and

what I mean by that is you've got to get healthy

healthy

as healthy as possible you've got to

eradicate disease ultimately eradicate

the potential for disease and live free

because if you're not free in your body,

then you're not free in your mind. And

here's the fact, the the test for that,

right? The the um the litmus test for

that is

every day, right, you wake up and you

you you seems like you've got

10 different problems or challenges,

right, that occupy your attention.

And you go about your day, you know,

navigating those challenges and those obstacles.

obstacles.

But when you get sick,

like the kind of sickness that pins you

to your bed and you're puking or you you

can't move because you got a major

injury like a snowmobile accident where

you hit a tree at 40 miles an hour and

your body is shattered or something like

that in case that ever happens to you,

then you only have one problem. Am I

right? You only have one problem

and that's your health.

And so the reality is you always only

have one problem and that's to maintain

a healthy body and mind, clarity and

physical health and vitality.

And with that then all the other

seemingly problems you have

are pretty easy.

>> You're able to navigate them.

Ultimately you see them as uh not as

problems but as opportunities.

But it's very hard to do that when your

body is constantly sick because it's

constantly or or broken or injured or un

or you just have this general feeling of

not being

physically strong because it's bleeding

off a big chunk of your willpower, your

And so you want your body to be as

inconspicuous to your attention and your

life as digestion is.

It should be the way you move should be

spontaneous and effortless.

Right? If you need to to go, you know,

run after uh a child, you know, who's

running on the road, it should be

spontaneous and effortless. You

shouldn't be like, "Oh, I can't do that

because I've got a hurt knee or

something like that." No. If you need

to, you know, do anything like, again,

I'm I'm taking crises for an example,

but if you need to crawl out of a

burning building through the a window

that's above you, like a pull-up, it

should be effortless and spontaneous.

Your body should never be the limiting

factor in your life. And I just want to

keep hammering that home. And never,

never, never. And it doesn't matter your age.

age.

Your body without your mind is simply an

inanimate object.

The mind and life force animate the body

and then the body follows the

instructions of the mind.

And it can go the other way when your

mind is out of control. If your mind

isn't in your control, then what we say

like the seal candidates is where your

body leads your mind will follow. So if

your body's feeling fatigued, your mind

is going to say, "Oh, I am fatigued."

Because you identify with a body.

And guess what? That statement, I am

fatigued, tells the body that it's

fatigued. And guess what? It gets more fatigued.

fatigued.

But if your mind is in control because

you've learned to control your body,

what you'll say is,

"I am strong.

The body is experiencing temporary

fatigue. Let's get through that. Let's

do something to change that." and the

body will comply because you're giving

So to go from the theory that I'm trying

to suggest that body comes first, you

can't leave your body behind. The body

is the experience machine of your mind.

It's not separate. They're the two of

the same thing. No mind, no body. No

body, no mind. Right? You you can't have

the experience on this plane of a

It's possible that you could have the

experience of a disembodied mind in

another dimension. I don't know. That's

beyond the scope of my understanding.

But it's not possible to have the

disembodied mind on this plane in this

human experience. So the body and the

mind go together. They're not two.

They're not separate.

That's theory. Okay. In practice, what

does that mean? It means that we train

the two together,

right? The most powerful meditation is

walking meditation or or fitness

meditation, right? Or Tai Chi or

movement meditation.

Because when all if all you do is sit

and you're not and you're disemboding,

you're you're basically acting from here

up, then you're missing

most of what you need to perceive,

which is your emotional life,

the sensations and emotions,

and those are affected by the health of

the body. Okay, that's practice. So, I

want you to understand that every time

you move your body, you're training your

mind. You're not just training your

body. And where do you not move your

body? You should you move it. You move

it to work. You move it around work. You

move it during the day. You move it to

through exercise. You should move it

through your squat drills and sematic

drills. And learn to get off your butt

and standing up more, walking around

more. Don't let your body

You know, like the whole transhuman

movement that we don't need your body.

We're just going to plug you into the

machine and artificial intelligence and

guess what? You're toast. Bye-bye. H

human 1.0.

The body is this unbelievably powerful,

miraculous experience machine. We've got

to give it the respect that it deserves.

Okay, enough said on that. I'm sorry to

sound a little preachy, but it's really

important. And it's through that

practice that'll get you to mastery. And

mastery for us is integration.

And we're going to talk uh about the

five mountains tomorrow, which um most

of you are familiar with. And the

process of integration and what that is like

and how do you affect that? Like how do

you how do you make that a certainty in

your life? Because integration is your birthright.

birthright.

When you're born, you're not integrated.

That's a falsehood. Like when you're

born, you're just a raw material.

And then we have the we're not

integrated as youth, but we have the

capacity as we develop into wholeness,

young adulthood, to be integrated. But

like I said earlier, we are not taught

this. And so we end up getting fractured

and separated into these separate little

silos. We got the body over here. No one

really no one gives the body enough um

you know energy or or attention or

training and not anymore. And so we got

to got to really double click on that

all the health factors which we're going

to talk about the six pillars in a

second. You know how do we like really

re-engage that? And then the mind right

how do we train the mind beyond just

consuming content which is actually

leading us further and further away from

freedom. And then how do we train our

emotions? How do we become aware of our

emotions and then intuition and then uh

this fuzzy word spirit which we'll dis

define a little bit more tomorrow. Um

so integration is all of that coming

together to be experienced as one

wholeness as opposed to distinct

separate things that get ignored.

And when mo most people think of

integration, they think of you like

individual, family, finances, church,

right, relationships. And th those are

just roles, right, that we play or those

are things we do in this dreamlike world

of ours to get by with a current story.

That's not integration. Integration is

taking all the broken off parts of

yourself, the physical part, your mental

parts, your emotional parts, your

intuitive parts, and your spiritual

parts, which are not parts, but you're

you're hidden. You're hiding it from

yourself and bringing it all together

into one experience of wholeness,

fully human adult wholeness.

And that experience of wholeness, like I

said earlier, is one of freedom and contentment.

contentment.

No lack, no limitation,

no fear.

I think those are the most worthy

pursuits, right? The other pursuits that

uh you know peak performance or other

you know programs talk about such as

manifestation and you know financial

abundance and

um and even relationship health. Those

are all those will come as a byproduct

of wholeness.

We don't chase them as individual

pursuits in and of themsel because that

just takes you further away from

integration. We first find integration

and then all of those other things are

attracted to us. Right? That's that's

the theory and that's the reality. Okay.

So, uh Christian pull up the next slide. So

right? The way we have this one is

stress management. That's a really big

one. We're going to talk about that a

little bit um

tomorrow or or today actually

and tomorrow.

Burnout, it's a big deal. So stress

management And and let me uh again

foundation I'm using this as like to

reinforce the need to take care of your

body but these six pillars include the

mind and so when I say take care of your

body I'm saying take care of the the

first layer of your mind which is the

perceptual capacity of your brain

right your brain and your heart brain

and your gut brain right so those are

part of your body but they affect the

perceptual capacity

which you experience as mind.

Mind and brain system, heart, gut, it's

all like

right. It's the physical, it's the

physical component of the mind.

So if the brain is not healthy, then

your mind is not going to be operating

effectively. And if the body is not

healthy, then the brain is not healthy.

Again, so simple. And again, the fact

check on this to validate my truth

statement is if you have a brain injury,

effectively?

You're going to be perceiving a reality,

but in the consensus reality, it's going

to be distorted.

And and anyone who's been around a brain

injured person knows what I'm talking

about. You have big memory gaps.

Um my my brother-in-law had a major

brain injury. He was hit over the head

with a tire law tire iron and he didn't

get any treatment for it. And um 10

years later like he's operating at about

a fiveyear level, 5-year-old level. He

can't take care of himself, right? He

can barely speak and he's when he does

speak, he speaks at about a five-year level.

level.

very strong body, but he got clanked

over the head and his brain isn't

functioning. So, it it it dramatically

affected his perceptual reality and

there's no coming back from that for

him. It's too far gone. So,

my point is brain, mind

are not two, right? So, we've got to

take care of the mind and the brain.

Stress management is one of the most

important things because stress in the

body leads to anxiety in the mind and

unresolved stress over time builds up in

the body, right? It's just like

constantly layering and layering and

layering and we have compensating

mechanisms for that. Um and

unfortunately those are unhealthy

such as drugs, alcohol, uh even

addiction to exercise, you know, and

getting into a um overtrained state is

is something I'd noticed quite a bit. Um

and pharmacological interventions which

further poison the body. So stress

management is critical.

But part of stress management is um

nutrition like what you put in your

body, right? So that's the second pillar

and all these ultimately relate and they

come together in integration right you

don't have to think about these things

just you because you've trained them so

much that they just become part and

parcel of your everyday life your

practices but looking very closely and

paying attention to the quality and the

quantity and the the timing of your

nutritional your food intake. You don't

need a fancy diet. You just need to

follow your intuition. And then

intuition is saying don't eat sugar

and don't eat things that turn into

sugar right away. Okay, that's principle

number one. Don't eat sugar and don't

eat sugar things that turn into sugar

right away. What turns into sugar right

away? Like simple processed carbohydrates,

carbohydrates,

junk food, you know, barcode food. Stay

away from barcode food if you can,

unless it's high quality.

And hydrate, right? your body 78% water,

then you should be drinking 78% of your

fluid should be water.

Okay? And if you drink some juice,

that's fine, but know that there's sugar

in it usually.

>> Um, and if you drink a glass of wine,

make sure you drink a glass of water.

So, you need to have lots of fresh

water. Drink more water. Eat no sugar.

And those two things right there will be

like principalbased eating will have a

dramatic effect in your life.

And then of course you need a lot of

protein and you need high quality food

protein sources that aren't contaminated,

contaminated,

right? So find the local grown, local

harvested whatever meats, fish

and uh support your local farmers

market. Same thing with the vegetables.

You need high quality uh recently um

harvested vegetables that have the

highest prana, the highest nutritional value

value

and uh you can only get those from

locally grown sources that have the

highest nutritional intake. If you eat

like this uh you wouldn't need any supplementation.

supplementation.

Now the other thing in nutrition is

think about this. Uh because our

corporate interests want you to buy a

lot of food, they tell you you've got to

eat three square meals a day. That's a fantasy.

fantasy.

That's a fantasy. Who says?

I don't. Um you eat when you're hungry,

sleep when you're tired,

right? That's natural rhythm. So

consider eating less.

Consider eating less food. You can do

that by reducing your portions. Uh

reducing the number of meals, two meals

instead of three. Doesn't mean you can

have can't have a small snack. You can

do that through intermittent fasting or

fast mimicking.

Studies prove that if you reduce the

quantity, the caloric intake, you

increase health and longevity.

It's a no-brainer. But if you're

addicted to eating a lot of food, then

that's a mental issue. You have to pay

attention to that and break free of that addiction.

addiction.

So nutrition is a huge thing because you

are what you eat both in terms of

content that you feed yourself and the

food and liquid that you put in your

body. It's going to have a massive

effect on your health and along with

stress, getting stress out of your life.

So that's the second pillar. The third

pillar we we say um

what does it say? I can't even read

this. Exercise and movement.

This is a big one. So, we did a spot

drill today. Uh that was super simple,

right? If you felt like that was hard,

then just keep doing that every day

until it's easy because um that was a

simple little drill. Five rounds, 20

squats, 10 push-ups, 20 second or 30

second plank. You could do that every

day when you wake up or some variation

of that. And if that's all you do and

you do it with attention and with

quality and with awareness, which is

mindful movement, then your body will

start to take that and be like, "Yes,

this is really good, right? I'm I'm

doing a lot of really powerful motion."

Just think about that. Your squats are

exercising your entire lower range and

your lower lumbar and your your posture,

right? So, you're strengthening your

ankles, your knees, your hips, your

lower lumbar, and even your core. And

then the push-ups, same thing. They're

strengthening your shoulders, your arms,

your back, your chest, your lower

lumbar. And when you finally learn how

to do them well, you've got your glutes

and your legs engaged. It's a full body exercise.

exercise.

And the plank is just icing on the cake

there. And you're learning to breathe

through your nose, calm yourself down,

and to really enjoy that movement. And

there's infinite variety you can come up

like we learned this through seal fit.

Um and some of you have trained in seal

fit. It's infinite variety. You could

probably go your entire life and never

do the same workout twice. Just change

up. And if you never do anything but

body weight, that's awesome. But

ideally, we're going to end up putting

some weights into the routine like

kettle bells or dumbbells. uh if you

want to get fancy barbells, but learning

how to move effectively and exercise

your body. Now, what this does, which is

different than nutrition and stress

management, is it introduces ustress

into your life. So, you have distress,

stress, and ustress. So, you know what

we really should have said in the first

pillar is distress management,

right? Because what you need to do is

manage distress and what you need to do

is introduce ustress. So ustress, eust

stress is exercise and movement.

And so what we do is we take our body to

a place that's uncomfortable

and we get comfortable with that

discomfort so that the next time we do

it, we can go a little bit further

and induce a little bit more discomfort.

And it's that it's riding that edge of

discomfort where we develop capacity.

That capacity shows up in the human body

as strength,

as the ability to do work without

getting injured.

And we call that durability, the ability

to go for a lifetime without getting

injured and even fatigued. It shows up

as stamina.

Stamina is the ability to do a lot of

work over time. It shows up as

endurance, which is cardiovascular

capacity, the ability to go for long

walks, long hikes, runs, swims, and it

shows up as functional capacity, the

ability to do things that you normally

would need to do in life that you might

be avoiding or you might be saying, "I

can't do that because I it's not me."

Uh, or you might say, "I need help." And

and when you train yourself, you don't

need help, right? You don't suddenly you

can do these things and it feels good.

And all of that leads to confidence

and all of it leads to um that what we

talked about earlier this body which

then becomes uh in unconscious

confidence where you don't have to think

about it anymore. It doesn't distract

you. You can turn all of that attention

to greater pursuits instead of stressing

stressing about your body. And just do a

thought experiment for me now. Right

now, how much time

and energy do you put into your body

every day? Think about it. You wake up

and you use the restroom and and maybe

you brush your teeth and you drink some

water. Oh, got to have your coffee,

right? Or your tea. That's all body,

right? Uh and then you're going to move

your body. You're going to go to the

gym. You're exercise. That's all body.

Now, it's body mind. We know here our

training, but right um

you might then do something later to get

the body out of a state of fatigue,

right? Think about all that. Then you

feed your body. You feed, you know, most

people feed at breakfast and then they

feed at lunch and then they feel like

they're getting fatigued so they have

another cup of coffee and then they feed

at dinner and if you were if you and

then you sleep for eight hours

or by the way because you're bored and

distracted you put on Netflix and eat a

bowl of popcorn. So that's all your

body. Like if you add it all up out of

the eight hours or or 16 hours of your

waking day, you know, probably a good

four or five hours are spent just on the body.

body.

It's wild, huh? So what we want to do is

is train the body so it a lot of what

you do is completely effortless

effortless

and you don't have to think about it.

you do it for because it's joyful.

Okay, the next pillar um is really

important. I read it sleep and recovery.

Have to have really good sleep,

effective sleep,

right? And then during the day, you want

to take time to recover. So, my primary

make sure that for the two hours or so

before you go to bed, you're you're

eliminating all stimulation as as much

as possible. It's very hard for people

to do that. Even if you could just uh do

it an hour, if you shut off the TV, shut

off your phone, um

don't eat anything, don't drink

anything, and just use that time to

reflect, to journal, or to read or to

communicate with your significant other

and and uh process anything that's

negative, anything that is is bugging

you from the day. That's the part of the

evening ritual. Get it out of your head,

get it onto paper.

and you will find the quality of your

sleep will dramatically improve.

Okay? Stress management will help with

this. Exercise will help. Nutrition will

help. But beyond those things, the

biggest thing you can do is eliminate

the stimulants an hour or more before

bedtime. That's huge.

Um, there's a lot of other strategies

for sleep that you can easily gro. Uh, I

don't need to go into it right now, but

it's really important. Now, when it

comes to recovery, I don't just mean

physical recovery. So, with your

physical training, you're going to want

to build in active recovery and rest

days. We know that. So, build that into

your training plan. Uh, and also like

times where you just kind of like back

off and train lightly if you've been

training really hard. That's all

important for recovery. What I'm really

most interested in is daytoday recovery

from just exertion. not necessarily

exercise. So exertion can be like uh um

a really intense meeting or any kind of

meeting any anywhere where you're

putting thought you know energy in uh so

like work setting um

you we we need to take time after every

deep work session or every meeting or

everything that's like you consider to

be an important thing in your day. take

time afterwards to recover.

This is like the the the balancing of of

um what I uh call effort and surrender,

right? Effort and surrender. You put in

effort, but then you need to back off

and surrender. And what happens? So, one

example of this is this is what I do is

schedule my meetings for 45 or 50 minutes

minutes

and and I might have another meeting at

the top of the hour, but from the 50

minute mark until the hour, I've got 10

minutes. And in that 10 minutes, I got

time to recover. I've got time to let my

mind kind of distill everything that

happened in the meeting or that, you

know, whatever was happening beforehand.

I got time to do some breathing. Uh I've

got time to walk around, uh maybe check

in with uh somebody else. Those are spot

drills. And spot drills are about recovery.

recovery.

And the research is is out in this too, right?

right?

When you do this, you give your brain a

chance to assimilate and relax, which

then gives you tremendous much more

energy for your next thing that's on

your docket. Because if you just go uh

hour to hour to hour to hour, you don't

have that that break to pause, digest,

recover, and you drag a lot of energy

from each, you know, each meeting into

the next meeting. And it builds up and

it creates this drag effect on you,

right? until by the end of the day or

midday uh you're completely depleted.

Right? This is why willpower declines as

you go through your day. Motivation

declines, energy declines. But if you if

you take this one piece of advice and

just block your schedule for 50 minutes

or even 45 and do that recovery in

between, then your actual energy will

increase throughout the day. Your

motivation will increase throughout the

day because you're taking that time to

recover. And recovery simply means

bringing more energy in and getting rid

of any toxins or anything that doesn't

belong and including uh most importantly

like when things are like not ideal, not

optimal in whatever you just did. So you

process it and you let it go.

All right, I'm going to move a little

faster here through this section. So

after this um

social connection, right? So

probably the most miserable people in

the world are those lone rangers, right?

Who say they don't need anybody,

they can go it alone and they might be

able to go alone, but there's um

generally this feeling of me against the

world and they play a victim role. So we

don't want to um be a victim because

we're not. uh we create our own reality

and we're always better with others

because it's others who reflect our

minds back to us. It's others that we

learn about ourselves from. We learn it

through their behavior and we learn it

how they react to us and how we react to them.

them.

And so the best way to grow in

integration is in community with others.

whether that's a community of

practitioners like we all are or your

family members or a significant other or

even your team.

And so we want to find we all have teams

and family, but do we practice with them?

them?

If you can get your significant other to

be a in community with you in practice,

that's the holy grail.

And my example of that is my wife and I.

My wife and I do our morning ritual

together. We do our yoga together every

day. We do our workouts together every

day. We walk the dog together every day.

We do our evening meditation together

every day. We cook together every day.

And all through that time, we're having

dialogue. We're we're challenging each

other. We're asking each other

questions. We're talking about a aspects

of things that we're talking about here.

Integration. We listen to great books

together. We talk about them. That's a

community of practice. one other human

being that you can share your passion

for growth and development puts you two

into a community of practice and then

like a a larger group like this or like

in our inner when we um come together

with our inner circle. We're a smaller

team and we're a community of practice

and it's an incredible way to grow together because you can't grow in

together because you can't grow in isolation,

isolation, right? Do you think a forest would be a

right? Do you think a forest would be a forest if all those trees thought they

forest if all those trees thought they could grow alone in isolation? No. We

could grow alone in isolation? No. We wouldn't have any forests or flower

wouldn't have any forests or flower gardens. So, humanity is the same way.

gardens. So, humanity is the same way. So, it's really important. And community

So, it's really important. And community of practice requires that you bring your

of practice requires that you bring your body along and and you know, be present,

body along and and you know, be present, be embodied.

be embodied. Okay. And and the last one is so

Okay. And and the last one is so important is this idea that we are not

important is this idea that we are not separated from nature. We're not

separated from nature. We're not separated from ourselves and we're part

separated from ourselves and we're part of nature. So therefore, we're not

of nature. So therefore, we're not separate from nature. That's a

separate from nature. That's a solicitism.

solicitism. If we're not separated and we're part of

If we're not separated and we're part of nature, then we're also and and and

nature, then we're also and and and nature is part of what we are, then

nature is part of what we are, then we're not separate from nature. So we've

we're not separate from nature. So we've got to spend time in nature,

whatever that looks like for you. If you live in a city, then it might be just

live in a city, then it might be just going to the park, you know, um or just

going to the park, you know, um or just getting outside, which is fine.

getting outside, which is fine. Try to find some time every single day,

Try to find some time every single day, ideally in the morning to get the

ideally in the morning to get the morning sunlight to get outside and you

morning sunlight to get outside and you can do all of these things probably

can do all of these things probably except for the eating you can do

except for the eating you can do outside, right? Stress management. Go

outside, right? Stress management. Go outside, do some deep breathing, box

outside, do some deep breathing, box breathing, do some mindful movement,

breathing, do some mindful movement, some sematic movement, tai chi or

some sematic movement, tai chi or chiong. Doesn't have to be fancy, right?

chiong. Doesn't have to be fancy, right? That's that's mindful movement. You're

That's that's mindful movement. You're getting stress management. You're

getting stress management. You're getting time in nature. If you could do

getting time in nature. If you could do it with your spouse or significant other

it with your spouse or significant other or yoga class, that's even better. So,

or yoga class, that's even better. So, you can combine all of these six pillars

you can combine all of these six pillars into a daily practice.

into a daily practice. And that right there is the key

And that right there is the key to body first lifestyle, right? Um it's

to body first lifestyle, right? Um it's super important. Now, your homework

super important. Now, your homework assignment here is to do what I call a

assignment here is to do what I call a sixpillar assessment.

sixpillar assessment. Take those six categories, right? Stress

Take those six categories, right? Stress management,

management, exercise and fitness or movement,

exercise and fitness or movement, nutrition, sleep and recovery, time in

nutrition, sleep and recovery, time in nature, and community of practice. And

nature, and community of practice. And assess yourself like how am I doing?

assess yourself like how am I doing? What do I do in each one of these? And

What do I do in each one of these? And what can I do better? Okay, what can you

what can I do better? Okay, what can you add or what can you take away? And I

add or what can you take away? And I recommend you start with a takeaway

recommend you start with a takeaway because sometimes in fact most of the

because sometimes in fact most of the time it's harder to remove something

time it's harder to remove something than it is to add something. And adding

than it is to add something. And adding something could add stress or is

something could add stress or is removing something can remove stress. So

removing something can remove stress. So start with the what can I remove? What

start with the what can I remove? What can I stop doing? And maybe that is

can I stop doing? And maybe that is something that you need to stop thinking

something that you need to stop thinking like changing a belief. Okay. So look at

like changing a belief. Okay. So look at the six pillars and step one is what am

the six pillars and step one is what am I doing now? And if it's nothing, be

I doing now? And if it's nothing, be honest about it. Or if it's once in a

honest about it. Or if it's once in a while, be honest about it. Like if you

while, be honest about it. Like if you get in nature once in a while, that's

get in nature once in a while, that's fine. What can can you do something

fine. What can can you do something every day? And what's blocking you from

every day? And what's blocking you from doing that every day? So what are you

doing that every day? So what are you doing? What can you stop doing maybe

doing? What can you stop doing maybe that's preventing things like um

that's preventing things like um sleeping, right? Are you watching

sleeping, right? Are you watching Netflix and then turning the TV off and

Netflix and then turning the TV off and trying to go to sleep? Maybe stop doing

trying to go to sleep? Maybe stop doing that, right? What can you stop doing?

that, right? What can you stop doing? And then is there anything that you can

And then is there anything that you can add? That's your homework assignment,

add? That's your homework assignment, right? This is a challenge, unbeer

right? This is a challenge, unbeer challenge. So I challenge you to do

challenge. So I challenge you to do that. And if you can come up with one

that. And if you can come up with one thing in each one of those six pillars

thing in each one of those six pillars and you can actually activate that in

and you can actually activate that in your life and habituate it and make it

your life and habituate it and make it part of your life, that alone will head

part of your life, that alone will head you toward integration. There's so many

you toward integration. There's so many ways to get there. And this is the body

ways to get there. And this is the body path. The body path to integration is

path. The body path to integration is probably the most profound and quickest

probably the most profound and quickest path.

path. Does that make sense? the body. That's

Does that make sense? the body. That's why yoga is so profound and why uh most

why yoga is so profound and why uh most really powerful paths to integration

really powerful paths to integration include some body

include some body movement.

movement. So this is the fastest path. All right,

So this is the fastest path. All right, we take a little uh

we take a little uh transition break. Let's stand up.

All right, quick spot drill and then we're going to

quick spot drill and then we're going to go uh finish up the next two sections

go uh finish up the next two sections real quick. All right, so inhale,

real quick. All right, so inhale, exhale, inhale through the nose.

All right, good. Go ahead and take a seat. Um, we're going to talk about

seat. Um, we're going to talk about identity real quick

identity real quick and then what happens to identity under

and then what happens to identity under pressure. So, you put up the next slide,

pressure. So, you put up the next slide, the identity slide.

That's not next one. So, what is identity? Next slide. Um

identity? Next slide. Um the your identity is based upon your

the your identity is based upon your perception of who you are and why you do

perception of who you are and why you do things. And so um last time we talked

things. And so um last time we talked last Unreal leader challenge we talked

last Unreal leader challenge we talked about the three Ps. Your purpose,

about the three Ps. Your purpose, passion and principles. And these when

passion and principles. And these when you reflect upon them uh form the basis

you reflect upon them uh form the basis of your identity, your new identity.

of your identity, your new identity. When you don't reflect upon them, then

When you don't reflect upon them, then you have subconscious uh patterns and

you have subconscious uh patterns and belief systems which form the basis for

belief systems which form the basis for your identity. And sometimes those are

your identity. And sometimes those are are so hidden from view that you have

are so hidden from view that you have many people have no clue who they really

many people have no clue who they really are. And this this leads to

are. And this this leads to psychological um dissonance, right?

psychological um dissonance, right? Psychological dissonance causes anxiety.

Psychological dissonance causes anxiety. Anxiety then uh left un um

Anxiety then uh left un um I say untreated. People treat anxiety

I say untreated. People treat anxiety with drugs, but the real treatment for

with drugs, but the real treatment for anxiety is to reduce the cognitive

anxiety is to reduce the cognitive dissonance and then the anxiety goes

dissonance and then the anxiety goes away. Cognitive dissonance comes from

away. Cognitive dissonance comes from lack of self-awareness of who you really

lack of self-awareness of who you really are. I.e. your identity is weak and you

are. I.e. your identity is weak and you have a weak self-concept.

have a weak self-concept. So, um we need to strengthen our

So, um we need to strengthen our self-concept. But our self-concept is

self-concept. But our self-concept is sabotaged. is sabotaged by all this

sabotaged. is sabotaged by all this programming that leads to um fear,

programming that leads to um fear, anxiety, um uh perfectionism, you know,

anxiety, um uh perfectionism, you know, uh righteousness, judgment, right? These

uh righteousness, judgment, right? These things are are defense mechanisms. So

things are are defense mechanisms. So all your defense mechanisms which are

all your defense mechanisms which are which are trained from a very young age

which are trained from a very young age uh then they they sabotage your identity

uh then they they sabotage your identity and create a fractured sense of self

and create a fractured sense of self which creates anxiety because you know

which creates anxiety because you know you're trying to like prop up you know

you're trying to like prop up you know these all these different uh mess. So

these all these different uh mess. So you have too many things going on. You

you have too many things going on. You don't have a clear sense of who you are.

don't have a clear sense of who you are. You're not living from the center out.

You're not living from the center out. Um and so that's a problem. Now,

Um and so that's a problem. Now, identity. If you're living from a

identity. If you're living from a fractured, incomplete, not whole human

fractured, incomplete, not whole human sense like I'm talking about because you

sense like I'm talking about because you don't know who you are and why you're

don't know who you are and why you're here, then that's going to affect your

here, then that's going to affect your behaviors. It's going to affect your

behaviors. It's going to affect your habits, your rituals, and your

habits, your rituals, and your standards. And chances are, you're not

standards. And chances are, you're not going to have any standards, right? And

going to have any standards, right? And you're not going to have any rituals,

you're not going to have any rituals, but you're going to have a lot of

but you're going to have a lot of habits. And those habits will be weak

habits. And those habits will be weak and ineffective. Um, and those habits

and ineffective. Um, and those habits point right toward the six pillars we

point right toward the six pillars we talked about. habits of eating, habits

talked about. habits of eating, habits of sleeping, habits of, you know,

of sleeping, habits of, you know, addictive patterns, drinking, smoking,

addictive patterns, drinking, smoking, whatever. Um, habits of judging, habits

whatever. Um, habits of judging, habits of obsession,

of obsession, right? Compulsion, all these behaviors

right? Compulsion, all these behaviors that people spend years in therapy

that people spend years in therapy obsessing about, they're just habits.

obsessing about, they're just habits. And so, we need to um understand that

And so, we need to um understand that those habits stem from our identity. So,

those habits stem from our identity. So, you take care of the identity, the

you take care of the identity, the habits will change.

habits will change. Doesn't that make a lot of sense? And

Doesn't that make a lot of sense? And then you have outcomes that you desire

then you have outcomes that you desire or vision. Well, guess what? Most people

or vision. Well, guess what? Most people have no vision. They don't they don't

have no vision. They don't they don't have a vision for their future. So, they

have a vision for their future. So, they can't vision envision the outcomes they

can't vision envision the outcomes they desire. So, they're just literally going

desire. So, they're just literally going through life like a ping-pong ball

through life like a ping-pong ball bouncing all over the place. keep on

bouncing all over the place. keep on recreating the same conditions that they

recreating the same conditions that they found in their past because they're

found in their past because they're obsessing about them in the present and

obsessing about them in the present and making sure that those conditions also

making sure that those conditions also exist in the future. That's the

exist in the future. That's the separated uh not whole human you know

separated uh not whole human you know story and that is the bulk of humanity.

story and that is the bulk of humanity. You guys are not that because you're

You guys are not that because you're here. You're taking charge. You're

here. You're taking charge. You're taking control. So what we want to

taking control. So what we want to understand is

understand is if you can get the identity part right

if you can get the identity part right then the habits and behaviors will take

then the habits and behaviors will take care of themselves. Now can you

care of themselves. Now can you accelerate the process by taking a

accelerate the process by taking a specific look at the habits and

specific look at the habits and behaviors? Yes, you can. But first you

behaviors? Yes, you can. But first you got to understand your vision and the

got to understand your vision and the outcomes you desire.

outcomes you desire. Right? And so it actually works with

Right? And so it actually works with first comes identity, then comes vision,

first comes identity, then comes vision, and then comes the everything that

and then comes the everything that connects you from identity to get to

connects you from identity to get to that vision. And those are your

that vision. And those are your behaviors,

behaviors, your habits, your rituals, and your

your habits, your rituals, and your standards. Um, we used to have a saying

standards. Um, we used to have a saying in the SEALs, everybody wants to be a

in the SEALs, everybody wants to be a SEAL on a on a sunny day. Uh, but it's

SEAL on a on a sunny day. Uh, but it's never a sunny day when you're operating,

never a sunny day when you're operating, right? It's never a sunny day. Even if

right? It's never a sunny day. Even if it's a sunny day, if the bullets are

it's a sunny day, if the bullets are flying, it doesn't feel very sunny. Uh

flying, it doesn't feel very sunny. Uh so what happens to a dendy under

so what happens to a dendy under pressure?

pressure? Well, if you're trained,

Well, if you're trained, nothing.

nothing. But if you're not trained, then it falls

But if you're not trained, then it falls apart because stress is uh as soon as

apart because stress is uh as soon as you activate your fight orflight

you activate your fight orflight mechanism,

mechanism, your IQ it gets cut in half. when and

your IQ it gets cut in half. when and I'm talking about acute stress. So if

I'm talking about acute stress. So if you get hit with a you know the

you get hit with a you know the equivalent of a bomb in your life,

equivalent of a bomb in your life, right? COVID would be a great example

right? COVID would be a great example when COVID hit and people who didn't

when COVID hit and people who didn't really have the discernment to see

really have the discernment to see what's really going on or to to look at

what's really going on or to to look at CO and say, you know what, this doesn't

CO and say, you know what, this doesn't this is my dialogue. Okay, you don't

this is my dialogue. Okay, you don't have to agree with me. Uh and I don't

have to agree with me. Uh and I don't ask you to, but my dialogue was, wow,

ask you to, but my dialogue was, wow, let's look at the research. Oh,

let's look at the research. Oh, interesting. This is this is a uh

interesting. This is this is a uh similar to the flu. It's got a little

similar to the flu. It's got a little bit different qualities. Uh it's

bit different qualities. Uh it's dangerous for uh for elderly, right? And

dangerous for uh for elderly, right? And those need to be protected, but it's

those need to be protected, but it's really not dangerous for a healthy

really not dangerous for a healthy person like me. And um I don't need a

person like me. And um I don't need a vaccine. Um and this is no big deal.

vaccine. Um and this is no big deal. Move on. Next.

And I was right in my world. I was right.

right. So,

So, but for the for the vast majority of

but for the for the vast majority of people who have been untrained to be

people who have been untrained to be able to see truth for what it is, that

able to see truth for what it is, that was like a bomb going off. And it

was like a bomb going off. And it catalyze it crystal. It it shocked them

catalyze it crystal. It it shocked them and communities and the world into a

and communities and the world into a state of fight or flight. And guess

state of fight or flight. And guess what? IQ just went.

what? IQ just went. There is research on this. I'm not

There is research on this. I'm not making it up. If you go into a acute

making it up. If you go into a acute state of fight or flight and you have a

state of fight or flight and you have a IQ of 130, you now have an IQ of 75,

IQ of 130, you now have an IQ of 75, that doesn't make for good decision-m,

that doesn't make for good decision-m, does it? No. So, identity goes to

does it? No. So, identity goes to when stress hits. Now, when it comes to

when stress hits. Now, when it comes to chronic stress over time, you can look

chronic stress over time, you can look at it similarly, but it's like death by

at it similarly, but it's like death by a thousand cuts, right? Because that

a thousand cuts, right? Because that stress just keeps building up and

stress just keeps building up and building up and building up. And what

building up and building up. And what happens is your your um your

happens is your your um your parasympathetic nervous system pathway

parasympathetic nervous system pathway atrophies and it goes offline. And so

atrophies and it goes offline. And so you end you enter a state of

you end you enter a state of hyperarousal. And hyperarousal will lead

hyperarousal. And hyperarousal will lead to burnout. What is burnout but a fancy

to burnout. What is burnout but a fancy word for saying uh excess anxiety that

word for saying uh excess anxiety that you haven't built up or you haven't been

you haven't built up or you haven't been able to release. You have never

able to release. You have never developed the ustress uh tools to be

developed the ustress uh tools to be able to counterbalance the stress. And

able to counterbalance the stress. And so it just builds up and builds up and

so it just builds up and builds up and builds up and then you experience all

builds up and then you experience all the the negative effects of that which

the the negative effects of that which includes a decrease in your cognitive

includes a decrease in your cognitive capacity aka IQ includes the decrease in

capacity aka IQ includes the decrease in your emotional awareness and your range

your emotional awareness and your range of emotional capacity and control,

of emotional capacity and control, right? It it includes a physiological

right? It it includes a physiological breakdowns and um and health problems,

breakdowns and um and health problems, right? Which then all compound

right? Which then all compound everything.

everything. So, that's a problem, right? Identity

So, that's a problem, right? Identity under pressure. Now, um we're not going

under pressure. Now, um we're not going to get into you can go and put the fear

to get into you can go and put the fear loop up. We're not going to get into how

loop up. We're not going to get into how do you build a new identity. Maybe we'll

do you build a new identity. Maybe we'll do that next time. We did the last

do that next time. We did the last leader challenge three Ps. You guys can

leader challenge three Ps. You guys can work on that. I want to talk about how

work on that. I want to talk about how to interrupt the pressure or this this

to interrupt the pressure or this this fear loop, right? When a crisis hits or

fear loop, right? When a crisis hits or or a negative trigger. And this is

or a negative trigger. And this is daily, right? So, take a look at this.

daily, right? So, take a look at this. Um,

I can't see it. It's crazy. Sorry, I have to get my glasses.

have to get my glasses. I I should have this memorized, but I

I I should have this memorized, but I haven't looked at it in a while. So,

haven't looked at it in a while. So, a trigger comes in.

a trigger comes in. A trigger can be anything, right? It's

A trigger can be anything, right? It's anything that triggers you into

anything that triggers you into reactionary mode, right? If you're not

reactionary mode, right? If you're not triggered, then don't worry about it.

triggered, then don't worry about it. But let's say co co triggered everybody.

But let's say co co triggered everybody. Or uh your boss dropping a big nasty

Or uh your boss dropping a big nasty bomb on your desk is a triggering

bomb on your desk is a triggering moment. Or your spouse is saying that

moment. Or your spouse is saying that you know saying something contemptuous

you know saying something contemptuous is a triggering moment. Or your kid,

is a triggering moment. Or your kid, right? You everyone's got their own

right? You everyone's got their own triggers. And so um

triggers. And so um that's a whatever is happening is

that's a whatever is happening is happening. The trigger is your reaction

happening. The trigger is your reaction to it, which means you have a you have a

to it, which means you have a you have a belief around this. And what I'm going

belief around this. And what I'm going to say is that's a false belief. So, so

to say is that's a false belief. So, so right at the beginning, you have a a

right at the beginning, you have a a limiting or false belief which is

limiting or false belief which is triggering you, right? Um, and that

triggering you, right? Um, and that false belief stems from a weak

false belief stems from a weak self-concept,

self-concept, right? It means you haven't done the

right? It means you haven't done the work yet to be able to see that as just

work yet to be able to see that as just a belief or a judgment or a projection

a belief or a judgment or a projection and to be like, "Oh, that's interesting.

and to be like, "Oh, that's interesting. Curious. Oh. Oh, Sally's having a

Curious. Oh. Oh, Sally's having a moment. This isn't about me, right?

moment. This isn't about me, right? Or oh, this is just uh whatever this

Or oh, this is just uh whatever this thing is, co uh I don't perceive this to

thing is, co uh I don't perceive this to be a threat, at least not to me. So,

be a threat, at least not to me. So, move on. Not an issue. Right now, of

move on. Not an issue. Right now, of course, it had issues in my business and

course, it had issues in my business and whatnot. But, um that so you have these

whatnot. But, um that so you have these these belief, everything is based upon

these belief, everything is based upon belief. And every I'm going to make a

belief. And every I'm going to make a bold statement. Every belief that you

bold statement. Every belief that you have is false in the way I determine the

have is false in the way I determine the word false and truth. It's not true.

word false and truth. It's not true. It's basically a belief. And every false

It's basically a belief. And every false belief stems from a weak self-concept,

belief stems from a weak self-concept, meaning you haven't fully integrated as

meaning you haven't fully integrated as a human being um to be able to see

a human being um to be able to see what's really going on. And what that

what's really going on. And what that does is um that triggering thing

does is um that triggering thing activates

activates even further negative reinforcing um

even further negative reinforcing um self-t talk and emotions,

self-t talk and emotions, right? And so trigger based upon a false

right? And so trigger based upon a false belief based upon a weak self-concept

belief based upon a weak self-concept activates negative self-t talk.

activates negative self-t talk. What does negative selft talk do? It

What does negative selft talk do? It weakens you further. Right? Because

weakens you further. Right? Because negativity is an energy and negative

negativity is an energy and negative energy weakens the body. We know that

energy weakens the body. We know that from the um the science of kinesiology.

from the um the science of kinesiology. You talk to yourself negatively, you get

You talk to yourself negatively, you get weaker.

weaker. And so negative self-concept, negative

And so negative self-concept, negative selft talk weakens your body. And um and

selft talk weakens your body. And um and then you have and this this is all

then you have and this this is all happening in a split second. These are

happening in a split second. These are all like conditions that leads to a

all like conditions that leads to a negative reaction,

negative reaction, right? We call that reactionary

right? We call that reactionary reactionary behavior is by its nature

reactionary behavior is by its nature negative.

negative. You know, it's in the way we use the

You know, it's in the way we use the terminology

terminology because otherwise we'd call it a

because otherwise we'd call it a positive response, right? So, we don't

positive response, right? So, we don't want to be nitpicky because you could

want to be nitpicky because you could also claim or push back and say, "Mark,

also claim or push back and say, "Mark, couldn't you have a positive reaction?"

couldn't you have a positive reaction?" Yeah, we'll call that a positive

Yeah, we'll call that a positive response. But most reactionary behavior

response. But most reactionary behavior which is unaware because it just happens

which is unaware because it just happens spontaneously based upon the negative

spontaneously based upon the negative trigger based upon the negative you know

trigger based upon the negative you know weak self-con concept and negative

weak self-con concept and negative belief is a negative reaction because

belief is a negative reaction because you're telling yourself something bad.

you're telling yourself something bad. Your amydala has sniffed out fear or or

Your amydala has sniffed out fear or or bad and now your self-t talk is bad.

bad and now your self-t talk is bad. Your emotions start to go negative and

Your emotions start to go negative and you react negatively. You might lash

you react negatively. You might lash out. You might start judging, right? You

out. You might start judging, right? You might do something really reckless or

might do something really reckless or stupid, always regretful, right? And

stupid, always regretful, right? And then what that does is it reinforces

then what that does is it reinforces the negative weak self-concept.

the negative weak self-concept. And guess what? It just you just keep on

And guess what? It just you just keep on ruting this deeper and deeper and

ruting this deeper and deeper and deeper. And these patterns then show up

deeper. And these patterns then show up more and more and more often and often

more and more and more often and often um with more intensity.

um with more intensity. Right now I think this is great because

Right now I think this is great because it's this loop this fear loop which if

it's this loop this fear loop which if when you start to practice box breathing

when you start to practice box breathing and what we're talking about in unal

and what we're talking about in unal mind it's it suddenly lights up like a

mind it's it suddenly lights up like a freaking you know halon bulb like it

freaking you know halon bulb like it becomes very obvious to you and so we

becomes very obvious to you and so we can use this as a practice because these

can use this as a practice because these fear loops these these negative triggers

fear loops these these negative triggers that that are stemming from a weak

that that are stemming from a weak self-concept that lead to negative

self-concept that lead to negative self-t talk that lead to reaction or

self-t talk that lead to reaction or behavior. That's the juice. That's where

behavior. That's the juice. That's where we've got to do our work in the

we've got to do our work in the emotional realm. In the emotional realm,

emotional realm. In the emotional realm, the emotional mountain, once you begin

the emotional mountain, once you begin to work the physical and mental, that

to work the physical and mental, that that's the real sticking point for

that's the real sticking point for people. That's the crucial place. That's

people. That's the crucial place. That's the that's where a lot of people stop

the that's where a lot of people stop about a quarter of the way up emotional

about a quarter of the way up emotional mountain. and then they stay there in

mountain. and then they stay there in their comfort zone and they never go

their comfort zone and they never go further and they then lock themselves

further and they then lock themselves into

into right maybe a little bit new reality

right maybe a little bit new reality maybe it's a little bit healthier right

maybe it's a little bit healthier right most people who are peak performers and

most people who are peak performers and CEOs are exactly what I'm talking about

CEOs are exactly what I'm talking about they got a healthy body they're training

they got a healthy body they're training their mind but they're stuck on the

their mind but they're stuck on the emotional mountain because it's

emotional mountain because it's uncomfortable as hell they don't want to

uncomfortable as hell they don't want to do the work and they lock themselves in

do the work and they lock themselves in limitation once more and they know it

limitation once more and they know it and they can't figure out what to do but

and they can't figure out what to do but um because they were not willing to do

um because they were not willing to do the work at the emotional level. This

the work at the emotional level. This fear loop and understanding that is your

fear loop and understanding that is your answer. So uh next slide. What we learn

answer. So uh next slide. What we learn to do is cultivate the capacity to

to do is cultivate the capacity to witness to observe to be the observer to

witness to observe to be the observer to separate ourselves from our thoughts and

separate ourselves from our thoughts and reactions.

reactions. The primary tool that I use for that is

The primary tool that I use for that is box breathing.

box breathing. So before we get to that which we'll

So before we get to that which we'll close on

close on um is this cou this this courage loop

um is this cou this this courage loop now. So follow this through. You can see

now. So follow this through. You can see it on the screen there. You have the

it on the screen there. You have the false belief which is limiting you. You

false belief which is limiting you. You get triggered with that false belief

get triggered with that false belief which re you know which is coming from

which re you know which is coming from your weak self-concept.

your weak self-concept. And then what happens is because you're

And then what happens is because you're practicing box breathing. You notice

practicing box breathing. You notice that you notice the trigger. you notice

that you notice the trigger. you notice that it's triggering um a weak

that it's triggering um a weak self-concept and you because you feel

self-concept and you because you feel shame or anger or guilt and and the old

shame or anger or guilt and and the old you would be basically immediately into

you would be basically immediately into the negative selft talk immediately into

the negative selft talk immediately into that reactionary mode but you say stop

that reactionary mode but you say stop and you activate what I call the worm

and you activate what I call the worm wir process you witness this happening

wir process you witness this happening in real time and you actively tell your

in real time and you actively tell your mind to stop it and your mind will obey

mind to stop it and your mind will obey temporarily until it's trained. But

temporarily until it's trained. But that's good enough because that

that's good enough because that intercept, you witness it, then you

intercept, you witness it, then you intercept it. You say, "Stop. Intercept

intercept it. You say, "Stop. Intercept that negative reaction, that negative

that negative reaction, that negative thought, and you redirect it because you

thought, and you redirect it because you recognize what's going on and you

recognize what's going on and you redirect it to positive thinking, which

redirect it to positive thinking, which requires that you actually have

requires that you actually have something else to focus on, too, which

something else to focus on, too, which probably is what you were focusing on,

probably is what you were focusing on, or maybe it's something new." and you

or maybe it's something new." and you activate your internal positive

activate your internal positive dialogue, whether that's a mantra or

dialogue, whether that's a mantra or just talking to yourself positively.

just talking to yourself positively. I'm better than that. I'm not going to

I'm better than that. I'm not going to succumb to that. I'm not going to I'm

succumb to that. I'm not going to I'm not going to let my boss derail me. I'm

not going to let my boss derail me. I'm not going to let my spouse or kids

not going to let my spouse or kids derail me. Um,

derail me. Um, right? You get into your sage, your

right? You get into your sage, your higher self, your higher mind, and you

higher self, your higher mind, and you talk to yourself positively. Positive

talk to yourself positively. Positive selft talk is so important. And that

selft talk is so important. And that gives your body mind strength. It gives

gives your body mind strength. It gives you courage, right? It changes your

you courage, right? It changes your self-concept. It begins to reinforce and

self-concept. It begins to reinforce and then you have a positive response

then you have a positive response and you so you redirect to something

and you so you redirect to something positive and you maintain that positive

positive and you maintain that positive with internal dialogue and then you have

with internal dialogue and then you have a positive response instead of a

a positive response instead of a negative reaction. And that courage loop

negative reaction. And that courage loop then reinforces a new positive more

then reinforces a new positive more positive self-concept.

positive self-concept. That is credible. That right there can

That is credible. That right there can change your life. That one model will

change your life. That one model will change your life. So it's not So that's

change your life. So it's not So that's it can be physical, it can be mental,

it can be physical, it can be mental, and it can be emotional or it can be all

and it can be emotional or it can be all three,

three, right? Think about it like a workout.

right? Think about it like a workout. You're in a physical workout and

You're in a physical workout and suddenly like the next thing you have to

suddenly like the next thing you have to do, you're like, "Oh, I can't stand

do, you're like, "Oh, I can't stand deadlifts." Right? there. You've gone

deadlifts." Right? there. You've gone into a trigger and a weak self-concept

into a trigger and a weak self-concept and now negative selft talk cuz I can't

and now negative selft talk cuz I can't do deadlift so deadlifts aren't for me

do deadlift so deadlifts aren't for me or whatever. And then you have a

or whatever. And then you have a negative reaction and you notice that

negative reaction and you notice that now and you interdict it. You intercept

now and you interdict it. You intercept that. You say, "No, I got this. I'm

that. You say, "No, I got this. I'm going to learn how to do it. I'm going

going to learn how to do it. I'm going to do it safely. Deadlifts are good for

to do it safely. Deadlifts are good for me." And just do the deadlifts. Right?

me." And just do the deadlifts. Right? You've had a new positive response. You

You've had a new positive response. You reinforce your self-concept as a

reinforce your self-concept as a stronger human being. same thing whether

stronger human being. same thing whether it's just a cognitive thing or an

it's just a cognitive thing or an emotional thing. This is powerful. This

emotional thing. This is powerful. This is how you change your identity and how

is how you change your identity and how you maintain a positive and growth

you maintain a positive and growth mindset identity when under pressure.

mindset identity when under pressure. The last thing I'll talk about you put

The last thing I'll talk about you put the box breathing up is now how do you

the box breathing up is now how do you develop that witnessing capacity? You're

develop that witnessing capacity? You're like all that's fine and good but how do

like all that's fine and good but how do I separate myself from my thoughts?

I separate myself from my thoughts? That takes practice. Remember theory is

That takes practice. Remember theory is just the candy, brain candy. It's all

just the candy, brain candy. It's all about practice.

about practice. If you just focused on practice, you

If you just focused on practice, you don't have to worry about integration

don't have to worry about integration because it'll happen automatically.

because it'll happen automatically. So even integration is theory. So you

So even integration is theory. So you have the theory of the theory. You have

have the theory of the theory. You have integration, which is the theory of what

integration, which is the theory of what it's like to be fully integrated. That's

it's like to be fully integrated. That's more of an experience. But ultimately,

more of an experience. But ultimately, it's all about practice. If you're not

it's all about practice. If you're not practicing every every day, then you're

practicing every every day, then you're not practicing. And the core to your

not practicing. And the core to your practice beyond those six pillars I

practice beyond those six pillars I talked about, the core of your mental

talked about, the core of your mental and emotional practice is box breathing.

and emotional practice is box breathing. Because box breathing will lead you to

Because box breathing will lead you to the capacity to witness and observe your

the capacity to witness and observe your thoughts and emotions and to be able to

thoughts and emotions and to be able to intercept negative fear loops and

intercept negative fear loops and replace it with a courage loop which

replace it with a courage loop which will improve dramatically your

will improve dramatically your self-concept

self-concept which will then help you develop a new

which will then help you develop a new identity which will be bulletproof

identity which will be bulletproof under stress.

under stress. So box breathing as you all know is

So box breathing as you all know is super simple but it's done as a

super simple but it's done as a contemplative meditative witnessing

contemplative meditative witnessing practice.

practice. So you're going to inhale five count,

So you're going to inhale five count, hold your breath five count, exhale five

hold your breath five count, exhale five count, hold your breath five count.

count, hold your breath five count. You're getting arousal control in that

You're getting arousal control in that capacity or in that practice. You're

capacity or in that practice. You're developing attention control and

developing attention control and concentration.

concentration. You're developing this capacity to

You're developing this capacity to witness or slashobserve your thoughts

witness or slashobserve your thoughts and emotions so that you can so you can

and emotions so that you can so you can curate them. You can you can intercept

curate them. You can you can intercept the negative ones, redirect a positive

the negative ones, redirect a positive and maintain a positive mindset. That's

and maintain a positive mindset. That's that's the witness process.

that's the witness process. and you're developing the capacity to be

and you're developing the capacity to be able to see your future to vision to

able to see your future to vision to envision a more positive future. So,

envision a more positive future. So, your homework today

your homework today um for those of you Okay, let me pack

um for those of you Okay, let me pack up. Well, I I'll stick with the

up. Well, I I'll stick with the homework. Homework is your six pillar

homework. Homework is your six pillar assessment. Remember I said that assess

assessment. Remember I said that assess your six pillars. What am I doing now?

your six pillars. What am I doing now? What can I get rid of? And what can I

What can I get rid of? And what can I add? And keep it simple. And then your

add? And keep it simple. And then your second homework assignment is I don't

second homework assignment is I don't what regardless of your time zone is to

what regardless of your time zone is to practice box breathing at least twice

practice box breathing at least twice before our meeting tomorrow. So that

before our meeting tomorrow. So that could be if it's if you're daytime now

could be if it's if you're daytime now it could be tonight

it could be tonight and then tomorrow morning first thing

and then tomorrow morning first thing right if it's morning now then whatever

right if it's morning now then whatever practice after this session or and then

practice after this session or and then tonight or tomorrow morning whatever you

tonight or tomorrow morning whatever you know what I'm saying do it twice ideally

know what I'm saying do it twice ideally for 20 minutes. ideally for 20 minutes.

for 20 minutes. ideally for 20 minutes. If not 20, do a 10. And if you can't for

If not 20, do a 10. And if you can't for 10, do a 5 minutes. Okay? So, that's

10, do a 5 minutes. Okay? So, that's your homework. That's your challenge.

your homework. That's your challenge. And um we're going to move transition in

And um we're going to move transition in a moment to the VIP session, but just

a moment to the VIP session, but just know that um also this we are a

know that um also this we are a community of practice, right? So, we're

community of practice, right? So, we're going to um be using that language like

going to um be using that language like we're all a team. And uh tomorrow we're

we're all a team. And uh tomorrow we're going to talk about our inner circle.

going to talk about our inner circle. and we have a team that actually does

and we have a team that actually does this stuff uh together and holds each

this stuff uh together and holds each other accountable and that's called the

other accountable and that's called the inner circle and so I'm going to um I'm

inner circle and so I'm going to um I'm going to have some time tomorrow to talk

going to have some time tomorrow to talk about that and and also Christian uh

about that and and also Christian uh because for those of you who are ready

because for those of you who are ready they found those who jumped up into that

they found those who jumped up into that program have found it to be

program have found it to be extraordinarily uh valuable because you

extraordinarily uh valuable because you have a team and you have the

have a team and you have the accountability and you get serious

accountability and you get serious momentum with these uh these things

momentum with these uh these things toward integration.

toward integration. All right. Uh it's 9:34. I went a little

All right. Uh it's 9:34. I went a little bit long. Uh those of you who are

bit long. Uh those of you who are staying for the next session, just hang

staying for the next session, just hang out. Uh take a little uh restroom break

out. Uh take a little uh restroom break or spot drill. For everyone else, thank

or spot drill. For everyone else, thank you for being here. Appreciate you all.

you for being here. Appreciate you all. And we'll see you tomorrow, day two.

And we'll see you tomorrow, day two. Hya.

Hya. >> Hya. Hya.

>> Hya. Hya. >> Thank you, coach.

>> Thank you, coach. >> You're welcome.

>> You're welcome. >> All right. Mark's gonna take a quick

>> All right. Mark's gonna take a quick break.

break. How'd you guys feel about the uh the

How'd you guys feel about the uh the first session?

You can take yourselves off of mute. Let me hear it. Let me

Let me hear it. Let me >> It was good. It was insightful on some

>> It was good. It was insightful on some things.

things. >> Awesome. Was that Richard? Is that

>> Awesome. Was that Richard? Is that Vincent?

Vincent? >> Yes.

>> Yes. >> Okay.

>> Okay. >> Yeah.

>> Yeah. >> Good to see you again, Vincent. Good to

>> Good to see you again, Vincent. Good to see you.

see you. >> Yeah. I I actually used um some of from

>> Yeah. I I actually used um some of from previous trainings with Mark, especially

previous trainings with Mark, especially the six pillars. I was um director of

the six pillars. I was um director of community health for our local health

community health for our local health department. So that was like right smack

department. So that was like right smack on the top of our web page.

on the top of our web page. >> Yeah,

>> Yeah, definitely.

>> Hi, my name is Joan. >> Hi Joan.

>> Hi Joan. >> And I really love this. I've read all

>> And I really love this. I've read all Marks Unbeatable Mind books, Navy Seals.

Marks Unbeatable Mind books, Navy Seals. I'm exmilitary myself. So this is

I'm exmilitary myself. So this is marvelous. This is reiterating what what

marvelous. This is reiterating what what I learned in my training

I learned in my training uh a while ago, but it's never always uh

uh a while ago, but it's never always uh good to um to rethink, relearn, hear new

good to um to rethink, relearn, hear new things and set your enforcements

things and set your enforcements for successful um way to move forward

for successful um way to move forward and healthy mind mindfulness and

and healthy mind mindfulness and toughness. And so I really appreciate

toughness. And so I really appreciate this as a former military person.

this as a former military person. Thank you. I appreciate your service by

Thank you. I appreciate your service by the way.

the way. >> Thank you. I I uh it's very important.

>> Thank you. I I uh it's very important. Thank you very much for saying that.

Thank you very much for saying that. >> Yes. Yeah. My uh my family comes from a

>> Yes. Yeah. My uh my family comes from a deep military background.

deep military background. Um so definitely appreciate your

Um so definitely appreciate your service.

service. >> Thank you.

>> Thank you. >> All right.

>> All right. >> If you can hear me, this is Cook here.

>> If you can hear me, this is Cook here. >> Yeah. And yeah, no, you know what? Uh

>> Yeah. And yeah, no, you know what? Uh this was incredible because uh I'm I'm

this was incredible because uh I'm I'm uh I I loved everything that that Mark

uh I I loved everything that that Mark was saying and I'm actually in the

was saying and I'm actually in the probably the busiest Starbucks in all of

probably the busiest Starbucks in all of Canada. So when the thing we did with

Canada. So when the thing we did with the spot drills came up, I was a little

the spot drills came up, I was a little bit reluctant to do it, but then I you

bit reluctant to do it, but then I you know what, forget it. Let's just do it.

know what, forget it. Let's just do it. Who cares? And so I'm I'm actually I did

Who cares? And so I'm I'm actually I did it all here. The squats, the the

it all here. The squats, the the push-ups, the planks, everything. It was

push-ups, the planks, everything. It was so cool.

so cool. Yeah. And and you know, here's what's

Yeah. And and you know, here's what's really cool. I'm currently in a

really cool. I'm currently in a situation where unfortunately

situation where unfortunately financially it's it's not feasible for

financially it's it's not feasible for me to become a VIP right now or to

me to become a VIP right now or to become a member of the tribe, but I've

become a member of the tribe, but I've got I've got way of the seal. I've got

got I've got way of the seal. I've got unbeatable mind. I'm going through it

unbeatable mind. I'm going through it again. Yeah.

again. Yeah. >> And so what we got from the last ULC

>> And so what we got from the last ULC that I still have some of the material

that I still have some of the material for, I'm going to go through that. I'm

for, I'm going to go through that. I'm going to continue to convict in my mind

going to continue to convict in my mind to get myself back in so that I can

to get myself back in so that I can become a part of the tribe uh uh and and

become a part of the tribe uh uh and and really just because I I love this

really just because I I love this environment. I really love this

environment. I really love this environment. And by the way, uh Joan,

environment. And by the way, uh Joan, thank you for your service. Uh I you

thank you for your service. Uh I you know, God bless you all of you who are,

know, God bless you all of you who are, you know, former military and um I will

you know, former military and um I will be a part of the tribes. And by the way,

be a part of the tribes. And by the way, Christian, thank you for what you're

Christian, thank you for what you're doing. I mean, the fact you you've been

doing. I mean, the fact you you've been up your

up your 4 a.m. and doing what you're doing. God

4 a.m. and doing what you're doing. God bless you all. Thank you.

bless you all. Thank you. >> Thank you. Thank you.

>> Thank you. Thank you. >> It's all for you guys, man. We we really

>> It's all for you guys, man. We we really do um want to give you guys the the best

do um want to give you guys the the best kind of value um that you can receive

kind of value um that you can receive from Mark, you know, other than being

from Mark, you know, other than being live in person or going into, you know,

live in person or going into, you know, his private coaching and inner circle

his private coaching and inner circle coaching that he does do. Um, and so

coaching that he does do. Um, and so this is kind of a a taste to what that

this is kind of a a taste to what that is, you know, and a really good

is, you know, and a really good experience and and hopefully it's a it's

experience and and hopefully it's a it's an inspiration um but also a discipline

an inspiration um but also a discipline for you guys to continue to, you know,

for you guys to continue to, you know, push the the needle forward um in your

push the the needle forward um in your training. Um because Mark is, you know,

training. Um because Mark is, you know, he's he's 62 now and he just got out of

he's he's 62 now and he just got out of a crazy, you know, snowmobile accident

a crazy, you know, snowmobile accident that ruptured his scapula last February

that ruptured his scapula last February and, you know, he could be rethinking

and, you know, he could be rethinking everything and just put everything on

everything and just put everything on pause because, you know, he's he's he's

pause because, you know, he's he's he's good, right? But he shows up for you

good, right? But he shows up for you guys. Um because

guys. Um because >> one one thing I'd like to ask one thing

>> one one thing I'd like to ask one thing I'd like to add about medical things as

I'd like to add about medical things as a teacher. I've survived cancer and with

a teacher. I've survived cancer and with Mark's injuries. I have a spinal injury

Mark's injuries. I have a spinal injury from military days beating cancer. I use

from military days beating cancer. I use Mark's teachings to help in the cancer

Mark's teachings to help in the cancer center where I go. And every day is a

center where I go. And every day is a new get up good day and valuable

new get up good day and valuable accomplishment. So, I really value this

accomplishment. So, I really value this for the cancer survivors and snowmobile

for the cancer survivors and snowmobile accidents and this is miraculous. Thank

accidents and this is miraculous. Thank you so much.

you so much. >> Definitely. Definitely. Thank you. And

>> Definitely. Definitely. Thank you. And and thank you for sharing that. Um thank

and thank you for sharing that. Um thank you for being vulnerable. You know, it's

you for being vulnerable. You know, it's important that we we're vulnerable,

important that we we're vulnerable, we're authentic, we're raw, and we um we

we're authentic, we're raw, and we um we encourage one another, we empower one

encourage one another, we empower one another, and we rise up together, right?

another, and we rise up together, right? And so, great job, John. Um, I do want

And so, great job, John. Um, I do want to invite you guys all to go ahead and

to invite you guys all to go ahead and stick around. You know, gas, for those

stick around. You know, gas, for those gas that are still here, if you guys

gas that are still here, if you guys have the time, we're going to be

have the time, we're going to be sticking around until 11, but we are

sticking around until 11, but we are going to respect the VIPs that did

going to respect the VIPs that did purchase um to be the only ones that are

purchase um to be the only ones that are going to ask Q&As's and receive um hot

going to ask Q&As's and receive um hot seat coaching. So you guys can see some

seat coaching. So you guys can see some insight on just how Mark coaches um

insight on just how Mark coaches um others in a virtual uh live setting as

others in a virtual uh live setting as he does with um the school group and he

he does with um the school group and he does with his performance coaching and

does with his performance coaching and mental toughness coaching and inner

mental toughness coaching and inner circle coaching and private clients and

circle coaching and private clients and stuff like that. So um go ahead and

stuff like that. So um go ahead and stick around if you guys have the time.

stick around if you guys have the time. Uh otherwise um we'll see you guys

Uh otherwise um we'll see you guys tomorrow at 8 am for the next GA

tomorrow at 8 am for the next GA session. But we are going to hop in in

session. But we are going to hop in in just a few moments here whenever Mark

just a few moments here whenever Mark gives me the green light.

gives me the green light. Whenever you're ready, Mark,

Whenever you're ready, Mark, we can hop back in.

we can hop back in. Oh, he's he's grubbing now. He gota got

Oh, he's he's grubbing now. He gota got to get the nutrition in. Gotta get the

to get the nutrition in. Gotta get the nutrition in.

Thanks guys. Uh I'm not part of the uh the VIP session, so I'll respect the uh

the VIP session, so I'll respect the uh the VIP session and jump off. God bless

the VIP session and jump off. God bless you all. Thank you so much for this uh

you all. Thank you so much for this uh for this session. And Joe and I I

for this session. And Joe and I I connected with you on LinkedIn. Love to

connected with you on LinkedIn. Love to have a conversation. God bless

have a conversation. God bless everybody. Thank you.

everybody. Thank you. >> Thank you. Appreciate it, Kush. See you

>> Thank you. Appreciate it, Kush. See you tomorrow.

>> Ready? >> Ready.

>> Ready. >> Ready.

>> Ready. >> All right. We are going to flip it

>> All right. We are going to flip it around in three, two, one.

around in three, two, one. Hey, you are live.

Hey, you are live. >> Hey,

>> Hey, welcome back.

welcome back. All right,

All right, I get to flip a switch from uh teacher

I get to flip a switch from uh teacher to coach, which is really cool.

to coach, which is really cool. It's a real difference, right? So, as a

It's a real difference, right? So, as a coach, um, I'm really here to, uh, hold

coach, um, I'm really here to, uh, hold up a mirror and to help, um, reflect

up a mirror and to help, um, reflect back to you kind of what I see or hear.

back to you kind of what I see or hear. Um, so the way we'll go about this is

Um, so the way we'll go about this is we're going to do a practice first.

we're going to do a practice first. Box breathing. Yay.

Box breathing. Yay. Should hear some claps. Yay. Right. If

Should hear some claps. Yay. Right. If you like box breathing as much as I do,

you like box breathing as much as I do, you'd be absolutely excited about this

you'd be absolutely excited about this because it is it is a master practice

because it is it is a master practice when done well effectively. So, we'll

when done well effectively. So, we'll talk through that and then we'll just

talk through that and then we'll just open it up for Q&A.

open it up for Q&A. Um, anything that's on your mind and

Um, anything that's on your mind and then um maybe uh a little after the hour

then um maybe uh a little after the hour we will um I'm going to talk about um

we will um I'm going to talk about um ethos, developing your stand, right? So

ethos, developing your stand, right? So we'll continue and that can be a

we'll continue and that can be a conversation. All right. So practice

set up your seat, set up your posture, straight spine, relaxed shoulders. Um

straight spine, relaxed shoulders. Um most of you are familiar with the setup

most of you are familiar with the setup process.

process. It's you know very similar for whatever

It's you know very similar for whatever meditative or contemplative tradition.

meditative or contemplative tradition. And the point is the salient points is

And the point is the salient points is you want a straight spine. That's the

you want a straight spine. That's the main one. So you you don't have the

main one. So you you don't have the distraction and the energy can flow. Um

distraction and the energy can flow. Um and you want to turn your attention

and you want to turn your attention inward. This is something that's not

inward. This is something that's not often talked about. The one of the ways

often talked about. The one of the ways the primary ways we turn our attention

the primary ways we turn our attention inward is intention. Uh secondly is

inward is intention. Uh secondly is through soften softening the gaze of

through soften softening the gaze of your eyes. So often open up the the

your eyes. So often open up the the aperture peripheral vision and then you

aperture peripheral vision and then you close your eyelids with that peripheral

close your eyelids with that peripheral vision. And what that does is it takes

vision. And what that does is it takes your attention and it shifts it subtly

your attention and it shifts it subtly inward.

inward. And then through active attention

And then through active attention control, you are with that soft gaze

control, you are with that soft gaze and with the intention of looking

and with the intention of looking inward, you actually

inward, you actually imagine yourself looking inward as

imagine yourself looking inward as opposed to outward.

And of course, at first you don't see anything. It's just black.

anything. It's just black. But eventually you begin to see

But eventually you begin to see uh a light

uh a light Not like a single light but as if the

Not like a single light but as if the blackness inky blackness is is lighting

blackness inky blackness is is lighting up. And that is the light that you

up. And that is the light that you generate

generate which actually lights up the world that

which actually lights up the world that you see. Without that light, inner

you see. Without that light, inner light, you wouldn't see anything.

It's a misperception to think that light comes in through their eyes and that's

comes in through their eyes and that's what allows us to see the outer world.

what allows us to see the outer world. It's it's actually not accurate.

It's it's actually not accurate. Light is generated from within.

And then we bring our attention to our breathing. We close our mouth and we

breathing. We close our mouth and we start to notice the breath coming in

start to notice the breath coming in through the nostrils.

through the nostrils. And we notice the lungs being filled up.

And we notice the lungs being filled up. We notice our diaphragm operating,

We notice our diaphragm operating, pulling and pushing. We notice our belly

pulling and pushing. We notice our belly relaxing on the inhale and compressing

relaxing on the inhale and compressing or comp pressing back toward the spine

or comp pressing back toward the spine on the exhale.

As we notice more, we can notice on the inhale energy, prana, life force, chi,

inhale energy, prana, life force, chi, more oxygen coming in and it's

more oxygen coming in and it's stimulating the body and it actually can

stimulating the body and it actually can you can feel like the light increasing

you can feel like the light increasing because you're actually drawing in life

because you're actually drawing in life force.

And as you exhale, you notice a grounding, centering effect.

grounding, centering effect. and as if you're letting go,

and as if you're letting go, surrendering,

surrendering, which is exactly what you're doing.

which is exactly what you're doing. So those are things all to notice as

So those are things all to notice as part of the setup.

part of the setup. your body posture, your mental posture,

your body posture, your mental posture, your mental orientation,

the relaxed inward focus, the inky blackness opening up to light, the

blackness opening up to light, the energy on the inhale, and the centering

energy on the inhale, and the centering and groundedness on the exhale.

This practice alone in just setting up and doing like 10 rounds like that of

and doing like 10 rounds like that of inhale and exhale is a profound spot

inhale and exhale is a profound spot drill. Profound way to rebalance and

drill. Profound way to rebalance and develop awareness.

develop awareness. But with box breathing, we add a control

But with box breathing, we add a control to it. So we slow down the inhale. We're

to it. So we slow down the inhale. We're striving for five count, but beginners

striving for five count, but beginners can do four. And we do a a five count

can do four. And we do a a five count inhale, a five count hold the breath,

inhale, a five count hold the breath, and a fivecount exhale. On a five count,

and a fivecount exhale. On a five count, hold the breath. This equals three

hold the breath. This equals three breaths per minute.

breaths per minute. Without the hold, six breaths per

Without the hold, six breaths per minute, which is optimal for health and

minute, which is optimal for health and longevity.

The holds bring a different quality to pay attention to. The inhale hold has a

pay attention to. The inhale hold has a spacious expansive quality as if you're

spacious expansive quality as if you're expanding in all directions. And the

expanding in all directions. And the exhale hold has a single point focus

exhale hold has a single point focus quality, a stillness like a black hole

quality, a stillness like a black hole almost. So you pay attention to the

almost. So you pay attention to the qualities of the hold and the quality of

qualities of the hold and the quality of the inhale and the exhale and you follow

the inhale and the exhale and you follow that pattern with your mind really

that pattern with your mind really closely

closely which is attention control.

which is attention control. So you're getting the arousal control

So you're getting the arousal control benefits of massaging your vagus nerve,

benefits of massaging your vagus nerve, activating the parasympathetic nervous

activating the parasympathetic nervous system. That's just through the

system. That's just through the breathing practice itself. Nostril deep

breathing practice itself. Nostril deep diaphragmatic breathing. And you're

diaphragmatic breathing. And you're getting attention control and

getting attention control and concentration training by concentrating

concentration training by concentrating deeply on all four phases of the box

deeply on all four phases of the box pattern. The inhale hold, the exhale,

pattern. The inhale hold, the exhale, and the hold. Each one has a different

and the hold. Each one has a different quality.

quality. And you hold that attention there. And

And you hold that attention there. And if your attention wanders, you notice it

if your attention wanders, you notice it and bring it back. Just like classic

and bring it back. Just like classic meditation, you notice it, bring it

meditation, you notice it, bring it back. Notice it, bring it back. Over

back. Notice it, bring it back. Over time, you're able to hold your attention

time, you're able to hold your attention for longer and longer periods of time,

for longer and longer periods of time, increasing your powers of concentration

increasing your powers of concentration and the ability to control your

and the ability to control your attention. Hugely valuable.

As you develop this capacity for attention control and concentration, you

attention control and concentration, you become aware that the noticer is

become aware that the noticer is separate from the thinker.

separate from the thinker. The aspect of you that is noticing that

The aspect of you that is noticing that your mind is wandering, that is noticing

your mind is wandering, that is noticing that you're holding your attention on

that you're holding your attention on this box pattern, that is noticing your

this box pattern, that is noticing your body, that is noticing the sensations.

body, that is noticing the sensations. That noticer is also called the observer

That noticer is also called the observer or the witness. It's the same thing. And

or the witness. It's the same thing. And your center of sense of self begins to

your center of sense of self begins to shift to the noticer away from thoughts

shift to the noticer away from thoughts and you stop identifying with your

and you stop identifying with your thoughts. This is this is the witness I

thoughts. This is this is the witness I was talking about earlier in that

was talking about earlier in that witness process.

witness process. And this is the one of the primary

And this is the one of the primary benefits of this practice is it

benefits of this practice is it naturally will open up to your ability

naturally will open up to your ability to witness and become non-reactionary.

Okay. So let's practice together. We'll exhale. 3 2 1 exhale.

exhale. 3 2 1 exhale. Good. Slow and controlled. Inhale to a

Good. Slow and controlled. Inhale to a count of five. Inhale.

count of five. Inhale. counting to yourself.

counting to yourself. Hold your breath and you hold it with

Hold your breath and you hold it with your belly relaxed and with a lifting

your belly relaxed and with a lifting feeling as if you're continuing to

feeling as if you're continuing to inhale, but you're not.

inhale, but you're not. Mind expanding. Now exhaling, bellies

Mind expanding. Now exhaling, bellies contracting. Slow five count

contracting. Slow five count and hold.

and hold. Single point focus.

Single point focus. Good. Release your belly. Inhale.

Hold. Keep your mind pinned to each phase of the box pattern. Paying

phase of the box pattern. Paying attention to this hold, all the

attention to this hold, all the sensations, what's happening with your

sensations, what's happening with your mind. Now exhaling. Follow the breath

mind. Now exhaling. Follow the breath out. Follow every nook and cranny.

out. Follow every nook and cranny. Investigate it like with a magnifying

Investigate it like with a magnifying glass. And now hold.

glass. And now hold. And just sit with and be with and notice

And just sit with and be with and notice this. Exhale. Hold.

this. Exhale. Hold. Good. Release. And inhale. Follow the

Good. Release. And inhale. Follow the inhale. Feel the energy. Feel the life

inhale. Feel the energy. Feel the life force.

force. Hold.

Hold. Pay attention.

Pay attention. If your mind wanders, bring it back.

If your mind wanders, bring it back. Notice it. Bring it back. Now exhaling.

Notice it. Bring it back. Now exhaling. Follow the breath out. Belly's tucking

Follow the breath out. Belly's tucking in. And hold.

in. And hold. Vacuum of space.

Vacuum of space. Single point focus. Good. Release the

Single point focus. Good. Release the belly. And inhale.

belly. And inhale. >> Slow, deep, controlled.

>> Slow, deep, controlled. Hold.

If your mind wanders, bring it back. Witness it. Bring it back. You are not

Witness it. Bring it back. You are not your thoughts.

your thoughts. Exhaling.

Exhaling. Let it go. Surrender

Let it go. Surrender and hold.

and hold. I am witness. I am not these thoughts or

I am witness. I am not these thoughts or emotions.

emotions. Release the belly. Inhale.

I am witness beyond thoughts and emotions.

emotions. Exhale.

We'll do three more rounds. Release the belly. Inhale.

I am the observer. I am beyond the thoughts and emotions. I notice thoughts

thoughts and emotions. I notice thoughts and emotions. I'm in control. Exhale.

and emotions. I'm in control. Exhale. I am in command.

I am in command. Hold.

Hold. Ultimately, we begin to im implement or enact your visioning

implement or enact your visioning process to see your future self and your

process to see your future self and your wholeness. Exhaling.

Do that from the witnessing perspective. Hold not from ego.

Hold not from ego. You can say thoughts and emotions equal

You can say thoughts and emotions equal ego. That's the old personality. Inhale.

Hold. The witnessing perspective is beyond ego. And that's where your new

beyond ego. And that's where your new personality will root itself and take

personality will root itself and take hold

hold and exhale.

Release the holds. When you go back to tactical breathing, five count in, five

tactical breathing, five count in, five count out. This is your new natural

count out. This is your new natural breath state. Inhale

and exhale. You want to retrain your automatic

You want to retrain your automatic breathing pattern to go five count in,

breathing pattern to go five count in, five count out, nostril breathing

five count out, nostril breathing throughout the day,

throughout the day, which will keep your mind in a state of

which will keep your mind in a state of calm equinimity and will bleed off all

calm equinimity and will bleed off all excess stress in the body, bring your

excess stress in the body, bring your body back into homeostatic balance. Box

body back into homeostatic balance. Box breathing will lead to perfect health.

breathing will lead to perfect health. Of course, you can accelerate that with

Of course, you can accelerate that with the other six pillars. And box breathing

the other six pillars. And box breathing is your main tool, your master tool for

is your main tool, your master tool for stress management. All right, open the

stress management. All right, open the eyes. Come back in the room.

I could spend the whole hour and a half talking about um the power of breath and

talking about um the power of breath and box breathing as a practice. Uh there's

box breathing as a practice. Uh there's a lot of nuance to it. Uh so tomorrow

a lot of nuance to it. Uh so tomorrow we'll get into a little bit more and of

we'll get into a little bit more and of course we have time right now for any

course we have time right now for any questions on that. But um we'll open it

questions on that. But um we'll open it up now until about quarter after the

up now until about quarter after the hour um for coaching on anything

hour um for coaching on anything anything you want to talk about.

anything you want to talk about. Um but the one kind of guideline is that

Um but the one kind of guideline is that as you formulate your questions that um

as you formulate your questions that um uh there a couple things because

uh there a couple things because learning how to ask good questions is a

learning how to ask good questions is a practice in and of itself. So to make

practice in and of itself. So to make sure that number one, it's going to be

sure that number one, it's going to be useful for everybody else, right? So you

useful for everybody else, right? So you want to make sure that you're not um

want to make sure that you're not um asking a question that isn't relevant to

asking a question that isn't relevant to other people. And it's hard for me to

other people. And it's hard for me to imagine much that won't be relevant to

imagine much that won't be relevant to everybody because everybody is right

everybody because everybody is right engaged in this human experience, but

engaged in this human experience, but really it's like stick stay away from

really it's like stick stay away from the frivolous things. And then um learn

the frivolous things. And then um learn to formulate your question succinctly.

to formulate your question succinctly. Right.

Right. Who was it? Mark Twain who said, "I was

Who was it? Mark Twain who said, "I was going to write you a short letter, but I

going to write you a short letter, but I didn't have any time, so I wrote you a

didn't have any time, so I wrote you a long one instead."

Yeah. It's easier to just go run on the mouth, right?

mouth, right? It's easier to let your mind just go.

It's easier to let your mind just go. Uh it's much harder to say what you want

Uh it's much harder to say what you want to say in a in a short concise question.

to say in a in a short concise question. So use that as a practice and that will

So use that as a practice and that will serve you well in meetings and in

serve you well in meetings and in dialogue. All right. So I'm all yours.

dialogue. All right. So I'm all yours. Um let's have some fun conversation for

Um let's have some fun conversation for the next half hour and or so and uh 20

the next half hour and or so and uh 20 minutes or so and see how we go.

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purchasing? Peter, um you're welcome to go ahead and take yourself off of mute

go ahead and take yourself off of mute and ask your questions now.

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Having trouble getting you the VIP badge, Peter, but

badge, Peter, but go ahead. All right. Go ahead, Kelly

go ahead. All right. Go ahead, Kelly Dean.

Dean. >> Oh, hi, Mark. Uh, how you doing?

>> Oh, hi, Mark. Uh, how you doing? >> Awesome.

>> Awesome. >> Good. Good. Uh, I've been a follower of

>> Good. Good. Uh, I've been a follower of yours for for a number of years. I, uh,

yours for for a number of years. I, uh, participate in your morning workouts

participate in your morning workouts with some of your team in terms of the,

with some of your team in terms of the, uh, workout on demand sessions. So, I

uh, workout on demand sessions. So, I appreciate those.

appreciate those. >> Yeah. So my my question is uh you know

>> Yeah. So my my question is uh you know I've been pushing myself for a number of

I've been pushing myself for a number of years. I'm part of Brian Johnson's

years. I'm part of Brian Johnson's heroic community as well and that's how

heroic community as well and that's how I found out about you a number of years

I found out about you a number of years ago and I think often at times I feel um

ago and I think often at times I feel um you know um you know how do my question

you know um you know how do my question is how do I stay grounded and still

is how do I stay grounded and still reach for the stars? I think at times I

reach for the stars? I think at times I I have these aspirations or ambitions

I have these aspirations or ambitions that are maybe not grounded. they're,

that are maybe not grounded. they're, you know, borderlining delusional, but

you know, borderlining delusional, but at the same time, I want to stretch

at the same time, I want to stretch myself. I want to push myself, but, you

myself. I want to push myself, but, you know, in that momentto- moment dialogue

know, in that momentto- moment dialogue with myself. How do I how do I balance

with myself. How do I how do I balance that? And I find oftentimes I have these

that? And I find oftentimes I have these grandiose ideas in the morning, by the

grandiose ideas in the morning, by the afternoon, I find that they're kind of a

afternoon, I find that they're kind of a dumb idea and I don't I don't ship them

dumb idea and I don't I don't ship them or I don't put them out. So, that's kind

or I don't put them out. So, that's kind of the the question is how do I how do I

of the the question is how do I how do I uh reach for the stars and stay

uh reach for the stars and stay grounded, I guess.

grounded, I guess. Yeah. Oh, that's a great question.

Yeah. Oh, that's a great question. That's a practice in and of itself,

That's a practice in and of itself, right? That noticing, right, that you

right? That noticing, right, that you have, right, this this I don't want to

have, right, this this I don't want to use the word grandiosity, but grandio

use the word grandiosity, but grandio idea, and then reality hits you in the

idea, and then reality hits you in the face, right? It's like Mike Tyson said,

face, right? It's like Mike Tyson said, everything's great until you get punched

everything's great until you get punched in the face and then all of a sudden it

in the face and then all of a sudden it doesn't seem so attainable and you start

doesn't seem so attainable and you start to second guess yourself.

to second guess yourself. That's pretty uh common. And so the

That's pretty uh common. And so the question um to ask yourself is where's

question um to ask yourself is where's that

that idea coming from?

idea coming from? Right? That reaching for the stars there

Right? That reaching for the stars there there's a lot of

there's a lot of information out there and even in the

information out there and even in the heroic community about you can

heroic community about you can accomplish anything you want. You can

accomplish anything you want. You can accomplish do whatever you set your

accomplish do whatever you set your dreams to, right? Um and everyone's like

dreams to, right? Um and everyone's like and social media reinforces that. So you

and social media reinforces that. So you think everyone's, you know, if you're an

think everyone's, you know, if you're an entrepreneur, tech entrepreneur, you got

entrepreneur, tech entrepreneur, you got to have a unicorn. If you don't have a

to have a unicorn. If you don't have a unicorn, you're not a good entrepreneur.

unicorn, you're not a good entrepreneur. You don't know what the hell you're

You don't know what the hell you're doing. And so everyone's uh, you know,

doing. And so everyone's uh, you know, there's a shaming around that even if

there's a shaming around that even if it's self-imposed.

it's self-imposed. Uh, so who's asking that question,

Uh, so who's asking that question, right? Who who is it that needs to

right? Who who is it that needs to achieve something great, right? And

achieve something great, right? And 99.999999%

99.999999% of the time it's your ego

because uh from the integrated perspective,

perspective, you know, helping one human being is

you know, helping one human being is just as valuable as creating a unicorn

just as valuable as creating a unicorn that you don't even know if it's going

that you don't even know if it's going to do good or not, right? Um

to do good or not, right? Um so you got to understand that you're

so you got to understand that you're you're living a story within a story and

you're living a story within a story and part of the story. So what I mean by

part of the story. So what I mean by that is your story is couched within the

that is your story is couched within the broader story of culture and society and

broader story of culture and society and everything that you're being fed

everything that you're being fed including in developmental programs like

including in developmental programs like heroic or unbeatable mind. That's why I

heroic or unbeatable mind. That's why I try to feed people truth and uh and not

try to feed people truth and uh and not just

just And so if the broader story is going to

And so if the broader story is going to guilt you or shame you because you're

guilt you or shame you because you're not accomplishing some massively

not accomplishing some massively important target, right, which is Peter

important target, right, which is Peter Dminis's word or some like heroic

Dminis's word or some like heroic accomplishment. Um

accomplishment. Um then that's false story because there

then that's false story because there should be no shame. If you want to just

should be no shame. If you want to just sit and garden, that's the most probably

sit and garden, that's the most probably some of the happiest, most content

some of the happiest, most content people are just sitting and tilling

people are just sitting and tilling their garden.

their garden. And they're not putting all this false

And they're not putting all this false pressure on themselves to create

pressure on themselves to create something, you know, that might saddle

something, you know, that might saddle them for years with other regrets and uh

them for years with other regrets and uh and and distractions and burdens.

and and distractions and burdens. You know, I think of all the burdens

You know, I think of all the burdens that have come from me trying to grow

that have come from me trying to grow Unbe into a business that can scale and

Unbe into a business that can scale and maybe, you know, go public someday. That

maybe, you know, go public someday. That was part of a story that I bought into

was part of a story that I bought into and it actually burdened me with a

and it actually burdened me with a million dollars of debt and a lot of uh

million dollars of debt and a lot of uh you know a lot of past regrets which I

you know a lot of past regrets which I finally just said screw it. I'm not

finally just said screw it. I'm not going to have any regrets. Uh because

going to have any regrets. Uh because that's not healthy. But they were there

that's not healthy. But they were there for a while

for a while and and and there's some cleanup to do

and and and there's some cleanup to do because you know whatever you put into

because you know whatever you put into the world and create right it's got a

the world and create right it's got a long tail of energy that you often just

long tail of energy that you often just have to clean up.

have to clean up. So you got to ask yourself who who

So you got to ask yourself who who really wants this and if it's coming

really wants this and if it's coming from your ego because you want to be

from your ego because you want to be seen as successful or as you know

seen as successful or as you know whatever someone says you should be or

whatever someone says you should be or shoot for the moon right do the

shoot for the moon right do the moonshot. Um

moonshot. Um chances are that's not the right reason.

chances are that's not the right reason. Now, if you're radically clear

Now, if you're radically clear that your heart says this is something

that your heart says this is something you can't not do,

you can't not do, right? That's the difference. It's going

right? That's the difference. It's going to happen whether you're you're involved

to happen whether you're you're involved or not, right? You can't not not do it.

or not, right? You can't not not do it. That doesn't make any sense. You can't

That doesn't make any sense. You can't not do it.

that's the principle of way action without the actor. If your ego is

action without the actor. If your ego is not involved and it's going to happen,

not involved and it's going to happen, then it's going to happen.

then it's going to happen. And if you're clear about the

And if you're clear about the directionality of what that thing is,

directionality of what that thing is, then start in that direction. But don't

then start in that direction. But don't think you're going to know what the

think you're going to know what the outcome is.

outcome is. It's impossible to know the outcome. So,

It's impossible to know the outcome. So, so in this philosophy, you have to have

so in this philosophy, you have to have an acceptable range of outcomes,

an acceptable range of outcomes, right? This is why the whole unicorn

right? This is why the whole unicorn thing or measuring things in size of

thing or measuring things in size of audience or or number of followers on

audience or or number of followers on social media or size of your bank

social media or size of your bank account or whether you go public or not

account or whether you go public or not or this or that, those are all false

or this or that, those are all false measures.

measures. You've got to have uh an acceptable

You've got to have uh an acceptable range of outcomes that you can envision

range of outcomes that you can envision and that's going to generally be around

and that's going to generally be around impact, the impact you make, how you

impact, the impact you make, how you serve and the effect it's going to have

serve and the effect it's going to have on your life. And you should never

on your life. And you should never create anything in your life that

create anything in your life that doesn't serve you 100%.

doesn't serve you 100%. And if and if it means serving other you

And if and if it means serving other you others through you, that's great. If you

others through you, that's great. If you can serve others and serve yourself,

can serve others and serve yourself, that's good. But you got to make sure

that's good. But you got to make sure you're not doing it for other reasons or

you're not doing it for other reasons or for other people or or to look good for,

for other people or or to look good for, you know, in society's terms

you know, in society's terms because that'll lead to regrets and

because that'll lead to regrets and entanglements

entanglements and you'll get trapped in it.

and you'll get trapped in it. Now, I don't think I directly answer

Now, I don't think I directly answer your question. Well, I may I did because

your question. Well, I may I did because by the end of the afternoon, you're

by the end of the afternoon, you're saying, "Well, that was crazy." Well,

saying, "Well, that was crazy." Well, maybe because it was crazy,

>> right? >> Yeah. your ego is getting

>> Yeah. your ego is getting >> and I think it's that is was it crazy or

>> and I think it's that is was it crazy or >> or isn't it and that's where there's

>> or isn't it and that's where there's that

that >> you know dilemma do I but I it was

>> you know dilemma do I but I it was helpful to understand maybe you know

helpful to understand maybe you know awareness is is the ego driving it or is

awareness is is the ego driving it or is it is it my heart driving

it is it my heart driving >> and my recommendation is not to give up

>> and my recommendation is not to give up the dream but to don't take any action

the dream but to don't take any action on it and just keep on sitting and

on it and just keep on sitting and meditating and saying who's this who's

meditating and saying who's this who's driving this is it my ego with some

driving this is it my ego with some neediness neediness. Does it have some

neediness neediness. Does it have some neediness to feel to feel worthy to be

neediness to feel to feel worthy to be seen to be important to be measured up

seen to be important to be measured up to be like that person or this person?

to be like that person or this person? If it's any of those, then it's ego. Or

If it's any of those, then it's ego. Or is this coming from spirit, right? Is

is this coming from spirit, right? Is this coming from your heart? Is this

this coming from your heart? Is this something that's going to happen

something that's going to happen regardless?

regardless? And if it's something and and if you can

And if it's something and and if you can get there where it's something that's

get there where it's something that's going to happen, period, then um

going to happen, period, then um suddenly the obstacles will drop away.

suddenly the obstacles will drop away. You won't feel the confusion that you're

You won't feel the confusion that you're having. You won't feel any energy drain.

having. You won't feel any energy drain. You'll be hair on fire. Go, go, go. So,

You'll be hair on fire. Go, go, go. So, wait for that signal.

>> Great. Thanks, Mark. Appreciate it. >> You bet.

>> Go ahead, Anga. >> Thank you.

>> Thank you. Thanks, Marks. Great to see you again.

Thanks, Marks. Great to see you again. Uh, and thanks for the useful tips. My

Uh, and thanks for the useful tips. My question will be uh regarding uh a a

question will be uh regarding uh a a topic we uh brought up today about

topic we uh brought up today about negative self talk. Uh shortly saying

negative self talk. Uh shortly saying like everything is fine so far. Yeah. Uh

like everything is fine so far. Yeah. Uh as you know me uh that I'm quite

as you know me uh that I'm quite successful uh and everything is going

successful uh and everything is going well. Uh however of course everyone has

well. Uh however of course everyone has cases about something from the past

cases about something from the past which maybe wasn't fully realized. maybe

which maybe wasn't fully realized. maybe some goals that weren't reached and from

some goals that weren't reached and from times to times uh it keeps showing up

times to times uh it keeps showing up this shadow also saying uh dops and

this shadow also saying uh dops and negative selft talk like I start

negative selft talk like I start thinking like despite everything I have

thinking like despite everything I have already achieved uh maybe I could do

already achieved uh maybe I could do better maybe that past me uh who maybe a

better maybe that past me uh who maybe a little bit different personal maybe

little bit different personal maybe professional little bit different

professional little bit different specialist uh in my area uh that

specialist uh in my area uh that something isn't yet reached. Yeah, it is

something isn't yet reached. Yeah, it is not truly fear. Yeah, I would say it

not truly fear. Yeah, I would say it rather than adopted. So what is one

rather than adopted. So what is one effective way how to interrupt that

effective way how to interrupt that pattern when it shows up? Yeah. And uh

pattern when it shows up? Yeah. And uh get rid of those things like and turning

get rid of those things like and turning yourself into the the loser mode. I

yourself into the the loser mode. I would say who you definitely are not.

would say who you definitely are not. Yeah. But let's say those shadows from

Yeah. But let's say those shadows from the past coming up like I could be a

the past coming up like I could be a better myself. Yeah. But for some reason

better myself. Yeah. But for some reason I didn't reach it. However, in reality

I didn't reach it. However, in reality is that all the goals are actually

is that all the goals are actually reached. But maybe from the different

reached. But maybe from the different perspective, not like I imagined it at

perspective, not like I imagined it at first. Thanks.

first. Thanks. >> Yeah.

Well, first of all, know that um

um this is pretty common, right? There's

this is pretty common, right? There's nothing wrong with you to have negative

nothing wrong with you to have negative selft talk and still be very s very

selft talk and still be very s very successful. I find that to be norm norm

successful. I find that to be norm norm um

um regardless of your culture uh negativity

regardless of your culture uh negativity is baked into the human condition

is baked into the human condition uh for now right and it may always be

uh for now right and it may always be that way but uh it doesn't have to be on

that way but uh it doesn't have to be on an individual basis uh you're trained

an individual basis uh you're trained with negative language um whether that's

with negative language um whether that's just pure academia or through your

just pure academia or through your religion or through your family uh if

religion or through your family uh if you have an particular the acute case of

you have an particular the acute case of negative selft talk. It's likely that uh

negative selft talk. It's likely that uh you were brought up in a family that had

you were brought up in a family that had a lot of negative selft talk. Uh that

a lot of negative selft talk. Uh that certainly was my case. Negative selft

certainly was my case. Negative selft talk or negative talk in a family um can

talk or negative talk in a family um can be um couched in even in positive terms

be um couched in even in positive terms right as we like toxic positivity right

right as we like toxic positivity right or uh sarcasm which you don't know when

or uh sarcasm which you don't know when you grow up you you know because you're

you grow up you you know because you're laughing at your dad's sarcastic jokes.

laughing at your dad's sarcastic jokes. And I'm speaking from per personal

And I'm speaking from per personal experience and you don't recognize

experience and you don't recognize that's negative until later in your life

that's negative until later in your life when you realize, wow, that doesn't feel

when you realize, wow, that doesn't feel good, right? And it's not leading other

good, right? And it's not leading other people to feel good because that's

people to feel good because that's sarcastic. That's biting. It's negative.

sarcastic. That's biting. It's negative. >> So negativity shows up in a lot of ways

>> So negativity shows up in a lot of ways and a lot of times it's it's couched as

and a lot of times it's it's couched as positive, right? Um whenever someone

positive, right? Um whenever someone tries to help you and they actually are

tries to help you and they actually are judging you, that's negative. And it's

judging you, that's negative. And it's gonna that that means they're in their

gonna that that means they're in their mind they're doing something they think

mind they're doing something they think they perceive as positive, but they're

they perceive as positive, but they're actually talking to themselves and

actually talking to themselves and perceiving a negative energy and and uh

perceiving a negative energy and and uh talk. So, um my point there is it's very

talk. So, um my point there is it's very very common. There's nothing wrong with

very common. There's nothing wrong with you. Uh in fact, everything's right

you. Uh in fact, everything's right because now you're you're paying

because now you're you're paying attention to it. You're noticing it. And

attention to it. You're noticing it. And uh bringing things like this into

uh bringing things like this into awareness is the first step to being

awareness is the first step to being able to deal with it, to eradicate it.

able to deal with it, to eradicate it. So um

So um at first it's a very active process

at first it's a very active process right it's almost it's almost like you

right it's almost it's almost like you have to do violence against the

have to do violence against the negativity to get its attention right to

negativity to get its attention right to get your attention

get your attention and um and so becoming aware like I said

and um and so becoming aware like I said practice makes you aware of it because

practice makes you aware of it because when you're when you're in practice like

when you're when you're in practice like you're creating you're creating a

you're creating you're creating a contrast because it feels really good to

contrast because it feels really good to sit and box breathe

sit and box breathe And to have a positive mantra, it feels

And to have a positive mantra, it feels really good. And without the practice,

really good. And without the practice, you were always just steeped in kind of

you were always just steeped in kind of this old normal where negative talk,

this old normal where negative talk, negative thinking was it just felt

negative thinking was it just felt normal and it didn't really you didn't

normal and it didn't really you didn't have anything to compare it to. So by

have anything to compare it to. So by being part of this community or others

being part of this community or others and and reading great uh positive books

and and reading great uh positive books and and now practicing and you're

and and now practicing and you're starting to enter different states of of

starting to enter different states of of awareness or consciousness where where

awareness or consciousness where where suddenly it feels better. It feels more

suddenly it feels better. It feels more right. It feels more integrated. It

right. It feels more integrated. It feels more whole. feels peaceful

feels more whole. feels peaceful whatever it's still a state right but

whatever it's still a state right but it's it now can be juxtaposed against

it's it now can be juxtaposed against this other state which is negative and

this other state which is negative and so when you think about selft talk

so when you think about selft talk positive selft talk feels good when you

positive selft talk feels good when you when you even if you have to fake it

when you even if you have to fake it before you make it like I'm I am worthy

before you make it like I'm I am worthy I am kind I am compassionate I'm feeling

I am kind I am compassionate I'm feeling good I'm looking good I ought to be in

good I'm looking good I ought to be in Hollywood day by day in every way I'm

Hollywood day by day in every way I'm getting better and better hey I've got

getting better and better hey I've got this easy day piece of cake who hey

this easy day piece of cake who hey that's my inner dialogue now because I

that's my inner dialogue now because I had to train it in my mind and I had to

had to train it in my mind and I had to feel into it and I had to believe into

feel into it and I had to believe into it until all of a sudden as soon as I

it until all of a sudden as soon as I say those words I'm like that's truth I

say those words I'm like that's truth I believe that and over time this is what

believe that and over time this is what I mean by by uh in order to in order to

I mean by by uh in order to in order to get rid of negative talk you don't focus

get rid of negative talk you don't focus on it you you replace it with positive

on it you you replace it with positive talk feed courage positive talk starve

talk feed courage positive talk starve fear negative talk

fear negative talk um so over time. That's the practice.

um so over time. That's the practice. Always turning away from the negative

Always turning away from the negative and feeding courage until you just bleed

and feeding courage until you just bleed the negative selft talk of all energy

the negative selft talk of all energy and it pops and disappears.

and it pops and disappears. Having said that, in the beginning

Having said that, in the beginning phases where you are right now, you've

phases where you are right now, you've got to be more forceful.

got to be more forceful. And so when you notice the negative talk

And so when you notice the negative talk arising like I don't know, I'm not

arising like I don't know, I'm not worthy. I'm not sure I'm good enough. I

worthy. I'm not sure I'm good enough. I should be able to accomplish more.

should be able to accomplish more. Right? even though I'm successful, I

Right? even though I'm successful, I should be more. Well, that's

should be more. Well, that's That's a negative story. And you've got

That's a negative story. And you've got to then take control of your mind.

to then take control of your mind. And by taking control of the mind

And by taking control of the mind because you've already observed that

because you've already observed that negative thought, now you say, "No,

negative thought, now you say, "No, screw that.

screw that. I'm not going to allow that negative

I'm not going to allow that negative thought. I'm not going to follow it up.

thought. I'm not going to follow it up. I'm not going to feed it. I'm going to

I'm not going to feed it. I'm going to now that I've intercepted it, I've

now that I've intercepted it, I've noticed it and I've intercepted. I'm

noticed it and I've intercepted. I'm going to shift my attention. I call that

going to shift my attention. I call that redirect. This is the worm process I

redirect. This is the worm process I addressed earlier. I'm going to redirect

addressed earlier. I'm going to redirect it and I'm going to force myself

it and I'm going to force myself into a positive dialogue. And this is a

into a positive dialogue. And this is a forceful thing because your mind's going

forceful thing because your mind's going to want to keep going back to that

to want to keep going back to that negative because it's it's attractive.

negative because it's it's attractive. You're kind of addicted to it. Not in a

You're kind of addicted to it. Not in a sense that you got addicted to it as an

sense that you got addicted to it as an adult, but as a child, it was trained

adult, but as a child, it was trained into you. It became a habitual pattern.

into you. It became a habitual pattern. So you've got to say nope not not having

So you've got to say nope not not having any of that right now I'm better than

any of that right now I'm better than that that's the redirect and then you go

that that's the redirect and then you go into your positive selft talk and it can

into your positive selft talk and it can be in the form of those mantras like I

be in the form of those mantras like I said or you just talk to yourself right

said or you just talk to yourself right I am worthy I am successful right

I am worthy I am successful right there's nothing lacking I've got

there's nothing lacking I've got everything I need

everything I need right when I when you love what you have

right when I when you love what you have you have everything you need

you have everything you need and that's and that's the dialogue

and that's and that's the dialogue Right? You come up with your own

Right? You come up with your own internal self positive talk.

internal self positive talk. Like I I gave you examples of mine. I've

Like I I gave you examples of mine. I've got like five go-tos. Feeling good. I'm

got like five go-tos. Feeling good. I'm looking good. Ought to be in Hollywood

looking good. Ought to be in Hollywood day by day in every way and better and

day by day in every way and better and better. Huyah. Hey, I've got this easy

better. Huyah. Hey, I've got this easy day, piece of cake. Huyah. Hey. I use

day, piece of cake. Huyah. Hey. I use the Sanskrit omniva.

the Sanskrit omniva. And I am love. I am light. I forgive

And I am love. I am light. I forgive myself and I love myself.

>> Let's Let's try. Yeah, just need to to work on it and and try. Yeah. Or maybe

work on it and and try. Yeah. Or maybe within a new domain set new goals and

within a new domain set new goals and yeah and focus on

yeah and focus on >> you know what uh

>> you know what uh >> on the future.

>> on the future. >> Yoda from Star Wars says do or do not.

>> Yoda from Star Wars says do or do not. There is no try.

There is no try. >> So don't use the word try because you've

>> So don't use the word try because you've already given yourself an out.

already given yourself an out. >> Do the practice or do not do the

>> Do the practice or do not do the practice. But you've just committed to

practice. But you've just committed to doing the practice. So I would expect if

doing the practice. So I would expect if you do this practice and make it

you do this practice and make it centerpiece every day because you've

centerpiece every day because you've identified this is a major thing in your

identified this is a major thing in your life that you want to eradicate negative

life that you want to eradicate negative selft talk. If you do this practice

selft talk. If you do this practice every single day, every time you notice

every single day, every time you notice your mind going negative, every time you

your mind going negative, every time you just turn away from it, turn your back

just turn away from it, turn your back to it and focus on neg positive

to it and focus on neg positive thinking, positive selft talk, positive

thinking, positive selft talk, positive dialogue, write down your mantras,

dialogue, write down your mantras, practice them every single day. I can

practice them every single day. I can guarantee you if you come back in March,

guarantee you if you come back in March, you will have a very different energy

you will have a very different energy around this. I guarantee you daily

around this. I guarantee you daily practice. All right, you got this.

practice. All right, you got this. >> Yes,

>> Yes, >> I believe in you. Hooya.

>> I believe in you. Hooya. >> Hooya. All right, we'll hop into

>> Hooya. All right, we'll hop into Patrick.

Patrick. >> Carry on, sailor.

>> Carry on, sailor. >> Next. Hooya.

>> Next. Hooya. >> Patrick, you are up. Go ahead and unmute

>> Patrick, you are up. Go ahead and unmute yourself.

>> Now we can. >> Okay. I I tried to change my background.

>> Okay. I I tried to change my background. I couldn't figure it out. Um,

I couldn't figure it out. Um, I guess I'll start off with uh

I guess I'll start off with uh I guess my two mantras have become not

I guess my two mantras have become not by the words of my mouth but by the

by the words of my mouth but by the manifestations of my heart and not

manifestations of my heart and not enough sleep, not enough food to keep my

enough sleep, not enough food to keep my feet because I'm the dude. And I guess

feet because I'm the dude. And I guess my my my question

my my my question is

is how could I convey

how could I convey more joy versus like you hear embrace

more joy versus like you hear embrace the suck and that kind of rubs people

the suck and that kind of rubs people the wrong way, you know. Um, in the

the wrong way, you know. Um, in the Bible it says men are cursed with the

Bible it says men are cursed with the sweat of the brow and, you know, a

sweat of the brow and, you know, a broken back. And, you know, Seephus was

broken back. And, you know, Seephus was cursed to push a boulder up a hill for

cursed to push a boulder up a hill for the rest of his afterlife. And I always

the rest of his afterlife. And I always ponder if if he's happy or not. And um I

ponder if if he's happy or not. And um I I was just wondering how I could convey

I was just wondering how I could convey to to I guess more specifically men

to to I guess more specifically men since we do have to work harder. How

since we do have to work harder. How could I convey to them better to take

could I convey to them better to take joy in the hard work instead of saying

joy in the hard work instead of saying like you know suck it up buttercup or or

like you know suck it up buttercup or or just embrace the suck because they kind

just embrace the suck because they kind of just don't you know I can see they

of just don't you know I can see they get it but they don't really understand

get it but they don't really understand right

right >> and that's really where I'm at. Do you

>> and that's really where I'm at. Do you uh coach others in some capacity?

uh coach others in some capacity? >> I'm trying to get there. Uh that's my

>> I'm trying to get there. Uh that's my end goal.

end goal. >> Got it.

>> Got it. >> Uh so you're bringing up a really good

>> Uh so you're bringing up a really good point. Um,

imagine it like um, you know, metaphorically like a rocket

you know, metaphorically like a rocket leaving a launchpad and then trying to,

leaving a launchpad and then trying to, you know, getting through the suborbital

you know, getting through the suborbital phases and then getting into space,

phases and then getting into space, right? Each one of them requires a

right? Each one of them requires a different activation and energy, doesn't

different activation and energy, doesn't it? Right. So getting the um breaking

it? Right. So getting the um breaking free from the inertia of you know

free from the inertia of you know groundbased

you know uh starship is incredible. It requires an incredible amount of energy

requires an incredible amount of energy and it's it's uh it's shattering one

and it's it's uh it's shattering one paradigm and entering another.

paradigm and entering another. Right?

Right? So terms like embrace the suck, suck it

So terms like embrace the suck, suck it up. Um,

up. Um, you know, and and interventions like,

you know, and and interventions like, you know, take your eyes off yourself

you know, take your eyes off yourself and put them on others. Um, these are

and put them on others. Um, these are all like it's like the it's like the

all like it's like the it's like the engines blasting off and trying to get

engines blasting off and trying to get the the individual to shift out of one

the the individual to shift out of one level of consciousness and and and

level of consciousness and and and radically jerked into another level

radically jerked into another level quickly.

However, that energy gets expended fairly quickly

fairly quickly and as you alluded to, it's not the

and as you alluded to, it's not the right energy to take you up out of the,

right energy to take you up out of the, you know, into the into the stratosphere

you know, into the into the stratosphere because it has a negative quality. It's

because it has a negative quality. It's it's very similar to saying that anger

it's very similar to saying that anger can be a great motivator. The only time

can be a great motivator. The only time and way that anger is a great motivator

and way that anger is a great motivator is to get you off your ass. To get off

is to get you off your ass. To get off the X, so to speak, you know, in SEAL

the X, so to speak, you know, in SEAL language, the X being the ambush or the

language, the X being the ambush or the place that you're freaking stuck in a

place that you're freaking stuck in a ditch and the enem is descending upon

ditch and the enem is descending upon you. So anger can be a great motivator

you. So anger can be a great motivator to get you off your ass or to embrace

to get you off your ass or to embrace the suck. Suck it up. Get through this

the suck. Suck it up. Get through this situation. Let me get to higher ground

situation. Let me get to higher ground so I can see things better. like see

so I can see things better. like see more and then you shift focus and you

more and then you shift focus and you got to move from there into surrender.

got to move from there into surrender. It's like effort surrender and the

It's like effort surrender and the surrender phase is positive and that's

surrender phase is positive and that's when uh you can get to joy and and and

when uh you can get to joy and and and work becomes not work not the you know

work becomes not work not the you know not the brow being beaten and not

not the brow being beaten and not cisphus putting the rock up the hill and

cisphus putting the rock up the hill and having it roll back down on top of them

having it roll back down on top of them but work becomes joy

but work becomes joy and flow.

So in any type of process of transformation,

transformation, the most

the most um the hardest part is the early stages

um the hardest part is the early stages because you got to break free

because you got to break free of all the conditioning that's gotten

of all the conditioning that's gotten you stuck.

you stuck. And that can be painful.

And that can be painful. It can be literally physically painful.

It can be literally physically painful. It's emotionally painful. Um it's

It's emotionally painful. Um it's confusing.

confusing. This is why like the work that we do

This is why like the work that we do here and why I say the body's got to be

here and why I say the body's got to be part of it is because it's not

part of it is because it's not comfortable

comfortable and this is why many many like

and this is why many many like developmental programs especially

developmental programs especially spiritual development new age

spiritual development new age yoga um sitting in you know Buddhist

yoga um sitting in you know Buddhist posture going to a Zen monastery they

posture going to a Zen monastery they don't work

don't work like there's very few people are

like there's very few people are transformed from those because it's too

transformed from those because it's too comfortable.

It's like, oh, everything's great. I feel really good here in this vipasa

feel really good here in this vipasa retreat. You know, maybe there's a

retreat. You know, maybe there's a little bit of kind of boredom in the

little bit of kind of boredom in the first 24 hours, but by the end of it,

first 24 hours, but by the end of it, everyone's going, "This is great.

everyone's going, "This is great. I feel so peaceful."

I feel so peaceful." And then as soon as they get on the

And then as soon as they get on the plane to go home, right, they're back to

plane to go home, right, they're back to their old selves, agitated and anxious

their old selves, agitated and anxious and confused again

and confused again because it's not true transformation.

because it's not true transformation. It's just it's just creating a temporary

It's just it's just creating a temporary state of perceived peace

state of perceived peace and it's not lasting and it's not it's

and it's not lasting and it's not it's not transformation. Transformation is

not transformation. Transformation is changing the very nature of who you are.

changing the very nature of who you are. It's not giving you some mental

It's not giving you some mental perception of peace.

So language like that is like a kick in the

language like that is like a kick in the ass,

ass, right? It's like get off of your get out

right? It's like get off of your get out of your freaking ego. Get out of your

of your freaking ego. Get out of your head. Get off the X. Suck it up,

head. Get off the X. Suck it up, right? Um it's not going to be easy.

right? Um it's not going to be easy. it's going to be uncomfortable

and you stay in that discomfort zone and you suck it up and you embrace that suck

you suck it up and you embrace that suck until you get comfortable with that

until you get comfortable with that level of discomfort

level of discomfort and then suddenly you don't have to suck

and then suddenly you don't have to suck it up anymore.

it up anymore. It's effortless.

It's effortless. And then of course you may now go to

And then of course you may now go to another level of discomfort but you you

another level of discomfort but you you don't need to use the same language

don't need to use the same language anymore because what used to be

anymore because what used to be perceived as a challenge now is an

perceived as a challenge now is an opportunity. It's exciting like yeah I'm

opportunity. It's exciting like yeah I'm going to go do something really hard you

going to go do something really hard you know and it's going to be exciting

know and it's going to be exciting because I know I'm going to gain insight

because I know I'm going to gain insight and awareness and grow from it. So the

and awareness and grow from it. So the language changes. Does that make sense?

language changes. Does that make sense? >> Makes sense. Yes.

>> Makes sense. Yes. >> Yeah. So just look at that stuff, that

>> Yeah. So just look at that stuff, that language and those those kind of like,

language and those those kind of like, you know, those those statements or or

you know, those those statements or or those motivators that have kind of that

those motivators that have kind of that negative quality to it as just like

negative quality to it as just like little sticks of dynamite. They expend

little sticks of dynamite. They expend their energy and then you move on.

>> Oh yeah. Next question, Paul.

>> Me, I guess. Thank you. Uh, coach, uh, uh, I came out to one of your SEALIT

uh, I came out to one of your SEALIT camps, uh, 11 12 years ago now, and it

camps, uh, 11 12 years ago now, and it was life-changing. So, thank you.

was life-changing. So, thank you. >> Nice.

>> Nice. >> Um, and this question is probably more

>> Um, and this question is probably more pedestrian than than the first few

pedestrian than than the first few questions, but you caught my attention

questions, but you caught my attention earlier when you talked about exercise

earlier when you talked about exercise addiction. And so, my question is, how

addiction. And so, my question is, how do you assess that you're getting

do you assess that you're getting sufficient recovery?

Um it really is about body sensitivity uh and capacity.

uh and capacity. So like um maybe this year isn't a great

So like um maybe this year isn't a great example for me, but it's still Germaine

example for me, but it's still Germaine like with my injury and and um I've

like with my injury and and um I've needed a lot more recovery

needed a lot more recovery than I'm used to. Um, but fortunately

than I'm used to. Um, but fortunately I've been training for so long I pay

I've been training for so long I pay attention to that and I I haven't

attention to that and I I haven't overdone it and reinjured myself which I

overdone it and reinjured myself which I might have done when I was 25 or 30. Um,

might have done when I was 25 or 30. Um, paying attention to the body means

paying attention to the body means paying attention to the body and to

paying attention to the body and to include when you're overtraining.

include when you're overtraining. And so symptoms of overtraining or

And so symptoms of overtraining or training uh um of needing a break are

training uh um of needing a break are your your sleep the first and foremost

your your sleep the first and foremost is your sleep gets disrupted because you

is your sleep gets disrupted because you have too much cortisol flowing through

have too much cortisol flowing through your system. So sleep pattern disruption

your system. So sleep pattern disruption is a sign that maybe you're doing too

is a sign that maybe you're doing too much and you need a rest. Um of course

much and you need a rest. Um of course any kind of uh indication of an injury.

any kind of uh indication of an injury. Now, I'm not saying they're all

Now, I'm not saying they're all necessarily uh meaning you need a rest,

necessarily uh meaning you need a rest, but sometimes a movement pattern that

but sometimes a movement pattern that you maybe you're o overindexing on has

you maybe you're o overindexing on has like a dysfunctionality to it.

like a dysfunctionality to it. It's got an imperfection in it and

It's got an imperfection in it and that's going to show up as some sort of

that's going to show up as some sort of glitch in your system. And so, you might

glitch in your system. And so, you might need to like just slow down and take a

need to like just slow down and take a look at the movement pattern. Trace the

look at the movement pattern. Trace the glitch back to its source.

glitch back to its source. And uh that that could look like doing

And uh that that could look like doing some recovery or physical therapy or you

some recovery or physical therapy or you know just backing down and doing some

know just backing down and doing some yoga letting it come back into balance.

yoga letting it come back into balance. Right? So that's another indicator that

Right? So that's another indicator that things might be going off the rails and

things might be going off the rails and you need to take some time to recover.

you need to take some time to recover. Um to me recovery is an active process.

Um to me recovery is an active process. So so I do 20 minutes of yoga every

So so I do 20 minutes of yoga every single day and it's it's as important to

single day and it's it's as important to me as like eating and sleeping. It's

me as like eating and sleeping. It's like daily dental floss for the body,

like daily dental floss for the body, the spine, the joints. And that is an

the spine, the joints. And that is an active recovery.

active recovery. Whereas I can train hard

Whereas I can train hard and if I do yoga, I don't need to take

and if I do yoga, I don't need to take as much time off because that yoga is is

as much time off because that yoga is is um is my recovery time.

um is my recovery time. And I love to move my body. So if if I

And I love to move my body. So if if I can train seven times a week, that's

can train seven times a week, that's great. But I usually don't anyways.

great. But I usually don't anyways. A lot of times, most most weeks, it's

A lot of times, most most weeks, it's either Saturday or Sunday, I'll I'll

either Saturday or Sunday, I'll I'll have the intention to train, but I just

have the intention to train, but I just don't and uh you know, end up going for

don't and uh you know, end up going for a long walk or a ruck, you know, with my

a long walk or a ruck, you know, with my weight vest or something, and I don't

weight vest or something, and I don't even consider that training. That's just

even consider that training. That's just >> that's just movement, right?

>> that's just movement, right? So build into your system or your time u

So build into your system or your time u things that that other people might

things that that other people might think of as training but for you is just

think of as training but for you is just pleasure like a long walk put a weight

pleasure like a long walk put a weight vest on uh go for a swim right um stuff

vest on uh go for a swim right um stuff like that like I I that's more active

like that like I I that's more active recovery

I would say anytime you're beginning to feel excess

anytime you're beginning to feel excess fatigue

fatigue and stress stress. Um, most likely it's

and stress stress. Um, most likely it's from psychological pressure and anxiety.

from psychological pressure and anxiety. But if you've been overtraining that can

But if you've been overtraining that can be exacerbated

be exacerbated because your body is not restoring,

because your body is not restoring, you're not drawing the energy in. You're

you're not drawing the energy in. You're not getting that, you know, that that

not getting that, you know, that that yin to the yang. So, you're just doing

yin to the yang. So, you're just doing too much. And it may not be just it may

too much. And it may not be just it may not be physical exercise. It may be

not be physical exercise. It may be you're just doing too much

you're just doing too much >> and you need to recover from doing too

>> and you need to recover from doing too much. So that's the time to like uh

much. So that's the time to like uh reduce your commitments, clear your

reduce your commitments, clear your schedule and just stop doing so much and

schedule and just stop doing so much and that's another way to recover.

>> Thank you. >> Important topic. Thanks for asking.

>> Important topic. Thanks for asking. >> Perfect. Um G, you can go next.

>> You hear me? >> Yes.

>> Yes. >> Yeah. Okay. Um well I have a question

>> Yeah. Okay. Um well I have a question whether I like Mark's take on it. Uh in

whether I like Mark's take on it. Uh in personal development

personal development uh you have two uh directions uh and

uh you have two uh directions uh and that's whether you uh and that's my

that's whether you uh and that's my question whether you focus on areas

question whether you focus on areas where you where you are already strong

where you where you are already strong or uh whether it's um

or uh whether it's um equally important to improve your weak

equally important to improve your weak your weak sides and your weak skills. Um

your weak sides and your weak skills. Um the the reason I'm asking or the the

the the reason I'm asking or the the practical example is I lead a small team

practical example is I lead a small team and I have a security installation

and I have a security installation company. I've been pouring lots of

company. I've been pouring lots of energy, time, courses and books into

energy, time, courses and books into leading uh my people uh to get them to

leading uh my people uh to get them to work efficiently um but not really

work efficiently um but not really paying off a lot. So, I have the feeling

paying off a lot. So, I have the feeling that I'm I started at a four out of 10

that I'm I started at a four out of 10 uh on uh on ability and I'm moving to a

uh on uh on ability and I'm moving to a five or a six. Uh but it doesn't seem

five or a six. Uh but it doesn't seem worth all the uh all the efforts that

worth all the uh all the efforts that I'm pouring into it. So, I'm wondering

I'm pouring into it. So, I'm wondering wouldn't it be better to focus on the on

wouldn't it be better to focus on the on the strong sides?

the strong sides? >> Okay. Um,

in the realm of horizontal development, which is what you're talking about, uh,

which is what you're talking about, uh, it's important to to acknowledge your

it's important to to acknowledge your strengths and to really focus on your

strengths and to really focus on your strengths and to um if you can um if you

strengths and to um if you can um if you can transfer things that you're weak at

can transfer things that you're weak at to someone who's strong at it,

to someone who's strong at it, then you'll be better off. So delegate

then you'll be better off. So delegate or uh you know transfer the you know um

or uh you know transfer the you know um responsibilities even if you're CEO to

responsibilities even if you're CEO to others for those things you're weak at.

others for those things you're weak at. It's a fool's errand right to

It's a fool's errand right to try to become super strong at the things

try to become super strong at the things you're weak at and to become and to

you're weak at and to become and to improve the things you're already strong

improve the things you're already strong at.

at. Okay. So that doesn't work. Um now now

Okay. So that doesn't work. Um now now having said that

having said that that's what we call horizontal

that's what we call horizontal development which is to become better

development which is to become better and more skilled at doing things

and more skilled at doing things and that's only half the equation of

and that's only half the equation of development and it's not the most

development and it's not the most important and what we talk about here at

important and what we talk about here at unveil mind is vertical development.

unveil mind is vertical development. Vertical development is to become

Vertical development is to become different at how you show up. It works

different at how you show up. It works on the who not the what. It works on the

on the who not the what. It works on the being not the doing.

being not the doing. So in vertical development um you also

So in vertical development um you also have strengths and weaknesses right? So

have strengths and weaknesses right? So if you look at the five mountains

if you look at the five mountains physical, mental, emotional, intuitional

physical, mental, emotional, intuitional and spiritual, you can rate those. We're

and spiritual, you can rate those. We're going to do that tomorrow like what is

going to do that tomorrow like what is what is the um you know where do you

what is the um you know where do you stand physically on a scale of 1 to five

stand physically on a scale of 1 to five or 1 to 10 and mentally and emotionally.

or 1 to 10 and mentally and emotionally. Now we have to define those terms a

Now we have to define those terms a little bit more but you can get a sense

little bit more but you can get a sense for you know it looks like kind of a

for you know it looks like kind of a scatteragramgram but you know and you

scatteragramgram but you know and you can't rise above your lowest score. So

can't rise above your lowest score. So if you're rating three on physical and

if you're rating three on physical and four on everything else then then you're

four on everything else then then you're operating at a three or if you're five

operating at a three or if you're five at physical because you're a stud but

at physical because you're a stud but you're operating at a two emotionally

you're operating at a two emotionally and somewhere like three on the other

and somewhere like three on the other three then you're operating at a two.

three then you're operating at a two. So

So um vertical development is to um train

um vertical development is to um train the

the beingness right. So not necessarily a a

beingness right. So not necessarily a a skill like a professional skill like

skill like a professional skill like leadership but just who you are become

leadership but just who you are become more whole become more uh uh uh

more whole become more uh uh uh competent and and uh effective and

competent and and uh effective and integrate those five mountains. And what

integrate those five mountains. And what happens is as you elevate your stage of

happens is as you elevate your stage of consciousness or your stage of awareness

consciousness or your stage of awareness or your your capacity to see more uh

or your your capacity to see more uh understand more deconstruct limiting uh

understand more deconstruct limiting uh stories and open up to more of your

stories and open up to more of your potential

potential then

then what you bring to the skills of the

what you bring to the skills of the horizontal development suddenly is much

horizontal development suddenly is much more awareness and energy. And so those

more awareness and energy. And so those positive qualities that you would call

positive qualities that you would call strengths, you're actually become much

strengths, you're actually become much stronger at and much more aware and

stronger at and much more aware and capable. And those other areas that you

capable. And those other areas that you thought were weaknesses, suddenly you

thought were weaknesses, suddenly you find that you're actually operating,

find that you're actually operating, they might still be weaker than your

they might still be weaker than your strengths, but like if you were to

strengths, but like if you were to evaluate yourself in the old version of

evaluate yourself in the old version of you, they would now look like strengths.

you, they would now look like strengths. So, if you work on the who you are with

So, if you work on the who you are with more intensity and more um fervor than

more intensity and more um fervor than the what you do, then you're going to

the what you do, then you're going to get better results

get better results in the what you do category than if you

in the what you do category than if you just focused on that alone.

just focused on that alone. I hope that makes sense. That's that's

I hope that makes sense. That's that's why this is so important. We're working

why this is so important. We're working on the who

on the who uh and not just the what. And if you do

uh and not just the what. And if you do that well, then the what the what you do

that well, then the what the what you do gets better and better and better, more

gets better and better and better, more effective, more more u more aware. And

effective, more more u more aware. And also you you learn, you know, what you

also you you learn, you know, what you should be doing and what you shouldn't

should be doing and what you shouldn't be doing. And it gets easier to say no

be doing. And it gets easier to say no or to offload things that you shouldn't

or to offload things that you shouldn't be doing.

be doing. >> Good. Thanks. Makes sense.

>> Good. Thanks. Makes sense. >> You're welcome.

>> You're welcome. >> Thank you, G. Great question. Uh Dave,

>> Thank you, G. Great question. Uh Dave, you're up next.

uh long. There you go. There you go. >> Okay. Can you hear me?

>> Okay. Can you hear me? >> Yeah.

>> Yeah. >> Okay, good.

>> Okay, good. Longtime follower, first- time caller is

Longtime follower, first- time caller is how normally put it. But, uh, my

how normally put it. But, uh, my question is, well, right when you went

question is, well, right when you went through the fair loop, I immediately

through the fair loop, I immediately related to a tool I use at work. I'm a

related to a tool I use at work. I'm a lean sensei, which requires lean

lean sensei, which requires lean transformation, changing processes, and

transformation, changing processes, and getting people to buy into new systems.

getting people to buy into new systems. So the model that I use is BTFA.

So the model that I use is BTFA. Believe, think, feel, act. What people

Believe, think, feel, act. What people believe drives how they think, drives

believe drives how they think, drives what they feel about it. Your emotional

what they feel about it. Your emotional connection drives how they act. The

connection drives how they act. The behavior side of it. Uh I quite often

behavior side of it. Uh I quite often have difficulty getting people to buy

have difficulty getting people to buy into the change. So my question to you

into the change. So my question to you is does the person need to come to the

is does the person need to come to the realization and understand the need to

realization and understand the need to change or can you assist them and coach

change or can you assist them and coach them in some way so that they can

them in some way so that they can realize the gaps and be able to change

realize the gaps and be able to change that behavior and change the negative uh

that behavior and change the negative uh thought process.

Um, that's a great question and and you will know that I'm what I'm

and and you will know that I'm what I'm about to say is accurate.

about to say is accurate. Yes, you can you can help someone um

Yes, you can you can help someone um identify and know their negative thought

identify and know their negative thought patterns and to be able to change them.

patterns and to be able to change them. You can't change them, but you can help

You can't change them, but you can help them if if

them if if they want it.

they want it. Right? If they want it. uh you can this

Right? If they want it. uh you can this is why change is so hard in any

is why change is so hard in any organization. So I applaud you for your

organization. So I applaud you for your job. It's ridiculously hard. Uh most

job. It's ridiculously hard. Uh most change you know 80% of change

change you know 80% of change initiatives fail. I have a PhD in global

initiatives fail. I have a PhD in global leadership and change. I understand your

leadership and change. I understand your world and I think it's incredible.

world and I think it's incredible. Sensei

Sensei um you're not going to get change unless

um you're not going to get change unless you have a tipping point majority of

you have a tipping point majority of individuals who truly buy in. They want

individuals who truly buy in. They want it and they're willing to overcome their

it and they're willing to overcome their immunity to change.

immunity to change. #robert Keegan and uh and that requires

#robert Keegan and uh and that requires us to uh or them and everyone

us to uh or them and everyone to be willing to acknowledge their own

to be willing to acknowledge their own part in the resistance.

part in the resistance. And once you So, so part of the probably

And once you So, so part of the probably the most important training for you is

the most important training for you is to get people to understand how they are

to get people to understand how they are the obstacle,

the obstacle, right? And and collective uh negativity,

right? And and collective uh negativity, collective

collective um resistance.

um resistance. Uh you know, name it what you will. Like

Uh you know, name it what you will. Like our way was better. It's the way we've

our way was better. It's the way we've always done things. Oh, here comes

always done things. Oh, here comes another change initiative. This one's

another change initiative. This one's going to fail, too. Right? Alls we got

going to fail, too. Right? Alls we got to do is ride it out and the six sigma

to do is ride it out and the six sigma guy is going to be gone sooner or later

guy is going to be gone sooner or later or we'll have a new boss or you know

or we'll have a new boss or you know we'll get bought up by competitor A, B

we'll get bought up by competitor A, B or C, resistance can come in innumerable

or C, resistance can come in innumerable stories

stories and until someone until you know you as

and until someone until you know you as a change agent can get people to see

a change agent can get people to see those stories and to identify them as

those stories and to identify them as and major obstacles and and

and major obstacles and and even just one person like I said even

even just one person like I said even all it takes is a tipping point but

all it takes is a tipping point but contain, but one person can block the

contain, but one person can block the whole thing,

whole thing, right? Because a team if if it's a real

right? Because a team if if it's a real tight team, the team will stoop and then

tight team, the team will stoop and then level out at the lowest common

level out at the lowest common denominator.

So probably the most important job you have is is psychological

have is is psychological is to get everybody on board to see that

is to get everybody on board to see that they are the obstacles that their their

they are the obstacles that their their thought patterns the way they see things

thought patterns the way they see things the their internal dialogue the way they

the their internal dialogue the way they talk about things everybody's got to

talk about things everybody's got to come together. This is why like in

come together. This is why like in Carter's change model creating a sense

Carter's change model creating a sense of urgency is like the first step right

of urgency is like the first step right it's one of the first steps and so what

it's one of the first steps and so what does that mean? You got to get everybody

does that mean? You got to get everybody to see that they're, you know, they're

to see that they're, you know, they're part of the problem and they may not

part of the problem and they may not have a job or they right their thinking

have a job or they right their thinking is what got us here and it's not their

is what got us here and it's not their fault

fault but in order to you know like Einstein

but in order to you know like Einstein said you know you can't solve the

said you know you can't solve the problem from the same paradigm that

problem from the same paradigm that created it. So everyone needs a new

created it. So everyone needs a new paradigm and that paradigm is in the

paradigm and that paradigm is in the mind first.

mind first. So you got to create the conditions in

So you got to create the conditions in their minds to see the benefit of the

their minds to see the benefit of the new reality to recognize their own uh

new reality to recognize their own uh conditioning and resistance and negative

conditioning and resistance and negative selft talk that's blocking it

selft talk that's blocking it right that's the the the believe

right that's the the the believe thinking right I forgot with believe

thinking right I forgot with believe thinking acting but there was one more

thinking acting but there was one more in there

in there >> yeah feeling think feel

>> yeah feeling think feel >> believe feel act right

>> believe feel act right >> and you could even say believe feel act

>> and you could even say believe feel act because often times times feeling

because often times times feeling preceded thinking and that's the

preceded thinking and that's the subconscious.

subconscious. >> Yes.

>> Yes. >> Anyway, so it's not as it's not a simple

>> Anyway, so it's not as it's not a simple answer. The simple answer which is kind

answer. The simple answer which is kind of cute is you can definitely change

of cute is you can definitely change people's behaviors and thoughts around

people's behaviors and thoughts around something if they are

something if they are like willing participants.

like willing participants. But if they're going to sit there and be

But if they're going to sit there and be a smiling screw, right, and and nod

a smiling screw, right, and and nod their head while inside they're saying,

their head while inside they're saying, "This guy doesn't know what he's talking

"This guy doesn't know what he's talking about, or I'm just going to wait this

about, or I'm just going to wait this out." Then it's not going to work. And

out." Then it's not going to work. And and you got to and those those are the

and you got to and those those are the people who ultimately poison the team.

people who ultimately poison the team. And that's the tricky part, right?

And that's the tricky part, right? Because what do you do? If you're not in

Because what do you do? If you're not in a position to do something about that,

a position to do something about that, then it makes your job really hard.

Did you want to take uh any more, Mark, or did you want to hop into the uh the

or did you want to hop into the uh the next

next >> Let's um let's take one more question.

>> Let's um let's take one more question. >> Okay. Go ahead, Mike. And then we'll

>> Okay. Go ahead, Mike. And then we'll save the others for um for tomorrow's uh

save the others for um for tomorrow's uh VIP section.

VIP section. >> Uh thanks, coach. I've been a member of

>> Uh thanks, coach. I've been a member of Unbeatable Mind and the Seal Fit since

Unbeatable Mind and the Seal Fit since 2015 and I visited you in California in

2015 and I visited you in California in 2015. You were just getting ready for

2015. You were just getting ready for your morning workout. You took time to

your morning workout. You took time to talk to me and we talked about diet and

talk to me and we talked about diet and meant a lot to me and uh I really

meant a lot to me and uh I really appreciate it. Um my question is

appreciate it. Um my question is regarding your recent uh discussions

regarding your recent uh discussions about the tree, the accident. What type

about the tree, the accident. What type of dialogue do you use in these near

of dialogue do you use in these near mississ situations like oh gosh could

mississ situations like oh gosh could have been worse or what if this happened

have been worse or what if this happened and what do you do when that triggers

and what do you do when that triggers sort of memories from the past? I'm just

sort of memories from the past? I'm just using this example but I'm sure in your

using this example but I'm sure in your line your previous line of work you've

line your previous line of work you've had plenty of these instances. So could

had plenty of these instances. So could you give us some insight into those two

you give us some insight into those two aspects please sir?

aspects please sir? >> Sure.

>> Sure. Um,

I guess, um, I've been fortunate to never have a victim mentality

never have a victim mentality where when something bad happened to me,

where when something bad happened to me, I immediately

I immediately started to blame others, right? Or look

started to blame others, right? Or look for reasons or excuses.

for reasons or excuses. Uh, when I was at Seal Team 3, I think I

Uh, when I was at Seal Team 3, I think I tell this story in one of my books. Um,

tell this story in one of my books. Um, I was in a parachute accident. I knew

I was in a parachute accident. I knew exactly who it was because it was the

exactly who it was because it was the first jumper out of the plane who came

first jumper out of the plane who came around and had made a big mistake and

around and had made a big mistake and ran into me and my shoot collapsed and

ran into me and my shoot collapsed and I, you know, I was a half a second away

I, you know, I was a half a second away from death when I was able to open my

from death when I was able to open my chute and have a really hard landing.

chute and have a really hard landing. And had that not happened, you know, and

And had that not happened, you know, and I I talk about why what was going on in

I I talk about why what was going on in my mind. Um, my Zen training at that

my mind. Um, my Zen training at that point had got I'd been training for

point had got I'd been training for about five years had gotten me to where

about five years had gotten me to where I could really really focus radically on

I could really really focus radically on the one thing that I needed to do, which

the one thing that I needed to do, which is get air in my shoot. And I was able

is get air in my shoot. And I was able to slow my breathing down and I went

to slow my breathing down and I went into like this flow state. And so the 10

into like this flow state. And so the 10 seconds I had felt like a minute, which

seconds I had felt like a minute, which is a long time in a parachute situation

is a long time in a parachute situation for anyone who's parachuted. And um and

for anyone who's parachuted. And um and so I wasn't thinking, "Oh I'm

so I wasn't thinking, "Oh I'm gonna die." And I think largely saved my

gonna die." And I think largely saved my life as I was able to focus on the

life as I was able to focus on the problem, solve the problem. I got air in

problem, solve the problem. I got air in enough air in my shoot that when I hit

enough air in my shoot that when I hit the ground, I didn't die. Hit hard, but

the ground, I didn't die. Hit hard, but I didn't. I was relaxed.

I didn't. I was relaxed. And um I knew who did this to me.

And um I knew who did this to me. But I didn't immediately start thinking

But I didn't immediately start thinking what a jerk, right? I'm going to go kill

what a jerk, right? I'm going to go kill that guy or right. I immediately started

that guy or right. I immediately started feeling a sense of gratitude

feeling a sense of gratitude for a for surviving. And um and so my

for a for surviving. And um and so my dialogue was like, "Wow, that was a

dialogue was like, "Wow, that was a close one. Thank God for my training.

close one. Thank God for my training. Uh, what an incredible experience. And I

Uh, what an incredible experience. And I get to I get to live for another day.

get to I get to live for another day. And I had a conversation with Chris, but

And I had a conversation with Chris, but it was almost like humorous.

it was almost like humorous. Like, Chris, you damn near killed me.

Like, Chris, you damn near killed me. But, you know, in Navy Seal training and

But, you know, in Navy Seal training and Navy Seal operations,

Navy Seal operations, like you face that every day. And so, we

like you face that every day. And so, we use, you know, we use humor a lot when

use, you know, we use humor a lot when we're faced with life and death. And um

we're faced with life and death. And um and that's actually a very effective

and that's actually a very effective mechanism for overcoming a fear of

mechanism for overcoming a fear of death, which is nothing to fear. So fast

death, which is nothing to fear. So fast forward when I had the snowmobile

forward when I had the snowmobile accident,

accident, you know, the last thing I remember

you know, the last thing I remember thinking when I was leaving that

thinking when I was leaving that snowmobile, 40 miles an hour heading

snowmobile, 40 miles an hour heading toward the tree was, "Wow, I didn't

toward the tree was, "Wow, I didn't think it was going to end like this."

think it was going to end like this." You know, I've been I made it through 20

You know, I've been I made it through 20 years of the SEAL training. Almost got

years of the SEAL training. Almost got killed like five times.

killed like five times. And um

and now I'm going to die by hitting a tree in a snowmobile accident. Like

tree in a snowmobile accident. Like where's the glory in that? Where's the

where's the glory in that? Where's the heroic, you know,

heroic, you know, ending in that? And then I I kind of

ending in that? And then I I kind of wake up after an unspecified period of

wake up after an unspecified period of time, which I don't think was that long

time, which I don't think was that long because I wasn't concussed. And I wake

because I wasn't concussed. And I wake up in the snow and I acknowledged that

up in the snow and I acknowledged that that another snowmoiler

that another snowmoiler was in in in dualistic thinking, right?

was in in in dualistic thinking, right? In limited contracted, you know, like

In limited contracted, you know, like first plateau or second plateau

first plateau or second plateau thinking, this person was responsible

thinking, this person was responsible for me almost getting killed.

for me almost getting killed. But I didn't see it that way, right?

But I didn't see it that way, right? like an infinite number of things went

like an infinite number of things went into the conditions for that that event

into the conditions for that that event to happen.

to happen. My decision, for instance, my decision

My decision, for instance, my decision to be going so fast, my decision to be

to be going so fast, my decision to be on that snowmobile when I don't really

on that snowmobile when I don't really have I didn't develop the skills. I'm

have I didn't develop the skills. I'm highly talented athlete, but you know,

highly talented athlete, but you know, there's a lot of specific skills and

there's a lot of specific skills and nuance to driving a tracked motor

nuance to driving a tracked motor vehicle at 80 miles an hour

vehicle at 80 miles an hour that I didn't have the experience with.

that I didn't have the experience with. I hadn't been on a snowmobile for 30

I hadn't been on a snowmobile for 30 years.

years. So, that played into it. My decision to

So, that played into it. My decision to even go on the trip played into it. Um,

even go on the trip played into it. Um, there's like an infinite number of

there's like an infinite number of things.

things. And so that perspective

And so that perspective didn't it didn't even occur to me to

didn't it didn't even occur to me to judge this other individual to like

judge this other individual to like think I'm going to find that guy and

think I'm going to find that guy and hold him accountable. I'm going to sue

hold him accountable. I'm going to sue him. In fact, what I thought was the guy

him. In fact, what I thought was the guy probably doesn't even know what

probably doesn't even know what happened. He didn't stop. He just kept

happened. He didn't stop. He just kept on going. There's a really good chance

on going. There's a really good chance that he just thinks I passed right by in

that he just thinks I passed right by in the right even though he was coming

the right even though he was coming right at me in my lane and just went on

right at me in my lane and just went on B. Now, that's probably unrealistic. He

B. Now, that's probably unrealistic. He probably know knew what he was doing,

probably know knew what he was doing, but he was just getting the hell out of

but he was just getting the hell out of dodge, so he didn't have any

dodge, so he didn't have any accountability. Either way, it didn't

accountability. Either way, it didn't matter. He's gone.

matter. He's gone. And so when this is about surrender when

And so when this is about surrender when you can't affect the outcome of

you can't affect the outcome of something to obsess about it in

something to obsess about it in retrospect only bleeds off your energy

retrospect only bleeds off your energy and and creates um more suffering.

and and creates um more suffering. And so as soon as you can let go of

And so as soon as you can let go of these things and move forward with

these things and move forward with gratitude and forgiveness the better

gratitude and forgiveness the better off. That's my attitude and that's

off. That's my attitude and that's exactly what I did. I immediately

exactly what I did. I immediately forgave him. I immediately let it go.

forgave him. I immediately let it go. said, "I'm not going to think about him

said, "I'm not going to think about him or the circumstances." The fact is I'm

or the circumstances." The fact is I'm alive,

alive, right? Second chances.

right? Second chances. I was given whether through happen

I was given whether through happen stance or just pure luck or some

stance or just pure luck or some guardian angel

guardian angel or whatever, I was given an opportunity

or whatever, I was given an opportunity to stay here for a little while longer,

to stay here for a little while longer, continue the mission. And so it ended up

continue the mission. And so it ended up becoming an extremely motivating

becoming an extremely motivating scenario.

scenario. And also of course an opportunity to use

And also of course an opportunity to use all my skills first to get through the

all my skills first to get through the whole week of you know my body being

whole week of you know my body being completely trash and not having any

completely trash and not having any medical support because I was way in the

medical support because I was way in the deep northern Canada and I had to get

deep northern Canada and I had to get back to I got back to Chicago basically

back to I got back to Chicago basically to where I my body said screw it you're

to where I my body said screw it you're going to stay here and get surgery here

going to stay here and get surgery here and I was trying to make it back to San

and I was trying to make it back to San Diego. So all the skills that I had

Diego. So all the skills that I had developed over all these years, I

developed over all these years, I actually had a really fun week, right?

actually had a really fun week, right? My body was shattered, you know, lungs

My body was shattered, you know, lungs punctured, eight broken ribs, my scapula

punctured, eight broken ribs, my scapula shattered, lots of internal damage, and

shattered, lots of internal damage, and I had a really fun week.

I had a really fun week. It was amazing, right? because of just

It was amazing, right? because of just staying aware and being present and and

staying aware and being present and and being positive and using my mantras and

being positive and using my mantras and my wife was there and we you know she

my wife was there and we you know she was like my sherpa dragging my stuff

was like my sherpa dragging my stuff around and and getting me to the you

around and and getting me to the you know places I need to go not to mention

know places I need to go not to mention the final hospital

the final hospital and then the the recovery process it got

and then the the recovery process it got it gave me the opportunity to put all

it gave me the opportunity to put all the healing skills to work that I've

the healing skills to work that I've trained and talked about visualization

trained and talked about visualization breath movement positivity

breath movement positivity uh you know and and other modalities

uh you know and and other modalities that are outside of mainstream medicine

that are outside of mainstream medicine you know like the ARP um you know direct

you know like the ARP um you know direct current high high voltage direct current

current high high voltage direct current that was a game changer for me and

that was a game changer for me and peptides and you know those types of

peptides and you know those types of things.

things. So it all has to do with the orientation

So it all has to do with the orientation that you have around

that you have around what you know what's really going on.

what you know what's really going on. And for me what's really going on is

And for me what's really going on is this body is not who I am.

this body is not who I am. This body is is something that I am

This body is is something that I am temporarily graced with.

temporarily graced with. And I believe that this body has an

And I believe that this body has an incredible healing power. Everyone every

incredible healing power. Everyone every body does. I believe this body can be

body does. I believe this body can be perfectly healthy and maintain uh

perfectly healthy and maintain uh youthful vitality

youthful vitality for as long as I need it.

for as long as I need it. Um and I and I don't worship the body,

Um and I and I don't worship the body, but I respect it enough to take care of

but I respect it enough to take care of it really well so that it's an app

it really well so that it's an app vessel for me to meet my mission, which

vessel for me to meet my mission, which is exactly what I talked about for a

is exactly what I talked about for a good part of the earlier session. Body

good part of the earlier session. Body first. It's not because I'm obsessed

first. It's not because I'm obsessed with the body. It's because I recognize

with the body. It's because I recognize how important it is. And injuries bring

how important it is. And injuries bring that into real clear focus. And if you

that into real clear focus. And if you have a negative energy toward the what

have a negative energy toward the what why it happened or some other perceived

why it happened or some other perceived person who or situation that caused it

person who or situation that caused it to happen, right? Like a car accident,

to happen, right? Like a car accident, it's the other person's fault. No

it's the other person's fault. No happens, right?

happens, right? um the more the quicker you can get away

um the more the quicker you can get away from the negative energies and the could

from the negative energies and the could aa should have wouldas and the

aa should have wouldas and the victimizations and the pointing fingers,

victimizations and the pointing fingers, the quicker you're going to get to real

the quicker you're going to get to real healing. And that healing happens at a

healing. And that healing happens at a physical, emotional, psychological

physical, emotional, psychological level. Um and each crisis like that

level. Um and each crisis like that uh is an opportunity. Crisis means

uh is an opportunity. Crisis means opportunity for transformation. It's an

opportunity for transformation. It's an opportunity for transformation. So you

opportunity for transformation. So you don't want to waste it

don't want to waste it sitting in victimhood and blaming others

sitting in victimhood and blaming others and and having negative thoughts about

and and having negative thoughts about why it happened and it shouldn't have

why it happened and it shouldn't have happened and now you know you're limited

happened and now you know you're limited because of whatever even if you lose a

because of whatever even if you lose a limb. That type of uh thinking is um

limb. That type of uh thinking is um like it's it's extraordinarily

like it's it's extraordinarily debilitating and will actually take you

debilitating and will actually take you away from a lot of the progress you made

away from a lot of the progress you made if you've been making progress in a

if you've been making progress in a spiritual or emotional direction. Um,

spiritual or emotional direction. Um, but the accident on the other side of

but the accident on the other side of the coin or the crisis can be an

the coin or the crisis can be an incredible, it is an incredible

incredible, it is an incredible opportunity for transformation and

opportunity for transformation and letting go and surrendering and opening

letting go and surrendering and opening up to a whole another version of

up to a whole another version of yourself.

yourself. I'm not sure exactly answered your

I'm not sure exactly answered your question, but um, thanks for thanks for

question, but um, thanks for thanks for the question and letting me

the question and letting me >> No, no, no. Amazing. Thank you. Thank

>> No, no, no. Amazing. Thank you. Thank you.

you. >> Yeah. All right. So, we have 10 minutes

>> Yeah. All right. So, we have 10 minutes left. I want to talk a little bit now um

left. I want to talk a little bit now um we don't have a ton of time, but I want

we don't have a ton of time, but I want to give you a homework assignment and

to give you a homework assignment and talk about uh developing your stand or

talk about uh developing your stand or your personal ethos.

your personal ethos. Can you put the seal ethos up?

Can you put the seal ethos up? So, um

So, um you've heard this idea that if you don't

you've heard this idea that if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for

stand for something, you'll fall for anything.

anything. That was actually um one of my SEAL um

That was actually um one of my SEAL um um mentors used to say that. I love that

um mentors used to say that. I love that you don't stand for something, you'll

you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything. And I remember I I

fall for anything. And I remember I I never thought about this until the

never thought about this until the seals, right? So like did did you guys

seals, right? So like did did you guys take a class in college about developing

take a class in college about developing your personal ethos? No. And did did

your personal ethos? No. And did did your family sit around and tell you how

your family sit around and tell you how ask you to start thinking about your

ask you to start thinking about your personal ethos? No. But were they

personal ethos? No. But were they training one all the time? Yes. And so

training one all the time? Yes. And so if I had taken on the ethos of my family

if I had taken on the ethos of my family of origin, there's no way I'd be here

of origin, there's no way I'd be here today, right? It I you probably wouldn't

today, right? It I you probably wouldn't even like me.

even like me. That's how that's how much it can imbue

That's how that's how much it can imbue you, right? If you take if you don't

you, right? If you take if you don't question

question um things that are important to you and

um things that are important to you and develop a stand and and know what you

develop a stand and and know what you stand for, then what you are doing is

stand for, then what you are doing is living someone else's stand. And

living someone else's stand. And predominantly your family of origin

predominantly your family of origin influenced by your culture of origin

influenced by your culture of origin which is influenced by uh governmental

which is influenced by uh governmental culture, society, you know, community,

culture, society, you know, community, church, etc. That's all conditioning.

church, etc. That's all conditioning. That's the background of obviousness. So

That's the background of obviousness. So what we want to do is is is start to ask

what we want to do is is is start to ask ourselves what we stand for. The first

ourselves what we stand for. The first time I ever heard this was in my uh

time I ever heard this was in my uh officer candidate school. I had a

officer candidate school. I had a guarantee to go to SEAL training

guarantee to go to SEAL training afterwards. And that required that I get

afterwards. And that required that I get interviewed by a SEAL officer, a senior

interviewed by a SEAL officer, a senior SEAL officer. It's supposed to happen

SEAL officer. It's supposed to happen before you get accepted. For some

before you get accepted. For some reason, you know, uh it didn't happen

reason, you know, uh it didn't happen for me. They they let me in, but they

for me. They they let me in, but they said, "You got to get it done." And so

said, "You got to get it done." And so it happened to me at Officer Cannon

it happened to me at Officer Cannon School while I was already in the Navy.

School while I was already in the Navy. And a guy named Commander Woody

And a guy named Commander Woody Woodruff, who's one of the founders of

Woodruff, who's one of the founders of the Iron Man in Hawaii, uh interviewed

the Iron Man in Hawaii, uh interviewed me. And I I think I wrote about this in

me. And I I think I wrote about this in my book, The Way of the Seal. Uh yeah,

my book, The Way of the Seal. Uh yeah, that's right. And um and Woody Woodruff

that's right. And um and Woody Woodruff was this just intense guy, like you

was this just intense guy, like you know, Navy Seal written all over him,

know, Navy Seal written all over him, like super good-looking, tan, tall, like

like super good-looking, tan, tall, like uber fit triathlete. And he's sitting

uber fit triathlete. And he's sitting there in his pristine white out, you

there in his pristine white out, you know, Navy uniform with his gold trident

know, Navy uniform with his gold trident and about 30 freaking ribbons from all

and about 30 freaking ribbons from all the wars he'd been in and things he'd

the wars he'd been in and things he'd done.

done. And um

And um he just stared at me,

he just stared at me, right? He just stared at he like like

right? He just stared at he like like we're having a blinking contest, you

we're having a blinking contest, you know what I mean? Like you do with kids,

know what I mean? Like you do with kids, like see who can not blink for the

like see who can not blink for the longest time. And so I'm just staring

longest time. And so I'm just staring back at him and I'm like, you know, he's

back at him and I'm like, you know, he's just trying to make me uncomfortable,

just trying to make me uncomfortable, but he's totally calm and relaxed and

but he's totally calm and relaxed and I'm just sitting there like I felt

I'm just sitting there like I felt ridiculous staring at him, but I didn't

ridiculous staring at him, but I didn't want to turn away because I thought that

want to turn away because I thought that might be weakness. And so finally he

might be weakness. And so finally he just starts smiling and he says, "Mark,

just starts smiling and he says, "Mark, have you ever been out of control?" I

have you ever been out of control?" I said, 'N no.' He goes, "Well, you're

said, 'N no.' He goes, "Well, you're going to be out of control."

going to be out of control." He just just know that in SEAL training

He just just know that in SEAL training and in combat, you will be out of

and in combat, you will be out of control.

control. And he says, "When you're out of

And he says, "When you're out of control, you got to know what you stand

control, you got to know what you stand for. What do you stand for, Mark?"

for. What do you stand for, Mark?" And I was like, "Uh."

And I was like, "Uh." And I had to really go deep and think

And I had to really go deep and think quickly. And where I went to is like,

quickly. And where I went to is like, what was it?

what was it? And thank God for my meditation training

And thank God for my meditation training and all that thought, but what was it

and all that thought, but what was it that caused me to turn my back on

that caused me to turn my back on 22 years of 23 years or four years of

22 years of 23 years or four years of conditioning and training. And that

conditioning and training. And that conditioning and training led me to be

conditioning and training led me to be an MBA, CPA, Wall Street guy who was

an MBA, CPA, Wall Street guy who was going to make a lot of money. And when I

going to make a lot of money. And when I started meditating, um, I started to

started meditating, um, I started to poke holes in that story because I

poke holes in that story because I developed that observational witnessing

developed that observational witnessing capacity through my meditation practice

capacity through my meditation practice and I could see that that story wasn't

and I could see that that story wasn't me. It wasn't my story. And so without

me. It wasn't my story. And so without knowing it, I was developing a stand

knowing it, I was developing a stand because I said, okay, that's not me. So

because I said, okay, that's not me. So I need to I need to understand who is

I need to I need to understand who is me. Who is who is the real Mark? Well,

me. Who is who is the real Mark? Well, the real Mark is is someone who's uh not

the real Mark is is someone who's uh not adverse to risk.

adverse to risk. Otherwise, I wouldn't have been at SEAL

Otherwise, I wouldn't have been at SEAL training or at OCS. The real mark is

training or at OCS. The real mark is someone who uh loves adventure.

someone who uh loves adventure. The real Mark is someone who's committed

The real Mark is someone who's committed to elite level fitness for a lifetime.

to elite level fitness for a lifetime. Wow.

Wow. You know, and so I I kind of identified

You know, and so I I kind of identified all those things, but I didn't write

all those things, but I didn't write them down and say that's an ethos or

them down and say that's an ethos or stand. I didn't even know what those

stand. I didn't even know what those words meant. But when Woody Woodruff

words meant. But when Woody Woodruff asked me, "What do you stand for?"

asked me, "What do you stand for?" That's the stuff that came out and

That's the stuff that came out and that's exactly what he wanted to hear

because I had a sense for what was radically important and where where I

radically important and where where I would stand my ground. Because like if

would stand my ground. Because like if you said, "Hey, Mark, here's a job. By

you said, "Hey, Mark, here's a job. By the way, this happened right before I

the way, this happened right before I went to OCS. I got a call from a former

went to OCS. I got a call from a former Arthur Anderson partner who said, "Mark,

Arthur Anderson partner who said, "Mark, I want you to come be part of my new

I want you to come be part of my new startup and I'll pay you a h 100,000."

startup and I'll pay you a h 100,000." This is 1985. No. Yeah. 1988.

This is 1985. No. Yeah. 1988. I'll pay you $100,000 plus bonus. 1988.

I'll pay you $100,000 plus bonus. 1988. And that could that would have been

And that could that would have been millions, you know, after five or 10

millions, you know, after five or 10 years and probably hundreds of millions.

years and probably hundreds of millions. And um I said, "No,

And um I said, "No, no, thank you." He goes, 'Why? I don't

no, thank you." He goes, 'Why? I don't understand.' I said, ' Because I'm I'm

understand.' I said, ' Because I'm I'm going to become a Navy Seal. That's

going to become a Navy Seal. That's that's who I am. That's the direction

that's who I am. That's the direction I'm heading. That's where my values are.

I'm heading. That's where my values are. He said, 'Wow, you know, I haven't heard

He said, 'Wow, you know, I haven't heard anyone talk like that before or turn me

anyone talk like that before or turn me down like that.

down like that. So, it's important to know what you

So, it's important to know what you stand for

stand for because if you don't stand for

because if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.

something, you'll fall for anything. Now, when I got into the SEALs, they

Now, when I got into the SEALs, they didn't have a seal code that was written

didn't have a seal code that was written down like this. This came later in 2007,

down like this. This came later in 2007, but there was a code that was similar to

but there was a code that was similar to this. Like we knew because we talked

this. Like we knew because we talked about it that we no teammates left

about it that we no teammates left behind. That was part of the code. So in

behind. That was part of the code. So in this one that says ready to lead, ready

this one that says ready to lead, ready to follow, never quit. But for us, it

to follow, never quit. But for us, it was no teammate left behind. That means

was no teammate left behind. That means we had to be ready ready to lead because

we had to be ready ready to lead because what if the teammate that's, you know,

what if the teammate that's, you know, you could leave behind was the leader.

you could leave behind was the leader. Well, if he's goes down, you lead,

Well, if he's goes down, you lead, right? Um earn your trident every day.

right? Um earn your trident every day. Well, we knew that implicitly

Well, we knew that implicitly that we had to show up every day and

that we had to show up every day and prove ourselves again and again and

prove ourselves again and again and again. And think about this in the

again. And think about this in the corporate environment or especially any

corporate environment or especially any environment where you have uh um the

environment where you have uh um the protected status.

protected status. So like uh um in the academic world

So like uh um in the academic world right having tenure is protected status

right having tenure is protected status and once people get tenure if unless

and once people get tenure if unless you're a growth mindset constantly ever

you're a growth mindset constantly ever constant never- ending improvement type

constant never- ending improvement type of person which a lot of professors are

of person which a lot of professors are but uh to be honest the vast majority

but uh to be honest the vast majority the best professors I ever had in my

the best professors I ever had in my masters or PhD program were adjunct

masters or PhD program were adjunct professors who didn't have tenure

professors who didn't have tenure and most of the worst professors I had

and most of the worst professors I had were the were the tenure professors

were the were the tenure professors because they had protected status.

because they had protected status. government bureaucratic employees and

government bureaucratic employees and and don't take me wrong if you are you

and don't take me wrong if you are you know a GS or a government employee you

know a GS or a government employee you should be a growth p you know mindset

should be a growth p you know mindset one if you're here but as you know most

one if you're here but as you know most aren't and but yet they've got a

aren't and but yet they've got a protected status

protected status um and so protected status people often

um and so protected status people often don't have a very strong ethos because

don't have a very strong ethos because they're just taking cover with the

they're just taking cover with the protection of the organization or the

protection of the organization or the family or the the crime or the the crime

family or the the crime or the the crime crime gang or whatever whatever club

crime gang or whatever whatever club they're in, right?

they're in, right? So, it's very important to know that

So, it's very important to know that earning your trident every day means

earning your trident every day means earning your respect, which also means

earning your respect, which also means doing the work of self-awareness,

doing the work of self-awareness, right? To to always be improving your

right? To to always be improving your perceptual ability and getting rid of

perceptual ability and getting rid of what's false, false beliefs, false

what's false, false beliefs, false ideas, limiting things. So I want you to

ideas, limiting things. So I want you to take a look at that seal code and and

take a look at that seal code and and just res say what resonates with me

just res say what resonates with me and use it as an example

and use it as an example for uh coming up with your own code

for uh coming up with your own code and like with the seal code it doesn't

and like with the seal code it doesn't have to be more than six five six or

have to be more than six five six or seven things.

seven things. Now can you bring up the the final

Now can you bring up the the final slide? The other example of a a stand is

slide? The other example of a a stand is my seven commitments.

my seven commitments. The seven commitments. Go backwards.

The seven commitments. Go backwards. Yeah. That I wrote about in the book

Yeah. That I wrote about in the book Staring Down the Wolf. C. And so these

Staring Down the Wolf. C. And so these are these are also stands. Now, now to

are these are also stands. Now, now to really turn this into a stand,

really turn this into a stand, I would create a descriptor as to what

I would create a descriptor as to what courage meant to me, right? like the

courage meant to me, right? like the courage to do what I say and and to and

courage to do what I say and and to and to only speak truth, right? That would

to only speak truth, right? That would be something like with courage or the

be something like with courage or the courage to stand my ground and never

courage to stand my ground and never back never quit. Um trust, right? What

back never quit. Um trust, right? What does trust mean to you?

does trust mean to you? You know, trust is I will develop the

You know, trust is I will develop the trustworthiness

trustworthiness so that I can also trust others, right?

so that I can also trust others, right? Um

Um stuff like that. Uh respect. So courage,

stuff like that. Uh respect. So courage, trust, respect, growth in terms of

trust, respect, growth in terms of vertical growth, growth mindset,

vertical growth, growth mindset, uh excellence in terms of your habits

uh excellence in terms of your habits and uh the doingness, right? The the

and uh the doingness, right? The the rituals, the habits, um resilience in

rituals, the habits, um resilience in terms of how you handle uh challenges,

terms of how you handle uh challenges, that whole fall down seven times, get up

that whole fall down seven times, get up eight with a smile, stronger, better,

eight with a smile, stronger, better, better equipped, better prepared. Uh

better equipped, better prepared. Uh that's a stand or a commitment. And then

that's a stand or a commitment. And then alignment, the commitment to stand your

alignment, the commitment to stand your ground, to stay aligned with your

ground, to stay aligned with your purpose, aligned with your passion,

purpose, aligned with your passion, aligned with your principles, so that

aligned with your principles, so that you could always know what to do, when

you could always know what to do, when to do, and why you're doing it,

to do, and why you're doing it, including during the storms and the

including during the storms and the crisis.

crisis. So your job, your homework beyond

So your job, your homework beyond besides box breathing and the six

besides box breathing and the six pillars is to work on your stand. And

pillars is to work on your stand. And I'd love to um have you know some of you

I'd love to um have you know some of you share tomorrow like what you came up

share tomorrow like what you came up with. This is really important stuff.

with. This is really important stuff. It's like I said if you got to know

It's like I said if you got to know where you stand. You got to plant your

where you stand. You got to plant your flag, right? And then you know this is

flag, right? And then you know this is how people you get people's attention.

how people you get people's attention. When you're clear about who you are and

When you're clear about who you are and why you're doing what you're doing, you

why you're doing what you're doing, you come up with a mission and an ethos and

come up with a mission and an ethos and a stand. And then you recruit other

a stand. And then you recruit other people or other people are attracted to

people or other people are attracted to that calling, that mission because they

that calling, that mission because they share elements your stand

share elements your stand or they synchronize with that stand

or they synchronize with that stand and then you're become unstoppable or

and then you're become unstoppable or unbeatable.

unbeatable. You get the world's attention that way

You get the world's attention that way because that's unique. It's uncommon.

because that's unique. It's uncommon. This has been a great time today. Um,

This has been a great time today. Um, you all are familiar with the inner

you all are familiar with the inner circle. We'll talk more about that

circle. We'll talk more about that tomorrow. I'd love to see some of you in

tomorrow. I'd love to see some of you in it. It might be your time. Um, that's

it. It might be your time. Um, that's our community of practice where we go

our community of practice where we go deep on all these and hold each other

deep on all these and hold each other accountable. And, uh, 2026 is your year,

accountable. And, uh, 2026 is your year, right? Today is your day and this is

right? Today is your day and this is your year. It's going to be an

your year. It's going to be an incredible year. Um, going to be all

incredible year. Um, going to be all sorts of crazy things happening. We got

sorts of crazy things happening. We got to navigate around the obstacles and

to navigate around the obstacles and grow and learn and accelerate our

grow and learn and accelerate our growth. Uh by the end of this year, we

growth. Uh by the end of this year, we won't even recognize this world or

won't even recognize this world or ourselves. So, let that be

ourselves. So, let that be extraordinarily positive. Uh but we get

extraordinarily positive. Uh but we get to we get to choose that.

to we get to choose that. If it's not positive, it's because you

If it's not positive, it's because you chose wrong.

>> So, learn to choose wisely every day. >> Appreciate you all. Thanks for being

>> Appreciate you all. Thanks for being here and I'll see you tomorrow.

here and I'll see you tomorrow. Oh yeah.

Oh yeah. >> Oh yeah.

>> Oh yeah. >> Oh yeah.

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