The core theme is the transformative power of the "record and review" communication coaching technique, which enhances self-awareness by identifying and refining subtle behavioral habits to improve perceived authority and credibility.
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This right here is Tina. She's saying
the exact same thing, but the second
time she said it, she was way more calm,
confident, and charismatic. [music]
And through a process called record and
review, we were able to pinpoint a few
subtle behavior shifts that if you, the
one watching right now, applied to your
own communication, it would instantly
upgrade how people perceive you in every
conversation. My name is Vin. I'm a
communication skills coach. And the
process I'm about to take Tina through
[music] is one of the most powerful ways
to develop self-awareness on how you
speak because it reveals to you the
invisible habits in your communication
that robs you of authority and
credibility. Let me show you exactly
what her communication looked like
before she started the process. Tina, in
this chapter of life, what is your
definition of success?
>> Vin, this is a great question. I've
actually been pondering this myself.
The western world of course wants us to
you know view success as money and power
and all these accolades. And once I was
a dancer I was very careerdriven and
that was success to me. But recently
about eight years ago I became a mother
and wow did things really shift. And I
view success more now with family connection,
connection,
love, health as I'm getting older.
Um, yeah, I view it differently. I still
do value the accolades and the career
and the the finances, but I see it a lot
different now. And it just overall
happiness and mental health is what's
truly important
>> and I won't. [laughter]
>> That's amazing. Wow. That's that's
that's so good. It's one of those
examples you don't need an after because
you did such an incredible job. That was
amazing. So, listen. What we're going to
do is what's really powerful about this
process is that no matter what level
we're at, we will always find something
that we can improve upon. So, let's
let's dive into this. Okay, we first
look at just the auditory component.
We're now just going to listen to your
voice for about 30 seconds. I want you
yourself to have a couple of notes that
you write down. One thing that you like
and one thing that you feel that you
would like to improve and just have a listen.
listen.
>> Vin, this is a great question. I've
actually been pondering this myself.
The western world of course wants us to
you know view success as money and power
and all these accolades. And once I was
a dancer I was very careerdriven and
that was success to me. But recently
about eight years ago I became a mother
and wow did things really shift. The
first thing that stood out I liked my
energy. I felt like it was, you know,
truly me [laughter] and bubbly. And so I
liked the excitement and I liked that I
paused. [laughter] I also noticed I had
some filler words, some you know.
I would love to have better vocabulary,
I guess.
>> Okay. Hey, that's wonderful. That's
wonderful. I I felt it was so
beautifully articulated. Can we just
play back the audio of just the first
part? And I want to make you all aware
of this. Vin, this is a great question.
I've actually been pondering this
myself. The western world of course wants
wants
>> when you spoke the western world from
there everything before it often we say
those things as we're thinking of the
answer that we are about to give. Again,
we acknowledge that. Hey, really
appreciate the question. It's it's it's
a wonderful question. For those who are
just starting out, that's that's great.
That's no problems. But because you're
such a great communicator to level it up
even more, you can remove that part and
you can just start with in the western
world we and that alone makes it punchier.
punchier.
>> Mhm. Thank you. Great.
>> No, no problems at all. Whereas again
for most people when they're starting
out having that it's no problem. It's
fine. But because you're such a great
communicator, I'm giving you another
advanced tip where you can go straight
into the answer and that makes it seem
more potent because the weight of this
question was was really really heavy. If
you want to apply record and review this
entire process to yourself, like how I'm
helping my student here, Tina, apply it
to herself, I've actually created a free
three-part video series breaking this
process down in way more detail. And by
going through this process, you'll
discover what your nonfunctional
communication habits are. So you have a
customized list of things to work on
that's specific to you. Instead of
working on top 10 things over here, top
10 things over there, these top 10
things that you'll discover, they're
specific to you. So click the link in
the description or scan the QR code if
you want access to the three-part video
series. All right, let's continue with
record and review. Now, we're going to
do something that's going to make lots
of people go, "No, don't do it." You
already know it's coming. It's a visual
review. So, we're going to do a visual
review. We're going to mute you now and
we're just going to watch you. Okay,
Beautiful, wonderful use of hand gestures,
gestures,
great facial expressions, very expressive.
expressive.
I And when you smile, you smile with
your eyes as well. This is incredible.
And Tina, again, it's about
self-awareness. I have thoughts, too,
but I'd love to hear. I definitely
thought a lot of movement. I'm like
trying to hold him now. Don't move so much.
much. >> That's
>> That's
>> I like the expression but I did like in
the very beginning I did a lot of head
shaking um that I thought probably was distracting.
distracting.
>> Ah okay. What what did you love then?
What did what did you also love?
>> I loved that it was expressive. I loved
that there were there wasn't movement.
So movement served you but then also you
recognize that stillness is also
something that's powerful
>> 100%. Yes.
>> What incredible awareness. Whereas do
you notice what happens Tina? Often once
we deliver something and we finish and
we don't record and review we don't look
back at the auditory or the visual. We
don't isolate these different stimuli.
Then what happens is it's so easy just
to have that frame of mind as yeah
actually it went good. Whereas, as you
look into this more closely, what we
perceived was again, again, please,
you're you're such a great communicator.
I don't want you for a second to think,
"Oh, no, I'm not good at this." You're
so incredible already,
>> but now you can still find moments of,
"Oh, wow. If I brought more stillness
into this, how would that have changed
the way people receive my answer?"
Wonderful awareness. Okay. Now, what
we're going to do is this is now your
transcript. We've already acknowledged
that this part
again something that we can remove if we
wanted to. It just makes it sharper. Was
there anything else you noticed in this Tina?
Tina?
>> The high pitch squeal. [laughter]
>> You didn't see.
>> Yeah. Um Yeah. Right after I pitched. Mhm.
Mhm.
>> And that's okay. That's all right. That
you have such minimal filler words. You
don't even lose points for that. You
don't even lose points for that. It's
totally fine. But is there anything else
you you notice besides the like like you
said the high pitch squealer? That's all
right. That's okay.
>> I I I I >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> are like that. I could vary them up perhaps.
perhaps.
>> That's really That's a really good
insight. I love that you picked that up.
Right. Now, when we're storytelling and
when we're sharing lessons with others,
if they can't see themselves in what
we're sharing, then they're less
interested in what we say. So, that's
something so beautiful you picked up
because you you can you can say that I
once was a dancer, career driven, and
that that's what success meant to me.
>> And very easily you can include the
audience with a bridge line of just by
saying, and has that happened to you
before where you made career everything
in your life and that's how you define
success? As I became a mother, I So
that's a bridging line that allows you
to connect with the audience. What a
That's such a masterful pickup. That's
outrageous. With this level of
awareness, there are three things we're
going to try. I'm going to ask you the
exact same question again. This time, I
want there to be moments where you are
playful with your voice, where you are
playful with your energetic version of
you, but I want you to also give me that
still and controlled version of you. I
think that fun version of you could very
easily be applied to the part where
you're talking about you being a dancer,
your career driven. And then as you
shift into the meaning of success for
you in this chapter of life now give me
a more still version of you. Still smile,
smile,
less rapid movement with your hand
gestures, but a more still version of
you. Start with that because we don't
want to lose that. But then end with
something that is more controlled and
still. And you can remove the line. Vin,
this is a great question. I've actually
been thinking about this. You can almost
kick off from the western world wants us
to and then you begin from there. Do you
reckon you can do a version of that
rapidly? Take a moment of pause just as
you did before. Start with the western
part. Be your playful self, but move
into a much more still and controlled
version of you as you end the answer.
Also, give me some more dramatic pauses
at the end. Let's have a go. Let's give
it a go. All right, I'll count you down.
Here we go. In three, two. In this
chapter of life for you, what is your
definition of success?
>> In the western world, they want us to
measure success by money, power,
accolades, awards. And back in the day,
I was a dancer. And let me tell you, I
was careerdriven. And that's what my
definition of success was.
But then things changed. And eight years
ago, I became a mother.
Are any of you mothers?
Maybe you'll relate.
My whole definition of success has
completely shifted to one more about
love and connection and relationships.
>> I value it so much more.
>> Oh gosh. Okay. Okay. See, that was
incredible. Can you give her lots of
love for that? That was incredible. What
you did exceptionally well in this
version of it is you matched your energy
and delivery to the weight of the
question that was asked. Whereas one of
the things that happens very commonly
for many of us is that we anchor in our
minds and our hearts a certain version
of us that we think people love and like
and then that's the version of us we
bring to every interaction. Whereas
there's that beautiful version of you
that that's so bubbly, so fun and and
all this tells me is that you've truly
mastered that bubbly version of you, but
the moment you leaned into that more
still version of you, oh my goodness,
it's so incredible. It was deep. It was
vulnerable. It had this incredible
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