0:06 when you find yourself entangled with a
0:09 narcissist the most disorienting aspect
0:12 is often the confusion they create
0:14 narcissists are masters of manipulation
0:17 twisting words distorting reality and
0:20 making you question your own perceptions
0:21 you may find yourself doubting things
0:24 you once knew to be true wondering if
0:25 you're overreacting or even blaming
0:27 yourself for the pain you're
0:29 experiencing this psychological
0:31 manipulation is is not accidental it's
0:34 intentional by keeping you uncertain and
0:36 destabilized the narcissist maintains
0:39 control and in that confusion you can
0:43 easily lose sight of reality but here's
0:45 the crucial thing to understand God does
0:48 not operate in confusion scripture tells
0:50 us that God is not the author of
0:52 confusion but of Peace 1 Corinthians
0:55 14:33 where the narcissist brings chaos
0:58 God brings Clarity he is truth
1:00 itself and when you seek him in the
1:03 midst of this turmoil he begins to
1:06 reveal what is hidden the lies lose
1:08 their power when exposed to the light
1:10 one of the most profound ways God
1:12 responds when a narcissist hurts you is
1:15 by opening your eyes to the truth truth
1:17 about the person truth about the
1:20 situation and truth about yourself but
1:21 here's what's fascinating the truth
1:23 isn't always revealed in a dramatic
1:26 Earth shattering moment more often God's
1:29 illumination is gradual it's as if he
1:31 pulls back the curtain one inch at a
1:33 time allowing you to see reality in
1:36 stages just enough for you to handle as
1:40 you grow stronger why does he do this
1:43 because seeing the truth too quickly
1:46 before you're ready can overwhelm you
1:48 when you're emotionally entangled with a
1:50 narcissist whether it's a partner a
1:52 family member or even a colleague you've
1:54 likely invested a significant part of
1:57 your identity into that relationship if
1:59 God were to show you everything at once
2:01 it could feel like your entire world is
2:05 collapsing so instead he reveals it in
2:07 ways you can process allowing you to
2:09 gather strength as you begin to face the
2:12 reality of what you're dealing with um
2:15 and make no mistake this is a spiritual
2:17 battle as much as a psychological one
2:19 narcissistic manipulation thrives in
2:21 darkness it depends on secrecy and
2:26 confusion but truth is a spiritual force
2:28 in John 8:32 Jesus says then you will
2:30 know the truth and the truth will set
2:33 you free Freedom From The Narcissist
2:36 grip doesn't Begin by confronting them
2:38 or demanding they change it begins when
2:40 you see clearly when you recognize the
2:42 patterns identify the lies and
2:44 understand how deeply you've been
2:47 entangled that Clarity is the first step
2:50 toward genuine Liberation interestingly
2:52 this process of Revelation also extends
2:54 to yourself when you're trapped in a
2:56 narcissistic Dynamic it's easy to lose
2:58 touch with who you are you become so
3:00 focused on their needs their moods and
3:01 their manipulations that you lose sight
3:04 of your own identity God doesn't just
3:06 reveal the truth about the narcissist he
3:09 reveals the truth about you he reminds
3:13 you of your worth your dignity and your
3:15 purpose beyond the confines of that toxic
3:16 toxic
3:18 relationship it's also worth noting that
3:20 the narcissist power diminishes the
3:23 moment you begin to see clearly why
3:25 because manipulation only works when
3:27 you're in the dark once the light of
3:29 Truth Shines on their behavior it no
3:31 longer has the same effect you start
3:33 recognizing the subtle gaslighting you
3:35 see how they twist reality to serve
3:37 their own image and perhaps most
3:39 importantly you begin to separate their
3:42 distorted version of you from who you actually
3:43 actually
3:46 are now does this mean the narcissist
3:47 will suddenly change when confronted
3:50 with the truth rarely in fact calling
3:52 them out directly can often escalate
3:55 their behavior a narcissist rarely
3:56 admits fault because their identity is
3:58 built on a fragile illusion of
4:00 superiority when that illusion is
4:03 threatened they lash out often doubling
4:04 down on manipulation or playing the
4:08 victim but here's the thing you don't
4:10 need to force them to see the truth
4:12 that's God's
4:14 job Your Role is to stay rooted in the
4:18 truth he reveals to you and refuse to
4:21 return to the fog of confusion and God's
4:23 truth is unshakable it is not swayed by
4:26 The Narcissist lies or their carefully
4:28 constructed image when he reveals
4:31 something to you it stands firm and as
4:33 you walk in that truth you reclaim your
4:35 sense of reality you regain your
4:37 capacity to trust your instincts to set
4:39 boundaries and to make decisions that
4:43 align with who God created you to be
4:45 this is why patience is critical you may
4:47 want the truth in full all at once but
4:49 God's timing is perfect he reveals what
4:51 you need to know when you need to know
4:54 it trust that process trust that his
4:57 truth is working even when it feels slow
4:58 and as you lean into his wisdom the
5:01 confusion begins to dissipate where the
5:03 narcissists wanted to keep you powerless
5:06 God is steadily empowering you in the
5:08 end the truth doesn't just set you free
5:10 it anchors you and once you are Anchored
5:14 In God's truth The Narcissist power over
5:16 your mind and heart begins to dissolve
5:18 their manipulations no longer Define
5:21 your reality you are no longer a captive
5:23 to their deception here's what you need
5:25 to remember you don't have to fight
5:27 every battle you don't need to convince
5:29 the narcissist to see the truth your job
5:31 J is to stay rooted in the truth God
5:34 reveals and trust him to do the rest
5:36 because once the light has come Darkness
5:39 cannot win one of the most profound
5:41 truths about dealing with a narcissist
5:45 is this you cannot change them but God
5:48 can it's tempting to believe that if you
5:50 find the right words or the perfect
5:52 moment you'll break through their
5:55 defenses you might think that if you're
5:58 patient enough compassionate enough or
6:00 strong enough you'll eventually reach
6:02 the part of them capable of empathy and
6:04 accountability but that assumption
6:06 overlooks a fundamental reality
6:08 narcissism is not merely a collection of
6:11 bad habits or an inflated ego at its
6:14 core it is a deeply ingrained
6:17 psychological and spiritual Distortion
6:21 one that no human argument can unravel
6:23 when you engage a narcissist directly
6:24 trying to force them to see the harm
6:26 they cause you often encounter the
6:28 opposite effect instead of softening
6:30 they Harden instead of admitting fault
6:32 they double down on blame shifting and
6:34 denial this is because their entire
6:37 identity is built on a fragile
6:39 Foundation one that cannot withstand the
6:42 weight of Truth to admit wrongdoing
6:45 would unravel the carefully constructed
6:46 Persona they present to the world so
6:49 when you confront them their survival
6:51 Instinct takes over they will lie
6:53 project manipulate whatever it takes to
6:56 protect their illusion and the more you
6:59 push the more resistant they become
7:02 but here's the liberating truth it's not
7:04 your job to change them that work
7:07 belongs to God and God operates in ways
7:09 that are both subtler and far more
7:11 powerful than any human intervention
7:13 while you may be tempted to engage in
7:15 Endless arguments or emotional appeals
7:18 God works beneath the surface at the
7:20 level of the heart and soul and that is
7:22 where real transformation
7:25 occurs what does this mean practically
7:27 it means stepping back and allowing God
7:29 to take control this isn't about p ivity
7:32 it's about releasing the need to fix or
7:34 control the situation and trusting that
7:37 God sees everything he is not blind to
7:40 the harm the narcissist has caused he is
7:42 not indifferent to your suffering in
7:44 fact scripture is filled with evidence
7:47 that God takes special notice when the
7:50 vulnerable are mistreated Proverbs 15503
7:52 says the eyes of the Lord are everywhere
7:55 keeping watch on the wicked and the good
7:58 you may feel unseen but you are not you
8:02 may feel powerless but God is not when
8:04 you stop trying to change the narcissist
8:07 you shift the spiritual Dynamic instead
8:09 of engaging in a battle you cannot win
8:11 on your own you invite the power of the
8:14 Divine into the situation and God's ways
8:16 are not our ways he knows precisely how
8:18 to expose what is hidden and bring about
8:20 conviction you might spend months even
8:22 years trying to get a narcissist to
8:25 admit the truth without success yet God
8:27 can do in a moment what you cannot
8:30 achieve through a lifetime of arguments
8:32 and here's the crucial Point sometimes
8:34 God's work begins with allowing the
8:36 narcissist to experience the
8:39 consequences of their actions when you
8:41 continuously engage explaining and
8:43 justifying yourself you Shield them from
8:45 those consequences they remain
8:47 comfortable because you absorb the
8:50 emotional Fallout but when you step back
8:53 you allow reality to do its work you
8:56 give God space to reveal the truth in a
8:57 way they cannot
8:59 Escape consider the biblical example
9:02 example of pharaoh despite plague after
9:04 plague his heart remained hard no human
9:06 reasoning could soften him but God
9:08 through a series of events exposed
9:11 Pharaoh's pride and ultimately broke his
9:14 hold on the Israelites the lesson is
9:17 clear when pride is deeply rooted only
9:20 God's hand can bring about true humility
9:23 and often that process involves allowing
9:25 the person to encounter the consequences
9:26 of their own
9:29 behavior this is why it's so important
9:31 to resist the urge to confront the
9:34 narcissist repeatedly your words will
9:36 likely Fall on deaf ears but your
9:40 silence when Guided by wisdom can speak
9:43 volumes when you refuse to engage in
9:45 their manipulations you disrupt the game
9:48 they are playing and when you trust God
9:51 to handle what you cannot you position
9:53 yourself under Divine
9:56 protection of course stepping back is
9:58 not easy it requires tremendous Faith to
10:00 believe that God is working even when
10:02 you cannot see it it requires patience
10:04 to wait for his timing instead of
10:06 demanding immediate justice but that
10:11 trust is not misplaced Psalm 37:7 says
10:13 Be Still before the Lord and wait
10:15 patiently for him do not fret when
10:17 people succeed in their ways when they
10:19 carry out their wicked schemes for those
10:21 who hope in the Lord will inherit the
10:24 land in other words God's justice may
10:28 not be immediate but it is inevitable
10:30 and while God works on the narcissist he
10:32 also works on you when you release the
10:34 burden of trying to fix someone else you
10:36 begin to reclaim your own emotional and
10:38 spiritual energy you start to heal from
10:40 the confusion and pain you gain clarity
10:43 about your worth and your boundaries in
10:44 many ways stepping back is not just an
10:47 Act of Faith it's an act of
10:49 self-respect you are no longer allowing
10:51 someone else's dysfunction to Define
10:54 your life in the end your silence can be
10:57 more powerful than any argument your
10:59 decision to let God Work speak louder
11:01 than any words you could offer it is a
11:03 declaration that you refuse to be held
11:05 captive by manipulation and that you
11:08 trust in a higher form of justice and
11:10 when you do that when you stop trying to
11:12 change the narcissist and entrust the
11:16 situation to God you release yourself
11:19 from their grip you step into
11:22 Freedom so remember this it's not your
11:24 job to change a narcissist that work
11:27 belongs to God your job is to stand in
11:31 truth trust his time in and allow him to
11:34 do what only he can do and when you do
11:37 you not only find peace you give the
11:40 narcissist the opportunity to face the
11:42 truth in a way that no human
11:45 confrontation ever could one of the most
11:46 difficult truths to accept when dealing
11:48 with a narcissist is that their apparent
11:51 strength is an illusion on the surface
11:53 they present themselves as confident
11:55 self assured even Untouchable but
11:58 beneath that carefully crafted exterior
12:01 lies profound insecurity this is not
12:03 merely a personality flaw it is a deeply
12:06 rooted spiritual and psychological
12:08 condition and understanding this truth
12:10 changes how you respond to their
12:12 behavior it is easy to become consumed
12:14 by their outward dominance to feel
12:16 overwhelmed by their manipulation their
12:18 refusal to take responsibility or their
12:20 Relentless need for control but when you
12:22 grasp the reality that their power is a
12:25 facade it frees you from the compulsion
12:28 to engage with them on their terms at
12:30 the heart of Nar iism is a profound
12:32 emptiness a void that no amount of
12:35 external validation can ever fill it is
12:37 why they constantly seek attention why
12:40 they react so violently to criticism and
12:42 why they cannot tolerate being wrong
12:44 they are not grounded in a secure sense
12:46 of identity their entire sense of self
12:49 depends on how others perceive them and
12:51 because this Foundation is so fragile
12:54 any threat no matter how small must be
12:56 met with overwhelming force it is why
12:59 they twist reality shift blame and
13:01 project their faults onto others they
13:04 cannot afford to face the truth because
13:06 the truth exposes the nothingness they fear
13:08 fear
13:10 inside this is a crucial point to
13:11 understand when you confront a
13:14 narcissist directly you are not engaging
13:17 with a rational self-aware person who is
13:19 capable of honest reflection you are
13:20 engaging with a person who is
13:23 fundamentally at war with themselves and
13:25 when someone is at War
13:27 internally they inevitably create
13:30 conflict externally the chaos they cause
13:32 in your life is simply an extension of
13:35 the chaos they carry within themselves
13:36 they cannot live in peace because they
13:39 are not at peace and nothing you say or
13:43 do will change that reality only God can
13:45 but here is where things become even
13:48 more profound when you refuse to engage
13:50 in their battles you expose their
13:53 weakness you see a narcissist greatest
13:57 fear is being rendered powerless their
13:59 entire strategy depends on pulling you
14:01 into their emotional turmoil provoking
14:03 you confusing you controlling your
14:06 reactions if they can dictate how you
14:10 feel they maintain the illusion of power
14:12 but when you stop playing their game
14:14 when you step back and allow God to work
14:17 you dismantle their illusion you show
14:20 them that their control is not absolute
14:22 and nothing terrifies them
14:25 more think of it this way if you engage
14:28 in a power struggle with a narcissist
14:29 you affirm their belief that power is
14:32 the ultimate currency you reinforce
14:34 their world view a world view where
14:37 domination equals security but when you
14:40 refuse to engage when you stand firm
14:41 without becoming
14:44 reactive you disrupt that Dynamic you
14:47 demonstrate a deeper kind of strength
14:48 the strength that comes from
14:50 self-mastery and faith and in doing so
14:52 you confront them with a truth they cannot
14:53 cannot
14:57 Escape their power is hollow this is
15:00 where God's work becomes both subtle and
15:02 profound you may not see immediate
15:04 results in fact it may seem as though
15:07 your silence is ineffective but beneath
15:09 the surface something powerful is
15:12 happening when you step back and allow
15:14 God to take control you remove the
15:17 narcissist's ability to manipulate you
15:19 and without that ability they are left
15:22 alone with themselves and that is
15:25 precisely where God can begin to
15:27 work consider the biblical principle of
15:30 reaping what you sow Galatians 6:7 sayso
15:33 not be deceived God cannot be mocked a
15:36 man reaps what he SWS when you stop
15:38 shielding a narcissist from the
15:40 consequences of their actions they begin
15:42 to experience the weight of their
15:45 choices and those consequences are far
15:47 more powerful than any confrontation
15:50 could ever be you might spend hours
15:52 arguing your case pleading for
15:54 accountability but when you step aside
15:56 and let reality speak for itself the
15:59 truth becomes unavoidable this is not an
16:02 easy path it takes enormous discipline
16:03 to withhold your reactions when you are
16:05 being attacked or manipulated it takes
16:07 Faith to believe that God is working
16:09 when you cannot immediately see it but
16:11 this is the essence of spiritual
16:14 strength not to be ruled by your
16:16 emotions but to trust in a higher power
16:20 to bring Justice in his time and Justice
16:23 will come you do not need to force it in
16:25 the process something else happens you
16:27 become free when you disengage from the
16:30 narcissist manipul ations you reclaim
16:32 your mental and emotional energy you no
16:34 longer live under the constant pressure
16:36 of Defending yourself or proving your
16:40 worth you step out of the cycle of chaos
16:43 and into a place of clarity and in that
16:45 place you begin to see how much power
16:47 you always had the power to choose your
16:49 responses the power to set boundaries
16:51 and most importantly the power to trust
16:54 God with the outcome and here is the
16:57 deeper truth God's justice is not just
16:59 about exposing the narcissist it is
17:02 about healing you when you stop engaging
17:04 in their destructive patterns you create
17:06 space for your own restoration you begin
17:09 to recover the parts of yourself that
17:11 their manipulation tried to erase and as
17:13 you heal you become someone they can no
17:15 longer control you rise above their
17:18 chaos and discover a peace that cannot
17:22 be shaken so when you feel the urge to
17:24 confront a
17:28 narcissist pause ask yourself what am I
17:31 hoping to achieve if the goal is to make
17:35 them see the truth understand that only
17:38 God can open their eyes your role is to
17:41 stand firm in your own truth and trust
17:43 that God is working even when you cannot
17:45 see it in the end the most powerful
17:48 thing you can do is this refuse to
17:51 engage in their Illusions stand in truth
17:54 let God work because when you do you
17:56 strip away the facade and expose the one
17:59 thing they cannot face their own
18:01 emptiness and in that exposure the real
18:04 work of transformation begins both in
18:08 them and in you when you resist the urge
18:10 to confront a narcissist and instead
18:13 allow God to work something profound
18:15 happens you remove yourself from the
18:17 line of fire and let Divine truth and
18:19 Justice take their course this approach
18:22 is not about passivity or weakness in
18:24 fact it requires an extraordinary degree
18:26 of strength and
18:28 self-control it means trusting that
18:29 there are for forces at play beyond what
18:32 you can see that Justice is not always
18:35 immediate but is always inevitable and
18:37 this principle is deeply embedded in
18:40 both psychological and spiritual truths
18:42 a narcissist thrives on attention
18:44 whether positive or negative their
18:45 entire identity is built around
18:47 controlling narratives and manipulating
18:50 perceptions when you engage with them
18:52 especially when you call them out you
18:55 become a participant in their reality
18:57 and here is the critical insight as long
19:00 as you are in Tangled in their reality
19:02 you are playing by their rules this is
19:05 why confronting them directly often
19:07 backfires it gives them what they crave
19:10 a stage an audience and the opportunity
19:12 to twist the truth to suit their version
19:15 of reality but when you refuse to engage
19:18 you deny them the fuel they need to
19:21 maintain their illusion of power there
19:24 is something psychologically disarming
19:26 about being met with silence when you
19:29 expect a reaction narcissists feed on
19:32 emotional responses they want to know
19:34 they have gotten under your skin because
19:36 that reinforces their sense of
19:39 control so when you choose not to
19:42 respond when you refuse to validate
19:44 their attempts to provoke you you create
19:49 a void they cannot easily fill that void
19:51 is profoundly unsettling for them
19:53 because it forces them to confront
19:54 themselves without the distraction of
19:57 external drama and for someone who has
19:59 spent their life avoiding
20:01 self-reflection that is an
20:04 intolerable experience but this is not
20:07 just a psychological strategy it is a
20:09 spiritual one the Bible repeatedly
20:11 emphasizes the power of silence and the
20:14 wisdom of restraint Proverbs 2604 says
20:16 do not answer a fool according to his
20:18 folly or you yourself will be just like
20:21 him this is not about allowing Injustice
20:23 to go unchallenged it is about
20:26 recognizing that some battles cannot be
20:29 won through direct confrontation when
20:31 you choose not to engage you leave room
20:34 for God to act in ways you cannot his
20:37 Justice is not bound by human
20:39 limitations what you cannot achieve
20:41 through words God can accomplish through
20:44 his Sovereign power in many ways
20:46 refusing to engage is a profound Act of
20:48 Faith it requires letting go of the need
20:51 to be Vindicated in the moment it means
20:53 accepting that you may never receive an
20:54 apology or acknowledgement from the
20:57 narcissist and realizing that your worth
21:00 is not defined by their validation this
21:02 can be a difficult truth to accept
21:04 especially when you have been wounded
21:06 deeply but it is also liberating it
21:08 means you no longer need to fight
21:10 battles that drain your energy and Rob
21:13 you of Peace you can walk away knowing
21:15 that the truth does not depend on their
21:18 recognition of it and here is the
21:21 Paradox when you stop chasing validation
21:23 from a narcissist you regain control
21:26 over your own life as long as you are
21:27 trying to make them see the truth you
21:30 are still tra in their frame but when
21:32 you release that need you break free
21:34 from their influence you reclaim your
21:36 emotional and mental autonomy and in
21:38 doing so you become someone they can no longer
21:39 longer
21:42 manipulate this shift is not just
21:45 psychological it is spiritual you are
21:48 choosing to place your trust in a higher
21:51 authority one that cannot be deceived or
21:54 manipulated when you step back and allow
21:56 God to work you also create the
21:58 conditions for truth to surface in its
22:00 own time you see truth has a way of
22:02 emerging no matter how deeply it is
22:05 buried narcissists may be skilled at
22:06 distorting reality but no one can hide
22:08 from the consequences of their actions
22:10 forever sooner or later the cracks begin
22:13 to show and when they do the truth
22:15 becomes undeniable this is why stepping
22:18 back is not surrender it is strategy it
22:20 allows reality to do what no amount of
22:23 argument can achieve moreover when you
22:25 choose not to confront a narcissist
22:26 directly you protect yourself from
22:29 further harm narcissists do not respond
22:31 to confrontation with humility or
22:33 remorse they respond with defensiveness
22:36 and retaliation by disengaging you
22:38 Shield yourself from the emotional and
22:41 psychological toll of their manipulation
22:44 you create space to heal to regain
22:47 Clarity and to restore your sense of
22:49 self and in that space you can hear
22:52 God's voice more clearly guiding you
22:55 strengthening you and reminding you that
22:59 your worth is not contingent on anyone's
23:01 approval this approach also has a
23:03 profound impact on the narcissists
23:05 themselves though not in the way they
23:07 might expect when you no longer play
23:09 their game they are left to face the
23:11 consequences of their own behavior
23:13 without someone to absorb their
23:15 projections they are forced to confront
23:17 the emptiness within and while this is
23:19 an uncomfortable process it is also
23:22 necessary it is only in the absence of
23:23 external distractions that real
23:26 self-awareness can begin to take root
23:29 whether or not they choose to change
23:33 is not within your control but by
23:36 stepping aside you make room for the
23:38 possibility the power of this approach
23:40 lies in its Simplicity you are not
23:42 engaging in Endless arguments not
23:44 wasting energy trying to change someone
23:46 who does not want to change instead you
23:48 are stepping into a place of quiet
23:50 strength trusting that God sees what you
23:52 cannot and will act in ways beyond your
23:54 ability this is not weakness it is
23:56 wisdom it is the decision to invest your
23:59 energy in your own growth in healing
24:02 rather than in a battle that cannot be
24:05 won through force in the end the most
24:07 profound victories are often the
24:10 quietest when you refuse to engage with
24:13 a narcissist games you strip them of the
24:15 one thing they cannot live without
24:17 control you demonstrate that their
24:19 manipulations no longer affect you and
24:21 that truth is not something they can
24:25 distort forever and as you walk away you
24:27 do so with the knowledge that the real
24:30 work is already under way not in your
24:33 hands but in God's that is where True
24:35 Justice lies one of the most profound
24:36 truths you can Embrace when dealing with
24:39 a narcissist is this you are not
24:41 responsible for their transformation
24:42 that burden does not rest on your
24:45 shoulders it never did there is an
24:47 enormous psychological and spiritual
24:51 Freedom that comes from recognizing this
24:53 the impulse to call out a narcissist
24:56 often arises from a deep innate sense of
24:58 justice when you see someone distorted
25:00 reality twisting the truth to protect
25:01 their fragile
25:04 ego there's a part of you that wants to
25:06 correct the record you want them to see
25:08 the damage they've caused to take
25:11 responsibility to change but here is the
25:13 reality narcissists do not respond to
25:16 confrontation the way you might hope if
25:18 anything direct confrontation often
25:21 fuels their defensive mechanisms and
25:23 intensifies their manipulative
25:26 behaviors this is because narcissism at
25:28 its core is a defense against deep in
25:30 security and shame you are not dealing
25:32 with someone who has a clear coherent
25:34 sense of self instead you are
25:35 encountering a person who has built an
25:38 elaborate psychological Fortress to
25:39 protect themselves from feelings they
25:42 find intolerable and when you attempt to
25:43 confront them when you hold up a mirror
25:45 to their actions what you are really
25:47 doing is threatening that fragile
25:50 construction their entire identity is
25:51 built on the belief that they are
25:54 superior blameless and entitled any
25:56 suggestion to the contrary is
25:58 experienced as an existential threat
26:00 threat and when people feel threatened
26:02 at that fundamental level they do not
26:05 respond with humility they respond with
26:09 aggression or denial the problem is that
26:10 many people believe that if they could
26:12 just find the right words the perfect
26:13 argument they could break through that
26:16 defensive wall it's an understandable
26:18 belief we want to think that reason
26:21 truth and Clarity can reach anyone but
26:24 with a narcissist that belief is a trap
26:27 the more you engage in trying to force
26:29 understanding the deeper you are pulled
26:31 into their distorted reality instead of
26:34 leading to resolution these
26:36 confrontations often escalate into
26:38 cycles of blame gaslighting and
26:40 emotional manipulation and here is where
26:43 many people become stuck because they
26:45 think if they just try a little harder
26:47 if they are a little
26:51 clearer things will finally change but
26:52 you are not the one who can change a
26:55 narcissist that is God's work not yours
26:58 and that distinction is crucial you see
27:00 see when you take on the task of fixing
27:02 someone you place yourself in a position
27:04 you were never meant to occupy you take
27:07 on a responsibility that exceeds your
27:10 human capacity and more than that you
27:12 divert your energy away from where it is
27:17 most needed your own growth healing and
27:20 freedom you cannot simultaneously hold a
27:22 narcissist accountable and live fully in
27:24 the truth of who you are the two things
27:26 are incompatible because the more you
27:28 try to change them the more inang L you
27:30 become in their
27:33 dysfunction God however is not bound by
27:35 these limitations his work operates on a
27:37 different scale one that is not confined
27:41 to human timelines or perceptions when
27:43 you release the need to control the
27:46 outcome when you stop trying to force
27:48 someone to see what they refuse to
27:50 acknowledge you create space for divine
27:53 intervention and that intervention is
27:55 far more effective and far reaching than
27:57 anything you could accomplish through
28:00 argument or confrontation there is a
28:02 profound spiritual principle at work
28:05 here when you step back you allow God to
28:08 step in in Romans 12:19 we are told do
28:10 not take revenge my dear friends but
28:12 leave room for God's Wrath for it is
28:14 written it is mine to avenge I will
28:16 repay says the Lord this is not a call
28:19 to passivity or weakness it is a
28:20 reminder that ultimate Justice is not
28:23 ours to administer when you try to hold
28:26 a narcissist accountable on your own you
28:28 will almost always encounter frustration
28:30 ation because you are attempting to do a
28:33 job that is not yours but when you trust
28:35 that God sees the full truth when you
28:37 believe that nothing is hidden from him
28:41 you can release the need to fix to prove
28:45 to force a reckoning and that release is
28:47 transformative not just for them but for
28:49 you when you let go of the need to
28:51 change someone else you reclaim your own
28:53 power you begin to realize that your
28:55 worth is not dependent on their
28:58 acknowledgement or approval you stop
28:59 waiting for an apology that may never
29:02 come you release the burden of carrying
29:04 their dysfunction and instead focus on
29:06 becoming the healthiest strongest
29:08 version of yourself this shift is not
29:12 easy it requires faith and patience but
29:14 it is also freeing in a way that nothing
29:17 else can be what's even more powerful is
29:19 that stepping back does not mean that
29:21 Justice is abandoned quite the opposite
29:23 when you allow God to work you are
29:25 entrusting the situation to the one who
29:28 sees and judges perfectly and the truth
29:29 truth is that no one escapes that
29:31 judgment forever narcissists can
29:33 maintain their Illusions for a time but
29:36 eventually reality asserts itself the
29:38 consequences of their actions will catch
29:41 up with them and when that day comes it
29:43 will not be because you forced it it
29:46 will be because truth is inescapable
29:48 your energy is far better spent
29:50 cultivating your own life building
29:52 relationships grounded in mutual respect
29:55 deepening your spiritual foundation and
29:57 living in alignment with your values
29:59 when you do this you send a powerful
30:01 message not only to The Narcissist but
30:03 to yourself that you are no longer
30:05 available to be manipulated you are no
30:07 longer a participant in their game and
30:08 that withdrawal of attention that
30:11 refusal to engage is one of the most
30:14 powerful responses you can offer it
30:17 signals that their behavior no longer
30:20 controls you and nothing unsettles a
30:23 narcissist more than realizing they have
30:26 lost their grip at the end of the day
30:28 the most profound transformation happens
30:30 not when you try to change someone else
30:32 but when you focus on becoming who you
30:34 were meant to be and when you step back
30:36 and trust God to work you are making a
30:39 profound declaration that you believe in
30:41 a Justice greater than what you can
30:43 enact and that your peace is worth more
30:45 than any argument and that kind of
30:47 freedom is something no narcissist can
30:50 ever take from you when a narcissist
30:53 wounds you there is an instinctive human
30:56 desire to seek immediate Justice to call
30:58 them out to expose their behavior to
31:00 make them see and feel the damage
31:03 they've caused this reaction is not
31:05 inherently wrong it's a reflection of
31:07 our deep longing for fairness for truth
31:10 to be acknowledged and for the balance
31:13 of moral order to be restored but here's the
31:14 the
31:17 problem you are often dealing with
31:20 someone who fundamentally rejects that
31:23 moral framework a narcissist operates
31:25 from a different psychological Playbook
31:27 they are not interested in truth as a
31:30 transcender value they are interested in
31:34 control in preserving their self image
31:36 and in ensuring that the narrative
31:38 always serves their
31:40 agenda when you attempt to engage a
31:42 narcissist in a moral conversation when
31:45 you try to reason with them or hold them
31:47 accountable through rational discourse
31:49 you will quickly find yourself trapped
31:53 in a game you cannot win narcissists are
31:56 masters of deflection and projection if
31:58 you bring up a legitimate grievance
32:00 they will twist the conversation to make
32:03 themselves the victim if you try to
32:05 establish boundaries they will paint you
32:09 as unreasonable cold or even abusive and
32:11 if you attempt to expose their behavior
32:13 publicly they will often escalate their
32:16 manipulation deploying charm or deceit
32:18 to turn others against you in short your
32:21 attempts to confront them directly often
32:24 result not in Clarity or justice but in
32:28 deeper confusion and pain it is precise
32:30 ly in this space this agonizing tension
32:32 between the desire for justice and the
32:35 futility of forcing it that the wisdom
32:37 of stepping back and allowing God to
32:39 work becomes so powerful because here's
32:42 the truth nothing escapes the Divine eye
32:46 no lie no manipulation no hidden cruelty
32:50 goes unseen and while human Justice is
32:52 always limited Bound by our knowledge
32:55 our biases and our finite resources
32:58 God's justice is
33:00 perfect it is both patient and
33:03 inevitable there is a profound
33:05 psychological and spiritual relief in
33:08 recognizing that you do not have to bear
33:10 the burden of making things right on
33:13 your own when you release the need to
33:15 control the outcome you are not
33:17 surrendering to
33:20 Injustice you are entrusting the
33:22 situation to a higher authority and that
33:25 act of trust is itself
33:27 transformative it frees you from the ex
33:30 exhausting and often feudal cycle of
33:33 trying to make a narcissist understand
33:34 what they are psychologically and
33:37 spiritually incapable of
33:39 accepting it allows you to reclaim your
33:42 time your emotional energy and most
33:44 importantly your sense of self because
33:46 the longer you engage in battle with a
33:48 narcissist the more you risk losing
33:51 sight of who you are you become reactive
33:53 rather than intentional your world
33:56 Narrows to the conflict and the
33:59 narcissist paradox toxically becomes the
34:02 center of your attention but when you
34:05 step back when you say I trust that God
34:07 sees this I trust that nothing is hidden
34:09 from him you are making a radical
34:13 Declaration of Freedom you are refusing
34:15 to allow someone else's Brokenness to
34:18 Define your life and there is nothing
34:21 more disempowering for a narcissist than
34:24 realizing they no longer have the
34:26 ability to provoke you to pull you into
34:29 their drama or to shape your emotional
34:32 landscape and here's something else to
34:34 consider when you trust God to work you
34:36 also open the possibility for outcomes
34:40 that exceed your limited imagination
34:42 there are transformations consequences
34:44 and Revelations that you could never
34:47 orchestrate on your own narcissists
34:48 often maintain their Illusions through
34:52 sheer force of will but no illusion can
34:55 withstand the weight of reality forever
34:57 people reveal themselves over time and
34:59 as much as a narcissist may try to
35:01 maintain their facade the truth
35:04 eventually emerges when you allow God to
35:09 work you give space for that process to
35:12 unfold not on your timeline
35:15 perhaps but in the fullness of time this
35:18 is not passivity it's a strategic
35:21 withdrawal grounded in faith and wisdom
35:23 it does not mean you tolerate abuse or
35:25 deny your pain on the contrary it means
35:27 you take your pain seriously enough to
35:30 place it in the hands of one who can
35:32 actually heal it and in doing so you
35:37 also refuse to let that pain become the
35:40 organizing principle of your life you
35:42 move forward not in bitterness not in
35:45 the endless search for Vindication but
35:48 in the quiet confidence that Justice
35:52 belongs to God and he will not be mocked
35:54 when you adopt this perspective you
35:57 regain your power you stop reacting to
36:00 every provocation you no longer feel
36:02 compelled to prove your side of the
36:04 story to people who may never understand
36:06 and you start focusing on the things
36:10 that genuinely matter your own growth
36:14 your own purpose and the relationships
36:17 that bring true connection and joy it's
36:20 easy to believe that stepping back means
36:24 you're letting the narcissist win but
36:26 that's a profound misunderstanding when
36:28 you engage in endless conflict they
36:30 still control your focus when you
36:34 release the battle and entrust the
36:37 situation to God you are no longer bound
36:39 by their games you have chosen a
36:42 different path one that leads to peace
36:44 freedom and truth that cannot be
36:46 distorted or
36:48 denied ultimately the most powerful
36:50 thing you can do in the face of
36:52 narcissistic harm is to refuse to let it
36:55 Define you and when you trust God to
36:57 work you are making a profound statement
36:59 that you believe in a Justice greater
37:02 than your own and that your life is too
37:04 precious to be consumed by someone
37:06 else's dysfunction that kind of freedom
37:09 is something no narcissist can take from
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