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A MASTERCLASS in business with ALEX HORMOZI & ED MYLETT | Ed Mylett | YouTubeToText
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no one's effing coming to save you no
one's going to make you better at your
business no one is going to get you to
be a better Persuader of people or
framer of people other than you what
would you say to someone who's still
living in that delusion wake up the
thing is it doesn't actually matter if
it is your fault but it is your problem
you have to solve it cuz no one else
will that allows you to actually do
something about it if you make a 100
cold calls whether you hate it or you
love it or you're meant for it you make
the calls and you practice the script
you'll get business you can also get
business and make money even if you
don't deserve it but the idea that I
could still have it anyways and not
deserve it if I only did the things that
got it was like it was kind of like in
the in the weightlifting world that the
iron is the iron whether you're black
you're white you're a woman 500 lb to
500 lb like the actions that create
success are often are kind of the same
way anyone can do the thing and get the
result no matter how they feel about
freeing
the rocky cutscene lasts 2 minutes in
the movie but it can Last 5 Years in
real life there is no background music
there's no audience waiting to cheer for
you and you don't know that you're going
to beat Apollo Creed so you're in it for
5 years and I think the hard part of
Entrepreneurship is the uncertainty that
you don't know if it's going to work out
but taken to the other natural extreme
if you did know and you were guaranteed
that it was going to work it wouldn't be
worth it we want a guarantee from a
world that doesn't give any and the fact
that it doesn't give a guarantee is what
makes it worth it to the person who is
still you know plugged in and waiting
for someone to save them someone will
save you but it's you future you the
better you the person that you've been
waiting to become it's not good it's
outstanding it's [Music]
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so much welcome back
everybody this person sitting across
from me he's been on the show before you
guys all went nuts when he was on but I
got to tell you he's probably the person
whose content I share the most on the
planet because I think it's that good um
I really really like a lot of people uh
in the business space I admire and
listen to very few and he has risen up
the list for me of the people that I
admire and I listen to the most because
his content is so good his message is so
good because it's based in actual
results and actual experience my guest
today is Alex heroi welcome back brother
thank you for having me and um such a
gracious introduction I just to
apologize ahead of time the audience
there's there's no way I will live up to
that but I'll do my absolute hardest
I'll try my hardest he will 15 minutes
in he will have exceeded it by the way
he's got a new book out called hundred
million do leads how to get strangers to
want to buy your
stuff and uh I think it's the book
launch I told you this off camera I've
heard the most about ever he had a few
people participate in it how many did
you have tell them yeah we had 500,000
people who uh signed up for the event we
had just under 200,000 who clicked to
join live um the moment we we launched
it was uh it was wild it was City and I
said to him I said well how'd you do it
he go actually I did the stuff in the
book yeah give us a couple specifics of
what that means I'm going to give a
little bit more context and I'll give
the the better answer so $100 million
offers which is my first book was an
offer about making a proposition to
somebody that they would say yes to so
how to make offers so good people feel
stupid saying no and the first question
that you need to answer when you're
entrepreneur is what do I sell right and
so you make an offer and that's why that
was the first book and so the offer book
itself was what I would consider a meta
book as in it both the goal was that I
demonstrate the concept while also so
with the book while also teaching about
it in the book and so the book itself I
I pered it for $1.99 and it came with a
course that most people charge $5,000
for and I gave that away for free and
did no paid advertising whatsoever and
it continues to sell 25,000 30,000
copies a month this month obviously way
more than that because the launch and
whatnot but uh but it does more every
month than it did the month before and
it's still top 100 two years later now
the next book answers the next question
so once you have something to sell then
you're like well who do I sell it to
yeah and so you need leads and so that
was why the second book is $1 million
leads and so
leads mean a lot of different things to
a lot of different people but most
people agree that they're the first
thing that you need to have to get new
customers and so the thing that creates
a lead and when I was trying to go
through this book I was like what is a
lead and so I had a buddy of mine asked
me that question and I I stumbled for I
was like you know a lead and he was like
no what's a lead and so I was like you
know it's uh it's someone that you you
know uh you get name phone number email address
address
and he's like okay um if someone follows
you on Instagram and you can message
them are they a lead I was like well
yeah I guess they would be a lead he's
like okay well if I subscribe to YouTube
am I a lead then I was like no I I guess
I guess not it wouldn't be because I
can't I can't contact you in any way and
so we started going through all these
things if someone if I knock on
someone's door they elad right and so we
started going through it and so we come
up with a lead is a person you can
contact okay now from there you're like
well there's a lot of people I can
contact which then gave me the
conclusion that what people say they
want is leads but what they really want
are engaged leads which is a person you
can contact comma who's shown interested
in the stuff you sell would you call it
qualified lead that be the next level
okay so yeah if you're looking on the
lead cont you've got unengaged lead
engaged lead a qualified lead and then
yeah and then you go into customer and
whatnot and so uh so then the question
is how do you go from an unengaged lead
to an Engaged lead and that one that one
flip just from there to there is the
entire book after that point where
someone raises their hand and says I'm
interested in your stuff that is where
the book ends okay and so I wanted to
show people how to get strangers to want
to buy their stuff not to buy it because
that would be sales but how to want to
buy their stuff and so in going through
this um we made two four boxes and this
took it's awesome 100 iterations looking
at it again last night it's awesome it
was really hard like as crazy as it
sounds because I came into it with a lot
of the preconceive I was like what what
about earned media what about owned
media like I had all these I had to
deconstruct everything into simply you
can talk to people one-on-one and you
can talk to people one to many and there
are people who know who you are before
you talk to them and there are people
who don't and those the those are the
four variables so if you're one to one
to friendlies that's a warm reach out if
you're one to one to strangers it's a
cold reach out if you're one to many to
friends it's when you post content it's
your audience who knows you and if
you're doing one to many to people who
don't know you it's paid ads gosh that's
good okay and so those are the only four
ways that a person can let other people
know about stuff anything at all like if
a girl is like I just slept with six
guys she's advertising what she did she
let people know about it right and so
advertising is the process of making
known that's how we Define it and so
then you're like well if those are the
only four things that I can do to let
other people know about stuff are those
the only four ways to advertise and so
the answer is kind of like yes and no
because the other four are what I call
lead Getters and so lead Getters are
people who let other people know on your
behalf yes and so they are where you get
the greatest amount of Leverage in
advertising because for example if I
were to say okay I'm going to hire uh a
a recruiter who brings me Affiliates
every month and so I hire one person so
I do whatever amount of work it takes me
to hire one person and then I go and I
sip my Ties on the beach which we know
that's not true but just for the example
now that person works every hour of
every day bringing Affiliates in and
then those Affiliates then either they
do one of the core four they reach out
to their friends they reach out to
strangers they post content or they make
ads to Their audience to tell them about
my stuff okay for money free stuff or
both that's the incentive and so that is
an example of a lead getter and how one
day's work might create zillions of
dollars on the back end by just having
having leverage getting more for what I
put in and so there are four the first
is customers so you do the core going to
ask you yeah you do the core four to get
a customer now that customer can then do
the core for again to get you other
customers do you feel that there's a uh
priority among others in other words
when you were saying it I'm like
customer might be the best one oh yeah
for sure the reason I would say customer
is more important isn't as much about
the customer but about what would make a
customer want to refer is typically an
exceptional product and so if you have a
better product like you can incentivize
any affiliate if you put experience
right exactly so I'll I'll quickly go
through the four lead Getters and then
and then I'll I'll explain the whole
cycle in in total so you have customers
you have Affiliates which I talked about
just a second ago which looks like a
customer referral but it's a little
because it's it's another business who
refers their customers to you you've got
um agencies who can do the core for on
your behalf they can run as they can
post content they can do Outreach all
for you because there are agencies who
do all those things and then you have
employees so like I didn't I don't make
my content I have a team of people who
make content for me and so you can see
how the first four things are the only
things a human can do to let other
people know about stuff to
advertise the other four are the people
you get from advertising who can then do
the advertising on your behalf and so
the long-winded answer for like how did
I get 500,000 people there is that I
purposefully took the 24 months leading
up to that because once offers launched
everything was about lead so I knew that
the audience didn't know that but
everything that I was doing was knowing
that in 24 months I was going to have my
next book come out and so I wanted to
use every tactic or method in the book
to advertise to advertise the book so
that's the whole meta concept the first
one is I had to make a meta offer like
the book itself is an amazing offer so
good people feel stupid in saying no and
then 100 million 10000 million leads I
wanted to get as many strangers to want
to buy my stuff using warm Outreach cold
Outreach uh posting content running paid
ads getting customer referrals
Affiliates agencies and employees launch
itself is validation of the book itself
yes keep going and so the thing that
always grinds my gears and I think what
I've I've strived really hard to do uh
with the content that I make Etc is that
I always want the proof to be undeniable
and so like I I started the presentation
for the book launch with this little
picture of a book that says how to
Market a book and it has 14 reviews on
Amazon and whoever wrote this book I
hope I I'm not just like just destroying
you that's not my goal I blacked out the
name I don't know who it is um but I
don't need to read the book because I
already have evidence that the person
doesn't know how to Market maret a book
because if they knew how to Market a
book they wouldn't have 14 reviews so
like I have real world evidence that the
contents of the book are
irrelevant and so I wanted to do the
exact opposite of that which is if
you're going to have a book about
advertising it should be advertised
better than anything and so that was
exactly what I wanted to do was just
lean really hard on that and
purposefully use only the things that I
have in the book and so which was
actually kind of fun for me so like when
we when we scripted out the ads I have
an ad ad creation framework that I just
I just used the framework that I
introduced in the book only and with the
Affiliates I had the the structure that
I set up in the book I used only um like
I call talk wh whisper te shout which is
kind of like the method that you do to
launch anything or at least that I used
to launch anything um you know like we
used agencies when we didn't have to
because I wanted to have an agency run
it so I could talk about that and then
obviously the team did all the content
and so we used all eight methods to
promote the book and then that is what
resulted it we had 137,000 people came
from Paid ads we had 104,000 people who
came from Affiliates we had 27,000
Affiliates sign up to promote the book launch
launch
we had we had just under so just sorry
just over 200,000 people that came from
content um and then we had what am I
miss saying and then referrals the rest are
are
referrals do you by the way everyone
hearing this right now it's amazing to
me obviously the detail of the book and
all of that is one thing the other thing
is that how many people all the concepts
you just describe to them even if they
were at the book launch it's still four
of them meaning they still look at
business almost like a linear
transaction in other words they're this
is a simple analogy look here's how I
got wealthy I don't play Checkers in
business I'm playing chess I've got
multiple moves that I'm already making
in front of the other one that set up
something else most people are like I
just got to get this client and then
once I get that I'll breathe out loud
and then I'm going to go through this
arduous grinding debilitating
horrific self-loathing process to get
one more right the power of one more
that's what myet says and do you agree
with that though does it still blow your
mind how many people still don't get
progressive marketing that stacks on top
of one another funnel is a terrible word
but there's multiple funnels Happening
Here meaning you've got the affiliate
funnel you've got the paid ad funnel if
you choose to do it that way you've got
your content or client referral funnel
yeah but most people in their businesses
they're still what you just did is so
brilliant there like washing over them
still even of the half a million people
that were there you and I know this it's
they they they're picturing how business
Works fundamentally incorrectly would
you agree with that I think so and I
think part of it is I would so I would
say it's more like a like at least from
my perspective like an incomplete
picture um so they they see they can
usually you can only see as far as like
what's in front of you and so if you are
barely making rent you know what I mean
and you're barely making payroll it's
really difficult to think about brand
you know what I mean and so it doesn't
make it less important though but it's
just really hard and so you know for at
least the the prescription that I have
in the book for advertising is pick one
method you can pick warm reach outs you
pick cold reach outs you can pick you
can pick making content you can pick uh
running paid ads and those are all the
things that you can do and I start there
because most people reading anything in
business are usually the ones doing it
for the most part and so we start with
the core four that a person can do but
of course all four work better together
yes now you can just do cold calls and
you can you can build a business you can
just run PID ads you can you can build a
business but if you do cold calls run
ads and have content that people consume
when they click your ad they consume
some content and then they complete the
transaction or they you do a cold call
they they take the set call and between
the set and the close they go to your
profile they read some stuff they watch
a video to and they're like oh this
guy's legit now if you didn't have
that the likelihood that you close them
would be way lower but you would
attribute the failed close to bad cold
calling but you could have given the
assist with brand with content let me
ask you a hard question I bet I bet no
one's this and if they have cool but I
was thinking at your work and it like I
was going through all of it last night
again and I was thinking okay I want to
ask them the tough stuff like the stuff
no one's going to ask him an interview I
want two entrepreneurs pushing one
another to figure this out even together
okay so what if the sales cycle of your
product is different does that dictate
which way you should go so let me give
you an example I'm marketing a book
that's a tangible product that can be
acquired instantaneously yeah let's
switch it let's make it a hard one I'm a
realtor yeah I'm in the mortgage
business I'm in the Insurance business
this sales cycle is a little bit
different it's not necessarily A to B
bam we've got a client yeah does that
change your methodology and let's walk
through a real world one I'm a realtor
let's use what I think is maybe the
hardest one to make the application fit
on some Cycles do you pick a lane all of
the lanes and does that matter that the
product isn't a consumable can of Coca
or a bottle of water but it's a
transaction experience that you're going
to have to go through in the sales cycle
I don't think it would matter at all
okay so if we were to just let's fill in
the fill in the boxes if we if we will
so like if you're a realtor warm
Outreach is going to be you reaching out
to your friends and family saying do you
know anybody who's interested in buying
a house now ideally you probably not
start with that because that's what
every realtor says so it might be
something like hey what's your dream
home or something like that and then you
can start talking about something more
interesting believe me I'm not in the
real estate space so hopefully there' be
a better hook but that would be the idea
cold reach outs is you're you're just
dialing numbers that are close to you or
cold emailing or you know that is that
is cold reach out uh if you're you're
making content you're talking about the
houses that you're selling and many
Realtors do that um and then you have
paid ads which also plenty of Realtors
either generate buyer or seller leads
that they call and then they can help
them sell their house so either they
list houses and they show these you know
six or seven carousels of cool houses
and they get buyers or uh they talk
about recent sales and then and use them
as case studies for like here's the 17
steps in the process we took this house
from the owner thought they could sell
for 500 I sold it for 575 and this was
the 60-day process we ran through if
that sounds interesting I can walk you
what I would do for your house whatever
so that would be the core four but a
good realtor should also have friends
who are an to the industry so it might
be uh you know Lawn Care people it might
be uh I know there's regulations around
loans and kickbacks and things like that
but like still cleaners anybody who's
does Home Services you can still get
referrals from them which would be an
affiliate right now customer referrals
is you sell the house and you ask them
for friends or before you sell the house
you ask them for friends or sometimes
they just do it on their own because
they actually like you and you did a
good job right from an agency
perspective you could hire agencies to
do any of those things and then if you
have more if you're if you're a bigger
realtor and you have a team of people
then you can use your employees to do
any of those things on your behalf and
so the core four and the four lead
Getters work independent of whatever
business you have because they are
simply the only ways that one human can
tell other human about stuff it's a fact
so let me give you an example I have
several homes listed right now just
different things I'm doing I'm just
thinking through what you just said one
of the homes I've listed they literally
knocked on my door as a cold call yeah
and the fact that they did that they
make a lot of money too I was like this
is my lady yeah so that's one of them
the other one I have an interior
designer yeah referred me the realtor
that is now listing my house that isn't
that interesting and the third one just
literally had a digital footprint MH
that I saw their digital footprint went
to their brand was validated by other
significant properties they had sold and
they're listing that property so what he
just said I just gave you in my own life
validation of all three of those methods
right there off the top that I'm
currently using currently in the MLS
with three people in that industry
exactly the way that he just described
but I wanted to push you to describe it
first because that's the theory here's
why I think you're this way
too there's validation and then I want
to push the theory to the extreme most
difficult measure to see whether it
passes the take an on water test yeah
and that's what it does for
me number one thing I want to ask you
someone's an entrepreneur they're
listening to this and they are not
getting enough leads in
general and they're they're literally
thinking that what I'm going to do is
I'm going to continue to do just posting
stuff on my Instagram over and over
again and people are going to magically
appear if there's one step now I should
take to change my tactic first thing I
should do aside from get the book get
the book would be what so if I needed to
make money tomorrow yes and I was that
guy yes it's the first of the core four
in the book which is warm Outreach and
so what that means is I go through my
email and I look at every single contact
that I already have already in my email
list I open up my iPhone or my Android
and I go down my contact list and I
download that and I export it and then I
look at every one of my social media
profiles I've got 700 followers on
Instagram I've got you know 400 friends
on Facebook and I list out all the
people into one Mondo Excel sheet that
is my first leads list yep and I reach
out to them and I open with something
that has nothing to do with my
profession which usually has something
to do with their life and so I take the
30 seconds before I message everyone
because you only have a fixed amount of
people and I would say what's new in
Sarah's life Sarah just had a kid Sarah
just moved Sarah just had a baby Sarah
just competed in tough mutter whatever
and then that would be my opener and
then then it's house things right and
then once you have house things then you
transition you can you can move the
conversation into whatever Direction you
want if I'm selling Fitness I would say
oh well how do you have time to you know
cook cook food and and get in shape if
if it was uh you know I was career
coaching i' be like how are you making
time for work in your career goals if I
was talking about if I was selling
therapy I would say like how's your
mental state with like crushing all
these goals but like are you taking time
for yourself like I could you know what
I mean like I could sell anything from
Once I just know once I have their
attention and we use something that
called the ACA framework which we learn
from the gym world but it works with
anything it's really just how to talk to
a human being but is acknowledge
whatever they said complement them on a
legitimate compliment and then ask the
next question and so a lot of people
just don't know how to have a
conversation and so whenever someone
says you know I you know I did the tough
mutter I would say it's so cool that you
did the tough mutter compliment which
would then say something like
that's like that's so tough of you um
you know um it's so cool that you take
that time to to push yourself you must
be that type of person I would label
them with something that I want to use
later in the sale and then uh so and
then the ask is let me move the
conversation forward right and so that
is I then have my big list of every
single contact that I have and I start
with the open hook that's personalized
to them and then I move them through ACA
and then I set them up for a 10-minute
qualification call of some sort to just
to make sure that they like whatever it
is and then I would set up for a real
conversation so and if you're curious
what does that 10-minute call look like
yes it's uh so I use something called
The Closer framework and it's not that
this is the perfect way to sell it's
just it's a it's a simple uh acronym
that I used to organize sales scripts
and so C is clarify why they're there
right because they got on the phone for
a reason or they decided to respond back
to you for a reason and so it's the
first obstacle that comes up in any sale
is someone says I just wanted more
information well no they didn't they got
there because they have a problem like
you're not just hopping on phone calls
for information all day of course you're not
not
right like you can make that joke if you
want to really good right and it's like
well what because then you just clarify
like what problem do you want to solve
like six months from now what do you
want to have happen and then then the
person's like well I you know I can't
fit in my jeans anymore you're like
right boom I've clarified where they're
there then you restate it with L label
them with a problem so to be clear
you're not the weight you want to be
you're currently how much 200 lb what
would you like to be my high school
weight what's that 130 got it Gap Okay
cool so then we go c l now we go to O so
this is the closer framework o is
overview their past experiences this is
what I call the pain cycle so you say
what have you tried so far how did that
work for you what did you like what did
you not like whenever they say the
things that they like you mental note of
that so that when you present Your
solution you're going to talk about and
tie the things that they liked about
part of their buying map uhhuh and then
the Pain part is where they're like oh
this was terrible it's too hard to
follow they didn't pay attention to me
no one followed up blah blah blah and so
then it's like well what else have you
tried and so we just keep doing until
we've exhausted all the pain and
whenever you bring up past experiences
it always aggravates and increases
importance like in in the political
world whatever the new cycle is on
people will say is the most important
issue of the election and it's really
just whatever the media chooses to
whatever piano key they want to play on
everyone's emotions that month but it
works the same way on a micr level in a
sale so whatever you're talking about
the pain cycle is going to be the thing
that they now think is more important
maybe my health is more important maybe
my the CLE cleanliness of my house is
more maybe I do need insurance like
whatever it is right um and so in a set
call we stop there so you basically go
CL clarify label overview the past
experiences they're in the middle of
pain and you're like I think I can
totally help you I don't have time right
now let's put a much long cuz this is
like a cold like basically it's a set
call now if someone has if if you're if
you're selling a smaller ticket thing
then you can go Cradle to grave right
you can go to cl to cloes if you want to
but if you're selling an insurance
product you're trying to buy you know
get them to do a house or do a longer
sale then cool then let me put some
stuff together for you so I can give you
a much more informed answer but I think
we can really help you can I ask you a
question before you do that do you get
any commitment from them like if there's
if I can end up helping you or you open
them solving the solution for you or do
you not get any hook close at that point
yeah we call the Integrity tie down so
yeah we um yes we have uh we have this
big checklist that we call the lead
nurture checklist but it's like 17
things that we that we do whatever like
we take on a portfolio company um we
always look at their show rates on
appointments and we can usually take all
show rates even in the coldest prospects
to 85% but it's it's l like everyone's
like what's the one there isn't one
thing you have to do like 17 things that
each bump You by 5 to 7% but I like it
so you're going to end the conversation
there with some probably minor
commitment CL that if you can solve the
problem they're going to move forward
when you get back together 100% And so
then when we go to the second call we
still go through clo again and you be
like again you're like sure will and you
just dive a little bit deeper into all
of them and then you go SE so s is sell
the vacation and I use This Acronym uh
this moniker because I say you want to
sell the vacation not the plane flight
and so a lot of people when they when
they want to sell stuff they talk about
the widgets right they talk about TSA
they talk about checking their bag and
taking their shoes off and who they're
going to sit next to on the plane and
the seat and how long the flight's going
to be and modules and the services and
whatever but people just want Maui yes
and so you should be describing the
beach and the ocean and that what
they're going to experience the moment
they get into the hotel room right and
they can open up the the curtains and
they look out the window like that's
what we should be describing not how
they're going to get there so you sell
the vacation and then ER is explaining
with their concerns so once you sell the
vacation that's when you make the ask
and then enr is okay if they don't say
yes immediately totally reasonable most
people don't uh expect no yeah train for
no cuz that's where you make the money
um and then we explain where their
concerns and so you know for for us I I
train on three major obstacles which is
they they correspond to distortions of
reality um from uh Dr Albert Ellis yeah
and so you've got people who are upset
at the universe so circumstances you
that's on the outer outermost layer and
then the next level underneath and this
is like an onion so if someone says no
and they say time money this isn't the
perfect fit for me all of those are circumstantial
circumstantial
and that's the easiest thing to say and
that's the first thing people say when
they say no the second level underneath
of that is other people so first people
are obset and distorted about the
universe everything's unfair nothing
goes my way the next level is because of
insert person blame finger goes out my
kids my husband my co-workers my mom
whatever it is won't let me do this
thing and so they put all the power in
the other person and so we have to break
that apart and get somebody who's in
power who can actually make a decision
and usually I am a a big believer in
sales being an actual empowerment
conversation because if you're talking
to an empowered decision maker who's
informed that's the only person you want
to talk to and I believe a well
structured sales conversation can
increase the number of people who are
that person agreed and so uh the final
layer the deepest one um is is
themselves right and so they they have
their own fears that they have to
overcome um and doubts about what's
going to happen and so we work through
those those layers uh until we
eventually have a person who has now
made a decision and so when we can do
that I'm a big believer in like try and
get yes and no not not to be not to be
like hard closing but just so that if
someone doesn't give a decision then we
want to walk them through how they make
decisions so that they can make a
decision about your product and so as
we're going through so that's that was
basically just like the explaining way
concerns and then finally R is that the
person says yes and you reinforce the
decision and so a certain percentage of
sales especially in high high volume
transactional sales
organizations people back out they get
cold feet Etc and so what we try and do
is the moment someone closes we want the
next 24 hours to be unbelievably
choreographed and so like and we're
talking immediate so the moment they
sign or the moment the credit card goes
through they get a text from the
onboarding person or we do a warm
handoff like hey this is Shirley
Shirley's going to be taken from here
like I said earlier and so what we want
to always do is set expectations meet
expectations set expectations meet
expectations and I have changed my tune
about this I used to always say overd
deliver but I've I've come to the point
now where I genuinely believe that if
you just keep your word you nailed it
they will trust you more and ideally and
this is a little hack for everyone if
you're any any type of services business
let's say you're an agency that does SEO
whatever and it takes you 14 days to
on-ramp somebody rather than saying
we're going to touch in every week right
which would be fine and that's what most
people do in that week you probably do
like 25 things right but you're going to
have one meeting if you want to be
really clever every day send an email it
says hey no need for reply just want to
let you know we did these three things
we'll recap at the end of the week but I
just want to let you know where we're at
if you send progress supports every day
what happens is you create multiple
reinforcement cycles and so you're
setting and completing setting and
completing and so at day seven when
normally your competitor has only talked
to them this is the first time they
talked to them since the sale you had a
warm handoff and they've received
communication from you every single day
so this is like the eighth touch point
corre for them and now their trust in
you is so much higher which then
translates to way lower backout uh way
higher ascensions into whatever your
next uh Revenue thing is or the next
product or expansion revenue and more
referrals and testimonials and so we try
and choreograph that process and that's
the r and so close your framework
clarify where they're there label them
with a problem that you can solve
overview their past experiences the pain
cycle sell the vacation not the plane
flight explaining where their concerns
and then reinforce the decision okay a
lot to unpack there okay so hang on
first off this is one of those notes a
segment on the show rewind it and go
listen to it again go rewind 7 minutes
back or whatever that was and listen to
it again because there's genius in there
I just want to unpack a couple of the
things most of you make the mistake in
whatever it is that you're doing you
even doing it with your kids you're you
are selling the plane flight you're
selling the process you're selling the
steps yeah as opposed to the beach
that's a
biggie number two this this notion of
the 24 hours post I cannot get over how
many people think the sale just got
closed I'm done I cannot get over it
number one you're probably going to lose
the sale number two you're definitely
diminishing the amount of leads you're
going generate from it I just did a very
significant transaction with somebody I
had a very laid out process in my
company it's a very major exit type
decision for somebody okay I told my
team the second we hang up this phone he
is going to begin to doubt this decision
if he's an airplane he's freaking losing
altitude we need to be doing X Y and Z
which but it's already a predetermined
process I was just taking them back
through reminding them why some of the
business business you have it is just a
24-hour process some of you to your
other point it's a week or eight or 10
days and whatever it might be sure
enough what was supposed to happen the
next morning didn't by midday we were
behind then he messages us with a
question right which we replied to then
he messaged with another one when the
second question came in I messaged the
entire team this Deal's over yeah we're
losing this deal no no no we can get it
back we've lost the deal he has switched
he's got downward momentum and it's our
fault sure enough massive like close to
9 fig mistake that was a process that
was involved some of you are making a
$800 mistake when this happens let me
ask you a hard question because this is
something I've done in my career it's
not process driven but it's important
you went through this process sometimes
I think that somewhere in that
flow tell me if intuition works or you
just stick to the process somewhere in
that flow before you get the
clothes I've had the intuition know this
person's ready right now MH I can go to
this step mhm that's not necessarily
something that's able to teach on scale
do you know what I'm saying but I've
also watched a lot of people go you have
them here and now you're beginning to
layer objections in it and it's taking
longer than their tolerance level is I
see a lot of people especially the
longer they're in Sal they unsell them
they give them more let me tell you one
more thing one other thing you should
know one other thing by the way my
checklist says step four is I then do
this do you because scaling this isn't
as easy is but I also know the real
world should someone still have sensory
acuity when they're in the process and
go we're ready now so the way that we
train sales um is that one we start you
might love this okay so we try and think
back to front which is if someone a lot
of people train Rapport building first
they train the script top to bottom but
if someone knows how to do the first
half of the script and they don't know
the second half of the script the likely
that they can close is zero yes if you
train people from the back of the script
to the front of the script if someone
doesn't have Rapport and they don't know
the opening questions but they know how
to close the likelihood they could close
is greater than zero 100% And so 100%
And so for us my belief from a selling
perspective is that if if you follow the
closer right clarify where they're there
all we're doing asking questions
labeling them is just asking for
agreement on one statement that they
have the problem overviewing past
experience is just questions we haven't
said anything else we're just asking
questions and then the only time you
actually make a statement is when you
sell the vacation and then after that
you ask and so for us we the E only
comes out after they've said no and so
we got it we explain it through uh
obstacles and objections and so
objections as I see them come up after
the ask obstacles come up before the ask
and so if someone says I'm just here for
more information that's an obstacle so
we want we handle that UPF front if you
know like in upfront again it's like is
there any other decision makers that
need to be on the call and we asked that
in the nurture process before we're on
the call and we'll reaffirm that at the
beginning because if they say no or yes
I do need someone then like cool let's
just reschedule there's no point in
going through this objections happen
which is Universe like time money fit uh
I need the other decision maker or I
don't know how to make a decision which
is the personal thing the doubt part and
so then we walk them through making a
decision-making process but each one of
those we always loop back so they give
us the thing we overcome it and we say
great so now you're ready or makes sense
fair enough let's ready to move forward
you have your ID on you whatever the
closing question is and so that way as
soon as someone says yes that is when we
stop selling so that's the big to your
point of the UN selling is because
people then get like really excited it's
like dude take credit card as soon as
they say yes great what card you want to
use yeah by the way I know my audience
is like dude this is Hardcore today
which is exactly no no no this is
exactly what you bring to the table and
it's actually the stuff like you know
look it'd be great we can do another
episode today if you want like hey guys
you be positive like we could do that or
we can actually give you teeth okay
here's something you do very well this
is where I
think the offer and the lead thing sort
of uh marry one another totally I'm
watching you I listen to you and you
either do this unconsciously which I
doubt the best people that I know that
are entrepreneurs of any type okay you
can even go to jobs and I can argue he
was great at it you can go to musk I can
argue he was great you can go to a
hardcore selling person like Ellison or whatever
whatever
okay they know how to frame mhm okay
Alex you're an incredible framer okay
you know how to pre-frame something
before you do it you know how to create
the frame when you're doing it and then
you know how to post frame I'm amazed
blown away like a great speaker walks
out on a stage they pre-frame what's
going to happen there today then they
sit in the frame with you then they tell
you what just happened yeah okay this is
just something most people are oblivious
to and if you're not good at it you may
get a close and not get leads if you're
not good at this framing stuff your ad's
going to suck if you're not good at this
framing stuff your Affiliates aren't
going to offer it correctly so all of
this fits in there I'm good at very few
things I'm a really good framer no no
I'm a really good framer of messaging of
I framed you in the beginning of the
message I just framed the complicated
thing you just called it so I reframed
what it means are you conscious of that
do you teach it do you think it's
something that most entrepreneurs and
salespeople entrepreneurs Andor sales
people are not aware of enough yes um in
terms of teaching it I don't I think
that good FR I think framing to your
point using a different word just
contextualizing I think it's I think
it's a teaching skill and so what we're
what we're saying is like I said this
this is what this means it's like I'm
translating this because you might speak
in techno jargon for whatever the thing
that you're selling is and they're like
you just said a lot of words you're like
it means your house is going to be
protected right that's what this means
can I can I give you another example of a
a
frame your launch yeah you framed it as
here's everything that's going to be
everything that's going to be here's
going to be be and then and it's free
yeah so you created a particular frame
and then you stepped out of it and
shocked them yeah but what you did is
first off you have a Generous Heart and
that's why you really did it but let's
also be honest you created this massive
value frame this would cost you this
this is how I did it this would do this
this would do this and then emotionally
at the end because you were emotional
about what you were giving them and
believed in it so deeply yeah but then
you kind of stepped out of the frame and
went all that yeah bam and now you're
back in a new frame which was a value
gift gen generosity now everybody leaves
a launch this a super important I don't
even know if you know you did this I
mean I I know you know what you were
doing but I don't know if you know what
that led you have built a reputation of
being someone who brings tremendous
value okay that's one thing tremendous
value well-prepared articulate you know
Cutting Edge clearly does this isn't
talking about Theory yeah that was the
frame that was going on the entire
launch and then you stepped out of the
frame and became a Jesus figure
literally your frame changed kind
generous giving philanthropic and so you
get this great value frame and then you
stepped in you guys all know what I'm
saying in other words he created Great
Value then he stepped out of the frame
and gave it to you and that that's
that's it's an to to your point an
irresistible offer when you do it that
way were you conscious of that and when
I explain it back to you do you see what
I'm describing you usually use two
frames there yeah 100% um punking the
game is that what you call that well
just a phrase I like for it um and it
was so good Alex and I'm I'm it was so
good it's going to make it really hard
for anybody else to launch a book
hopefully no it's going to make it
really hard you changed what that frame
looks like now and honestly I wanted to
honor the book because of how much time
I put into it and so I put I put
probably 200 hours into the presentation
um but I put I put 2,000 hours into the
book and so it was only 10% of my work
from the book went into the presentation
even though the presentation was you
know a big a big thing um but to your
point with the contextualizing like if I
said here's this thing enjoy it people
don't know how to process that yes and
so it's breaking it down so that they
can understand how how this will
actually benefit their lives and if I
can my Hope was that people would at
12,000 at $5,000 at $3,000 as I price
dropped during the during the the pseudo
pitch that people and I got messages
after being like dude I was there at 5:
I was I was in and so it's different
than giving a free gift I wanted to give
a $12,000 gift to every person that was
there but I had to justify why it was
$112,000 gift and why everybody would
have paid that but then instead got it
for free um but Alex what I'm saying is
that it was brilliant and by the way
very generous of you but this is
something in the sales process I don't
think most people they they're giving
away their product they've not created a
frame of its value yeah before it's
reduced to the access point that you can
get it at and that's something all of
you just the concept of what we're
describing you've all got to start to
understand or you're not going to be as
great as you could be you're not going
to be the goat at what you do I want to
go I want to go to some of the things
you've yeah here's something a guy said
recently this dude said there's a
moment when every boy realizes no one's
coming to save him and that's when he
becomes a man and some boys never get
there and stay children forever that guy
was you that said that and it's
important when we step out of this like
this stuff matters because no one's
effing coming to save you no one's going
to make you better at your business no
one is going to get you to be a better
Persuader of people or framer of people
other than you and I just feel like
that's one of the more profound
philosophical comments there's a lot of
grown men and women that are still boys
and girls because they think someone
else is coming to change their life you
say otherwise what would you say to
someone who's still living in that delusion
delusion
wake up I mean
reality probably stares at them and
start contrast to what they want so
they're like it's I use the blame finger
a lot which is that power power follows
blame and so if you blame the government
who you think is supposed to save you or
you blame politicians who you think is
supposed to save you or blame your
company that you work for who you think
is supposed to save you or you blame the
market doesn't really matter or your
parents the whoever you blame is the
person you ultimately give power to and
I find that really interesting because
when I was the my moment of figuring
this out was when I was 19 and I was
really resentful of my parents
specifically this instance was my mother
and I blamed her for the way I was
acting I was like well if she parented
me differently I wouldn't be this
egotistical and arrogant and whatever
and I realized that I actually was
giving the person that at the time I
disliked to the most in the world all
the power over my behavior and so I was
like so that idea sickened me that the
person I disliked the most again at the
time was the one that I was actually
giving my leash to wow and so I was only
acting in response to this leash and
then and and willingly voluntarily
giving her all the power of my life and
all I was doing was reacting to what
this person did or what the government
does or the politicians do and so the
first I mean I've said this before but
the the the first two words of getting
out of poverty are my fault and the
thing is it doesn't actually matter if
it is your fault
but it is your
problem and so you have to solve it cuz
no one else will and so that that that
allows you to actually do something
about it and so that that's been I'm a
big believer in operationalizing and
only thinking about things through
actions rather than feelings because the
feelings come and go and also they are
Justified or unjustified it also is
irrelevant because like if you make a
100 cold calls whether you hate it or
you love it or you're meant for it or
you you you never want to do it for the
rest of your life you make the calls and
you practice the script you'll get
business and you can also get business
and make money even if you don't deserve
it which for me was actually a really
comforting point because there was
definitely moments in my life where I
had tons of self-loathing didn't think I
deserve anything blah blah
blah but the idea that I could still
have it anyways and not to serve it if I
only did the things that got it was like
it was kind of like in the in the
weightlifting world that the iron is the
iron whether you're black you're white
you're a woman 500 lb is 500 lb and so
like the that create success are often
are kind of the same way which is like
the 100 phone calls or the 100 pounds on
the bar the work just needs doing and it
doesn't and I think it's it's incred for
me it's really inspiring that anyone can
do the thing and get the result no
matter how they feel about themselves
and I think that's really freeing and so
to the person who is still you know
plugged in and waiting for someone to
save them someone will save you but it's
you future you the better you the person
that you've been waiting to become bro
you almost look like a somber look on
your face when you say it do you say
that because like you think so many
people just aren't going to get that or
do you say it because it's just so
obvious to you at this point I think
it's because I've been there you know
and so that's I think that's that's why
you know my tone probably changes when I
talk about that stuff but like I mean
the reason I make this the all the
content that I do is cu
like I get it like it I mean it's tough
like it I mean it the thing the rocky
cutscene lasts two minutes in the movie
but it can Last 5 Years in real life and
it's not and there is no background
music you know what I mean and there's
no audience waiting to cheer for you and
you don't know that you're going to beat Apollo
Apollo
Creed so you're in it for five years and
I think the hard part of
Entrepreneurship is the uncertainty that
you don't know if it's going to work out
but taking to the other natural extreme
if you did know and you were guaranteed
that it was going to work it wouldn't be worth
worth
it so we want something from a world we
want a guarantee from a world that
doesn't give any and the fact that it
doesn't give a guarantee is what makes
it worth
bro my nephew's got an auto detailing
business he just started and uh he calls
me goes Uncle Eddie I just don't know
whether or not my business is going to
work and happen and uh I said well I
don't know whether it's going to work or
happen as well but I know that if you
did the work it's likely to happen yeah
and I go but are you willing to do the
ugly yeah he said what do you mean I
said the ugly ugly he goes well you know
I said so your existing clients do you
have an affiliate program when they can
refer you people he goes actually I do
for every one of these they get $25 or
whatever it was I go that's really good
I said how many are you getting from
that and he goes well I only have like
you know 18 clients so like three of
them have sent me somebody I go well if
that's all you continue to do you're
probably going to have a difficult time
to your point of the paths and he goes
well what would you do I said I can tell
you exactly what I would do it would be
inevitable um what are you do in
Saturdays and Sundays you do in cars he
goes no I don't have any cars to do I
said well I'd go print out a whole whole
bunch of flyers and I go knock on doors
where people have cars yeah and he goes
oh really I go yeah I'd knock on a 100
Doors a Saturday I'd give him my flyer
let them know about my business get them
exposure let them know what a great job
we do give them a list of my Instagram
and they can see the other cars we've
cleaned and the other things that we've
done and and any way what happens is the
more you have a specific plan like this
where you're willing to do the ugly and
run the numbers your fear level
diminishes to an extent the notion
that's going to go away completely isn't
true but there's something about doing
the ugly thing that reduces fear it not
only increases your chance of winning
but you're like the possibility
mathematically of me losing now is
rather small but when you're not doing
these things the reason you're living
with so much fear is you know the
possibility of you not winning is rather
great yeah and so you're living with a
fear that's self-imposed self-induced
and your fault because you're not
willing to do the ugly and I think
that's why sometimes when I look back at those
those
days I have that same look you have
there's also an internal part of me that
goes man I actually did did those ugly
things when I didn't want to when I
didn't have any desire to and I wasn't
sure it was going to work but I was
actually almost ensuring it was going to
work based on the math part of it you
know what I'm saying 100% one of my
favorite like math equations to figure
out is the input output equation to what
I want and so like as soon as you can
boil down whatever goal you have into
like the most simple version of the
action which is like I need to dial this
many things or I need to send this many
emails or I need to send this many
direct messages or I need to post this
many posts of content or I need to run
this much per day in advertising or PPC
or SEO or whatever it is as soon as it
boils down to that then it then then
it's plug and- chug then it's just then
it and then what happens is action
alleviates anxiety and so so I'm I'm
going to give two polar extremes here so this
this
is something I'm I'm working on but so I
told I was saying earlier that I like
operationalizing words and like what
they mean right and so
sadness comes from the perceived lack of
options it's why it feels like
hopelessness you don't know what to do
that's why you feel sad and you can
solve that with knowledge right because
sadness is actually an ignorance issue
just you just don't know so if you did
know what to do then you wouldn't be sad
anymore because you know what action to
take anxiety is the opposite of that
which is you have many options in front
of you but you don't know which to take
which is a lack of priorities and you
solve that with a decision
and so usually you have lots of
decisions that you haven't made and then
that's why you have anxiety and so you
need to confront decisions you need to
make and so there was a a point that I
was getting to and I totally forgot
because I got really excited about this
stuff but no it was the fact about about
um action and reducing fear when you
don't know you have lose hope yes and so
and so once you have the clear path of
like you you you solved it which is why
you're listening to this podcast or you
read the books is that so you can go
from ignorance not knowing to knowing
what you need to do then it's literally
just saying the first six hours of my
day every day and I still do this just
so you like this habit like I was asked
once what was what's the biggest Roi
habit now everyone has different things
but for me is that the first six hours
of my day every day is dedicated to the
activities that I need to do to move the
business forward I don't take meetings I
don't take calls it's just
meh after the that six hours is when my
day starts so that's when I do I take my
meetings I take my calls and whatever
and so in the early days when I had
customers then that meant that I would
work from 4 to 10: and then I would do
all my customer stuff after that now
where I'm at now I don't have customers
per se and so I wake up a little bit
later and I work and I work from 6 until
and the way that this my my team
schedules my calendars they actually
work from the back of the day forward
and so if I have like three meetings
they're going to start them at you know
the last one will be at 4:30 4: and then
3:30 and so I have from the moment I
wake up until 3:30 in the afternoon to
move my stuff forward that's how I work
but I'm not an operator Lea my wife is
stacked meetings all day long CU she's
running the teams and she's keeping
Cadence on stuff and I say that because
if you were the entrepreneur then in the
beginning your responsibility is to let
other people know about your stuff if
more people know about your stuff more
people will buy it that is a promise you
can take that to the bank and so like if
you think about the absolute natural
extreme if every person on planet Earth
knew about your business you would make
more money and so the question then just
becomes how do I let more people know
about my stuff and that's why I wrote
the book but it's like and I I wanted to
make it action oriented because either
you did the reach outs or you didn't
either you posted the content or you
didn't either you ran the ads or you
didn't and you switch who you're
advertising to so we're talking about
Affiliates you can post content to get
Affiliates you can do warm reach outs to
get Affiliates you can run paid ads to
get Affiliates you can also do all those
things to get customers and what do you
think recruiting is you do cold reach
outs to get employees you run ads to get
employees you like the the process of
making something known is the same
whether you're recruiting employees
recruiting customers recruiting
Affiliates recruiting an agency how do
you find out about agency it's the same
process of making known and so right now
if you're not getting the amount of
leads that you want you're not
advertising enough period And so and
again with the leverage thing is that
you don't need to be like we got 500,000
leads you know to to come to for the
event register for the book launch I
didn't get
500,000 I I did I'll tell you what I did
I hired someone who is a director of
people who then hired a director of
brand who organized my media if we're
really talking about this right who
organized my media team who posted 300
pieces of content a week leading up to
the launch of the
book my director of people hired my
internal director of marketing who
reached out to six agencies and picked
the one that he thought was best suited
to run our ads and they ran our ads for
us my and mind you all of this came off
of one thing for me which was just we
hired a director of people who then
hired people who then got the thing and
so 500,000 mine was more or less like
we're going to follow this Playbook yes
and then down it went but if you're like
well must be easy for you to say yesh
but it still starts with the first
action which is if like I hadn't hired
that person I would have had to move one
level down on that level of Leverage and
so if you're that solopreneur or you're
a salesperson who works at an
organization and you need to get your
own leads whatever it is there are only
four things that you can do to get leads
that you yourself you reach out to
people you know you reach out to people
you don't know you post content and you
run ads that's it that's all there is
and if you're not doing those four
things whether it's to get Affiliates to
get customers to get employees to get
get agencies it doesn't matter because
those are the only four things that one
person can do to let other people know
about their stuff so if you're not
getting enough leads you're not doing
enough of that period it's not good it's
outstanding it's Truth by the way Sasha
have we really been going 45 or 50
minutes 50 minutes I literally think
we've been doing this for 15 minutes I
have never I mean dude I've done 500
podcasts I have never looked up at the
clock and going it it was 50 minutes I
thought it was like 15 I'm not
exaggerating and I'm not letting your
ass go just yet bro I'm not exaggerating
that is the fastest freaking 50 minutes
in the history of my
life I can't even get over that that's
nuts to me that's how you know something
is good you mentioned Lila I'm not going
to let you out of here this time without
talking about her first off one cool
thing people don't know is like almost
every single time you've reached out to
me which I love and by the way I totally
want to do I've had to say no like three
times to him it's like this dude whose
brain I love picking and I think he
likes picking mine too he just always
asks me when I can't do something right
and it's all sometimes like what are you
doing tonight yeah once in a while those
right but um you it's always includes
her yeah and I mean look you're
brilliant okay let's just be honest okay
you are and then I watch her stuff and
I'm like dude yeah she's freaking
unbelievable and I know you play
different roles but I actually posted
something about today and I just want
your take on it by the way one of those
other pointing at the other person as
their objection for their life some
people point at their significant other
as their reason right you're giving
somebody advice about that like hey
you're going to have a running mate
necessarily or not a running mate what
are some of the things you would
recommend from your own experience with
her that are most important or or
something that's even happened with you
and her
so I will give my first frame which is
uh we've only been together seven years
you know married six and so I realize
that I'm young in this game so take this
for what it is um I think Lea and I
practice acceptance very well which is
that the reason that I married Lila was
that she never wanted to change anything
about me and that
was that was what I wanted I just wanted
to be me and I felt like a lot of times
I had to compromise or you know I felt
like I needed to compromise who I was or
what I wanted to do for a middle ground
and I think there there are plenty of
marriages to be fair that that do that
and they do it exceptionally well and
this isn't me saying that that's good or
bad or whatever I'm only sharing what
has worked for us is that ilila is Lila
and if she wants to wear the nicest
clothes and drive the nicest cars and be
in the nicest pen houses and stuff then
if it doesn't bother me let's do it and
at the same time if I want to wear I
look like an electrician you know a
lumber jacket
um then she doesn't try and dress me a
certain way or make me you know like hey
it'd be really cool if you were just
scruffy you know or I wish you cut your
hair like this like she she just doesn't
you know and I think the big thing for
us is that we were absolutely aligned on
the big mission and we're absolutely
aligned on the values which is so where
we want to go and how we want to get
there and I think the third the third
piece that we look at is lifestyle it's
like what do you like to do in the
day-to-day or
interests I remember when I was debating
whether I wanted to be with her or not I
had a coach at the time and he said well
tell me about your stats and I was like
what do you mean he was like your stats
he's like since you came in your life
are you making more money are you in
better shape like how do you like how do
you feel like do you have more energy
like are you doing more stuff are you
getting closer to your goals and I
thought about it I was like well yeah I
am making way more money and I mean
shoot she makes me money because she was
working for me I like she literally
she's not she's not a liability she's a
she's an asset you know she's like she's
making me money um and so I you it's
like and she's really fit and so she
like Cooks healthy and she getting me to
eat a little healthier than I you know
cuz she's cooking and and I'm I'm there
right right right um and she goes to the
gym more than I do so I was like you
know I see her go I'm like I should go
you know and so every when I thought
about every one of the stats in my life
they all went up and so I think that
I've said this before but like Lea and I
didn't have a romantic
chemistry fireworks beginning um my
first date I asked her to work for me
and I said this might not work out but
like you should totally work for me
because you have a skill set that would
make a lot of sense and uh that was my
proposition right and uh she said no I
just met you from the internet uh but
you know 3 weeks later she quit her job
and she joined me at gym launch and so
um I think it's just been absolute
alignment of where we're trying to go
how we want to get there in the
interests we have and absolute
acceptance of not trying to change the
other person or their goals now if there
was ever a time in the future where she
said like my goal differs from yours
then it might not make sense anymore but
I think our goal is big enough and wide
enough and it has and because we are
exposed to the same stimuli I think I
have a tremendous amount of respect for
people who don't work with their spouse
because that's what I do and I I can't
imagine it another way now I'm sure
people in Reverse say the same thing but
we get exposed to the same hardships and
so in a lot of ways I feel like we
continue to grow together or at least in
parallel on the same path if you exposed
to a lot of different stimuli and
stressor than your spouse is they're
going to respond to those stressors and
adapt just like any other organism would
and sometimes that means you grow apart
and so I'm very grateful that we can
work together and transparently that my
wife has a skill set that is
consistently incredibly valuable um you
know cuz real talk if if Lila wasn't an exceptional
exceptional
CEO then we wouldn't like Lila wouldn't
be the CEO you know what I mean um but
she just
is people don't know this from the
content but I would argue that ilila is
a better CEO than I am quote Visionary I
think the ideas are easy doing it is
hard and she has made me look
exceptional by making crazy idea like a
500,000 person launch actually happen
yeah like anyone can say sure let's
let's do an affiliate program let's do a
referral program let's do this let's do
let's get some agency like I I say all
that stuff and then she's like got a 168
item of you know list and then she
starts dealing you know what I mean
dealing and shelling these things out
and then all of a sudden I get all the
credit which is you know a burden I have
to bear are you happy right now me yeah
I'm loving it I'm in the game yeah in
the is oh no pun intended but yeah so
you you are happy right now this is the
best this is the best version of me I've
had so far um but I I realized for me
that my when I look back on the my short
life um the times that I have that I
look as the good old times were always
the times where I was in Pursuit not
when I was in achievement and I
absolutely now have a massive bone that
I'm chewing on and I there's nothing
like if I have three days in a row on a
long weekend and I have nothing planned
and a big cup of coffee and a big ass
goal I'm working on like there is
nothing in this world that makes me
happier than just being able to just
pull a thread and just keep pulling it
on my own uh and working through
something complex like writing the book
like like or organizing the launch or
you know scripting the ads or you know
coming up with the affiliate program
that aligns every party associated with
it that's that's there's nothing I'd
rather do like I don't have hobbies like
that's I get I I get Flack for this all
the time like don't you think you're
unbalanced I'm like why like I like this
I like what I do every day it's
interesting what we share by the way I
just did content that I released today
that said If you're trying to change the
person you're with you're wasting your
time right I just did that the other
thing is that I have tried Golf and I
play a little bit but the truth is
business is my sport yeah business is my
hobby changing people's lives is my
passion yeah and like of course I'm
happy doing it it' be like if you love
golf and you played golf all the time
wouldn't you be happy like I love doing
this all the time it makes me happy I um
I cannot get over how quickly this went
I almost feel like I would like to spend
the night with
you can I add one caveat to the question
that you asked about the happiness thing
yeah so happiness is a really tricky
question and I I think I'll give a
reframe for the audience that might be
helpful which is
um like wanting to be happy from a some
like a word perspective is in some way
saying like I want to eat a meal so big
I'm never hungry again it's it's a it's
a misnomer and I I prefer to use the
word joy that I experience Joy or that I experience meaning in the work that I do
experience meaning in the work that I do because like you can mourn and be joyful
because like you can mourn and be joyful at least in my my two sense and so I
at least in my my two sense and so I think that the idea that I think
think that the idea that I think inhibits or prevents a lot of
inhibits or prevents a lot of entrepreneurs from continuing down the
entrepreneurs from continuing down the path is that they are like I'm not happy
path is that they are like I'm not happy but like happiness a lot of times is
but like happiness a lot of times is just a circumstantial circumstantial
just a circumstantial circumstantial response to whatever external thing but
response to whatever external thing but I feel like Joy is a lot more internal
I feel like Joy is a lot more internal and you can be in the thick of it and
and you can be in the thick of it and working on your auto detailing business
working on your auto detailing business on the 37th door of that day and you
on the 37th door of that day and you have a little tick mark and you know you
have a little tick mark and you know you got to get to 100 and you had the last
got to get to 100 and you had the last 36 slammed in your face but like you can
36 slammed in your face but like you can be joyful if you reframe the joy around
be joyful if you reframe the joy around the person you are becoming by doing the
the person you are becoming by doing the hard work and the thing that has I think
hard work and the thing that has I think right now been my biggest area of
right now been my biggest area of interest in terms of my own performance
interest in terms of my own performance has been truly divorcing outcome from
has been truly divorcing outcome from winning and like it's it's really easy
winning and like it's it's really easy to say and really hard to do but I want
to say and really hard to do but I want to be the father that when Timmy wins
to be the father that when Timmy wins 10-0 I can look at him and be like I'm
10-0 I can look at him and be like I'm disappointed in you not because of the
disappointed in you not because of the outcome because I know you could have
outcome because I know you could have tried harder and on the flip side if he
tried harder and on the flip side if he loses 10-0 I'm G to be like Timmy you
loses 10-0 I'm G to be like Timmy you worked your ass off you left it all on
worked your ass off you left it all on the field I'm proud of you and I want to
the field I'm proud of you and I want to be Timmy to me and and and judge Myself
be Timmy to me and and and judge Myself by that and I get in the most flow in
by that and I get in the most flow in the work when the my metric for success
the work when the my metric for success is how hard I worked for it and that has
is how hard I worked for it and that has made Joy feel like it's under my control
made Joy feel like it's under my control more than anything else and so that is
more than anything else and so that is what I've been practicing on a daily
what I've been practicing on a daily basis and I think has for me unlocked a
basis and I think has for me unlocked a level of productivity and work that when
level of productivity and work that when I was more external and outcome focused
I was more external and outcome focused was more Emeral because like you know
was more Emeral because like you know what I could have had the book launch
what I could have had the book launch and the internet could have gone down
and the internet could have gone down for the whole city of Vegas but if I
for the whole city of Vegas but if I know that I had done everything in my
know that I had done everything in my absolute power to prepare then I could
absolute power to prepare then I could still be proud of me and I would have
still be proud of me and I would have earned my approval and so it's more like
earned my approval and so it's more like that has been my consistent process of
that has been my consistent process of like if I can just respect me for the
like if I can just respect me for the work I did that is
work I did that is enough
enough uh that's another level right there you
uh that's another level right there you just described me to me better than I've
just described me to me better than I've ever described to me bro okay by the way
ever described to me bro okay by the way everyone on my team just so you know
everyone on my team just so you know that's a social media clip right there
that's a social media clip right there the last minute and a half that's uh the
the last minute and a half that's uh the best description I've ever heard of how
best description I've ever heard of how I've lived My Crazy Life and it explains
I've lived My Crazy Life and it explains me to me let me tell you what you just
me to me let me tell you what you just did in the last minute there two minutes
did in the last minute there two minutes you help I'm I'm being honest I'm older
you help I'm I'm being honest I'm older than you and I'm still richer than you
than you and I'm still richer than you barely um um I say that you know what I
barely um um I say that you know what I mean you're definitely I uh no I don't
mean you're definitely I uh no I don't know that anymore but
know that anymore but um you just described me to me you just
um you just described me to me you just helped me understand
helped me understand myself very well there's a depth to you
myself very well there's a depth to you bro and a dimension my favorite people
bro and a dimension my favorite people are really multi-dimensional people and
are really multi-dimensional people and you online sometimes make yourself seem
you online sometimes make yourself seem like you're just entrepreneurial
like you're just entrepreneurial dimensional but what makes you such a
dimensional but what makes you such a creative skilled Visionary entrepreneur
creative skilled Visionary entrepreneur is the dimension that you has is is your
is the dimension that you has is is your depth is your depth and you just
depth is your depth and you just exemplified it right there I've just had
exemplified it right there I've just had somebody a lot younger than me just
somebody a lot younger than me just explain me to me better than I've ever
explain me to me better than I've ever understood myself what you just said
understood myself what you just said right there and that's why I kind of
right there and that's why I kind of look at you like a young son or a
look at you like a young son or a brother because that's exactly how I am
brother because that's exactly how I am it's exact L Alex how I am and it's made
it's exact L Alex how I am and it's made me understand why I I uh I actually live
me understand why I I uh I actually live pretty joyfully most of the time yet
pretty joyfully most of the time yet it's not something I'm going to go get
it's not something I'm going to go get and I'm going to slow down and cool down
and I'm going to slow down and cool down and then it's all going to rain down on
and then it's all going to rain down on me in those times it's been the pursuit
me in those times it's been the pursuit yeah it's been the growth bro such a
yeah it's been the growth bro such a great conversation it is the fastest one
great conversation it is the fastest one in an in I guess now like an hour and 10
in an in I guess now like an hour and 10 minutes or whatever it's been that I've
minutes or whatever it's been that I've ever had and I just feel I I feel this
ever had and I just feel I I feel this sense of like real accomplishment yet
sense of like real accomplishment yet empty because I know we like barely
empty because I know we like barely scratch the surface what we should just
scratch the surface what we should just do is like let's just have you back
do is like let's just have you back every six months when you're in town and
every six months when you're in town and we'll just dig deeper into your brain
we'll just dig deeper into your brain thank thank you for today you you guys
thank thank you for today you you guys he's awesome I don't need to sell this
he's awesome I don't need to sell this one to you like you just shared this
one to you like you just shared this with anybody who's ever got a business
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in your entire life he's Alex heroi you should be following him on social media
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