0:06 In this video, I'm going to tell you
0:09 exactly how to stop missing a man that
0:11 you think you love so much. I'm going to
0:13 give you effective explanation of what
0:15 to do and how to help yourself. But
0:17 before we start this video, I just want
0:19 to show you the flower that I just got
0:22 delivered. I'm literally screaming. I'm
0:23 like the happiest girl in the world
0:25 right now, like guys. And the reason why
0:27 I'm showing you this because this is
0:29 literally the proof that if one man
0:32 didn't, another always would. Girl, my
0:34 slapping mother taught me every mixed
0:36 man is better than your previous one.
0:38 It's a rule. If we really get to the
0:40 bottom of this, okay, the real question
0:43 is why are you obsessing over someone
0:46 and miss someone who does not miss you?
0:48 No, respectfully, why? If the person
0:50 clearly showed you, I am not choosing
0:52 you, why are you keep choosing that
0:54 person? Any healthy person with a
0:56 healthy self-esteem and healthy mental
0:57 health will look at that person and be
0:59 like, "Okay, thank you so much for
1:01 telling me that information, but I want
1:03 to be with someone who wants to be with
1:04 me." And the other side is going to be
1:06 like, "Wait, what? You're not mad?" No,
1:08 babe. I'm not mad. Thank you for telling
1:10 me that you're not choosing me, which
1:12 saves my time so I can go and be with
1:14 someone who wants me, who values me, who
1:17 sees me as their partner. Thank you for
1:20 letting me go. Bye. Why are you crying
1:22 and obsessed with someone who is not
1:25 obsessed with you, who doesn't even care
1:27 about you? If you are that person who's
1:29 giving yourself to someone who doesn't
1:31 understand your value and doesn't know
1:33 how to treat you, one day you will wake
1:34 up and you will start questioning your
1:36 worth. To recognize that you are
1:38 birking, you have to put yourself in a
1:40 room where luxury is understood and
1:43 appreciated and does not need any
1:45 explanation. Do you understand? Do you
1:47 get where I'm going with that? If they
1:49 are trying to lose you, let them. Babe,
1:51 I know it hurts. I really know how it
1:54 hurts. I've been there. It hurts so much
1:56 when someone you care about does not
1:59 choose you. It is so painful. But please
2:00 open your ears and listen to me
2:02 carefully. In any relationship that you
2:04 enter, I want you to be the best
2:07 possible woman you can be. Kind, loving,
2:10 and genuine. Stop listening to every
2:12 single person who's telling you be
2:15 distant. Act cold. Play with men. Shut
2:20 up. Be genuine. Be kind. Be loving. Be a
2:22 real woman. A woman that this world
2:25 needs and lacking. Never become bitter.
2:28 Never treat people out of your pain.
2:30 Never regret your kindness. If you ever
2:32 think, "Oh, I should have never been so
2:35 nice to him. I should have never treated
2:38 him with so much kindness and care." No.
2:39 because you were literally the best
2:41 thing that ever happened to him, the
2:44 best woman that he ever had. So, he
2:46 either will come back to you when he
2:48 realizes that he's not able to replace
2:51 you, or it's God protecting you from the
2:53 person who couldn't even recognize how
2:55 valuable and amazing you are. And both
2:58 of these outcomes are amazing. But
3:00 whenever you were the best woman you
3:02 could be, it's never your loss when the
3:04 person leaves you. But you were
3:05 literally amazing in the relationship.
3:08 You were a great woman. You didn't lose
3:11 anything. They did. Just imagine.
3:13 Imagine becoming a woman that truly
3:16 feels and knows her worth. Her worth is
3:17 not her beauty, not her looks, not her
3:20 bags, not her clothes. She knows that
3:23 any man that will take care of her will
3:26 be taken care of even more. Every man
3:28 that makes her happy will be even
3:30 happier. She treats her men with
3:33 respect, kindness, and love. She creates
3:36 such a safe place for her men where he
3:39 feels like she is home. Imagine becoming
3:41 that kind of woman. Now think how rare
3:43 this is in the world that we're living.
3:46 If this man didn't, another 100% would.
3:48 If you are that woman, every smart man
3:50 will want that woman next to them. They
3:52 will fight for you. I had a situation in
3:53 my life where I literally met a guy
3:56 where I thought this is it. This is all
3:58 I ever wanted. He checked all the boxes.
4:01 We became super close in such short
4:03 period of time. I experienced the most
4:04 beautiful connection in my life with him
4:07 where I literally felt like I I met my
4:09 soulmate. We got close so fast, but it
4:12 was very organic. It was never forced. 3
4:14 weeks later, everything is going
4:17 amazing. 3 weeks later, I get a call. My
4:19 love, I adore you, but I'm so
4:21 overwhelmed with my problems with my
4:23 work. Unfortunately, we met in a wrong
4:25 time. We should slow down. And
4:27 basically, his let's slow down was let's
4:30 stop talking. After that moment, I
4:32 didn't hear from a man. It was so
4:36 painful. You have no idea. I was in bed
4:38 for a couple of weeks. In such a short
4:40 period of time, I experienced such a
4:42 painful heartbreak. I will never tell
4:45 you, be strong. Be independent.
4:47 them. these guys. I'm a human. I'm
4:49 alive. I feel the pain, too. And
4:52 sometimes I'm weak, too. But my weakness
4:54 doesn't make me weak. It makes me
4:55 vulnerable. And vulnerability is
4:57 beautiful. Your heart is alive. You are
4:59 alive. As long as you feel something,
5:02 you are alive. So, he disappeared. Okay.
5:04 I stopped hearing from him after hearing
5:07 every single day. Good morning, my love.
5:09 How are you, love? I miss you. And then
5:11 just silence. Wow. It was
5:13 painful. After that moment, I didn't
5:15 text him, too. In the relationship, it
5:17 has to go both ways. If you take one
5:19 step towards me, I take one step towards
5:21 you. If you pull back and I attack you
5:23 with the messages, like, that's just not
5:26 my way of living. When a man disappears,
5:28 I don't focus on him. I focus on me and
5:30 I ask myself what is it that I'm
5:33 feeling? What is it that I am
5:35 experiencing? How am I doing? Because
5:37 these are the moments when you need
5:39 yourself the most. And instead of
5:41 picking on yourself and trying to figure
5:42 out what's wrong with you and what did
5:44 you do wrong, you have to support
5:46 yourself as much as you can. I'm here
5:48 for you. I'm not letting you down. He
5:50 left, but I'm not leaving you. I'm here
5:53 for you, babe. I love you. You are my
5:54 biggest love. So when they don't
5:57 appreciate your presence, let them
5:59 appreciate your absence then. But
6:00 please, please promise me that you're
6:02 not going to question your worth.
6:04 Especially when you didn't do anything
6:07 wrong. You did not do anything wrong to
6:09 a man. He just decided for his own
6:11 personal reasons or whatever the hell
6:13 he's going through that you cannot be
6:15 his priority right now and you deserve
6:17 to be someone else's priority. So it's
6:20 okay, but it has nothing to do with you.
6:22 So when something like that happens, you
6:23 break up with something and you're
6:25 trying to forget someone, you're trying
6:27 to move on, you understand that you will
6:29 never be with that person ever again,
6:31 you are letting him go, babe. No
6:33 contact. There's no other solution.
6:35 There's no other way to let him go and
6:38 heal, but no contact. If you keep
6:40 reaching out, if you're texting him, if
6:42 you're calling him, it will never heal.
6:44 Not talking to him will hurt like hell,
6:46 but I promise it's the most effective
6:49 way to move on with your life. So the
6:50 first week after that happened to me
6:53 with that guy, I was literally in bed. I
6:55 didn't want to get out of my house. I
6:57 was getting into a mini depression and
6:59 nothing could distract me. I would talk
7:02 to my friends. I would go to the gym. I
7:03 would still feel the pain and think
7:06 about the person so much. But these are
7:08 the moments where I turn to God even
7:11 more. I was in bed. I would literally
7:13 open my prayers book and I would pray
7:15 nonstop. I would literally set a timer
7:17 for 10 to 15 minutes and I would repeat
7:20 a prayer, the same prayer for 10 to 15
7:23 minutes non-stop, just like a mantra.
7:25 And I don't know how it works. I have no
7:27 explanation, but it helps. When I'm with
7:30 God, I'm never alone. To any meeting
7:32 that I go to and I'm stressed, I'm
7:34 nervous. I just talked to God before.
7:36 Please be with me right now. Just please
7:38 take my hand, guide me. I'm never alone.
7:41 When I was crying in bed, when I felt so
7:43 lonely that he left me, he didn't choose
7:45 me. I was never alone actually because I
7:47 had God. An even bigger realization this
7:50 time it was much easier for me to let go
7:53 because few years ago when I wasn't that
7:55 religious or I wasn't really you know
7:58 praying and diving into my religion I
8:01 would cry so much and think why is life
8:03 so unfair to me? Why is this happening
8:06 to me? I literally got everything I
8:08 wanted and literally God life or whoever
8:11 universe took it away from me. Like is
8:12 this a game or something? what's wrong
8:14 with me? Why is my life doing this to
8:17 me? When now I look at the same
8:20 situation and I'm like, "Wow, thank you
8:24 so much, God. Thank you so much for
8:26 protecting me from that person because
8:29 for whatever reason, he left my life
8:31 because probably in the future he would
8:33 destroy me or he would make me cry so
8:35 much more. So you showed me that
8:39 everything I want really exists, but
8:41 maybe not with this person. But you
8:43 showed me a little glimpse of the
8:46 happiness and beautiful connection they
8:48 I can have, but maybe not with this
8:50 person. And thank you so much for
8:51 protecting me from him. Thank you so
8:53 much. I wish him everything the best. I
8:54 wish him to be the happiest person in
8:57 the world, but maybe just not with me.
8:59 And I deserve to be happy. And I know
9:01 that you will bring the person that I
9:04 will be so happy with. I know that I
9:06 will be loved the way I deserve to be
9:09 loved. Just maybe not right now. And I'm
9:11 patient. I'm gonna wait for it. I'm not
9:12 gonna waste myself. I'm not going to be
9:14 scared to be alone because I'm not
9:16 alone. I have God. But I will get it
9:19 because I trust and I pray for it and
9:22 God hears me. One more thing, don't
9:24 publicly talk about your pain. Don't
9:26 show it to people. Only your closest
9:28 circle. Don't post about it. If you feel
9:31 mad, if you feel angry, that's okay.
9:33 That's totally fine. He pissed you off.
9:35 He left you. He didn't choose you.
9:36 Remember, if you keep swallowing the
9:38 anger back, it's going to choke you.
9:41 Anger is a very powerful emotion. It
9:42 will always find the way to get
9:46 released. But how? That's the question.
9:47 Don't suppress it. If you feel angry,
9:49 talk to Chad talk to your
9:51 therapist, talk to your family, talk to
9:54 your friends. Don't call him. Don't text
9:57 him. Write it out. Write a letter to him
9:59 and then burn it. Go to the gym. Do
10:01 boxing. do a tennis session where you
10:04 just like, you know, play with the ball,
10:06 hit something, release it, hit the
10:08 pillow, but when you hold it right here,
10:11 it's literally going to choke you. So,
10:13 release the anger. Okay? So, after the
10:16 time passes, don't rush it. Okay? Take
10:18 your time. Some people they heal in
10:21 days, some people they heal in weeks,
10:24 some people need years to heal. But do
10:26 not compare your healing journey to
10:28 someone else's healing journey because
10:30 you are you. If you need more time, give
10:33 yourself more time. Don't try to rush it
10:35 and be this powerful independent woman
10:37 who doesn't need anybody. Just please, I
10:39 beg you, stop showing everyone on social
10:41 media and in real life how strong you
10:42 are, how independent you are, how you
10:44 don't need a man, posting all these
10:46 quotes like this just embarrassing. Just
10:48 feel it. Feel the pain and admit that
10:51 yes, I am going through this right now.
10:53 Yes, I feel so sad and disappointed and
10:57 weak, but I am here for myself. I love
10:59 me and I choose me. After that period of
11:02 time, the anger will transition into
11:04 sadness. You'll just feel sad. Yeah.
11:06 When I think about him, sad it didn't
11:08 work out. Sad I had to let him go. And
11:11 after that sadness, when even more time
11:14 passes, you will actually feel
11:16 gratitude. I promise you, girl, you will
11:18 wake up and you will feel grateful for
11:20 that person, for the pain that you
11:22 experienced, for the lessons that he
11:24 taught you, because he literally taught
11:27 you what you don't want in a partner. He
11:29 literally taught you such valuable
11:33 lessons of how you cannot be treated and
11:34 how you don't want your future
11:36 relationships to be. How would you
11:38 appreciate love and happiness if you
11:40 didn't experience pain? And the moment
11:43 you feel grateful that this whole thing
11:45 happened to you, that's when you healed.
11:48 Gratitude in your heart means that you
11:50 are healing. This is beautiful. This is
11:53 where the growth happens. Unfortunately,
11:55 some situations they really leave a scar
11:58 on your heart, but they teach you how to
12:00 protect it. But can I just ask you a
12:02 question respectfully? Why are you
12:05 always so caring with these men and
12:07 never with yourself? Why do you always
12:09 treat them with so much care and love
12:11 but never yourself? Oh, you don't need
12:13 to answer because I know the answer.
12:16 What happens to you unconsciously? You
12:18 treat them with so much care, love, and
12:20 respect because you hope that they will
12:22 reciprocate and they will give it back
12:24 to you. But that doesn't work like that,
12:26 babe. Open your ears right now. A man
12:28 cares about a woman the way she cares
12:30 about herself. It's a rule. And
12:33 sometimes, babe, honestly, all you got
12:35 to do is just say, "My future husband
12:37 would never do this to me." And move on.
12:39 Well, that was it for today, guys. I
12:41 really hope that at the end of this
12:43 video, you feel better. I know that I
12:45 cannot heal you, but I hope that this
12:47 video made your heart feel a little bit
12:49 better with me. You're in a safe place
12:51 on my channel. You're always safe with
12:53 me. I'm so grateful for your support.
12:55 I'm so grateful that you're watching my
12:58 videos. And before I say goodbye,
13:02 remember that today is your day. I love you.
13:05 you. [Music]
13:07 [Music] Bye.
13:14 [Music]
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