A persistent feeling of emptiness often stems from societal pressures and unfulfilled emotional needs, rather than external achievements, and finding meaning requires deep self-knowledge and addressing underlying psychological issues.
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Many of us can feel a sense of emptiness at times.
Life may feel futile, meaningless efforts, or we may feel
a sense of emptiness that we cannot fill, no matter what we do or have
. If this feeling is not temporary but permanent and continues for a long time,
it may be a sign of some mental problems.
So what can we do to see the message that this sense of emptiness wants to give us and to cope with
it?
We will talk about them in this video.
If you're ready to face yourself, let's get started.
In fact, the consumer society starves our souls, even though it seems to feed us and even make us obese
. We are trying to
fill this endless void within us in various ways and with various activities
. This often happens through shopping, going places,
spending money , eating out, or using alcohol and drugs.
In fact, consumption culture uses exactly this emotion and promises to make us happy with this or that product
The result is an unhappy majority that pursues them for a lifetime, maybe even achieves them.
So why? Let's take a look at some of the reasons in this video.
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Sometimes to be accepted, to be approved, to be loved, to feel valuable, and sometimes
because we run away from difficulties or confrontation, it is from me that I am
from myself with its goodness and sin.
We run away from the me I want to be.
'Cause if I'm him I won't be loved
We think that if I'm him, I won't be approved.
To this end, we act in accordance with the values imposed by the society or system that are not actually ours
. We pretend, we set various goals.
Even if we reach those goals afterwards, the emptiness inside us will not go away.
Because, in fact, the elements that will fill that void inside us are completely different things.
Maybe you have a good job, maybe you have a good wife, good social status, but
still the emptiness inside you will not go away.
You think that a meaningful life is possible only if I am married and have children.
Because it was dictated to you by society.
However, maybe this is not compatible with your personal self-worth.
Does not matter. Because that's what you were taught, you start acting that way and
setting goals for it.
You think that if you have a successful career, if you have that house, that car, that phone,
or if you join that group, live like them, look like them, you will be
happy and your life will be more meaningful.
However, these standards do not apply to everyone's happiness.
Unfortunately, various standards related to happiness, success
and beauty are imposed on us from many places , from the TV series we watch to the
social media , from the proverbs to our social discourses .
Everyone should have their lips puffed up with filler, almost like a duck.
Everyone should have bow-like eyebrows with botox.
Everyone should be fit.
Everyone should be beautiful, well-groomed, happy, handsome , according to the standards they set
. Unfortunately, even in a channel like our channel whose main purpose is
information sharing and personal development, comments can be made
about my appearance, wrinkles, hair, make-up and clothing even under our videos
. Unfortunately, people are more obsessed with the form than the content, that is, with the video they watch
In fact, they do not realize that they are a prisoner of popular culture.
Is it just her?
In fact, most of them, who they really are, what is important to them?
Unfortunately, they do not know much about what they want and what will make them happy
. Maybe some of us know deep down what we need.
But we do not have enough courage to change.
And what about the work we have done for all these years and his works?
What do some of us actually do that makes me happy?
He couldn't quite find the answer to his question.
Because he doesn't know himself well enough.
He may not have embarked on a journey towards himself yet, or he may be at the very beginning of this journey
. There is no single formula for happiness and a sense of meaning.
It's different for everyone.
It is an element that makes me extremely happy and that is extremely meaningful to me.
It may seem very empty to you.
Or vice versa.
This is because each of us has different values.
In this sense, the formula for happiness is different for everyone and everyone has to
find their own formula . For this, a person should know himself very well , be
aware of his strengths and weaknesses, weaknesses, capacities, abilities and values
.
Individuals who are able to analyze their own self-worth, not imposed, make choices that are appropriate for
them. They lead a life suited to them.
They set goals suitable for themselves and live life more meaningfully.
Others are swept away under the influence of environmental factors.
Knowing yourself, finding meaning in life also makes us stronger
against life's challenges .
Anyone who has a reason to live can bear it somehow, says Nietzsche.
Indeed, a meaningful life makes us stronger psychologically.
For a meaningful and happy life, I need to meet myself first.
So where do I start, how do I do it?
If you are wondering what I should do on this journey towards myself, you can find the answers to these questions in the
videos in my playlist titled Self Improvement Lessons.
You can find it here.
I add it to the comments.
In this playlist , I share many tools that will make it easier for
you to get to know yourself better, analyze your own values
, and set effective goals for yourself
. Sometimes, if you are going to direct me to another video for a solution, why are we
watching this video
? There are those who criticize it. Dear friends, if I add the solution suggestions for each item, this video would
take hours . One of our viewers once said under such criticism, calm down,
you cannot solve the meaning of life with a champion video.
I laughed so much. I send greetings to him from here and I agree with him.
Perhaps the first thing we should let go of is this easy and impatient approach.
Self-knowledge is a very long and painful road, and only those with enough patience and courage
can embark on it.
Sometimes your sense of emptiness represents something you didn't get in childhood.
Maybe it's approval, maybe love, maybe compassion or something else.
Think about it, what emotional needs did your parents not fully
meet or ignore during your childhood
? Sometimes because parents don't care, sometimes they may not be able to meet their children's most basic
emotional needs without realizing it .
So they neglect them.
What are these most basic emotional needs?
For example , some basic needs such as to feel adequate and valuable, to feel powerful, to be loved, to be approved, to be trusted, to be accepted
. If it is not fully met in childhood, this
can lead to a feeling of emptiness that cannot be filled in
adulthood .
Experiencing this feeling does not necessarily mean that your family is bad.
After all, parents can harm their children without realizing it.
For example, the families of people who usually experience this feeling are the
kind of families they say were good,
they would meet our every need . However, unwittingly, these are families who cannot
meet their children's needs because they are often not met on
time, or because they do not know how to meet them.
Sometimes, overprotective, caring families harm their children without realizing it.
In other words, if you say that my family is not bad, but even more than enough, it
can bring
us to this point. Because an overprotective attitude may actually harm the
child's sense of competence
. If you think that you were exposed to such an influence in childhood, that is, if you think that your family
could not adequately meet your emotional needs,
then this may be the reason for that constant feeling of emptiness inside you.
What did Gülseren Budaıcıoğlu say?
No one can feed what their mother can't feed.
If you think you have been exposed to this situation we call emotional neglect in childhood, I
suggest you work with a
clinical psychologist. Of course, it may also help you to take a look at the
videos in the playlist named schematics on my channel .
Apart from that, there is a good book, Doctor Jonice Webb's The Traces of Childhood Neglect:
Solutions, which shares tips on what can be done in adulthood regarding the emotional neglect experienced in childhood
. We may also feel temporary feelings of emptiness
after a material or spiritual loss or a sudden change in life conditions
. When someone or something
that has provided a purpose, a meaning, a structure to life is
lost, we may fall in a sense of emptiness and we may give some reactions that we call mourning
reactions. I will not go into details here
, as I am thinking of preparing a separate video about this mourning period
.
However, if it has been more than 6 months since the loss you experienced and
there is no decrease in the distressing emotions you experience, then I recommend that you work with
a clinical psychologist .
Sometimes the feeling of emptiness can be a symptom of some more serious mental problems.
If you feel unhappiness, hopelessness, shame, guilt or anxiety
over a certain violence with this sense of emptiness you experience
, if you have some disturbances in your eating pattern and sleeping pattern,
for example overeating or eating less, not eating at all. If you have some problems such as not
eating or sleeping a lot or not sleeping at all or frequently interrupted sleep, if your work
life, social life, private life, relationships are starting to be affected by this situation
, then these are the symptoms of depression, anxiety disorder or some more serious
mental disorders. may be a symptom.
Therefore, I recommend that you consult a psychiatrist or a clinical psychologist without delay.
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