0:02 If they don't want to give you the time
0:06 a day, let them miss out on you. If they
0:08 don't want to support your dreams, if
0:10 they act like your presence is a burden,
0:13 if they only clap when it benefits them,
0:15 then let them miss out on you. Let them
0:18 miss the conversations that healed them.
0:19 Let them miss the kind of comfort only
0:22 your heart could give. Let them miss the
0:24 type of love that stood by them when
0:25 they didn't even know how to stand by themselves.
0:27 themselves.
0:30 Let them miss the real you. The one who
0:31 stayed up late making sure they were
0:34 good even when you weren't.
0:36 See, let them miss the love that made
0:38 them feel safe. The loyalty that showed
0:41 up without conditions. The consistency
0:43 that said, "I got you even when they
0:47 never really had your back. Let them
0:48 miss out on the youth that showed up
0:51 without needing a reason. The you that
0:54 never kept score. the you that love loud
0:57 when they only whispered back. Because
0:58 when people make you feel like you're
1:00 too much, God is showing you they were
1:02 never enough. Stop shrinking your
1:04 presence to fit into spaces that were
1:07 never built to hold your greatness. Stop
1:09 lowering your standards just to keep
1:11 someone around who treat you like an
1:14 option. Stop handing out loyalty to
1:15 people who only show up when it's
1:18 convenient. If God is for you, who can
1:22 be against you? See, that's Romans 8:31.
1:24 And that verse right there, that's not
1:27 just encouragement. That's armor. That's
1:29 your green light to walk away without
1:32 guilt. That's your reminder that you
1:33 don't have to explain your value to
1:36 anybody who keeps forgetting your worth.
1:39 Because the truth is, the real ones
1:40 won't need a lecture towel to love you,
1:42 right? They won't make you feel
1:44 invisible while they entertain the
1:47 world. They won't drain you and call it
1:49 love. They won't watch you suffer in
1:51 silence and still sleep peacefully at
1:55 night. And I get it. You loved them. You
1:56 believed in them. You gave them a
1:58 thousand second chances and still would
2:01 have given them one more. But what did
2:04 it cost you? How many nights did you cry
2:05 yourself to sleep while convincing
2:08 yourself this was love?
2:10 How many times did you hide your hurt
2:12 behind the fake smile just to keep the
2:15 peace? How many times did you show up
2:18 for them and leave yourself behind?
2:20 See, how many times did you ignore God's
2:22 warning signs just because your heart
2:25 didn't want to let go? But now it is
2:28 time. Time to stop betraying yourself
2:29 for the sake of people who don't even
2:32 know what to do with someone like you.
2:34 Time to stop reopening doors God has
2:37 clearly shut. Time to stop pouring into
2:39 people who get drunk off your effort and
2:41 never pour back. See, it's time to stop
2:43 fixing people who break you in the
2:46 process. Time to stop feeding
2:48 relationships that starve your soul. Let
2:51 them miss out. Let them miss out on the
2:53 healed version of you that they'll never
2:55 get to witness. Let them miss out on a
2:57 version of you that's learning how to
2:59 choose yourself.
3:00 You got to let them miss out on the
3:02 future they were never strong enough to
3:06 grow into with you. because you you've
3:09 cried enough. You've settled enough.
3:11 You've forgiven enough. You've bent over
3:13 backwards enough. You've been enough for
3:15 everybody else. And now it's time to be
3:18 enough for yourself. Let them miss the
3:21 calls, the check-ins, the emotional
3:23 lifeline you used to be. Let them miss
3:25 the birthday messages, the random
3:27 support, the just thinking about you
3:29 energy you always gave without
3:31 hesitation. Let them miss that kind of
3:34 love because they're not going to find
3:36 it again. Not like that at least. Not
3:39 from you. And don't you dare feel bad
3:41 for choosing peace over confusion. For
3:43 choosing healing over trauma. For
3:46 choosing forward over stuck. Because
3:48 some people only show up when they feel
3:50 you slipping. Not because they love you,
3:53 but because they love to control. Some
3:55 people only love the version of you they
3:58 can manipulate. But when you grow, when
4:01 you rise, when you start acting like you
4:04 matter, they call it selfish. See, but
4:06 it's not selfish. It's survival. You got
4:08 to protect your peace like your life
4:12 depends on it. Let them miss out on you.
4:14 Miss out on the light you brought into
4:17 every dark room. Miss out on the way you
4:19 believed in them when they didn't even
4:22 believe in themselves. Miss out on the
4:23 way you stayed solid when the whole
4:26 world turned their back. See, you were
4:29 the real one. You were the rare one. And
4:30 they going to feel that. Not today,
4:33 maybe not tomorrow, but one day. It's
4:35 going to hit them. It's going to hit
4:37 them that they fumble. Someone who was
4:39 willing to go to war for their soul. And
4:41 by the time it hits, you'll be long
4:43 gone. See, you'll be healed. You'll be
4:46 whole, focused, surrounded by people who
4:49 water you instead of actually drain you.
4:51 People who choose you out loud. People
4:52 who don't make you question your place
4:56 in life. Because when God removes, he replaces.
4:58 replaces.
5:00 And what he's sending next won't come
5:02 with confusion. It won't come with
5:04 disrespect. It won't come with
5:06 inconsistency. It'll come with clarity,
5:08 with safety, with love that doesn't
5:11 hurt. But before that comes, you got to
5:13 let go. You got to stop waiting for
5:16 closure. You got to stop asking why. You
5:18 got to stop looking back. Because
5:20 everything behind you is proof of what
5:24 you outgrown. You don't need revenge.
5:26 You don't need explanations.
5:29 You need healing. You need purpose. You
5:31 need silence so you can hear what God is
5:34 trying to say. And he's saying this,
5:37 they weren't meant to go. They weren't
5:39 meant to grow with you. They were a
5:41 lesson, not a lifetime. Let them miss
5:44 out. And don't water down your new life
5:45 to make them feel comfortable in your
5:48 presence again. You don't owe them
5:50 access to the version of you they
5:52 weren't strong enough to handle. You
5:54 don't owe them to heal you just because
5:58 they mishandled the broken you. See,
6:00 this is your season to choose yourself
6:03 the way they always chose them. This is
6:05 your season to love yourself loud, to
6:08 walk away without looking back, to rise
6:11 without waiting for applause, to speak
6:13 life into your own soul
6:15 because they missed out. And that's
6:18 between them and God.
6:20 You got a destiny to chase, a purpose to
6:23 fulfill, a peace to protect. Let them
6:25 miss out because what God has next for
6:28 you, don't come with pain. It comes with promise.
6:30 promise.
6:33 You got this.
6:36 In order to let them miss out on you, it
6:39 cuz it's easier said than done. It's
6:41 easier like we can scream that all we
6:44 want, but you have to kind of go to like
6:46 I'm just going to be 100% real. You have
6:49 to go about it with a strategy. And how
6:51 what do we do in that strategy? You need
6:54 to start getting motion. You need to
6:56 start doing something. You need to start
7:00 focusing on your life,
7:02 focusing on building your project. Write
7:06 down how do I envision my life? What
7:08 what what would I be? What are the
7:10 things that I need in my life that will
7:12 make me happy without them? Whether
7:15 that's the project of, you know, how
7:17 what you want to do financially, how you
7:19 want to help people, whatever, whatever
7:21 the case may be. Y'all get what I'm
7:23 trying to say. You got to get some motion.
7:25 motion.
7:27 You got to start doing things cuz it's
7:29 easier to just say, "Oh, I'mma let them
7:30 miss out. Man, this person was the love
7:32 of your life, and all of a sudden, you
7:34 just supposed to forget them. Let them
7:37 miss out." No. Start focusing on
7:40 yourself. And when you start focusing on
7:41 yourself and you start seeing things
7:44 move in the way you want, that's when
7:46 that healing is going to begin. And now
7:48 you're not just thinking about them.
7:50 Let's be real. Sometimes when you so
7:52 idle, that's all you have to do is just
7:53 you you you just going to be thinking
7:55 about them. Just thinking, "Oh, I wonder
7:58 what this person was doing."
8:00 That's what I That's what I used to do.
8:01 I I would be like, "Man, I'm letting
8:04 this person, man, forget you. I'm gone."
8:06 You know, letting this person miss out.
8:08 I wasn't doing nothing. When I'm laying
8:10 in the bed, I'm sitting there thinking,
8:13 "Oh, she probably she probably she
8:18 probably with with old boy right now."
8:22 And guess what? 90% of the time, your
8:25 thoughts be right. Like like like
8:27 whatever you you think they doing
8:29 sometimes, like not all the time, but
8:30 whatever you think I said 90% of the
8:32 time, whatever you think they doing,
8:35 they probably doing it.
8:37 But if you got that motion and you
8:40 focusing on your own life, your own
8:43 projects, even when it's hard, even when
8:46 when when you just have the urge to text
8:49 them to go snoop on their Instagram and
8:51 stuff like that, when you practice
8:54 focusing on your own self and your
8:57 projects, all that withers away. It
8:59 happened to me. I am not fibbing when I
9:02 say this.
9:04 I used to be up 12:00 at night on my
9:07 fake profile on my on I'm checking see
9:08 what they doing. You know what I'm
9:11 saying? Like a little girl.
9:15 What I said, what am I doing? What What
9:21 but I get it. It's hard because you had
9:23 a life with this person or or you shared
9:26 a lot of good memories. That's okay. But
9:28 snap out of it. Let's It's time to move
9:31 on. It's time to move on now. It's hard.
9:34 Yes, of course it's hard. But God got
9:36 something better for you. I promise you
9:38 that. If they don't want to be with you,
9:41 why you want to be like, I ain't going
9:43 to say that because I understand why you
9:44 probably would want to be with them. But
9:46 if they don't want to be with you, then
9:47 you shouldn't even really want to be
9:48 with them. Like, you don't even want me.
9:50 Why would I want somebody they don't
9:52 even want me?
9:53 It really kind of like don't make no
9:56 sense. Like, it it should be a mutual
10:00 thing. So if they choose to go, let
10:03 them. That's okay.
10:05 Deal with the pain. You're okay. You're
10:07 you're you're not going to die. I
10:10 promise you that.
10:13 I seen a baby cry. The second later, she
10:15 laughs. The beauty of life, the pain
10:17 never lasts. Y'all know y'all know I
10:19 love that that that that JCole quote.
10:22 Y'all know I love that one.
10:24 Let them miss out, man. It's hard, but
10:27 let them miss out.
10:29 put all that energy into you and I prom
10:32 and I say it all the time too. You put
10:34 all that energy into you when you
10:35 shining, you doing your thing, you
10:37 walking with a glow, you know they going
10:41 to come back and don't don't they
10:43 disrespect they disrespected you. Don't
10:45 you let them come back.
10:47 If you let them if you let them come
10:52 back I'm If you let them come back,
10:54 I'm coming to find you. You going to
10:56 have to deal with me.
10:58 See, some of y'all said like, "Oh, you
10:59 know, you ain't nothing, John." All
11:02 right. Probably ain't. I'm yapping right
11:05 now. But, uh, until next time, I'll see
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