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This content is a candid conversation between two sisters, one a mother of two young children and the other contemplating motherhood, discussing the realities, challenges, and joys of raising children. It aims to provide an unfiltered perspective beyond social media portrayals.
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Hey guys. So, I don't know whether I
want kids or not, but this video is
going to convince me to or convince me
not to because I'm having a raw
conversation with a real life mother.
Okay, we all see the moms on Instagram
and Tik Tok just making it look so fun
or making it look absolutely terrible.
And I just can't believe the internet.
So, I thought I would go to the source.
Okay, we're going to talk to my sister
who's a mother of two under two. Okay,
she's in the trenches. But I just
thought this would be a interesting
conversation, especially for any moms or
people potentially wanting to have kids.
Even guy guys, you can watch this too if
you want. But it was a really nice
conversation and we'll see if she
convinced me by the end if I should have
kids or not. Also, you're glowing today.
I hope you know that. Are you pregnant?
Just kidding. If you are, you're
glowing. And if you're not, you're still
glowing. Okay, let's get into it. [Music]
[Music] Hello,
Hello,
welcome. We have my sister Jessica.
>> What's up?
>> Yep. Just the different version of me. A
different font. Basically, the mom font.
>> The mom font.
>> Mom font. Long hair.
>> Yeah. Yeah. I like the long hair. The
long her hair is long,
>> dude. It's I know. I was watching your
hair the whole time I was visiting. I
was just like looking at it when you
walked by from behind. I'm like, you
like you look like such like a like a
medieval granola mom. Like in the best
way. I was like she needs to be in a
corset and a dress
like in a castle.
>> I think I got to go get a good a good a
good trim.
>> I like it.
>> I like it too. I love it.
>> But yeah, just a little
>> got a good trim. I'm about to uh these
here are about to fully go away post.
>> Oh, we're getting right into it right now.
now.
>> Oh, yeah. Sorry.
>> This whole this whole video No, it's
fine. We just We talk about her being a
mom all the time and me
>> potentially eventually being a mom. And
we just thought it'd be fun to I thought
it I thought it'd be fun to interview a
real life mother
>> who's living a real life life. And I'm
going to see if she can convince me if I
should have kids or not. We'll see. In
>> the thick of it.
>> And Yeah. Yeah.
>> I'm not going to sugar coat it, though.
>> No, I know. I hope you don't. But yeah,
starting with hair. When's the last time
you've gotten your hair done?
>> I think it was June. >> June.
>> June.
>> Yeah. And then I got it cut I think the
month before that. So, it's been what is
it? Like almost November. So, it's not
bad for like the ends aren't super bad,
but it's due for a trim. >> Yep.
>> Yep.
>> Yeah. And I'm like, I didn't start
noticing hair
uh disappearing um with my first baby
until month four
>> after having >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> George.
>> George. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> It was like
>> you were like, "What's happening? I'm
turning into dad." Or dad's bald.
>> Yeah. And I was like, "Oh, maybe I'm
like not going to get postpartum hair
loss. Like it's still fine and
>> different." And then like I brush my
hair and I'm like
>> this whole like I'm talking like you
it's very light but I'm talking it was
gone. This whole thing was gone. Jojo Siwa
Siwa
gone on both sides and then in the back.
So like right now I have like it's like
road it grow grew like this long since I
had George but it was all gone. So, it's
like I lost a bunch in the back and then
it grew this long.
>> Like you chopped off the back.
>> You seen that t those Tik Tok sounds
where it's just like it's like once I
birth this baby, uh, go through the
newborn phase, get my kid in daycare, go
through like kick out postpartum
depression, kick out postpartum anxiety,
grow my hair back, it's over for you
all. Like,
>> yeah. Yeah. Just all these things. It's like
like
>> you can't even imagine what a batty I'm
going to be
>> 12 to 24 months from now.
>> Not even like 3 to five years.
>> Well, that's the thing, too, is like
>> how how long before you start feeling
like a person again after you give birth?
birth?
>> For me personally,
>> I know everybody's different, by the way.
way.
>> Everyone's different. I'm this I'm only
going off me. Um I felt
felt
a a little bit more normaly when I
stopped breastfeeding. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> However, I was still I I was pregnant
with the second at that point.
>> So I feel like I haven't felt like like
truly myself
>> in a good while. Like
>> Yeah. Cuz you had two back to back. You
are two under two.
>> Yeah. So, I feel like
>> everyone's gonna go back and forth with
like what's the best age gap? Like I
that's like my whole feed all the time,
like what's the best age gap? What's the
best age gap?
>> I know.
>> You got to do what's best for you and
your partner. That's probably all I'm
going to
>> But at this point, you said you wouldn't
do it again.
>> I two.
>> When I say two under two, I'm
technically I was only two under two for
like a month. My kids's two now.
>> So, it's not two under two. >> Um
>> Um
I said that before. Now I'm starting to
get into a groove a little. It's hard as
heck, but I'm starting to get in a
groove a little bit. And I like that
they will be close in age, especially
these first two. Um, and it's it worked
out, I think, kind of cool that I had
two boys. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Um,
>> Um,
I don't know. There's so many different
things like I think for like um with
doctor or doctors like medically I think
they do recommend like waiting more than
two years just for the body to recover
which I get too but like I also hear a
lot of two under two parents they go
yeah it's really hard for the beginning
>> for a long while but then it's awesome
because they play together they're in
the same chapter of lives together all
the time like pretty much kind of thing.
>> Yeah. I feel like it'll be a good payoff
later on, but it seeing you go through
what you're going through makes me not
want two kids under two if I even wanted kids.
kids.
>> That's fair. I've heard a lot of people
love the three age threeear age guy.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Cuz they like get it cuz you
can't really reason with George right now.
now.
>> Not at all. >> No.
>> No.
>> Not even close. Um but potty trained um
sleeping through the night probably like
uh probably sleeping in their own room.
It's dependent on the family. I still
sleep with my kid.
>> Um not this one. This one's in his safe
space bassinet. But
>> it's just like you've established more.
Also like George is like super mommy
right now. Loves daddy. Wants to do a
lot of fun things with daddy. But like
when it comes to sleep, when it comes to
just that comfort, it's still mom.
>> It's so mom and
>> Yeah. You're you're their person.
>> I could really push Adam a little bit
like like daddy a little bit more
>> like but at the same time it's like he's
going to want who he's going to want. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
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it like being a 24/7 um maid and and
butler? And
>> it's a lot actually. My
>> I think the thing I hate the most is
like I I wasn't really a cook before. Um
so that's really hard for me. Dinner.
Dinner's like dinner's like the looming
>> I don't even have kids and I don't like it.
it.
>> I hate it. So like and and that's like a
big thing between um Adam and I. It's
like it's like he loves to have a dinner
and he's home. He's a teacher, so he's
home a little bit earlier. So, we we can
talk about it and see what we want and
stuff, but it's like it's like I'm
sorry, this isn't the time for like
we're doing like uh a pan fried steak
and making mashed potatoes and doing all
this other stuff. Like, it's
>> meal prep at all. No. No. And luckily,
Adam's Adam's family helps out a little
bit here and there. His parents and I
live with our parents now, too. So,
mom's always like,
>> "Oh, yeah. Shade to my mom." Sorry.
>> Yeah. I have extra. I have extra. Which
is awesome. And then, >> yeah.
>> yeah.
>> Um my in-laws are like like
usually giving us if not one two like
two meals a week. And that's like I'm at
the five week stage. before they were
like trying to make sure we had dinner
every single night.
>> That's nice.
>> Dinner every single night between
parents for a big help week.
>> And mom and dad help you as well or mom
and dad. >> Oh,
>> Oh,
they're like babysitters sometimes,
which is great.
>> That's probably one of the things that I
totally understand this our generations
people are not having kids are not
having as many kids because they don't
have the village.
>> Yeah. No, that's Yeah, that'd be a big
thing for me because you guys live in
Canada and that's why I'm just like like
I have Caleb's family here which is
great, but everybody's kind of spread
out and there's just something about your
your
>> your family
>> like wanting my mom like with me while
I'm taking care which they would
probably come down and all that kind of
stuff, but
>> Oh, yeah. Mom and I were even talking
before like, "Oh, if Christina have
kids, like like both mom and I were
like, "We'll go down for like the first
like the month, like just be around her.
>> I'll bring I'll bring my kids and we'll
just hang out." And cuz when you and
Alyssa came up when Teddy was a couple
weeks old. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Have no idea how much that helped me
mentally just feel that kind of normaly
having my sisters around. I didn't have
you guys with George. Like I had you for
a few days here and there kind of thing.
You were back and forth.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I was traveling a lot.
>> A lot. And so you would only be for a
couple of days kind of thing and blah
blah blah. But even though you guys only
came for a couple of days or a few days
this time, it was still I had you both
at the same time. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> And it was just kind of like And then we
were all in The other thing was we were
all in the same house.
>> I know. And it was like being it was
like being transported back in time
except there was kids thrown in
>> the best. And I do feel like, okay,
you've watched my kids long enough or
oh, you've helped my kid long. I'm so
sorry. Like, I'll take it back. I'm not
trying to use you.
>> I never felt like she's got to take her kid.
kid.
>> Yeah. And then dad kept me
>> Dad kept giving me heck being like this
isn't like a you're dumping your kids on
us, Jess. Like we want them. That kind
of reminds me of uh this thing that I've
seen so much of and that's like just
like mom guilt especially on like
Instagram and Tik Tok and all this
stuff. Moms get on.
on.
>> I could cry right now.
>> I It's okay if you do. Moms get on.
Not not as much as dads. Let's just and
that's just a fact. But like no matter
what you do, and I feel bad because I've
caught myself not not on you or
anything, just being like, "Why don't
you just do this?" I'm not a mom and and
I and I know in the in the moment I'm
I'm not judging you or something, but
it's just like you get enough. I'm just
trying to give suggestions.
>> I know based off I know what you mean
when you do it kind of thing. I'm not
>> Christine, I'm sorry. But like, god
forbid, you post something and you're
like, I did this with my kid today, or
this is how I handled this with my kid
today, or I co-s sleep, or I don't cos
sleep, or I do this, and that's it. And
everybody's like, you're a you shouldn't
have a kid. I don't know. What's your
experience with that in social media?
Cuz I know you don't post like your your
kids or like being a mom or anything
like that, but like seeing it and then
comparing it,
>> like comments and stuff. Yeah. because
like sometimes you go to social media or um
um
>> it's like like support in your own
decision. So like like I sleep with my
2-year-old son George, >> right?
>> right?
>> And I follow this one this one mom her
family they they living space they
actually had like two living rooms or
something. They ended up making the
living room a bedroom. They have two
king-siz beds pushed together and it's a
family of four and they all sleep
together every night.
>> And now where she bed shared with like
her child before they turned one like
zero to one kind of thing.
>> There we go. I'm kind of judging again
low key.
>> Yeah. So that's where people judge. And
now like and now our sister Alyssa,
she's seen the worst.
>> She's a pediatric nurse by the way.
She's seen the the deaths with um
um bed sharing and it's really scary. Um
now being a mom,
>> even with this little guy
>> now, I would never I do not never bring
Teddy in the bed with George and I.
George is
>> George is way too much of a wild card, right?
right?
But if George is gone with daddy or
something and Teddy and I are sleeping
um during the day, I have had Adam like
I'm like, "Can you just watch the
monitor? Like I'm going to side lay and
breastfeed Teddy and I'm so tired. Like
>> you could fall asleep." Yeah.
>> And I will and like I could fall asleep
and sometimes I as a mom I do feel like
I have the instincts that I would wake up,
up,
>> right? But then you do see those deaths
happen and you think those instincts. So
I've I've co-slept with Teddy
>> maybe two or three times during the day
and Adam has been checking on me kind of thing
thing
>> with Teddy and everything. But it
doesn't take that long. Anything can
happen. I know.
>> But to go back to like
>> what you're saying like Instagram and
comparing yourself and seeing comments
and all that
>> sleep training, right? I don't sleep train.
train.
>> I don't sleep train. I'm I have the
luxury though of staying at home
>> of being at home. Yeah, I'm tired as
>> well. Heck, but like
>> but on this channel
>> Oh, right.
>> Yeah, he'll bleep it out. Fine.
>> Tired of Um but it's just also
like a feeling that I don't want to cos
sleep. Yeah.
>> Maybe maybe Teddy will give me a run for
my money and I'm like no. Yeah, George
George gave me run for my money for like
through the regressions and stuff and I
was like no like I can't do the cry it
out. I know that there's softer ways to
to sleep train, but for the moms that do
sleep train. Dang. Like sometimes I'm like
like
>> I know I see those moms on Instagram and
they're like I slept 8 hours and I'm like
like
>> I'm like oh I wish that for Jessica so
bad. But
>> well, are then like you know what you
know what I get way more jealous of is
like the kids that just
>> go to bed. They're like, "Oh, bedtime." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. And I feel like it's usually girls
whenever I see those kids. It's like
girls like
Yeah. They're like, "Okay, I'll go to
sleep. See you later."
>> And George is not like that at all. But
then that goes also with like
temperament of babies.
>> Yeah. Every baby's different. That's the
thing, too, is
>> Some sleep trained babies are like so
easy. Some sleep trained babies took
forever to get sleep trained. Some sleep
trained babies are just like, "Oh, I
sleep all the time." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> I swear my kid just has so much stuff
going on in his head. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> All the time. And that's and that's kind
of why I ended up sleeping with him
around like 14, 15 months
>> is like I not and I kind of stopped
breastfeeding around that time, too.
>> Yeah. And he just wanted my skin. Like
he would kind of wake up in the night
and then he'd rub my skin and he'd go
back to sleep.
>> Yeah. He's a little lovey lovey boy.
>> Yeah. And I'm like, why am I going to
just sleep without him and then he wakes
up and then he wakes up fully and then
his mind's going and then I'm having
like to like wrestle him to bed. So
that's what just worked for me. But the
mom guilt with other people seeing
comments of being like, "You should do
it like this. You should do it like
that. Why don't you do it like this?"
I'm like, I don't I don't know if I'll
ever want to talk about being a mom.
>> And that's fair. Yeah. I get like I've
never said you should do mom stuff or
this, but if you did, I would be like
nervous for your mental health.
>> It' be a lot. It'd be a lot. And like
you can put yourself in that mental spot
of like whoever says what, I don't care.
It's how I do it.
>> It's extremely hard.
>> It's still not to mention I think it
would pile on kind of thing.
>> It would. I think so. And like even I
see comments of PE like I'll see a video
and I'm like good for that mom. And then
I see the comments and like this other
mom is saying you should watch out for
this this this. You should make sure
that it's this this.
>> Yeah. It's like you can't do anything right.
right.
>> Oh, I didn't even think of that.
>> And you start thinking it yourself and
you didn't even put yourself out there.
>> Yeah. Exactly. Yeah. Yeah. It's like
everybody's learning at the same time,
but the internet's just such a it's like
good for that stuff, I think, in a lot
of ways. Like I send you stuff where I'm
like, "Oh, this is a good little tip."
or something.
>> Oh, yeah.
>> But then I'm just I see more hate than
anything. And I feel so bad.
>> It's so funny because it's like it's
it's like mom's together, but like we're
we're as one, but then it's also like
>> like Planet of the Apes.
>> Mom's together, strong apes.
>> But then it's like um you're wrong,
you're wrong, you're wrong, you're wrong.
wrong.
>> Yeah. It's really It's hypocritical.
>> It's very hypocritical. Or also, I'm
bringing this up, but I also see a lot
of it is after birth,
you're like bouncing back. That's the
biggest thing is I bounced back into it.
>> Oh, yes.
>> I worked out my ring. I only weighed
like 18 pounds after I gave birth. I'm
like, "Oh, this is Yeah, I see a lot a
lot a lot of that. I fear like for me um
for someone that has like good genetics
um I'm breastfeeding in a way that like
I think it like you you burn those
calories. It's just coming off whatever.
I still have a good nice little pouch
there. Um, I'm what almost 6 weeks
postpartum and
I think I didn't like get back to like,
you know,
the regular kind of stomach that I kind
of had before until like 6 months with George.
George. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> But it's like it's sad for moms that
feel like they have to bounce back right
away. Like uh I just I'm not I'm not um
for me I'm not focused on it right now.
>> Yeah. You're good. And that's and that's
how everyone should be. That's not
important. Shouldn't be important.
>> It's not important. But it's also hard
because you see these moms like and then
like I'll see friends that have had
babies and I'm like I'm sorry you had a
baby like 3 weeks ago. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> And you look like that. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> It's still in my head. It's still like
wow. Like what am I doing wrong? But I
know what I'm doing wrong. I'm eating
everything in sight or chocolate or whatever.
whatever.
>> Yeah. What's your most mom meal lately?
like eating the eating a meal over the
sink kind of thing.
>> It's so Dude, I'm
>> like girl dinner but mom dinner.
>> No, we're so sweet people. Like I say a
meal like it's not a meal. Like dude I
>> What is it? What is it? What's What's
that meal? What's that meal? Quote unquote.
unquote.
>> Probably like a spoonful of Nutella. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah,
that's filling.
>> Nutella was on sale at Costco and I was
just like
>> Oh, I haven't had Nutella in forever. I
haven't either. And I saw it and I was
like, "Screw it." And there's just a
spoon sitting there by the Nutella jar.
I said this to Alyssa the other day,
too. And she's like, "So, you do that
every day?" I'm like, "Yeah, probably
every few hours."
>> You're like, "Ted Lasso? I finally watch
Ted Lasso, the peanut butter jar he
always leaves open on his counter. It's
just Nutella for you." You're like, >> boost.
>> boost.
>> So good. It's so much sugar and I just
don't care.
>> It's fine. Um, whatever that, but then
also um um Adam and I have been having
like these like burrito things, carnitas.
carnitas.
>> That doesn't count.
>> I'm talking about a a
>> a peasant mom meal.
>> And you know, if I'm trying to make
myself feel better, pepperoni stick and
a cheese string.
>> Yeah, you're Yeah, your cheese and
pepperoni. How long have you gone
without showering?
>> That's so honest. Um,
Um,
>> after having baby. Yeah. Or just h being
a mom. What's the longest? Doesn't need
We don't need to know when it was.
>> I would say nine days.
>> It's pretty good numbers. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Damn.
>> Damn. >> Damn.
>> Damn.
>> Yeah. I didn't know what I was
>> That's fair. I've seen I've seen moms on
the internet and stuff be like, "It's
been two weeks." I'm like, >> "That's
>> "That's
>> It was nine days." Yeah, it was not cuz
I was like almost 10 days and I was just like
like
>> I don't even care if he cries. I have to
have a shower.
>> Like even lower than I thought. I've
been sad and I've done gone longer than that.
that.
>> It's But like you're also covered in
breast milk.
>> Uh yeah, that's fair.
>> You smell postpartum bo?
>> I've heard it's terrible. Like what do
you smell like?
>> I don't have it too bad. I don't have it
too bad. I have it on. It's fine.
>> What does it smell like?
It smells like you. It smells like bo.
Like it smells
>> sour milk. >> Worse
>> Worse
>> and wet grass.
>> Yeah. And when I said I went nine days
without showering, like I'm talking like
I still took like wipes every night and
like wiped myself.
>> I'm not judging you. I've gone longer
than that. Haven't touched myself. I
haven't like
>> No. And I'm not I don't
>> I've been greased up.
>> I just washed my hair. Like I said to
Vicki, so my my mom's best friend uh
came over last night to watch Teddy for
me. My husband's sick, which is a punch face.
face. >> Convenient.
>> Convenient.
>> Very. Um but I don't want him holding
the newborn while I go to the shower or
when I have to do stuff with George cuz
George will not let daddy do stuff.
Anyways, um I didn't wash my hair for
six or seven days. >> Nice.
>> Nice.
>> And she came over last night and I
washed my hair.
>> That's nice. Oh, Teddy's in her in her
in her arms right now. Yeah, that's
fair. Oh, what is something you swore
you wouldn't do
>> before you were a parent and now you do
it all the time? Cuz that's what I'm
curious about cuz I love to yap about
like I'm not going to do this with my
future kid if I ever have one and I'm
never going to do this but I'm like I
I'll probably give into all that stuff.
Um, it's hard because like being so I
was a teacher before this and like
>> it's like it kind of set me up for like
don't don't put some expectations on
what you think you're going to do. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> But I will say um
>> I will say I thought I'd be outside a
lot more
>> getting like George ready to go go
outside. We're going to go do this.
We're going to go do that.
Also, you we live in I mean in Canada
where it's just bleak and gray most of
the year as well
>> a lot and then it's like by the time you
get up by the time you like get stuff
going I have a goal set in mind with
Teddy and George um especially George
being a toddler now he needs to go
outside like when he was a baby I said I
was going to go out for walks and do all
this stuff and blah blah blah and I was
like no we're just chilling man we're
just going to do this we're going to go
visit parents and grandparents and call
her a day. Like that was the biggest
thing. But now I'm like, "Okay." Yeah. I
think I I think I overestimated how easy
it was to get out.
>> Yeah. Yeah. What What's something you
miss that you would just be like, "Oh,
I'm just going to go do this."
>> Oh, probably just rotting.
>> Oh, just rotting. Not even like I'm
going to go to Winners. >> No.
>> No.
>> Like just rotting guilt.
like just like sitting on the couch
watching binge watching a show for
however long you want. >> Um
>> Um >> and
>> and
yeah, like now it's like no, I can't do
that. Like yeah, I I could um watch my
show with George playing with his stuff
and everything.
>> It's not the same though. You're just
you're constantly head on a swivel.
>> Is he choking? Is he? You don't feel
good because you don't have good stuff
on for the kid or you have the TV on.
>> Yeah. No, I knew I was going to be a
screen time mom, so that's not something I
I
>> That's Yeah, you're like fully
>> expected it. That's That's fair.
>> No. U Miss Rachel's my girl.
>> Fair enough.
>> She's my girl. Um Sesame Street OG. We
love Elmo. That's what George is going as.
as.
>> Elmo. Yeah, >> Elmo.
>> Elmo.
>> She's awesome. and uh newly uh the wiggles.
wiggles.
>> That's pretty good. It's pretty good. So
when you do leave the house, what's that
look like?
>> Like when you're when you're baby free,
it would take what? >> Oh,
>> Oh, >> minutes.
>> minutes. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> No. And I'm someone also that I hate
being late. And as a mom with 10 kids,
>> chances are you might be late because
things come up.
>> How long does it take on average? Two
kids under two.
I usually start like to go get somewhere.
somewhere.
I'll start I'll start like prepping like
probably 45 minutes in advance.
>> That's crazy. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> It makes sense, but it's crazy.
>> Let's get you dressed. Let's change a day.
day.
>> No wonder we don't go out there.
>> Snacks. Let's make sure there's Let's
make sure there's whatever this. Oh,
let's like and then but then you're also
giving the time of like of like oh crap moments.
moments. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Like so. Okay, we wanted to do this at
11:30. And so I'm like, hm, we'll see
how long George takes to put down for a
nap right now. I'm like, I'm going to
give him half hour. Like, we're going to
struggle. He's not going to be super
tired just yet, but and he might fight
me a little bit, but let's give a half
hour. Good thing I did because we get
into bed, we get all cozy and I just
changed a poopy diaper like 15 minutes
before that. He pooped again. >> Awesome.
>> Awesome.
>> And I'm like, >> stellar.
>> stellar.
>> Did I leave the poopy diaper somewhere?
Like, why do I keep smelling it? And
then I look at and I'm like, oh, you
pooped again. Okay, let's change it.
Let's do it. So, like there's these
timings of things that you're like,
okay, oh crap moment. Oh crap moment. Oh
crap moment. Is it is it like your your
life is very regimented now? Like you
can't be spontaneous really. Your life
revolves around a lot of nap times and stuff.
stuff.
>> Yeah. But it's also like Okay. Yeah. Um
because you don't want to miss a nap
time and you do not want to miss bedtime.
bedtime.
>> Yeah. So you're kind of you're kind of a
>> you don't you don't and like even if
you're go with the flow,
>> good on you. Good for you. I hope your
kid is just chill as you and you're just
>> But if my kid doesn't sleep,
>> worry, we got problems and
>> Yeah. Yeah.
>> It's a lot. And then like
>> I'm I'm honestly so nervous about um Teddy
Teddy
>> because I'm so less anxious this time
around. Yeah. Especially about sleep.
I'm like, "Okay, let's follow the wake
window. Sure. Let's make sure you don't
sleep over this many whatever." Blah
blah blah. But like with George, I was
like to the minute. Yeah, I remember. Yeah,
Yeah,
>> I think most moms are it seems with
their first.
>> But now I'm like, okay, how am I
supposed to like, okay, Teddy has to go
down, then George will have to go down
like later, and then Teddy will have to
go down. So, am I going to have like one
kid sleeping at all times during the day
at some point?
>> How is this going to work? And
>> um but I think that's where like the
birth order psychology of like that
second kid is just so much more go with
the flow. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> What it is. Because at that point, a mom
has to adapt to just be like, "We're
just going to have to do what we got to do."
do." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> It's going to have to be some car naps.
It's going to be like,
>> "Yeah, that Yeah, that's good. But
you're you're you're
you are um under their thumb for like
the past two years. You've just been
>> Yeah. So, that sounds not so fun. Well,
I I get it. Like, it's an absolute
sacrifice. Like, being a mom, it quite
literally is a 247 job. Like, I can't
stand the people that are like it's not
a job." It's like,
>> no, it's it's
>> you're keeping things alive.
>> Going to work would be would be almost
considered a break at this point.
>> Yeah, that's great.
>> However, however, it's still like I like
for me, I get anxious even thinking
about leaving my baby.
>> That's a whole other stressful thing.
Like moms that have to go to work
>> anyways, but like Yeah. No, you're under
the thumb. Like I'm just waiting for
George to wake up. Teddy fell asleep,
too. So, he's he's going to wake up.
We're supposed to go to um the pumpkin
patch today. Uh which we'll go to. I
have no idea if I'm going to have to
like say, "George, sorry. You have to
stay in the stroller cuz I have to feed Teddy."
Teddy."
>> Yeah. It's constant improv. It sounds like
like
>> It's like you're on stage all the time
doing improv and they're like this and
say yes. You have to say yes.
>> I'll give you I'll give you our morning.
Okay. I talked to you earlier this morning.
morning.
>> Yes. And I hung up and I'm like
>> George was choking by the way at some point.
point. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah,
>> he was okay. He's fine.
>> And uh he was fine. Yeah. And uh then I
realized, oh my gosh, we have a
chiropractor appointment at 10:15. Okay.
Okay. Okay. And usually when we have
Cairo, that's when I do a Costco run. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> And we didn't eat a lot, but I looked at
the clock and I'm like, I think I can
make it work. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> I think I can do it. George, you up for
it? You up for it? Costco. He's like, Costco.
Costco.
>> Yeah. Like I said, 45 minutes getting
everybody ready. We got to make sure.
So, I was like, if we're going to do it,
we got to do it now because we got off
the phone at 8:30, right?
>> Move, move, move. We get going. It was I
get in the car. I'm like, okay, 9:18.
Takes about 10 minutes to get there.
We'll have 30 minutes in in uh Costco
and then we have to go to Cairo. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Made it work. It was all good.
Uh Teddy
um leaving Cyro. He was sleeping that
whole time and then leaving Cairo crying
so much that he was not breathing.
>> Oh no.
>> For a minute. Like I could hear him in
the car. So I had to pull over and go in
the back of the car and just calm him
down and everything. Then we come back
here and I'm like, "Okay, we we're I
have an 11:30 thing with you. I still
have to get George to sleep. I have
groceries in the car that need to go in
the fridge. Right. So then you're like,
"Okay, Teddy's still crying his lungs
out, so I'm gonna I'm gonna um carry
them in his car seat while I slowly
unload the the things and then have the
door open and keep joking with George
being like, "Hey, stranger." Or like
whatever. Making it fun, getting stuff
in George. Then I get George out and
he's like, "Trampoline, trampoline,
trampoline." And I'm like looking at the
time. I'm like, "Okay, we have about 20
minutes until I have to put you down. I
do have to put whatever." I'm like,
"Okay, I can give him 10 minutes. Give
Teddy a quick feed. He's jumping on the
trampoline. Lure him in with a chocolate
and banana." Whatever. >> Boy.
>> Boy. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> I'm like, "Let's go in." Teddy's still
crying his eyes out. I'm still trying to
breastfeed, holding him up. Whatever.
And then George has a poopy bum. Change
his bum. We
>> My heart rate's gone up since this has
started. finally get to bed. He needs a
diaper change again. We change his
diaper. I'm trying to And the worst is
you're trying to make it fun the whole time.
time.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. You're you're an
you're an improv. You're an entertainer.
>> Let's go. And then but a a lot of days
you're not fun. And then the mom guilt
comes in, >> right?
>> right?
>> Makes story long. So,
>> no, it's okay. That's fine. That's what
it's for like the real the real insight
into a actual mom's life. Is that what
stresses you out the most about having
kids is just not half time?
>> No, not because I'm a homebody. I never
go anywhere. So, I'm like, well, my life
won't change that much. Like, I don't
travel anymore. I don't leave the house
really. Caleb and I just stay in and cuz
we we have the farm and the property and
we're just kind of like
>> hanging out. Um
>> my but no, that is a worry for sure. Or
not a worry, but it's something like I'm
very aware of. I'm like, "Okay, I need I
want to be there for them 100%. I want
to be as 100% as I can be." And then the
other part is just my cuz I have like severe
severe
um intrusive thoughts that compiled with
like partly like OCD and depression and
all that kind of stuff. But I'm just
like and I know I'll be like that when I
have my first kid. Like I will think
they're going to die all the time and
like how it'll be my fault and then I
spiral and I'm like
>> yeah that's well
>> and also just my life was my my dynamic
changing. Yeah I guess I guess yeah I guess
guess
>> yeah well like being someone that
doesn't have intrusive thoughts and doesn't
doesn't
>> I'm sure you do you've had them as a
mom. I'm like
>> as a mom though. >> Yeah
>> Yeah
>> I have. Right. Like like you look at the
kid's neck and you're like, "What if it just
just >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> What if it what if I just fell down
these stairs?" >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Would I land forward on top of the baby
or would I
>> What if I Yeah, it it happens and it it
just all the time. Um
>> Yeah. Yeah. Less so even like Yes. Yes.
intrusive thoughts, but also just like
like we were on the phone earlier like
you just said and I heard George and he
was fine. He wasn't choking. He was
coughing. So that means he could
breathe. But he is making those sounds.
Teddy's making weird sounds while we're
doing this. And it is my like I am I am
so anxious.
>> Like I get so anxious. And of course
they're my nephews. So obviously I'm But
even if any kid like if any kid is like
in any sort of distress or life I'm like
like I am like
>> it's a lot. It's like if you heard Teddy
cry today like Teddy cried the hardest
he's cried in his whole life today. >> Yes.
>> Yes.
It was okay. I'm going to I'm not going
to lie. I was impressed with myself with
how calm I stayed.
>> That's good
>> because I've gone through this with
George, right? Like you go through it.
But um
becoming a mom, like I know you're like,
"Oh, yeah. Lifestyle changed this and
you know, intrusive thoughts." It's
crazy to me how like you just uh you
just go with it.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Like it is improv. Like it's
just like
>> intuition and
>> I think like setting yourself up with
like like I think before Teddy was born
I talked a lot more with Adam of things
that I'm going to need of things that
I'm going to expect of him.
>> Yeah. I think Yeah. That's
>> whereas before we didn't know like I
would say zero to one was a bigger
change for me than one to two kids.
>> For sure.
>> It's still hard. It's still
>> for sure. For sure. But it's just like
your whole your both of your lives
change when a kid's in it. And you just
don't you don't know what to expect
until you're in it.
>> But that's that's one thing that Caleb
and I talk about a lot. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> And have since we've known each other
>> is like
>> how who who's going to do what, how
they're going to do that, how he's going
to support me, how I'm going to support him.
him.
>> If we ever get into arguments now, it's
just like let's let's pretend we have a
kid in this. Like we we are like
constantly doing hypotheticals.
>> Yeah. Yeah.
>> with a kid, which I think is good.
>> I think it's good because it's like for
me I'm like I did hypo I did so many
hypotheticals with when like just before
Teddy came. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> I'm like, "Okay, so I'm putting George
down and you're doing whatever. It's not
going to be like this.
>> I'm going to put George down and you're
going to have Teddy, >> right?
>> right?
>> Or um I'm gonna have Teddy and you're
gonna have to deal with George." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Whatever. So, like we did do more of the
hypotheticals and then like um um and to
keep it simple, I kind of said I take
care of Teddy and as much as and George
pretty much as much as I can. You take
care of me. >> Like,
>> Like, >> yeah.
>> yeah.
>> If I need you to take George, you take
George. If I need you to warm me up some
food, you warm me up some food. Like,
it's just
>> And that dynamic works for you guys. it
works for us. And then, you know, we're
we're like a trade-off couple a lot.
It's like, okay, hey,
>> I'll do I'll do like cleaning up all the
toys, wiping them, like wiping some
stuff down or whatever if time.
>> And it's like,
>> right. Yeah. I take two dinners and
raise you uh three poopy diapers.
>> Yeah. The like, okay, yeah, you and
Caleb have been together for a couple
years kind of thing. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
and not judging it off by the years, but
I'm actually kind of going off more of
like the age and how well you know
yourself now.
>> Yeah. Yeah. I think that that adds to it
for sure.
>> I think that totally adds to it. I think
it's actually more important than the
longevity of your relationship is like
>> where are you going in with this? So like
like
>> for me when I think about you being as a mom,
mom,
>> like I totally see it. I've always seen
it. Even when you said, "I don't know.
I'm not having kids." I'm like, "Okay."
>> Yeah. When I was younger, I was I was
like, "No. not having kids. I'm never
having kids. And I'm like, maybe not,
but yeah, you will. Like,
>> you're doing a great job of convincing me.
me.
>> You will. And
>> my half of day was hell. I
No, no, no. I'm just doing
>> Okay, now now I'll like give you a
little bit more of it. So,
>> you live for the little moments. >> Okay.
>> Okay.
>> Those were just
>> Today we're in Costco. The lady gives
him a sticker
>> and we always go say thank you. Say
thank you. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> And I was like, "Oh, thank you so much."
>> The like the whole buggy ride out to the car.
car.
>> Thank you so much. Thank you so much.
>> So cute.
>> Thank you so much. I gave him a banana
when we got home.
>> Thank you so much, mommy.
>> You're like,
>> Yeah. in that point when they can
actually start to like talk and just
>> they're talking or like Teddy like
crying crying crying crying and then I
know it's a gassy smile but like we came
out before we're on the phone with you and
and
>> that's so cute
>> and it's just like a gassy smile and
you're like
>> and you just know and it's like
>> and then seeing your partner
>> as a parent especially like the partner
that you're like no I want to make him a dad.
dad.
>> Yeah. and you make him a dad and then
you see them just thrive with like
>> these different scenarios or whatever.
It's like
>> it's so cool. It's so cool. And you're
just so full.
>> You're exhausted, but you're like
>> it's so great. Like even just um
even when like I know I didn't handle a
situation good or if I know Adam could
have handled a situation better. >> Mhm.
>> Mhm.
>> We're at that point where it's like we
know that you know it. We don't need to
>> we don't need to say
>> mutual understanding.
>> Yeah. Or it's like I'm going to step in
here. Mhm.
>> Your your heightened emotion like or
Adam will step in for me if I'm like,
I'm gonna cry.
>> I'm done. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Whatever.
>> Whatever.
>> Yeah. Cuz you're getting into that good
guy, bad guy. Um, good cop, bad cop kind
of situation with George now that he's
like can talk and stuff.
>> Yeah. And I find that like I always
thought like, oh, it's just like the
more patient one is like the good cop
kind of thing, but really you're saving
your partner. You're just saving your
partner. Yeah.
>> And it's like Yeah. But anyways, >> yeah,
>> yeah,
>> it's it's like
you're just like you live for the little
moments. And I think like when and if
you have kids when you have kids,
um you're just like
you'll be great and it'll be totally
fine. And like especially with the level
of like
like humor in your household.
>> Oh my gosh. Yeah. I'm like scared.
No, I'm excited, but I'm scared what
we'll create.
>> Oh, yeah.
>> Because we're very like loud and I think
we'll be good at entertaining. I think
that'll be our our strong suit, which I
think it sounds like that's most
parenting when they're very young.
>> You and you have to deal with it like
like it's the hardest time in a
relationship for sure. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> It's like you want to clock them at one
point. It's never about like for Adam
and I, it's never about like how he
parents that I want to like
>> you're doing it wrong. It's not that.
It's just like it's the expectations,
right? You're not meeting my
expectations. You're not meeting my
expectations. That's what's the hard
part. But seeing them as a parent, it's
like, ah, that's so cool.
>> Yeah. I feel like for moms, cuz you're I
mean, it's you. It's you for most at
least for most people it's usually it's
on you for like I'd say at least the
first year you're kind of the parent
>> especially with like you know and I'm like
like
>> and if you're breastfeeding and
>> I Yeah. And I'll I'll say the term
exclusively breastfeeding. So like my
kids don't take bottles like it is all
on me and I like it that way honestly. I
I'm lazy. That's why
>> you don't want to do dishes which I get.
I wouldn't want to either. I don't want
to pump and put it into a bottle. What?
Don't. So, when I say that, I'm not
saying it to be.
I'm lazy.
>> I don't like doing dishes.
>> The pumping moms, I I'm going to say
like to you, if you said, you know what,
I think I'm going to be a pump. I'm
going to just pump and just give them
the express milk. I would check in on
you every single day being like, are you okay?
okay?
>> I've Yeah, I've seen this. I mean, I
don't know about it too much, but I've
heard like mom's suffering >> pumping.
>> pumping.
>> It's It's just It's the It's the worst
of both. It's like instead of formula
and you just have a bunch of dishes and everything,
everything,
>> it's you're still using like so much
energy of your body and then you have
the dishes on top of it. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> I don't even know. My friend does it and
we're always like, "How did you how did
you last?" Like I don't Anyway,
>> that's fair. Um,
>> good segue into my actual like my
biggest biggest fear and that is pregnancy.
pregnancy.
>> Oh, is that Oh, okay. Okay. So, what are
your fears about being pregnant?
>> Well, first of all, as most of my
audience knows, I had an ED. >> Yes.
>> Yes.
>> Still low-key recovering. Um, but I'm
I'm like more at peace with that now.
I'm like I've I've recovered to the
point where, you know, I have my woman
bodily functions back and all that stuff
for a long time and I'm capable of, you
know, being at a healthy weight and
stuff and I'm like good with that and
and but I feel like even for women
without necessarily an eating disorder
or something like that, it's like
>> hard to wrap your head around the fact
that you're going to have a different
body as as vain as that sounds, which I
don't think many women would disagree
with me, but it's just like, "Oh, I'm
that's really scary. That's really
scary. I'm going to live in a different body."
body." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> And it's not like And it's just like
different like we're talking about your
areolas getting bigger. We're talking
about like >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Like stuff changes colors and stuff
stretches and
>> and then and then there's a baby inside
you which scares me. Like I like that
feeling a kid like knowing I don't know.
That's like horrifying to me. Oh, okay.
>> That's that's also horrifying.
>> Honestly, I thought it felt pretty cool.
Okay. Yeah, there was some months that
really sucked. My first trimester never
actually like threw up, but the nausea,
it's a lot. You're so tired. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> So tired. You don't start feeling them
until like halfway through. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Right.
>> Right.
>> Yeah. That your pregnancies were pretty
similar, right? Your two pregnancies.
So, super super like nauseous and tired.
First trimester.
>> Um, second trimester thriving. Love
second trimester. My bump. The bump was
bumping. It wasn't like, oh, did she just
just
>> put on some weight? It was like
>> your second trimester at my wedding, I think.
think.
>> Yeah. And there's like there's a month
and then
>> and then um third trimester
>> you're doing okay, but those last weeks
you're like
>> we got lots of snaps from Jess the last
weeks where she's like help.
>> Yeah. And you're just it's and pregnant
with a toddler death. Like you're just death.
death.
>> It's awesome. Like when you're when you
when you do get pregnant for the first
time, cherish it.
Yeah, I've I've and I feel so bad for
you. I feel so bad for you. But I've
learned from watching you where I'm
like, "Oh, I'm gonna savor my first one
if I have one.
>> Those bigger age gaps can be helpful,
right?" But
>> anyways, um and then you like other
things in pregnancy. So, I had restless
leg syndrome.
>> Yeah. Bad for you.
>> Like in the especially in the third
trimester was worst. Um, I'd be up all
hours of the night and my legs are going
crazy. Um, I'm taking too much magnesium
that I'm almost like crabbing my pants
like just to try to calm it down. Um, I
had varicose veins. I like swollen. Um,
>> my second pregnancy I was so hungry. I know.
know.
>> Oh, yeah. You were just like, she would
snap us at like 3:00 a.m. like I just
woke up and I needed to eat five
pepperoni sticks and a bowl of cereal.
Like, damn, dude. I'm sorry.
>> It was just It was weird. But like So,
and so yeah, your body is changing. >> Um,
>> Um,
>> did your senses get heightened? Like
what's with that with the smell and
stuff? Do you become like a superhero?
>> I've always been a little bit with
smells, but yeah, I think I was also cuz
Adam I swear Adam loves the most
smelliest foods and I'm just like,
>> "Oh, so does Caleb.
>> Out of here." And like I swear that his
car smells so bad, but everybody's like,
"I don't smell anything." I'm like,
>> so yeah, maybe some senses, too.
>> Okay. Yeah. Well, okay.
>> However, I will tell you this. I've
never felt sexier.
>> Mhm. I know you said you've said that,
>> which is awesome. I love that for you.
>> I mean, the last few weeks where I'm like,
like,
>> um I'm like, beach whale, don't come
near me. No one touch me.
>> Whatever. But like it was just like
I don't know. I don't know what it was.
Especially second trimester, you're just
like boom boom like look at me
>> adorable little
>> even if you're like all swollen and
stuff. I don't even know. It was just like
like
>> I was swollen. I was this. But it was
just I felt uh
>> Yeah. I just felt good about it.
>> Yeah. Yeah. It's not that I want.
>> It's hard.
>> It's hard too. I never
>> I haven't gone through what you've gone through.
through.
>> Yeah. Yeah,
>> very valid thing to make be like, okay,
I'm so hyper aware of how I was
>> and now I'm going to go and change my
entire body.
>> And then be scared of the whole bounce back.
back.
>> Yeah. And especially being on the
internet, like that's my job.
>> So, and just like knowing people will
judge me no matter what. It's like
>> but like and you can you can tell me if
I'm like
like wrong and what how I'm thinking
this but like during the time that you
did really struggle with the eating
disorder like bad
>> and then like you've slowly been working
on it. Um
>> it wasn't until
like a couple years ago um you started
being in a stable relationship I find
>> that time like yes I knew you were with
like your exboyfriend or whatever at the
time that it kind of happened but like
at that time like
>> I I don't think you like were you guys
close to
>> breaking up at that time?
>> Mhm. Mhm. Yeah. No, it was bad. It was
in a bad spot. No. Being being in a
>> But I don't want to put it on the
partner because
>> No, no. It definitely wasn't on them at all.
all.
>> No, no, no, no. But I just mean if you
got pregnant.
>> Oh, yeah.
>> I feel like you're in just such a a
stable place.
>> Yeah. No, that's that's why I haven't
had kids yet because I've been I've been
like always very aware that I'm like, I
want to be Nobody's 100%, but I want to
be as close to 100% before I have a kid.
Especially before I if gosh if I had a
if I had a girl I would never want to um
project which I wouldn't I'd be like
probably overcompensating be like you're
perfect you're beautiful but it would be
me. I don't want to ever and this is not
a hit on mom at all and mom didn't cause
anything of this but on top of us
growing up in an age of Instagram and
Instagram models and photoshopping and
all that stuff. If so, on top of that,
if if mom ever said something bad about
herself, I'd be like, and everybody's
like, "Oh, you look just like your mom."
Then my my brain would be like, "I
bad." And I've had lots of therapy and
I'm over it now. But anyway, I I just
don't want to be negative about myself.
If I even if I have a son or a daughter,
doesn't really matter. So,
>> society is like
you think about like think about Grammy.
I'm sure.
>> Oh. Oh, our grandma was just like the mo
I feel like most grandmas were just like
>> honest. Very honest, right? And mom grew
up with
>> blunt. Yeah. And we've just been
bringing it. So, I'm just, you know, I'm
not trying to break any like, you know,
thing cuz I didn't grow up in like a
traumatic environment or anything, but I
know for me, since I went through that
and it affected me in different ways,
just the whole thing, I know how I would
want to raise a kid now, just not like
not putting any emphasis on
uh what you look like and all that kind
of stuff. So, I want to be in a place
>> naked mom.
>> Just walk around in like your unhook for
all the time and just be like I'm fine
with it.
>> I'm a modest mom for sure. I that's not
my jam, but if it's yours, whatever. Um,
but yeah. Yeah. So, so I feel like and
it's not that I think having a kid would
fix me, and I don't want that. I don't
want to I don't want to ever bring a kid
into this world to be like, "This will
fix something." But I think I think in
watching many people around me have kids
and and now just my feeling I'm just
like I want to care for something other
than myself now because I'm good now and
Caleb cares for me and I care for him
and I like caring for him but I'm just
like I feel like I'm at the point
>> where I could care for something else
and I could be good at it.
>> Yeah, absolutely. Like
>> even my chiropractor, she kind of gives
me you vibes too. Um she didn't want kids
kids
>> and now she has three. Yeah. And she's
like getting to a point in life with like
like
>> so what? I'm going to go and have
another margarita on a boat somewhere
and have fun with it. Like
>> and that's for some people and for
people that want to do that all the time.
time.
>> No judgment. No judgment at all. Yeah.
But for me, I I have that I have that
feeling now that mom and dad said that I
would when I was younger when I was like
I'm never going to have kids. They're
like I think you might want some later.
And maybe some people don't find that
person and that person and you're like,
>> "Yeah, for me it all revolved around
finding the right person." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Totally revolved around that. I was
like, "Ooh, I think being a parent with
you would be amazing and and making a
little person with you would be amazing
or adopting a kid or whatever." Um, yeah.
yeah.
>> Whereas I grew up like I want to be a mom,
mom,
>> which is awesome. Which is Yeah, that's
totally fine. Which brings me to our
final um
>> uh uh uh phase, which is birth. We kind
of went backwards. Um that's also
something I'm terrified of. Uh very much
so. Experiencing all that pain.
>> Um so
>> I don't want to talk about it. >> Well,
>> Well, >> okay.
>> okay.
>> This is convincing me or not convincing
me. So first >> amazing
>> amazing
>> great at my birth
>> but I'm no hero I like the drugs I don't
I don't do drugs or barely I barely
drink alcohol
>> in regular life so when I'm first though
so I'm like mix up any cocktail you want
let's go like
>> yeah you had you had your uh
>> I had the epidural
>> epidural for the first one
>> for just under a couple hours was having
applesauce popsicles
laughing with my my team, whatever, with
my husband. Boom. Baby was out. How exciting.
exciting. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Second birth. Um
cervix was in the way. Too late for the
epidural. I came into the hospital 8
centimeters dilated.
>> I was fine an hour before. It was like,
"Okay, contractions are 5 to seven
minutes apart. We're This is when we're
supposed to go in. Let's go in." Oh, hi
Jessica. You're 8 centimeters dilated.
We're going to get you to to a room
right away. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Um Oh, we're actually going to send
blood work away. We're not going to need
you cuz this baby's coming out in 10
minutes. Like >> what?
>> what? >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> I'm like, okay, baby's coming out in 10
minutes. I'm really pissed off about
this epidural, but okay, fine. I won't
have an epidural. Baby did not come in
10 minutes. Did not come in 15. Did not
come in an hour. Came in like after 2
hours. and cervix was in the way. Cervix
wouldn't go out move out of the way. I
don't know whoever if you're listening
to this and you're like, "Jess, you're
not saying this right." Correct me. But
my cervix was in the way. They had to
put their hand up me while I'm pushing.
Now, let me tell you this. I will say
when it hurt like hell. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah,
>> for sure. But when I was allowed to push
during a contraction and no hand was at
me, I can see how you could get in the zone.
zone. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah,
>> you can do it. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah,
>> you can do it.
>> I was okay. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah,
>> it sucked. But I was okay. What I What I
wasn't okay with was when they were
trying to move my cervix out of the way
for Teddy to come out,
>> which apparently he was also weirdly positioned.
positioned.
>> Yeah. because she said, "This baby's
either huge or he's weirdly positioned."
And he was just weirdly positioned. Um,
and so that was what was really hard for
me. So, even if you didn't get the epidural,
epidural, >> yeah,
>> yeah,
>> your body your body will do it. You can
do it. You can tap in to that zone and
that mentality. I did not. What I would
say, what I failed to do was I was so
gung-ho about getting an epidural for
birth plan. Yeah,
>> that was my plan. >> And
>> And
when that I I just didn't think I would
not get an epidural. I thought I'd go in
too early and I'd be sent home. So, I
would get that epidural anyway. Don't do
what I did.
>> Yeah. Just have a plan.
>> Prepare yourself mentally that you might
not get that epidural if you're like proepad.
proepad. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> Yeah. And the other thing,
um, so when I had George, I just wanted
it to be me and Adam.
>> Mhm. Just me and Adam. I just wanted I
was saying And when I had Teddy, I was
like, "Oh, I just want mom to watch
George cuz I just feel like good about
cuz George has um, you know, mom has put
George to bed before when we've gone out
or something like that." I felt my
anxiety leaving my first at home was so
like I was so scared about that. But
knowing that he was with mom, it
completely calmed me. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> But I needed mom
>> in that delivery room this time. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> I wanted mom so bad. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah.
>> I'm like, if I do have this third baby,
>> frick, Adam could stay home. I just want
>> Yeah. Cuz I remember the first one. mom,
my our mom and and me were sleeping like
on in the on the bottom floor of the
hospital like waiting for Jess to have a
baby and she ended up just having it
with her husband and we're like a but I
was like you know what I get that but
then yeah like this time around
>> that I wanted that special Adam and I
>> but the option's nice if you can have
like I would want her to be in the
hospital for me to be like or but like I
would I think I would like to experience
it like you did like I didn't understand
it at the time I was Dude, but then I
was like, "No, that makes sense."
>> No. Well, like, right. And I just I was
just like, "No, man." And like we've had
this whole blah blah blah. And then the
second time around, I was like, "Be kind
of nice with mom, but like I it just
makes me feel so much more calm that
George is with >> with my with mom." And George could have
>> with my with mom." And George could have been with my in-laws, too. And I
been with my in-laws, too. And I wouldn't have felt so worried either.
wouldn't have felt so worried either. However, I was just like, "Oh, they've
However, I was just like, "Oh, they've never put him down for bed before." Cuz
never put him down for bed before." Cuz I never really gave them that
I never really gave them that opportunity. It's all on me. There's He
opportunity. It's all on me. There's He loves his grandma and grandpa.
loves his grandma and grandpa. >> You're right. But it was just
>> You're right. But it was just >> Yeah. And so like
>> Yeah. And so like >> if you do give birth to your first one
>> if you do give birth to your first one and you're like, I just want me and
and you're like, I just want me and Caleb for sure. But like
Caleb for sure. But like like coming off of me
like coming off of me Yeah. I uh I needed mom that second
Yeah. I uh I needed mom that second time.
time. >> That's fair. For sure. That's fair.
>> That's fair. For sure. That's fair. >> I wish you mom and I was like,
>> I wish you mom and I was like, >> so don't have a birth plan basically or
>> so don't have a birth plan basically or have one, but also have a plan B and C.
have one, but also have a plan B and C. >> Have one like Yeah. Like have one and
>> Have one like Yeah. Like have one and just being like um you want the baby to
just being like um you want the baby to get a healthy. Yes, I do want an
get a healthy. Yes, I do want an epidural if there's time for one,
epidural if there's time for one, whatever. I would just say mentally
whatever. I would just say mentally prepare yourself that the plan just
prepare yourself that the plan just doesn't go to plan all the time. Mhm.
doesn't go to plan all the time. Mhm. >> I have to be rolled. Like I was I was
>> I have to be rolled. Like I was I was screaming and I was like this close to
screaming and I was like this close to being like, "Give me a C-section."
being like, "Give me a C-section." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> I'm done. I'm done pushing. Yeah.
>> I'm done. I'm done pushing. Yeah. >> You can't get my cervix out of the way.
>> You can't get my cervix out of the way. Give me a C-section.
Give me a C-section. >> Yeah. Fair enough.
>> Yeah. Fair enough. >> Almost there. They're almost there. It
>> Almost there. They're almost there. It was And I don't know if any moms can
was And I don't know if any moms can relate to this, but I pushed out
relate to this, but I pushed out I pushed out Teddy.
I pushed out Teddy. And you know, people are like, "Oh my
And you know, people are like, "Oh my gosh." And then that feeling of when you
gosh." And then that feeling of when you finally push them out and you get your
finally push them out and you get your baby. No, I didn't have that.
baby. No, I didn't have that. >> Oh,
>> Oh, >> I pushed him out. I love my son. I
>> I pushed him out. I love my son. I pushed him out and I was like, "Somebody
pushed him out and I was like, "Somebody take him.
take him. >> Somebody take him to hold him. Just let
>> Somebody take him to hold him. Just let let me give me five."
let me give me five." >> Yeah, that's fair. I'm just gorilla
>> Yeah, that's fair. I'm just gorilla gripping my vagina right now. I just I
gripping my vagina right now. I just I can't even imagine this.
can't even imagine this. >> Give me five.
>> Give me five. >> And it was like, "No, no, no. Here's
>> And it was like, "No, no, no. Here's your baby, Jessica." And you're like,
your baby, Jessica." And you're like, >> "Uh, that's fair. You just need a
>> "Uh, that's fair. You just need a minute.
minute. >> You need a minute. And even when I had
>> You need a minute. And even when I had George, I was like, "What? This is my
George, I was like, "What? This is my baby." Okay. And then Yeah.
baby." Okay. And then Yeah. >> fall in love.
>> fall in love. >> Sure.
>> Sure. >> And like, but sometimes some women are
>> And like, but sometimes some women are like
like >> I don't blame the women that also like
>> I don't blame the women that also like they take like a month or so or
they take like a month or so or something.
something. I don't
I don't >> I'm not surprised. No,
>> I'm not surprised. No, >> it's so
>> it's so >> it's so crazy. Your hormones. your
>> it's so crazy. Your hormones. your hormones like
hormones like >> you're Yeah. Some people get baby blues.
>> you're Yeah. Some people get baby blues. Some people get postpartum depression,
Some people get postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety. I get it. I get it.
postpartum anxiety. I get it. I get it. There's people that go like that feel
There's people that go like that feel like they're going crazy. I get it. And
like they're going crazy. I get it. And I think
I think like I've been fortunate enough No, I
like I've been fortunate enough No, I have not had postpartum dep. I did not
have not had postpartum dep. I did not have it with George.
have it with George. >> Our Teddy and I were I'm I'm okay. Um,
>> Our Teddy and I were I'm I'm okay. Um, but it's it's a lot.
but it's it's a lot. >> And so you give birth and you're just
>> And so you give birth and you're just and it's all about the expectations. You
and it's all about the expectations. You give birth and they're just like,
give birth and they're just like, "Here's your baby.
"Here's your baby. >> You're a mom.
>> You're a mom. >> And you're like,
>> And you're like, >> I just like I just went through more."
>> I just like I just went through more." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Give me a minute.
>> Give me a minute. >> Just just a sec. Yeah. Just
>> Just just a sec. Yeah. Just >> Fair enough.
>> Fair enough. >> And they go, "Oh, by the way, we got to
>> And they go, "Oh, by the way, we got to deliver your placenta. Push a couple You
deliver your placenta. Push a couple You see? Yeah. The after. No. Why does
see? Yeah. The after. No. Why does nobody talk about that? How long does
nobody talk about that? How long does that take?
that take? >> Um, with George,
>> Um, with George, >> and then they got a push on your stomach
>> and then they got a push on your stomach and stuff. What's that?
and stuff. What's that? >> Oh, yeah. So, with George, it took like
>> Oh, yeah. So, with George, it took like half hour. Like, placenta's not coming.
half hour. Like, placenta's not coming. But I had the epidural, so I'm like,
But I had the epidural, so I'm like, whatever. With Teddy, it came within a
whatever. With Teddy, it came within a few pushes or whatever. They're like,
few pushes or whatever. They're like, can you push again? Can you push a
can you push again? Can you push a little bit? Okay. Um, Jess, we also need
little bit? Okay. Um, Jess, we also need to like give you like a stitch or two.
to like give you like a stitch or two. I'm like, can you put freezing down
I'm like, can you put freezing down there? Did they
there? Did they >> can you freeze? Yeah.
>> can you freeze? Yeah. >> Oh, thank God.
>> Oh, thank God. >> But I was like, what? I don't have an
>> But I was like, what? I don't have an epidural. Yeah, don't stitch me without
epidural. Yeah, don't stitch me without like I don't want to feel this. They're
like I don't want to feel this. They're like, well, freezing. Here's a needle.
like, well, freezing. Here's a needle. >> And you're like, okay.
>> And you're like, okay. >> And that's the thing, too. I faint when
>> And that's the thing, too. I faint when I get a needle, dude.
I get a needle, dude. >> So, when you faint when I
>> So, when you faint when I >> get a needle,
>> get a needle, >> if you want morphine, though,
>> if you want morphine, though, >> needle.
>> needle. >> Yeah. For me, it's really like big
>> Yeah. For me, it's really like big needle or
needle or >> or pushing a football out of my vagina.
>> or pushing a football out of my vagina. I'm like leaning towards football.
I'm like leaning towards football. >> I hate needles. Like I don't think
>> I hate needles. Like I don't think people understand. I cannot stand when
people understand. I cannot stand when something goes in. You don't see it's in
something goes in. You don't see it's in the back.
the back. >> I know. I've had a spinal tap before
>> I know. I've had a spinal tap before >> and I
>> and I >> But I didn't even feel it. I was like I
>> But I didn't even feel it. I was like I was I was
was I was >> even talking about them. I'm going to
>> even talking about them. I'm going to pass out.
pass out. >> Um yeah, that's fair. Yeah. I think at
>> Um yeah, that's fair. Yeah. I think at the moment when you're like experiencing
the moment when you're like experiencing so many contractions, you're just like,
so many contractions, you're just like, "Put it in me." I'm not against epidural
"Put it in me." I'm not against epidural either. Caleb's funny. Caleb was like,
either. Caleb's funny. Caleb was like, "For just for your peace of mind, I'll
"For just for your peace of mind, I'll get I'll get an epidural first so we
get I'll get an epidural first so we know and then we can both feel what it's
know and then we can both feel what it's like." I'm like, "That's very big of
like." I'm like, "That's very big of you. Thank you."
you. Thank you." He's joking, obviously.
He's joking, obviously. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. That would be
That would be >> I'm either going to like love him dearly
>> I'm either going to like love him dearly when I'm giving birth or I'm going to
when I'm giving birth or I'm going to like want to kill cuz he's he's going to
like want to kill cuz he's he's going to be like
be like >> what he's going to be cracking jokes and
>> what he's going to be cracking jokes and I'm going to be like
I'm going to be like >> oh Adam was like
>> oh Adam was like >> first we were chilling
>> first we were chilling >> first time we were chilling he's just he
>> first time we were chilling he's just he was my water boy. He kept giving me
was my water boy. He kept giving me water. He held a leg for me.
water. He held a leg for me. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> I said don't even look down there.
>> I said don't even look down there. >> Yeah. No, I think that Yeah. I'm like
>> Yeah. No, I think that Yeah. I'm like you stay right right up front. Second,
you stay right right up front. Second, >> Teddy,
>> Teddy, I don't know how many times he said
I don't know how many times he said this. It's all temporary. It's all
this. It's all temporary. It's all temporary. I think by the third time,
temporary. I think by the third time, like fifth time, I was like, "Shut up."
like fifth time, I was like, "Shut up." >> But he's he was trying so hard.
>> But he's he was trying so hard. >> I know. Yeah, that's the thing. I think
>> I know. Yeah, that's the thing. I think I think I'd have to Yeah, I'd have to go
I think I'd have to Yeah, I'd have to go into it being like, "What you're about
into it being like, "What you're about to experience isn't me. It's not your
to experience isn't me. It's not your wife. This will be a monster."
wife. This will be a monster." >> I was
>> I was And that's fair. And that's fair. I was
And that's fair. And that's fair. I was like, um, do you still like me? Like,
like, um, do you still like me? Like, >> yeah. Yeah. Um,
>> yeah. Yeah. Um, >> I know. I just gave birth and I just
>> I know. I just gave birth and I just turned into the exorcist, but am I still
turned into the exorcist, but am I still pretty?
pretty? >> Screaming, bro.
>> Screaming, bro. >> Who was that back there? That was crazy.
>> Who was that back there? That was crazy. Let's order sushi.
Let's order sushi. >> And then and then my my eye I broke like
>> And then and then my my eye I broke like a blood vessel.
a blood vessel. >> Yeah, you literally looked like you went
>> Yeah, you literally looked like you went through an exorcism.
through an exorcism. >> Took over my whole eye. And I was like
>> Took over my whole eye. And I was like just blood vessels broken. And then I I
just blood vessels broken. And then I I kept complimenting Adam being like,
kept complimenting Adam being like, "Thank you for looking at me normal. I
"Thank you for looking at me normal. I look at myself in the mirror and I
look at myself in the mirror and I forget that I have an eye like this."
forget that I have an eye like this." >> I know. I transformed into the Hulk back
>> I know. I transformed into the Hulk back there, but I swear
there, but I swear >> like Oh,
>> like Oh, >> yeah. Birth is scary. Your first one
>> yeah. Birth is scary. Your first one though, like they don't come that fast,
though, like they don't come that fast, so you should be able to be okay.
so you should be able to be okay. >> We'll see. I'm not I'm not going to I'm
>> We'll see. I'm not I'm not going to I'm going to have zero expectations, I
going to have zero expectations, I think, getting into it. I'm just be
think, getting into it. I'm just be like, "It's going to happen." And it's
like, "It's going to happen." And it's going to happen however it happens.
going to happen however it happens. >> If I do have the third one, the moment I
>> If I do have the third one, the moment I feel a contraction, I'm just going to go
it's okay." >> Yeah. Do it now for 20 years from now.
>> Yeah. Do it now for 20 years from now. >> Well, and then, you know, like I uh I
>> Well, and then, you know, like I uh I commend mom and dad, too, with like and
commend mom and dad, too, with like and like and my in-laws. It's like it's so
like and my in-laws. It's like it's so awesome that I want to be around them.
awesome that I want to be around them. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> And I'm like like Yeah. I could nitpick
>> And I'm like like Yeah. I could nitpick their parenting
their parenting >> things, whatever, all day, but at the
>> things, whatever, all day, but at the end they're winners because we're like,
end they're winners because we're like, "Mom, dad."
"Mom, dad." >> Yeah. Yeah. Exactly.
>> Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. >> I still need you. And you're like,
>> I still need you. And you're like, "Okay." Like the amount of times I like
"Okay." Like the amount of times I like I have two boys, right? And I'm like,
I have two boys, right? And I'm like, >> "I'm going to be the mother-in-law."
>> "I'm going to be the mother-in-law." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Yeah. You are.
>> Yeah. You are. >> No.
>> No. >> But I love my mother-in-law. Like my
>> But I love my mother-in-law. Like my mother and I my mother-in-law and I are
mother and I my mother-in-law and I are like very tight.
like very tight. >> And so I'm just taking notes. I'm like,
>> And so I'm just taking notes. I'm like, "Okay,
"Okay, >> great."
>> great." >> From what I can tell, as a
>> From what I can tell, as a mother-in-law, you got to cook.
mother-in-law, you got to cook. >> You got to cook.
>> You got to cook. >> Figure out.
>> Figure out. >> You got to get better. No, I'm just
>> You got to get better. No, I'm just kidding. I'm pretty good at cook.
kidding. I'm pretty good at cook. >> Come back to me.
>> Come back to me. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> And you always put the daughter-in-laws
>> And you always put the daughter-in-laws first. She will take my side
first. She will take my side >> every time. No matter how psycho I would
>> every time. No matter how psycho I would be.
be. >> She takes my side every time. So, if you
>> She takes my side every time. So, if you have boys, just know you got to be that
have boys, just know you got to be that mother-in-law.
mother-in-law. >> I'll be the saucy mother-in-law. I'll be
>> I'll be the saucy mother-in-law. I'll be like, "You be him. Let's go by
like, "You be him. Let's go by ourselves. Let's He did what?"
ourselves. Let's He did what?" >> Well, before I'm like, "My little
>> Well, before I'm like, "My little angels, my little boy." Like, even
angels, my little boy." Like, even George and Teddy sometimes I'm like,
George and Teddy sometimes I'm like, "When they're babies like this, you're
"When they're babies like this, you're like, "No." And they say having boys is
like, "No." And they say having boys is like the slowest breakup ever. I'm like,
like the slowest breakup ever. I'm like, >> "Oh my gosh,
>> "Oh my gosh, >> it's true." But then you're just like,
>> it's true." But then you're just like, but then you do what you can to just
but then you do what you can to just keep them in your life and whatever. But
keep them in your life and whatever. But it's just like
it's just like Yeah. But it's funny. George is two now
Yeah. But it's funny. George is two now and there's like It's so funny how I'm
and there's like It's so funny how I'm like I never thought that I would like
like I never thought that I would like really need a break from him.
really need a break from him. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> But I'm like,
>> But I'm like, >> "Mom, you said you'd be off at 4."
>> "Mom, you said you'd be off at 4." >> Yeah. He's aing menace.
>> Yeah. He's aing menace. >> Please
>> Please >> get him out of my life.
>> get him out of my life. >> Where are you?
>> Where are you? >> He's being toxic as right now. done at
>> He's being toxic as right now. done at 2:45 where so many moms have to wait
2:45 where so many moms have to wait till like 6:00 p.m. for their husbands
till like 6:00 p.m. for their husbands to get home.
to get home. >> It is like being in a toxic
>> It is like being in a toxic relationship. He like slaps you then
relationship. He like slaps you then kisses you.
kisses you. >> I said you and then he's like I love
>> I said you and then he's like I love you. Yeah, you did. I was like
you. Yeah, you did. I was like >> I think if you see that video there is a
>> I think if you see that video there is a dad being like, "Give me a kiss." And
dad being like, "Give me a kiss." And the toddler slaps his face and then he
the toddler slaps his face and then he goes kisses
goes kisses >> and I'm like wait that is so toxic and I
>> and I'm like wait that is so toxic and I love it. It's you're you have like it's
love it. It's you're you have like it's like you have Stockholm syndrome. Yeah.
like you have Stockholm syndrome. Yeah. >> Yeah. You're like whatever.
>> Yeah. You're like whatever. >> Yeah, that's all right.
>> Yeah, that's all right. >> No, I think Yeah. No, I think uh it
>> No, I think Yeah. No, I think uh it sounds fun. Sounds like a blast. Sounds
sounds fun. Sounds like a blast. Sounds horrifically horrible and also sounds
horrifically horrible and also sounds really fun.
really fun. >> You'll never feel love like you.
>> You'll never feel love like you. >> Yeah. And I believe that because I like
>> Yeah. And I believe that because I like the amount I love my nephews is like
the amount I love my nephews is like like the things I would do on their
like the things I would do on their behalf is abhorrent. Like I would do a
behalf is abhorrent. Like I would do a legal kill. I would murder for them.
legal kill. I would murder for them. >> Auntie will do anything for me.
>> Auntie will do anything for me. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> I would buy them uh a country if I could
>> I would buy them uh a country if I could like Yeah. So I can't even imagine.
like Yeah. So I can't even imagine. >> I remember even feeling like that. Like
>> I remember even feeling like that. Like I remember feeling like so much love for
I remember feeling like so much love for like like my students.
like like my students. >> Yeah. Yeah. Just kids in general. This
>> Yeah. Yeah. Just kids in general. This is just awesome.
is just awesome. >> You're like, you're like, I'm I'm going
>> You're like, you're like, I'm I'm going to love my kid even more than this now.
to love my kid even more than this now. I'm going to love more than this. What?
I'm going to love more than this. What? Hi. How? And then you have your like
Hi. How? And then you have your like >> Yeah. I was just hanging out with my my
>> Yeah. I was just hanging out with my my friend's baby two days ago and she's
friend's baby two days ago and she's like growing up and she's awesome and
like growing up and she's awesome and she just looks at me and she's like and
she just looks at me and she's like and I'm like want to eat your arm
I'm like want to eat your arm >> in the best way. Like I'm just like,
>> in the best way. Like I'm just like, "Oh, I just want to put you in my
"Oh, I just want to put you in my sweater." And just
sweater." And just >> Well, and like even my best friend, she
>> Well, and like even my best friend, she has her she has two kids. Um, but
has her she has two kids. Um, but Scotty, she's three
Scotty, she's three and uh like she is like like a niece to
and uh like she is like like a niece to me too.
me too. >> And so like what I feel for her, I'm
>> And so like what I feel for her, I'm just like this is so cool and I can't
just like this is so cool and I can't wait for my sisters and my brothers to
wait for my sisters and my brothers to have kids because we can just have a
have kids because we can just have a bunch of nieces and nephews and I'm
bunch of nieces and nephews and I'm going to have so many more kids. And I
going to have so many more kids. And I know
know >> like as the oldest I'm like as the
>> like as the oldest I'm like as the oldest having the first kids of the
oldest having the first kids of the family.
family. >> Yeah. I said to Adam, I'm like, "We have
>> Yeah. I said to Adam, I'm like, "We have an obligation here. We need to raise
an obligation here. We need to raise good kids."
good kids." >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Cousins,
>> Cousins, >> all of these other kids.
>> all of these other kids. >> Yep.
>> Yep. >> Cuz we're using our our the aunts and
>> Cuz we're using our our the aunts and the uncles and the grandparents. Like,
the uncles and the grandparents. Like, >> we're using them. They have free time
>> we're using them. They have free time for our kids. We're using them. So,
for our kids. We're using them. So, we're going to have to give them free
we're going to have to give them free time. Yeah.
time. Yeah. >> With our kids.
>> With our kids. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> Thing. So,
>> Thing. So, >> yeah. I mean, that pressure is not on
>> yeah. I mean, that pressure is not on you, but I understand the pressure. Oh,
you, but I understand the pressure. Oh, I'm gonna take that pressure because
I'm gonna take that pressure because you're going to need a break.
you're going to need a break. >> You're going to need a break.
>> You're going to need a break. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah, >> they need to go play.
>> they need to go play. >> I keep going.
>> I keep going. >> No, no, it's good. It's good. No, we
>> No, no, it's good. It's good. No, we went on for a long time. It's great.
went on for a long time. It's great. It's great.
It's great. >> I'm very excited.
>> I'm very excited. >> And and Teddy was great the whole time.
>> And and Teddy was great the whole time. How nice of him.
How nice of him. >> Newborns. We We can Our next segment we
>> Newborns. We We can Our next segment we can go.
can go. >> Let's talk about how awesome newborns
>> Let's talk about how awesome newborns are because they can't move and all they
are because they can't move and all they do is sleep and
do is sleep and >> Well,
>> Well, >> and scream. They scream.
>> and scream. They scream. >> Scream. They haven't learned how to
>> Scream. They haven't learned how to or toot, so you have to do it for
or toot, so you have to do it for them. So,
them. So, >> Right. Right.
>> Right. Right. >> And their sleep is Anyways. Yeah.
>> And their sleep is Anyways. Yeah. >> It's all about the baby.
>> It's all about the baby. >> That's fun.
>> That's fun. >> Yeah. Well, that's um Yeah.
>> Yeah. Well, that's um Yeah. >> I guess final question. If you can go
>> I guess final question. If you can go back knowing everything you know now,
back knowing everything you know now, would you would you do anything
would you would you do anything differently? Would you not do it?
differently? Would you not do it? And so forth.
And so forth. >> Do anything differently? Ah.
Um, >> if not that's totally fine.
>> if not that's totally fine. >> No, no, no. I think to do something
>> No, no, no. I think to do something differently,
differently, I probably would do not when I say
I probably would do not when I say reading, not like going through people's
reading, not like going through people's Tik Toks, like actual like reading.
Tik Toks, like actual like reading. >> Okay.
>> Okay. >> Reading a toddler book right now.
>> Reading a toddler book right now. >> Yeah. Reading like a toddler book right
>> Yeah. Reading like a toddler book right now. Like how to deal with toddlers cuz
now. Like how to deal with toddlers cuz my kids,
my kids, >> right? And all toddlers are. But
>> right? And all toddlers are. But the information that it gives you um yes
the information that it gives you um yes for sure it helps but the sense of
for sure it helps but the sense of confidence
confidence >> it gives you because you're doing the
>> it gives you because you're doing the extra work
extra work >> yourself
>> yourself >> it's I find that I'm slowly even like
>> it's I find that I'm slowly even like I've noticed in the last like few days
I've noticed in the last like few days yeah sure I'll still like snap at George
yeah sure I'll still like snap at George a little bit but like I'm starting to be
a little bit but like I'm starting to be like m it's like I have this texture
like m it's like I have this texture understanding It's like
understanding It's like >> that's fair.
>> that's fair. >> I can tap into something else. I feel
>> I can tap into something else. I feel more confident.
more confident. >> That's fair. Any recommendations?
>> That's fair. Any recommendations? >> Right now, I have this one that I'm
>> Right now, I have this one that I'm reading.
reading. Transforming toddlerhood.
Transforming toddlerhood. >> Essential guide for ages 1 to five. How
>> Essential guide for ages 1 to five. How to handle tantrums and power struggles
to handle tantrums and power struggles and raise resilient kids without losing
and raise resilient kids without losing your mind.
your mind. >> Oh, that's pretty good. It's pretty
>> Oh, that's pretty good. It's pretty good.
good. >> That's the one thing. But like like even
>> That's the one thing. But like like even if like I mean the information is it's
if like I mean the information is it's more just how you how you can deal with
more just how you how you can deal with stuff as a parent.
stuff as a parent. >> Just have that confidence to attack it a
>> Just have that confidence to attack it a little bit.
little bit. >> That's fair.
>> That's fair. >> That's fair.
>> That's fair. >> And the other thing differently um
>> And the other thing differently um don't expect anything with your kid.
don't expect anything with your kid. Don't expect that they'll be good
Don't expect that they'll be good eaters. Don't expect they'll be good
eaters. Don't expect they'll be good sleepers. Don't expect um uh
sleepers. Don't expect um uh >> expect the worst and then they'll be
>> expect the worst and then they'll be great.
great. >> Expect them to come out like the spawn
>> Expect them to come out like the spawn of Satan and then when they're not
of Satan and then when they're not >> days are days are long, years are short.
>> days are days are long, years are short. Take it day by day. Do the best you can
Take it day by day. Do the best you can do at that time. If you're going off
do at that time. If you're going off three hours of sleep, just do your best.
three hours of sleep, just do your best. Yeah.
Yeah. >> Don't get mad at yourself.
>> Don't get mad at yourself. >> That's fair.
>> That's fair. >> But would I do it again? In a heartbeat.
>> But would I do it again? In a heartbeat. >> Yeah.
>> Yeah. >> In a heartbeat. And even how hard it is
>> In a heartbeat. And even how hard it is now. I'm like, and how expensive it is,
now. I'm like, and how expensive it is, how crazy it is. I I
how crazy it is. I I >> Yeah. Yeah. I love it.
>> Yeah. Yeah. I love it. >> You feel fulfilled.
>> You feel fulfilled. >> Life,
>> Life, >> all right, I'll take this and
>> all right, I'll take this and >> be great. You're going to do great
>> be great. You're going to do great >> and I'll think about it more. If you
>> and I'll think about it more. If you thought this was like an announcement or
thought this was like an announcement or something, you're wrong. It's not.
something, you're wrong. It's not. >> It's not. I'm literally I'm This was
>> It's not. I'm literally I'm This was literally to convince me or not convince
literally to convince me or not convince me. I'm just kidding. But no, it's not
me. I'm just kidding. But no, it's not an announcement at all. just no, it's uh
an announcement at all. just no, it's uh I just see a lot of mom stuff lately and
I just see a lot of mom stuff lately and then I'm like, "Oh, my sister's a mom
then I'm like, "Oh, my sister's a mom and I talk to her every day." So, also,
and I talk to her every day." So, also, I didn't do this against her will, by
I didn't do this against her will, by the way. She was totally
the way. She was totally >> happy to talk about it.
>> happy to talk about it. >> Willing to do this. I think it was
>> Willing to do this. I think it was actually kind of therapeutic.
actually kind of therapeutic. >> You do become a mom. You um That's
>> You do become a mom. You um That's really all you talk about.
really all you talk about. >> Uh yeah, it'll become my personality.
>> Uh yeah, it'll become my personality. I'm fully ready for that. Like, what
I'm fully ready for that. Like, what else are you going to talk about? That's
else are you going to talk about? That's your day. That's like my content. All my
your day. That's like my content. All my content is now like about my nephew.
content is now like about my nephew. Nothing else goes on in my life. My
Nothing else goes on in my life. My husband or my nephew. So, I totally get
husband or my nephew. So, I totally get that. That's fair.
that. That's fair. >> It does become your personality. So,
>> It does become your personality. So, >> yeah, that's fine.
>> yeah, that's fine. >> All right.
>> All right. >> It's okay. Don't worry. Your village
>> It's okay. Don't worry. Your village will come to you. We'll come and see
will come to you. We'll come and see you.
you. >> Thank goodness.
>> Thank goodness. >> You'll be great.
>> You'll be great. >> Yeah, we'll see. Why do you keep saying
>> Yeah, we'll see. Why do you keep saying that? Like, I'm I'm not having a kid
that? Like, I'm I'm not having a kid right now, by the way.
right now, by the way. >> But I already know that you're going to
>> But I already know that you're going to have great
have great >> stand up. Show him your
>> stand up. Show him your >> now.
>> now. >> In whatever and however long you decide
>> In whatever and however long you decide to have.
to have. >> Yeah, we'll see. Maybe it's next year.
>> Yeah, we'll see. Maybe it's next year. Maybe it's 5 years from now. I have no
Maybe it's 5 years from now. I have no idea. Or not at all. We'll see. And you
idea. Or not at all. We'll see. And you guys will never know. I'll just show up
guys will never know. I'll just show up with a kid one day, but you will never
with a kid one day, but you will never see them.
see them. >> Yeah,
>> Yeah, >> I might already have one.
>> I might already have one. You don't know, you know. Anyway, thank
You don't know, you know. Anyway, thank you for doing this.
you for doing this. >> Thank you for having me.
>> Thank you for having me. >> And moms in the comments, be nice and
>> And moms in the comments, be nice and also help each other out. Let's make it
also help each other out. Let's make it a nice safe space to talk about being a
a nice safe space to talk about being a mom and the struggles and all that. And
mom and the struggles and all that. And try to convince me in the comments or
try to convince me in the comments or not. Just talk about whatever you want
not. Just talk about whatever you want in the comments. Yeah.
in the comments. Yeah. >> And if you're mean to my sister, I'll
>> And if you're mean to my sister, I'll hunt you down and I will
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