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Welcome everyone. Today you're not just
watching a video. You're entering a
classroom that no one taught you in
school. A place where we fix something
that quietly controls every part of your
life. Your communication.
Because in life, the way you speak
decides how far you go. You can have
talent, intelligence, and hard work, but
if you don't know how to express,
influence, and connect with people,
you'll always feel invisible. You've
probably experienced it. You say
something and no one listens. You have
an idea, but someone else gets the
credit. You enter a room and feel small,
quiet, awkward. You avoid meetings,
parties, or job interviews because
you're not sure how to talk. And when
you do speak, you either freeze, talk
too fast, say the wrong thing, or feel
like no one cares. You're not alone.
Communication is not just about talking.
It's about knowing how to say something
in a way that makes people stop, listen,
and remember.
It's about learning the advanced
techniques that the most confident,
powerful, and influential people use,
even if they never told you how.
That's what today is all about. You're
going to learn 12 advanced communication techniques,
techniques,
not the common tips like make eye
contact or speak clearly.
No, you're going to learn how to control
conversations, build instant trust,
influence people, sound smarter, and be
remembered. And even better, each
technique is explained in simple English
so you can practice speaking smarter
while you also learn powerful life
skills. This video is your speaking
class, your confidence coach, and your
social advantage all in one. So stay
till the end. This might be the video
that changes how people see you, how you
feel about your voice, and how far you
go in life. Let's begin. Technique one,
you communication.
Most people talk about themselves.
Smart communicators
talk about you. Let me show you
something powerful. Imagine two people
trying to say the same thing. Person A
says, "I've created a great product and
I think it's really smart and helpful."
Person B says, "You're going to love
this. It saves you time, gives you peace
of mind, and makes your work easier."
Same message, but one is about me and
the other is about you. Which one feels
more attractive, more personal, more relevant?
relevant?
Obviously, the second one. That's the
power of you communication.
The moment you shift your focus from I
to you, your words become magnetic.
Psychologically, we are all self-focused
creatures. Our brains are wired to
notice things that relate to us. So,
when someone talks in a way that
reflects our needs, our desires, our
fears, our emotions,
we automatically pay more attention.
Most people say, "I want to tell you something.
something.
I've been thinking about this.
I think this will work."
But the person listening doesn't care
what you think until you show them how
it matters to them.
Advanced communicators flip the script.
They say, "You're going to want to hear this.
this.
This might save you from a mistake.
This could make your life easier.
They always start from the listener's
world, not their own. Imagine you're
applying for a job. Average candidate
says in the interview.
I've worked in digital marketing for 4
years. I know how to run ads, write
copy, and manage campaigns.
Sounds okay, but it's all about me. Now,
here's a better way. Using you communication
communication
with your company's focus on customer
engagement. I can help you grow your
brand by creating ad campaigns that
speak directly to your audience's
emotions and drive more people to your platform.
platform.
Same person, same experience, but one
talks about the company, the other talks
about themselves. Which one gets
remembered? The one that speaks about
you. This technique is not just for
interviews. You can use it anytime you
speak. In texting or messaging, instead
of I'm free to meet, say you can pick
any time that's easy for you. In giving
advice, instead of I think you should
exercise more, say you might feel more
energetic if you move a bit each day. in
business or presentations. Instead of,
"We built this product with great
features," say, "You'll find this tool
helps you save hours every week." In
relationships, instead of, "I'm hurt
because you didn't call me," say, "You
might not realize it, but your silence
made me feel unwanted."
This is not manipulation.
This is communication with awareness
where you understand that your message
is only powerful when the other person
feels connected to it. How to master
this technique? Record yourself speaking
for one to two minutes about a topic you
love. Listen to how many times you said
I, me, or my. Now repeat it, but every
time shift the focus to the listener.
Say you, your you love instead. Do this
every day for one week. Your brain will
naturally start changing how you speak.
People will feel like this person gets
me. This person is thoughtful. This
person knows how to speak.
You won't just sound better.
You'll become someone people like,
trust, and want to hear more from.
Because in a world full of I I I
the person who speaks about you becomes
unforgettable. The pariting technique.
There is one thing people secretly want
more than love, more than success,
even more than money, and that is to be
heard. Most people don't listen. They
wait for their turn to speak. They interrupt.
interrupt.
They finish your sentences.
They offer advice too quickly.
They change the subject.
But when you become the one person who
truly listens, not just with your ears,
but with your attention,
people will open up to you like a book.
And here's the simplest, smartest
technique to do that. It's called
paring. It's when you repeat the last
one to three words the other person just
said in a curious, interested tone. You
don't change their words. You don't add
your opinion. You simply mirror them
like a parrot. It sounds too simple, but
it works like magic. Imagine this.
Someone says, "I just feel exhausted
after work these days." And you respond
with, "Exhausted after work?" Now watch
what happens. They reply, "Yeah, it's
like I don't even get time to relax. By
the time I'm done, I'm already thinking
about the next day." You say, "Already
thinking about the next day." They go
on. Exactly. It's this neverending loop.
No space to breathe. You didn't give
advice. You didn't talk about your day.
You didn't say, "I understand." Or,
"That's tough." You just pared their
last words and yet they opened up more,
went deeper, and trusted you. Because
here's the secret. When you repeat
someone's words, it shows them you're
truly listening.
It makes them feel important and it
gently encourages them to go deeper into
their own thoughts.
The human brain is designed to seek understanding.
understanding.
When someone hears their own words back,
it creates a sense of safety.
It tells their subconscious,
"This person is not judging. They're
here with me." It also gives them space
to expand their thoughts.
And when people open up more, they
connect more.
This is how great therapists work. This
is how top negotiators handle conflict.
This is how emotionally intelligent
people build relationships.
And now
this can be your skill too. In
relationships, your partner says, "I
feel like you don't listen to me."
Sometimes you say, "Don't listen to
you." Watch how they start explaining
more and feel safer doing so. In
friendships, friend says, "I'm just
tired of pretending everything's okay."
You say pretending everything's okay.
They feel invited to tell the truth and
you become their real friend. In
business or sales, client says, "I'm
worried about the cost." You say,
"Worried about the cost?" They explain
their concern. And now you can respond
with real understanding.
In job interviews, interviewer says,
"We're looking for someone who works
well under pressure." You say, "Works
well under pressure." Now, they'll tell
you exactly what that means, and you can
shape your answer better. Don't sound
robotic. Make it natural, like you're
curious. Use your tone. Say it like a
question, not like a copy machine. Don't
overuse. Use it when the person seems
emotional or thoughtful. Don't repeat
everything. Pair it with eye contact and
silence. Let the person fill the space.
Don't jump in too quickly. How to
practice? Watch a podcast or a
conversation scene from a movie. Pause
after every sentence and repeat the last
three words out loud. Listen to how it
sounds. Adjust your tone to be gentle,
warm, and curious.
Try it in real life,
especially when someone is sharing a
feeling or concern.
Most people think you need to talk more
to connect, but actually you need to
listen smarter. Paritting is your way to
listen actively, deeply, and powerfully
without long speeches or fake nods. The
more someone talks to you, the more they
trust you. And trust is the first step
to influence.
If you master this one simple technique,
people will start saying, "I don't know
why, but I feel like I can talk to you
about anything."
And that's when you know your
communication is now a superpower.
The story hook technique.
Let me ask you a question. When you
think about the most powerful speeches
you've heard, do you remember the facts
they gave or do you remember the stories
they told? It's always the stories.
Because the human brain is not designed
to remember data.
It's designed to feel. That's why great
communicators don't start with numbers.
They start with a story. They don't say
studies show that 68% of people fail in
their goals.
They say last year my best friend gave
up on his dream of becoming a writer.
Not because he wasn't good enough, but
because no one believed in him, not even
himself. And now you're listening. Not
to a fact, but to a feeling. That's the
power of a story hook. What is a story
hook? It's a short, emotional, real, or
imagined story that grabs attention at
the start of your sentence and then
leads into your message. It doesn't have
to be dramatic. It just has to be real,
human, and relatable. The goal is
simple. Make them feel before you make
them think. Business pitch bad. Our
product improves efficiency by 37%.
Business pitch. Good. A few months ago,
a client told me he missed his
daughter's school play because he was
stuck fixing reports. We created this
tool so that never happens again.
Motivational talk bad. Success takes
discipline and focus.
Motivational talk good. When I was 22, I
used to lie in bed until noon, scrolling
on my phone and hating my life. I
changed everything and it started with
one promise. English learning bad
vocabulary is important for fluency.
English learning good.
Last week, someone told me they stopped
a job interview halfway because they
didn't know the English word for responsibility.
responsibility.
That's why vocabulary is not optional.
Do you see the difference? One gives you
information, the other gives you connection.
connection.
Stories activate multiple parts of the
brain, not just language, but emotion,
vision, memory, and empathy. When you
tell a story, the listener is no longer
just listening. They're imagining.
They're feeling.
They're with you. This makes your
message unforgettable
and impossible to ignore.
When to use story hooks? At the
beginning of a presentation,
start with a 20- secondond personal
story that ties into your topic. In a
one-on-one conversation,
use a small experience from your life to
explain a bigger idea. On social media
or YouTube, begin your video with a real
moment, not a headline. In teaching or
training, every concept becomes easier
when there's a story behind it. How to
master this technique? Think of five
small stories from your life. A mistake,
a moment of courage, an emotional day, a
failure, a funny experience.
Practice telling them in 20 to 30
seconds. Just the essence. Then connect
them to a lesson, a product, an idea, or
a message.
Over time, your brain will naturally
start thinking in stories.
And that's when your communication
becomes 10 times more powerful. Everyone
talks, but very few move people. If you
want to lead, inspire, sell, teach, or
connect, you must learn how to tell
stories. Because stories are not just
words. They are windows. They are
mirrors. They are bridges. And the one
who masters stories masters attention.
Mast's influence. Masters human connection.
connection.
Four. Energy matching. Have you ever met
someone who was too loud, too excited,
or too flat, and it made you instantly uncomfortable?
uncomfortable?
It's not that they were a bad person.
They just didn't match your energy. In
communication, energy is everything.
It's not just what you say, but how your
tone, pace, volume, and body language
feel to the other person.
That feeling decides whether they trust
you or not, whether they feel connected
or disconnected,
whether they listen or walk away. And
here's the technique that advanced
communicators use without even realizing
it. Energy matching. It's the ability to
observe the other person's energy and
adjust your own energy to mirror theirs,
especially in the beginning of a conversation.
conversation.
It doesn't mean becoming fake. It means
becoming attuned. It means being
emotionally intelligent.
Because here's the truth. People trust
people who feel like them. Not like a
robot. Not like a performer. like them.
Let's say you walk into a room for an
interview. You're full of energy,
confident, smiling, but the interviewer
is calm, slow speaking, controlled. If
you walk in loud, fast-talking, overly
enthusiastic, they might see you as
immature or too much. But if you match
their energy, calm, thoughtful,
composed, they will feel you're like
them. Now, what if you're giving a
motivational talk to students who are
excited, playful, and high energy?
If you start too soft, too serious, too
slow, they'll tune out. But if you start
with high energy, storytelling, and
laughter, they'll engage immediately.
It's all about matching the rhythm of
the room, then leading it forward. Our
brains are wired for mirroring.
When someone moves like us, talks like
us, or feels like us, we see them as
familiar and safe, it's a survival
instinct. And great communicators use it
to create instant connection without
saying a word. When you match someone's
energy, they feel understood. They feel
respected. They open up. They follow
your lead. And once trust is built, you
can slowly shift the energy to wherever
you want it to go. In conversations,
friend is sad, speak slower, softer, and
sit quietly before talking. Friend is
excited. Be expressive. Open your body
language. Raise your tone slightly. In
sales or business, client is analytical
and quiet. Speak in facts. Keep calm
tone. Client is expressive and
energetic. Use visual words. Move hands.
Raise volume a bit. In dating or
socializing. You're at a quiet cafe with
someone thoughtful. Don't shout stories.
Lean in and lower your tone. You're at a
party with someone playful. Match their
fun, quick, high energy vibe.
In teaching or public speaking
if audience is cold, don't force energy
on them.
Start where they are.
Use gentle humor. Then slowly build
energy. How to practice energy matching.
Observe. Before speaking, look at the
person's face, body, and voice. Match.
Speak with the same volume, tone, and
pace for the first few lines.
Lead. Once connection is built, shift
the energy to your natural rhythm. Reflect.
Reflect.
After the talk, ask, "Did I feel aligned
or did I push too hard?" Over time, this
becomes natural. You become a master of
emotional timing. Energy is the language
behind the words. When you understand
it, when you use it, when you respect
it, people won't just hear your words.
They'll feel them. This is what great
leaders, therapists, speakers, and
friends do. They don't force their
energy onto others. They match, then
guide. Do this, and you'll never be too
much or too little for anyone. You'll
always be just right because you'll
become what the moment needs. And that
is the highest level of communication.
Five, the call back technique. Here's a
secret no one tells you. The most
powerful person in a conversation is the
one who remembers.
Because most people forget. They forget
what you said yesterday.
They forget the story you told last week.
week.
They forget your goals, your struggles,
your opinions.
But the few people who remember, who
bring your words back later, who show
you, I was listening, I cared, those
people become unforgettable.
That's the call back technique. It's
when you intentionally bring back
something the other person said earlier,
in a later part of the conversation, or
even in a different conversation
entirely. It could be a word or phrase
they used, a story they told, a feeling
they shared, a joke they made, a goal
they mentioned. When you reference it
back, it creates a moment of magic. They
smile. They feel seen. They feel like,
"Wow, you actually listened." You meet a
coworker on Monday. They casually say,
"I've been trying to wake up earlier,
but I'm failing badly.
You don't give advice. You just smile."
Then on Friday, you're walking together,
and you say, "By the way, how's the
early morning mission going?" Boom. They
feel noticed. They laugh. They open up.
You didn't do anything special except
remember. In a job interview, the
interviewer says in the beginning,
"We've been focused a lot on improving
team culture recently."
Now, near the end of the interview, you
say, "Since team culture is important to
you, I'd love to share some ways I've
helped build team trust in my last role."
role."
This shows you listened, understood the
value, and adapted your answer to it.
It's impressive without trying to
impress because in a fast world,
everyone feels forgotten. People talk,
but no one listens deeply. They share
but feel invisible. The call back
technique breaks that pattern. It says,
"I was really here with you." It says,
"What you said mattered to me." That
kind of respect builds trust, loyalty,
emotional safety, deeper connection.
Whether it's business, friendship,
leadership, or love. This is how you
rise. Train your memory. After every
meeting, write down one to two things
the person said. Use their exact words.
Store it. Repeat it back naturally later.
later.
Last time you mentioned you were
struggling with focus. How's that going
now? Use it in presentations.
Bring back a joke or phrase from earlier
in the talk to create laughter or
emotional closure.
Use it in sales and interviews.
Reference the clients or employer's
goals using their language, not yours.
partner says, "Last week, I've been
craving street style tacos all week."
Then two weeks later, you surprise them
with tacos and say, "I remembered
someone was having a taco dream lately."
This small gesture feels like love
because it is. Love is remembering.
Connection is remembering. The best
communicators don't talk the most. They
listen the best. They hold on to what
others throw away.
And then when the moment is right, they
bring it back like a gift.
Do this and people will feel more
connected to you in one conversation.
Then they feel with others after months
because when you remember someone's words,
words,
they remember you. Six. The sweetest
sound. Let me tell you something that
sounds simple but holds enormous power.
A person's name is the most powerful
sound in the world to them.
Think about it. Since the day we were
born, our name has been used to comfort
us, to discipline us, to love us, to
recognize us, to define us. Our name is
more than a label. It's our identity,
our self-worth, our ego, our presence.
And when someone uses it with care,
warmth, and authenticity, we feel seen.
We feel respected. We feel connected.
That's why this technique works so
powerfully, even though it sounds so
simple. It's the intentional use of a
person's name during conversations
in a way that feels genuine, creates
attention, builds trust, establishes
deeper emotional connection. It's not
about using someone's name too much.
It's about using it right at the right
moment in the right tone. Because used
wrong, it sounds like manipulation. Used
right, it feels like magic. When someone
says your name, your brain pays extra
attention. Your emotions feel personally
involved. Your subconscious feels this
is about me. Your dopamine level rises
just like when you hear a compliment.
That's why even in a crowded room, you
immediately turn your head when someone
says your name. It cuts through the
noise. Names are anchors. They create
emotional presence.
They pull people into the moment in business.
business.
Imagine you're buying a car. You say,
"I'm worried about the fuel economy."
The saleserson says, "I understand, but
I think this car will surprise you."
Now, compare that to, "I understand,
Tom, but I think this car will really
surprise you." Even just once, saying
your name changes everything. It feels
more personal, more respectful, more
engaging. In relationships, you're
texting your partner. Instead of saying,
"I miss you."
Say, "I miss you, Emily." It hits
deeper. It's not just, "I miss someone."
It's, "I miss you as you are." It's not
poetry. It's emotional precision. In
leadership or teaching, you're running a
meeting or giving a presentation.
You could say, "Does anyone have any ideas?"
ideas?"
Or you could say, "Ali, what's your take
on this?" Even if Ali doesn't have a
ready answer, he feels respected because
you trusted him, not just someone and
others notice it, too. Seven, don't just
say thank you, say why. Everyone says
thank you. It's polite, it's short, it's
common. But here's the problem. It often
feels empty. It's automatic. It's quick.
It doesn't carry emotion or meaning. But
when you take just five more seconds to
say why you're thankful,
you don't just show gratitude.
You show depth, awareness, and emotional intelligence.
intelligence.
This is what great communicators do.
When you explain why you're thankful, it
makes your words feel real. It tells the
person they're valued for something
meaningful. It shows that you noticed
their effort, not just the result. In
other words, it makes people feel seen
and respected.
In friendship, instead of, "Thanks for
being there," say, "Thank you for
listening to me yesterday. I was feeling
overwhelmed and your calmness gave me
peace I really needed." Now that's unforgettable.
unforgettable.
In workplaces, instead of thanks for
your help, say thank you for handling
the client call today. Your confidence
made the whole team feel secure.
This builds trust, loyalty, and motivation.
motivation.
Especially if you're a leader in
romantic relationships, instead of,
"Thanks for cooking," say, "Thank you
for making dinner tonight. I know you
were tired and it made me feel really
cared for. Now that's not just
gratitude. That's connection
in teaching mentorship or collaboration.
Instead of
thanks for the advice, say thank you for
that advice on structuring my speech.
Your words helped me speak with so much
more clarity and confidence. This builds
stronger, more human relationships.
How to use this in your life. The next
time someone does something kind, stop
and ask, "Why did that matter to me?"
Use their name if appropriate. Say your
thank you out loud or send it as a
message or even in writing. What it
creates. Emotional memory. They'll
remember your words. Deeper trust. You
become someone who doesn't take people
for granted.
Positive habit. You train yourself to
notice value in others. Increased influence.
influence.
People want to help you again. Better communication.
communication.
Your compliments stop being generic and
start being real. Thank you is good. But
thank you because is unforgettable. It
tells someone you matter. Your effort
mattered. Your kindness didn't go
unnoticed. And the truth is most people
don't hear that enough.
When you start adding reasons to your
gratitude, you don't just become a
better communicator.
You become someone others feel safe with.
with.
And that is one of the highest levels of
human influence. Eight, the humor
switch. Let's be honest. Most people are
afraid to speak not because they don't
have words, but because they fear
judgment, awkwardness, or making a
mistake. And most conversations,
especially serious ones, are full of
tension. Awkward silences, power
dynamics, social anxiety, emotional
stress, overthinking everything. But
there is one tool that instantly cuts
through all of that. It brings oxygen
into a dying conversation. It melts
resistance. It makes people breathe,
laugh, connect, and open up. That tool
is called the humor switch. It's the
ability to drop a light, welltimed
moment of humor into a conversation.
Not to make people laugh like a
comedian, but to make them relax like a
friend. It's not about being funny. It's
about being human. It's about
recognizing when the moment is getting
too heavy, too serious, or too robotic
and gently flipping the energy. It
builds trust. When people laugh, they
let their guard down. It shows confidence.
confidence.
Only relaxed people can joke during
pressure. It creates emotional safety.
The room feels more open and forgiving.
It makes you memorable. People remember
how you made them feel. It improves listening.
listening.
Laughter resets the brain's attention
clock. In short, humor makes you feel
real. And being real is what makes you
powerful. Don't try to be funny. Try to
be light, natural. Observe comedians,
not their jokes, but their timing and
tone. Prepare three to four safe, smart,
situation-based oneliners you can use.
Use humor when there's silence. The
other person is tense. You're
introducing a difficult topic. You want
to show confidence without arrogance.
Avoid these.
Sarcasm, often misunderstood.
Jokes about others can feel like attacks.
attacks.
Dark humor. Not everyone gets it. Too
many jokes. You'll lose respect if you
become a clown. This is a humor switch,
not a standup comedy routine. Use it
with timing, respect, and warmth. When
you make someone smile during a
stressful moment,
they never forget it because you gave
them something rare.
Not just your words, not just your
knowledge, but your comfort and your
humanity. The humor switch isn't about
being clever. It's about being safe,
warm, real, when people need it most.
Master this and you'll never be
forgotten in a room again.
Nine, the broken record technique. Stay calm.
calm.
Stay clear. Repeat your truth until they
hear it.
Have you ever had to say no, but people
kept pushing? Have you ever tried to
explain yourself, but they interrupted
again and again? Have you ever been in a
situation where no one seemed to respect
your boundary?
Here's what most people do. They get
emotional. They get louder. They give
in. Or they walk away frustrated.
But the best communicators do something different.
different.
They use the broken record technique.
It's a calm, controlled method of
repeating your key message word for word
over and over again. No matter how many
times someone tries to argue, interrupt,
or change the topic, it's called broken
record because you sound like a song
repeating the same line.
But instead of being annoying,
it becomes powerful.
Because in difficult conversations,
consistency beats cleverness. Saying no
politely but firmly, friend. Come on,
just skip the gym today and hang out.
You, I've made a commitment to my health
and I'm keeping it, friend. But it's
just one day. You. I've made a
commitment to my health and I'm keeping
it. Friend, don't be so serious.
You, I've made a commitment to my health
and I'm keeping it. Eventually, they
stop. Not because you argued harder, but
because you stood firm with calm repetition.
repetition.
In a workplace conflict. Boss, can you
stay late again today?
You I'm not available after 6 today.
Boss, it's just for this one client. You
I'm not available after 6 today. Boss,
we really need this. You I understand,
but I'm not available after 6 today. Now
you've set a professional boundary with
peace, not panic. It avoids escalation.
You're not shouting, you're repeating.
It signals control.
You don't lose emotional balance. It
keeps the message clear. You're not
dragged into side arguments. It commands respect.
respect.
People realize you're serious. This is
the quiet power of assertiveness.
Before the conversation, decide your key
sentence. It should be short, clear, and
calm. Example, I don't feel comfortable
doing that. I need more time to think.
Let's continue this conversation when
we're both calm. That's not something I
agree with. Practice saying it with a
neutral tone. No anger, no weakness,
just clarity. When challenged, repeat
the same sentence. Don't add emotion.
After three to four repetitions, pause.
Look them in the eye. Stay silent. Let
your calmness do the work. You don't
need to be louder. You don't need to
explain everything. You just need to
hold your line with dignity and
strength. The world respects the calm
voice that doesn't shake. The message
that doesn't change. The person who
says, "This is my truth. I don't need to
convince you. I just need to stand in
it." That's what the broken record
technique gives you. Not drama, not
chaos, but power through repetition. 10.
Use other person's vocabulary.
Let me tell you the truth. Most people
don't listen to your words. They listen
to what these words feel like to them.
And here's the problem.
Even if you're saying something helpful,
smart, or kind, if your words don't
match their world, they won't trust you.
They won't feel like you get it. They'll
feel like you're speaking a different language,
language,
even if you're speaking English.
That's why the most advanced
communicators use this powerful technique.
technique.
They mirror the other person's vocabulary.
vocabulary.
They don't use the words they prefer.
They use the words you prefer.
And that makes all the difference.
It's the ability to notice how the other
person speaks, the exact words they use.
Then mirror back those same words or
close versions during your response or
followup. When you use someone's
vocabulary, they feel heard. They feel
seen. They feel like you're one of us.
They trust you more, often without
realizing why. Imagine this. Your
manager says, "I want this campaign to
feel clean, bold, and fearless. No
clutter, no confusion."
Now, during your presentation, you say,
"So, I've kept the layout clean, the
colors bold, and the messaging fearless,
just like you mentioned."
Boom. You've just mirrored their vocabulary.
vocabulary.
And now they feel respected, understood,
and aligned with you. If you had said,
"So, I designed it to be sharp and strong,"
strong,"
they might understand it, but it
wouldn't hit their brain the same way
because you changed the words.
People don't just communicate with words.
words.
They communicate with symbols, emotions,
culture, and thinking styles. And their
vocabulary is a window into that. When
you speak using their words, you are
matching their mindset, reflecting their
priorities, creating subconscious
comfort. In psychology, this is called
verbal mirroring, and it's often used by
FBI negotiators, sales professionals,
therapists, top influencers.
It's powerful because it creates
belonging. Your partner says, "I just
want peace. I don't like drama. I like
when things are calm.
Later you say, I want to protect that
peace for you. I want things between us
to stay calm like you said. Now it's not
just love. It's love in their language.
And that is much stronger than generic
love. Client says, "I'm looking for
something that's lowmaintenance. I don't
want to constantly babysit the software.
Later during your pitch, you say, "This
system is designed to be lowmaintenance.
It runs on autopilot, so no babysitting
needed." The moment you say, "No
babysitting," they smile because that
was their word, not yours. And you just
told them, "I was listening." Listen
carefully to how people describe their
experiences, emotions, or needs. Do they
say, "I feel overwhelmed," or, "I'm
drowning," or "It's too much." Each
version gives you clues about their
thinking style. When you respond, try to
mirror their main words. If they say
exhausted, don't say tired.
Say exhausted.
If they say pumped, don't say excited,
say pumped.
If they say locked in, don't say focused.
focused.
Say locked in. Use their words again
later, especially when giving feedback,
expressing care, explaining something,
reminding them of a goal. In interviews,
use the company's language to show
culture fit. In dating, use emotional
vocabulary your partner understands.
In friendships, reflect back their
emotional phrases for deeper connection.
In customer service, speak like your
customer, not like a script. In English
learning, when someone uses a word,
reuse it in your reply to show alignment
and practice. This is not copying, it's adapting.
adapting.
Use sparingly.
Don't mirror every word or you'll sound unnatural.
unnatural.
If they use incorrect English, you can
still mirror tone or feeling without
repeating grammar mistakes.
Don't force it. Choose words that feel
true to you, but familiar to them. The
best communicators are not the ones who
speak the most.
They are the ones who speak in your language.
language.
Because when someone hears their own
vocabulary coming back to them, they
don't just feel heard, they feel like
this person is just like me. And that is
how you create instant trust. 11. Latest
news for conversation.
Let's be honest, small talk is awkward.
Most people hate it. They don't know
what to say. They end up asking the same
boring questions. How's the weather?
What do you do? Been busy lately?
Nice day, right? And the conversation
dies before it starts. But smart
communicators have a secret weapon.
They use the latest news, trends, or
viral moments as entry points for real conversation.
conversation.
This is called the latest news for
conversation technique
and it's one of the most practical,
evergreen, and useful strategies in the world.
world.
Because here's the truth. People love to
talk about things they're already
thinking about.
And nothing gets attention like what's
happening now. It's the art of bringing
a recent event, pop culture moment,
social trend, or news update into your conversation.
conversation.
Not to debate or gossip, but to start a
real, interesting, human conversation
that makes you sound informed, modern,
and engaging. It creates instant connection.
connection.
Oh, yeah. I saw that, too.
It bypasses awkwardness. You're not
trying to think of something to say. It
shows awareness. You're not stuck in
your own bubble. It makes you relevant.
People want to talk to those who know
what's happening. It reveals values.
Reactions to news open the door to
deeper topics. Spend 5 minutes a day
skimming news headlines or trending
topics. Pick two to three stories you
find interesting or useful.
Think what human question can I ask
around this? Use that as a soft intro
when you meet someone instead of so what
do you do? Try. Have you seen how AI is
changing hiring these days? Makes me
wonder how interviews will look in 5 years.
years.
You'll be shocked how many people lean
in and say, "Oh yeah, I saw that.
Wow, I didn't hear about that. Tell me
more. Yeah, and here's what I think. And
that's it. You've started real
connection. Never use news to brag or
act like a know-it-all. Avoid sensitive
or controversial topics unless you know
the person well. Ask open-ended
questions, not just facts. Focus on
relatable angles, not just headlines.
Keep it conversational, not preachy or
one-sided. The world is moving fast and
so are people's attention spans. If you
want to stay relevant, if you want to
walk into any room and connect
instantly, if you want to avoid awkward
silences and forgettable small talk,
learn to use what's happening today to
create connection right now.
Because communication is not just about words.
words.
It's about staying awake, staying aware,
and bringing the world into the
conversation so that people feel talking
to you just feels real. 12. Strategic
pauses. Silence is not empty. It's full
of power. Use it to speak without words.
When was the last time someone paused
before answering you? Really paused? Not
because they were lost, but because they
were choosing their words or letting
something they said sink in or holding space
space
so you could feel the moment. You see,
we live in a world where people are in a
rush to speak. We interrupt. We fill
every silence with noise. We talk over
each other, afraid to be misunderstood
or forgotten. But the greatest
communicators know something the rest of
the world forgets.
Sometimes saying nothing speaks louder
than anything.
That's the power of the strategic pause.
A strategic pause is when you
intentionally stop speaking. Not because
you don't know what to say, but because
you want to add weight to your words.
Build suspense. Give space for emotion.
Force the listener to focus. Show
confidence through control. Let your
words echo. A pause is like a
highlighter in sound form. It tells the
listener. This matters. Slow down. Feel
it. Pauses create attention. Silence
grabs the listener's brain. It makes
people lean in. In a noisy world,
stillness is magnetic. Pauses show
confidence. When you're not rushing to
speak, you appear calm, powerful, and
thoughtful. Weak speakers fear silence.
Strong speakers use it as a tool. Pauses
make emotion visible. When you pause
after an emotional sentence, the
listener feels it more. You're not just
saying words, you're creating moments.
Pauses give space to think. in sales, in
negotiation, in coaching. A pause gives
the other person time to process. It
shows you're listening and that this is
not a performance. It's a real connection.
connection.
Let's say you're telling a powerful
story. You say, "He looked at me after
everything that happened
and said you were right."
If you rush that, it means nothing. But
if you pause before and after and said,
the audience's heart opens. They feel
the power of the moment like they're
there with you. In a job interview, they
ask, "Why do you want this role?" You
pause, you breathe, then you say,
"Because I don't just want to work. I
want to build something that matters."
That pause before build turns your
answer into a statement, not just a
reply. In a difficult conversation,
you're with someone who's hurt you. You
say, "I'm not here to blame you, but I
need you to know that moment broke
something in me." The pause between
those sentences is what delivers the
pain, the truth, and the humanity of
what you're saying. Words can touch the
mind, but silence reaches the soul. In
presentations and speeches, in
interviews or negotiations, in arguments
or emotional talks, in romantic
conversations, when telling stories,
when giving advice, even in daily
English conversations
to sound clearer, calmer, and more
confident. Don't pause too long or
you'll lose the listener. Don't make it
dramatic, just authentic. Don't explain
your pause. Let it speak for itself.
Don't fear silence.
The most powerful rooms are often the
quietest ones. You will be tempted to
fill the silence. Don't let it breathe.
Because in a world that's always yelling
to be heard, the person who can pause,
who can say something powerful and then wait,
wait,
that person is the one who is truly heard.
heard.
Master the pause.
And people won't just remember what you
said, they'll remember how it made them
feel. And that is real power.
Now you've learned 12 of the most
advanced communication techniques in the
world. Not just tips, not just tricks,
but tools that can change how you talk,
how you connect, and how far you go. And
here's the truth. You don't need to
speak louder. You don't need perfect
grammar. You don't need to be the
funniest, smartest, or most experienced
person in the room. You just need to
understand how communication really
works. And today you've taken that step.
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