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This content is a comprehensive seminar by Brian Tracy on the psychology of achievement, emphasizing that success is predictable and attainable through conscious decision-making and learning. It breaks down achievement into seven key ingredients and explores fundamental mental laws that govern our reality, ultimately empowering individuals to unlock their full potential by mastering their inner world.
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hi I'm Brian Tracy and welcome to the
Phoenix seminar on the psychology of
achievement have you ever wondered why
some people are more successful than
others why some people earn more money
are happier have better jobs better
relationships Better Health and seem to
get far more out of life well when I was
15 years old this question began to
preoccupy me I've spent over 25 years
I've traveled in over 80 countries I've
worked at 30 different jobs and I've
spent by my own estimate about 30,000
hours in study to try to find the answer
to why some people are more successful
than others and you know something I
have found that this is one of the most
studied subjects in the world that
there's more information available on it
today than has ever been available
before and that today we can say with
complete confidence that success is as
predictable as the sun rising in the
East and setting in the west today you
can be more successful faster than you
ever dreamed possible if you will do two
basic things number one make a decision
to exceed all your previous levels of
accomplishment make a decision to be
successful and to achieve your goals
whatever you construe them to be and
number two learn how this seminar has
been assembled in order to teach you how
since we put it together several years
ago over
150,000 men and women have been through
this seminar in one form or another and
many of them have said it's like getting
a brand new chance at life one gentleman
said to us it was like getting a blank
check on the future we're going to teach
you in the next few hours some of the
most important things that have ever
been found that have been discovered and
rediscovered that go back 4,000 years
into History Science religion
metaphysics Psych ology philosophy and
all esoteric fields of study have come
to the conclusions that we are going to
talk about in this seminar if you will
just use some of the things you learn in
this seminar it can dramatically change
your results for the better now in
studying the subject of success one of
the things we have to do is put some
preconceptions aside one of the things
that I began thinking was that in order
to be successful you had to be
especially intelligent or you had to
have a great education or you had to be
terrific looking or you had to have
context or you had to have luck do you
know that these items have been examined
thoroughly and there's no correlation at
all between success and intelligence
education luck contacts and appearance
they are helpful in some cases but
there's no direct correlation success is
based on other things now before we go
any further let's talk about what we
mean by success when we look at the
difference between animals and human
beings we find that animals have what is
called a survival Instinct animals work
to get enough to eat a place to sleep to
reproduce their species and then they
either hibernate and or die human beings
have what you might call a success
Instinct a success Instinct means that
human beings are driven internally to
succeed that it is as natural for you to
be a success and to want to be a success
as it is for you to breathe in and
breathe out that success the drive to be
and have and do and more to fulfill your
potential as a human being is an
absolutely essential part of your being
that we never are satisfied as long as
we're alive we always want to have more
we always want to be more we always want
to do more the question of course is why
is it that so few people achieve things
in life let's talk about what the
success Instinct Embraces now I have
looked at this for years and years and
in my estimation success can be broken
down and put under seven categories
there are seven ingredients of success
and if you have these seven everything
you could ever want in life can be put
under one of these categories so let's
look at what we're talking about number
one starting point of success top of the
Hit Parade throughout all of human
history is peace of mind Peace of Mind
means that you feel content at peace
relaxed inside peace of mind to a great
degree means freedom it means freedom
especially from Fear Freedom From Fear
freedom from stress freedom from anxiety
Freedom from Want freedom from lack
freedom from negative emotions freedom
from guilt and so on but peace of
mind is the first and most important
ingredient of success why it's because
if you get anything else in life and you
don't get your peace of mind you won't
even enjoy it number two ingredient of
success health and
energy health and energy Health means
that we have the health we are free from
sickness freedom from disease Freedom
From Pain freedom from ailments and so
on but also energy we mean vitality and
today we know as a result of exhaustive
research in medicine and psychology that
there's a very close correlation between
peace of mind and health and energy is
that 80 to 90% of all the ailments that
the human body suffers including most of
the reasons why we die before our time
have to do with disrupted Peace of Mind
psychosomatic medicine is based on the
discovery that psycho the Mind makes
Soma the body sick so therefore as we
strive for higher levels of peace of
mind we almost automatically have better
levels of health and energy now the
third ingredient of success is loving
relationships loving relationship ship
means that we have the ability the
capacity to enter into long-term loving
relationships with other men and women
it means that we have the ability to
give of ourselves to love and to be
loved and the ability to enter into
loving relationships is an essential
part of Being Human it is the one
essential characteristic of our
humanhood and when we look at loving
relationships you'll find that almost
all of the problems you have in life
about 80% 85% of our problems in life as
they say talk back that 85 5% of all the
success you'll ever enjoy in life is
going to be determined by how well you
get along with other people the quality
and quantity of our relationships is the
true Mark of how well you're doing as a
human being and as you know that
problems within your relationship
starting from Early Childhood all the
way up through our adult lives disrupt
our health and energy disrupt our peace
of mind if our loving relationships are
stable usually our health and energy is
stable and we have great peace of mind
now how do you measure loving
relationships well one of the simplest
measures that you can use is simply this
it is is to ask yourself how much you
laugh with another person how much do
you laugh because you'll find that the
first thing that enters into a happy
relationship is laughter and the first
things that leaves when the relationship
starts to go sour is the laughter
laughter because it is a completely
spontaneous expression of life is the
true Mark of a healthy personality and a
healthy relationship as as you know from
your own experience now number four
ingredient of success is fin Financial
Freedom Financial Freedom
means that you have enough money so that
you don't worry about money now some
people have a tendency to say well
success is just simply a matter of money
and they're not interested in money but
the fact of the matter is that money is
important it takes money to buy clothes
and books and to go to school and buy
medical attention and to travel and to
have all the good things in life and
every one of us in order to be a success
has to reach the point where we know we
have the capacity to earn enough money
so that we don't worry about money we
have to reach the point where we can
turn our minds to other things higher
things to our relationships to our
health to the uh Improvement of our
minds to the expansion of our emotional
and our spiritual life but we all have
to have the ability to earn more money
and the great majority of people
unfortunately don't earn enough by their
own estimation in this course you're
going to learn how you can earn
virtually all the money that you want in
the course of your lifetime if you're
willing to make the efforts and to pay
the necessary price now the fifth
ingredient of success is worthy goals and
and
ideals worthy
goals and ideals sometimes when we talk
about ideals we mean values and we know
that values really lie at the core of
the human being what your values are
determines almost everything that
happens to you worthy goals and ideals
are what give us a sense of
meaning meaning
and purpose Dr Victor Frankle the
founder of logo therapy concluded after
a lifetime of research that we as human
beings need meaning and purpose we need
significance you need to know that
you're doing something that's important
you need to know when you get up in the
morning why you're getting up you need
to believe in what you're doing you need
commitment you need involvement you need
dedication you need excitement in life
so therefore worthy goals and ideals are
critical and worthy goals and ideals of
course that are consistent with your
values what we have found unfortunately
is probably 80% or more of people have
little or no values they have no sense
of direction they just wander they do
whatever what whatever someone else
wants them to do and and this is a major
problem that contributes to unhappiness
the sixth ingredient of success is self-
knowledge self- understanding self-
knowledge self- understanding what does
this mean well it means that you know
and understand who you
are why you do the things you do what
makes you tick it also means that you
have self-honesty it also means that you
have the character and the courage to
face yourself honestly and squarely as
Shakespeare said warts and all you have
the honesty to face your strengths into
weaknesses you have the honesty if you
like and the Integrity to look into
yourself to fully understand why you do
what you do what makes you tick and in
this seminar by the way we're going to
give you an enormous amount of
information on why you are the way you
are and how you can change it in a very
positive way if you're not happy with it
now the seventh ingredient of success is
really a result and it is a sense of personal
personal
fulfillment it is a sense of personal
fulfillment what Abraham maslo called
self-actualization self-actualization is
the feeling that you are becoming
everything that you're capable of
becoming self-actualization means that
you feel every single day that you're
moving toward the Fulfillment of your
inherent possibilities and
self-actualization comes as a result of
having worthy goals and ideals having
loving relationships having a high
degree of self- knowledge and self-
understanding which generates health and
energy Peace of Mind loving
relationships and so
on now the interesting thing is the
tragedy is the great majority of men and
women today achieve so little on a score
of 1 to 10 in terms of human potential
the average person is functioning it Far
Far Below what they're capable of on a
score of 1 to 10 the average person is
scoring perhaps two or three on most of
these scales 84% of people working today
are underemployed in that their jobs do
not fully tax their abilities and their
potential 80% would rather be doing
something else in a study of married
couples what we found was that 38% of
married couples would rather be married
to someone else uh We've also found that
the great majority of people in our
society after a lifetime of well-paid
work retire broke they retire poor they
retire on pensions only 1% become
wealthy only 5% become financially
independent 15% % have some savings and
80% are dependent on others the average
savings lifetime Savings of a retired
couple in America or Canada today is
less than $660,000 that's after earning
between half a million and a million
dollars in an average working Lifetime
well why is this the number one reason
is that we come into this world without
an instruction manual you can go through
your entire education and never never be
taught anything about success I
personally believe that there should be
a course on success in every single
grade level in every single School in
every single college and university we
come into the world like a computer if
you can imagine a computer imagine that
you bought this beautiful sophisticated
computer and you took it home and you
took it out of the box and you set it up
but you had no instruction manual that
you had to figure out how to work out
this computer all by yourself or imagine
a com combination lock being given a
beautiful combination lock that is on a
box that contains everything that you
ever want but you don't know the
combination we come into the world with
no instruction manual and we spend our
whole lives trying to figure out how to
do things right well the key to success
is first of all what we call you
understanding learning how to do things
right and this course is an instruction
manual on success you'll be able to get
more out of yourself as a result of this
course that you can possibly dream of
today the second ingredient is e which
requires effort there are many people as
you know lifelong students who study and
study and study but they never make the
necessary or the correct efforts the
middle point is a multiplication sign
and understanding multiplied time effort
equals results in this course what we're
going to do is we're going to
dramatically increase your understanding
we're going to give you the tools to
dramatically increase the effectiveness
of your efforts so you're doing not only
things right but you are doing the right
things and you're going to
dramatically increase your results many
people have taken this course and been
able to earn more in the following year
than they earned in the previous five
many people have taken this course and
been able to make more progress in one
or two years and they made in their
lifetime to date it is not unusual for a
person to take this course and double or
triple their income within a matter of a
few weeks or a few months simply by
applying some of these principles now do
these principles work these principles
are the basis of all success and
achievement in adult life every
successful man or woman uses them to
some degree every successful man or
woman practices them consciously or
unconsciously what we've done is we've
developed them together in this seminar
program as a system very much like a
process of learning anything that if you
will take it if you will use it if you
will apply it systematically if you will
put it into action and you'll work with
it consistently for even a short period
of time you're going to start to see
changes that are absolutely marvelous it
is my contention that you can be have or
do anything that you want in life you
can grow and expand and fulfill your
potential you can earn more money you
can have greater peace of mind you can
have more health and energy you can have
better loving relationships you can have
Financial Security you can have a sense
of personal fulfillment you have a great
feeling of Peace inside simply by
following what's in this course so
please come with me let's go and let's
begin to explore everything that you're
capable of doing let us look at what you
session two seven mental laws the
starting point of self- knowledge just
to recognize this wonderful fact is that
you are extraordinary you are unique the
odds against there being someone exactly
like you are over 50 billion to one that
every single part of your body and
anatomists and physiologists and doctors
have demonstrated that your blood
composition is different from any other
person that has ever lived your
fingerprints are different your limp
prints are different even your ear
prints are different even your toe
prints are different from anybody that
has ever lived you are different from
anyone else and self- knowledge begins
with accepting that you are a unique and
special individual and that you have the
capacity to do something wonderful with
your life now that being said you are
also the same as everybody else with
respect to certain basic principles
throughout the history of mankind the
most intelligent men and women who have
ever lived have sought answers to the
question of the human dilemma what can
people do in order to change the quality
of their lives their relationships and
their results the great philosophers the
great metaphysicians the great Scholars
have pondered over this sometimes for
their entire lifetimes in our Century I
know men and women who spent 10 20 30 40
even 50 years studying success and
achievement to find out what general
rules and principles we can draw upon to
be more successful the first thing that
we have to start with the basis for this
entire course the psychology of
achievement is this is that you are a
mental creature the only thing that
makes you truly unique is your mind
everything else you have in common as
Eugene O'Neal the playwright said with a
horse or a pig your mind is what makes
you unique your body simply carries your
mind around and just as electricity
works on laws of electricity and physics
works on laws of physics and nature
works on laws of nature there are
certain mental laws that Det determine
everything that happens to you and these
mental laws are as inexorable as the
laws of gravity they work 100% of the
time and every single success you have
in life comes from living your life in
harmony with basic mental laws and every
problem or difficulty you ever have in
life comes from living your life out of
harmony with those basic laws now mental
laws work 100% of the time like gravity
works 100% of the time what they say
what it means is that if you step off a
10 story building in the city where
you're living or in London England or in
Lima Peru you're going to go Splat on
the sidewalk whether you know about
gravity whether you believe in gravity
whether you agree with gravity or
whether gravity is convenient for you
it's going to work on you nonetheless
the mental laws are exactly the same and
in this course I'm going to introduce
you to about 20 mental laws some of
which are more important than others but
all of which it is critical for you to
understand now let's start with the
first of the mental loss
the first mental law and by the way
these laws have been written about and
studied for Century after century and
many of them have been tested in our
leading universities research institutes
and think tanks in the last few years
and found to be as true as they'd ever
been imagined to be the first law is
what we call the law of control now the
law of control is very simple it's the
basic law and we'll come back to it over
and over again it says simply this it
says that you feel good about yourself
you feel positive about yourself to the
degree to which you feel you are in
control of your own life or you feel
negative about yourself to the degree to
which you feel you are not in control of
your own life all you have to do is look
at your life today and ask yourself what
parts of your life do you feel the best
at what parts of the life do you feel
your life do you feel most in control
you will find those are the places where
you are the happiest and since the
Supreme human good is to achieve a state
of Happiness which is expressed in peace
of mind and health and loving
relationships control is absolutely
essential psychologists today call this
the difference between an internal locus
of control which is feeling that you're
in charge of your own life versus an
external locus of control which means
the feeling that something outside of
you your bills your relationships your
job your
health are somehow controlling you as a
matter of fact locus of control research
and there are many tests that you can
take to determine where you are are on
this chart in terms of locus of control
and what areas of your life you feel
more in control and less in control
people with a very high internal locus
of control are high Achievers they are
more successful they're more
self-determined they're happier and many
of things we're trying to do in this
course is to give you a far greater
sense of control of being in charge of
every aspect of your life now control
begins with first of all your thoughts
interestingly enough your thoughts what
you think about things and how you think
determines your values it determines
what is going on inside you once they
are stored away your thoughts determine
your feelings it's how you think about
something that determines your feelings
whether you are happy or unhappy whether
you are scared or uh confident your
feelings then determine your actions so
we start off with a law of control
saying that the key to success is to
feel that you are the master of your own
destiny that you're behind the steering
wheel of your own life you're charge of
your life by taking full and complete
control over your thoughts your thoughts
will control your feelings your feelings
will control your actions and your
actions remember there always your
actions will determine your success or
your lack thereof so the law of control
is important now as opposed to the law
of control we have what is called the
law of
accident now the law of
accident is really a metaphysical
principle it is only a law like a
traffic law or like a legal law to the
degree to which we live by it
consistently the law of accident is what
about 80% of the population live by plus
or minus the law of accident simply says
that by failing to plan you're planning
to fail failing to plan is planning to
fail now the majority of
people don't believe that they're living
by this but if you look at their lives
you see that that's true failing to plan
means planning to fail these are the
sort of people that say well not what
you know it's who you know it's being in
the right place at the right time it's
it's luck it's h the luck of the draw
and so on these are people who as a
result of feeling that their life is
controlled by forces outside themselves
don't have clear plans don't have clear
goals do not are not working
persistently and consistently day by day
toward accomplishing something they want
and their lives just seem to drift and
go around in circle like a ship without
a Rudder now a person just like a ship
without a Rudder A person with no
Central plan is a person who has very
little controls as a person who feels
that in fact they are out of control of
their lives like they're falling through
space with no place to to stop and these
people are invariably unhappy the reason
why people are negative today the reason
why people are unhappy the reason why
people are sick and frustrated the
reason why people underachieve in life
is most of them are living by this law
of accident and in so doing they have no
sense of control over their lives they
have no sense of inner peace they have
no sense of happiness and so on
so we are going to show show you how to
free yourself from the law of accident
personally or per or permanently now the
next law is what is called the law of
cause and
effect the law of cause and
effect says that for every effect in
your life there is a specific cause that
everything that happens in the universe
happens for a reason that nothing
happens by accident that failure does
not happen by accident and success does
not happen by accident that happiness or
lack of Happiness are a result of cause
and effect relationships that if we you
have an effect in your life that you
want to have more of more success more
money more happiness Better Health you
can trace it back to a cause and what
you do is you repeat and duplicate the
cause if you have an effect in your life
that you want to have less of and you
have problems difficulties and so on you
can also Trace that back to a cause all
progress in human life in human society
stems back from identifying the causes
of what we want more of or less of and
changing the causes now the law of cause
and effect of course is the iron law of
the universe this is the law if you like
that we can come back to over and over
again and many of our laws are
paraphrases of the iron law it's also
called The Law of sewing and reaping
that whatsoever you seow that also shall
you reap but the iron law the law of
cause and effect gives us a complete
sense of control if we believe that
there's a cause and effect relationship
that everything happens for a reason
then we have a tremendous feeling of
control in our lives we can identify the
causes we can duplicate the causes we
can make our lives anything we want the
most important application of the law of
cause and effect is this it is that
thoughts are
causes thoughts are causes and
conditions are
effects C thoughts are causes and
conditions are simply effects the
starting point of everything is your
thoughts about something it's your
thoughts about a job your thoughts about
a relationship your thoughts about your
health your thoughts about your future
your thoughts become causitive agents
the conditions become the effects that
if you wish to change any of the
conditions of your life you have to
change the thoughts that precede those
conditions you have to change what is
going on in your mind now wonderfully
enough there's only one thing in the
whole universe over which you have
complete control and that is your
thoughts so if you take full and
complete control over your thoughts and
keep your thoughts on what it is you
want make them positive causes the
conditions or effects will take care of
themselves with the
inexorability of a law of nature now the
next law is what is called the law of
belief the law of
belief simply
says that whatever you believe with
feeling and this is the key with feeling
and the more emotion you put into a
belief becomes your
reality it becomes your reality because
you will always act in a manner
consistent with your beliefs as a matter
of fact your entire reality right now is
simply a out outward picturing of your
most intensely held beliefs if you
believe something that is positive or
believe something that is negative or as
Henry Ford said if you believe you can
do a thing or if you believe you cannot
you are right our beliefs do form our
realities to the degree to which we
believe anything to be true our beliefs
act as sort of like a screen uh they
filter out any information that is
inconsistent with our beliefs we have a
deep down desire inside of us to remain
consistent so we're always trying to
view our world rationalize our world
interpret our world so that it is
consistent with what we have already
decided to believe we develop what is
called scotomas a scotoma is a word in
Psychology that simply says that we
develop blind spots we do not see
opportunities if we are convinced that
there are no opportunities we do not see
possibilities for Success if we don't
believe that success is possible for us
however if we begin to change our
beliefs we begin to change our realities
let me give you an example uh there's a
story of a Young Man man who came from a
small Midwestern town it's true story
was reported in the psychological
journals a couple of years ago he got
straight A all through junior high
school and high school at the end of
12th grade he wrote his Scholastic
achievement test to go to university a
few weeks later he got back a letter
from the University saying you have
scored 98 on the Scholastic achievement
test and you're hereby admitted to the
university for the fall semester well he
didn't know very much about Scholastic
achievement tests and he thought that
the 98 was an IQ score now an IQ score
of 98 is slightly below average and is
about 20 points below what is necessary
for college level work he was convinced
and he just discarded his entire High
School career all the age that he's
gotten he was convinced that he could
not do college level work but he went
off to college in the fall after the
first semester he was failing or nearly
failing in every
subject his counselor called him in and
said what seems to be the problem you uh
did extremely well in high school these
courses are only one degree of
difficulty uh removed from your high
school courses are you having problems
with uh girls are you having problems
with drugs uh having problems adjusting
what is it he saidwell sir he said I'm
doing the very best I can but you can't
blame me I've only got a 98 IQ and the
counselor had a file in front of me said
what are you talking about he said well
in my letter of admission to the
university it said that I got a 98 on
the Scholastic achievement test he said
son that's not an IQ he said he said
they said that's not an IQ that is a
percentile what that means is that you
scored equal to or higher than 98% of
the students in the country who wrote
that test you're one of the brightest
kids in this University well this young
guy went out he checked on the
Scholastic achievement test he found it
was true that the 98 was a percentile
not an IQ he went back to his courses
and two years later he was in the top 10
in a 30,000 student University he was
leading in all of his classes once he
changed his reality once he changed his
beliefs about his intelligence his
reality changed automatically now an
important point with regard to this is
that every one of us has self-limiting
beliefs every one of us believes
ourselves to be limited in some way
every one of us believes ourselves to be
limited in intelligence creativity
money-making ability I can't sell I
can't speak in front of audiences we
tend to think that we are not capable
being on time we're not mechanically
inclined and so on and so forth but
exhaustive research demonstrates that
talents are pretty evenly spread
throughout the population that most of
the limitations we have do not exist in
reality they exist only in your own mind
and one of the starting points of great
achievement is to start questioning
those self-limiting beliefs and throw
them off and act as if they did not
exist and when you act as if they didn't
exist slow and behold they simply
disappear okay the next law is what is
called the law of expectations now the
law of expectations is a law that has
been talked about throughout all of
human history just like in the law of
belief law of belief William James of
harvy said belief creates the actual
fact as a man thinketh in his heart or
as he believeth so is he the law of
expectations over and over say what you
expect you get you get not what you want
but what you expect that your
expectations especially your
expectations about outcomes how you
think things are going to turn out
become your own self-fulfilling
prophecies and Dr Robert rosenfall of of
Harvard University has done something
like 300 experiments on expectations
theory on what is called experiment
Theory and he finds that your
expectations have an effect on other
people and events and
circumstances even if your expectations
are based on totally false information
whatever you expect with confidence in
other words if you confidently expect
good things to happen surprise surprise
good things happen to you if you
confidently expect negative things to
happen then negative things are going to
happen to you that most successful
people have developed an attitude of
confidently expecting good things to
happen uh it's called the attitude of
positive self expectancy it is the
attitude of the winner the winner looks
for good things to happen the winner
expects to win in advance and lo and
behold whatever you expect with
confidence tends to come true even if
the information upon which your
expectations is based is totally false
now let me give you an example of
expectations uh some years ago Dr
Rosenthal after conducting a variety of
different experiments came to the
conclusion that the expectations that
teachers had of students was having a
tremendous effect effect on their
ability to learn and their grade level
averages so he put together a series of
experiments and then one major
experiment which was tremendous he went
to the San Francisco Bay area and at the
beginning of the school year he had the
principal call in three teachers the
three teachers were told that by the
principal as a result of teaching
Excellence they had been singled out as
the three best teachers in the school
and that they were going to be given 30
students each of the brightest students
in the school identified by IQ tests at
the end of the last semester they would
be able to teach these students for the
entire year and it was estimated by
experts that these students would jump
in Scholastic achievement an average of
20 to 30% over the course of that school
year now the teachers were told that one
of the conditions was that they mustn't
tell the teacher they must tell the
students and they mustn't tell their
parents they must continue to teach the
same way and classes were carefully
monitored to make sure they taught the
same way they taught before but only
they would know that they had been given
30 bright student students each to teach
for the whole year the teachers were
delighted the teachers went out they
were excited about this they worked hard
with those students they spent time
after school with them they got really
really involved in teaching more than
they ever had before and at the end of
the school year lo and behold those
three classes LED not only the school
but the entire School District in
academic accomplishment at the end of
the year they called the three teachers
in they sat them down and they
said well uh you've had a good year and
they saides it was great those kids were
so bright they were so eager to learn
they said well maybe we should tell you
the truth that this was an experiment
and the fact is that the the beginning
of the school year we selected the names
of 90 children by Lottery from the
school population at large and assigned
them to your class we didn't even know
what their IQs were they said well well
that's remarkable how could it have
happened that they did so well and then
they looked at each other and said well
of course it's because we are the three
most excellent teachers in this school
they said well the other side of it was
simply this is at the beginning of the
school year we put all the teachers
names in a hat and yours were the first
three names that were drawn so this is
what it's called call a double blind
experiment they held constant for
everything but expectations now the
expectations on the teachers were
explicit we believe that you are
excellent teachers the expectations of
the teachers on the students were
implicit they were never spoken the
teachers just treated those students as
though they were really intelligent and
the students bloomed and blossomed and
in one of the classes a student from
beginning of the year to the end of the
year jumped 25 IQ points in a subsequent
experiment a student jumped as much just
27 IQ points which is to prove that high
expectations teachers bring out
intelligence in students that is
completely unheard of Marva Collins the
famous teacher in the uh Chicago inner
city has found that if you treat
students as though they're intelligent
and talk to them and work with them as
though they are really bright they will
absolutely astonish you in terms of
academic accomplishment all right this
brings us to the critical role of
expectations in your life first part of
expectations in your life number one and
where expectations affect you
expectations of your parents we have
found that we have a tendency as adults
to try to live up to or down
to the expectation of our parents all
our lives if our parents were strong and
supportive and loving and kind and
encouraging and really believes in us
all our lives we will strive
unconsciously to live a life consistent
with those expectations if our parents
were critical and condemnatory and
bitched and complained and griped about
our grades and so on and so forth we
will find that all of our life we'll
have a tendency to hold ourselves back
so be alert to that what were the
expectations of your parents were they
positive were they negative were they
boosting or were they discouraging and
how much are they affecting you today
second area of expectations is the
expectations of your boss in all of our
studies we have found especially in the
studies on excellence in organizations
we have found that high expectations
bosses have high performance work
environments now if you work for a boss
who is negative critical and condemn the
if you work for a boss that has negative
expectations or a negative attitude
chances are your performance will be at
the very lowest as a matter of fact if
you look at the course of your working
career you'll find that the times of
your life that you've enjoyed the most
is working under a boss that has high
positive expectations of you and your
ability isn't that correct the third
area of expectations is the expectations
you have of others especially of your
children especially of your spouse or
your mate especially of your
subordinates or the people who look up
to you you see we have are profoundly
affected by the opinions of anybody we
Respect by the attitudes toward us of
anybody we respect and if you have high
positive expectations of the people
around you especially your children they
will rise to fulfill those expectations
so the basic rule with regard to this is
always expect good things of other
people in word and deed tell them
continually I believe in you and number
four core area of expectations is the
expectations you have of yourself in the
final analysis these are the most
powerful if you have high positive
expectations of yourself you'll be
astonished at what it will mean to your
life always expect the best always
expect the best and here's a little
exercise which
I learned from one of my graduates one
of our live seminars he found that by
starting off every day with this simple
little exercise and saying to himself I
believe something wonderful is going to
happen to me today I believe something
wonderful is going to happen to me today
I believe something wonderful is going
to happen to me today that this little
exercise changed his whole attitude that
he went through the whole day with the
self-expand you know that if you will do
this if you will say before you go to
sleep I believe something wonderful is
going to happen to me tomorrow and if
you'll say when you get up in the morning
morning
I believe something wonderful is going
to happen to me today and if all day
long you say I believe something
wonderful is going to happen to me
you'll find that as you go to sleep the
next night and try this today it's a
very powerful ex sounds a little bit
corny but it's a very powerful exercise
if you'll try it you'll find that when
you go to sleep you will not be able to
think of all the wonderful things that
happened to you you'll just be surprised
that that your parking spaces will open
up and friends will call and you get
checks in the mail just your life will
be a series of really positive happiness
experiences so always expect the best I
believe something wonderful is going to
happen to me today and by the
inexorability of a law of nature it's
going to happen to you I can assure you
it's happened to thousands and thousands
and thousands of our graduates who will
literally astonish you the effect of
this corny little exercise all right the
next law is what is called The Law of
Attraction now the Law of Attraction
simply says that you are a living
magnet you are a living
magnet and that you inevitably attract
into your life the people and
circumstances that are in harmony with
your dominant thought in the universe we
know that all of energy is in a state of
vibration that everything is vibrating
even this board is vibrating your your
skin is vibrating every substance is
vibrating because of its molecular
structure and we also know this is a law
of radiation that everything is
vibrating outward the process of entropy
and we find that whatever you are
thinking your thoughts are also a form
of energy that is vibrating and
radiating out from you and that travels
at the speed of light so that you can
affect people in circumstances at Great
distances have you ever had an
experience where you're thinking about
somebody and the telephone rings and
it's them have you ever had an
experience where you phone somebody else
and they say we were just talking about
you it just leaps into your mind have
you ever had an experience when you're
in tune with your husband or wife and
you think you know I'd like to go out to
dinner at such and such a place tonight
and you call home and they will say why
don't we go to dinner at such and such a
place these are all examples of this Law
of Attraction the law of attraction is
considered by many to be one of the most
important laws of human existence in
this you will always attract to yourself
positive or negative people and
circumstances that harmonize with your
dominant thoughts that whatever you're
thinking on a continuing basis you're
attracting into your life you're drawing
it into your life like a magnet that's
why it's so important that you keep your
thoughts on what you want keep your
thoughts on what you desire and keep
your thoughts off of what you don't want
and by the way as you advance and
develop and become more proficient and
more sharp with these methods The Law of
Attraction will work faster for you and
with greater accuracy so so be careful
use it uh right the last law we'll talk
about in this session is called the law of
of
Correspondence is a law that says and
it's quoted by Jesus as within so
without as within so without
and what it simply means is this it
means that your outer world is a mirror
and that's the probably the best word
your outer world is a mirror and it
simply reflects back to you what is
going on in your inner world that your
outer world is the result of your inner
world that what is going on within
determines what is going on without that
if you want to change your outer world
you have to change your inner world now
that means that you can look at your
words you can look at your level of
Health what is going on in terms of your
physical health is largely determined by
what is going on in in your mind what is
going on in your relationships is the
most perfect example because you find
that when you are feeling good inside
your relationships go smoothly when
you're feeling negative or stressed
inside your relationships go poorly your
relationships are the miror image
reflection of the quality of your own
personality you can tell how healthy
your personality is by looking at the
relationships around you your wealth is
a very important thing the level of
financial wealth the level of comfort
that you have is a direct relationship
of what you have put into your mind in
terms of thought and preparation for
achieving wealth and affluence if you
wish to be more successful on the
outside you have to be more successful
on the inside and the more you go to
work on the inside which is the only
part of your whole life that you can
control the more you go to work on the
inside the more rapidly your external
World changes the big mistake in life
and the reason why most people are
unhappy is why it's because most people
try to change the external World which
they cannot control and they leave the
internal World messy it' be the same as
trying to make an automobile run better
by washing the outside of it polishing
the outside of it and changing the tires
no you got to go to work on the inside
workings as you change your mind as you
change what is going on inside you
change what is going on outside now many
years ago Earl Nightingale the great
success philosopher woke up and in the
middle of the night with a quotation
which changed his life and changed the
lives of millions of others which sort
of tacks on to all of these laws that
we're talking about and was simply this
is you become what you think about you
become what you think about and since
the only thing that you can control is
your thinking if you change what you are thinking
thinking
about you will begin to change your
reality if you change what you expect
you change what you believe you change
your dominant thoughts you change your
inner workings you begin to attract into
your life people circumstances events
opportunities and everything consistent
with your new thoughts the reason people
are unsuccessful as they think thoughts
of unsuccess or
failure another line which is very very
important says that all causation is
mental we live in a mental Universe all
causation is mental if you wish to
change your Universe you have to change
your mentality and this brings us to the
most important line of all which is
simply this and let me write it over here
here
if you change your
thinking
life change your thinking and you change your
your
life now over the course of years you
have accumulated and gathered enormous
amount of information you've accumulated
and gathered an enormous number of
experiences some of them positive some
of them negative every single one of
them is stored away every single one of
them is having an effect on what is
happening to you right now in the New
Testament Jesus had a beautiful line
which I refer to and I think about it
all the time he said by their fruits you
shall know them and what it simply meant
was that you can tell what is going on
inside the person what the fundamental
character and thought life of a person
is by looking at the fruits of their
external Life by looking at their health
looking at their relationships looking
at their levels of success if you change
your thinking you change your life and
as we proceed through this course we're
going to show you systematically how you
can change your thinking and bring it
into perfect correlation inside with a
type of successful happy
Dynamic vital living successful life
outside session three unlocking your
potential when we talk about human
potential have you ever wondered what
accounts for the huge disparity in
results and performance between one
person and another you know a person
who's making $250,000 a year is not 10
times smarter or better than a person
who's making $25,000 a year why is there
10 times the difference in income and
you go all the way up the ladder the
person who's making $ 2.5 million a year
is that person a hundred times better
smarter than a person making 25,000 a year
year
impossible in a recent study of IQs they
picked a thousand men and women out of
the population and tested them for IQ
they found that the top person in that
thousand selection was only two and one
half times smarter than the bottom
person in that selection of IQs only two
and a half times the disparity and
that's probably true over the whole
population so what accounts for this
great difference well we talk about
human potential we come down to a very
simple formula that I came up with some
years ago that probably explains it a
little bit the formula starts off with
what we call IIA which is inborn
attributes that's the qualities the
intelligence the ability the temperament
the things that you're born with that
you can't really change very much plus
acquired attributes now acquired
attributes are very important those are
your education your training your skill
your experience knowledge wisdom and so
on multiplied times a which is your
attitude equals indiv idual human
potential or individual Human
Performance or individual human results
if you like now of these three inborn
attributes are largely fixed at Birth
acquired attributes can be changed but
it takes a while to change them although
sometimes they can be changed very
rapidly one valuable piece of
information can dramatically change your
Effectiveness but attitudes can be
increased or decreased dramatically in
seconds that every single time we
improve our attitude we multiply all our
capabilities so that attitude has been
rightly called the most important
language in the human or the most
important word in the human language
everything that we do in life according
to a Harvard study amongst executive
recruiters will be 85% attitudinal 85%
of your success will beer be determined
by your attitude that means determined
by how positive or how much of a
positive mental attitude you have people
with positive mental attitudes tend to
advance more rapidly move to the top of
valuable organizations earn more money
get more life satisfaction and so on now
a positive mental attitude doesn't mean
that you dance around in the street and
and throw flowers it just means that you
take a generally
constructive attitude or approach
towards your work your life your
problems your relationships and so on
but according to the Cox reports on
American Business according to Success
magazine 85% or more of everything that
you accomplish will be attitudinal so
our question is where do attitudes come
from and we found that attitudes come from
from
expectations very very simple we talked
about that before and a very powerful
way to instantaneously improve your
attitude is to say to yourself I I
believe something wonderful is going to
happen to me today as we said before our
expectations about outcomes determines
our attitude in other words if you
expect things to turn out well you're
going to have a positive attitude if you
expect things to turn out negatively
you're going to have a negative attitude
and the wonderful thing is you can
manufacture your own expectations I mean
you can expect whatever you want you can
expect good things you can expect
negative things and chances are you
won't be disappointed where do our
expectations come from our expectations
come from our
beliefs if you like and our values these
are the core or the central motivating
factors in our personality our beliefs
and values and this brings us to an
understanding of human potential it
means that basically our attitude is the
outward expression of what is going on
internally consistent with the mental
laws that we talked about and with
regard to beliefs each of us has a
bundle of beliefs way down deep inside
which psychologists call the
self-concept now the self-concept or the
discovery of it has been considered by
many to be the most important single
breakthrough in understanding human
performance in the 20th century and I
personally agree the self-concept is
like if you wanted to use a military
analogy is the command center or if you
wanted to use a
technological analogy it is the central
program of your basic computer it is a
bundle of beliefs values attitudes
feelings ideas
and so on which are stored away down
inside which are a result of virtually
every experience you've ever had in your
life and some researchers say that the
self-concept begins to form even before
birth but this self-concept once it is
in place precedes predicts and
determines your levels of Effectiveness
and performance in every area of your
life your self-concept becomes the
command Pro Center or the master program
the self-concept or this bundle of
beliefs then determines what you will
say what you will do how you will act
how you feel and react and so on what
does it mean it means that all
improvements in your external life all
changes in your reality begin with a
change in the self-concept let me give
you an understanding of how it means
here's here's a very simple graph we
talk about human potential we say the
average person uses 10% or less of their
potential according to the research is
probably much less Stanford brain
Institute in Santa Clara California
estimates that it's probably closer to
2% but we'll be generous say the average
person is using 10% it means that in the
best of
cases the average person you and I have
90% of our potential untapped one of the
great philosophers Oliver Wendel Holmes
said the great tragedy of the average
person is they go to their grave with
their music still in them they're still
functioning on far far less of their
potential so this is human potential we
find there's a direct relationship
between human potential and the
self-concept that since our
self-concepts or our estimates of
ourselves if you like are usually far
lower than they need to be our level of
performance and Effectiveness is far
lower too and we know that our
self-concept is largely subjective what
does that mean it means that the
self-concept what we believe to be true
about ourselves is really not based in
reality it's based on information that
we've taken in we accept it as true and
to the degree to which you believe
anything about yourself it becomes true
for you because you act in a manner
consistent with it you know there's some
people who read their horoscopes and
believe that their horoscopes are
predicting their future there's some
people who will take criticism and
condemnation from other people that they
don't even respect and believe that that
is an adequate or accurate reflection of
their own abilities but whatever you
believe whatever you accept as true
becomes true for you now we also know
that as an adult you have a variety of
self-concepts you have a self-concept
for how you dress how much you weigh how
much you eat how well you speak in
public what kind of a parent you are
what kind of a child you are to your
parents what kind of a husband or wife
you are what kind of a lover what kind
of a driver interesting
driving all men have a very positive
self-concept with regard to driving
women don't understand this but all men
are born with an inherent genius at
driving that men are all great drivers
and if you don't believe it all you have
to do ladies who are watching this all
you have to do is think about the last
time you tried to correct a man's
driving you'll find it is not well
responded to how do we respond when
somebody challenges our self concept by
suggesting that we are not the person we
think we are we become defensive we
become angry we become irritable we
become uh difficult to get along with we
have a self-concept for how creative we
are how intelligent how fast we read how
good we are at Athletics and if you
practice a variety of different sports
you have a self-concept for every one of
those Sports we have a self-concept for
how well we cook how well we raise our
children how well we clean our home what
kind of cars we drive and so on we also
have a self-concept for what it's worth
for how much money we earns
interestingly enough you can never earn
more than 10% above or below your
self-concept level of income that your
self-concept determines your income
level this self-concept is level is
called your comfort zone and even if you
want more money you will find that the
natural human tendency of all action is
to struggle and strive to get into a
comfort zone and then to stay there that
if you earn 10% or more above your
self-concept level of income you will
have an irresistible urge to get rid of
the money you'll give it away you'll
spend it you'll blow it you'll spend it
extravagantly you'll even lose it if you
get enough that's why people who win
lotteries are often flat broke two or 3
years later they just burn the money
because the money is far beyond their
self-concept if you go 10% or more below
your self-concept level of income you
find yourself scrambling you work harder
you work longer you think more
creatively you look at different ways to
increase your income or or second income
opportunities the only way to improve
any part of your life including your
income is to raise your self-concept
level of income by beginning to think
about yourself continually in terms of
earning more money if you want to lose
weight the only way you can lose weight
is what is to think thin by beginning to
think of yourself as a thinner person if
you want to become a more popular a more
loving a happier person a healthier
person you have to begin to think over
and over about those things until they
become part of your new self-concept and
we'll talk about that a little bit later
it's an essential part of programming
your mind for Success your overall
self-concept is determined by the
average of your self-concepts and all
the areas that you consider important
now your self-concept is made up of
three critical Parts the first first
part of the self-concept is the self
ideal the self ideal is the person you
would most like to be it is your idea of
what constitutes a winner it is your
vision or your mission or your ideal of
the very best you that you can be now
one of the things that we know about
successful people is this is successful
people have very clear self ideals they
have very clear ideas of who they want
to be in the future unsuccessful people
have very vague ideals number two is
your self-image your
self-image is a picture of the way you
is the way you see yourself and the way
you think about yourself your self-image
the inner mirror is how you perceive
yourself now and determines your current
performance on a day-to-day basis the
third part is your self-esteem now your
self-esteem is how you feel about
yourself how you feel about yourself is
the engine Force it's the motor it's the
power force within your subconscious
it's the power force within the selfcon
concept and it determines virtually
everything that happens to you the best
definition of self-esteem is how much
you like yourself how much you like
yourself as a parent how much you like
yourself as an employee how much you
like yourself as a boss how much you
like yourself as a money earner a
professional speaker an athlete and so
on how much you like yourself your level
of self-esteem your overall emotional
feeling about any area of your life
determines your performance and
Effectiveness in that area wonderfully
enough since you become what you think
about your self-concept is malleable
your self-esteem can be built by
repeating over and over again I like
myself I like myself I like myself I
like myself I like myself I like myself
the more you say I like myself I like
myself I like myself the more you repeat
that over and over again the more your
self-esteem goes up the more your
self-esteem goes up the more your
overall self-concept goes up when your
overall self-concept goes up you perform
better at everything else that you
attempt that every single time you say I
like myself I like myself I like myself
I like myself I like myself it's like
pumping yourself up psychologically
everything that happens that causes your
self-esteem to go up causes you to
perform better everything that happens
that causes your self-esteem to go down
causes you to perform worse make more
mistakes be unhappier and so on now
critical point about liking yourself
about self-esteem and self-liking is
that number one is you can never like or
love anybody else more than you like or
love yourself that your level of self
esteem is the determinant of the quality
of the relationships you have with
others and number two is you can never
expect anybody else to like or respect
you more than you like or respect
yourself that how much you like and
respect yourself determines their
attitudes toward you every single School
of Psychology today is coming to
agreement on the fact that how much you
genuinely like and accept yourself as a
valuable and worthwhile human being has
an effect on everything that happens to
you how much you'll like yourself and
what you can do is you can can improve
your self-esteem but then I like myself
I like myself I like myself I like
myself I like myself well this brings us
to the question a word is self-esteem
where does the self-concept come from
and we found that self-concept if
anything self-concept is malleable in
that you are not born with a
self-concept is that you're not born
with any idea of yourself you're not
born with self-image or self-esteem that
you're born in a way as pure potential
it's probably the best way to put it the
average person comes into the world as
pure potential and has no self concept
that everything you are today every
feeling that you have every attitude or
value you had to learn over the course
of your lifetime we also know that the
child comes into the world with a very
high need for love and touching and a
tremendous amount of Research indicates
that we need a lot of love and touching
all of our lives but especially in our
formative years because as a child we
learn who we are how valuable we are
whether we're important intelligent
attractive lovable uh funny we learn all
of the these things by the way our
parents treat us if our parents our
siblings our aunts and uncles but
especially our parents treat us like
we're really important kids then we grow
up thinking that we're really important
if our parents do not then something
else happens we know that the first few
years of life are the most important in
developing the self-concept that a child
starts off at zero when the child is
born with no idea of who she is or who
he is or how valuable they are and in
the first second third fourth and fifth
years of life youth psychologist used to
think it was 5 years but now they're
saying it's 3 years in these first three
years of life children learn who they
are they say if you give enough high
quality and quantity of love to a child
in the first 3 to 5 years you set them
up for life you set them up on a solid
foundation of self-esteem
self-confidence self-worth self- value
as a matter of fact there's a direct
relationship between the quality and
quantity of love and the development of
healthy personality that the more love
conditional love that a child receives
in those formative years the stronger is
the foundation of the personality to
reverse the equation that virtually all
problems in psychosis Neurosis
personality disturbances uh and behavior
problems arise from problems way down in
the self-concept and we can go back as
adults here's our adult personality we
can go back as adults we can correct the
flaws in our foundation the cracks if
you like by repeating over and over
again I like myself I like myself I like
myself and driving down that healing
concrete deep into the foundation of our
personality remember children need love
like roses need rain children that are
deprived of Love often die of Love
starvation it's a disease called
marasmus now what else do we know about
children we know that children come into
the world with two remarkable attributes
the first is that they're Fearless
children are born with no fears they're
not afraid of anything except falling
and loud noises and this is expressed in
the attitude I can children come into
the world believing they can do anything and anybody's ever raised a child to the
and anybody's ever raised a child to the age of three or four or five knows you
age of three or four or five knows you have to spend those first few years
have to spend those first few years stopping them from killing themselves
stopping them from killing themselves because they're little kamakazi Pilots
because they're little kamakazi Pilots because they're not afraid of anything
because they're not afraid of anything the second attribute is they come into
the second attribute is they come into the world completely spontaneous they
the world completely spontaneous they say what they want they do what they
say what they want they do what they want they are completely uninhibited
want they are completely uninhibited they just are completely unafraid they
they just are completely unafraid they do anything that they want and this is
do anything that they want and this is expressed in the attitude I don't have
expressed in the attitude I don't have to
to I don't have to if you ever try to
I don't have to if you ever try to control a child you'll find that the
control a child you'll find that the attitude of a chunk child the first
attitude of a chunk child the first thing they say is when you start giving
thing they say is when you start giving them ERS the first thing they learn is
them ERS the first thing they learn is no they say no I don't have to well of
no they say no I don't have to well of course we eventually uh change their
course we eventually uh change their minds on that one way or another but
minds on that one way or another but these are the two attributes that each
these are the two attributes that each of us come into the world with you come
of us come into the world with you come into the world unafraid and uninhibited
into the world unafraid and uninhibited what does that mean it means that our
what does that mean it means that our natural Birthright is to be unafraid and
natural Birthright is to be unafraid and uninhibited and that only when we can
uninhibited and that only when we can create the same situation in adult life
create the same situation in adult life where we are unafraid and
where we are unafraid and uninhibited do we feel truly great about
uninhibited do we feel truly great about ourselves the very best organizations
ourselves the very best organizations the very best companies are those that
the very best companies are those that create an environment where people who
create an environment where people who feel unafraid and unreserved to be
feel unafraid and unreserved to be themselves and to do the very best they
themselves and to do the very best they can well as we grow up we know that
can well as we grow up we know that children learn two ways the first way
children learn two ways the first way they learn is by
they learn is by imitation they imitate one or both
imitation they imitate one or both parents especially the dominant parent
parents especially the dominant parent and sometimes the parent dominant parent
and sometimes the parent dominant parent will change as the child is growing up
will change as the child is growing up sometimes children will imitate the
sometimes children will imitate the father sometimes the mother but they
father sometimes the mother but they learn by imitation many of the
learn by imitation many of the characteristics and habits that we have
characteristics and habits that we have as adults we learn from our parents if
as adults we learn from our parents if you ever had a CH the opportunity or the
you ever had a CH the opportunity or the occasion to scream at one of your
occasion to scream at one of your children or shout at one of them and
children or shout at one of them and find yourself saying the same things
find yourself saying the same things your mother or father sent to you said
your mother or father sent to you said to you when you were a child well we
to you when you were a child well we imitate sometimes we imitate their walk
imitate sometimes we imitate their walk sometimes we imitate their talk
sometimes we imitate their talk sometimes we imitate their values their
sometimes we imitate their values their beliefs and so on even if those values
beliefs and so on even if those values and beliefs are of no value why it's
and beliefs are of no value why it's because our parents are like Gods to us
because our parents are like Gods to us when we're children the second way that
when we're children the second way that we learn is by moving from
we learn is by moving from discomfort from what doesn't feel good
discomfort from what doesn't feel good toward Comfort now Freud called this the
toward Comfort now Freud called this the Pleasure Principle is that we move
Pleasure Principle is that we move toward what makes us feel comfortable
toward what makes us feel comfortable what gives us pleasure what makes us
what gives us pleasure what makes us feel good about ourselves we move from
feel good about ourselves we move from discomfort toward Comfort that's how we
discomfort toward Comfort that's how we learn to become toilet trained we say
learn to become toilet trained we say it's no that it's no longer fun to walk
it's no that it's no longer fun to walk around with pee and poop in our diapers
around with pee and poop in our diapers so we watch what our parents do we watch
so we watch what our parents do we watch what our older siblings do and we see a
what our older siblings do and we see a those people aren't uh doing this and
those people aren't uh doing this and that's how we learn to walk that's how
that's how we learn to walk that's how we learn everything so we move from
we learn everything so we move from discomfort toward Comfort throughout our
discomfort toward Comfort throughout our lives by the way that's how we learn we
lives by the way that's how we learn we imitate by reading what other people
imitate by reading what other people have done by studying books by at our
have done by studying books by at our work we imitate when we go to school and
work we imitate when we go to school and we do what gives us a positive payoff
we do what gives us a positive payoff what gives us positive reinforcement
what gives us positive reinforcement what gives us pleasure and we do less of
what gives us pleasure and we do less of those things that give us discomfort or
those things that give us discomfort or pain now very early in life as a mistake
pain now very early in life as a mistake or as as as a result of mistakes that
or as as as a result of mistakes that parents make an upbringing children
parents make an upbringing children begin to learn negative habit patterns
begin to learn negative habit patterns and negative habit patterns have their
and negative habit patterns have their root primarily in destructive criticism
root primarily in destructive criticism destructive
destructive criticism begins very early in life
criticism begins very early in life sometimes in the first few months and
sometimes in the first few months and destructive criticism is used by parents
destructive criticism is used by parents to direct and control their children
to direct and control their children unfortunately it has a very very
unfortunately it has a very very dangerous and damaging effect on
dangerous and damaging effect on children in that destructive criticism
children in that destructive criticism begins to undermine the Integrity of the
begins to undermine the Integrity of the child's personality and more of us
child's personality and more of us including myself and including most of
including myself and including most of you have been undermined and hurt by
you have been undermined and hurt by destructive criticism probably more than
destructive criticism probably more than all the war wars in history now as a
all the war wars in history now as a result of destructive criticism we begin
result of destructive criticism we begin to develop negative habit patterns
to develop negative habit patterns negative habit patterns are conditioned
negative habit patterns are conditioned responses to stimuli negative habit
responses to stimuli negative habit patterns develop very very early in life
patterns develop very very early in life they're developed as a result of a
they're developed as a result of a repetition of fear and pain over and
repetition of fear and pain over and over again they're developed as the
over again they're developed as the result of destructive criticism physical
result of destructive criticism physical punishment and so on very early in life
punishment and so on very early in life we begin to develop two major
we begin to develop two major manifestations which follow us
manifestations which follow us throughout our lives and more than
throughout our lives and more than anything else inhibit our potential as
anything else inhibit our potential as adults the first is what is called the
adults the first is what is called the inhibitive negative habit pattern the
inhibitive negative habit pattern the inhibitive negative habit pattern
inhibitive negative habit pattern is learned when the child is told over
is learned when the child is told over and over again don't get away from there
and over again don't get away from there stop leave that alone and the child is
stop leave that alone and the child is punished whenever the child tries
punished whenever the child tries something new or gets into something or
something new or gets into something or smells something or pours something over
smells something or pours something over or or breaks something accidentally the
or or breaks something accidentally the parent blows up and gets angry and upset
parent blows up and gets angry and upset you see the child is driven by an
you see the child is driven by an insatiable curiosity to explore his or
insatiable curiosity to explore his or her world and what happens is when they
her world and what happens is when they do explore it and they get into
do explore it and they get into something they tip something over if the
something they tip something over if the parent overreacts and spanks the child
parent overreacts and spanks the child the child soon begins to think that
the child soon begins to think that every time I try something new every
every time I try something new every time I try something different every
time I try something different every time I go beyond my boundaries every
time I go beyond my boundaries every time I move out of my comfort zone every
time I move out of my comfort zone every time I don't play it safe I get spanked
time I don't play it safe I get spanked I get punished I get hurt I get sent to
I get punished I get hurt I get sent to my bedroom and I feel terrible and
my bedroom and I feel terrible and pretty soon the child develops the
pretty soon the child develops the feeling of I can't I can't I can't every
feeling of I can't I can't I can't every time I try something different I get
time I try something different I get punished I can't I can't I can't this is
punished I can't I can't I can't this is like the pavlovian response where the
like the pavlovian response where the Pavo would ring the bell and feed the
Pavo would ring the bell and feed the dog meat and the dog would salivate and
dog meat and the dog would salivate and Pavo would ring the bell while they feed
Pavo would ring the bell while they feed fed the dog meat and the dog would
fed the dog meat and the dog would salivate they keep doing that pretty
salivate they keep doing that pretty soon Pavo just ring the bell and the dog
soon Pavo just ring the bell and the dog would salivate what happens in adult
would salivate what happens in adult life is that this creates what we call
life is that this creates what we call the fear of failure the fear of failure
the fear of failure the fear of failure is a conditioned response to a process
is a conditioned response to a process of destructive criticism that occurs in
of destructive criticism that occurs in the first five or six years of life the
the first five or six years of life the fear of failure automatically triggers
fear of failure automatically triggers us we feel anxious tense uneasy we feel
us we feel anxious tense uneasy we feel tension and stress in our solar plexus
tension and stress in our solar plexus we feel like withdrawing and getting
we feel like withdrawing and getting away from the event and the fear of
away from the event and the fear of failure is the major reason for failure
failure is the major reason for failure in adult life it's the major reason why
in adult life it's the major reason why we hold back from fulfilling our
we hold back from fulfilling our potentials as a matter of fact all
potentials as a matter of fact all negative habit patterns are experienced
negative habit patterns are experienced in the physical body that you can tell a
in the physical body that you can tell a negative habit pattern because you
negative habit pattern because you actually feel it in your physical body
actually feel it in your physical body the inhibitive negative habit pattern
the inhibitive negative habit pattern the fear of failure I can't is
the fear of failure I can't is experience first of all in the solar
experience first of all in the solar plexus you ever have an occasion where
plexus you ever have an occasion where you have to speak in front of a group or
you have to speak in front of a group or you have to go into an performance
you have to go into an performance review or you have to make a cold call
review or you have to make a cold call first of all the solar plexus tightens
first of all the solar plexus tightens up if fear situation continues you start
up if fear situation continues you start to breathe harder and your heart starts
to breathe harder and your heart starts to beat faster your respiratory rate and
to beat faster your respiratory rate and sometimes you get a headache like a
sometimes you get a headache like a migraine headache in the front of your
migraine headache in the front of your head sometimes your throat will tighten
head sometimes your throat will tighten up and you won't be able to speak you'll
up and you won't be able to speak you'll go completely dry sometimes you'll get
go completely dry sometimes you'll get so tense and so frightened that you'll
so tense and so frightened that you'll have to run and go to the bathroom
have to run and go to the bathroom these are all manifestations there's no
these are all manifestations there's no physical danger but there's a
physical danger but there's a psychological danger a conditioned
psychological danger a conditioned response and whenever we feel these
response and whenever we feel these things the natural tendency is to back
things the natural tendency is to back away from the situation that's causing
away from the situation that's causing them which is the reason why we don't
them which is the reason why we don't achieve very much if we are held back
achieve very much if we are held back the second negative habit pattern is the
the second negative habit pattern is the compulsive now the compulsive negative
compulsive now the compulsive negative habit pattern is learned when children
habit pattern is learned when children are told over and over again you better
are told over and over again you better or else if you don't you're in big
or else if you don't you're in big trouble now you're going to get it it's
trouble now you're going to get it it's when children are made the recipients of
when children are made the recipients of what is is called conditional love
what is is called conditional love parents don't mean to do this but what
parents don't mean to do this but what they do is they suggest to the child
they do is they suggest to the child that you are not loved therefore you're
that you are not loved therefore you're not safe unless and until you do what we
not safe unless and until you do what we want the child grows up feeling that I
want the child grows up feeling that I have to do what Mommy wants I have to
have to do what Mommy wants I have to please Mommy I have to please Daddy I
please Mommy I have to please Daddy I have to please other people I have to
have to please other people I have to please my siblings eventually I have to
please my siblings eventually I have to please my peers I have to please my
please my peers I have to please my teachers I have to please everybody they
teachers I have to please everybody they grow up with this I have to I have to I
grow up with this I have to I have to I have to I can't do what I want to do I
have to I can't do what I want to do I have to do what pleases other people
have to do what pleases other people this compulsive negative habit pattern
this compulsive negative habit pattern very early in life translates into the
very early in life translates into the fear of rejection the fear of rejection
fear of rejection the fear of rejection is experienced by men as adults as type
is experienced by men as adults as type a behavior we'll talk about type a
a behavior we'll talk about type a behavior later on in the course type a
behavior later on in the course type a behavior is a a compulsive an obsessive
behavior is a a compulsive an obsessive compulsive need to somehow please
compulsive need to somehow please somebody with no standards of
somebody with no standards of performance so that you can never
performance so that you can never accomplish it the fear of rejection
accomplish it the fear of rejection drives us it makes us very very
drives us it makes us very very sensitive to the opinions of other
sensitive to the opinions of other people we do things but that other
people we do things but that other people want we don't do things that we
people want we don't do things that we want we always trying to please others
want we always trying to please others we have a preoccupation or a concern
we have a preoccupation or a concern with the opinions and feelings and
with the opinions and feelings and attitudes of others to the point where
attitudes of others to the point where we deny our own needs now the fear of
we deny our own needs now the fear of rejection is felt down the back half of
rejection is felt down the back half of the body if you divide the body in half
the body if you divide the body in half it's felt right down the back half of
it's felt right down the back half of the body the first place you start to
the body the first place you start to feel the fear of rejection is usually in
feel the fear of rejection is usually in the shoulders and in the neck you start
the shoulders and in the neck you start to feel stiff and sore and tense
to feel stiff and sore and tense sometimes when you have a lot to do
sometimes when you have a lot to do you'll feel tremendous stress in the
you'll feel tremendous stress in the lower back the muscles will start to
lower back the muscles will start to pull in the lower back sometimes it'll
pull in the lower back sometimes it'll represent it manifest itself in fitis
represent it manifest itself in fitis and varicose veins very often it can
and varicose veins very often it can give you very bad headaches in the back
give you very bad headaches in the back of the head because the koted arteries
of the head because the koted arteries which carry blood up into the head the
which carry blood up into the head the muscles around them constrict and the
muscles around them constrict and the amount of blood flow to the Head slows
amount of blood flow to the Head slows down and you feel this pounding headache
down and you feel this pounding headache in the back of your head these two fears
in the back of your head these two fears the compulsive or these two negative
the compulsive or these two negative habit patterns the compulsive and the
habit patterns the compulsive and the inhibitive which are the result of
inhibitive which are the result of destructive criticism the great P
destructive criticism the great P destroyer of personalities plague us all
destroyer of personalities plague us all our lives now the wonderful thing about
our lives now the wonderful thing about these is because that they are because
these is because that they are because they are learned habits we can unlearn
they are learned habits we can unlearn them we can overcome the fear of failure
them we can overcome the fear of failure that holds us back we can overcome the
that holds us back we can overcome the fear of rejection that causes us to do
fear of rejection that causes us to do things that please other people rather
things that please other people rather than pleasing ourselves by working on
than pleasing ourselves by working on our own self-esteem because there is an
our own self-esteem because there is an in I relationship between self-esteem
in I relationship between self-esteem and the basic negative habit patterns is
and the basic negative habit patterns is the more you like yourself the less you
the more you like yourself the less you fear failure the more you like yourself
fear failure the more you like yourself the less you fear rejection the more you
the less you fear rejection the more you like yourself the less you fear anything
like yourself the less you fear anything and if you continue to repeat I like
and if you continue to repeat I like myself I like myself I like myself over
myself I like myself I like myself over and over again if you continue to say
and over again if you continue to say this eventually over time your
this eventually over time your self-esteem goes up higher and higher
self-esteem goes up higher and higher and higher and your fears go down as
and higher and your fears go down as your self-esteem goes up your fears go
your self-esteem goes up your fears go in the opposite
in the opposite direction now how do you deal with
direction now how do you deal with destructive criticism if you have to
destructive criticism if you have to give criticism to other people well
give criticism to other people well that's very simple many parents have
that's very simple many parents have asked us that uh how do you control
asked us that uh how do you control children one of the keys to controlling
children one of the keys to controlling children is to redirect them so that
children is to redirect them so that they're doing something constructive
they're doing something constructive versus something that is destructive
versus something that is destructive another thing to remember is that what
another thing to remember is that what you want to do is you want to give
you want to do is you want to give information criticism or constructive
information criticism or constructive criticism which means that you tell
criticism which means that you tell children what they can do or adults what
children what they can do or adults what they can do to be better remember the
they can do to be better remember the whole purpose of giving feedback of any
whole purpose of giving feedback of any kind is what it's to improve performance
kind is what it's to improve performance if you are a parent or if you are a boss
if you are a parent or if you are a boss or if you are a person in a relationship
or if you are a person in a relationship if a person is doing something wrong or
if a person is doing something wrong or inappropriate the whole purpose in in
inappropriate the whole purpose in in giving them any kind of feedback at all
giving them any kind of feedback at all is so that they'll do it better next
is so that they'll do it better next time however there's a direct
time however there's a direct relationship between self-esteem and
relationship between self-esteem and destructive criticism every time you
destructive criticism every time you criticize a person their self-esteem
criticize a person their self-esteem goes down every time their self-esteem
goes down every time their self-esteem goes down their ability to perform goes
goes down their ability to perform goes down too if you destructively criticize
down too if you destructively criticize a person often enough long enough and
a person often enough long enough and hard enough they get reach the point
hard enough they get reach the point where they won't try anything at all
where they won't try anything at all they become what we call hypers
they become what we call hypers sensitive and a hyper sensitive adult is
sensitive and a hyper sensitive adult is a person who cannot take criticism from
a person who cannot take criticism from anybody a hyper sensitive adult is a
anybody a hyper sensitive adult is a person who is very very tense and
person who is very very tense and anxious if you even suggest that they're
anxious if you even suggest that they're not doing the right thing if you have to
not doing the right thing if you have to deal with a hyper sensitive adult the
deal with a hyper sensitive adult the key is to sit them down and remember
key is to sit them down and remember four things number one always begin with
four things number one always begin with praise number two is protect the
praise number two is protect the person's self-esteem at all costs number
person's self-esteem at all costs number three is discuss the performance not the
three is discuss the performance not the person talk about the behavior rather
person talk about the behavior rather than the person and number four is is it
than the person and number four is is it number four number four is to focus on
number four number four is to focus on the future versus the past focus on what
the future versus the past focus on what is going to be done differently in the
is going to be done differently in the future or rather than what has happened
future or rather than what has happened in the past why is that very simple
in the past why is that very simple reason is because a person cannot
reason is because a person cannot control the past not being able to
control the past not being able to control the past any criticism over what
control the past any criticism over what they've done in the past causes them
they've done in the past causes them tremendous stress and frustration so let
tremendous stress and frustration so let me summarize the key to success in life
me summarize the key to success in life is a positive mental attitude a positive
is a positive mental attitude a positive mental attitude is based on expectations
mental attitude is based on expectations of success of a positive set of
of success of a positive set of expectancies positive set of
expectancies positive set of expectancies is based on beliefs and
expectancies is based on beliefs and your self-concept the core of your
your self-concept the core of your self-concept which determines your
self-concept which determines your Effectiveness in life is your
Effectiveness in life is your self-esteem and your self-esteem is
self-esteem and your self-esteem is measured by how much you like yourself
measured by how much you like yourself the two things that hold us back more
the two things that hold us back more than anything else are the fears of
than anything else are the fears of failure and the fears of rejection so
failure and the fears of rejection so one of the core secrets of success is
one of the core secrets of success is this is become a Perpetual self-esteem
this is become a Perpetual self-esteem generating organism continually be doing
generating organism continually be doing things for yourself to yourself in your
things for yourself to yourself in your life that cause you to like yourself to
life that cause you to like yourself to love yourself to accept yourself to
love yourself to accept yourself to respect yourself it caus you to feel
respect yourself it caus you to feel terrific about yourself if if you're a
terrific about yourself if if you're a boss or a parent remember that the key
boss or a parent remember that the key to Peak Performance in your home and in
to Peak Performance in your home and in your workplace is to make people feel
your workplace is to make people feel terrific about themselves and the more
terrific about themselves and the more terrific you feel about yourself the
terrific you feel about yourself the more you like yourself the more likely
more you like yourself the more likely it is that you'll make the people around
it is that you'll make the people around you like love accept and respect
you like love accept and respect themselves and you'll create a Peak
themselves and you'll create a Peak Performance environment it is the
Performance environment it is the starting point to great success and
starting point to great success and achievement in life so say over and over
achievement in life so say over and over to yourself I like myself I like myself
to yourself I like myself I like myself myself I like myself I like
myself I like myself I like myself session four your subconscious
myself session four your subconscious Powerhouse in order to unlock your full
Powerhouse in order to unlock your full potential it's absolutely essential that
potential it's absolutely essential that you understand the relationship between
you understand the relationship between the conscious and the subconscious mind
the conscious and the subconscious mind there know thousands of books have been
there know thousands of books have been written on this subject there's
written on this subject there's tremendous complexities there's
tremendous complexities there's references to the conscious and the
references to the conscious and the subconscious especially the subconscious
subconscious especially the subconscious throughout all of human history the
throughout all of human history the subconscious is often called the
subconscious is often called the PowerHouse of your being and we're going
PowerHouse of your being and we're going to talk about how you fect the
to talk about how you fect the subconscious more as we go through this
subconscious more as we go through this program but let's start off talking
program but let's start off talking about the relationship between the two
about the relationship between the two minds and what you can do to begin
minds and what you can do to begin controlling and changing the programming
controlling and changing the programming within the
within the subconscious the conscious and the
subconscious the conscious and the subconscious minds are very beautifully
subconscious minds are very beautifully designed by a master master designer if
designed by a master master designer if you know what I mean in that they have
you know what I mean in that they have very separate functions and they work
very separate functions and they work perfectly in tandem with each other
perfectly in tandem with each other probably a good way to illustrate it is
probably a good way to illustrate it is say to say this is is the conscious mind
say to say this is is the conscious mind and this is the subconscious mind
and this is the subconscious mind actually the conscious mind does about
actually the conscious mind does about 10% of your thinking it's responsible
10% of your thinking it's responsible for about 10% of your conscious
for about 10% of your conscious awareness and the subconscious mind is
awareness and the subconscious mind is at least 90% or more when we talk about
at least 90% or more when we talk about human potential and unlocking human
human potential and unlocking human potential we mean unlocking the vast
potential we mean unlocking the vast capacity or power of the subconscious so
capacity or power of the subconscious so what does the conscious mind do well the
what does the conscious mind do well the conscious mind has certain specific
conscious mind has certain specific functions first of all the conscious
functions first of all the conscious mind is objective the conscious mind can
mind is objective the conscious mind can look at the world clearly if you like
look at the world clearly if you like with Clarity and think about it
with Clarity and think about it analytically objective by meaning
analytically objective by meaning without emotion second of all the
without emotion second of all the objective mind or the sub the conscious
objective mind or the sub the conscious mind is rational and it is also
discriminating these are three of the qualities in other words it can discern
qualities in other words it can discern the differences between truth and
the differences between truth and falsehood it can analyze it is sort of
falsehood it can analyze it is sort of like the mathematical or unemotional
like the mathematical or unemotional part of the brain the conscious mind has
part of the brain the conscious mind has four major functions the first function
four major functions the first function is that the conscious mind identifies
is that the conscious mind identifies incoming data now incoming data can come
incoming data now incoming data can come from a variety of different sources it
from a variety of different sources it can be thoughts that you have or it can
can be thoughts that you have or it can be things that are happening to you in
be things that are happening to you in the external world so let us say you're
the external world so let us say you're walking across the street this is your
walking across the street this is your mind you're walking across the street
mind you're walking across the street and you hear the Roar of an automobile
and you hear the Roar of an automobile engine your eyes immediately turn to the
engine your eyes immediately turn to the right to see what the sound is and to
right to see what the sound is and to identify what is that sound when you see
identify what is that sound when you see the automobile you identify you attach
the automobile you identify you attach the sound to the car the second thing
the sound to the car the second thing that the conscious mind does is it
that the conscious mind does is it Compares that moving automobile to all
Compares that moving automobile to all other moving Automobiles of your
other moving Automobiles of your experience now if you live in a big city
experience now if you live in a big city like New York when you see a car and you
like New York when you see a car and you compare that moving automobile with
compare that moving automobile with other cars you've seen a 100 thousand
other cars you've seen a 100 thousand maybe a million Cars Moving and your
maybe a million Cars Moving and your reflexes are very very sharp if you live
reflexes are very very sharp if you live in a country that doesn't have very many
in a country that doesn't have very many automobiles chances are when you see a
automobiles chances are when you see a moving vehicle your reflexes will be
moving vehicle your reflexes will be very very slow the comparison is done by
very very slow the comparison is done by if you like making a quick inspection
if you like making a quick inspection into the subconscious and checking every
into the subconscious and checking every single previous experience that you've
single previous experience that you've had with moving cars as that is done as
had with moving cars as that is done as the comparison is done you
the comparison is done you instantaneously get a response back as a
instantaneously get a response back as a matter of fact it is said that the
matter of fact it is said that the subconscious functions at about 30,000
subconscious functions at about 30,000 times the speed of the conscious mind
times the speed of the conscious mind and that you can just have one glance
and that you can just have one glance here one noise or think one thought in
here one noise or think one thought in the conscious mind and you can instantly
the conscious mind and you can instantly trigger a reaction that might take an
trigger a reaction that might take an enormous amount hours and hours of
enormous amount hours and hours of evaluation if you were to do it
evaluation if you were to do it consciously the third thing the third
consciously the third thing the third function of the conscious mind is that
function of the conscious mind is that it analyzes once it has a response back
it analyzes once it has a response back in its comparison it analyzes the
in its comparison it analyzes the situation you're walking across the
situation you're walking across the street you hear the sound of the
street you hear the sound of the automobile engine you turn eyes right
automobile engine you turn eyes right you see the car moving down at you your
you see the car moving down at you your comparison tells you that that car is
comparison tells you that that car is moving at a speed of 50 m hour and it
moving at a speed of 50 m hour and it will be where you are in 1 second unless
will be where you are in 1 second unless you move so you now analyze and you say
you move so you now analyze and you say what do I do should I move or not and if
what do I do should I move or not and if the answer is yes what you do is you
the answer is yes what you do is you move and that takes us to the fourth
move and that takes us to the fourth function of the conscious mind which is
function of the conscious mind which is to decide the conscious mind decides
to decide the conscious mind decides what to do after the analysis it says
what to do after the analysis it says yes or no the conscious mind functions
yes or no the conscious mind functions like a binary computer it is always
like a binary computer it is always saying yes or no to incoming information
saying yes or no to incoming information and the conscious mind can only hold one
and the conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time now this is really
thought at a time now this is really amazing as you're going to see this a
amazing as you're going to see this a really a brilliant structure so you're
really a brilliant structure so you're walking across the street you hear the
walking across the street you hear the sound you look to the right you see the
sound you look to the right you see the car moving the comparison says that that
car moving the comparison says that that car is moving on you the an analysis of
car is moving on you the an analysis of the moving car says you've got to get
the moving car says you've got to get out of the way so you say do I move yes
out of the way so you say do I move yes or no answer yes do I move forward yes
or no answer yes do I move forward yes or no answer no do I move backward yes
or no answer no do I move backward yes or no and as soon as you say yes I move
or no and as soon as you say yes I move backward and you convey this word yes to
backward and you convey this word yes to the subconscious mind the subconscious
the subconscious mind the subconscious mind instantly triggers all the muscles
mind instantly triggers all the muscles all the nerves all the Senus all the
all the nerves all the Senus all the tissues to move yourself back out of the
tissues to move yourself back out of the way you don't have to sit there and
way you don't have to sit there and think well should I move my right foot
think well should I move my right foot first should I move my left foot first
first should I move my left foot first uh all you do is send a signal to the
uh all you do is send a signal to the conscious mind backed by a charge if you
conscious mind backed by a charge if you like or a detonation of emotion and the
like or a detonation of emotion and the stronger the emotion the more
stronger the emotion the more instantaneously the subconscious
instantaneously the subconscious responds to your command the
responds to your command the subconscious is activated by emotion
subconscious is activated by emotion emotion of fear emotion of Desire the
emotion of fear emotion of Desire the survival Instinct the love Instinct but
survival Instinct the love Instinct but it is always an emotion that triggers
it is always an emotion that triggers the subconscious
the subconscious okay what are some of the features of
okay what are some of the features of the subconscious mind the subconscious
the subconscious mind the subconscious mind is like a massive Data Bank as a
mind is like a massive Data Bank as a massive Data Bank the role of the
massive Data Bank the role of the subconscious is to store and retrieve
data in other words the subconscious mind is the subjective mind in that it
mind is the subjective mind in that it simply is the mind that obeys just as
simply is the mind that obeys just as the conscious mind
the conscious mind commands the subconscious mind obeys the
commands the subconscious mind obeys the sub conscious mind has no thought of its
sub conscious mind has no thought of its own by the way the conscious mind has no
own by the way the conscious mind has no memory the subconscious mind is the seat
memory the subconscious mind is the seat of all memory the conscious mind
of all memory the conscious mind remember could only hold one thought at
remember could only hold one thought at a time whereas you can remember millions
a time whereas you can remember millions of facts the relationship between the
of facts the relationship between the conscious and the subconscious is the
conscious and the subconscious is the conscious is like a
conscious is like a gardener and the subconscious is like a
gardener and the subconscious is like a garden whatever seeds you plant in your
garden whatever seeds you plant in your subconscious mind the subconscious mind
subconscious mind the subconscious mind goes to work to grow in the subconscious
goes to work to grow in the subconscious mind you have a whole series of
mind you have a whole series of different programs the self-concept
different programs the self-concept which contains all the information on
which contains all the information on all the subjects that are important to
all the subjects that are important to you and all of your previous experiences
you and all of your previous experiences and responses to those situations so
and responses to those situations so that if you have a new situation similar
that if you have a new situation similar to it one of the roles of the
to it one of the roles of the subconscious is to keep your behaviors
subconscious is to keep your behaviors consistent with your previous behaviors
consistent with your previous behaviors so that if you've always been fearful in
so that if you've always been fearful in a situation you see the situation you'll
a situation you see the situation you'll instantaneously be fearful without
instantaneously be fearful without thought if you're in a situation that
thought if you're in a situation that you don't know anything about the
you don't know anything about the natural tendency is for you to be
natural tendency is for you to be neither fearful nor unfearful because
neither fearful nor unfearful because you don't know enough until you build up
you don't know enough until you build up an experience bank now this brings us to
an experience bank now this brings us to three critical laws three of the most
three critical laws three of the most important mental laws that we talked
important mental laws that we talked about remember we talked about how your
about remember we talked about how your whole life is determined by mental laws
whole life is determined by mental laws the the first of these three mental laws
the the first of these three mental laws is the law of subconscious
is the law of subconscious activity the law of subconscious
activity the law of subconscious activity
activity says that whatever you plant into your
says that whatever you plant into your subconscious mind it immediately goes to
subconscious mind it immediately goes to work to bring into your reality and your
work to bring into your reality and your subconscious mind makes all your words
subconscious mind makes all your words and actions it makes all your words and
and actions it makes all your words and actions fit a pattern consistent with
actions fit a pattern consistent with your
self-concept in other words it keeps all your words and actions in a pattern fit
your words and actions in a pattern fit a pattern consistent with your
a pattern consistent with your self-concept or consistent with all
self-concept or consistent with all previous
previous information that you have put in also it
information that you have put in also it keeps your words and actions consistent
keeps your words and actions consistent with with your dominant
with with your dominant goals which eventually if you like
goals which eventually if you like become part of your self-concept so that
become part of your self-concept so that means that your body language your
means that your body language your attitude your level of energy your level
attitude your level of energy your level of self-confidence the way you get along
of self-confidence the way you get along with other people your social skills
with other people your social skills everything is consistent with your
everything is consistent with your self-concept the subconscious simply
self-concept the subconscious simply without you thinking about it at all
without you thinking about it at all keeps everything consistent with it so
keeps everything consistent with it so when you feel really good when your
when you feel really good when your self-concept is positive you have a
self-concept is positive you have a bounce in your step your body language
bounce in your step your body language is confidence it's courage courageous
is confidence it's courage courageous it's outgoing and so on and when you
it's outgoing and so on and when you feel negative your self-concept is
feel negative your self-concept is negative and you will act in the same
negative and you will act in the same manner which brings us to our second law
manner which brings us to our second law the second law is the law of
the second law is the law of concentration actually this is the ninth
concentration actually this is the ninth law that we've talked about since we
law that we've talked about since we began the law of concentration is very
began the law of concentration is very very very important it's it's so
very very important it's it's so important as a matter fact each of these
important as a matter fact each of these laws is so important in their place as
laws is so important in their place as to be enough in themselves to control
to be enough in themselves to control your destiny the law of concentration
your destiny the law of concentration simply says this it says that whatever
simply says this it says that whatever you dwell upon on grows whatever you
you dwell upon on grows whatever you dwell upon
dwell upon grows whatever you think about over and
grows whatever you think about over and over
over again grows in your
again grows in your reality it's very simple I used to do a
reality it's very simple I used to do a course on constru on creative thinking
course on constru on creative thinking and the way that you explain it is you
and the way that you explain it is you imagine that this is the total mental
imagine that this is the total mental capacity that you have and when you send
capacity that you have and when you send a thought into this it takes up this
a thought into this it takes up this amount of space and all the rest of the
amount of space and all the rest of the mental capacity is used to
mental capacity is used to this is your thoughts is used to think
this is your thoughts is used to think about all the other things in your mind
about all the other things in your mind but the more you think from the
but the more you think from the conscious down to the subconscious the
conscious down to the subconscious the more of your mental capacity is
more of your mental capacity is committed to thinking about this one
committed to thinking about this one idea until you reach a point where if
idea until you reach a point where if you dwell upon something consistently
you dwell upon something consistently you reach a point where you think of
you reach a point where you think of nothing else and as you think of nothing
nothing else and as you think of nothing else you begin to set up this vibratory
else you begin to set up this vibratory field the subconscious mind is the core
field the subconscious mind is the core of the Law of Attraction and the the law
of the Law of Attraction and the the law of vibration and the law of radiation
of vibration and the law of radiation you begin to set up this vibratory field
you begin to set up this vibratory field that sends out thought energy from you
that sends out thought energy from you consistent with what you are thinking
consistent with what you are thinking about and draws back into your life
about and draws back into your life people and circumstances in harmony with
people and circumstances in harmony with those thoughts so you just have to look
those thoughts so you just have to look around you and you have to say what are
around you and you have to say what are you thinking about all the time what are
you thinking about all the time what are you dwelling on all the time and the
you dwelling on all the time and the basic rule with regard to the law of
basic rule with regard to the law of concentration is to dwell upon think
concentration is to dwell upon think about what you want to happen not about
about what you want to happen not about what you fear and this brings us to the
what you fear and this brings us to the third law in this series and that is the
third law in this series and that is the law of
law of substitution now the law of substitution
substitution now the law of substitution I've had many of my graduates tell me
I've had many of my graduates tell me this has been the most important law
this has been the most important law they've ever learned it's a very simple
they've ever learned it's a very simple law and it's based on a fact that the
law and it's based on a fact that the conscious mind can only hold one thought
conscious mind can only hold one thought at a time positive or negative if you
at a time positive or negative if you want to get rid of a negative thought
want to get rid of a negative thought the mind is not like a vacuum it doesn't
the mind is not like a vacuum it doesn't stay empty if you want to get rid of a
stay empty if you want to get rid of a negative thought you have to knock it
negative thought you have to knock it out if you like with a positive thought
out if you like with a positive thought is that you can replace one thought with
is that you can replace one thought with another you can replace one thought with
another and if you do that consistently and if you replace any negative thought
and if you replace any negative thought any fear thought any anxiety thought any
any fear thought any anxiety thought any self-limiting thought any negative
self-limiting thought any negative expectations anything that's holding you
expectations anything that's holding you back any fear of failure lack poverty
back any fear of failure lack poverty rejection loss or anything else if you
rejection loss or anything else if you replace it with a desire thought and
replace it with a desire thought and this is the key fear versus desire if
this is the key fear versus desire if you keep your mind on what you want and
you keep your mind on what you want and keep it off of what you don't want as
keep it off of what you don't want as you dwell on your desire your fears
you dwell on your desire your fears diminish and get smaller as you think
diminish and get smaller as you think about what you want eventually because
about what you want eventually because of the law of substitution you have less
of the law of substitution you have less and less time less and less emotion to
and less time less and less emotion to think about what you don't want why is
think about what you don't want why is it that people are successful it's
it that people are successful it's simply this in the Bible it says from
simply this in the Bible it says from them that to them that hath shall more
them that to them that hath shall more be given and from him who hath not even
be given and from him who hath not even that which he hath shall be taken away
that which he hath shall be taken away what it means is simply this the rich
what it means is simply this the rich get richer the poor get poorer why it's
get richer the poor get poorer why it's because the rich think about wealth and
because the rich think about wealth and affluence all the time and what do the
affluence all the time and what do the poor think about the poor think about
poor think about the poor think about lack loss and limitation risk danger
lack loss and limitation risk danger fear failure all the time so if you want
fear failure all the time so if you want to unlock your potential if you want to
to unlock your potential if you want to go straight to the Stars you have to use
go straight to the Stars you have to use the law of substitution to keep your
the law of substitution to keep your mind on what you want use the law of
mind on what you want use the law of concentration to dwell continually on
concentration to dwell continually on the results you desire be solution
the results you desire be solution centered rather than problem centered be
centered rather than problem centered be goal centered rather than law centered
goal centered rather than law centered and the law of subconscious activity
and the law of subconscious activity will begin to adjust your words your
will begin to adjust your words your actions your feelings your emotions and
actions your feelings your emotions and everything to the point where you will
everything to the point where you will draw into your life the people in
draw into your life the people in circumstances that will harmonize with
circumstances that will harmonize with it now what's the most powerful thing
it now what's the most powerful thing you can do it's very simply this you is
you can do it's very simply this you is Success begins with taking purposeful
Success begins with taking purposeful systematic control of the cons content
systematic control of the cons content of your conscious mind purposeful
of your conscious mind purposeful systematic control of the content of
systematic control of the content of your conscious mind everything comes
your conscious mind everything comes back to the law of control as we talked
back to the law of control as we talked about at the very beginning purposeful
about at the very beginning purposeful systematic control is best taken by
systematic control is best taken by saying over and over again I like myself
saying over and over again I like myself I like myself I like myself I like
I like myself I like myself I like myself when you repeat I like myself or
myself when you repeat I like myself or better I love myself over and over again
better I love myself over and over again you drive this thought into the
you drive this thought into the subconscious mind more and more you
subconscious mind more and more you think of yourself in positive terms more
think of yourself in positive terms more and more you push out thoughts of
and more you push out thoughts of inferiority negativity fear failure
inferiority negativity fear failure rejection and so on more and more you
rejection and so on more and more you reprogram all previous data in your
reprogram all previous data in your subconscious computer so that it is
subconscious computer so that it is consistent with high self-esteem
consistent with high self-esteem personal Effectiveness and excellent
personal Effectiveness and excellent personal performance is that the key to
personal performance is that the key to your success in life is to use the power
your success in life is to use the power of your subconscious mind to program it
of your subconscious mind to program it with thoughts words pictures ideas and
with thoughts words pictures ideas and feelings consistent with high
feelings consistent with high performance and keep your mind on what
performance and keep your mind on what you desire and off of what you fear
you desire and off of what you fear remember the only thing in the world you
remember the only thing in the world you can control is your thinking the only
can control is your thinking the only thing in the world you can control are
thing in the world you can control are your conscious thoughts and if you will
your conscious thoughts and if you will do that everything else will become
do that everything else will become possible for you
Brian Tracy [Music]
presenta session five taking charge of your life we said in the first series of
your life we said in the first series of modules that the starting point of all
modules that the starting point of all Peak Performance is self-esteem it's how
Peak Performance is self-esteem it's how much you like yourself how much you love
much you like yourself how much you love yourself how much you accept yourself as
yourself how much you accept yourself as a valuable and worthwhile human being
a valuable and worthwhile human being the second part of Peak Performance I
the second part of Peak Performance I think the two key requirements the
think the two key requirements the second part is self responsibility
second part is self responsibility self-esteem plus self- responsibility
self-esteem plus self- responsibility each reinforcing themselves and what
each reinforcing themselves and what self- responsibility says simply is that
self- responsibility says simply is that you are the architect of your own
you are the architect of your own destiny that you are the master of your
destiny that you are the master of your own fate that you are totally
own fate that you are totally self-responsible that everything that
self-responsible that everything that you are or ever will be is up to you and
you are or ever will be is up to you and you alone now you can believe in a
you alone now you can believe in a higher power as I do and you can say
higher power as I do and you can say that the higher power is responsible but
that the higher power is responsible but God helps those who help themselves and
God helps those who help themselves and for this Earthly life you're in charge
for this Earthly life you're in charge of your life you're in charge of what
of your life you're in charge of what happens to you if you don't like the way
happens to you if you don't like the way things are going it's up to you to
things are going it's up to you to change it but there's no way that you
change it but there's no way that you can ever give away responsibility and
can ever give away responsibility and this whole subject of responsibility is
this whole subject of responsibility is one that is very controversial and as
one that is very controversial and as you see you will see as we talk in this
you see you will see as we talk in this session it's one that you have to
session it's one that you have to understand with Crystal Clarity if you
understand with Crystal Clarity if you want to achieve your full potential as a
want to achieve your full potential as a human being now we go over here one of
human being now we go over here one of the things that we know is we start off
the things that we know is we start off as infants if you like when we're born I
as infants if you like when we're born I just write I for infant we start off as
just write I for infant we start off as infants and as we grow to become adults
infants and as we grow to become adults at the age of 18
at the age of 18 years we start off with zero
years we start off with zero responsibility and as we grow toward
responsibility and as we grow toward becoming adults we gradually we gain
becoming adults we gradually we gain responsibility more and more until by
responsibility more and more until by the time we become adults at the age of
the time we become adults at the age of 18 years if our parents have brought us
18 years if our parents have brought us up properly if they have prepared us if
up properly if they have prepared us if they've encouraged us to be self-reliant
they've encouraged us to be self-reliant if they've encouraged us to make our own
if they've encouraged us to make our own decisions and think for ourselves and
decisions and think for ourselves and plan our own lives at the age of 18
plan our own lives at the age of 18 years legally speaking psychologically
years legally speaking psychologically morally mentally physically and
morally mentally physically and everything else you are ready to take
everything else you are ready to take over your own life now if your parents
over your own life now if your parents have not prepared you as an adult for
have not prepared you as an adult for total responsibility it doesn't matter
total responsibility it doesn't matter at the age of 18 and from 18 onward you
at the age of 18 and from 18 onward you are 100% responsible for the rest of
are 100% responsible for the rest of your life you can never absolve yourself
your life you can never absolve yourself of responsibility for the rest of your
of responsibility for the rest of your life everything that happens to you is
life everything that happens to you is up to you totally and without
up to you totally and without forgiveness the the slogan of the truly
forgiveness the the slogan of the truly responsible person is if it's to be if
responsible person is if it's to be if it's to be it's up to
it's to be it's up to me which means as Henry Ford
me which means as Henry Ford said never complain never explain never
said never complain never explain never complain never explain what that means
complain never explain what that means is if you don't like the way things
is if you don't like the way things are then it's up to you to change them
are then it's up to you to change them and if you're not willing to take steps
and if you're not willing to take steps to change them then don't complain about
to change them then don't complain about them just simply accept them men who are
them just simply accept them men who are men and women who are women don't
men and women who are women don't complain about the difficulties of Life
complain about the difficulties of Life they just accept them as the
they just accept them as the difficulties of life and they either do
difficulties of life and they either do something about them or they don't say
something about them or they don't say anything so if it's to be it's up to me
anything so if it's to be it's up to me if it's to be it's up to you this is one
if it's to be it's up to you this is one of the hardest things to understand
of the hardest things to understand because when we're child children at
because when we're child children at this stage we're totally
this stage we're totally dependent and being totally dependent we
dependent and being totally dependent we develop if you like a habit pattern or a
develop if you like a habit pattern or a conditioned response and we look for the
conditioned response and we look for the reason that things happen outside of
reason that things happen outside of ourselves as we become adults if we're
ourselves as we become adults if we're not careful we will still retain this
not careful we will still retain this dependency and we will long for the what
dependency and we will long for the what is called the pseudo security of
is called the pseudo security of childhood that time in childhood when
childhood that time in childhood when someone took care of us that time in
someone took care of us that time in childhood when we were fed and clothed
childhood when we were fed and clothed and our our our home was taken care of
and our our our home was taken care of and our school and everything we didn't
and our school and everything we didn't have to worry about a thing because they
have to worry about a thing because they took care of it as we grow up we go out
took care of it as we grow up we go out to school and the people at school they
to school and the people at school they take care of things and if we're not
take care of things and if we're not careful we get into the work world and
careful we get into the work world and then again it's they it's always someone
then again it's they it's always someone else outside of oursel who is ultimately
else outside of oursel who is ultimately responsible for ourselves one of the
responsible for ourselves one of the things which I'll talk about later is
things which I'll talk about later is the whole idea of self-development most
the whole idea of self-development most people because they've been taking all
people because they've been taking all their education in the public school
their education in the public school system think that it's up to them when
system think that it's up to them when they're adults to continue their
they're adults to continue their education if nobody comes along to
education if nobody comes along to continue it they just simply don't do it
continue it they just simply don't do it now there's another point and that's the
now there's another point and that's the difference between maturity and
difference between maturity and immaturity and here's a very simple
immaturity and here's a very simple example imagine that this is the course
example imagine that this is the course of Life Again from infancy to adulthood
of Life Again from infancy to adulthood and everybody reaches the stage sooner
and everybody reaches the stage sooner or later where they come to this great
or later where they come to this great cliff and this great canyon and this is
cliff and this great canyon and this is the side of immaturity this is the site
the side of immaturity this is the site of childhood this is the side where we
of childhood this is the side where we are dependent upon others and where we
are dependent upon others and where we look to others for our answers and our
look to others for our answers and our Solutions we look outside of ourselves
Solutions we look outside of ourselves at this point we come to the edge of
at this point we come to the edge of this Canyon at the edge of this Canyon
this Canyon at the edge of this Canyon we look across into the land of maturity
we look across into the land of maturity the land of adulthood and each one of us
the land of adulthood and each one of us has to make a decision to
has to make a decision to jump in one great leap from being a
jump in one great leap from being a child to being an adult now sometimes
child to being an adult now sometimes this is forced on us sometimes it
this is forced on us sometimes it happens in an evolutionary way but
happens in an evolutionary way but sooner or later we have to make the
sooner or later we have to make the decision to accept the fact that we're
decision to accept the fact that we're in charge of our own lives we The
in charge of our own lives we The Architects of our own destinies
Architects of our own destinies and then get on with it what do most
and then get on with it what do most people do unfortunately what most people
people do unfortunately what most people do is they turn back at this point they
do is they turn back at this point they slip into marriages where somebody will
slip into marriages where somebody will take care of them they take jobs where
take care of them they take jobs where they expect their bosses to take care of
they expect their bosses to take care of them and so on or they just simply avoid
them and so on or they just simply avoid responsibility by looking for the cause
responsibility by looking for the cause of everything that happens to them in
of everything that happens to them in other people and other circumstances
other people and other circumstances it's their bills it's their health it's
it's their bills it's their health it's the way their parents treated them and
the way their parents treated them and so on they're not really
so on they're not really responsible on the other hand sometimes
responsible on the other hand sometimes they decide to take a little
they decide to take a little responsibility but not too much which is
responsibility but not too much which is the equivalent of trying to leap over a
the equivalent of trying to leap over a canyon in two
canyon in two jumps and where the great vast majority
jumps and where the great vast majority of people end up unfortunately is in the
of people end up unfortunately is in the valley and this is the valley of excuses
valley and this is the valley of excuses the great majority of people spend their
the great majority of people spend their whole life life in the valley of excuses
whole life life in the valley of excuses making excuses rather than making
making excuses rather than making progress there's an old saying that says
progress there's an old saying that says the disease of
the disease of excusitis which is the habit of making
excusitis which is the habit of making excuses to to excuse away our failures
excuses to to excuse away our failures and our inadequacy is fatal to success
and our inadequacy is fatal to success the habit of making excuses is fatal to
the habit of making excuses is fatal to your success so the question you have to
your success so the question you have to ask yourself when we talk about
ask yourself when we talk about responsibility is what excuses do you
responsibility is what excuses do you use not to move ahead there was an a
use not to move ahead there was an a very famous Story by Tolstoy where tolto
very famous Story by Tolstoy where tolto and his brothers would play and they had
and his brothers would play and they had a game and the game was that out in the
a game and the game was that out in the garden there would be a box and in the
garden there would be a box and in the Box was the answer to all the riddles of
Box was the answer to all the riddles of life and you could find the box under a
life and you could find the box under a certain Bush as long as you didn't think
certain Bush as long as you didn't think about a big white rabbit as long as you
about a big white rabbit as long as you kept your mind clear of that big white
kept your mind clear of that big white rabbit and you didn't think about the
rabbit and you didn't think about the rabbit you could find the answer to all
rabbit you could find the answer to all the mysteries of life well of course
the mysteries of life well of course nobody ever found the box or nobody ever
nobody ever found the box or nobody ever found the answer to the mysteries of
found the answer to the mysteries of life because they couldn't stop thinking
life because they couldn't stop thinking of the Big White Rabbit the question you
of the Big White Rabbit the question you have to ask yourself is what is your big
have to ask yourself is what is your big white rabbit is what is it that you
white rabbit is what is it that you think of what is the excuse that looms
think of what is the excuse that looms into your mind whenever you think of
into your mind whenever you think of something that you could do or have or
something that you could do or have or be a new job a new challenge an
be a new job a new challenge an opportunity changing something in your
opportunity changing something in your life that you're not happy with what is
life that you're not happy with what is the White Rabbit what is the excuse that
the White Rabbit what is the excuse that pops into your mind you say well I could
pops into your mind you say well I could I can't do that because or another thing
I can't do that because or another thing is yes but I'd like to but there's
is yes but I'd like to but there's always a reason I'm too young I'm too
always a reason I'm too young I'm too old I'm Too Tall I'm too short I don't
old I'm Too Tall I'm too short I don't have enough education I've got too much
have enough education I've got too much education it's the wrong time it's the
education it's the wrong time it's the wrong place and so on what is your White
wrong place and so on what is your White Rabbit what is it that sticks in the
Rabbit what is it that sticks in the back of your mind that causes you to
back of your mind that causes you to make excuses that causes you to hang
make excuses that causes you to hang back from taking respons ibility that
back from taking respons ibility that keeps you in the land of childhood
keeps you in the land of childhood immaturity and irresponsibility very
immaturity and irresponsibility very very important question to ask now when
very important question to ask now when we talk about responsibility we talk
we talk about responsibility we talk about something else it's simply this is
about something else it's simply this is that the acceptance of responsibility is
that the acceptance of responsibility is not optional many of us like to think
not optional many of us like to think that well you know I'll take a little
that well you know I'll take a little responsibility here I'll take a little
responsibility here I'll take a little responsibility there no the acceptance
responsibility there no the acceptance of responsibility is not optional from
of responsibility is not optional from the time you become 18 years
the time you become 18 years old you are 100% responsible you have no
old you are 100% responsible you have no choice in the matter as a matter of fact
choice in the matter as a matter of fact there are very few things in life over
there are very few things in life over which you have no choice but you have no
which you have no choice but you have no choice in this it is
choice in this it is mandatory it is mandatory if you wish to
mandatory it is mandatory if you wish to fulfill your potential if you wish to
fulfill your potential if you wish to become everything you're capable of
become everything you're capable of becoming you must take full
becoming you must take full responsibility for bringing about the
responsibility for bringing about the circumstances for making the changes for
circumstances for making the changes for making the hard decisions necessary if
making the hard decisions necessary if you take the word responsibility you
you take the word responsibility you know you can break it into two words
know you can break it into two words response and ability
response and ability and one of the things which I've learned
and one of the things which I've learned as I've studied history is that all of
as I've studied history is that all of life is a series of challenges
life is a series of challenges difficulties problems setbacks obstacles
difficulties problems setbacks obstacles to face and the difference between the
to face and the difference between the winners and losers in life is not the
winners and losers in life is not the difference in problems because everybody
difference in problems because everybody has problems and most people and many
has problems and most people and many people have more and bigger problems
people have more and bigger problems that you and I could ever dream of the
that you and I could ever dream of the difference in life the difference
difference in life the difference between winners and losers is the
between winners and losers is the responses to the
responses to the problems many years ago a man named
problems many years ago a man named oswal Spangler wrote a book in which he
oswal Spangler wrote a book in which he talked about what he called The
talked about what he called The Challenge response Theory the challenge
Challenge response Theory the challenge response Theory simply said that
response Theory simply said that civilizations grow and decline to the
civilizations grow and decline to the degree to which they meet challenges
degree to which they meet challenges effectively and respond effectively a
effectively and respond effectively a small Society starts out small and
small Society starts out small and almost invariably it will be challenged
almost invariably it will be challenged by either an external enemy or nature or
by either an external enemy or nature or weather or something else if the society
weather or something else if the society responds in a positive and constructive
responds in a positive and constructive way to the challenge the society grows
way to the challenge the society grows as it grows it triggers additional
as it grows it triggers additional challenges difficulties if it responds
challenges difficulties if it responds to them effectively it grows some more
to them effectively it grows some more Oswald Spangler studied the 21 great
Oswald Spangler studied the 21 great empires of human civilization and found
empires of human civilization and found that every single one followed this
that every single one followed this cycle as long as the civilization
cycle as long as the civilization continued to rise to the challenge it
continued to rise to the challenge it continued to grow stronger and stronger
continued to grow stronger and stronger the reason why this analogy is so
the reason why this analogy is so important is that we as human beings are
important is that we as human beings are exactly the same we grow to the degree
exactly the same we grow to the degree to which we respond effectively to the
to which we respond effectively to the degree to which we rise to the
degree to which we rise to the challenges without making excuses that
challenges without making excuses that life throws at us and when we look at
life throws at us and when we look at the great men and women of History
the great men and women of History whether it's Albert schwier or Winston
whether it's Albert schwier or Winston Churchill or George Washington or
Churchill or George Washington or Abraham Lincoln or Franklin Del
Abraham Lincoln or Franklin Del Roosevelt we look at those great people
Roosevelt we look at those great people we find that they were always people
we find that they were always people that Rose to the challenges of the
that Rose to the challenges of the time if ever you wish to be capable of
time if ever you wish to be capable of rising to Great challenges what you have
rising to Great challenges what you have to do is you have to start off on a
to do is you have to start off on a daily basis rising to small challenges
daily basis rising to small challenges which means no matter what happens
which means no matter what happens you accept the challenge you accept the
you accept the challenge you accept the responsibility you refuse to make
responsibility you refuse to make excuses and you go forward now there's
excuses and you go forward now there's three areas in life in our Modern Life
three areas in life in our Modern Life which you must be very very aware of the
which you must be very very aware of the first area is the political area if you
first area is the political area if you look around you you will find that there
look around you you will find that there is a great drive toward the government
is a great drive toward the government doing it the government being
doing it the government being responsible make the government
responsible make the government responsible what people are doing is
responsible what people are doing is they want the government to be their
they want the government to be their parent they want the government to
parent they want the government to protect them and take care of them but
protect them and take care of them but is the more you vote for politicians to
is the more you vote for politicians to do things for you the more you give
do things for you the more you give politicians control you see you can
politicians control you see you can never give away responsibility you can
never give away responsibility you can only give away control how do you give
only give away control how do you give away control you give away control in
away control you give away control in terms of voting for them to spend more
terms of voting for them to spend more of your money regulate more of your
of your money regulate more of your businesses tax away more of your income
businesses tax away more of your income and so on the second area so let me just
and so on the second area so let me just finish this the merge towards statism
finish this the merge towards statism collectivism socialism large government
collectivism socialism large government and so on is all aimed at somehow making
and so on is all aimed at somehow making the government that faceless bunch of
the government that faceless bunch of bureaucrats responsible for the
bureaucrats responsible for the challenges of our own lives now the
challenges of our own lives now the second area where this is prevalent is
second area where this is prevalent is in the criminal justice
system in the criminal justice system you will find that the one
you will find that the one characteristic of all criminals is that
characteristic of all criminals is that they refused to accept responsibility
they refused to accept responsibility for their crime it was always someone
for their crime it was always someone else or something else it was always
else or something else it was always their childhood or the background or the
their childhood or the background or the other guys that the way that people get
other guys that the way that people get out of the criminal justice system is
out of the criminal justice system is they accept responsibility for the
they accept responsibility for the crimes they've committed and they say I
crimes they've committed and they say I did this nobody made me do it I am
did this nobody made me do it I am responsible and they stop going back to
responsible and they stop going back to jail the third area is in medicine today
jail the third area is in medicine today we know that almost all of our problems
we know that almost all of our problems in medicine are psychological in origin
in medicine are psychological in origin or we inflict things on ourselves the
or we inflict things on ourselves the average American or Canadian is about 10
average American or Canadian is about 10 to 20 pounds overweight in medicine we
to 20 pounds overweight in medicine we expect the doctor to be responsible just
expect the doctor to be responsible just imagine how we would take what kind of
imagine how we would take what kind of care you would take of yourself if you
care you would take of yourself if you run a desert island for life with no
run a desert island for life with no doctors no nurses no hospitals no
doctors no nurses no hospitals no medicine no nothing where you had
medicine no nothing where you had nothing to fall back on very very
nothing to fall back on very very important point so all around you in
important point so all around you in society you're going to notice this
society you're going to notice this clamor this demand I am not responsible
clamor this demand I am not responsible make somebody else
make somebody else responsible but this is the key remember
responsible but this is the key remember you are always free to
you are always free to choose you are free to
choose you are free to choose your responses you are free to
choose your responses you are free to choose a quality of your emotional life
choose a quality of your emotional life you know that
you know that you decide how you're going to feel by
you decide how you're going to feel by how you are going to respond you decide
how you are going to respond you decide when to get angry when to be happy when
when to get angry when to be happy when to be unhappy you decide what your
to be unhappy you decide what your attitude is going to be when you get up
attitude is going to be when you get up in the morning you decide the qu the
in the morning you decide the qu the quality of your physical life you're the
quality of your physical life you're the one who decides what you eat what you
one who decides what you eat what you drink what you don't eat and drink you
drink what you don't eat and drink you deser determine the quality of your
deser determine the quality of your financial life you're the one who
financial life you're the one who determines the quality and quantity of
determines the quality and quantity of the work that you contribute in every
the work that you contribute in every case you're free to choose what you want
case you're free to choose what you want if you want things to be different the
if you want things to be different the start point is to accept full
start point is to accept full unqualified responsibility for your life
unqualified responsibility for your life I first discovered this whole concept of
I first discovered this whole concept of responsibility when I was 21 years old I
responsibility when I was 21 years old I was living in a little apartment I was
was living in a little apartment I was working on a construction job it was 35
working on a construction job it was 35 de below zero outside I didn't have a
de below zero outside I didn't have a car I didn't have any money in the bank
car I didn't have any money in the bank my clothes were old I had failed out of
my clothes were old I had failed out of high school and I looked around me in
high school and I looked around me in that cold winter in that little
that cold winter in that little apartment with no future and not much of
apartment with no future and not much of a past and I said to myself If Ever I
a past and I said to myself If Ever I want anything to change it's up to me
want anything to change it's up to me that's the time where I really got
that's the time where I really got scared it suddenly hit me right between
scared it suddenly hit me right between the eyes that if I wanted my life to be
the eyes that if I wanted my life to be different it was up to me to make my
different it was up to me to make my life different and if I can get only one
life different and if I can get only one point across to you in this simple
point across to you in this simple segment this little segment is this is
segment this little segment is this is that the starting point of flying to the
that the starting point of flying to the Stars the starting point of taking
Stars the starting point of taking complete charge of your life the
complete charge of your life the starting point of great success and
starting point of great success and great achievement is to accept complete
great achievement is to accept complete unconditional responsibility if it's to
unconditional responsibility if it's to be it's up to me if it's to be it's up
be it's up to me if it's to be it's up to
you session six eliminating negative emotions continuing on the subject of
emotions continuing on the subject of responsibility versus irresponsibility
responsibility versus irresponsibility many years ago back in 1972 I began a
many years ago back in 1972 I began a study in an area of metaphysics that
study in an area of metaphysics that dealt with the psychology of the
dealt with the psychology of the evolution of human potential and one of
evolution of human potential and one of the things that leaped out of those
the things that leaped out of those pages at me and I I've never really have
pages at me and I I've never really have recovered from it was the discussion of
recovered from it was the discussion of the connecting link between
the connecting link between irresponsibility and negative emotions
irresponsibility and negative emotions and the fact that negative emotions are
and the fact that negative emotions are the great blocking emotions are
the great blocking emotions are crippling emotions of your life and my
crippling emotions of your life and my life if the whole purpose of life if you
life if the whole purpose of life if you like is to achieve higher levels of
like is to achieve higher levels of Peace of Mind happiness contentment
Peace of Mind happiness contentment satisfaction and so on we have to sit
satisfaction and so on we have to sit down we have to look and say what stops
down we have to look and say what stops us or what is blocking us or what gets
us or what is blocking us or what gets in the way of us really enjoying our
in the way of us really enjoying our lives and you find invariably its
lives and you find invariably its negative emotions of some kind now I'm
negative emotions of some kind now I'm not talking about the negative emotions
not talking about the negative emotions that are associated with someone dying
that are associated with someone dying or with a great loss I'm talking about
or with a great loss I'm talking about the negative emotions that we experience
the negative emotions that we experience on a day-to-day basis that Rob us of
on a day-to-day basis that Rob us of Peace of Mind Rob us of health and
Peace of Mind Rob us of health and energy affect our loving relationships
energy affect our loving relationships get in the way of our financial
get in the way of our financial Independence Rob us of a feeling of
Independence Rob us of a feeling of fulfillment and so on so we're going to
fulfillment and so on so we're going to talk in this session about eliminating
talk in this session about eliminating negative emotions and I want to bring us
negative emotions and I want to bring us back to this whole discussion of
back to this whole discussion of responsibility this is one of the most
responsibility this is one of the most important things that I've ever found in
important things that I've ever found in my life it's simply
my life it's simply this is that if we take a graph or chart
this is that if we take a graph or chart and come with me for a second and let's
and come with me for a second and let's chart
chart this and we take from highest to the
this and we take from highest to the lowest and up here we have a totally
lowest and up here we have a totally responsible person this is a person who
responsible person this is a person who is completely self assured completely
is completely self assured completely self-responsible makes no excuses at all
self-responsible makes no excuses at all and down here at the other end we have
and down here at the other end we have an irresponsible person a person who
an irresponsible person a person who makes excuses for everything now this is
makes excuses for everything now this is the positive end of the scale this is
the positive end of the scale this is the negative end of the scale every one
the negative end of the scale every one of us you and I are somewhere on this
of us you and I are somewhere on this scale moving up or down with every
scale moving up or down with every decision that we take now we found and
decision that we take now we found and this is what got to me and I said a
this is what got to me and I said a little bit earlier that there's a one
little bit earlier that there's a one toone relationship between how much you
toone relationship between how much you feel you are in control of your own life
feel you are in control of your own life and how positive or how happy you are
and how positive or how happy you are well there's a one toone relationship
well there's a one toone relationship between the amount of responsibility you
between the amount of responsibility you accept and the amount of control you
accept and the amount of control you experience in your life and there's a on
experience in your life and there's a on toone relationship between the amount of
toone relationship between the amount of responsibility and control you accept
responsibility and control you accept and the amount of Freedom that you feel
and the amount of Freedom that you feel that you have freedom is the
that you have freedom is the indispensable requirement for happiness
indispensable requirement for happiness that true success true happiness in life
that true success true happiness in life means being free to live your life your
means being free to live your life your own way as you decide without anybody
own way as you decide without anybody else telling you what to do living your
else telling you what to do living your life as a bird free as a bird to do
life as a bird free as a bird to do whatever you want well there's a direct
whatever you want well there's a direct relationship between responsibility
relationship between responsibility control and freedom and there's a direct
control and freedom and there's a direct relationship between these three and
relationship between these three and positive
emotions now positive emotions are the great emotions positive emotions are
great emotions positive emotions are those of happiness and love and joy and
those of happiness and love and joy and vitality and energy and exuberance and
vitality and energy and exuberance and enthusiasm and excitement and so on now
enthusiasm and excitement and so on now down at the other end however we have an
down at the other end however we have an attitude of irresponsibility and what
attitude of irresponsibility and what does that lead to this is what shocked
does that lead to this is what shocked me so much when I first learned it it
me so much when I first learned it it leads to a lack of control is that to
leads to a lack of control is that to the degree to which
the degree to which we are irresponsible we lose control our
we are irresponsible we lose control our inner selves disintegrate and fragment
inner selves disintegrate and fragment it also leads to a lack of freedom
it also leads to a lack of freedom because we no longer see ourselves as
because we no longer see ourselves as free agents choosing the direction of
free agents choosing the direction of our own lives we see ourselves as pawns
our own lives we see ourselves as pawns as victims if you like of external
as victims if you like of external forces and a lack of control and freedom
forces and a lack of control and freedom leads to negative
leads to negative emotions when I
emotions when I first began to understand this I thought
first began to understand this I thought well yeah but what about uh my parents
well yeah but what about uh my parents and what about my childhood and what
and what about my childhood and what about my condition I didn't have a very
about my condition I didn't have a very good job and what about my friends I had
good job and what about my friends I had crummy friends and what about my health
crummy friends and what about my health and what about uh the weather and what
and what about uh the weather and what about the economy when I began to
about the economy when I began to realize this I began to realize that you
realize this I began to realize that you put all that aside if your highest aim
put all that aside if your highest aim your highest goal is positive emotions
your highest goal is positive emotions of happiness joy Freedom enthusiasm and
of happiness joy Freedom enthusiasm and so on then you have to stop making
so on then you have to stop making excuses now Carl menager the Great
excuses now Carl menager the Great psychoanalyst said a very interesting
psychoanalyst said a very interesting thing some years ago he said that
thing some years ago he said that physical ailments are all different
physical ailments are all different caused by different bacteria different
caused by different bacteria different viruses and so on he said but mental
viruses and so on he said but mental illness is the same illness simply
illness is the same illness simply spread along a spectrum from the least
spread along a spectrum from the least to the worst and Thomas sass the
to the worst and Thomas sass the psychiatrist said in his book The Myth
psychiatrist said in his book The Myth of mental illness that there is no such
of mental illness that there is no such thing as mental illness there are merely
thing as mental illness there are merely varying degrees of
varying degrees of irresponsibility so when we say that an
irresponsibility so when we say that an irresponsible person is not only
irresponsible person is not only negative we say an irresponsible person
negative we say an irresponsible person is also mentally ill a totally
is also mentally ill a totally responsible person is mentally healthy
responsible person is mentally healthy how does this affect you well I know you
how does this affect you well I know you want to advance as much as you can in
want to advance as much as you can in Life or you wouldn't be going through
Life or you wouldn't be going through the efforts of taking a program like
the efforts of taking a program like this there is a direct relationship
this there is a direct relationship between the amount of responsibility you
between the amount of responsibility you accept for the results of your
accept for the results of your organization and the amount of power
organization and the amount of power influence position Prestige and status
influence position Prestige and status you will have in your work now and in
you will have in your work now and in the future at the top of the graph of
the future at the top of the graph of responsibility we have people who accept
responsibility we have people who accept total responsibility and power and
total responsibility and power and opportunity gravitates toward them down
opportunity gravitates toward them down at the other end we have no power or
at the other end we have no power or powerlessness until you reach the
powerlessness until you reach the extreme example of a person who's
extreme example of a person who's totally irresponsible completely out of
totally irresponsible completely out of control who has to be constrained in a
control who has to be constrained in a straight jacket and locked up in a
straight jacket and locked up in a padded room for their own safety and for
padded room for their own safety and for the safety of others completely
the safety of others completely powerless completely without control or
powerless completely without control or Freedom now every time we make a
Freedom now every time we make a decision to be self responsible we move
decision to be self responsible we move up on this graph every time we make a
up on this graph every time we make a decision to make excuses we move down in
decision to make excuses we move down in this graph so let's take it a little bit
this graph so let's take it a little bit further and let's talk about the
further and let's talk about the relationship between negative emotions
relationship between negative emotions and irresponsibility so that you
and irresponsibility so that you understand it perfectly clearly and a
understand it perfectly clearly and a perfect example is this imagine here is
perfect example is this imagine here is a tree all right here's a tree and here
a tree all right here's a tree and here is the bushes this is what is called the
is the bushes this is what is called the negative emotion tree in the negative
negative emotion tree in the negative emotion tree grows the predominant
emotion tree grows the predominant negative emotions
negative emotions fear doubt it's many people have
fear doubt it's many people have considered that self-doubt is the most
considered that self-doubt is the most destructive of all negative emotion
destructive of all negative emotion holds you back more than you can imagine
holds you back more than you can imagine also hate is a negative emotion then
also hate is a negative emotion then there's
there's Envy there's
Envy there's resentment and then of course there's
resentment and then of course there's resentment sister
resentment sister guilt these are all the big negative
guilt these are all the big negative emotions these are the ones that have
emotions these are the ones that have led to hit parade for years there's
led to hit parade for years there's about 54 different negative emotions but
about 54 different negative emotions but these are the top and if you take these
these are the top and if you take these negative emotions and you boil them all
negative emotions and you boil them all down and you can put in your own
down and you can put in your own favorite by the way everybody has their
favorite by the way everybody has their own favorite negative emotion jealousy
own favorite negative emotion jealousy could be yours um self-pity is a good
could be yours um self-pity is a good strong one it's doing well but if you
strong one it's doing well but if you boil it down you find that all negative
boil it down you find that all negative emotions eventually boil down to anger
emotions eventually boil down to anger either inwardly expressed that is where
either inwardly expressed that is where you make yourself sick or outwardly
you make yourself sick or outwardly expressed that is where you make other
expressed that is where you make other people sick uh and this negative emotion
people sick uh and this negative emotion tree if we just take a look at its
tree if we just take a look at its structure we find the negative emotion
structure we find the negative emotion tree has a root system Sy now the root
tree has a root system Sy now the root system is where the nutrients come from
system is where the nutrients come from that keep the negative
that keep the negative emotion growing and keep the fruit of
emotion growing and keep the fruit of the negative emotion growing and
the negative emotion growing and blossoming we look at the root system we
blossoming we look at the root system we say what are the nutrients what keeps
say what are the nutrients what keeps negative emotions going what are the
negative emotions going what are the fertilizer what is it that you Heap on
fertilizer what is it that you Heap on the fire if you like or put into the
the fire if you like or put into the ground we find that there's two things
ground we find that there's two things essential to keep negative emotions
essential to keep negative emotions alive the first is