This content addresses the issue of family insults and provides guidance on how individuals can protect their self-respect and well-being by setting boundaries, embracing simplicity, and achieving financial independence.
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Assalam o Alaikum, My name is Zeeshan Usmani
Today we will talk about a very difficult topic
The topic is what should a person do when his family insults him
Many of our young children complain that we are being insulted the most by our family
Our family is troubling us
Parents are constantly telling us to go out and do some work
Are you a burden on the earth? You do nothing, you stay at home
When husband comes home, he keeps on insulting us
Brothers and sisters keep on troubling us, relatives keep on troubling us, mother in law keep on troubling us
And we are not able to stay at home
So what should we do?
So I thought I will tell you a few things
First thing is that you cannot go ahead in these toxic relationships and environment
You keep a plant at home and do not water it, it does not get sunlight, then how long will it survive?
One day it will die, so you will die too
Poet says that do not let your beauty be separated from sad people
So you lose your sensibility in such toxic environment
So what is the way to get out of it? How do we get out?
First thing is to make some rules with your self and do not compromise on those rules
Your self has a right on you, your body also has a right on you
You feed yourself, protect yourself from cold and heat, take care of your hygiene
Similarly it is necessary that you take care of your soul too
Do not listen to abuse, if someone abuses you, you say you can kill him, do whatever you want, do not abuse me, I cannot tolerate it
Do not tolerate threats, being in fear, one cannot do anything
His mind stops working, he cannot move forward, he cannot take a right decision
A person who is in fear, he cannot take a right decision
Do not tolerate threats, if someone threatens you, you say you can kill him, do whatever you want, do not threaten me, I cannot tolerate it
Third thing is to make your life easy, come to simplicity
Many people say that it is difficult for us to leave the house and go somewhere, it is impossible
Because all the facilities and luxuries that are available in the house will not be available outside, so sit comfortably
This is not an example, I am giving it to explain that you have an animal in the house
So it is in your hands, you can make it sit, stand, let it sleep, wake it up from sleep, take it out for a walk, or bring it back
It does not have its own will, because you are feeding it, taking care of it, you are its owner
So if you want to live your life the same way, then keep living, do not complain, otherwise try to go out
In the hostel, you can get a room for 8-10 thousand, you can eat for 10-12 thousand a month
If you are young, you cannot earn 20-25 thousand, then it is a problem, so do this, get skills for them
With the help of which you can earn 20-25 thousand a month so that you can go and live alone, everything gets better little by little
In life, bring simplicity, if you are a single man and your own expense is 3 lakhs and you get a job of 25 thousand, then sit comfortably at home and listen to it all your life
Then you do not need to go out because you cannot go out
This simplicity, staying in your means is a very useful thing
I have a friend Abdullah, he went to meet Moulana Abdul Sattar, who is a religious person in Karachi
He was very surprised that he is a millionaire, he works for millions of Arabs, for charity
So he saw his slippers, the two leafy slippers that we have in Pakistan, he was wearing those for 100-150 rupees
He was afraid that it will break now, his clothes were also 100 rupees a pair
After that he was talking about projects of the intellect school, the Bait-e-Salaam, the tents of Palestine and Turkey
So he said that I felt that Moulana's mind has gone
Look at your condition, the slippers are 200 rupees and the suit is also not even 500 rupees and you are talking so much
Then when he found out that he was spending some time with them, he also gives 15-20 thousand rupees at home, which is the money of his house
Anyway, he was thinking about everything, so he went to meet him and he was invited to give a speech from a textile mill
So he thought that Moulana will go here, I don't know how much money he will earn, what will he do
Anyway, the talks kept coming in his heart, so Moulana also agreed and asked him to come with him
He went there, gave a long speech, the speech was very good, the food was very good after the speech
So he said that I will get good food today, I will eat food comfortably, Moulana said let's go back, there is no food, we have to go ahead, we have to do something else
He got up from the bedili, while going, the textile mill people made a lot of gift boxes and gave them to Moulana
Moulana Abdul Sattar took the whole box and gave it to Abdullah, he didn't even open it and see what was inside
He was very worried about what he was thinking and what happened
The money came in the hands of that person, it didn't come in the heart, it didn't come in the mind, it is very easy
If you see, if you can easily spend your month in 20,000, 25,000, 50,000, now you have a requirement for it
The more you get above, the better, the more you earn, the better, but come to the basics in life
If God forbid, you have to live in difficult times, if God forbid, you have to live, then you don't have to trade your self-respect
You don't have to trade your self-respect, your ego, Allah has given us all freedom, the person should be free
When you are in a good environment, when you can make your own decisions, when you can think about yourself, when you can do whatever you want
Then believe me, no one can stop you from moving forward
Simplicity is the easiest treatment for self-respect
Thank you for listening to me, I am Zeeshan Osmani of all of you
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