This content depicts a relationship conflict stemming from one partner's excessive work hours leading to neglect and loneliness, ultimately highlighting the prioritization of quality time and emotional connection over material gain or grand future plans.
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Oh my god. Don't just shake me awake and
hey babe me. You don't get to call me
Oh, I don't know. What could I possibly
be upset about? Something you clearly
don't understand. And I'm giving you the
silent treatment anyway. So just shush. Okay.
Yeah. Well, I had to talk so you could
understand that it was proper silent
What part of silent treatment don't you understand?
Yeah, it's your hoodie. It was cold out
and my hoodie is in the wash. No. Oh my
god. Just hurry up and get changed so I
can go to sleep. Okay. Grab whatever you need.
need.
No, don't even think about climbing on
this bed with me, okay? Sleeping on the
You heard me. There's a blanket already
out there for you and there's leftovers
in the fridge or whatever.
Yeah, because I doubt you even made the
time to eat while you were busy at work,
so I made a little extra. Whatever.
If you don't understand what you did
wrong, then you don't deserve to know.
Okay? So, just
go away.
No, I'm serious. Okay? I don't want you
here. Just thinking about you getting in
Just leave me alone, okay? We can talk
Hey, no.
no.
Can't have your pillow
Yeah, because I've been pretending that
it's my partner. Because it's been
snuggled in bed with me all night while
Oh, good. You finally figured out why I
just might be grumpy.
Well, I just don't see why you'd rather
be working late than spending the night
with me. Okay. It's just Look,
Look,
I really don't want to discuss this
right now. I'm tired, upset, and I'm too
Mm- No. Cuddles won't make this better.
No, I don't want to cuddle you tonight
because I don't want to hold hands either.
either.
Whatever. Okay. I don't want to do anything.
Oh, shush. I'm not a kid. You don't need
I'm not scared of storms, okay? Full
grown adult women can handle a little
lightning. It just it startled me,
And I mean, how would you even know when you
you
Fine.
You can get on the bed and hold me for a
little bit if it would make you feel
better, but stay above the covers.
No,
I said I don't want to talk about it. Okay.
Okay.
I know I'm having a moment, okay? I know
I'm not being fair to you and you don't
deserve to have me treating you like
this, but I just
I just miss you.
I miss you a lot when you're not here.
And it just seems like you've been
spending more and more hours at work,
working extra days, weekends, all the overtime.
I've had dinner alone five times this
week. And there's still two days left in
the week, and that's not even the
counting the last several months, and we
haven't even had a date night since last year.
The
our schedules are just so mismatched. I
wake up and you're already gone. I go to
work and come home and the house is
empty and I eat alone. I watch a movie
And by the time you get home, I'm
Then you climb out of bed next to me and
you pass out almost straight away.
And then I wake up in the morning and
I mean, sure, technically we spend every
day together. We live together, but I
feel like I barely even see you.
At first, it was bearable because we
still had some of the weekend together.
But now you're spending half of a
Saturday at work and you're too tired on
I know. I know. You got the promotion
and that came with a raise. extra responsibility.
responsibility.
You're making the most of the extra pay
from the overtime and all that, but I just
just
I feel so so worthless, you know?
Like, I don't matter
I know it's not fair. I know you're
working really hard, but it's just how I
feel, okay?
It's really hard not to feel neglected
when you feel like it comes second or
At least when it comes to how you spend
And I'm sorry. I feel really bad for
even saying this because you work really
hard to provide and everything, but it
I mean, look at me. I'm wearing your
hoodie because it smells like you and
I'm cuddling your pillow instead of you
because sometimes this is all I have.
And a lot of the time this is the most
quality time I get to spend with you.
And that really sucks,
I don't want to roll over
cuz I don't want you to see my face like
this. and I'll feel really guilty if I
I know I'm being really selfish.
And I know it's me wanting more than you
can give.
I just I don't really know if I can
explain how awful this is all making me feel.
there. Are you happy
Why aren't you under the covers? It's
I know. I told you not to get in bed
with me. Just Just get in here and
Come here.
I'm sorry.
I don't mean to make you feel guilty or
bad. I I really tried to be supportive
You bring in a good portion of our
income, so I try to do what I could,
try my best with the chores, make you
packed lunch every day. I made sure you
had a nice home-cooked meal to come home
to. I just I know that's the bare
minimum. I just get really lonely.
I miss you a lot and it hurts so bad.
I poured through it for months and
months and I figured it would just be a
short-term thing. But then it just kept going
and after a certain point, I just felt
awful every time I fell asleep alone in bed.
bed.
And I guess
this weird resentment grew bigger and
bigger. And I knew it wasn't your fault.
I knew you weren't trying to hurt me,
but this rational part of my brain just
couldn't help but feel upset, which just
I know. I know. I should have brought it
up sooner. I should have talked to you
about it. I just felt so guilty and
selfish about the whole thing. Like,
how is I meant to tell you that all the
All the money
wasn't worth it to me.
I didn't want to hurt you.
You know, I should have said something sooner.
Of course I do.
It's nice having a little luxury every
now and then. Of course, it makes me
happy when you bring me home, like new
clothes or gifts or jewelry and all
that. And I get excited anytime you talk
I love you and I love how much you want
to take care of me and make sure that I
have nice things, but I want you more
than anything else.
I really would rather spend more time
with you than have a bunch of new
clothes or jewelry that I don't really need.
And of course, I want to be able to live
out our dreams to visit all the places
we've always wanted to go. But the thing is,
is,
I'd prefer to spend more time with you
at home right now. And
sacrificing so much time together just
so we can spend a week, 6 months from
now in some far off country, it just I
don't think it makes sense.
Do you hate me?
Now I feel extra stupid for being so KY
about all this. I should have just told
you sooner. Shouldn't have let it build up.
I know, maybe it sounds dumb.
If I just hardened up a little, soldier
through a few extra months,
I don't know. We could have probably
been doing something really romantic
while we enjoy a candle at dinner in
Italy or go adventuring across the Alps
or, you know, stuff like that. We always
got so excited when we talked about
The truth is, I'm very content with all
I just I want to know that you can come
back home every once in a while to eat a
You know, laying on your lap while we
rewatch a movie that we've seen a dozen times.
Pick a lifetime back full of those
normal days with you over one exciting
week halfway across the world.
I know that sounds weird. I'm sorry.
I totally understand if that's not how
you want to live.
because I I don't want you to feel like
you're sacrificing all your big plans
and dreams just so I can have a few
Well, I'd happily live in a dumpster
with you, too.
Well, um
maybe we can spend a little time this
weekend figuring it out.
We can work through the budget and maybe
plan ahead, talk to our bosses,
make sure we have the same days off,
sync our schedules a bit better,
and that way we can at the very least
have dinner a few more days a week,
and well, silly,
I can pick up overtime, too. That's fine.
fine.
I just wasn't really sure what was going on.
on.
And of course, we can discuss vacations,
too. You know, we have big plans and
all, but
maybe we just need to consolidate the
trip and prioritize.
Figure out a short list of the main
Really, all I just want is to know that
we can still prioritize each other.
Okay. Um, and I promise I'll be better
at communicating how I feel. I know it's
not my strong suit, but I'll get better
at it.
Oh, and of course, if there's anything
you want me to change at all, just let
me know. I'm here for the long run. So
yeah, if you're the person I want to
spend the rest of my life with, I kind
of need to make that life a little bit
Oh, stop singing the sh. Okay, well
that's going to be a bit hard for me to do.
You love my singing.
Yeah, you do.
Well, I guess the relationship's over
Oh, no. You're so right. I never last
out there in the real world without you.
exhibit A,
the storm's going crazy.
Who else could I possibly cuddle with
during a storm? And during storm season?
All right. Well, I suppose if I get to
sing, then it's only fair that you get
control of the TV. Fine. But only on the weekends.
weekends.
Okay. During the week, it's battle of
Yeah, I suppose we should get some sleep.
sleep.
Weekend's coming and
I want to spend every second I can with you.
Oh, yeah. I suppose I should give you
your pillow back, huh? Uh,
Sleep tight. Okay,
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