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True "mind reading" is not about deciphering others' thoughts but about understanding oneself through observing their behavior, fears, and reactions, as these often reflect our own unconscious patterns and projections.
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Have you ever wished you could read
someone's mind to know what they truly
think, feel, or hide behind that smile?
In reality, [music]
you already do that every day. You just
don't realize it. Every glance you try
to decode, every sentence you analyze,
[music] every behavior that confuses
you, all are unconscious attempts to
understand the human mind. But Carl Jung
once warned, "Most of what we think is
understanding others is [music] in fact
just us projecting our own unconscious
onto them." Reading minds is not a
miracle. It is an art. the art of seeing
through the social mask [music] to touch
the unconscious part that drives
behavior, emotion, and choice. When you
understand that structure, you no longer
need to guess. You simply see. In
today's video, we will explore one of
Carl Jung's [music] deepest concepts.
How three simple questions can unlock
anyone's unconscious.
This is not a manipulation technique,
but the art of perception. Seeing what
others don't [music] say, feeling what
they haven't yet admitted.
And if you truly apply this, you won't
just read [music] others. You'll begin
to understand yourself at the deepest level.
level.
Are you ready to discover the three
questions [music] that can completely
change the way you see people?
Number one, the illusion of reading
minds. You're already doing it.
Do you think reading minds is a
superpower? In fact, you do it every
day. You just don't realize [music] it.
Every time you look at someone and
wonder, "Is he mad at me? Is she being
sincere? Or is there a hidden meaning in
that sentence?" You are trying to read
the human mind. We do this as naturally
as breathing [music] because our
survival instinct makes us want to know
what others think, feel, and whether
they're a threat or safe.
But what Yung discovered is this. Most
of what we read doesn't come from the
other person. It comes from our own unconscious.
unconscious.
Think back to the last time you walked
into a room, saw someone not look at
you, and instantly thought, "They don't
like me." Yet, another person in the
same situation might think, "Maybe
they're just preoccupied."
Same reality, two completely different
[music] interpretations.
Reality didn't change, perception did.
And that proves that mind readading is
not about understanding [music] others
but about understanding how you
interpret the world. Jung called this
the illusion of perception.
Our mind is not a transparent mirror
reflecting objective reality. [music] It
is a lens tinted by emotion, memory, and bias.
bias.
When we look at someone, the unconscious [music]
[music]
instantly scans thousands of stored
memories to find familiar patterns. Who
once looked like this? Who once hurt me?
Who once made me feel loved? Then it
labels, assumes, and we call that intuition.
intuition.
But what we often call intuition is
emotional memory reactivated.
A therapist once said, "When a client
tells me, I feel that person is
dangerous, I often ask, or are you
remembering the feeling of danger you
once had with someone else?"
That question changes everything about
how we read people.
Because if you just listen to your
unconscious reactions without checking
them, you're reading your own mind, not
theirs. But don't get it wrong. [music]
Jung didn't deny that humans can be empathic.
empathic.
He meant that most of us don't yet know
how to truly do it. We read others
through fear, through wounds, through
the need to be loved instead of through
quiet presence. That's why Jung once
said, "Understanding your own darkness
is the best method for dealing with the
darkness of other people.
To understand others, you must first
understand yourself. [music]
And that is exactly what the next three
questions will help you do.
Instead of trying to guess what someone
means, you will learn to listen to what
lies beneath the surface of behavior.
You will stop asking what do they think
of me and start asking what makes them
act this way?
Because once you understand the
unconscious structure that drives
people, you no longer need to guess.
You will see through the mask everyone
wears. Not with your eyes, but with
awareness. [music]
I once knew a woman. Every time she
entered a crowd, she tried hard to
impress. She talked a lot, shared her
achievements, always [music] wanted to
be the most interesting person in the room.
room.
Someone who doesn't see deeply [music]
would think she's arrogant, attention-seeking.
attention-seeking.
But someone who truly sees [music] would
notice something else. That wasn't
confidence. It was fear. The deep fear
of being overlooked.
Beneath that radiant shell was a soul in
defense, trying to prove she was worthy
of being seen.
And when you recognize that, your
judgment softens into silent compassion.
Because reading minds [music] in the way
Yung described isn't about guessing
someone's thoughts. It's about seeing
the unconscious motives driving their
actions. The parts of them that don't
yet feel [music] safe enough to show.
According to Yung, mind readading isn't
a trick. It's the ability to see through
the persona, the social mask everyone
uses to protect the ego. The more
confident someone appears, [music]
the more fragile they may be inside.
The more someone speaks of morality, the
more they might fear being exposed as
weak. And once you learn to look, you'll
realize people don't say what they
think, they express [music]
what they fear. That's why Jung believed
that to understand someone, you don't
need hours of complex psychological analysis.
analysis.
You only need to ask the right
questions. Not the questions they want
to hear, but the ones that reach the
deepest layer of the unconscious where
[music] logic can't hide. These three
questions don't even require verbal
answers. Because sometimes all it takes
is observing a reaction, a look or an
energy and you already know. In the next
part, we will explore the first
question. Simple [music] yet powerful
enough to reveal the entire
psychological structure of a person.
What do they fear losing? Because as
Jung once said, fear always reveals the
shadow a person tries to hide. And when
you can see that fear, you don't just
read them, [music] you read the
unconscious moving within them.
Number two, the first question, what do
they fear losing?
There is a question that seems simple,
but if you truly understand how to use
it, it can completely change the way you
see people. What do they fear losing the most?
most?
When you ask this question, you step
into the deeper layers of psychology [music]
[music]
where silent fears shape a person's
words, actions, and [music] even
destiny. Because Carl Yung once said,
"Until you make the unconscious [music]
conscious, it will direct your life and
you will call it fate."
Fear is the mirror of the soul. It not
only reveals what someone is trying to
hide, but also shows you which part of
them is in control.
The one who fears losing love will try
to please. The one who fears losing
freedom will always keep a distance. The
one who fears losing their image will
create a perfect mask. When you ask the
question, what do they fear losing? You
begin to look beyond surface behavior
[music] and touch the unconscious motive
where their true self trembles in search
of safety.
I once heard the story of Clare, [music]
intelligent, confident, yet always
overreacting whenever she was criticized.
criticized.
Just a small comment was enough to make
her feel offended. She would argue,
defend herself, sometimes even cut off
contact as if protecting something
precious. If you only look at her
behavior, you'd see arrogance. But if
you ask, "What does she fear losing?"
You'll see the fear of being disrespected.
disrespected.
Deep down, Clare wasn't [music]
defending her pride. She was protecting
the feeling of being enough. [music]
Something she had sacrificed a lot to
gain. When you see that judgment melts
[music] away, replaced by compassion.
That is the power of this question. It
melts the ice between two souls. When
you look at others through its lens, you
stop reacting. You begin observing. You
no longer want to win the conversation
but to understand.
And that quiet [music] presence makes
the other person feel safe because for
the first time they are not being
analyzed but seen.
Jung once called fear the language of
the shadow. The shadow is the part of us
that contains repressed emotions, shame,
weakness, [music] jealousy, insecurity.
When someone fears losing something, it
is their shadow that is speaking. A girl
afraid of being abandoned may become
controlling. A man afraid of failure may
become overly ambitious.
A person afraid of not being loved may
do everything [music] to make others
need them. But when you ask, "What do
they fear losing?" You no longer see
irrational behavior. You see a soul
trying to survive.
This question is not just a tool for
reading people. It is a practice of
compassion. Because to see someone
else's fear, you must touch the fear
within yourself.
When you realize that you too have once
feared being forgotten, dismissed or
rejected, you stop reacting. You simply
understand in silence. In the Bible,
there is the story of King Saul and
David. Saul, once admired by the people,
began to fear when David became more
beloved. [music] He didn't hate David.
He feared losing his throne, his love,
his very [music] image of himself. And
that fear destroyed him. Jung would say
Saul wasn't defeated by David. He was
defeated by the fear of losing the self
he believed he was. The question what do
they fear losing reveals this truth.
People are not driven by logic but by
[music] what they cannot afford to lose.
And interestingly when you truly observe
others through this question you begin
to reflect on yourself.
Why do you feel irritated by boastful
people? Maybe because you also fear
[music] being looked down on. Why do you
resent controlling people? Maybe [music]
because you also fear losing your
freedom. When you ask what do they fear
losing, you are holding a mirror. And
sometimes what you see reflected is your
own unspoken fear. Jung once said,
"Where your fear is, there your task
is." In the place you fear most lies the
part of your soul that longs to be seen.
Therefore, each time you ask this
question about others, also ask
yourself, what do I fear losing?
Perhaps that very question will lead you
to a deeper layer of yourself where you
stop living defensively and start
realizing that fear is not the enemy but
the teacher.
I recall an ancient eastern metaphor.
Within every human being there sleeps a
dragon. The dragon is not a monster, but
repressed energy, fear, pain, and
wounds. The more you fear it, the
stronger it becomes. But when you dare
to name it, the dragon becomes your guardian.
guardian.
Humans are the same. When [music] you
dare to face what you fear losing, you
stop being controlled and begin to be free.
free.
That is why Jung said that [music] read
in people's minds is not to control them
but to see the human behind the mask.
Every time you ask what do they fear
losing you touch one of the deepest
layers of psychology the layer of understanding
understanding
and in that moment both are transformed
they are seen and you are healed.
So next time someone seems hard to
understand, pause and ask yourself, what
do they fear losing?
The answer may not come in words, but in
their eyes, in their [music] silence, or
in the strange feeling when you realize
they are not scary, they are scared. And
when you realize that, you will
understand that reading someone's mind
is really just another way of learning
how to love them exactly as they are.
If you have ever recognized in someone
or in yourself a hidden fear that drives
every reaction, share your reflection in
the comments.
What do you fear losing most in this
life? love, freedom, or the image you've
worked so hard to maintain.
Write it down because sometimes simply
naming your fear is already the
beginning of [music] understanding
yourself more deeply.
Number three, the second question, what
makes them angry?
If in the previous part [music] we asked
what do they fear losing, then the next
question goes deeper. what makes them
angry. If fear reveals what someone
[music] is trying to protect, anger
reveals where they have been hurt. As
Carl Jung said, "Everything that
irritates us about others can lead us to
an understanding of ourselves."
Anger is not just a reaction. It is a
mirror reflecting the unhealed parts of
the unconscious. Observe carefully. When
someone becomes angry after being
criticized, it's often not about the
words themselves, but because they feel
their self-worth is threatened.
When someone loses their temper after
being ignored, they are not just mad at
the indifference, but at the feeling of
I don't matter. And when someone
overreacts to a small comment, it may be
the echo of an old wound, a time they
were judged, belittled, or dismissed.
So when you ask what makes them angry,
you are not searching for surface
reasons. You are tracing the roots of
the soul.
Anger through Yung's eyes is a form of
message. It says there is something here
that has not been healed. The angrier
the person, the deeper the old wound
they were never allowed to express. [music]
[music]
Anger from being disrespected hides the
fear of not being enough. Anger from
being deceived hides the fear of abandonment.
abandonment.
Anger from losing control [music] hides
the fear of being unsafe.
When you ask what makes them angry, you
are translating the language of the
unconscious into something that [music]
can be understood.
It's like the image of a lake during a
storm. When the wind blows, waves rise.
But when you look deeper, you realize
that what stirs the surface is not only
the wind, but the depth itself. [music]
Anger is the same. It shows on the
surface, but its roots lie deep within.
And if you are still enough, you can see
through those waves and glimpse the
person crying out beneath them. In a
group therapy session, a mother named
Laura shared that she often became
furious whenever her son disobeyed her.
She knew she was overreacting, but
didn't understand why.
When the therapist asked, "What about
your child's behavior makes you so angry?"
angry?"
She fell silent for a [music] long time
and then burst into tears. "I feel
useless, just like my mother made me
feel." That single question opened the
door to an unconscious layer she had
never touched before. She realized her
anger wasn't really directed at her
child, but at the unhealed memory
within, the little [music] girl who was
once scolded for not being good enough.
After that day, every time her son made
a mistake, she stopped reacting impulsively.
impulsively.
Instead of shouting, she took a deep
breath, knelt down to his eye level, and
said, "I understand. [music]
Let's do better next time. Gradually,
the boy stopped fearing her and began to
trust her. Their relationship became
softer [music] and closer because once
the mother saw her own anger, she
learned to see her child through the
eyes of compassion.
That is the power of asking what makes
them angry. Because sometimes when
you're calm enough to ask, you not only
help others understand themselves, but
also help them recover the tenderness
that fear [music] once buried. If you
practice this question in daily life,
you'll notice it completely changes the
way you see people.
When someone shouts, ask yourself, "What
pain [music] makes them shout just to be heard?"
heard?"
When someone turns cold, ask what are
they [music] so afraid of that they have
to build this wall of ice. Each question
like this expands your heart. You stop
wanting to react and start wanting to understand.
understand.
And in that moment, you not only read
their mind, you touch their humanity.
Neuroscience has explained this. When
humans become angry, the primitive
emotional center of the brain [music] is
activated before the rational part can intervene.
intervene.
That means anger is often an unconscious
reaction, not a deliberate choice. It
flares up to protect the ego from
feeling threatened.
But interestingly, the very moment you
can observe anger, [music] whether yours
or someone else's, without reacting, you
activate the higher parts of the brain
linked to self-awareness and compassion.
You begin to read minds not through
logic, but through awareness.
When you see someone angry, don't look
at them as a problem.
look as if their soul is trying to say
something it doesn't yet know how to express.
express.
And perhaps that's why truly calm people
are not calm because they have no
darkness, but because they have faced
it. They don't let anger control them
because they've realized [music]
anger is not the enemy but a signal. It
points us toward the place that needs
healing, toward the wound that once
recognized will no longer have power
over us.
So next time you want to read someone,
don't just listen to what they [music]
say. Listen to what makes them angry.
That is the most primal language of the
soul. When you can see through anger,
you don't just see who they are. You see
your own shadow reflected within them
and in that moment true understanding begins.
begins.
Number four, the third question, how do
they treat those who cannot benefit them?
them?
If the second question helps us see what
someone fears losing, then the third
question reveals who they truly are. How
do they treat those who cannot benefit them?
them?
Carl Jung once said that a person's true
nature cannot remain hidden forever
because the unconscious always finds a
way to express itself through everyday behavior.
behavior.
Some people use words to show kindness.
But if you simply observe how they treat
the waiter at a restaurant, the janitor,
or someone they don't need to impress,
you will see their real character.
True kindness is not a social strategy
[music] but the instinct of a mature soul.
soul.
A truly compassionate person isn't kind
to [music] be praised. They are kind
because they cannot be otherwise because
within them consciousness and instinct
have already merged. The ego and the
soul have [music] become one. I once
heard a story from a viewer named
Amelia, a creative director at a major
media [music] company. To everyone
around her, she was the image of
success, eloquent, graceful, respected
wherever she went. But one evening after
a meeting, she went out for dinner with
her team. When the young waiter brought
the wrong dish, she didn't get angry or
annoyed. She simply smiled and said,
"It's okay. I've done this job before. I
understand the pressure." The whole
table fell silent for a few seconds and
then someone said, "Now I understand why
everyone loves working with you." In
that moment, there was no spotlight, no
display, only character revealed in the
smallest act. Jung once said, "You are
what you do, not what you say you'll
do." That is why he believed that true
dignity cannot be measured by status, [music]
[music]
but by how one treats those who have no
power to return the favor. On the
psychological level, the way we treat
the powerless reflects our relationship
with [music] the powerless part of our
own soul. Those who tend to look down on
others are often those who have not
accepted their own helplessness or wounds.
wounds.
Meanwhile, those who can empathize with
others are the ones who have learned to
embrace the imperfect parts within themselves.
themselves.
There is one image I will never forget.
The image of [music] Princess Diana. In
the 1980s, amid glittering parties and
royal fame, people saw her kneeling
down, holding the hands of AIDS patients
when most of the world still shunned
them. No grand speeches, no cameras
needed, [music] just a simple gesture.
Yet, it moved humanity.
In that moment, Diana was no longer a
royal figure. She became the embodiment
of compassion that transcends ego.
That act [music] proved what Jung
believed. When one acts from the soul
instead of from the persona, the social
mask, that act has the power to awaken
the world. If you want to read someone's
mind, observe them when they think no
one is watching. A person can speak
about kindness [music] all day, but only
in the smallest moments when they face
someone weaker. When there is no
benefit, no audience, will you truly see
who they are?
Because a real character doesn't need a stage.
stage.
It only needs a moment to show [music] itself.
itself.
When you ask someone, "How do you treat
those who cannot give you anything?" You
are [music] not just reading their mind.
You are inviting their soul to step out
of its disguise. [music]
That question strips away the persona's
shell and forces them to confront their
authentic [music] self. They may avoid
the answer or be surprised, but the
unconscious will remember. And that is
the first step toward [music] awakening.
If you look closely, the world is
divided into two kinds of people. Those
who use kindness as a tool and those who
live kindness as an instinct.
The first acts with purpose. The second
acts because they can't do otherwise.
A person may speak beautifully [music]
and perform good deeds. But if their
motivation is recognition, it is still
the ego in control. Only when an act no
longer needs a reward, do we touch the
level of the soul. There is an old story
about two potters in an ancient village,
both renowned for their skill. One only
made perfect vases when customers were
watching, while the other quietly shaped
clay even when no one was there.
One day, someone asked the second
potter, "Why do you still polish the
bottom of the vase, the part no one
sees?" He smiled and said, "Because
someone does see me."
That is the quality of a mature soul,
doing what is right, [music] even when
no one is watching. And that is also how
you can read minds
at the deepest level. Not through
mystical intuition, but through quiet observation.
observation.
When you see someone bending down to
help a stranger without expecting
thanks. [music] When you hear someone
speak kindly even to those of no status,
you are witnessing [music] the presence
of their soul. Ultimately the question
how do they treat those who cannot
benefit them is also a mirror for ourselves.
ourselves.
The way we see others reflects how we
treat the fragile parts within us. When
you learn to be gentle with those who
have nothing to give back, you are also
learning to be gentle [music] with the
vulnerable side of your own soul.
And perhaps that is what Carl Jung
wanted us to understand that reading
others is not about control but about
awakening our humanity
because in the end the deepest mind
cannot be read by the intellect. It can
only be felt by a heart that has learned
to see the soul in every [music] human
being even in the smallest of moments.
If you believe that the world needs more
acts of kindness done without
expectation, press like to share this
message. Every like is not only a way to
support this channel, but also a
reminder that true kindness still exists
in small gestures, in quiet people, and
within you.
Number five, the mirror principle.
[music] We don't read them, we read ourselves.
ourselves.
After the three questions Yung proposed
[music] about what people desire, what
they fear, and how they treat those who
cannot offer them anything, there lies a
deeper paradox that few notice. When we
read others, [music] we are not truly
reading them, but reading ourselves.
Jung once said, "Projections change the
world into the replica of one's own
unknown face." Every time we look at
someone and immediately feel a strong
emotion, irritation, contempt, envy, or
even fascination,
that reaction is not objective.
It is a mirror reflecting the
unconscious part of us that we have
[music] not yet dared to face.
When you say, "She's so fake," it may be
that you're reacting to the part of
yourself that once had to pretend in
order to be loved. When you think
someone is arrogant, perhaps you are
confronting the confidence within you
that you've learned to suppress in order
to [music] be accepted.
When someone provokes you, it might be
your own desire for freedom rising up,
demanding to live authentically.
We do not see the world as it is. We see
it [music] as we are. In a Yongian
therapy session, a woman once said she
felt extremely uncomfortable around a
young, talkative, confident coworker.
She drives me crazy, she said. Always
showing off, always too confident. The
therapist smiled and asked, "Are you
sure you hate her confidence? or do you
hate that she expresses what you don't
allow yourself to express?
The room fell silent. The woman looked
down and whispered, "I think you're
right. I was taught [music] that women
shouldn't stand out too much."
In that moment, she realized what
bothers us in others is often what we
were once forbidden to become.
This is how the shadow operates. When we
do not accept a part of ourselves,
anger, ambition, jealousy, or the need
to be seen, we push it into the unconscious,
unconscious,
but it does not disappear. It simply
projects itself outward, wearing the
faces of others like living mirrors.
Jung called this psychological
projection, a defense mechanism that
makes us believe the problem lies in
others when in truth they are only
reflecting what remains unhealed within us.
us.
Jung said that the journey of growth is
not about becoming [music]
better but about becoming whole.
It means seeing both the light and the
dark [music] within yourself without judgment.
judgment.
When you stop blaming and start
observing yourself, you stop being a
victim of emotion and become a student
of your own soul.
Then every interaction becomes a lesson.
The person who hurts you is no longer an
enemy but [music] a teacher showing you
where you are still not free.
One image I love to describe this is
that of the moon and the ocean.
The moon never touches the water, yet it
moves the tides. Others are the same.
They don't cause your emotions.
They simply pull [music] to the surface
what already exists within you. And the
more you can look at those waves [music]
without judgment, the deeper you
understand the vast ocean of your own mind.
mind.
When you understand this principle, your
entire way of seeing the world changes.
Every encounter, [music]
every conflict, every strong reaction
becomes an opportunity for self-discovery.
self-discovery.
Instead of trying to read others, you
realize that [music] all the clues are
already in your own reactions.
When someone irritates [music] you, ask
what part of me is being touched? When
you admire someone, ask what part of me
longs [music] to be like that? And when
you see someone suffering, ask, "What
part of me has known that same pain?"
Because in the end, reading others is
not a supernatural ability. It is the
art of self-awareness.
When you know yourself deeply, you begin
to understand everyone [music] because
we are all made of the same
psychological fabric. Repressions,
fears, dreams, and unhealed parts. The
more a person understands their own
darkness, the less they judge the
darkness of others. The more one
reconciles with themselves, the easier
it is to feel compassion for the world.
Carl Jung once wrote, "Knowing your own
darkness is the best method for dealing
with the darknesses of other people."
And that may be the most perfect summary
of this principle because in truth we
have never really been reading others.
We have only been reading ourselves
through the eyes, actions, and reactions
that the world mirrors back to us.
So if you truly want to understand
others, start by understanding yourself.
Every time your heart reacts, see it as
a message from the unconscious.
Every time you judge someone, see it as
a chance to ask, "What part of me
[music] am I seeing in them?" Because in
the end, as Jung said, the world is
[music] not your opponent. It is your
mirror. And when you learn to look into
that mirror without fear or denial,
[music] you realize reading others was
never the goal. The true goal is to see
yourself more clearly, more honestly,
and more compassionately through every
soul you meet along the way. If you
believe that every encounter is a mirror
reflecting [music] yourself, leave one
word in the comments. A word that best
describes what you realized after
reading this. It could be understanding,
reflection, awakening,
empathy, or simply [music] light.
Let that word become a symbol for the
journey you're on. The journey of seeing
the world and then looking deeply back
into yourself.
Number six, the fourth question. You
never ask, what does this reveal about me?
me?
Following the mirror principle in the
previous part, there is something Jung
would probably smile at if he were here
to tell you. The journey of reading
people isn't over. [music]
Because after observing, listening, and
reflecting, there remains one last
question that most of us forget to ask.
The fourth and final question. The only
one that can open the deepest [music]
layer of consciousness.
What does what I see in them reveal
about me? This is the moment when the
journey of looking outward turns inward.
Because everything you ever thought was
about them, their coldness, arrogance,
charm, or even the pain they caused you
is actually telling you something about yourself.
yourself.
Carl Jung once said, "Your vision will
become clear only when you can look into
your own heart. Who looks outside
dreams. Who looks inside [music] awakes.
All psychological observation, if not
brought back inward, remains an
illusion. It's easy to analyze others.
But it's hard to realize that our own
reactions are the maps of our unconscious.
unconscious.
Imagine that you're sitting in an
invisible movie theater. The world is
the big screen and your mind is the
[music] projector.
Each time you meet someone, your mind
plays its reals. Anger, jealousy,
admiration, hurt. You think the film is
about them. But in truth, it's projected
from your own film. Memories, beliefs,
and fears buried in [music] the dark.
When you're not conscious of this, you
live as a spectator of your life,
unaware that you're also the director.
The outer world is only reflecting the
content you're not yet ready to face. In
the movie Goodwill Hunting, the
protagonist Will is a genius hiding
behind arrogance and cynicism. He
attacks everyone around him, always
reading them first so he won't get hurt.
But the therapist Sha sees the fear
behind that wall. In a famous scene, Sha
says, "You're afraid of what you might
become if you stop hiding." When Will
finally breaks down, we see the truth.
People aren't really afraid of others
understanding them. They're afraid of
understanding too clearly what's hidden
inside. [music]
Yung's fourth question is an invitation
to dismantle that defense. [music]
Every time someone hurts you, the
universe is giving you a chance to see
what is still unhealed.
When someone makes you jealous, instead
of asking, "Why do they have what I
don't?" ask, "What part of me feels
[music] lacking?" When someone makes you
uncomfortable, instead of judging, ask,
"What fear of mine is being touched?"
With that small shift in perspective,
you move from victim to observer, from
reaction to awareness.
A woman once shared that she despised
fake [music] people. They made her
irrationally angry. But through therapy,
she realized that what she really hated
wasn't [music] them. It was the memory
of herself years ago when she had to
fake being happy, confident, and strong
just to be loved and accepted.
She didn't hate others. She hated the
part of herself that had been weak, that
had worn a mask to survive. And when she
could look back on that memory with
compassion instead of shame, [music] the
irritation disappeared.
She said, "I no longer see fake people.
I only see people trying to survive the
best way they can."
That is the transformation Yung called
integration. [music]
When you no longer divide the world into
me and them, but recognize that
everything is a reflection of the same consciousness.
consciousness.
When you understand that others are your
mirrors, you no longer need judgment to
feel safe, nor mind readading to protect
your ego. You simply listen with the
[music] still presence of someone who
has seen their own darkness.
Then you understand reading minds is not
a supernatural power. It is the ability
to be [music] so present that others
feel seen. But to see others that
deeply, [music]
you must first dare to see yourself. The
outer world is only a classroom, and
every person you meet is a test to show
how well you've learned. So next time
someone makes you angry, jealous, or
strangely [music] moved, don't rush to
read them. Pause and ask the fourth
question, the one no school teaches, but
[music] the one that leads to inner
freedom. What does this reveal about me?
When you truly dare to ask and to listen
to the answer, the outer world begins to
change. Not because others are
different, but because you no longer see
them through the broken mirrors of the unconscious.
unconscious.
You no longer need to understand others
to feel safe because your safety comes
from within. You don't need anyone to
expose their mind because you are calm
enough to sense it. And in that moment,
you realize when you truly understand
yourself, you no longer need to read
others because you begin to feel them
not with your eyes, but with your soul.
If you want to learn to read others,
start by observing the only person you
carry into [music] every encounter, yourself.
yourself.
And perhaps in the silence between two
breaths, you'll hear the quietest yet
truest voice within whisper, "Now I understand."
understand."
A person who can read minds in [music]
Yung's way is not someone with a
supernatural gift, but an artist of the
soul, someone learning to listen to the
human spirit [music] amid a noisy world
of pretense and judgment.
They don't decode others through logic,
nor use intuition as a weapon for control.
control.
Instead, they patiently observe as if
every glance, [music]
gesture, and moment of anger is a
language of the unconscious waiting to
be understood.
Every time they ask, what do they fear
losing? What makes them angry? How do
they treat those who cannot give them
anything? They don't just see others.
They see themselves reflected through
them. Because as Jung once said, we do
not see the world as it is, but as we
are. When you understand this, reading
minds [music] is no longer a game of
intellect. It becomes an art of compassion.
compassion.
If this video made you want to see
people and the world with different eyes
deeper, warmer, and truer, share it with
those who are also seeking [music]
understanding like you. And don't forget
to subscribe because the journey of
learning to read others is in truth the
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