The core theme is that active listening is a powerful leadership skill that fosters trust, engagement, and improved outcomes in both professional and personal relationships by making individuals feel heard, valued, and understood.
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Welcome to the book insider. Today we're
going to talk about the art of active
listening by Heather R. Younger. It was
9:00 p.m. a small cafe. Light rain was
making the air outside feel even more
peaceful. Sitting in the corner of that
cafe was Jackson, a 26-year-old guy who
had been feeling a bit disconnected from
both his office and personal life for a
few months. Everything seemed fine, but
something still felt missing. That day,
he came to the cafe alone just to spend
some time with himself. That's when he
noticed a girl talking and a guy just
listening to her attentively. No
interruptions, no judgmental
expressions. He was simply listening
calmly and with full focus. Jackson
started enjoying watching them for a
while and suddenly a question popped
into his mind. Have I ever listened to
someone like that? Fully present without
jumping in to speak. Probably not.
Immediately he thought of his friend
Olivia. She often told him, "You listen
less and think more about what to say
next." Jackson used to think she was
overthinking, but today he felt maybe
she was right. There had been many times
when a friend or colleague would share
something and Jackson would instantly
respond with, "Oh, that happened to me,
too." Or, "Why are you thinking like
that? Move on, man." But today, watching
that guy in the cafe, Jackson realized
that active listening isn't just about
hearing. It's about understanding, being
present, and most importantly, giving
the other person space without forcing
your opinion. Jackson went home and
searched on YouTube for a video, how to
listen actively. He found a therapist
saying, "Active listening is not just
about silence. It's about being fully
there, showing the other person that
what they say matters. Use your eyes,
your body language, your silence, and
your words wisely." That night, Jackson
made a promise to himself. He would now
listen just to listen, not to respond.
The next morning, he practiced it for
the first time at work. There was a
junior in his team named Elijah who
often tried to say something. But
Jackson was usually in a hurry. Today
Jackson called him and said, "Whatever
you want to say, say it all. I'm just
listening." Elijah was hesitant at
first, but slowly he started talking. He
had some concerns about a project
strategy. Jackson nodded, didn't
interrupt, and occasionally said things
like, "Hm, I see." Or, "Go on." When
Elijah finished, Jackson paused for 2
minutes and said, "So, what you mean is
you feel the timeline is unrealistic and
some responsibilities aren't clear." Is
that right? Elijah's face lit up. Yes,
sir. Exactly. I've tried explaining it
before, but maybe you were busy then.
For the first time, Jackson understood
how much being truly heard can make
someone feel valued. It wasn't magic,
but an emotional connection had formed
just by listening attentively. A few
days later, he met Olivia again at a
random meetup. She was talking about her
new startup. This time, Jackson was
fully present. He didn't look at his
phone, didn't interrupt, and gave no
advice. He just looked into her eyes and
nodded gently as he listened. Olivia
stopped and smiled. Have you changed
today? You listen to me without
interrupting. Feels nice. Jackson smiled
back. Maybe I learned it from that guy
in the cafe. Slowly, active listening
became Jackson's habit. In every
conversation, he started asking himself,
"Am I fully present right now?" If not,
he would pause and refocus. One day, his
mom sounded a bit upset on the phone.
Earlier, he might have said, "Everything
will be fine, Mom." And ended the call
quickly. But this time, he patiently
listened, tried to understand the
emotions behind her words. When the call
ended, his mom softly said, "You gave me
so much comfort today." Jackson now knew
that active listening is a superpower.
In a world where everyone wants to talk,
someone who listens without judgment,
without interrupting, is a healer.
Jackson learned three key things about
active listening. One, presence. Being
fully in the moment, making the other
person feel like they're the most
important thing right now. Two,
reflection. Repeating or summarizing
what the other person said so they know
they were understood. Three, followup.
checking in later, asking how they're
feeling now or if anything improved. He
realized people don't want advice. They
want attention. They want someone to
just listen with their heart. That's
what makes a person truly different.
Empathy and understanding. Now, whenever
a friend or colleague talks, Jackson
reminds himself, "This moment isn't
about me, it's about them." Slowly, his
relationships improved. He became a
leader people wanted to follow just
because he listened. They say, "People
don't care how much you know until they
know how much you care." And active
listening shows that you truly care.
Now, conversations in Jackson's life had
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get back to the summary. Every
interaction was now a chance for him to
understand, to connect, and to truly
feel another human being. And the most
beautiful thing was now when he
listened, people started listening to
him. Maybe this is what real connection
means. When we listen with our heart,
the other person opens up. And that act
of listening, understanding, and holding
space is the true power of active
listening. The office was buzzing. There
was an announcement about a new project.
The whole team was excited, but a bit
nervous, too. Jackson was now the team
lead for the project, and it was a big
opportunity for him to prove himself.
But this time he didn't just want to
focus on performance or planning. He
wanted to create an environment where
people felt free to express themselves
where their opinions mattered. Earlier
Jackson used to think like every other
manager. Deliverables, deadlines, and
results were everything. But over the
past few months, he had realized one
simple truth. When people listen,
conversations grow. And when people are
heard, trust is built. In the first team
meeting, Jackson casually invited
everyone, saying, "Today, we're just
going to talk. No pressure." People were
surprised. Meetings usually meant tasks
and urgency. But today, Jackson looked
at everyone and said, "This project
belongs to all of us. I want to know
what you think. What challenges do you
see? What ideas do you have?" There was
silence at first. Then Elijah quietly
shared, "Sir, client expectations seem a
bit unclear. I think we should clarify
that first. Jackson didn't react
instantly. He just nodded and said,
"Good point. Anyone else feeling
something?" Gradually, others opened up.
Ava, who was usually introverted, spoke
up for the first time. Maybe we can keep
task allocation a bit flexible, so
everyone works to their strengths.
Jackson listened carefully to everyone.
Instead of interrupting or judging, he
just took notes. At the end of the
meeting, he said, "I'm not assigning
tasks today. I'm simply saying, your
input will shape the plan. We'll build
this together." That day, the team
didn't just feel heard. They felt
acknowledged, and that's where trust
began. The next week, when the planning
was finalized, everyone's suggestions
were included. AA's suggestion made
roles more flexible, and Elijah's
concern led to officially clarifying
things with the client. Seeing this, the
team realized their input wasn't just a
formality. It truly mattered. After one
meeting, Emily quietly said, "Sir, for
the first time, it feels like our
opinions actually matter. Usually, we're
just told what to do." Jackson smiled
and replied, "Because this time, I came
to listen, not to command." Slowly, the
vibe of the team began to change. People
started bringing their own ideas.
Sophia, who earlier only followed
instructions, now stepped up, saying,
"Jackson, I've thought of an alternate
approach for this module. Would you like
to see it?" The impact of trust wasn't
limited to work. One day, when Ava
wasn't feeling well, she nervously asked
if she could work from home for 2 days.
Jackson immediately said, "Of course,
Ava. Take care of yourself first. Work
will be managed." That evening, Ava sent
a heartfelt message. "Thank you for
trusting me, Jackson. It means a lot.
And that trust showed clearly in the
project delivery. The team not only
completed it before the deadline, they
also got appreciation from the client.
Your team seems deeply connected and
committed. That reflects in your work,
Jackson. Now clearly understood more
than bonuses, fancy perks, or Friday
pizza parties. What truly matters is
genuinely listening to someone. When
people feel their words are not just
heard, but understood and acted upon.
That's when trust and loyalty grow. Many
organizations think that to keep
employees happy, they need to give extra
incentives. But Jackson had seen it
live. True engagement comes when people
feel their voice means something. Now
Jackson added a new practice in every
meeting, a 15-minute session every week
called team voice. There was no agenda,
just one question. What did you observe
this week? What could be improved? This
small step made a big difference. People
felt the culture wasn't just in words,
it was in action. One day, Jackson's
boss called him in and said, "Your team
is very consistent in performance, and
their morale is always high. What's your
secret?" Jackson simply replied, "I've
listened to them, and now they listen to
me." The boss chuckled a little. That's
simple. Jackson smiled and replied,
"It's simple, but rare. Listening is
something you have to learn." After that
conversation, Jackson wrote an article
on the Internal Company blog. Trust
doesn't need grand gestures, just a
listening ear. Slowly, people from other
departments began adopting Jackson's
approach. Some started weekly voice
circles. Some leaders made their door
policy always open. The ripple effect of
trust had begun. And it all started that
evening in a cafe when Jackson truly
listened to someone with full attention
for the first time. Jackson now
understood that leadership isn't built
on fancy titles. It's built on genuine
listening. People don't follow until
they feel their leader understands and
acknowledges them. And that only happens
through listening without distractions,
ego, or interruptions. If every
organization, every team, every
relationship built a culture of truly
listening, understanding, and then
responding, trust would naturally
follow. Jackson's team was no longer
just a working unit. They had become a
support system. They helped each other,
shared feelings openly, and stood by
each other in tough times. All of this
happened because one person decided not
just to listen, but to understand. Maybe
this is how real connection begins. When
listening becomes more than a habit, it
becomes a culture. Jackson's team had
done well in the first two projects. His
name was now known as a good leader. But
with growing responsibilities, he
started facing new challenges. One day
during an important discussion with the
team, Jackson realized he was missing
things. He was taking notes on his
laptop, checking phone notifications,
and only half listening. After the
meeting, a teammate, Elijah Wilson,
said, "Sir, it feels like you're not
fully focused on what we're saying. Are
we missing something important?" That
hit Jackson hard. He realized his
multitasking was affecting his ability
to listen. That was just the beginning.
Over the next few days, Jackson noticed
other barriers, too. Sometimes his ego
didn't let him accept ideas that
challenged his own. "Isn't that the same
thing I said earlier?" he'd think and
then stopped paying attention. Once a
junior team member, Caleb, gave a
suggestion that was totally different
from Jackson's thinking. But Jackson
ignored it because he was the senior
leader. He assumed Caleb's input
couldn't be that important. Then one
day, Ava gave feedback. Jackson, you
interrupt too much in meetings. It stops
people from speaking freely. Hearing
that made Jackson uncomfortable. He
thought he was just doing his job well.
The discomfort stopped him from
accepting the feedback. He started
defending himself instead of
acknowledging mistakes. Jackson realized
these barriers, multitasking, ego,
hierarchy, and fear of feedback were
creating distance between him and his
team. One evening, sitting alone in the
office, he thought, "If I don't fix
this, my leadership will suffer." He
decided to consciously work on removing
those barriers. First, he tackled
multitasking. In the next meeting, he
silenced his phone, closed his laptop,
and gave his full presence to the team.
He listened carefully, avoided
interrupting, and asked clarifying
questions. Then, to reduce ego, he
reminded himself leadership isn't about
being the smartest in the room. It's
about helping the team succeed. He
started keeping his ideas as backup and
focused more on the team's input. To
break the hierarchy barrier, he began
having informal conversations with
junior team members, listening to them
openly and trying to understand their
views. He realized that a good leader
listens at every level, no matter how
junior the speaker is. The hardest part
was accepting feedback. Jackson thought,
"If I don't take feedback openly, I'll
lose my chance to grow." He asked a few
trusted colleagues for honest feedback,
even if it made him uncomfortable.
Slowly, Jackson's listening skills
improved. The team felt the difference.
One day, Caleb said, "Sir, now it really
feels like you're listening to us."
Jackson smiled and replied, "Maybe it's
been a journey of learning. And now I
know listening isn't easy, but the
harder it is, the more important it
becomes." Jackson's story teaches us
that the barriers to listening often
come from within our habits and mindset.
Unless we change those, we can't truly
listen. Sometimes we think we're
listening but our mind is somewhere
else. When we multitask, we're not fully
present and that makes the other person
feel unheard. Ego stops us from
accepting new ideas. If we always think
that our way is the only right way, we
lose out on others creativity and
insights. Hierarchy is also a big
barrier. If we judge people's words
based on their position, we can't build
a healthy team culture. Every voice
matters no matter how junior the person
is. The fear of accepting feedback also
blocks our ability to listen. But when
we see feedback as an opportunity,
that's when we truly grow. In Jackson's
story, we saw that once we recognize
these barriers, we can slowly overcome
them. The real challenge is stepping out
of our comfort zone, setting ego aside,
and learning to truly listen. Today,
when Jackson sits with his team, he's
not just a leader, he's also a listener.
That's why his team stays connected to
him, trusts him, and faces every
challenge together. So the next time you
listen to someone, remember there are
many barriers to listening. But when you
really listen without distractions and
without ego, you don't just understand
people, you connect with their hearts.
And that's the real key to good
communication. A new chapter began in
Jackson's leadership journey when a
major transformation started in his
company. With new technologies, new
teams, and rising responsibilities, he
had to take himself and his leadership
skills to the next level. One day, the
company HR organized a workshop on
listening leaders. Jackson thought it's
the perfect chance to improve his
listening skills. The facilitator
explained that a great leader isn't just
someone who speaks well, but also
someone who listens well. They shared
six key behaviors that every leader
should adopt. One, recognizing emotions.
The facilitator explained that when we
listen, we shouldn't focus only on
words. We need to understand the
feelings behind them. Jackson had
experienced this. When someone on the
team was frustrated or stressed, they
would often get stuck in technical talk.
He realized that understanding emotions
is a big part of leadership. Once a team
member, Khloe, was unusually quiet
during a meeting. Her usual enthusiasm
was missing. Jackson noticed the concern
on her face and spoke to her afterward.
Kloe opened up. She was uncertain about
the new project and needed support.
Jackson just listened without
interrupting and understood her
feelings. That helped Kloe feel heard
and supported. Two, being fully present.
This means giving someone your full
attention when they're speaking. No
distractions. Jackson realized that his
multitasking had divided his focus. Now
in meetings, he kept his phone on silent
and closed his laptop, giving the team
his full attention. Three, validating
what's said. The facilitator said, "It's
important to show that what the other
person is saying matters and that you
understand them." Even simple phrases
like, "I get what you're saying or that
makes sense help." Jackson applied this
when a team member proposed a risky
idea. The person was hesitant, but
Jackson encouraged him. That's a good
idea. We should explore it. That
validation boosted the member's
confidence and made him more active.
Four, asking meaningful questions.
Listening isn't enough. We also need to
ask the right questions to understand
better. Jackson began asking open-ended
questions like, "What do you mean by
that?" or "What else do you think?" One
time, team member Will shared a complex
problem. Jackson asked several questions
to fully understand the situation. will
felt his perspective was appreciated and
the discussion became more productive.
Five, clarifying to avoid assumptions.
We often listen but still make
assumptions. The facilitator said this
is a common mistake. So, it's important
to ask for clarification. Jackson
learned this the hard way when he
misunderstood a conversation and made a
wrong assumption. Since then, he made it
a habit to clarify whenever there was
doubt. Six, taking visible action. The
facilitator said, "Listening isn't
enough. Acting on what you hear shows
people that their words matter. That's
when they feel truly heard and trust was
built." Jackson did this when the team
raised concerns about the workload. He
spoke to management, got adjustments
made, and informed the team that action
was taken based on their feedback. This
really boosted team morale. Jackson made
these six behaviors a part of his
leadership. Now, communication and
collaboration in his team had improved.
People shared openly and Jackson
listened carefully and made better
decisions. One time the company's CEO
even praised him, saying Jackson's team
was the most engaged and motivated. The
CEO said the secret was Jackson's
listening leadership. Jackson's story
teaches us that listening isn't just a
passive activity. It's an active process
that involves empathy, focus,
validation, questioning, clarity, and
action. If we adopt these six behaviors,
we won't just become better leaders. our
teams will become stronger and more
trusting, too. So, next time you talk to
someone, don't just listen. Listen with
these behaviors. It will take your
relationships and leadership to a whole
new level. Jackson's leadership journey
had taught him a lot. He had seen
firsthand how a leader who truly listens
can create magic within a team. But his
learning went even deeper when he saw
several stories unfold at his workplace
that reinforced his belief. One such
story that really moved Jackson was of
Abigail who worked at a small
manufacturing plant. She was a frontline
worker who toiled all day among
machines. She used to feel frustrated
because management didn't listen to her.
Many times she felt like her hard work
didn't matter. But things changed when
the plant manager started practicing
active listening. He began listening
carefully to Abigail. One day Abigail
shared that it was hard to follow a
certain safety protocol because the old
safety gear wasn't working. The plant
manager took her seriously, contacted
the safety department right away, and
arranged new gear. This not only solved
Abigail's issue, but also boosted morale
throughout the plant. Abigail said,
"When my boss listens to me, I feel more
motivated." Jackson realized that these
small stories showed listening isn't
just about words. It reflects in
actions, too. Another story was about
Caleb, a sales team leader. His team had
low engagement. members didn't share
problems and participation in meetings
was low. Caleb changed his leadership
style and made listening a daily habit.
He held individual meetings, understood
personal challenges, and asked where
support was needed. Slowly, the team
changed. People felt heard and began
sharing ideas. One junior member
proposed a new marketing strategy which
Caleb presented to the whole team and
implemented. This boosted the team's
confidence and sales improved
noticeably. Jackson thought this story
showed how real listening empowers teams
and leads to real results. Then there
was a story Jackson personally witnessed
in his own company. A junior employee,
Amelia, who was shy and introverted,
hesitantly brought up an issue in a
meeting for the first time. There were
technical glitches in her work process
that affected her efficiency. Earlier,
such concerns wouldn't reach management.
But now, Jackson made sure every
employees voice was heard. He told
Amelia, "I'm listening. Tell me what the
problem is." She explained the issue
with confidence. Jackson immediately
involved the technical team and found a
solution. This small gesture increased
Amelia's loyalty, and she began
performing even better. Jackson realized
listening not only solves problems, but
also builds trust and commitment in
employees. Then one day, a major crisis
hit. An important client gave feedback
that their requirements weren't being
understood properly. Abigail, the client
relationship manager who used to be a
bit nervous, this time fully listened to
the client with transparency and shared
the details with her team. She validated
the client's concerns, asked clarifying
questions, and created an action plan.
The client appreciated her approach and
the relationship strengthened. Seeing
this, Jackson learned that the power of
listening isn't limited to internal
teams. It also transforms external
relationships. All these stories prove
that listening leadership is what truly
engages, empowers, and makes individuals
productive in the workplace. Whether
it's a frontline worker or a top level
manager, when their voice is heard,
their energy and commitment naturally
increase. In the end, Jackson realized
that leadership isn't just about giving
directions or making decisions. It's an
art where listening is the most
important skill. When we truly listen,
understand, and take action, workplace
culture transforms. Jackson gave new
meaning to his leadership journey. He
decided to try listening to every team
member every day, understanding their
emotions, challenges, and ideas, and
finding solutions together. That's why
Jackson's team stayed motivated, loyal,
and high performing. And it all happened
because he made listening the heart of
his leadership. This story teaches us
that no matter what your position is, if
you truly listen to your colleagues,
employees or team, you will earn their
trust, gain their respect, and build a
strong, productive workplace culture.
Listening is not a weakness. It's a
powerful strength. When used the right
way, it makes everyone in the workplace
feel empowered and valued. So, next time
someone talks to you, just listen with
your whole heart and full attention.
Then, show it through your actions. This
small change can bring big results for
you and your organization. Jackson's
journey shows us that listening
leadership is a gift we all should give
because it's the gift that makes the
workplace more human, compassionate, and
successful. At first, Jackson also
didn't know that leadership isn't just
about giving orders or achieving
targets. The real strength is in truly
listening, understanding, and then
taking action. His journey teaches us
that listening leadership isn't just a
skill. It's an attitude and a culture
that can completely transform the
workplace. Jackson saw that when we
truly listen, we don't just hear words.
We hear feelings, emotions, challenges,
and even solutions. Listening builds
trust, the foundation of every
relationship. Whether in the workplace
or personal life, no connection can stay
strong without trust. Abigail's story
clearly shows that when management
listened to her, her energy and
commitment changed dramatically. It
wasn't just about appreciation. They
understood her problems and solved them.
Many organizations forget this. They
focus only on bigger incentives and
bonuses. But the truth is when employees
feel heard and valued, they show more
dedication and honesty in their work.
Caleb's sales team story proves this
even better. When Caleb added listening
to his leadership style, his team
started opening up. Their creativity and
problem solving boosted sales numbers.
This shows us that leadership is not
just about showing direction, but also
about listening to your team's ideas and
empowering them. Amelia's story teaches
us the value of hearing introverted
employees voices. Often shy or quiet
people go unnoticed. But when someone
genuinely listens to them, their
performance and loyalty both increase.
These stories remind us that listening
in leadership is an equalizer. It brings
everyone together. Abigail and the
client story show that listening isn't
limited to internal teams. It plays a
big role in external relationships too.
When we truly listen to clients or
customers and understand their needs, we
earn their trust and loyalty. That's why
successful companies make listening part
of their culture. Now, let's talk about
barriers. Jackson's journey also
revealed many obstacles to listening.
Ego, distractions, fear of negative
feedback. Many leaders can't truly
listen while multitasking. These habits
weaken communication. But when we
understand that listening isn't passive,
it's active involvement, we can change
these habits. Jackson adopted six key
behaviors important for listening
leaders. One, recognizing emotions. Two,
being fully present. Three, validating
what's said. Four, asking meaningful
questions. Five, avoiding assumptions.
Six, taking visible actions. These small
steps done consistently can create a
major transformation in workplace
culture. Just listening isn't enough.
Acting on what you hear is key. If we
listen but make no changes, people lose
trust. So listening leadership means
empathy and accountability. When leaders
keep their promises, their credibility
grows. Jackson's journey shows that the
empowerment from listening leadership
can't come from any other method.
Empowered employees are more creative,
motivated, and productive. They actively
contribute to the organization's
success. In today's fast-paced
techdriven workplaces, there's too much
communication. But what we really need
is quality communication. And that's
only possible when we truly listen,
understand, and respect one another.
Listening leadership creates that
culture. This story also teaches us that
leadership isn't about title or
position. It's a responsibility we all
can carry. Whether you're a manager or a
team member, when you listen closely and
act on others problems, the workplace
environment will automatically improve.
Jackson made it practical. He paid
attention to small things and most
importantly, he set aside his ego. He
realized that listening isn't a
weakness, but a strength and that
strength made his leadership successful.
So, in the end, this story gives us a
clear message. If we want to make our
workplaces more human focused, not just
task focused, we must put listening at
the top. Only through listening
leadership can we build trust, solve
problems on time, and guide our teams in
the right direction. So, this was
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