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7 Places Only Collapsed Narcissists Go
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What do you think happens when a
narcissist collapses? Uh, they do not
simply vanish into thin air. They don't
die. They don't sit in silence and
reflect, regret the harm they cause. No,
what actually happens is far darker and
far more predictable. They migrate. They
move from one stage to another. They
drag their false self into new arenas,
trying desperately to keep the show
alive. Collapse does not bring humility
to these people. It brings new
disguises. They look for any place that
will tolerate them, feed them, or at the
very least give them an audience. And
these are not abstract or symbolic
places I'm talking about. They're real.
You may pass them every single day. They
exist in our cities, our communities, or
our neighborhood. You may even see
people who look like saints, marters,
victims, or visionaries standing in
these spaces. But behind the costume
lies the same hunger for validation,
control, and power. Collapsed
narcissists do not stop performing. They
simply change the backdrop. Some of
these places are unexpected. They appear
safe, respectable, or even sacred. Yet,
if you pay attention, you will notice
the same patterns of entitlement,
manipulation, and self-pity replaying
themselves over and over again. Others
are obvious, noisy, even vulgar. But in
both cases, the story is the same. A
person who has lost access to supply is
now scavenging in new ways. Still
clinging to their false self, still
avoiding the one thing they will never
do. What is that? Change. I'm Danish, a
narcissistic abuse recovery
professional. Welcome to my channel. The
topic for today is seven real places
collapsed narcissists go. One quick
reminder before we get started. Only 60
seats are left at an early but prize for
the workshop I'm hosting on overcoming
betrayal trauma after narcissistic
abuse. If you want to book your spot and
learn how to heal from this kind of a
wound, click the link in my description
or the I button above. Now, let's begin.
Number one, therapy. When you see a
narcissist in therapy, do not assume
it's because they have woken up to their
damage. They have not. Therapy becomes
their replacement stage. As I said, once
their supply dries up, they walk into
that office not to heal but perform.
They want someone to listen endlessly,
to affirm their victim story, to nod
along as they explain how everyone
misunderstood them, abandoned them, or
betrayed their brilliance. They pressure
therapists into reviving their false
self, demanding sympathy while refusing
accountability. If the therapist dares
to reflect the truth back, the
narcissist retaliates, mocking their
credentials, attacking their
intelligence, and trying to drag them
down. Very few ever show real change. I
do not know of even a single collapsed
narcissist who went to therapy and
showed real consistent change. These
people treat therapy like a mirror that
must reflect their greatness back to
them, not a tool for growth. They want
to vomit their story, not transform it.
And unfortunately, these unaware
therapists just fall prey to their
tactics because they play the same old
game, silent treatment, passive
aggression. It becomes so toxic to deal
with that ultimately the poor therapist
has to end the relationship. Which is
why you will see most therapists do not
work with narcissists. Even those who
are aware and say, "I would like to
change." Number two, social services.
The older or semi collapsed narcissist
often finds their new supply in social
services. They volunteer, fund raise or
campaign for causes that attract a lot
of admiration. They pose as protectors
of animals, champions of women or
defenders of children. They know the
world will clap for anyone who holds a
sign, rescues a dog, or raises money for
a shelter. On the surface, they look
saintly. An old man raising money for
domestic violence survivors. Think about
that. Or an old woman photographed with
rescued puppies. But beneath the banner,
the same hunger is at work. They feed
off the admiration, manipulate
volunteers, and siphon resources for
themselves. The charity is not about the
cause. It's about their image. The
collapsed narcissist turns social
service into selfservice. Number three,
religious institutions. This one is big.
One of the most common refuges for a
collapsed narcissist is religion. They
dawn the costume of devotion. They
change their appearance, perform the
rituals, and flood conversations with
scripture and sermons. For example, a
Muslim narcissist may suddenly grow a
long beard, wear a cap, and pray five
times a day. A Christian narcissist may
attend every church service loudly
invoking the Trinity. From the outside
it looks like transformation but is it?
You need to watch closely. The
entitlement and the arrogance seeps
through. They never leave. God becomes a
tool of control and extension of their
ego. They don't worship with love. They
weaponize faith. They preach morality
while practicing manipulation. They use
religion as a shield against
accountability and as a sword to
dominate others. Their god is not god at
all. It is their ego dressed in holy
clothes. Number four, hospice. Hospice
care strips away filters and what
remains is raw character. When a
narcissist faces terminal illness, you
may expect them to soften, to mellow
down. Instead, many intensify. They bark
orders at nurses, humiliate caretakers,
and demand impossible attention.
Families are divided. Wills are
rewritten. and drama becomes their last
performance. It's not uncommon for dying
narcissists to summon old rivals just to
gloat or cause fresh wounds. Even as
life slips away, they cling to control.
They rage at the limits of their body,
rage at the loss of power and rage at
the people who dare not obey. Rarely
there's a glimpse of honesty. But in
most cases, the collapse in hospice is
not humility. It is cruelty unmasked
carried all the way to the grave. There
are so many hospice nurses sharing their
experiences online talking about how
they had to deal with these monsters and
how their narcissism becomes magnified
when they are approaching death. Number
five, courtrooms. When the social stage
is gone, the courtroom becomes a new
arena. Collapsed narcissists thrive on
conflict, on drama, and the legal system
provides endless opportunities.
Unfortunately, they file complaints for
petty issues. They sue neighbors,
exartners, or even strangers. They draft
page after page of accusations,
convinced that the world owes them
victory. In court, they posture as the
righteous victim, demanding recognition,
trying to drain others time and
resources. Winning matters, that is what
it is all about. But even losing can be
twisted into supply. It proves the
system is corrupt, that they are the
misunderstood hero battling injustice.
For them, the courtroom is not about
justice. It's about attention, drama,
and the illusion of power. Number six,
pubs and clubs. Collapse does not always
look like despair. Sometimes it looks
like intoxication. When silence becomes
unbearable, pubs and clubs provide
distraction. Alcohol, drugs, gambling,
and night life all serve as quick
escapes, distractions from reality. They
drown their emptiness in noise, neon
lights, and fleeting pleasures. You will
see them throwing money around, buying
admiration, and treating people as toys.
They chase dopamine hits, fast highs
that vanish as quickly as they come.
Beneath the loud music and laughter is
the same hollowess, the same refusal to
sit with reality. The more collapsed
they are, the harder they party because
silence is too close to truth. Number
seven and the last one, social media,
the digital throne. Social media is
where you will find a lot of collapsed
narcissists because they reinvent
themselves with a camera and a Wi-Fi
connection. They shout into the void and
the algorithm unfortunately rewards
them. Outrage, superiority, and
performance attract followers. No matter
how hollow and useless the content is,
they curate perfect images, luxury cars,
lavish weddings, expensive rings, and
staged events. They rant with big words
trying to sound profound. They mask
their emptiness with volume. Many build
armies of followers who mirror their
brokenness back to them. Misogynistic
men follow other misogynistic men.
Insecure people gather under leaders who
preach arrogance as wisdom. The
narcissist thrives here because social
media unfortunately offers applause
without intimacy. No one sees behind the
curtain the wheel. Only the performance
is projected. And for a collapsed
narcissist that is enough to keep the
false self breathing. Now, let's bring
it all together. Collapsed narcissists
do not vanish. They reinvent. They seek
new stages where their hunger can hide
behind respectability, charity,
religion, illness, legality, pleasure,
and performance. You may see them in
therapy, in service, in faith, in
hospice, in courtrooms, in clubs or or
even on your screen. They do not stop
being narcissist though. They simply
relocate their drama. If you have
recognized these patterns, know this,
their collapse is not your closure.
Their collapse is their migration. Your
closure comes when you step out of their
performance and choose your own reality.
And if you want to go deeper into
healing from betrayal trauma, the kind
that leaves you doubting your worth and
struggling to trust again, remember only
60 seats remain for the workshop at the
early bird price. The link is in the description.
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