thank you thank
you let's talk about mind over matter
for me I was concerned that a change in
matter would kill my business I was
terrified of getting pregnant I thought
this would be the end of everything that
I loved 20 years of hard work in
building my business in the fitness
industry when I finally found fell
pregnant I was ecstatic it's the best
day ever best moment
moment and everyone came to congratulate
me and say fantastic we are so excited
for you but very quickly the
conversation changed from
congratulations to can you give me some
baby weight loss tips can you uh tell me
how to bounce back I've just had a baby
I need to lose the
weight they started to ask me are you
concerned about losing your body are you
concerned about losing your abs and the
impact of that on your business well if
I wasn't scared then I am really scared
now so I was pretty fit I was a
gladiator up in the air in aerial events
doing combat in the air with my angel
wings I was a coach on The Biggest Loser
many years transforming people to lose
sometimes 50% of their Bo body
weight I am a six Dam black belt cookie
onean certified martial artist in
Taekwondo one of the highest ranking
female martial artists in the world for
my age I thought jeez pregnancy I've got
this I ain't got
this no I didn't have it at all
all
I my body took to pregnancy at 8 weeks I
had to announce that I was pregnant cuz
I had such a big bump I could not uh
hide it any longer I was very ill as
many women are in their first trimester
very sick but for me the sickness didn't
pass I expected that I would be able to
continue to work continue to film
Fitness videos and do what I loved
continue to exercise and inspire people
but I was so ill I couldn't even drive I
couldn't exercise I had launched my
business 2 months before I got pregnant
and I had two months worth of fitness
videos and content to service my
business in the
can and my business was starved of
content and it was
dying and to make matters worse I was in
and out of hospital for the whole 9
months so ill it was the hardest time of
my life I put on 30 kilos and the only
thing that helped was this new food that
I discovered an exotic food some of you
may have tried called sausage
rolls and they taste
delicious especially when you're
pregnant and particularly when you have
three in a row so I was living on
sausage rolls perhaps it was the salt
content I don't
know and I have trained many women all
sorts of women women who are at home
with babies celebrities corporate women
and all of them had the same common
fear fear about their body changing in
pregnancy it wasn't about raising a
child and the responsibility there it
wasn't about the labor and how that was
this was going to come out or what was
going to happen there it was a fear of
their body
changing and I was fearful
too 11th of September my baby was born
his name's Arnold Arnold came out with a
shock of blonde hair and his daddy's
blue eyes and he is just beautiful and
the whole nine months of being so sick I
didn't care if my business never
recovered I had
Arnold day five I'm still in hospital
here I'm in that I'm leaking from
everywhere my milk's coming in I'm
feeling all the feels the hospital isn't
serving sausage rolls I'm not coping I
haven't slept for 5 days since the baby
was delivered and you know you're in a
lot of pain you're uncomfortable and I
thought I'm I have thousands of members
on my online fitness program who have
supported me for 9 months I'm going to
announce that Arnold's here I took a
picture I put it up on Instagram
Arnold's here the messages that came
back congratulations but we didn't
expect this from you all the messages
were about my body about a postpartum
body and how shocking it was to see a
postpartum body you're not bouncing back
you haven't lost your baby weight yet no
still I got
home I'm trying to
navigate what to you do with a newborn
my husband's gone back to work and I
started to think as a fog
cleared about the dangers of a bounce
back I'm a trainer an expert one of the
best in the world I know what it takes
to get physical transformation it takes
depletion and a deficit more exercise less
less
calories and time away from your baby
was I willing to sacrifice that time
away from my baby was I willing to
sacrifice less calories and my milk
supply my priorities were feeding the
baby and looking after myself and
preserving the relationship with
exercise I love exercise it's fun I knew
if I fugged myself punish myself deprive
myself right now that I would damage
that special
relationship I chose not to bounce back
I chose Arnold I chose our family I
chose my relationship over myself in the
fourth trimester I chose healing and
recovery and
self-care and that was hard because I
made the mistake 5 days after of
checking my email and on my email there
were already publicity requests for
magazine shoots bounceback photos
befores and afters when is the first
time we can book Tiffany we can book the
set photographer Wardrobe when will she
be ready for a bikini and I'm
thinking not
yet I don't want to bounce back guys and
women were contacting me I want to lose
my baby
weight I feel the pressure to bounce
back how are you going to do it how fast
are you going to do it and the pressure
was mounting and mounting and mounting
until one day I
thought I'm going to do something for me
my husband had been at work and be at
home with a baby and anyone who's got a
newborn nose days are long and it's 3:30
in the afternoon I thought I'm going to
treat myself I'm going to do something
shower so I feed the baby both sides
burp the baby calm the baby get the baby
in the bus andet okay think this will
work Arnold okay it's going to work
Ary and I snaap this
photo to be honest the pressure's
getting to me at this point when when
are you going to film new fitness videos
when are you going to get out there
we've got
requests before and afters your business
is going to die you put on weight The
Narrative it's building it's building
it's building and the pressure is
building and I feel like I'm drowning my
husband comes home from work and I show
him the picture took a shower today
shaved one leg good D good good D took
this photo Ed I said this isn't someone
who's going to get a Fitness business
back it's
over my body is broken it was so weak my
pelvic floor my core everything I could
feel all my muscles I thought this is it
I don't see how I'm going to find the
time or even want to bounce back quickly
to get back on camera this is it and Ed
said well I think you've never looked
more beautiful look at the guy in the
background look at what your body did
and I thought yeah look at what my body
did look at my beautiful son and with
that confidence I thought okay guys
you're going to get your before and
after and I put this out on
Instagram before Peak physical condition
I was training all day and I realized
that's extreme but I wanted an extreme
contrast to show what your body's
capable of what matter can
do before and after I put it out there
there's your before and after I'm not
bouncing back deal with
it and women contacted me it went
viral TV radio Podcast everywhere I was
walking down the street people would
stop me thank you so much for putting
that picture out there I'm thinking when
did a postpartum body become so
shocking you know I was so sick of
seeing images during my pregnancy of
celebrities posting flat stomachs and
God knows what they were
doing 4 weeks after having a baby before
their safe six week check it really got
to me so I continued to put out
postpartum photos of me with Arnold look at
at
him we had a little hiccup at 6 months I
broke my ankle try weight not weight
bearing and holding a baby I got really
strong on one leg it was very hard at
that time but I didn't give up I just
kept going consistent consistent slowly
but surely and the pressures kept
mounting but I kept saying
stop at 8 weeks I got back on camera but
in my new body I talked to my members we
did some activations we did some
contractions and gentle stuff you know
this is where I'm at you can come with
me but yeah I don't look like I used to
this is me 15 months
postpartum I chose to take it slow and
it's not a sexy headline woman slowly
carefully takes her time to lose 30
kilos and prioritize self-care and
healing and recovery and her milk supply
and her baby versus woman bounces back
in 3 weeks and loses all of her baby
weight I get it but I didn't
care how do I do it I ate energy foods I
stuck to a breastfeeding friendly menu
plan that was on my business I shifted
my mindset from exercise to simple
movements activations contractions
connections feedback through the pelvic
floor all of this I took my time in
building building the foundation I knew
that if I didn't build the foundation
then I would do something one day and I
would get injured I focused on the fit
not the fat loss I threw out the scales
I said to my husband here's the scales
and he went and hid them or maybe he ran
over them I don't know what he did but I
ditched the scales and I started to set
myself little fitness goals let's try
and do a push-up one on your niece let's
try and activate the T-Zone I took my
time and I focused on self- Lov and
acceptance say hey your body's amazing
look at what you've done I know that if
you hate yourself to change it's not
going to last self-love it is
sustainable I found experts I connected
with them not only with qualifications
but with experience and I tried to
trigger that parasympathetic nervous
system as much as I could as a
mom as a working mom even you don't get
me time there's no time for me time but
I found me moments a couple of deep
breaths putting my feet in the grass in
the backyard a bit of sunlight listening
to a meditation when I could sleep these
through so did I get my bikini body back
well it was all about the bikini body
wasn't it are you going to get your
bikini body back yeah yeah like here a
few months ago I put a bikini on and I
went for a swim at the beach and I was
yeah in a bikini anybody fine but what
was most important to me was finding my
functional body being able to do a
flying sidekick again working my pelvic
floor so that I could do that a
functional body was so important and it
was never about the bikini body for me
it was about having my baby body and I
love my baby body and sure I've got
loose skin in my stomach it will never
be the same again there's nothing you
can do about that I've got wider hips
I've got stretch marks and my body's
changed but these are memories of my
baby that I want to carry every day and
I love it and I want women to take the
pressure off I don't want them to feel
like they have to bounce back fast
prioritize self-care and take your time
there is no
pressure this is me recently we're in
one of the most beautiful locations in
the world byon Bay and we're filming
with the global movie star Chris
Hemsworth and you can see that Arnold is
very unimpressed by both those
things and this is the moment where I've
just come offset filming Fitness videos
with Chris and I realize I didn't bounce
back I bounce forward I feel so much
stronger not just in my matter and my
body but in my mind I prioritize
self-care and I feel amazing so I want
to leave you with a quote from my
grandmother before she passed away she
said self- love it's like good bread
needs to be baked fresh every single day
and every single day I get up early the
time of a baker cuz that's when Anie
gets up and I put my apron on like a
cape and I start baking some days I nail
it and I get a fluffy baguette other
days I burn the toast but as the selflove
selflove
Rises I start to feel a little bit
better and if you prioritize that
selflove then every day is what you bake
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