0:02 There is a kind of parasite [music] in
0:05 your mind right now. It's stopping you
0:07 from seeing reality. [music] And I want
0:09 to tell you that I'm not using that word
0:11 poetically. I mean the biological
0:13 definition of a parasite. And a parasite
0:15 has four basic traits. [music] It needs
0:19 a host. It consumes the resources of the
0:21 host. It alters the host's behavior to
0:25 promote its own survival. And four, it
0:28 replicates through the host into a new
0:32 host. language meets every criteria of a
0:34 parasite. And I'm going to prove it to
0:36 you. I want to literally show you this
0:38 thing inside of your head right now. I'm
0:40 going to put something very simple on
0:42 your screen, but I don't want you to
0:43 think about it. I just want you to
0:47 notice what your mind does the moment
0:49 that it appears on the screen. Are you
0:53 ready? Here it is. I guarantee you
0:55 something happened inside your head
0:56 before you realized it. We're going to
0:58 go to experiment number two. Now I just
1:02 want you to watch what your mind does.
1:04 Here it is.
1:07 And instantly without your permission
1:08 your mind starts whispering in your
1:12 head. Mona Lisa Da Vinci famous [music]
1:15 painting triangle before your eyes were
1:17 done looking. You didn't experience the
1:20 thing first. Your [music] brain named it
1:22 first. Most people don't realize it but
1:24 this happens to our [music]
1:28 entire lives. We label emotions before
1:32 we feel them. We label people before we
1:34 get to know them. We label ourselves
1:36 before maybe we get a chance to decide
1:39 if something is true or not. Language is
1:40 jumping in front of every [music]
1:42 experience. And it's hijacking it. Let
1:45 me show you just how deep this really
1:48 goes. Your language doesn't just name
1:49 things. [music]
1:51 Your language creates the categories of
1:53 things that you see. As an example,
1:56 different cultures divide the world in
1:59 completely different ways. And because
2:01 of that, they literally perceive
2:04 different realities. If your language
2:07 has no word for a certain color, [music]
2:10 your brain becomes way slower or even
2:12 completely unable to see that color. The
2:13 category [music]
2:16 shapes the perception. So, your language
2:18 isn't really describing your world. It's
2:20 [music] deciding what your world
2:22 contains. We do not think with [music]
2:26 logic. We think with metaphors that we
2:28 did not choose [music] ourselves. Just
2:30 think of like the metaphors that we live
2:32 by. There's thousands that are
2:34 programmed into our [music] our psyche.
2:37 Time is money. Love is a journey. The
2:39 mind is a container. None of these
2:42 things are facts. They're metaphors that
2:44 became little prisons for us. Every
2:47 belief that you've ever held, every
2:49 certainty, every fear, every limitation
2:52 that you think is just who you are was
2:54 shaped inside of a language that you
2:56 didn't choose. You didn't pick the
2:59 categories, the metaphors to understand
3:00 yourself. You didn't pick the metaphors
3:02 you used to know who you are as a
3:04 person. You inherited these things. If
3:07 you grew up and you heard words like
3:09 lazy [music] or not enough or
3:12 problematic or dramatic, quiet,
3:14 difficult, shy, [music]
3:18 gifted, maybe smart, maybe broken, they
3:22 didn't describe you. They became you.
3:24 And the moment that someone labeled you,
3:26 your mind built a world around that
3:31 label. And the world became a huge cage.
3:33 So language doesn't reflect your
3:35 identity. that constructs the identity.
3:37 In my opinion, the scariest part of that
3:38 is [music]
3:41 once the construction of the identity is
3:44 complete, we defend it like crazy. We
3:47 protect the thing that is limiting us.
3:49 We say things like that's just my
3:51 personality or I've always been like
3:54 this like our identity is some kind of
3:57 geological fact [music] instead of a
3:59 language program.
4:01 But answer this question honestly.
4:03 [music] And this is another experiment.
4:05 If you had been raised in another
4:08 family, another culture, another
4:11 language with different [music] labels
4:13 and different metaphors and different
4:15 narratives, would you be the same
4:19 person? Of course not. So that means
4:21 that our identity is not the pure
4:26 authentic me that I think I am. It's a
4:27 side effect of language that raised
4:29 [music] us. You've only met the version
4:33 of you that language allowed you to be.
4:35 And we spend our lives trying to live up
4:38 to a sound, a word. And language takes
4:40 every [music] experience that you have
4:42 and cuts it down to fit inside of a
4:44 category that existed way before we
4:46 [music] were ever born. You never met
4:49 your mother as she truly is. [music] You
4:52 met the word mother. You met mom. You
4:54 started defining it as mom as fast as
4:56 you can. In fact, that's the oldest
4:58 known word ever discovered. As a fun
5:00 fact, how many arguments have you had
5:02 with people that were never about the
5:03 situation? They were about the words [music]
5:04 [music]
5:06 that you and someone else used to
5:08 describe the situation. How many moments
5:11 of connection were maybe ruined cuz
5:12 people use the same word that had
5:14 different meaning. And if [music] you
5:15 think about your emotions, a lot of
5:17 people don't feel sad, they feel the
5:19 word sadness. [music]
5:21 And everything that the culture taught
5:23 us to attach to the word sadness. And if
5:25 you think that you're bored with your
5:27 life, or maybe you're bored in life
5:29 right now, I promise that you're not.
5:30 You're just seeing the world through
5:33 some linguistic categories that are on
5:36 repeat. Chair, bottle, hand, normal. All
5:38 of a sudden, your life becomes a
5:41 slideshow of things that we already
5:43 think we totally understand because we
5:45 have a label for it. It turns the sacred
5:48 things into ordinary things. I want you
5:50 to feel something and try it out.
5:52 Wherever you are, look at the nearest
5:54 object in the room. Wherever you're
5:56 sitting, wherever you're standing, don't
5:58 pick a special one. Just whatever's
6:00 closest. Maybe it's a a water bottle or
6:02 a chair or maybe it's your hand.
6:04 Anything [music] at all. So, all right.
6:07 You got it. Good. So, now just for two
6:09 seconds, refuse. I want you to
6:13 absolutely refuse to name that thing.
6:14 Don't say the word in your head. Don't
6:16 categorize it. Don't reach for the
6:19 concept of what it is. Just look at it
6:24 right there. [music]
6:27 Notice how fast your mind tries to name
6:29 it automatically. It's desperate. It
6:32 can't stand not knowing what to call
6:35 something. So, it's like the mind panics
6:37 when language goes silent. And I think
6:40 it does this because without language,
6:43 you become present. There's a sudden
6:45 sharpness, increase of reality and
6:48 clarity. There's a moment of raw just
6:51 presence that almost feels like a memory
6:53 from childhood. That's how I would
6:56 describe it anyway. That's what the
6:58 world feels like without the parasite
7:00 jumping in line. The parasite can still
7:02 be there, but you're just putting it in
7:04 its actual place where it's meant to
7:07 behind experience. I want you to think
7:09 of the most real moment in your entire
7:12 life. The moment that punched through
7:15 everything, like the birth of a child,
7:19 maybe a breakup, maybe a death, maybe it
7:21 was a moment of terror, or maybe it was
7:24 the kind of just incredible awe that
7:27 just shuts down [music] your breathing.
7:29 In that moment,
7:33 there weren't any words, none. Language
7:36 arrived after that experience [music]
7:38 and then it tried to shrink that thing
7:40 into a sentence cuz it couldn't language
7:44 couldn't hold the size of what happened.
7:48 That is your proof. Every moment that
7:52 you felt truly alive in your life was so
7:55 much bigger than the language that you
7:58 used to describe it. And if language was
8:02 just a tool, then we could put it down.
8:04 But we can't
8:07 try not naming something for 10 seconds.
8:10 The brain goes into a panic. It begs for
8:12 a label. It demands some kind of a
8:14 category. And that's a system with
8:16 survival instincts. And anything that
8:20 comes before your perception is in
8:22 control of your perception. Maybe you're
8:24 probably realizing that this isn't just
8:26 a theory, [music] that this is something
8:28 that you can actually feel. But there is
8:31 a catch here. Waking up to this is just
8:32 the beginning. We still have to break
8:34 the spell. And for the last two years,
8:37 I've been building that book designed to
8:39 do exactly that. And the book is called
8:41 Tongue. [music] It's definitely not a
8:43 normal book at all. It's not written the
8:45 way that a book is supposed to be
8:47 written. It breaks every single rule.
8:49 And it it doesn't teach you about
8:52 language. It bypasses language for you.
8:54 [music] And it's maybe the most bizarre
8:55 thing that you're ever going to see
8:58 printed on paper. Every line, [music]
9:02 every page was engineered to pull your
9:04 experience [music] back in front of the
9:08 words where it's supposed to be.
9:10 So, tongue is just a small little
9:13 paperback and it works by destabilizing
9:14 the automatic [music]
9:18 naming reflex. It really does disrupt
9:19 the parasite and it forces your [music]
9:22 perception to show up first and your
9:25 language to show up second. Some pages
9:28 read you [music] out loud in a way that
9:31 you've never seen done in a book before.
9:33 And some pages of the book glitch out
9:35 your inner voice completely. And some
9:38 pages collapse meaning on purpose. So
9:41 [music] you can feel raw reality, start
9:42 bleeding through the cracks a little
9:44 bit. It's a weird experience. It's very
9:46 strange. It's not completely
9:48 comfortable, but the book's written in a
9:49 way that skimming [music] through it
9:52 will do absolutely nothing. It took 2
9:54 years because I had to design every
9:57 paragraph to interfere with your
9:59 language operating system. [music] And
10:01 this is a language system we've been
10:02 living inside since childhood. But if
10:05 you read tongue, it's on Amazon and it
10:07 is just a cheap paperback. [music]
10:09 But if you read it line by line, the
10:12 book does something subtle [music] and dangerous.
10:14 dangerous.
10:17 It gives you perception back and it
10:22 brings the world in front of the word.
10:24 Starting today, Tongue is available on
10:26 Amazon. Read it if you're ready, but
10:27 it's not to understand anything. The
10:28 book's not going to give you a whole
10:30 bunch of understanding. It's going to
10:32 give you an experience to see the world
10:34 without the parasite jumping in front of
10:36 it. So, if this video crack something
10:39 open in you, I designed the book Tongue
10:42 to really finish the job. Either way, I
10:43 hope this video was interesting for you.
10:45 It gives you a new perspective on
10:47 language and
10:49 you can click the link down in the
10:50 description. [clears throat] Check the
10:52 book out on Amazon if it's interesting
10:55 for you. Either way, I have a statistic
10:58 that says like 49 I can't remember the
11:00 number. 50s something% are not
11:03 subscribed to the channel. Number one, I
11:06 know you hear it from every single human
11:08 being on YouTube that [music] likes like
11:10 like and subscribe and all that stuff.
11:12 it. That helps so much more than
11:15 people say. They pretend like it's not a
11:17 big deal. It's a big deal. So, if this
11:18 video was important to you, if this
11:21 video was helpful for you in
11:23 understanding uh or looking at language
11:26 in a different way, then please consider
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11:33 Thanks so much. I'll see you in the next one.
