0:02 Hey y'all. Bring it on in. I know it's
0:04 been a minute, but sometimes I have to
0:05 take a little break from all of this
0:08 mentally and spiritually, okay, to get
0:11 myself together. But today's episode is
0:14 centered around being honest and
0:16 accepting the hard truths that some of
0:18 us are facing and some of us see clear
0:21 as day, but still may be in denial. And
0:25 that is our kids. Some of them, they do
0:27 not care about us. And when they show
0:30 you they don't care. And when you see
0:32 repeated patterns for them, y'all better
0:34 believe them. Some of you may not be
0:36 ready to accept this truth. And some of
0:39 you are aware, but still, like I said,
0:43 may be in denial because it's abnormal
0:45 for you as a parent who loves your
0:48 children to even consider your children
0:51 don't care about you. And again, some of
0:53 you are still in denial. It's not an
0:56 easy conversation, but as always, you
0:58 know, I'm here to say the quiet parts
0:59 out loud. authentically and
1:02 unapologetically, but it is a
1:06 conversation that needs to be had and it
1:08 needs to be something that we need to
1:11 acknowledge. This has been my personal
1:14 observation in this content space and
1:17 navigating the other side of a strange
1:20 man and speaking up boldly against it
1:23 and speaking up against parental abuse.
1:26 And it made me have to acknowledge this
1:30 truth even myself. But as of recent, I
1:33 came across a comment that a mom left on
1:36 one of my clips and it confirmed what I
1:39 was already thinking. And again, it was
1:41 the fact that some of these adult kids
1:44 really don't give a damn about their
1:46 parents. And I know that may sound crazy
1:50 to you or it may even seem dramatic, but
1:52 it is the truth and nothing but the
1:54 truth. And one thing about me, y'all
1:56 know I may tell you a joke, but I won't
1:59 ever tell you a lie. The mother that
2:01 shared this comment under one of my
2:03 clips. She says she was on Tik Tok and
2:05 going back and forth with a 20-some year
2:08 old about arangement, of course. And
2:10 here's what the young lady said to this
2:13 mom on Tik Tok in the comments. She
2:15 said, "Parents can do and say whatever
2:17 they want to about us going no contact.
2:20 They can cry, apologize, give us money,
2:23 go above and beyond. and they can plead
2:26 all of the things, but the truth is we
2:28 don't care about our parents anymore at
2:32 all. Nothing they say or feel matters to
2:34 us. Now, I need y'all to process that
2:37 one in three families are dealing with
2:40 arangement. That's millions. So, we need
2:44 to take note of that. This no contact
2:47 epidemic, and I said it's an epidemic
2:48 and a trend a long time ago when they
2:51 lost their damn minds. It isn't about
2:53 healing for them. You know, the healing
2:55 and protecting their peace or setting
2:57 boundaries that they love to claim. It's
3:00 not even about that anymore. In my
3:03 opinion, it's about power control. It's
3:06 about punishment and the lack of any
3:08 emotional responsibility toward the
3:11 people who raised them. They have no
3:14 empathy. They have no respect. They
3:17 don't care about our feelings. And if
3:19 everything is not centered solely around
3:23 them, they simply do not care. And that
3:26 is diabolical. In fact, the
3:29 generations after Gen X have decided the
3:31 relationships with their parents, you
3:33 know, the ones of who sacrifice, show
3:35 love, support, and have always showed up
3:38 for them. It is optional. Do you hear
3:40 me? They think it is optional. Not a
3:44 necessity, not what they value, not what
3:46 they honor, nor appreciate. We have to
3:49 stop being so shocked when our children
3:51 show us exactly who they are and
3:54 actually who we are, too. We willfully
3:56 and emotionally ignore the proof that's
3:58 right in our faces every damn day
4:01 because we choose to stay in denial, not
4:04 them. They're not in denial. They know
4:06 exactly what they feel. They know
4:07 exactly what they mean. And they're
4:09 standing on business while y'all are
4:12 sitting around ruminating and crying and
4:14 heartbreak considering taking your own
4:17 lives. They have shown us exactly who
4:20 they are. Don't get me wrong, I get it.
4:22 When you've been a good, supportive, and
4:25 loving parent, you assume that would be
4:27 reciprocated, right? But what happens
4:29 when you realize some of your kids
4:31 simply do not care? You have to wake up.
4:33 So, let's dive into this a little bit
4:36 deeper because this isn't just about no
4:38 contact anymore. This is about a
4:40 cultural shift where adult children feel
4:42 they don't need, want, nor care about
4:44 their parents. And based on what I'm
4:46 seeing now, they don't want them
4:49 emotionally, spiritually, or physically.
4:52 Parents are now viewed as disposable or
4:55 equals and no longer worthy of respect
4:58 nor honor. Friend, they say we must earn
5:00 their respect now. And this may be
5:02 difficult to hear, but it's the sad
5:04 reality some parents are faced with
5:07 every single day currently. People
5:10 around you can always tell you who they
5:12 are with their words. And that's the
5:14 data that you take in, right? Or the
5:16 information that you process. But when
5:20 they show you who they are, that's the
5:22 real proof. And that's what's hurtful
5:25 and disappointing to so many parents,
5:28 including myself. The truth, in most
5:32 cases, this no contact epidemic and
5:35 trend is a power game. Let's keep it
5:39 real. And I have said this from day one.
5:41 Some of these no contact situations or
5:44 this shift in relationship dynamics
5:47 between parents and their kids, it has
5:50 nothing to do with healing in most
5:53 cases. It's about selfishness, a lack of
5:55 empathy for the feelings or emotions
5:58 parents may have. It's about hurting us,
6:01 plain and simple. Heavy on the control,
6:03 heavy on the hurting us for whatever
6:06 reason. Something I've been saying from
6:09 the very beginning since I started this.
6:10 What I think they're saying to
6:14 themselves now is I can punish you. I
6:16 can dispose of you. And in so many
6:19 cases, I don't even have to explain why.
6:21 And the crulest part, girl, you could
6:24 cry, beg, apologize, walk on eggshells,
6:26 take accountability. You know that word
6:28 they love so much. Capitulate to all of
6:30 the things that they are requiring of
6:33 you. and they'll watch you suffer and
6:36 still feel absolutely
6:40 nothing. In fact, I think some of them
6:42 get a dopamine high off seeing some of
6:44 you constantly suffering, begging, and
6:47 chasing them. I know it's hard to hear,
6:50 but it's the truth as always. And trust
6:52 me, it's not about setting boundaries in
6:54 most cases like they love to say. And
6:57 please don't think when they do finally
6:58 reach out to you that it's about true
7:01 healing and reconciliation. It's about
7:03 hurting you and in the majority of these
7:06 no contact situations, hurting you for
7:09 no reason at all. Now, don't get me
7:11 wrong, and I've said this countless
7:14 times, so let me say this again. There
7:16 are absolutely
7:19 some valid reasons for no contact. But
7:21 that doesn't just go for the adult
7:23 child. That also goes for parents who
7:26 have chosen no contact. Anything that is
7:30 relative to abuse, harm, and real trauma
7:33 are valid reasons for no contact,
7:36 especially if you feel unsafe. But you
7:38 telling your parent they cause you
7:39 trauma because you had to do dishes or
7:42 do chores as a child, that is not
7:44 trauma. Okay? But what I'm seeing
7:47 online, and I know some of y'all
7:49 listening are seeing too, it's a trend.
7:52 It's a trend of labeling parents as
7:54 toxic just because we had rules,
7:58 expectations, or the audacity to
8:01 actually parent you. So, no contact,
8:03 it's not always about healing or setting
8:06 boundaries. It's a game to most of them.
8:10 Now, I want you all to hear me clearly.
8:13 So, what do you do when your child says,
8:15 "I don't need you. I'm grown." This
8:18 younger generation has been sold on a
8:20 dangerous lie. And that lie is that
8:23 being an adult means you no longer need
8:24 guidance and you don't have to respect
8:26 your parents. Hell, some of them are
8:28 even teaching their kids they don't have
8:30 to respect older generations because
8:33 respect is earned and not given. They
8:36 could be living in your home turn 18 and
8:39 somehow now they think they no longer
8:42 have to respect you or b obey your rules
8:44 and that your job is done. They really
8:47 believe that respect becomes optional
8:50 once they reach a certain age and in
8:53 your house in some cases. And let's talk
8:55 about the selfishness and the lack of
8:57 empathy. Their way of thinking is I'm
8:59 doing what's best for me even if it
9:02 means destroying you. And society is
9:05 applauding this Everywhere you see
9:09 they are applauding this behavior. Some
9:11 of these new age parents really think
9:15 it's a flex because kids are speaking up
9:18 which is really talking back and being
9:21 disrespectful and not just tolerating
9:23 anything from the older generations and
9:26 they are applauding this behavior and
9:28 even promoting it. These are the same
9:30 kids they're raising that you see
9:32 disrespecting teachers and why these
9:36 educators are leaving a massive amount.
9:39 But here's what's missing in all of
9:43 that. Connection and respect. Respect
9:45 doesn't disappear with age.
9:48 Accountability doesn't end because you
9:51 got a therapist who cosigned your trauma
9:54 and your pain or manipulated you into
9:56 turning against your parents or
9:59 abandoning people who really love you.
10:01 Being an adult or setting boundaries
10:02 doesn't mean you burn the bridge with
10:04 the very people who raised you or people
10:06 that loved you. you know, the ones that
10:08 in most cases will still be there for
10:10 you even when you have burnt that
10:12 bridge. And I don't think they really
10:15 consider that. I think they feel like, I
10:16 don't need you right now in this moment.
10:18 I can toss you aside. I can abandon you.
10:20 I can throw you away. And you're still
10:22 going to be there when I decide to come
10:25 back to you. And some of them need to be
10:26 taught a lesson that you don't build
10:30 bridges to have people not be able to
10:33 cross them. You build bridges as a
10:36 foundation for connection. Listen, I
10:38 know some of you all are praying for
10:41 reconciliation, and that's perfectly
10:43 fine. If you don't want and if you don't
10:45 don't want reconciliation, that's
10:48 perfectly fine, too. I know some of
10:51 y'all are praying for reconciliation,
10:53 and that's fine. And then there's some
10:55 of you that don't want to reconcile, and
10:58 that is fine, too. But let me hit you on
11:01 game again. Even if your child decides
11:04 to come back to you, never forget how
11:06 they left and how they treated you when
11:08 they left. Don't forget how they
11:10 discarded you, disregarded you,
11:13 disrespected you. They had no care in
11:15 the world about how it made you feel or
11:17 how it would hurt how it would hurt you.
11:19 They did this without hesitation. And
11:22 I'm not saying this to tell you not to
11:24 forgive them, but it means govern
11:27 yourself accordingly. You cannot come
11:31 back into a relationship with your child
11:35 with blind trust. You cannot go into
11:38 this relationship overextending yourself
11:40 again. You cannot go back into this
11:42 relationship walking on those eggshells
11:45 and tiptoeing around those landmines to
11:47 keep the peace while totally
11:49 disregarding your own peace. Because
11:51 some adult children return only for
11:54 convenience, not conviction, not
11:56 accountability, and not for true
11:58 connection. So, I want you all to be
12:01 fully aware of this. But one of the
12:05 coldest, most unnerving things that I've
12:08 heard moms say to me or tell me that
12:10 their kids tell them to take their own
12:12 lives or they don't care if they do.
12:15 Like, did you know moms are taking their
12:18 own lives or have considered taking
12:21 their own lives because arangement and
12:23 parental abuse? And I'm not saying these
12:26 are the main reasons, but I am saying
12:29 they are a caveat as to why some of them
12:31 are even considering taking their own
12:34 lives or have taken their own lives.
12:37 Some of you that may have given taken
12:40 your own life, any thought that are
12:42 listening right now, there are deeper
12:46 issues that would push you to this
12:49 level. But yes, this is happening
12:52 because parents being aranged and
12:54 because parents are being abused and
12:57 they have no protection, no support
13:01 systems. And some mothers have even
13:03 heard their own children say, "I
13:06 wouldn't care if you died. Go ahead. Do
13:09 whatever you want. I would never come to
13:11 your funeral." Like, I really want you
13:13 to sit with that for a second. Like, how
13:16 cold can you possibly be to tell a
13:18 parent that has loved you and a good
13:21 parent that you don't care whether they
13:24 live or die? But I want you all to know
13:27 you deserve to live and you should want
13:29 to live even more if nothing else just
13:32 to piss them off. We talk a lot about
13:34 children's mental health. We talk about
13:37 generational trauma. talk. They talk
13:41 about narcissistic parents, but we don't
13:45 talk about what prolonged rejection,
13:49 hostility, and emotional abuse does to a
13:53 mother's nervous system or her mental.
13:55 We don't talk about the nights that we
13:58 lie awake replaying everything we could
13:59 have done differently instead of
14:01 focusing on all the things we have done
14:03 right. We constantly question where did
14:06 I go wrong? instead of thinking about,
14:08 damn, this is what I got right. We don't
14:11 talk about the shame that we feel when
14:13 people assume, well, you must have done
14:15 something wrong or you failed in some
14:17 way with your child. We don't talk about
14:20 how the blame is mostly placed on moms
14:22 and sometimes dads, too. We don't talk
14:25 about the humiliation of being erased by
14:27 your own child for those of you that are
14:30 aranged by force. And we damn sure don't
14:32 talk about what it feels like when your
14:34 child makes it clear that your existence
14:37 no longer matters to them. That level of
14:40 emotional abandonment can destabilize
14:42 even the strongest woman, especially
14:44 when motherhood was your entire identity
14:47 for decades. Okay? That's why I wrote
14:49 reclaiming your identity. I wrote it for
14:52 some women because you need to figure
14:54 out who you are outside of your children
14:56 without them being solely centered
14:58 around everything as it relates to your
15:01 existence. But for some women,
15:03 arangement doesn't just break their
15:06 heart, it dismantles their sense of
15:11 purpose. Some women I realized need to
15:13 feel needed by their kids. And in my
15:16 opinion, and again, this is my opinion,
15:20 that is not healthy. But it's the way we
15:23 as mothers have been programmed and
15:26 designed. If your child was your entire
15:29 world and suddenly you're cut off,
15:32 discarded, blamed, or told you're
15:35 nothing, in your mind, you go to very
15:39 dark places. But let me say this. If so,
15:41 understand me when I say this. It is
15:44 grief without closure in some cases when
15:47 you are an aranged parent. It collapses
15:49 your identity. It is prolonged stress
15:52 without any type of relief. But it's not
15:54 the end. And if a child has ever told
15:56 you they wouldn't care if you died, that
15:59 is actually emotional cruelty. Full
16:01 stop. We can have nuance about family
16:04 dynamics. We could disagree. We could
16:06 talk about accountability. But telling a
16:08 good, supportive, loving parent that
16:11 their death wouldn't matter to you, that
16:14 crosses into psychological harm. It's
16:17 just cold. It's nasty. It's disgusting.
16:20 And if anything, it makes the adult
16:22 child telling their parent toxic. And I
16:24 need every mother listening to this to
16:27 hear me and hear me clearly. Your life
16:29 is bigger than your child's rejection.
16:33 Your value does not disappear because
16:36 they refuse to see it. If you are in a
16:37 space where you're thinking about
16:40 harming yourself, I encourage you to
16:45 dial or text 988 for support, okay?
16:47 Because your your pain deserves support,
16:49 not silence. Speak to someone outside of
16:51 your family dynamic, a therapist, a good
16:53 therapist, cuz I know we feel a certain
16:55 kind of way about certain most of these
16:57 therapists. And again, like I said,
16:59 reach out to the crisis hotline at 988.
17:02 You could text or call them. Talk to a
17:04 trusted friend. And I know we have to be
17:06 very careful with that because we have
17:07 other moms because they're not
17:09 experiencing the things that we have or
17:11 are experiencing. They don't understand.
17:14 They become very judgmental and they're
17:16 not supportive. Then they're not your
17:18 friends. Okay. Also, make sure you stay
17:20 connected with Mom's True Tea or any
17:22 community that understands what you're
17:25 dealing with. Arangement is survivable.
17:28 Okay. But suicide that's permanent. And
17:30 there are mothers listening right now
17:32 who need to understand you deserve to
17:35 live. Fight for that daily. And
17:36 your life can no longer be centered
17:38 around adult kids who lack empathy,
17:40 love, or even compassion for good
17:43 nonabusive parents. Okay? I want you all
17:46 to understand that very very clearly.
17:49 Okay? So let's move on from that and
17:51 let's talk about this idea that adult
17:52 kids think they're equal to their
17:54 parents now because they've become
17:56 adults. I don't mean equal in worth
17:58 because of course all humans should have
18:01 the same value. I'm talking about role
18:04 reversals where we're in an era where
18:05 adult children think they could talk to
18:07 their parents any kind of way. They
18:09 think they can gaslight us, disrespect
18:11 us, traumatize us, or even shame us. And
18:14 that because they are now adults, it's
18:16 okay. And that will never sit right
18:19 with me. Okay? Somehow they get to tell
18:21 us how to act, what to say, and when
18:22 we're healed enough to deserve a
18:25 relationship again with them. But when
18:27 did the parent child dynamic become
18:29 debatable? Like what pop culture
18:34 therapist, content creator, podcast mom
18:37 bashing host, fake grifting ass life
18:39 coach or parent hating content creator
18:41 come up with that Like where did
18:44 it come from? When did it become okay
18:46 for kids to weaponize their healing and
18:48 disrespect their parents in the same
18:50 breath and think they are our equal
18:53 simply because they're now adults? Like
18:55 when did that happen? Who created that?
18:57 And listen, I need to say this for the
19:01 ones in the back. Even if reconciliation
19:03 ever happens, never forget what they
19:04 showed you when they felt like they no
19:06 longer needed you. Like I said before,
19:08 keep that truth always in the back of
19:10 your mind, okay? And govern yourself
19:12 accordingly. Because we've confused
19:14 proximity to our kids with peace and
19:16 with this love. Just because they come
19:17 back around doesn't mean they've
19:19 changed. And you need to think about
19:22 that with logic and not your emotions as
19:25 a mom. Protect your heart because what
19:27 I've seen and maybe you've seen it too
19:29 is that family no longer means anything
19:31 to these new generations. In some
19:33 situations, I can understand why, but
19:34 not on the level in which we're
19:37 witnessing now. This is not normal.
19:40 It is abnormal as hell. Okay? They don't
19:42 show up for you when you need them ever.
19:44 I've seen moms say, "I was in the
19:46 hospital. I almost died. I had a heart
19:47 attack or whatever." and the kids didn't
19:49 even show up. I've seen moms lose
19:52 parents or other children and the other
19:55 child does not show up. They don't show
19:58 up for you when you need them ever. They
19:59 bear to wish you a happy birthday, happy
20:01 holidays, and they damn sure don't show
20:03 up for any of it. But they'll be at
20:05 every friend's baby shower, holiday
20:07 gathering, or birthday dinner like their
20:10 lives depended on it. They chase
20:13 validation. They chase attention. They
20:15 chase social media clout and approval
20:16 from friends and strangers. But they no
20:20 longer value real love that they receive
20:22 from their parents. The kind that
20:24 forgives, the kind that sacrifices, the
20:27 kind that we gave. And I'm talking about
20:28 good and present mothers. I always feel
20:30 like I have to repeat that over and
20:32 over again because somebody's going to
20:33 get in my comments or somebody's going
20:36 to get on this post or whatever and or
20:37 somebody's going to come under the
20:39 episode comments and say, "I was
20:41 abused." And that is not who I'm talking
20:43 about. Like I said, I'm talking about
20:46 good and present parents. But let me
20:50 share why I have been compelled to
20:52 create this episode, not to break up
20:55 anyone from their family, not to hurt
20:57 anyone's feelings, but again for you to
20:58 acknowledge the truth from a logical
21:01 perspective, and also not just think
21:03 emotionally. And I'll share my personal
21:06 experience as to when I came to the
21:08 realization that my younger son did not
21:12 care about me or any other adult kids
21:14 don't care for that matter because this
21:17 is my truth. I realized my own child
21:19 didn't care about me, my home, my
21:21 protection, my feeling, my emotions, or
21:24 my peace. And it changed the way that I
21:27 saw him once I started thinking
21:30 logically instead of emotionally. And
21:32 you and y'all already know I'm not one
21:34 to really sugarcoat a lot of It's
21:37 harsh. It's heartbreaking, but it is the
21:39 reality. And you already know that I
21:41 believe truth opens the door to your
21:43 healing by acknowledging and learning to
21:46 accept it. Period. Because pretending it
21:48 couldn't be true or that it'll change,
21:50 that they'll wake up one day and value
21:53 you again, that keeps you in a land of
21:55 delusion. But I had to accept that my
21:57 love, my sacrifices, my support, my
22:00 presence, none of it mattered to my
22:02 younger son. And that was the truth. And
22:04 that acceptance of that truth, as
22:06 devastating, disappointing, and
22:09 heartbreaking as it was or has been, has
22:12 set me free. And it put me in this space
22:15 to speak boldly and also to heal. It
22:18 wasn't one specific incident that showed
22:21 me how he really felt about me. It was a
22:24 pattern of harmful behaviors. constantly
22:27 dumping his chaos on me, jeopardizing my
22:30 safety, the safety of my home, the
22:33 safety of family with the expectation
22:35 that I was just supposed to keep
22:38 absorbing it all with a smile. Because
22:42 I'm a mom and what has hurt me more than
22:45 the chaos was the absence of his
22:47 accountability. But remember,
22:50 accountability is always required of
22:53 parents, but never by our kids. No
22:56 apology was ever received or if it was
22:59 an apology, the behavior hadn't changed.
23:02 And I'm a strong believer of apologies
23:04 come with changed behavior. Not these
23:08 numerous general apologies just because
23:11 you need me, but your behavior hasn't
23:14 changed. No ownership is taken. No, no
23:16 recognition that I had every right to be
23:19 angry, hurt or shaken by things that had
23:21 happened or words that were said or
23:24 threats that were made or chaos brought
23:27 into my life or home undeserved and
23:30 unprovoked. Nothing. Instead, my
23:32 feelings and emotions have constantly
23:35 been minimized. And I know a lot of you
23:37 can relate to what I'm saying because
23:39 our feelings are always dismissed
23:42 constantly. But we always have to
23:44 acknowledge and cuddle theirs. I'm also
23:46 sure that in times you have felt like
23:48 they turned their backs on you. I know I
23:51 have. And that's when it hit me. This
23:54 isn't about conflict because there was
23:57 none. This is about total disregard.
23:59 Disregard for my mental health,
24:02 disregard for my emotional well-being,
24:05 disregard for my financial stability,
24:07 even disregard for my safety in some
24:10 cases. And even when I had done so much,
24:12 given so much, covered him so much, and
24:15 still it's never been enough. And that's
24:17 the part that many mothers don't want to
24:19 admit out loud. Sometimes it's not that
24:22 you didn't do enough. Sometimes we did
24:24 too damn much. We enabled them. We
24:26 cuddled them. We protected them. And
24:30 then we get in return this lack of care.
24:32 That was the heartbreaking reality that
24:34 I had to face a couple years ago. And I
24:36 didn't accept it overnight. I really
24:38 didn't. I didn't accept this overnight.
24:41 I didn't become this voice of strength
24:45 overnight. I mourned. I mourned. I
24:48 questioned myself like we always do. I
24:51 replayed conversations over and over
24:54 again. I replayed moments over and over
24:57 and over again. But I also lived in
25:00 denial far longer than I care to admit.
25:02 But eventually something shifted. I
25:05 eventually woke the hell up and a piece
25:08 came to me that other mothers may not
25:11 understand, other people may not
25:14 understand. It was a painful piece. It's
25:16 still a painful piece, but peace
25:18 nonetheless. And when I made the
25:20 decision to become estranged for my
25:22 younger son, that was for my own damn
25:25 protection. Not because I don't love
25:27 him, but I had to make a logical
25:30 decision and not an emotional one. I had
25:32 to acknowledge the truth. And the truth
25:35 was this. Loving someone does not
25:38 require you to tolerate their chaos
25:40 constantly. They shouldn't even want to
25:42 bring it to you if they love you. Being
25:45 a mother does not require you to
25:48 sacrifice yourself forever. And
25:50 protecting your peace, that does not
25:53 make you heartless. It does not make you
25:56 selfish. But I get it. My journey looks
25:58 different from other moms. My choice
26:00 feels different to other moms, but my
26:02 choice is my damn choice and it was
26:05 necessary to save my life. And for some
26:07 of you that are listening, you may be
26:09 standing at the same realization or the
26:12 same crossroads as I was. Some of the
26:14 kids in these new some of the kids in
26:16 these new generations, they simply don't
26:19 value family anymore. They don't come to
26:20 gatherings. They don't contact you
26:22 unless it's transactional to benefit
26:24 them. They don't show up when you're
26:26 sick or need them. And when I see adult
26:28 kids who do, I always acknowledge how
26:30 they still honor their parents. But it's
26:32 far less of them than the ones who
26:34 don't. Most of these new generations,
26:36 they value their friends more than their
26:38 parents. They're chasing likes and
26:41 attention, not legacy and love. They
26:44 seek validation over connection. They
26:47 want control, not community. And that's
26:50 what they value now. And it shows all
26:53 over social media. So to all the moms
26:56 and the dads who are listening, listen,
26:59 you know who you are. You know who you
27:02 were as a parent. You know when you gave
27:05 love, you know when you sacrificed. You
27:08 know when you did nothing but support
27:11 them. You know when you continuously
27:15 gave them grace. You know when you gave
27:19 them everything. So rest in that. And
27:21 some of you have been met with silence,
27:24 estrangement, disrespect, entitlement,
27:26 and heartbreak. We talk about it all the
27:29 time. We talk about it to nauseium. It's
27:32 time to take your life back. It's time
27:35 to take your peace back. It's time to
27:37 start thinking logically instead of
27:40 emotionally and accept and accept things
27:44 for what they are even though they are
27:47 abnormal. So listen, they they may not
27:50 honor you or even care about us anymore.
27:53 And I know that hurts, but today,
27:55 honor yourself by accepting and
27:58 acknowledging the absolute truth. And
28:00 move forward. Moving forward doesn't
28:02 mean that you no longer love your child.
28:04 I said that countless times. I wrote it
28:07 in my book, Moving Forward. We cannot
28:10 change how someone feels about us. We
28:14 can only change how we feel about
28:16 ourselves. If this episode resonated, I
28:18 want you to do a few things for me.
28:19 Share this episode with a mom or dad who
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28:31 comment. Your words could help another
28:33 person know they're not alone. And don't
28:34 forget to grab my books, Reclaiming Your
28:36 Identity and Moving Forward: Finding
28:38 Yourself in Peace With or Without
28:41 Reconciliation, available at momsta.com
28:44 or on Amazon.
28:47 Thank you so much for tuning in. I'm so
28:49 blessed to have a community where I can
28:51 show up as my most authentic self
28:54 because I don't know what else to be.
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