0:03 Hello everybody. I'm a practicing
0:05 therapist and a doctoral student of
0:07 psychology. Today we're going to go over
0:11 signs that you can see that females act
0:13 around an attractive male so that you
0:15 may recognize if this is happening with
0:17 you. You are probably attractive to that
0:19 particular female if that makes sense.
0:20 The research that is used is going to be
0:22 in the description box. But just a quick
0:24 disclaimer before we jump in. Some of
0:26 the research is a little bit older. I
0:28 still like it, but some people prefer
0:30 more newer and updated research. I have
0:32 mixed opinions about that. I think
0:34 sometimes some research that was done a
0:37 while ago has less bias because there's
0:40 a lot less um just never mind. We don't
0:42 need to get into that. But sometimes I
0:44 like research from all different types.
0:46 That's just my opinion. I could be
0:47 wrong. I could change my opinion, but
0:49 for now, as long as I I think the
0:52 research is good, I don't care. Um but I
0:53 do understand some people like more
0:56 updated. Anyways, the first one is that
0:59 a female will display nonverbal
1:02 courtship behaviors. Uh I guess people
1:04 might call it like flirting signals to
1:06 some extent in situations where they are
1:09 likely to encounter somebody that they
1:11 find attractive. So typically you're
1:13 going to see this when they're in front
1:15 of a male that they find attractive. And
1:18 what are these more nonverbal behaviors?
1:21 Okay, this includes smiling. It includes
1:24 laughing. I actually have seen this and
1:25 this was actually in the research as
1:28 well. Adjusting clothing or posture. So
1:31 readjusting themsel continuously. We can
1:32 kind of see this from two directions.
1:34 Okay, this can be a perception of maybe
1:38 they are nervous. But another way that
1:40 they could be actually doing this is the
1:42 perception that they might want to
1:43 adjust their clothing like just for
1:45 example like moving things around to
1:48 make it look nicer or more sitting
1:51 properly on them to some extent, right?
1:52 And it's all it's just more that they
1:55 are more self-aware of their posture and
1:56 their perspective because they want to
1:58 look a little bit more presentable
2:01 around this particular male that they
2:03 find attractive. Does that make sense?
2:05 And so that's why I mention it more in a
2:07 non-verbal courtship type of behavior
2:10 because this is somewhere subconsciously
2:12 or even consciously that they are doing
2:16 this to attract somebody or give notion
2:19 or recognition that they feel attracted
2:20 to this person to which they are hoping
2:22 subconsciously this particular person
2:24 will make some sort of move on them.
2:28 Right? Another common one we see is um
2:30 hair flipping or hair touching. I don't
2:31 know if you guys have seen that. I've
2:33 seen it and some of the research
2:34 actually shows that as well. So that's
2:36 really interesting. As I mentioned, this
2:37 research is a little bit older, but it's
2:39 in the description box and I like it.
2:41 Um, this one is the next one is from
2:45 that same research is we actually see
2:49 that females give males a specific gaze
2:52 eye contact when they are signaling
2:54 interest. So I'm going to explain what
2:56 this specific gaze kind of looks like
2:58 cuz I thought it was really interesting.
3:01 Now, this uh pattern was observed in
3:04 more natural settings such as bars or
3:06 cafeterias. And so remember that context
3:08 because that's based on what we've seen
3:10 in the research. This might not be the
3:12 case if they're in a ne I don't know a
3:14 less natural setting or maybe in a
3:15 different setting. Okay? So this was
3:18 that type of setting. The specific gazes
3:20 that were looking at gaze behaviors is
3:23 brief glances followed by a repeated
3:25 look. So it's like they continuously
3:29 briefly glance and then eventually
3:31 it creates a more longer gaze which
3:32 indicates attraction. Does that make
3:34 sense? So it could be like a brief
3:36 glance followed by repeated looking and
3:39 then again followed by a longer glance
3:41 to which it's held that way. Does that
3:43 make sense? I thought that pattern was
3:44 actually really interesting. I didn't
3:46 know that there was a pattern until I
3:48 looked at this. This not might not be
3:50 the case with every situation, but
3:52 that's what this research found. very
3:58 very cool. I thought the next one is um
4:02 body movements that are typically
4:05 subconsciously meant to increase
4:08 physical visibility is the best way to
4:10 put it. And I'm going to give you
4:11 examples about that in a little bit. But
4:14 I'm going to mention why this occurs um
4:15 subconsciously from a psychological
4:17 perspective. Obviously, I think we can
4:19 also assume the biological perspective,
4:21 but I don't study biology, so I'm not
4:23 going to talk too much on it. But when
4:24 we look at it from wanting to be more
4:27 physically visible to a male they find
4:30 attractive, we can see that part of it
4:33 is because sometimes it's because you
4:36 want to remove competition. You want to
4:38 be more prominent to that particular
4:41 person. But also what happens is it's a
4:44 form of signaling this other person that
4:46 they are in fact attractive. so that the
4:49 male doesn't have so the male can get
4:51 the signal. Okay, this is my chance to
4:53 go ahead and pursue this particular
4:54 person. That's kind of what it comes
4:56 from from a psychological perspective,
4:58 but that also leans very biological.
4:59 Okay? And so what are these specific
5:02 examples? Leaning forward, right? So if
5:04 you're in a position where you both are
5:05 talking or sitting across from one
5:08 another, you can see that she is leaning
5:10 more forward. That is common. Male and
5:12 females do that, but we're just making
5:13 this about how females act around
5:15 attractive males. we are seeing uh the
5:19 tilting of the head maybe to try and
5:21 understand or indicate
5:23 that she's listening to what you're
5:25 saying or showing interest. Okay.
5:27 Self-grooming we talked about a little
5:29 bit prior, right? Self-grooming can be
5:32 adjusting of the clothing, touching of
5:34 hair, but I've also seen sometimes where
5:37 it's picking certain aspects. So if it's
5:39 like I'm wearing mascara right now and I
5:40 don't want to pick it off but like
5:43 picking or adjusting that can kind of be
5:46 some sort of self grooming. And then
5:49 also we see a open body orientation. So
5:52 shoulders back open leaning forward that
5:55 type of orientation very
5:58 um indicative of an individual a female
6:00 feeling attracted to a particular male
6:02 and wanting more connection with him if
6:05 that makes sense. Okay. Um, the next
6:08 one, this research was done in 2016.
6:09 Physical touch is a very strong
6:12 indicator of interest, right? So, if a
6:14 lady is attracted to a man, she may
6:17 lightly touch his arm, right? Maybe his
6:19 shoulder, maybe brush his hand during
6:21 conversations if they're walking side by
6:23 side, if that makes sense. Um, and a lot
6:26 of this is not on purpose necessarily,
6:28 but sometimes you might even see it as a
6:31 form of flirting to which she is like, I
6:33 don't know, tapping or like flirting
6:35 towards him in a way where she's tapping
6:38 on him a couple times or she's touching
6:40 his shoulder to actually show him I'm
6:43 interested on purpose like directly. But
6:45 of course, a lot of times this is
6:46 happening subconsciously. Maybe she's
6:48 laughing at a joke that he said and so
6:50 she briefly touches him or something
6:53 along that. So that's kind of some of
6:55 the ways that you can see physical touch
6:57 as a strong indicator. However, we were
6:58 just talking about laughing and so I
7:00 feel like it's really important to bring
7:02 that up as well. This research again is
7:04 a little older, 1990. Um, we see that
7:06 ladies actually laugh and smile more
7:09 around attractive men, especially in
7:12 response to a social interaction that
7:15 the male introduced or initiated. So
7:17 it's evidence that she's saying, "Okay,
7:20 your initiation has in fact piqu my
7:21 interest." So, a really common one is if
7:24 he made a joke, she might laugh or she
7:27 may smile or ask any sort of follow-up
7:29 questions or show more interest if he's
7:30 talking about something because she's
7:33 trying to signal that this is something
7:35 that she finds very attractive. Now,
7:37 from an evolutionary standpoint, I'm not
7:38 going to touch on that too much. I'm not
7:41 studying biology. It signals some sort
7:43 of mating functions, right? However, in
7:45 a psychological perspective, we're
7:48 seeing social signaling as encouraging
7:51 the male to in fact continue on these
7:52 behaviors, right? Because she's giving
7:54 that positive reinforcement to which
7:57 that encourages him to be more attentive
7:59 to what she feels and what he feels in
8:02 this social context to build a bond, if
8:04 that makes sense. Okay. Um, this next
8:06 one is group settings. And I thought
8:08 this was really interesting. I I didn't
8:10 really ever think about it, but this
8:12 really cleared it up. This one, the
8:15 research was done in 2021,
8:17 so this is a little bit newer. In group
8:18 settings particularly, we see that
8:20 ladies actually compete for attention of
8:23 attractive men by actually increasing
8:27 their own flirtation. So, they're doing
8:30 it in response to another
8:34 lady rather than another man or a man in
8:36 general, if that makes sense. So, she
8:39 may position herself more closer to that
8:42 attractive male. She may intensify those
8:45 visual cues and touches when she feels
8:46 that there is in fact what some people
8:50 may call a female rival. Right? And so
8:52 you can see that these are how some
8:55 women behave around attractive men. Not
8:56 always the case. And of course there are
8:58 plenty of more research about this. I
8:59 just wanted to make a quick video. I
9:01 hope this video was helpful to somebody.
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