0:04 Hi, beautiful people. Welcome to Si
0:07 Signs, where we decode behavior and help
0:10 you build emotional clarity. And today,
0:12 we're diving into a truth that's hard to
0:15 face but necessary for your peace. Eight
0:18 signs he's keeping you as a backup. He
0:19 texts you one day like you're his
0:22 favorite person, then disappears for
0:25 days. He tells you he likes you, but
0:27 somehow never makes things official.
0:29 You're left in this confusing gray zone.
0:32 Not quite single, but not really chosen
0:35 either. If you've ever felt like someone
0:37 only wants you when it's convenient for
0:39 them, this one's for you. I want you to
0:41 focus on this video and make sure you
0:44 stay till the end because the bonus sign
0:46 might be the one that finally helps you
0:49 see his true intentions. Let's begin.
0:52 One, he shows interest only when you
0:54 start to pull away. It's funny how he
0:56 can go silent for days, but the moment
0:58 you stop replying as fast or stop
1:01 showing interest, suddenly he's back.
1:04 Suddenly, he misses you. He starts
1:07 texting you like crazy. But deep down,
1:10 you know it's not love, it's fear. He
1:12 senses that his hold over you is
1:14 slipping, and that's what he's reacting
1:17 to. He doesn't want to lose you because
1:19 you feed his ego. You're the reassurance
1:22 that no matter how he treats you, you'll
1:25 still be there. So when you pull away,
1:27 it's not his heart that panics, it's his
1:30 pride. He's not missing you, he's
1:33 missing being missed. Two, he keeps
1:36 things emotionally vague. He says things
1:39 like, "I like where we are. Let's not
1:42 rush things. I just want to go with the
1:46 flow." But that flow never seems to lead
1:48 anywhere. You can spend months talking
1:50 to him and still not know what you are
1:53 to each other. That's intentional
1:56 because vagueness gives him control. If
1:59 he keeps it undefined, he can enjoy all
2:01 the benefits of your affection without
2:03 the responsibility of commitment. He
2:05 knows that as long as you're emotionally
2:08 confused, you'll stay hopeful. But let's
2:11 be real, anyone who truly wants you
2:14 won't keep you guessing. Three, you feel
2:16 like you're always the one initiating.
2:19 You send the first text. You're the one
2:21 who checks in after a long day. You're
2:23 the one asking, "When are we hanging
2:26 out?" And he he just goes with the flow
2:29 again. He'll respond sometimes sweetly,
2:32 but rarely does he initiate because he
2:34 doesn't feel the need to. You've made it
2:37 too easy. He knows you'll always reach
2:39 out, so why would he bother? You've
2:42 become his emotional safety net. always
2:44 there when he needs validation,
2:47 attention, or comfort. But that's not
2:50 love. That's convenience. You're not too
2:52 much. He's just too lazy to meet your
2:55 effort. Four, he's affectionate, but
2:58 only in private. Behind closed doors,
3:00 he's all over you. He tells you you're
3:03 special, holds you like he means it,
3:05 maybe even says he's never met anyone
3:07 like you. But the moment you're in
3:11 public, he acts distant. No handholding,
3:14 no soft glances. It's like he's two
3:16 different people. One when it's just the
3:18 two of you and one when others are
3:21 watching. That's not shyness. That's
3:24 strategy. Because keeping things private
3:26 gives him an escape route. If nobody
3:29 knows about you, nobody will ask about
3:31 you. He can flirt with others, play
3:33 single, and still keep you around
3:36 quietly, privately, conveniently. If he
3:38 hides you, it's not love. It's
3:40 protection not of you but of his
3:43 options. Five. He disappears when you
3:46 need emotional support. When he's
3:48 stressed, you're his calm place. When
3:50 you're hurting, he's nowhere to be
3:52 found. You might text him about
3:55 something serious and he'll reply hours
3:58 later with something like, "Sorry, I was
4:00 busy. You good now?" It's like he's
4:03 allergic to your emotions. He loves your
4:06 soft side when it serves him, when it
4:08 makes him feel cared for, admired,
4:11 wanted. But the moment you need him to
4:13 show up emotionally, he shuts down.
4:16 That's because true connection requires
4:19 empathy and effort. And people who keep
4:21 you as a backup don't invest energy.
4:24 They collect it. He wants your comfort,
4:27 not your complexity. Six, he flirts with
4:30 others right in front of you. Maybe he
4:32 comments on other girls posts. Maybe he
4:35 tells you, "Relax, it's just social
4:38 media." Or maybe he gets a little too
4:40 friendly when you're out together. You
4:42 tell yourself not to overreact, but deep
4:46 down it hurts. And it should because
4:48 what he's doing isn't harmless. It's a
4:51 subtle way of keeping you insecure while
4:53 keeping himself desired. He wants to
4:55 make sure other people see him as
4:57 available and you see yourself as
5:00 replaceable. It's emotional manipulation
5:03 hidden under the label of harmless
5:06 flirting. And the worst part, he knows
5:09 it. Seven, you always feel like you're
5:12 waiting for him. Waiting for him to text
5:15 back. Waiting for him to decide if he
5:17 wants to see you. Waiting for him to be
5:20 ready. But the truth is, if you're
5:22 constantly waiting, it's because he
5:24 already made his choice. He's just
5:26 keeping you on standby until something
5:29 better shows up or until he gets lonely
5:31 again. He knows you'll still be there
5:33 when he's done exploring his options.
5:36 And you might tell yourself, "He just
5:38 needs time." But what he really needs is
5:41 courage, and that's not something you
5:43 can give him. You can't inspire
5:45 commitment in someone who's addicted to
5:48 convenience. Eight, he gives you just
5:50 enough to keep you hoping. One week he's
5:53 sweet and attentive, the next he's
5:56 distant. He's mastered the pattern, pull
5:59 you close, then push you away. He gives
6:02 you crumbs, tiny doses of affection, and
6:04 watches you chase after the full meal.
6:07 It's like emotional bait. And every time
6:09 you fall for it, he learns he doesn't
6:11 need to do much to keep you around.
6:13 That's how you slowly start lowering
6:15 your standards just to keep him
6:18 interested. But here's the truth.
6:20 Someone who truly values you won't feed
6:23 you crumbs. They'll serve consistency.
6:25 You're the backup plan he never deserved
6:28 in the first place. Bonus. He doesn't
6:31 fear losing you. He fears you realizing
6:33 your worth. Because once you do, the
6:36 game ends. Once you start seeing his
6:38 patterns for what they are, empty,
6:40 repetitive, predictable. He loses his
6:43 control. He's not scared you'll leave.
6:46 He's scared you'll stop caring. Because
6:48 when you stop caring, his attention
6:51 source dries up. And for people like
6:54 him, that's the real loss. So if you
6:56 recognize yourself in these signs,
6:58 please stop being the maybe in someone
7:01 else's story. You deserve someone who
7:02 chooses you even when it's not
7:05 convenient. Someone who shows up not
7:07 because you remind them to, but because
7:09 they want to. And the moment you stop
7:12 accepting almost love, you make room for
7:15 real love. Don't forget to subscribe
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