This content provides a guide on how to effectively deal with haters and bullies by shifting one's mindset and employing specific strategies to reclaim power and foster personal growth.
Mind Map
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these days everyone has been asking me
Liz how do you deal with your haters how
do you deal with bullies
okay listen to me first of all I do not
deal with haters anymore I think I used
to be very much like more involved but
as if right now I do not read my
comments I don't know what is being said
about me I mean sometimes I hear it but
I'm not really involved with them why
because I don't want to give them my
energy I don't want to hear it I don't
want to see it I'm in my own little
bubble with my just the people I love
with my cats I'm good you know I'm good
I'm minding my own business I'm doing my
own stuff I'm upgrading my live in
silence I'm not bothering anyone so why
should I allow someone to bother me no
okay the only Power haters have over you
or bullies have over you is the power
you give them by you giving them a
reaction but if you take that away they
do not have any power over you it can
only make you feel bad if you allow them
to make you feel bad top of that with
haters I realize you know someone in
somebody that's successful somebody
that's beautiful somebody that has a lot
of self-confidence self-worth will never
go and like write something nasty or
like create rumors or do like very nasty
stuff nobody who's actually living a
successful and happy life does that it's
always the miserable
ugly looking Gremlins that want to talk
but baby instead of worrying about other
people's faces about other people's life
look at your own most of the time is
jealousy it's Envy everything that's
involved but at the end of the day I do
no recently I went to visit my family in
the country where I grew up and I met up
with a friend that I hadn't seen in a
long time and she basically told me
um about like a girl who reached out to
her again who knew that me and her were
friends uh she basically told my friend
like all these stuff about me that
people were saying and then my friend
told her she was like but why are you
telling me all this you know like it's
all obviously a lie and then why are you
telling me this and then she goes like
yeah just so you just so you can tell
Liz what people say about her
and what will I do now will I Cry
like I like the fact that I talked about
do you guys not get it I want to be
talked about I think haters are my
biggest fans you have my regular fans
and then you have my super obsessed fans
AKA haters because they will watch a
video and they will constantly watch it
until they find something that they can
take out of context and they can run for
like years and years and say oh my God
she said that she said this but like my
other fans were just normal they'll just
watch it think whatever they want and
they'll leave like chilly like what will
I do now oh my God no people are talking
about me why am I on social media to not
be talked about are you insane that's so
dumb I saw a painting that said uh
there's one thing worse than being
talked about and that is not being
talked about and that made me really
realize how true that is because imagine
nobody talked about me nobody even cared
for who I was or what I did like I would
not be successful in this video I will
show you how you can deal with bullies
haters bullies you can have in school
you can have uh at your job this is
literally a very good video for anyone I
have been bullied uh in my own home by
abusive parents and always in school
like I was always bullied so I can give
you the best advice hi guys my name is
this and welcome back to my channel okay
let's get right into it first things
first do not have empathy for them
listen I really I am a very empathic
person so I am the kind of person I
would always put myself in other
people's shoes right so I had this girl
she used to bully me uh when I was in
high school and constantly she was
bullying me she would make fun of my
looks everything
and I always felt bad for her because
everyone was saying like yeah it's
because her dad like left them she's
very traumatized because of that then
I'm thinking oh that's so sad for her
but now I'm thinking like I literally
the same at the same time I was growing
up with an abusive parent that was
abusing me every single day and I did
not act like that towards anyone so at
the end of the day I do not have empathy
for them anymore because you can
literally decide what you do with what
happened with to you yes life is unfair
things happen uh you did not deserve it
but how can I just because I was abused
as a child and all these things go on to
grow up to do that to someone else I
would never because I know how it feels
I know how damaging that is even saying
something to someone I do not feel good
if I made someone upset because of my
words because of anything I literally
would not be able to sleep at night
these are the type of people they feel
comfortable in this you know like people
say like yeah but it's hard for them you
know they grew up like very harsh
whatever no you know it's actually hard
get growing up that way growing up in an
abusive household or like being trumped
as whatever and then choosing to not be
like that because that's the only thing
you know but if you choose to be like
you know what I am not gonna do this I
am not going to continue this that is
actual strength doing the same thing
that you have been taught because that's
the only thing you know at all victim
mindset so sorry that this happened to
me yeah actually nobody cares what
happened to you true you should take
responsibility for what happened and you
should deal with that and you should not
go out and Bully other people or hate on
other people because you have issues
that is not my issue or anyone's else
issue that is for you to fix do not have
empathy for them have that empathy for
yourself they are putting you through
something that is not okay they are
putting into something that is not nice
regardless of their situation I could
not care less about their situation
I do not care
you should look at yourself and be like
am I being treated badly have empathy
with yourself another thing is stop
trying to be nice to them this is a
mistake we make because we think oh if
they're bullying us like we should be
nice to them maybe they'll be nicer to
us kill them with kindness this never
works this does not work why these
people do not know what it means to be
kind these people do not know what
niceness is I actually tried this once
with my abusive parent
um I grew up and
I was sitting down uh with this person
at the table and I was like okay maybe
you know what like I should just be
nicer to this person because then this
person will like me more
so then I remember we were having a
conversation and stuff and I was just
being normal and whatever and then I
said something nice to this person which
I hadn't tried before I swear I never
got scolded more in my life the reaction
was insane like literally and I I
literally left the table crying like
this person completely turned because I
was nice to them these people do not
know what nice is to them it's a threat
so if you're trying to be nice to them
that will actually make them even more
angry and make them even more upset but
what do you do instead instead every
single person whether it's a bully
whether it's a guy whether it's whoever
you mirror them the same energy they
give to you you give to them
same with bullies like they're called to
you they're they're distant they they're
mean to you whatever I'm not saying go
provoke them and be mean back but keep
your distance then do not try to get
closer to them okay you keep your
distance you do not engage with them you
you just be on your own whatever but
mirror them do whatever they do to you
if you're texting a guy right and this
guy's being cold and dry to you whatever
and you're trying to be nice and then
like I have conversation going no you
are cold and dry as well you give them
exactly what they give you this works
like gold like gold I had this one
friend of mine he has like issues at his
job whatever and this one guy who was
working with him his co-worker he
constantly was like uh digging at him
and throwing dicks at him whatever and
he would like he would let it slide
slide and he was just trying to be nice
to him so he would like him right but
then I told him you should start
mirroring him do exactly what he does to
you give him the same energy right so uh
with that I meant like if he's being
passive aggressive so he makes like
comments that are like not nice but he
says it in a way where you can't really
say hey that was not nice you know being
past Progressive you are being passive
aggressive back to him you give him the
same way he's treating you in a cold
manner you treat him in a cold matter
when people start to mirror them that's
when actually the person also starts to
see what he is doing wrong now this
thing is don't tell them anything about
you do not share anything personal do
not share anything pictures nothing do
not do not try to befriend your bullies
or whatever do not do not go there like
I said in my last video about friends
and all these things these people are
nobody's friends these people don't like themselves
