0:04 You're not as free as you think.
0:06 You are obedient as obedient as you've
0:09 been trained to be.
0:11 People think that we obey out of fear.
0:16 We are obedient out of identity.
0:20 And people confuse safety with self. And
0:23 this is a big problem. The real horror
0:26 that happens here is the part of you
0:29 that begins to obey, gets trained to be
0:32 hyper obedient, isn't you at all in the
0:35 first place. It is a ritual and it is
0:37 one that you never signed up for and
0:40 it's a ritual that you still perform daily.
0:42 daily.
0:46 Obedience being a survival code, people
0:48 think it's a mindset or a decision that
0:51 we make, but it is a survival reflex.
0:54 So, your nervous system is is literally
0:56 running software that is at least
0:59 200,000 years old. And that software
1:04 says exile equals death. This is why you
1:07 feel genuine physical pain when somebody
1:10 disapproves of you. Obedience shows up
1:14 way before choice. Your mitochondria
1:17 reduce energy when you get rejected.
1:20 That means becoming compliant is
1:23 efficiency, is biological efficiency. If
1:24 I'm compliant, that means my cells can
1:27 make more energy. I can avoid conflict.
1:29 Then I keep myself safe. But I think
1:32 this also kills off a lot of truth, a
1:34 lot of personal power, and a lot of your
1:37 soul. They weren't evil. They were just obedient.
1:43 Permission bypasses conscience. And
1:47 that's what happens every time that you
1:49 stay quiet to keep the peace. You call
1:51 it in your head, you'll call it a
1:54 strategy, but it's a ritual. There is a
1:57 fivestep obedience ritual that humans
1:59 engage in. So step one is fear of rejection.
2:01 rejection.
2:05 You learned very early that love was
2:08 conditional. Appreciation, affection was
2:09 all conditional. So the fear of
2:11 rejection becomes the altar of a church
2:14 for you. And then step two is silencing
2:17 of the self. And this is the prayer of
2:19 this ritual. You you're silencing all
2:21 the things that are real. And these are
2:24 not just I hate that guy. These are like
2:26 I'm feeling insecure right now or I'm
2:29 lonely. So we silence truth to keep some
2:31 kind of belonging. And then we have the
2:33 third part which is called external
2:36 referencing. This is the scripture of
2:39 this religion, this ritual. It's always
2:42 what do all of them think about me? How
2:44 am I being perceived? This becomes
2:46 gospel. This becomes the the repetitive
2:48 phrase in the head. How am I being
2:50 perceived? And step four of this
2:53 obedience ritual is image management.
2:56 Let's call these the robes. These are
2:57 the robes that you're wearing in this
2:59 this ritual in this religion. You put on
3:03 a face so people won't see some kind of
3:05 a rebellion or some kind of an insecure
3:07 person or a wounded person that are
3:09 underneath. We're managing the image
3:12 which naturally leads to the next step
3:14 which is behavioral conformity which is
3:17 step five. And if this is a a religion
3:18 this is your offering. This is the
3:20 offering that you make. You're
3:22 sacrificing authenticity for some kind
3:30 Obedience is identity theft. We start
3:32 mistaking a bunch of trauma for
3:35 personality. The version of you who says
3:38 yes when it should be screaming no, I
3:41 don't want to do that. That's not you.
3:43 That is your conditioning. You're not
3:46 really disobedient yet. You're just
3:49 creative in how you comply. Not being
3:50 obedient is about not breaking the
3:53 rules. It's about breaking being in a
3:55 walking trance all the time. Interrupt
3:57 the ritual itself. And you could do this
4:00 with just one question on repeat in your
4:01 head. It's like what the hell am I
4:04 afraid is going to happen if I were
4:07 truly honest right now?
4:10 So truth becomes a little act of microde
4:13 defiance. Your nervous system have to
4:17 feel that you survived disobedience. The
4:18 moment that your nervous system feels we
4:20 made it through that and nothing
4:23 happened. We didn't die. Say no when you
4:25 would normally smile at somebody and try
4:28 to please them. Stay completely still
4:32 when the urge to perform for people is
4:34 begging to come out. The urge to come
4:36 out and be artificial. Just be still and
4:39 enjoy yourself instead of being in front
4:41 of your eyes.
4:44 Obedience is a ritual of the nervous
4:47 system. It is absolutely a ritual. But
4:49 you don't have to be a priest and you
4:50 don't have to be a follower. And what
4:52 you think is your personality, you're
4:55 calling it your personality, is probably
4:57 your defense system, wearing a little
5:00 sticky name tag. You weren't born to be
5:03 compliant and behave and sit still and
5:05 shut up and speak when spoken to and
5:07 shrink yourself so other people feel
5:09 comfortable. You were born to just be
5:10 and you were born to become. We get
5:13 taught to kneel early in life, but I
5:16 think the absolute way that rebellion
5:19 truly happens is remembering that you
5:22 stood up and nothing happened, nothing
5:24 will happen. And getting that one piece
5:27 of proof in inside of your neurology
5:29 will drastically change. It's going to
5:31 shift your world view. If you think
5:32 about any change that you want to make
5:35 in your life, it is a byproduct of
5:37 shifting your world view, how you view
