"The Mountain Is You" by Briana Wuest posits that the obstacles we face in life are not external but are internal constructs—mountains we build ourselves through self-sabotage, fear, and past trauma. The book offers a roadmap for dismantling these internal barriers to achieve radical personal transformation and embody one's true, authentic self.
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Put on your headphones, sit back, and
take a deep breath. Because what you're
about to hear isn't just a book summary.
It's a mirror. A reflection of every
part of you that's stuck, scared, and
standing still. This is the story of the
inner mountain. The one you built in the
one you were born to climb. Welcome to
the mountain is you. Written by Briana
Wuest. A book that doesn't just inspire,
it challenges you to stop waiting. to
stop making excuses, to stop calling
your pain personality and your fear
fate. In this video, we're going deep
chapter by chapter through the emotional
valleys, the mental fog, and finally up
toward the peak of personal
transformation. You'll discover why
self- sabotage isn't weakness, it's
protection. How your past pain is
secretly running your life. Why the
hardest thing you've ever been through
might be the very thing that's trying to
save you. And most of all, how to become
the person you were always meant to be.
This isn't just a motivational talk.
It's a road map for radical inner
change. Because sometimes the thing
standing in your way isn't the world,
it's you. But that's not the end of the
story. That's just the beginning. So get
comfortable, press play, and let's begin
the climb. Chapter one. The mountain is
you. There's a mountain inside you. You
feel it when you sabotage your own
progress. When you procrastinate what
you know will change your life. When you
say yes to what drains you and no to
what could heal you. You've called it
bad habits, anxiety, fear of failure.
But let's be honest, the mountain isn't
out there. It's not your circumstances.
It's not your past. It's you. This
chapter opens the door to one of the
boldest truths you'll ever face. The
mountain you're climbing is made of
everything you're still avoiding. But
here's the power in that realization. If
you built it, you can break it down. And
if you can break it down, you can build
something greater in its place. Brianna
Whis begins the book by defining what
the mountain really is. It's not a
metaphor for a difficult task. It's not
just pain or hardship. It's every
behavior, belief, and pattern you've
created to protect yourself that now
quietly works against you. It's
self-sabotage. And she's not just
talking about the obvious kind like
skipping workouts or overspending. She's
talking about the subtle self- betrayals.
betrayals.
Staying in toxic relationships because
change feels unsafe. Dimming your light
so others feel comfortable. Waiting for
motivation that never comes. Clinging to
control because uncertainty feels like
danger. These aren't random. They're
rooted in deep emotional logic. Often
survival instincts formed in childhood
or trauma. Why we self-sabotage?
According to Briana, we sabotage not
because we're lazy or weak, but because
we're trying to stay safe. Your brain
doesn't care about your goals. It cares
about familiarity. So, if chaos is what
you've always known, peace will feel
threatening. If failure feels
comfortable, success will terrify you.
You'll unconsciously return to what's
familiar, even if it's painful. That's
what the mountain is. The layers of
protection you've built that now
imprison you.
How the mind compensates. Here's a
powerful concept from the chapter. The
mind doesn't naturally choose what's
best. It chooses what's known. So even
when we want to grow, we revert to past
patterns because they feel predictable.
This is why real change is so hard.
You're not just changing habits. You're
rewiring identity. You're stepping away
from a self that was created to cope and
stepping toward a self that was born to
thrive. Transformation begins with
ownership. You cannot conquer what you
won't claim. In this chapter, Brianna
emphasizes that transformation begins
the moment you stop blaming your
parents, your ex, your environment, your
luck, even your trauma. It's not that
those things didn't matter. They shaped
you. But they don't have to define you.
When you say, "I built this mountain."
You also say, "I have the power to tear
it down." That's where freedom begins.
Final insight of chapter 1. This isn't a
book about quick fixes. It's not about
hustle culture or toxic positivity. It's
about inner excavation. Digging through
the fear, resistance, and protective
layers until you find what's real. The
real you. The one who's ready for peace.
The one who's hungry for growth. The one
who's been buried under fear but never
broken by it. The mountain is you, but
the summit is also you. You don't just
climb it, you become it. And this
chapter is where that journey begins.
Chapter 2, self-sabotage.
Have you ever caught yourself repeating
the same mistake again and again? You
say you want change. You promise to stop
settling. You dream of a better life, a
stronger version of you. And yet, you
fall back into the same patterns. You
freeze right before taking the leap. You
back out when love gets too close. You
give up when success starts knocking.
And then you blame yourself. Maybe I'm
just not cut out for this. Maybe I'm
broken. Maybe I'll always be this way.
But what if the real reason you're stuck
is because some part of you believes
it's safer that way? This is where
self-sabotage begins. And this is where
we begin healing it.
In chapter 2 of The Mountain is You,
Brianna Wuest unpacks the painful truth
behind one of the most misunderstood
behaviors, self-sabotage.
She begins by challenging the common
idea that sabotage is caused by
laziness, lack of motivation, or
weakness. In reality, it's much deeper
than that. It's not that we don't want
success. It's that we're afraid of what
success will cost us. Success demands
change. Change demands risk. Risk
threatens safety. And for many of us,
safety is survival, even if it means
staying small. Self-sabotage is the
mind's way of protecting us from what it
believes will harm us. Rejection,
judgment, failure, or even joy. Why joy?
Because if we've grown up in chaos,
peace can feel unfamiliar. And
unfamiliar often feels unsafe, even if
it's good. Imagine a thermostat set to
70°. If your life starts heating up,
more love, more opportunity, more
visibility, your subconscious might
panic. It senses danger. And so without
realizing it, you begin to cool things
back down, delay decisions, pick fights,
quit projects, withdraw from people who
care. Briana reveals that many of us are
unconsciously loyal to our pain. We stay
loyal to the stories we were taught.
That we aren't good enough, that love
has to hurt, that happiness isn't for
people like us. She calls this emotional
addiction. Being chemically and
neurologically wired to feel what is
familiar, even if it's destructive. You
don't sabotage because you're broken.
You sabotage because your brain is
trying to keep you in what feels normal.
But here's the catch. What feels normal
is often what was modeled to us in
childhood. If your home was
unpredictable, your nervous system
learned to live in stress. If love meant
control or absence, you now equate
emotional intensity with affection. If
achievement came with punishment or
pressure, your mind may now fear success
as a threat, not a reward. So self-
sabotage isn't the root problem. It's a
symptom of unresolved wounds. It's a red
flag waving from your subconscious
saying, "Something in me is afraid.
Something in me doesn't feel safe with
this version of life. The real triggers
of sabotage. Brianna outlines specific
emotional and psychological roots behind
our self-sabotaging behaviors. Fear of
change. You're afraid of losing what's
familiar, even if it hurts. Fear of responsibility.
responsibility.
More success means more people watching,
more expectations, and the fear of
letting them down. Fear of visibility.
Being seen feels dangerous if you've
ever been shamed for being different.
Fear of love. You crave connection, but
you run when it gets real because love
has hurt before. Fear of success. You
fear you'll get everything you ever
wanted only to mess it up or lose it.
You don't fear failure. You fear that
success might prove your deepest doubts
wrong and you won't know how to handle
it. How we sabotage. Briana gives
examples that anyone can relate to. You
ghost people who care about you because
vulnerability feels terrifying. You
procrastinate on your dream project
because finishing it means risking
judgment. You choose unhealthy
relationships because love with someone
safe feels foreign. And love with
someone chaotic feels like home. You
spend money recklessly not because
you're careless, but because having
money makes you feel like a fraud. Each
of these is not random behavior. It's
your nervous system fighting to keep you
in survival mode. The shift begins with
awareness. The turning point in this
chapter comes when Briana asks us to
stop punishing ourselves for our
patterns and instead start listening to
them. Ask yourself, what is this
behavior protecting me from? What does
this version of me still believe? Who
taught me to be afraid of peace? When
you ask those questions, you stop seeing
sabotage as self-hate and start seeing
it as a call to understand and heal.
Brianna reminds us, "You are not stuck
because you're weak. You're stuck
because you're scared." And
understanding that fear is the first
step to changing it. Closing takeaway.
You are not here to live a half life.
You are not here to repeat old stories.
You are not here to fear your own
potential. You are here to climb your
mountain. And that journey begins by
finally facing the part of you that's
been holding you back with compassion,
not criticism.
The mountain you are meant to climb is
the part of you that's been scared to
rise. And the moment you stop fighting
it, you start becoming it. Chapter 3.
Building emotional intelligence.
You've probably been told to control
your emotions, to stay strong, to just
get over it. But what if that advice has
been holding you back? What if the key
to healing your life, to stopping the
self-sabotage, to climbing your inner
mountain isn't ignoring your emotions?
It's learning their language. Because
your emotions are not the problem. They
are your guide. They are not weakness.
They are information. And once you learn
how to understand them, you stop
reacting blindly. You stop running from
your pain. You stop building your life
on fear. In this chapter, Briana Whis
shows us how to become emotionally
intelligent. Not to suppress what we
feel, but to channel it. This chapter
begins with a hard truth. Many of us
were never taught how to feel our
emotions, let alone manage them. We
learned to distract, to downplay, to
avoid. If you cried, you were too
sensitive. If you got angry, you were
out of control. If you were anxious, you
were dramatic. So over time, we shut
down. We labeled emotions as
inconvenient, unproductive,
embarrassing. And as a result, we lost
connection with the very part of us that
could lead us to transformation. our
emotional self. Briana says, "Emotional
intelligence is not about controlling
your emotions. It's about understanding
what they're trying to tell you. Your
emotions are signals. When you're sad,
something needs to be grieved. When
you're angry, a boundary has been
crossed. When you're anxious, there's an
inner part of you feeling unsafe. When
you're numb, you've probably been
overwhelmed for too long. Instead of
judging these emotions, she invites us
to get curious about them. Ask yourself,
what is this feeling trying to show me?
Where have I felt this before? What
belief is triggering this emotion? Is
this feeling from the present moment or
from an old wound? When we ask these
questions, emotions become teachers, not enemies.
enemies.
What emotional intelligence really
means? Briana breaks emotional
intelligence into three main components.
One, emotional awareness. This means
recognizing what you're feeling without
judgment. It's saying, "I feel jealous
right now." instead of pretending
everything's fine. It's saying, "I feel
ashamed." And understanding where that
shame is rooted. Two, emotional regulation.
regulation.
This is learning how to soo yourself,
not by avoiding, but by sitting with
your feelings. It's knowing how to
breathe through panic, how to pause when
you're triggered, how to speak your
truth instead of exploding in rage.
Three, emotional integration. This means
allowing emotions to move through you,
not define you. You can feel grief
without becoming bitterness. You can
feel fear without giving up. You can
feel anger and still respond with
compassion. Why most of us stay
emotionally stuck. Briana explains that
emotional immaturity is at the core of
self-sabotage. If you never learned how
to process rejection, you'll avoid all
situations where you might be judged. If
you never faced your past grief, you'll
emotionally freeze when love shows up
again. Many of us are adults in age, but
still children in emotion, reacting,
defending, avoiding because we were
never taught anything different. She
also explains how we often project
emotions instead of processing them. You
get rejected and say they're all toxic.
You feel insecure and blame the job, the
city, the partner. But in truth, it's
your own unmet emotional needs speaking
through the pain. The moment you take
responsibility for your emotions without
blaming or numbing is the moment you
start taking control of your life.
Brianna's core insight. You don't need
to be less emotional. You need to become
more fluent in what your emotions are
telling you. Your fear, it's asking for
safety. Your sadness, it's asking for
closure. Your envy, it's pointing toward
a desire you've been ignoring. Your
anger, it's defending a self-worth
you've forgotten. This is what it means
to build emotional intelligence. To
listen, learn, and lead yourself out of
reaction and into response. Key
takeaways from chapter 3. Emotional
intelligence isn't the absence of
emotion. It's mastery of awareness. Your
emotions are messengers. Listen to them
before they scream. Reactivity fades
when you learn to validate your own
feelings. Processing your emotions
doesn't make you soft. It makes you unstoppable.
unstoppable.
Closing words. This chapter invites you
to stop apologizing for what you feel.
To stop pretending you're okay just to
keep the peace. To stop labeling your
heart as too much. Because your emotions
were never the enemy. They were always
trying to lead you home. And when you
finally learn to feel, you begin to
heal. Chapter 4. Rewiring the mind. Your
mind is not your enemy, but it can
become your cage. You think 60,000
thoughts a day, and most of them are the
same ones you thought yesterday. They
shape your beliefs. They guide your
choices. They define who you think you
are. But here's the truth. You are not
your thoughts. You are the one who hears
them. And you have the power to change
them. In this chapter, we stop letting
our minds run the show. We stop obeying
fear like it's fact. We stop mistaking
anxiety for instinct. Instead, we learn
how to do something few people are ever
taught. We learn how to rewire our
brain. Briana Whis opens this chapter
with a powerful idea. Your mind is
programmable just like your habits, just
like your body. Most people believe
their thoughts are permanent, that the
way they think is who they are. But
neuroscience says otherwise. Your brain
is constantly changing. adapting,
reshaping, and building new pathways
based on what you feed it. This is
called neuroplasticity, and it's one of
the most hopeful truths in modern
psychology. It means that no matter
where you start, no matter how anxious,
depressed, fearful, or reactive you've
been, you can change. But first, you
have to understand what's been running
the show. The role of thought loops.
Brianna introduces the idea of cognitive
loops. thought patterns you repeat so
often they become unconscious.
These loops are built from past
experiences, emotional trauma, limiting
beliefs, and fear conditioning. For
example, if you were constantly
criticized as a child, you may have an
inner voice that says, "I'll never be
enough." If you were taught that love
must be earned, you may believe, "If I'm
not useful, I'm unlovable." If you
failed before, your brain might say,
"Why even try?" These thoughts aren't
true, but they feel true. And feelings,
when repeated, create identity. Soon,
you're not just thinking negatively. You
become a negative person. Not because
it's who you are, but because it's what
you've been conditioned to believe. How
rewiring works. Briana breaks it down.
To rewire your brain, you must interrupt
the loop and replace it with a new one.
This happens in three steps. One,
awareness. You catch the thought, I
always mess this up. They probably hate
me. Why would anyone love me? Instead of
believing it, you pause and label it.
That's an old belief. That's not me.
Two, replacement. You speak a new
thought slowly, repeatedly. Even if it
doesn't feel true yet, I am learning. I
am allowed to be loved as I am. I trust
myself to grow. Three, reinforcement.
You create rituals that align with the
new belief, journaling, gratitude,
taking small risks to build confidence,
spending time around people who reflect
your highest self. You don't do this
once. You do it daily because your brain
is listening and over time it begins to
believe what you consistently tell it.
What gets in the way? Most people don't
rewire their minds not because they
can't, but because they expect instant
results. They meditate once and expect
peace. They say one affirmation and
expect self-love. They set one boundary
and expect everyone to respect it. But
rewiring is like physical fitness. You
don't lift weights once and become
strong. You train even when it's hard,
even when you don't see progress yet.
Emotional fitness is the same. Briana
reminds us, "Your mind has been
repeating these negative patterns for
years. It won't let go without effort,
but the effort is worth it because when
you change your thoughts, you don't just
feel better, you become free." Examples
of rewiring in action. Instead of
saying, "I'm a failure," you begin
saying, "I'm experimenting." Instead of
thinking, "They're better than me," you
reframe it. Their success proves what's
possible. Instead of reacting with
panic, you pause and breathe. This
feeling is valid, but it's not
permanent. Each of these small shifts
creates new wiring in your brain. Over
time, those wires become stronger, and
one day, you realize something has
changed. You don't believe the worst
about yourself anymore. You don't spiral
at every setback. You don't fear
becoming your old self again. You are no
longer just reacting to life. You are
reprogramming it. Final message of
chapter 4. You don't need a new
personality. You don't need to erase
your past. You don't need to be perfect.
You just need to build a new way of
thinking. One that's based on truth, not
trauma. Because the old thoughts, they
were just echoes of pain. The new ones,
they are the language of freedom. Your
thoughts create your reality. So choose
ones that build mountains, not walls.
Chapter 5, the future self. There's a
version of you out there. Stronger,
wiser, braver, more fulfilled. They are
not a fantasy. They are not a dream.
They are a reality waiting to be built.
Brick by brick, belief by belief. But
you can't meet them while clinging to
the version of you that's still
apologizing for existing. You can't
become them while arguing for your
limitations. You can't walk into your
future, while dragging the weight of
your past. The future you is calling.
And in this chapter, we learn how to
answer that call, not just with hope,
but with action. In chapter 5, Brianna
Wuest introduces one of the most
empowering concepts in the book, the
idea of the future self. This isn't just
who you want to become. It's who you're
meant to be. It's the version of you on
the other side of healing. The one who
lives with clarity, intention, and
emotional freedom. But you won't meet
that version of you by accident. You
have to build them. And the first step,
understanding what's been standing in
the way,
why we resist growth. Most people don't
resist growth because they don't want
it. They resist it because it threatens
their current identity. Think about it.
If you've always seen yourself as the
anxious one or the people pleaser or the
one who always gets left behind, then
becoming confident or calm or empowered
feels wrong. It feels like a betrayal of
who you've always been. Briana explains
that identity is powerful. Even painful
identities give us comfort because
they're familiar. So when you try to
change, your mind might sabotage you.
Not because it hates you, but because it
doesn't recognize this new you as safe.
The solution? Stop arguing with your
past self. Start teaching your brain
that the future version of you is not a
threat. It's a coming home. Who is your
future self? Briana invites you to get
clear, not vague. Don't just say, "I
want to be happy." Say, "My future self
is someone who wakes up peacefully, who
speaks with confidence, who moves
through the day without guilt, who ends
the night proud, not ashamed." Your
future self isn't perfect. They just
don't carry the same baggage anymore.
They've learned how to process emotion.
They've stopped self-sabotaging.
They make decisions that align with
their values, not their fear. And the
more specific you get, the more real
they become. How to start becoming that
person. Brianna gives a simple but
profound process. One, audit your
habits. Are your daily actions aligned
with the future you or the fearful you?
Would your future self scroll for 2
hours or journal for 10 minutes? Would
they ghost someone or set a clear
boundary? Two, change your inner
language. Replace.
I hope I can with I am learning to
replace. I've always been like this with
that's who I was, not who I am becoming.
Three, make tiny consistent shifts.
Transformation isn't one big leap. It's
a thousand small choices, a morning
routine, a decision to pause instead of
react. A moment of silence instead of
self- judgment. Four, surround yourself
with reflective energy. If you're always
around people who feed your past, your
growth will always feel like loss. Start
spending time, even online, with people
who mirror your future. One of the most
powerful insights, you are not healing
to become someone else. You are healing
to remember who you were before the
world told you who to be. The future
self isn't new. They are authentic. They
are you without fear controlling your
every move. You don't have to create
them. You just have to uncover them.
When it gets hard, there will be days
when you want to go back. When fear
feels easier than growth. When silence
feels safer than honesty. But those are
the days that matter most. Because every
time you choose to act like your future
self, even when it's hard, you send your
brain a new message. This is who I am
now and I'm not going back. Closing
words. The mountain in front of you may
feel high. The past behind you may feel
heavy. But your future self is not some
distant version of perfection. They are
waiting at the top. And every choice you
make is a step in their direction. You
don't become them all at once. You
become them moment by moment. By
choosing peace over chaos, growth over
fear, truth over comfort.
Your future self is not your fantasy.
They are your destiny. Chapter 6.
Breakdowns and breakthroughs.
What if your worst moments
weren't the end? What if the heartbreak,
the panic, the total collapse of
everything you thought you knew wasn't
ruining you, but rebuilding you? We talk
about breakdowns like they're signs of
weakness, like they're evidence that
we've failed. But what if they're
sacred? What if breakdowns are just
truth explosions? The body, the heart,
and the soul saying, "I can't carry this
weight anymore." In this chapter,
Brianna Whis flips the script. She shows
us that every breakdown is a message, a
map, and if you're willing to listen, it
can become your breakthrough. Chapter 6
begins with an emotional truth we've all
lived through. Sometimes your life falls
apart, not because you did something
wrong, but because you're finally
outgrowing it. We all experience moments
of deep emotional collapse. The panic
attack you didn't expect, the
relationship that breaks without
warning, the days where you can't get
out of bed, and the nights that swallow
you whole. Briana explains that these
moments, though terrifying, are not
signs that something is wrong with you.
They're signs that something inside you
is shifting. Your soul is clearing out
what's no longer aligned with who you're
becoming. These breakdowns are painful.
Yes, but they're also sacred
invitations. They force you to face what
you've been avoiding. They pull out the
buried grief, the suppressed anger, the
untold truth. They bring your inner
chaos into the light so you can finally
begin to heal. The purpose of a
breakdown. According to Briana, a
breakdown is what happens when your
internal world, your needs, your values,
your truths are no longer compatible
with the life you're living. It's your
system saying, "This job no longer
matches my worth. This relationship
doesn't see who I truly am. This version
of me is too small for the vision I
carry." We collapse, not because we're
broken, but because we've been
pretending we're okay for too long. and
pretending is exhausting. What
breakdowns look like? Not all breakdowns
are dramatic. Some are slow. They look
like constant irritability, emotional
numbness, feeling stuck in every area of
life, losing joy in things you used to
love, physical exhaustion with no
medical cause. Briana emphasizes these
are not signs you're lazy or failing.
They're signs you're misaligned. You are
being called to rebuild your life on a
more honest foundation. What happens
during a breakthrough? A breakthrough
doesn't always come with a lightning
bolt. It often comes in quiet
realization. I don't want to chase
people anymore. I've been waiting for
permission to be myself. I can't keep
living this way. From that awareness
comes movement. A new boundary, a
breakup, a resignation, a moment of
choosing your truth over your fear. It's
terrifying, but it's also freeing.
That's the essence of a breakthrough.
Not a perfect outcome, but a realignment.
realignment.
The psychology behind it. From a
neuroscience perspective, breakdowns
often occur during what Briana calls
cognitive dissonance. When your reality
and your inner truth are in conflict. If
you keep pretending to be fine while
you're breaking inside. If you keep
following old rules while craving a new
life, your mind and body will begin to
rebel. That rebellion can look like
burnout, mental health spirals, or
identity crisis. But again, it's not the
end. It's the start of radical clarity.
How to move through a breakdown
consciously. Briana offers powerful
steps to guide the healing. One, stop
resisting it. Don't numb it. Don't run.
Don't suppress. Feel it. Let it break
open. Let it cleanse. Two, witness
yourself with compassion. Watch your own
pain with kindness. Ask, "What is this
teaching me? What am I finally being
freed from?" Three, find safety in the
now anchor into your breath, your body,
and the present moment. Remind yourself,
"Oh, this feeling is intense, but it is
not forever." Four, release the story.
Stop clinging to the narrative that this
is punishment or failure. It's rebirth.
It's transition. It's sacred deconstruction.
deconstruction.
Five. Envision what comes next. Start
planting tiny seeds for the life you're
growing into. Even if all you can do
today is rest, cry, and breathe. That's
part of the rebuild. Final message of
chapter 6. You were not meant to hold
everything together forever. You were
not built to carry years of silence,
shame, self-denial, and keep smiling.
The breakdown is not the moment you fall
apart. It's the moment you stop
pretending. It's the space where the old
story collapses and the new one begins
to write itself. Let yourself fall.
Because sometimes falling apart is the
only way to fall into place. Chapter 7.
Healing the root. You can't fix a
cracked ceiling if the foundation is
broken. You can't stop the anxiety if
the root is abandonment. You can't
overcome self- sabotage. If deep down
you still believe you're unworthy. We
spend so much time trying to fix the
symptoms. The overthinking, the
procrastination, the fear of failure.
But if we never look deeper, we'll keep
repeating the same patterns with
different faces.
In this chapter, Brianna Wuest gives us
the truth we've been avoiding. To heal
your life, you must go back to the root.
Not to stay there, but to understand it.
And finally, to release it. This chapter
begins with a powerful truth. Most of
the problems we face in adulthood are
not new. They're old wounds dressed in
new situations. That heartbreak, it
reopened your fear of abandonment from
childhood. That panic before starting
something new. It's the echo of the time
you failed and were humiliated. that
constant people pleasing. It's rooted in
a belief that love must be earned. We
think we're reacting to what's happening
now, but we're actually reacting to what
we never healed. Brianna says this is
why self-sabotage often feels
irrational. You logically know you're
safe, but your body doesn't believe it.
You know you deserve love, but your
subconscious is still stuck in a past
rejection. To truly grow, you must stop
treating the symptom and start healing
the cause. Our brains are meaning-making
machines. When something painful
happens, especially in childhood, we
don't just feel hurt. We form beliefs.
I'm not enough. I can't trust anyone.
I'll always be abandoned. Success isn't
safe. These become our core beliefs and
they operate like programs in the
background. We don't question them. We
just build our lives around them. So, we
shrink ourselves. We overachieve to feel
worthy. We sabotage good things because
they don't match our inner script.
Brianna explains that the root isn't the
pain itself. It's the story we created
about the pain. And healing the root
means rewriting that story. How to find
the root. One, identify the emotional
pattern. Ask yourself, when did I first
feel this way? What does this feeling
remind me of? Two, look for the belief
underneath. Every emotion carries a
belief. I feel anxious because I believe
I'll be judged. I feel angry because I
believe I'm powerless.
Three, trace it back. Think of your
earliest memories that support this
belief. Was there a moment, a comment, a
dynamic that made you feel this? First
four, recognize that belief was never
your truth. It was your survival. You
built it to protect yourself, but now
it's hurting more than it's helping. The
role of the inner child. Briana
introduces a key healing idea. Many root
wounds come from our inner child. This
is the part of us that still feels
small, unheard, unseen. We don't outgrow
it. We carry it with us into adult life.
And if we don't connect with this part
of ourselves, it will continue to run
the show from the shadows. You'll keep
dating people who abandon you. You'll
keep chasing validation. You'll keep
sabotaging your peace because peace is
unfamiliar. But when you speak to that
younger self, when you hold space for
them, when you reparent them with love,
truth, and safety, something begins to
shift. You stop reacting like a wounded
child and you start responding like a
grounded adult. How to heal the root?
One, validate the original pain. Don't
gaslight yourself. Say, "It wasn't okay
that I was ignored. It wasn't okay that
I was taught love is conditional.
Two, separate the event from the belief.
What happened to you was real, but the
belief you formed, I'm not good enough,
is a story. It can be rewritten.
Three, give your inner child what they
never received. Love, reassurance,
permission, presence. Say to yourself
what you needed to hear back then. You
are safe now. You don't have to earn
love. You are enough just as you are.
Four, create new emotional experiences.
Healing happens through new experiences
that contradict old beliefs. Allow
yourself to be loved. Celebrate
yourself. Set boundaries. Choose peace
even when chaos feels familiar. Final
message of chapter 7. You are not
broken. You are not difficult. You are
not beyond healing. You are simply
responding to a wound that was never
your fault. But now it's your
responsibility to stop carrying it.
Because that pain, it may have shaped
you, but it does not define you. When
you heal the root, the leaves stop
falling apart. You grow differently. You
choose differently. You become someone
who no longer walks around protecting
the wound, but nurturing the truth
underneath it. Chapter 8. Living in
alignment. Have you ever achieved
something big and still felt empty? Have
you stayed in a relationship, a career,
a lifestyle that looked good from the
outside, but quietly destroyed you on
the inside? That's not failure. That's misalignment.
